totally for spanking. spank and explain. this tells them there is a consequence to what they are doing. i can't think of any kid who grew up psychotic from being spanked, but i know plenty of adults who grew up total morons from being coddled.
@jh1242 it's funny how everyone says this, yet most people have emotional problems - minor or not - and most people were spanked. Please, not disciplining and spanking AREN'T the only options, there are plenty in between that aren't abusive.
My sisters 4 year old likes opening the front door and running outside. If I try to block it she forces her way through. Screaming, shouting and kicking! What makes matters worse, the road is right outside! I need advice on how to reign this girl in! help!
They are not a baby though. They are two years old. if a child of that age throws a tantrum to get attention. Then if you respond by cuddling them and making a fuss of them you are only reinforcing the idea that screaming and crying gets attention. You wait until they have calmed down and then offer attention, and an activity. They need to learn to calm themselves down. you making an issue out of it, will only make them clingy.
shocking advice! the best thing is to ignore a toddler that is already feeling ignored!?? No wonder they are upset when their parents arent paying them the neccessary attention a toddler needs! if it was the other way round&the child was ignoring the mom, then I'm sure that too would be the childs fault! How about mutual respect, understanding&compassion4where they are@emotionally. LOOK FOR THE NEEDS UNDERNEATH THE BEHAVIOUR, their needs are valid, and dont require punishment!
@Rowan07001484 no. I have, many a time, seen children try to talk to their parents, or tell them something, or show them something, and get totally ignored. How do you think that makes ANYONE feel, let alone a two year old? Then they have a tantrum and FINALLY the parent pays attention, albeit bad. We need to LISTEN to kids more. Sometimes they're tantruming because they can't get what they want, and sometimes they upset for being ignored.
I.. but there are other things that a parent needs to get done, like cooking, cleaning and work, and time with other people. and a child should learn to realise that, and be shown that they are not going to be listened to all the time. a person can't spend every waking minute listening to their child. it gets tiring. and they perhaps have other children as well.
But I do see what you mean.some parents just ignore their kids constantly. so no wonder they throw tantrums. Also if a person shows anger, about a child throwing a tantrum it usually makes it worse. you just have to be firm. and watch for the signs that a child is about to lose it. so you can distract them, or tell them to calm down before it starts.
talking to a 2 or 3 year old kid in the middle of a tantrum doesn't work. because they have lost control, and all reason.
it's good advice. You praise good behaviour. You don't reward screaming and crying for attention. and spend as much time as you can with your child. If your child is really upset you can tell. If they are in a bad mood, because things aren't going their way. You need to help them learn to overcome it themselves. With you always there to help them, they won't learn.
A child needs to learn that their parents are not at their beck and call.
You are sooooo wrong! Learn about brain development of toddlers. Learn the long term impact of time out. Learn that they're not wanting attention...they're wanting connection. These strategies are so old-school and inappropriate.
Well. You can see when children need attention, and when they are just playing up.
It depends on the situation.
Children need to be taught certain rules to survive in society. Being spoiled with attention, isn't going to make you a better person. A mother who rewards her child with attention when she is being badly behaved, is setting herself for punishment.
I was never put on time out. Well I can't remember anyway. I was smacked and yelled at instead.
@ruthmaritz im sorry you feel this is awful parenting, but the truth of the matter is that every parent has the ability to pick and choose from each parenting forms to master or try to master the parenting skills they want to achieve. one of the biggest parenting forms that i look down upon is striking the child. if what you do with you child works then by all means continue.what i do for my child works i will continue. we all have our own thoughts, sometimes we have to take a bit to get a bit
@marksoutof10@zivkovicable Ok I was spanked and I don't have any problems. I love my parents to this day. I never went against them or anything. Me and my mom have the best relationship. I NEVER been grounded all my life like my friends. Sometimes I ask them if they want to hang and there like no im grounded. obviously they never been taught boundaries. when those kids grow up into teenagers there going to lie and sneak out knowing there just going to be "grounded"
never ignore your child...that is horrible advice
jihzaman 1 month ago
I just put my 2 year old stepson in his bedroom for 10 or 20 minutes until he calms down. works like a charm.
DanReborn 2 months ago
Leave him/her alone or let him/her sleep outside the house.
jayjoetube14 2 months ago
i got a good one slap the shit outta them
sickyvickyful 2 months ago
@sickyvickyful I gotta good one. Slap the shit out of you.
middy444 1 month ago
This is great! Thanks for this vid!
nothingelse83 2 months ago
totally for spanking. spank and explain. this tells them there is a consequence to what they are doing. i can't think of any kid who grew up psychotic from being spanked, but i know plenty of adults who grew up total morons from being coddled.
jh1242 3 months ago
@jh1242 my mom didnt belive in spanking she just gave me a time out or made me sit in my room that way i wouldnt get attention like i wanted...
kklym124 2 months ago
@jh1242 it's funny how everyone says this, yet most people have emotional problems - minor or not - and most people were spanked. Please, not disciplining and spanking AREN'T the only options, there are plenty in between that aren't abusive.
middy444 1 month ago
@jh1242 agreed
KaelaBz 1 month ago
My sisters 4 year old likes opening the front door and running outside. If I try to block it she forces her way through. Screaming, shouting and kicking! What makes matters worse, the road is right outside! I need advice on how to reign this girl in! help!
pudding0023 5 months ago
well this seems kind of crule i think their are better ways to make your baby stop crying then just ignorin them
ktm3019 6 months ago
@ktm3019
They are not a baby though. They are two years old. if a child of that age throws a tantrum to get attention. Then if you respond by cuddling them and making a fuss of them you are only reinforcing the idea that screaming and crying gets attention. You wait until they have calmed down and then offer attention, and an activity. They need to learn to calm themselves down. you making an issue out of it, will only make them clingy.
