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procrastistamper uploaded a new video
(4 months ago)
This half of the video we shot takes you into the upstairs bathroom, gir...
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This half of the video we shot takes you into the upstairs bathroom, girls' room, and garage. Please see Part 1 for more description of the overall situation. It should be noted that there were 3 cats, 1 dog, 2 rabbits and 2 frogs living in this house at the time of the mess. The dog was fairly new to the family, maybe over the last year or so. They had a dog before that, but they left oven cleaner soaked paper towels lying in the kitchen garbage, and the dog ingested that while digging in the rubbage for food. The mother blamed the dog and gave it away...only to get a new one maybe 2 months later.
In the kitchen, in Part 1, you can see a scant amount of edible food on the counter, mingled with plates and crumbs of old rotting food, prescription drugs, vitamin drops (which mom let the children access themselves as "medication" for self-soothing), and household cleaners. There is no sanitary place to prepare food, even if there were any clean pans or dishes to use. The cabinets were empty of any eating utensils, and mom had placed paper cups on one shelf. The sink was inaccessible, although a water purifying adapter had just been installed on the tap...like that would help that mess.
And in case you missed the litter box in the first video, or didn't catch the significance, that bathroom door is left closed--so the cats can't even use that litter box. The only litter box in the house is the one in the upstairs bathroom, for 3 cats. The older girl (who was 10 years old at the time) stated that the previous litter box was awful, and her mom had just gotten the disposable one pictured in the bathroom in the video. This same 10 year old was in charge of sweeping up the poop that landed out on the floor...but there was nowhere to put it. Plus, you have to realize these children don't ever wash up without being told. And even then, you have to stand over them or they will fake it and walk away. Making a 10 year old with no sense of personal hygiene responsible for handling animal feces, without ensuring she understands how to wash herself up afterward, is negligent in my book.
Though, how any of these children could have any sense of hygiene or sanitation living like this is beyond comprehension. It shouldn't be surprising that these children were sick all the time, and both girls missed over 40 days of school each, during each of the two previous school years in mom's care.
Back to the poor animals, the mother had apparently cooked one of the children's previous rabbits' brains right in its skull, by setting its cage in direct sunlight out on the back deck. She then placed the rabbit in a plastic bag and kept it in the freezer for months--the same freezer where they stored their food. So, every time the kids got ice cream, they got a nice reminder of their dead little friend. The rabbit was in the freezer for over a year.
Speaking of food, you will notice we stopped and pulled food out of a bag in the garage. This is charity food that mom gets, and never uses it. She has had about $50,000 in support each year for the last 3 years, but she feels that's still not enough. So, she goes and gets charity food so that people will feel sorry for her and think the kids' father is not supporting her. She makes the kids promise not to tell anyone about the charity food. She also lies and signs the kids up for free lunches at school, to further the story that dad is a deadbeat and is making the children suffer.
What you don't see in these videos is the alienation and emotional abuse from the mother. She hates the father, and lets the kids know it in no uncertain terms, undermining any stability or discipline that she hears happens at our house, and even screaming and swearing at dad, and threatening to get him put in jail, right in front of the kids. She has convinced the kids that their dad is abusive to them, and that they need her thoughts and prayers to get through their days with him, because he is so awful. She has kept the kids well after scheduled visitation was over, notwithstanding the girls' pleading to take them home, making them very upset. The kids said she was "acting like a child", and were in tears--obviously they felt very helpless and scared. She even called her rich dad and had him call and threaten the dad, to "persuade" dad to give mom the kids. This woman has even tried to assault me, but I got out of the way and avoided it. All this, and yet there is no order of protection, no order for any anger management, parenting, or domestic violence counseling or treatment.
Again, if you are having, or have had, similar experiences, especially in Colorado, please comment. Share this video liberally, and help us get the word out about protecting kids in divorce.
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procrastistamper uploaded a new video
(4 months ago)
(I apologize in advance for the poor quality-this was taken from a still...
