i learn a lot from watching your videos! you are so smart and you hit home.. If i can't learn it from anyone, near me i can learn it from you.. thanks! :)
It's sad that so many ppl thse days have the internet but haven't got a person to talk to about important stuff.That's so great that you Tonya make this step forward to them. This video was posted over a year ago but I just found it today and I believe that things don't happen without a reason. See I'm a 21 year old virgin but I really don't want to lose it, I wan't to GIVE it so I always believed it's so important to do it with the right person...
...lately though I had some doubts,but today I've watched this(so I regaind my faith:) ),coincidence? I don't think so! Thank you Tonya,you really are a sister!
@tocha000 It is important to do that with the right person. There is absolutely no reason for you to have sex with anyone. It's your body, don't let some idiot persuade you into doing something you will regret or don't even want to do.
I'm a male virgin, because I never really cared to have sex with a person I don't even feel for. I'll only have sex with a woman I actually care about in that way.
Love is too powerful and not to be confused with SEX whatsoever, some woman play Victim with manipulative motives,, let's talk truth here. never should any teenager or guy give up their virginity untill they understand what Love means first, ok aint gonna happen in this life, i know,, been their done that already. stop pointing the finger,, guys and girls,, ok? get real,, and don't dress provocatively too attract attention, and the wrong guy,, because they will pursue.
Sounds, old-fashioned, corny, stupid, lame, etc...just wait until marriage. There's just so much less risk, and you don't have to worry about some dude, or some disease. Not saying sex is overrated, but life is not all about sex. So stop being so impatient, and wait. Even guy friend of mine, who is attracted to me, who's had sex before, told me to wait, because he said it shows that I value myself, and my husband won't have to worry about anything. That's coming from a GUY. So ladies, just wait.
@XxxxSunsetxxxX Ladies are supposed to wait till marriage to show their husbands that they "Wont have to worry abt anything?" THis tactic used to control women & their sexuality so that men can go around getting 'experience' then marry a person with none... so that he wouldnt worry abt knowing whether he is any good in bed or not. This is not the year 2000 BC when ppl are marrying at 15. We're educating ourselves & finishing at 30. Is "Waiting" till Marriage isnt realistic OR Practical
For me, it is realistic and practical. Not only does my future husband not have to worry about anything, but i don't, either. And it's not only something women should do, but guys should too, even though society "tells" guys that they must lose it as soon as possible. No one is controlling my sexuality but myself. There are SO many things I DON'T have to worry about: some guy talking about me, buying condoms, pregnancy scares, etc. Who doesn't want less worry in their life? So, wait I shall. :)
@TonyaTko see that's the whole problem and issue is just that, what you said,, " tactics" using tactics,, mind control,, manipulation,, sex powers. woman use them and are taught this by mothers, or on the street, oh yes they do,, and men same thing. Love is only known real true Love that is not worldy bullshit. is only known and understood by 3 percent of the polulation,sadly that is the way it is since God is thrown out of everything now atheists, and gay pushers got what they wanted.
"Waiting till Marriage" would only work if it were implemented culture-wide, not just half of the population chaste, while the other half whores. It creates an imbalance which gives rise to prostitution & societal female sexual enslavement; Where women who have sexual needs & desires are cast & abused as "Not valuing herself" as you put it, and WORSE (as the Bible put it)
If a person wants to wait OR do it, they shld have the freedom to for PERSONAL reasons, not those imposed by society.
Im a eighteen year old young man and I fully agree with you tonya! Sex is a very important experience that for both men and women. The problem is that sometimes we men just dont take it seriously enough or truly understand the full value of women that are virgins,some of us have to work on that. Plus, I also think that ORAL SEX IS FUCKING NASTY! I hope that doesnt sound weird coming from a man,but shit I want to kiss my woman passinately and I wouldn't want her or ask her to do that hell no!
i lost my virginity when i was 19 and i felt like i was the last virgin so i had sex i wish i knew back then i was not and waited until i got married like i planned! i am still not married but i wish i waited it i so much better to wait people men and wemen i wish i did dont let nobody talk you out of it stick to your gun's!
i lost my virginity when i was 19 and i felt like i was the last virgin so i had sex i wish i knew back then i wasent and waited until i got maried like i planned! im still not married but i wish i waited it i so much better to wait people men and wemen i wish i did dont let nobody talk you out of it stick to your gun's!
