Hi there. I don't know where you're hailing from, but in the UK I think it would be regarded as in poor taste to talk about salaries on a date. However, if it comes up don't be angry, some really lovely people can be over-curious. Treat it lightly and say that you prefer not to discuss such personal info until your know someone really well. As this question really seems to push buttons for you I suggest you practice this response before the issue arises again, perhaps in front of a mirror and watch your body language and the signals you're giving out. Try and be relaxed and concentrate on moving the conversation on to something you both feel relaxed about. Good luck. Mary.

Hi Mary,

I'd like some advice on how / whether to proceed after women start asking the inevitable 'money' questions. Almost every time I talk to women, they want to know how much money I have or earn. I don't ask them about their finances and I find it really offensive, so I just say that I'm comfortable and walk away before it makes me angrier.

Am I supposed to put up with this and accept that women see men this way?

Hi, Thanks. Appreciate the feedback. Hope you have a fab 2011. Love Mary

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