About this user
First of all, much love and thanks to all my awesome subsribers! Everyone has a story, this is my personal journey.
I got my first press and curl at the age of 8 and my first perm at 14. And after 29 years of pressing, straightening, dying, coloring & stretching my hair to unhealthiness, I decided to go all natural. It wasnt easy! I had to come to grips with who I was as an individual and love me as I am not how others saw me or wanted me to be. For many years, I dressed my hair in a way which I thought society would appreciate and find attractive not how I saw myself. I felt that my natural hair would limit the attention I would receive from others and wouldnt be as accepted in the corporate world. Therefore, I let others in society; the people around me, corporate world, my friends & family, Hollywood etc. dictate how I wore my hair. I loved my braids, my curls, my locks but I was limited & hindered as to what styles I could wear in the workplace because I was so concerned about what others would think . I valued everyones opinion but my own. I WAS A SLAVE TO OTHER'S OPINION OF ME! After 16 years on the corporate job, I quit, and then I was fired (thats another story). But anyway, this was my opportunity to go natural. I went 6 months without a perm and did not have the patients to continue so once again I straightened my hair continuing to damage and ruin its natural beauty. Longing to discover who I was under all the chemicals, I decided to wear a weave after 37 years. I grew my hair under the weave and after wearing for over a year, I grew a significant amount of perm out. I continued to wear a weave and periodically take the weave out for deep conditioning and letting my hair breathe, but I would still straighten my hair with a comb and flat iron. After a year of wearing a weave, I decided I had been good to my hair without chemicals long enough and I wanted to get a perm because it was taking too long and I no longer had the patience to put up with my hair breakage, the two textures etc. I went to my stylist and insisted that after an entire year, I wanted her to perm my hair. My stylist convinced me to hang in there and as determined as I was on the way to the shop to get a perm and no one could convince me otherwise, I am so glad I did. I hung in there for another 6 months and began to notice my natural roots as I washed my hair. It was black, beautiful, kinky & curly. I LOVED IT! This motivated me further to continue on this natural journey. After a while, I had grown inpatient of the two textures and decided to just chop it off. I cut the entire perm out of my hair. This was the first time I had ever drastically cut my hair after 38 years. When my stylist finished straightening my hair, I was shocked. It was so short! Everything went through my head, what have I done. Am I crazy?! People pay for my long hair and here I am cutting it all off! Will people accept my hair? Will they like it? Will they still think I am beautiful or has my hair defined me all this time? Did I make a huge mistake? Will men still find me attractive? To answer my questions, YES, they did and NO I did not make a mistake. I stopped asking people if they liked my hair and after a while it didnt matter to me if they even cared to comment or noticed me or my hair. I started looking in the mirror constantly admiring what I saw and telling myself how beautiful my hair was and how it suited me. I began to fall in love with my natural locks, my virgin hair. In this plight, this journeyIt was then I knew who I was. It was then I realized how much I had been missed. I had found myself in me, in my hair. It was then I realized that I was liberated and I was free. I am me. Me, my hair & I.
Dont let other define you ladies. Should it be your choice to go natural, remember, be patient with your hair and others, love who you are as you are, embrace your journey and go for it!
Age
42
Country
United States
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