Oh goodness Tonya! You are a blessing. I am 23 yrs old African female, I am choosing to not "loose my Virginity" but rather " give my virginity" and trust it will have to be to the one who deserves it. My thing is it has been tough the older I get. It went from guys coming after it to them not wanting to talk to me any longer once I inform them. I am puzzled by this being that most of them are in college like me and I would think they would understand and respect just a powerful decision ?!?!
@beautifulhossana The same thing happened to me when I decided to live the remainder of my 20's celibate. Suddenly men began to avoid dating me OR even WORSE they tried hard to be the "One." So I stopped disclosing my virginal status. It really wasn't anyone's business. Bcz the bottom line is I was CHOOSING NOT to have sex. Whether I had been with One, None, Or One-Hundred-One, I was still making the choice to not have intercourse. Anybody in a rush was ONLY Wanted Sex anyone, so no Loss
@TonyaTko I read your comment about being celabite throughout your 20's. I have been celabite for 2yrs now and i am currently 21; when did you know was the right time to start having sex again after being celibate? Some guys i have come across say to me that that is a good thing that I am celibate but then they try their best to break it, which is ironic, or in one situation a guy respected my desicion but then I discovered he was cheating.
@daedriana2 Honey Honey Honey, Thats a video in and Of Itself! wow... There is so much to speak on this topic. All I can say is "KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!" when the time is right you'll KNOW... and the guy will NOT be pressuring you. He's doing that for his ego. "Forbidden Fruit." Just trying to be the one to break it.
im 20, an asian, still a virgin, and i do have many guys chasing me but never once have i said yes simply because i feel they're only interested in sex and not a serious relationship. after watching both this video and the when to lose your virginity video, i'm glad i decided to wait as im sure that my future hubby(one who'll be my best friend and also my life time partner) will be proud of me for not being influenced by media and sticking to my beliefs.
@spongebobgirlfriend I'll be 19 on March 2nd...& I'm still a virgin. Trying to wait for a decent guy...but my "so-called" Bff is constantly asking me when am I gonna lose my virginity! and I'm like..."WHY DO U CARE!??" well...I changed my phone number...I removed her from my life because she's a negative being. She's been trying to get me to have sex since we were 14...smh :/
@aliadaduncan I'm in a similar predicament and turn 19 in about 3 months but I haven't cut off my friend due to knowing that she doesn't mean any harm but then again her fuckin' indirects about my non-sexual encounters do piss me off...
Actually now that I think about it... I've been ignoring her alot. Oh well -.-
some older men like younger women but, theres a club 2 blocks from me and its called Cougars. And the older women chase younger guys like u wouldnt believe. So if a guy likes a younger women it may be because old chics like u think they know everything and don't know shit. Oh but i do like your ass tho
some older men like younger women but there is a club 2 blocks from me and called Cougars. And the older women chase younger guys beyond imagination. So if a guy likes a younger women it may be because old chics like u think they know everything and don't know shit. Oh but i do like your ass tho
wtf, even if its the 1rst time, its still just ONE SINGLE SEX SESSION, theres plenty of time to catch on... dont make it such a big deal ... seriously... maybe u feel that it is THAT important but im pretty sure that not all women feel the same as u.
You have a title that draws people to watch your video. Your lecture is associate level at Best. At times you Sound confused. You still need a big sister. You Got very far with your big honeysuckle lips. A quess your a leader and rolemodel.
ok so im a gay guy lol but about the hotel thing i see what you mean but going to a hotel it would feel harder to say no and id think that he was planeing it and assumeing that id want to you know
people! chill out! she has made a point, the thing is if you're virgin don't waste time and emotions on guys who are complete j******s. Also there is the problem that some people they just fall for simple tricks. I have a girl she is wonderful we want to do it before we get married. It's been a year since we're together and we're happy and we want to do it because we love each other. kudoz tonya
I just watched this video and the video where you are talking about losing your own virginity. It makes me so upset at women that go for bad boys and then when they get pregnant the sexy bad boy is nowhere to be found and they are surprised at that. I think they both should be responsible but it shouldn't be a surprise when the man gets up and leaves. I think monogamous sex is the best sex. If you trust them and have that chemistry then you explore sex together. It just gets better and better.
let them go squirt in their hands....hilarious Tonya...you are a legend. I love you and I hope the girls take your advice. As a man I can completely agree with your take on how men feel when we are trying to seduce.
