We have heard this complaint, but it's very rare. Most find the earrings to be comfortable for all-day wear. If you do experience some discomfort, you can simply wear them a couple of hours at a time, and then take them off for an hour or two.
That's a pretty standard band size for men. Be sure to read the details on the particular watch that you're interested in, though, as sizes do vary greatly from product to product (even from retail store to retail store - what may be "small" in our collection, for example, could be a "medium" at ...
Very sorry to hear that! Hope you are able to find it.