ALSO the idat period is fo four months maximum so that if there is any pregnancy it will become obvious during this time and it s known that the child belongs to the deseased.also idat in arabic means counting days.it has NOTHING TO DO WITH SOOGG!!in islam the condolence is only for three days......
They should understand that iddat is not a soog of the dead husband,there is no concept of soog in islaam.