Sex is best in a loving and committed relationship. Please listen to Tonya. She is a wise woman.
@lowrida82 I know him a little better than you think. Sin is sin is sin is sin. 2+2=4 right? You can say 2+2=5 if it makes people feel better. But in the end of the day absolute truth will still be the same no matter what anyone says.
Great video, big sis Tonya has spoken! What is going on that so many of these young girls are falling for this? Mom and DAD really need to step their game up, and speak to their daughters.. I think it's a good thing to hear from their father's perspective on how men think.. It can only benefit their daughters..
iv been wantin sum1 2 do a video like this. the oral sex part is deff a reality check 4 me.i really wish my sister or mother would have had the nerve 2 have this talk w/ me. ur mother raised a very beautiful smart woman =] thank u 4 this!
'Do you're job man!!! DO the WORK!!!' Absolutely refreshing Tonnie. The girl that took my virginity absolutely enjoyed the 2 minutes of ecstasy I gave her. Good thing she was a virgin too and didn't know any better. I do however disagree, sex does keep a partner around. It's natural instinct.
I would like TonyaTKO to watch the videos "female genital mutilation video 0001" I wonder what the states would be like if it was allowed in the U.S.. Teen girls would have no choice. Makes me wonder. No serious but just wondering.
It's much more socially acceptable in some other places for a man to violate a woman (if he claims to have a "good reason" because you know...men can't control themselves, can they). It is also more common for a middle aged man to date a teenager. I venture to say most teenage girls are not virgins. I know there are repercussions in some instances, but I can't imagine how that many women could be murdered just because they don't have a hymen.
I know alot of African women and many I know married. Husband was their first. It is part of their culture. That is why rape is a serious weapon on them their families and cultral beliefs.
Honestly Tonya, looking back on some of my ex boyfriends (those who were neither "good" nor "respectable"), if I told any one of them that I wanted my first sexual experience to be "special", they would have given me whatever I wanted. The dinner, the candlelight, the room, whatever. It doesn't say anything about their character. At the end of the day, after he's done using your body like a damn toilet, the show is over. Money shouldn't buy trust or affection. It's bribery.
Any man who doesnt agree with anything I have stated in this video you are probably the type of men I'm warning these girls about. The favor you can do for ME is to educate YOUR daughters to let a man UFCK them out of their virginity anyWHERE and ANYhow he chooses... not investing In the relationship emotionally or the event effortlessly. GO Instruct your daughters with that mess, and hopefully their mothers will STILL show them MY video.
@TonyaTko did yo funky ass listen to your parents when they told you not to have sexx, no u didnt, so who in the fuck do you think you are trying to give advice when yo fat baldhead ass aint got nothing better to do then sit yo stankin ass at home all day on the computer and talk shit, if i could get my hands on you rite now i would make you suck my dick and i would fuck you in your ass an make you love it then cum all over your face, now what?
BlakkahXX ISNT GETTING IT, IF A GUY WANTED SOMETHING, FOR EXAMPLE, THE NEW JORDANS, HE WOULD SAVE UP TO GET THAT, SO IF HE WANTED THE GIRL TO BE COMFORTABLE IN SHARING THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN HER LIFE WITH HIM, HE WOULD DO WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THAT SETTING AND THAT MOMENT, AS BEAUTIFUL AS IT SHOULD BE, BECAUSE HE WANTS TO, HE WANTS HER TO FEEL LIKE SHE ISNT JUST GIVING IT UP, BUT SHARING SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING WITH HIM, AND FOR THAT, HE WANTS IT TO BE JUST AS BEAUTIFUL.
I do get it.... But you still failed to answer the question i asked.. Is the girls virgin experience only enhanced by how much money the man spends on it. and if yes... then we both know what that really is?
Why don't you direct the question at me Blakkah, so that I can help you understand it.
