http://www.racialicious.com/2008/12/22/assimilated-beauty/

There is nothing more unattractive than a person who is constantly complaining and whining about their "flaws". It's just plain annoying.

I have monolids (no crease), so I hope these makeup videos are beneficial, especially to creaseless people out there who need ideas on how to do eye makeup. My mother has had eyelid surgery. She's even bought me eyelid tape when I was younger and I was socially constructed to believe that my eyes were undesirable. There was a point when I hated my eyes the most and even planned to save up money and planned a time to have the surgery and heal without people seeing me. It's sad when I think about it. I was in denial and didn't think of it as a big deal, but in reality, there are huge underlying issues that people don't want to think about and accept. I strongly do not support eyelid tape, glue, or surgery. Specific requests on how to achieve larger eyes, which happen to always come from Asians, annoy and frustrate me. Embrace your ethnic features and get over chasing the superficial "standard" of beauty. It's not about having or not having a crease per se. It's the overall desire to have larger eyes, which most Asians just don't have regardless of the presence or absence of a crease.

It's frustrating when people brush off the fact that so much of our thinking stems from the unconscious. So many people will say "so what?". "It JUST looks prettier". But WHY do some people think it's prettier. Is it "just because" or "that's just how it is"?

There's a "White doll, Black doll" study conducted by Dr. Kenneth Clark in the 1940's. Most black children chose the white doll when asked which one was prettier, nicer, etc. When the experiment is conducted again today, similar results. It just shows that we start to internalize stereotypes and beauty "standards" at a very young age. I'm sure it's carried on to adulthood, which is why we're here now. I feel that the first step is to acknowledge where a lot of our thinking is derived from and to prevent ourselves from developing careless thoughts in the future.
Black Doll/White Doll tests:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG7U1QsUd1g
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWEXJ-Qd1uw

I hear many women who have had or want to have the surgery claim that their reasoning is because they can't apply makeup without a crease or a larger one. This is the reason why I'm here. I want to prove that with these eyes, I CAN wear makeup. Have the procedure if you want, but I don't want to hear that excuse anymore.

It is possible to wear eye makeup without having a crease. It should not be viewed as a burden or pain. Application is just different and you're just going to have to experiment and practice with what works and what doesn't with your eye shape and features, because it's out there. Trying just a few times with makeup probably isn't going to cut it for anybody starting out with makeup, let alone personalizing to your features.

I think it's flat out LAZY to opt for eyelid glue, tape, or surgery rather than taking the time to experiment with what works.

Many women of colour often have difficulty finding makeup that matches their skin tone due to mainstream cosmetic manufacturers not making suitable deeper shades. There are brands out there that do cater to women of deeper skin tone, they just take a little more effort to be found. In that case should the women just give up and lighten their skin rather than take the time to find products that work for them?

Women of more mature skin sometime can not use products like eyeshadow and foundation with lots of mica because it magnifies the lines. It just takes different application and products to suit the skin. Should the solution be to have a brow lift and face lift instead?

They say makeup should enhance one's natural features. In that case, everyone's natural features vary, therefore application will vary. It just takes time and effort to learn. Makeup should fit the individual; one should not "fix" themselves to fit the makeup... or more specifically the beauty standards set by society. Whatever people are willing to admit to...

I'm going to stand by myself, who I am, and refuse to conform. If people aren't willing to accept the way I look then those people don't matter.

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Please don't try to insult my intelligence based on the sole fact that I like to paint my face. No, I am not insecure about my physical appearance. I do not RELY on makeup. I am content with the way I look and makeup is what I do for recreation. I know I don't NEED makeup. I just CHOOSE to use it. Not that hard of a concept to grasp. Thanks for for your... concern.

Some people like to assume that any one who wears makeup is insecure. I actually think anyone who is brave enough to rock bold and dramatic makeup must be confident with themselves considering they will be seen as "abnormal" by some.