"Freindship without self-interest, is one of the rare and beautiful things of life..." JAMES BYRNES. " The only way to have a freind is to be one.. "RALPH WALDO EMERSON. A freind is a gift you give yourself. .ROBERT STEVENSON. " Take away love,and our life is tomb." " Love does not just sit there like a stone;it had to be made,like a bread remade all the time,made new.." Ursula Le Guin.
"Do you think you can enter the garden of bliss without facing the trials and pains of those entering befor you ?". THE HOLLY QURAN.
"The doorways to the realm of heaven are right here on earth, and they are four in number : we enter the highest heavenly abodes through loving kindness , compassion , sharing joy , and equanimity. It is through service in the world , not by abondoning this world, that we attain to heavenly realms or spiritual fulfillment." BOUDDHA.
on the journey, not the destination.

* Happy people tend to focus on "downward comparisonitus. Un-happy people tend to focus on upward comparisons, otherwise known as keeping up with the Joneses. Happy people tend to have empathy for those less fortunate than themselves and they tend to volunteer to help others when they can. By trying to help those less fortunate than ourselves, not only do we begin to understand how "lucky" we are, but how wonderful it feels to make life better for those that don't have it as well as we do.
When we spend all our time and energy trying to catch up with our neighbors who "have it better than us" then the focus is all about the future again. This is a major problem in both happiness and enlightenment. There will always be people who you think are better off than you and those that have it worse than you. Spend more of your time trying to help the less fortunate ones if you want to find happiness and enlightenment. If you spend your time seeking riches just remember one thing, it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter heaven. That probably applies to heaven on earth as well. (:

Consider the following. We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others' actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others' activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others. Nor is it so remarkable that our greatest joy should come when we are motivated by concern for others. But that is not all. We find that not only do altruistic actions bring about happiness but they also lessen our experience of suffering. Here I am not suggesting that the individual whose actions are motivated by the wish to bring others' happiness necessarily meets with less misfortune than the one who does not. Sickness, old age, mishaps of one sort or another are the same for us all. But the sufferings which undermine our internal peace: anxiety, doubt, disappointment, these things are definitely less. In our concern for others, we worry less about ourselves. When we worry less about ourselves an experience of our own suffering is less intense.
What does this tell us? Firstly, because our every action has a universal dimension, a potential impact on others' happiness, ethics are necessary as a means to ensure that we do not harm others. Secondly, it tells us that genuine happiness consists in those spiritual qualities of love, compassion, patience, tolerance and forgiveness and so on. For it is these which provide both for our happiness and others' happiness.
* "When a man and women with significant spiritual and psychological affinities encounter each other and fall in love, if they have evolved beyond the level of problems and difficulties, if they are beyond the level of merely struggling to make their relationship 'work' then romantic love becomes the pathway not only to sexual and emotional happiness but also to the higher reaches of human growth. It becomes a context for a continuing encounter with the self, through the process of interaction with another self. Two consciousnesses, each dedicated to personal evolution, can provide an extraordinary stimulus and challenge to the other. Then ecstasy can become a way of life. Romantic love is not a myth waiting to be discarded, but, for most of us, a discovery waiting to be born." - Nathaniel Branden

Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things ,even if we do not get anything in return. It is the joy of our life to do them.When we do good things from this inner desire,ther is kindness in everything we think,say, want and do. Emmanuel Swedenborg.
A change in perception leads to a change in attitude,which leads to a change in behavior,which leads to a change in the world.
Happiness is when what you think,what you say,and what you do are in harmony. Mahatma Ghandi.
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful citizens can change the world;indeed,it is the only thing that ever has. Margaret Mead.
Prayer is when you talk to God;meditation is when you listen to God. Diana Robinson.
One hour's meditation on the work of the Creator is better than seventy years of prayer MOUHAMED (qssl).
Together let's change the world with peace and love;let's make the world better...What??? Yes we can...
Blessed are the peacemakers.
The Way of the great learning involves manifesting virtue, renovating the people, and abiding by the highest good.

The ancients who wished to illustrate illustrious virtue throughout the world, first ordered well their own States.

Wishing to order well their States, they first regulated their families.
Wishing to regulate their families, they first cultivated their persons.
Wishing to cultivate their persons, they first rectified their hearts.
Wishing to rectify their hearts, they first sought to be sincere in their thoughts.
Wishing to be sincere in their thoughts, they first extended to the utmost their knowledge.
Such extension of knowledge lay in the investigation of things.
Things being investigated, knowledge became complete.
Their knowledge being complete, their thoughts were sincere.
Their thoughts being sincere, their hearts were then rectified.
Their hearts being rectified, their persons were cultivated.
Their persons being cultivated, their families were regulated.
Their families being regulated, their States were rightly governed.
Their States being rightly governed, the entire world was at peace.