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(I apologize in advance for the poor quality-this was taken from a still camera video, not a camcorder) This is my boyfriend and I, going through the house where his 4 kids were living with their mom at the time. Dad had moved out on or about the first of December, 2005. Mom had what amounts to sole custody of the kids for the previous 2-1/2 years leading up to the day we took this video footage.
The two girls, who are also the two youngest (8 and 10 at the time), explained to us earlier in the day on July 13th that there were no toilet seats in the house that worked, and we were perplexed at what that meant. We were concerned because Mom has a history of a filthy home, and sending the girls over for visitation in filthy clothes which were not the right size, or appropriate for the weather, with no changes of clothes or pajamas for overnights--and often the clothes the girls were wearing were urine soaked, and the girls' panties were crusty. (Disgusting, I know. Dad bought panties for them to change into at our house.)
Anyway, back to July 13th. We knew Mom was driving all 4 kids to a summer camp that afternoon, so my boyfriend and I took the opportunity to record the condition of the marital home. As a result of this documentation, the two youngest were removed from Mom's custody and placed in my boyfriend's home (where myself and my two kids also live). The oldest boy (17 at the time) has threatened to kill us, due to alienation from mom, so he can't live here. The next to oldest boy (15 at the time) began committing sex offenses a couple years ago, so we can't have him living here around the girls.
The girls exhibit tons of neglect dysfunction and symptoms, which always reappear after the kids have visitation with Mom. The girls wet their pants (which their mother conspires with them to hide), they lie and steal, they self-mutilate, they destroy property at our house when we hold them accountable for unacceptable behavior, they regress to infantile behavior such as thumbsucking or acting like a baby, and they turn inward and self-isolate. The kids have been given pretty much no sense of hygiene, and have only mastered a few basics after constant enforcement since the time they've come to live with us. The girls would pee all over the toilet and floor, and in their pants and beds, which you'll probably understand more after you see the bathrooms in this video. The nastiest bathroom with the black toilet was the only one the girls said anyone was using. And although it was so foul it literally made me sick for an entire day after visiting this home, it is almost regrettable we could not record the smell on video. You have to understand, it was a smell that could not have been cultivated overnight...it reflected, at the very least, months of neglect, if not years.
Mother has not been charged with any abuse, even though the condition of the house alone should be enough to warrant it by statute in Colorado. And sadly, the current custody evaluator on this case has done nothing to address Mom's behavior, nor has the court ordered any type of rehabilitation or treatment for Mom's obviously dysfunctional and harmful behavior. In fact, all the evaluator wants to do is give Mom even MORE time with the girls, despite her having admitted to both my boyfriend and I that the girls "are not safe with" Mom, and that Mom has some serious problems from which Mom is likely never to recover. It should be obvious to any competent and ethical mental health professional that more time with Mom is not in the best interest of the children. But instead of protecting the children, the professionals and attorneys on this case only protect Mom's "right" to see and speak with the kids whenever and wherever she wants. These same people harass Dad whenever he tries to protect the kids, even though it is documentably necessary to the kids physical and emotional health and well-being.
Mom is also a perpetrator of Domestic Violence against Dad, even with the kids (and me) present, but the "system" just doesn't seem to know how to handle females abusing males. The prevalent thought is that any man is inherently capable of protecting himself from a woman, so no creedence is given to his claims, and nothing is ever done to improve the situation.
This video is going up on YouTube as a plea to get people to see what's going on, and to get them involved. Please comment--particularly if you have a divorce/custody case in the state of Colorado. Unfortunately, this kind of horror is tolerated as everyday occurrence here. Children's lives are being ruined because the "system" does not work to protect them from this when it happens in the scope of a divorce. For some reason, anything illegal that happens during divorce is shrugged off as excusable. And that is horrific, because it minimizes and discredits the harm perpetrated, and this type of damage to the children can never be undone.
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