I am a GROWN woman and I have dated. And there is a tremendous difference btwn a man who will NOT put forth the effort to ensure the event is memorable and one who WILL. All to often these men are putting a rush on these girls with no preparation, no consideration, no Romance, No Respect. I asked about the flowers, candles, & comfortable surroundings because these things show an effort on the man's part...
Part II... to put some planning into the event for the WOMAN involved. Now there is no right recipe for the event, but you must also take into account that you did NOT (obviously) watch the FIRST video (which I instructed you to do several times throughout this video). I'm using the examples I did in this video because I talked about love etc in the first and still people are confused..... (cont..)
Part III.... A man who cares Many NOT be able to afford a hotel room... but one who DOESNT CARE may be able to afford one and just WONT. So look at his feet... he has new shoes he saved up for but when it comes to her virginity cant be bothered to put aside a few coins? Its a telltale sign and a Hotel Room is NOT expensive for ONE NIGHT. But its the sentiment behind the lack of thought, preparation, romance AND respect in rushing someone and shortchanging the event.
Thank you for the clarification Tonya.. most of the time people ask questions to get a better understnding and sometimes people get mad cause we don't instantly get what is being said so i appreciate the time you took to explain it.
What foolishness, the girls virgin experience is only enhanced by how much money the dude spends? sounds like your telling girls to rent out their pussy? Or did i get what you were saying wrong?
Those two things come with the territory if you ask me, loving is caring about someone with everything in your heart, and only wanting the good for that person. Respect comes from admiration and honor for that person, if you have those two things in your corner for real for real, Sex isn't as big of a deal as you make it, once the young ladies of the world realize that, there'll be less games and less heartache dealing with this boys you think are men who're just trying to prove themselves.
Respect doesn't exist ove rthe internet and text Princess. But not everybody under values their virginity it's not just real women in the equation, it's real men. I know it's hard to pick the phony guys who aren't gonna stay true to their girls from situational matters where things just go awry. I know being a virgin is a big deal, but later on in life it's not, and neither is holding onto things like that, everyone is over valuing sex over love and respect altogether in my opinion.
@mestizaprincess I'm probably getting them all from people like you who can't back up their points well so they resort to either trying to insult me or silencing my voice. But you're right talking to you is like screaming over concert amps. And you're right I am like most men. It's unfortunate that you don't get that most of us are good people. And I like debating issues, next time don't start the fire. And my friends and I think you're a joke. Like I said good cop-out.
In Africa many of the young females value their virginity like it is sacred. That is why rape is used as a weapon on her and her people. This ALL has to do with values how a female was brought up.
In Africa? Can you specify where in Africa? Last time I checked plenty of young African ladies are getting down just like anyone else. It's just not openly talked about in certain places. Rape is used as a weapon? lol...right. That's if the woman isn't blamed first.
Yes it crosses over in many parts of Africa. In North Africa you can get killed for not being a virgin in central Africa if you are not a virgin you will not be married I can go on. Remember many African nations use to or still practice "Female Circumcision" LOOK IT UP.
She isn't really making a distinction between the types either, but fine whatever, she isn't saying all men. As to the "why"s, well there are no right moments in consensual sex. There is always the after that needs to be dealt with and no one can see the future. I'd like to know why he should have to "work" for it? If two people like each other a lot and decide to have sex, SO WHAT? And making sure there are no regrets, don't have sex with jerks. Chemistry is chemistry, sometimes things blow up.
My thoughts exactly, i think in particular ladies need to have their guard up for so many things and i'm not going to say it's unfair, because everyone has to take care of themselves, but you need to make sure you make decisions based on common sense rather than fierce and raw emotion, which is a powerful thing, but's not everything, and neither is sex. Good sex is an awesome, awesome thing, but in the rights hands within the right continuity. It adds a layer of depth to a personal relationship
But that doesnt mean that it has to be there with every relationship, i wont lie and say as a guy i'm not thinking about it 24/7, but it comes along with the pretext of, "Is this going to be for the long haul or is it just going to be ALL about the sex." If someone didn't want to drop their v-card for their own personal reasons, that's respectable, but make sure it's for the right reasons also. There's just too many games floatin around, including that one. And you're right, things happen.