Rowan07001484 5 months ago
wow... i ove how these things are soo clam etc. and not in relation to a REAL tantrum!
PD19954 7 months ago
thats all very well, but what if they throw a tantrum when you say 'no' for something???
NiniNora 8 months ago
shocking advice! the best thing is to ignore a toddler that is already feeling ignored!?? No wonder they are upset when their parents arent paying them the neccessary attention a toddler needs! if it was the other way round&the child was ignoring the mom, then I'm sure that too would be the childs fault! How about mutual respect, understanding&compassion4where they are@emotionally. LOOK FOR THE NEEDS UNDERNEATH THE BEHAVIOUR, their needs are valid, and dont require punishment!
ascendedstate 9 months ago
@ascendedstate
You want to spoil your children. Go ahead.
Rowan07001484 5 months ago
@Rowan07001484 no. I have, many a time, seen children try to talk to their parents, or tell them something, or show them something, and get totally ignored. How do you think that makes ANYONE feel, let alone a two year old? Then they have a tantrum and FINALLY the parent pays attention, albeit bad. We need to LISTEN to kids more. Sometimes they're tantruming because they can't get what they want, and sometimes they upset for being ignored.
middy444 1 month ago
@middy444
I.. but there are other things that a parent needs to get done, like cooking, cleaning and work, and time with other people. and a child should learn to realise that, and be shown that they are not going to be listened to all the time. a person can't spend every waking minute listening to their child. it gets tiring. and they perhaps have other children as well.
Rowan07001484 1 month ago
@middy444
But I do see what you mean.some parents just ignore their kids constantly. so no wonder they throw tantrums. Also if a person shows anger, about a child throwing a tantrum it usually makes it worse. you just have to be firm. and watch for the signs that a child is about to lose it. so you can distract them, or tell them to calm down before it starts.
talking to a 2 or 3 year old kid in the middle of a tantrum doesn't work. because they have lost control, and all reason.
Rowan07001484 1 month ago
@ascendedstate
it's good advice. You praise good behaviour. You don't reward screaming and crying for attention. and spend as much time as you can with your child. If your child is really upset you can tell. If they are in a bad mood, because things aren't going their way. You need to help them learn to overcome it themselves. With you always there to help them, they won't learn.
A child needs to learn that their parents are not at their beck and call.
Rowan07001484 5 months ago
You are sooooo wrong! Learn about brain development of toddlers. Learn the long term impact of time out. Learn that they're not wanting attention...they're wanting connection. These strategies are so old-school and inappropriate.
hotchile12 10 months ago
@hotchile12
Well. You can see when children need attention, and when they are just playing up.
It depends on the situation.
Children need to be taught certain rules to survive in society. Being spoiled with attention, isn't going to make you a better person. A mother who rewards her child with attention when she is being badly behaved, is setting herself for punishment.
I was never put on time out. Well I can't remember anyway. I was smacked and yelled at instead.
Rowan07001484 5 months ago
@hotchile12
That's called a theory. Not one that is proven.
They are wanting attention. Because from the moment we are born we want, want, want. me, me me. now now now.
You have to be taught respect and consideration.
Rowan07001484 5 months ago
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ruthmaritz 1 year ago
@ruthmaritz im sorry you feel this is awful parenting, but the truth of the matter is that every parent has the ability to pick and choose from each parenting forms to master or try to master the parenting skills they want to achieve. one of the biggest parenting forms that i look down upon is striking the child. if what you do with you child works then by all means continue.what i do for my child works i will continue. we all have our own thoughts, sometimes we have to take a bit to get a bit
nakkoyah 1 year ago
time out? get out the belt!
djmrnelson 1 year ago
@djmrnelson Oh yes, violence is the perfect solution, isn't it? Maybe it'll teach them to abuse their own kids when they have them.
marksoutof10 1 year ago 6
@marksoutof10 @zivkovicable Ok I was spanked and I don't have any problems. I love my parents to this day. I never went against them or anything. Me and my mom have the best relationship. I NEVER been grounded all my life like my friends. Sometimes I ask them if they want to hang and there like no im grounded. obviously they never been taught boundaries. when those kids grow up into teenagers there going to lie and sneak out knowing there just going to be "grounded"
KaelaBz 7 months ago
@KaelaBz and how do you know that anything to do with your abuse?
middy444 1 month ago
good video.
jadoredashboardd 2 years ago