these tips are also good if ur not a virgin cuz u may get caught up in all the hype of them seducing u and u get swooped up n used again i favorite this so my viewers can view it. sex aint everything girls its better to have respect for urself n do it with who u feel comfortable with in every way not cuz they say things u want to hear u need to treat ur private area like a temple n only a certain person can access if u allow it. good luck
Tonya why don't you have any kids ? what do you think about having kids or getting pregnant in our days ? please make a video on this topic , i wanna know what you think about giving birth in 21 st century
- wow this hits hard especially to me . even though im not a virgin i havent had sex in 8 months && crazy how i feel like one again && this opens my eyes more especially in my situation thank u Tonya
Tonya why don't you have any kids ? what do you think about having kids or getting pregnant in our days ? please make a video on this topic , i wanna know what you think about giving birth in 21 st century
I'm so glad you made this video Tonya! Even though my fiance is older and I'm almost 23...when he calls my virginity "our promise" I knew he was committed to us waiting until marriage. It takes a lot of time to get trust like that...most people are simply too impatient. Thanks again for this video.
Beautiful Tonya! young girls please listen, she speaks truth. Men are beautiful but some are very cold hearted. Don't fall for the act. I recommend creating a rule until you are older and more mature, for example a 3 month rule. If he doesn't have the patients to wait only 3 mnts how you expect him to be with you for 3 years and so on? if he likes you Time shouldn't exist. Just being with you should be heavenly. Also when single focus on self worth and healing! Peace Loves
People keep putting down Jamaican music but that is what it preaches. Do not bow. Do not give no oral or anal. "Heads High kill them with the NO." One of my favorite songs "Mr Vegas - Heads High".
All the female songs coming from Jamaica teach girls not to be whores and to respect themselves LOL. The dances you see the "Dancehall Queens" do came from Africa like "Mapouka and Niiko" Dancehall does not disrespect females.
No actually it is not what you think. Women actually rule in the Dancehalls and the anti gay thing is all about not bowing down to the slave master. Gays stand out because of what they do in bed not because of who they are.
i dont care if its Jamaican or not. why r they so concerned about what 2 same sex consenting adults do in the bedroom? why r they so involved and passionate about that? that is like real nosey. "not b/c who gays r but what they do" isnt that a personal matter. get real.
it is what i think because the lyrics are loud and clear- it may not be all- as in the female dance hall lyrics- but alot of these male dancehall tunes are downright soft porn and very very vulgar and the anti gay thing is just what it is ANTI GAY and blatently homophobic talking about killen and burning chi chi man and also persecuting those who even hang around gay people. there against what gays do in the bedroom? does that rationalize those disgusting slur lyrics?
It has to do with the roots culture in Jamaica why they do not believe in homosexuality. On the songs about females you probably do not understand the lyrics. Our cultural religion is mixed Penticostal with Rastafarian.
Young girls would know not to be crawny and a whore.
@ MusicFilled I definitely understand the social psychology behind that islands homophobia. and also- i defintly get jamaican patwa- and mysogyny IS a theme in many songs.
When you hear men in Jamaica talk about women that way it is usaully for those in an ADULT relationship where the woman is called the "wifey" all others are considered whores or butoo. "Goodas" I know is misunderstood it means an "A" class woman who has a man she calls a husband or where she is the real woman in the man life not the whore.
@MusicFilled; Jamaica has a very strong patriarch environment- and it is reflected in alot of the music- in particular, dancehall..the act of sex is communicated with aggressive and violent adjectives and the male point of view is often that of ownership towards women and their vaginas, as in property. so much so that many native women may confuse this as normal. Rape has been known to happen too many times then i care to count for the sickening "cure" of lesbianism. this is demonic patriarchy.
If the average dude bought some 20+ rims and some other chicks started paying attention to him she's coming right up off of it. More than likely a dude taking the average female's virginity isn't old enough to drive, let alone get a room somewhere. You might want to change your age demographic.
Thanks.. For your vids cause sometimes I'm not sure what to say. My little cuz is at that age in her life where. You known... Me as a guy dont known what to say to her at times. Your vids help me out alot. Keep them coming.... So I dont feel that stupid trying to talk to her....
I hear ppl say it helps when the message comes from a neutral party. Some say they tried talking and it didnt get through, but when they sent them my video it began to stick in
You never did watch the first video did you Dragon? I have to come at this from all angles in different videos. No need to make two videos with the same message. For some people the message in the first vid will resonate with them, for others this one. But all components need to be in place. I talked about love and emotions in the first vid, but you would be surprised how for many the sacrifices a man is NOT willing to make is the greatest and quickest telltale sign.
@mestizaprincess You are wrong on several points and perhaps the delivery of my opinion has given you the wrong impression of me. Not that it matters to you, but I am not one of the men she is talking about. Secondly, sex is this weighty human experience that requires all of this manipulating. Men are not solely responsible for sexual encounters. We are not semen-shooting wild beasts. Lumping us all into one group is just as insulting as referring to women as "bitches".
If you were asking your mother or father for advice on sex, would you want the short-cut "Now get out of my face" version or the informative version? That's why its 25 minutes. I talk to my girls like this all of the time. If more parents spoke to their children for this duration about sex, there would be less teenage pregnancies.
Tonya, a question; what if you have respect for yourself, but don't put such an emphasis on virginity? That is, you're not "permiscuous"
It's just..well..when people bring up virginity, they lump in self-respect and the like plus marriage, I tend to disagree. My thoughts behind this are that sex, or making love rather, is a natural thing the human body in general by some means will come across. Why make such a big deal out of it now these days when children are so plentiful? If that makes sense.
Hey Dinker, if you watch the first video I say that the right time to lose your virginity is when you dont feel as if you are "Losing" anything... And there ARE people who its not a big deal to. They have my blessings. But this video is to the multitudes of younger ladies who contact me in desperate need of advice on how to keep their virginity without losing their man and vice versa.
I think your comments in the beginning, about the "art of seduction tactics" is totally unfair- I mean not every guy does that. You make it sound as if all guys are just out to cause harm.
Yeah exactly. It's also shallow as hell... I mean surely there are other ways to have a special time together, you really need someone to dish out money on a hotel? Anyone can buy a hotel room, but it takes a real man to give her an awesome time. When I want to impress my girlfriend on a special night, I cook a nice dinner before she comes. I'm sure she would always like that a lot more than getting a hotel room!
Sex is not that serious. Putting it up on this kind of pedestal, only makes it harder to get. Sex is fun, it feels good, yes it's risky, by why the hell does a man need to spend money on a girl, to have sex with her? Doesn't that just make her a thing that he owns or rather her virginity then becomes his. I mean c'mon, we live in a different time now. A girl doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have too. If a girl falls for the game, that is also her fault.
sex is not that serious??? are you freakin' serious do you know how many sexual diseases are out there and how many of'em are deadly viruses. Sex is supposed to be fun fir a husband and wife, these days the media's influencing alot of people like you, telling you that sex isn't that serious really?? these days people don't have any self respect for their bodies that's why they're sleeping with all sort of animals in this planet this world is getting disgusting
@labellecongolaise Sex is not an exclusive marital privilege, it is a human right. In fact traditionally, marriage is a man's ownership of a woman, that being said, her body is forfeit, her vagina, merely a means to an heir and his physical pleasure. Yes people can get a disease, but do no take what I am saying out of context. Yes the media influences me and EVERYONE else, but I have a lot of awareness about my own sexuality and knowledge of how to protect my body, because of the "media".
@labellecongolaise Also, I don't entirely disagree with Tonya's points, because there are a lot of men with unsavory agendas, but that type of man does not represent me. I have never taken advantage of anyone who felt attracted to me enough to want to have sex with me. Sex is not some disgusting animal act. Rudimentarily sex is a means to reproduce, so the idea that it is some construct of marriage is made up and silly.
OMG I HONESTLY WISH U WERE MY BIG SISTER! U GIVE SUCH GREAT ADVICE! THANKS FOR POSTING THESE VIDEOS..U ARE TRULY A BLESSING :)
shay1992ify 2 months ago in playlist Liked videos
I swear, you're a genius! Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
satinights 2 months ago
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I didn't know that the clitoris was located deep inside a woman's uterus! Silly me. I have been wasting women's time all of these years...
gammerstang2009 5 months ago
I Love You TonyaTKO:) I wish my mother had told me this......
febuary09 5 months ago
@febuary09 OH SNAP LOOKS LIKE SOMEONE CAUGHT CHLAMYDIA!!
wiibot15 5 months ago
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febuary09 5 months ago
i learn a lot from watching your videos! you are so smart and you hit home.. If i can't learn it from anyone, near me i can learn it from you.. thanks! :)
blackbarbiie89 5 months ago
@blackbarbiie89 Thank you sweetheart :)
-Tko
TonyaTko 5 months ago
It's sad that so many ppl thse days have the internet but haven't got a person to talk to about important stuff.That's so great that you Tonya make this step forward to them. This video was posted over a year ago but I just found it today and I believe that things don't happen without a reason. See I'm a 21 year old virgin but I really don't want to lose it, I wan't to GIVE it so I always believed it's so important to do it with the right person...
tocha000 8 months ago
...lately though I had some doubts,but today I've watched this(so I regaind my faith:) ),coincidence? I don't think so! Thank you Tonya,you really are a sister!
tocha000 8 months ago
@tocha000 It is important to do that with the right person. There is absolutely no reason for you to have sex with anyone. It's your body, don't let some idiot persuade you into doing something you will regret or don't even want to do.
I'm a male virgin, because I never really cared to have sex with a person I don't even feel for. I'll only have sex with a woman I actually care about in that way.
Don't be pressured.
wiibot15 5 months ago
i luv you big sis
misscandlelight444 8 months ago
Love is too powerful and not to be confused with SEX whatsoever, some woman play Victim with manipulative motives,, let's talk truth here. never should any teenager or guy give up their virginity untill they understand what Love means first, ok aint gonna happen in this life, i know,, been their done that already. stop pointing the finger,, guys and girls,, ok? get real,, and don't dress provocatively too attract attention, and the wrong guy,, because they will pursue.
frankenboston 11 months ago
Sounds, old-fashioned, corny, stupid, lame, etc...just wait until marriage. There's just so much less risk, and you don't have to worry about some dude, or some disease. Not saying sex is overrated, but life is not all about sex. So stop being so impatient, and wait. Even guy friend of mine, who is attracted to me, who's had sex before, told me to wait, because he said it shows that I value myself, and my husband won't have to worry about anything. That's coming from a GUY. So ladies, just wait.
XxxxSunsetxxxX 1 year ago
@XxxxSunsetxxxX Ladies are supposed to wait till marriage to show their husbands that they "Wont have to worry abt anything?" THis tactic used to control women & their sexuality so that men can go around getting 'experience' then marry a person with none... so that he wouldnt worry abt knowing whether he is any good in bed or not. This is not the year 2000 BC when ppl are marrying at 15. We're educating ourselves & finishing at 30. Is "Waiting" till Marriage isnt realistic OR Practical
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
For me, it is realistic and practical. Not only does my future husband not have to worry about anything, but i don't, either. And it's not only something women should do, but guys should too, even though society "tells" guys that they must lose it as soon as possible. No one is controlling my sexuality but myself. There are SO many things I DON'T have to worry about: some guy talking about me, buying condoms, pregnancy scares, etc. Who doesn't want less worry in their life? So, wait I shall. :)
XxxxSunsetxxxX 1 year ago
@TonyaTko see that's the whole problem and issue is just that, what you said,, " tactics" using tactics,, mind control,, manipulation,, sex powers. woman use them and are taught this by mothers, or on the street, oh yes they do,, and men same thing. Love is only known real true Love that is not worldy bullshit. is only known and understood by 3 percent of the polulation,sadly that is the way it is since God is thrown out of everything now atheists, and gay pushers got what they wanted.
frankenboston 11 months ago
"Waiting till Marriage" would only work if it were implemented culture-wide, not just half of the population chaste, while the other half whores. It creates an imbalance which gives rise to prostitution & societal female sexual enslavement; Where women who have sexual needs & desires are cast & abused as "Not valuing herself" as you put it, and WORSE (as the Bible put it)
If a person wants to wait OR do it, they shld have the freedom to for PERSONAL reasons, not those imposed by society.
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
Im a eighteen year old young man and I fully agree with you tonya! Sex is a very important experience that for both men and women. The problem is that sometimes we men just dont take it seriously enough or truly understand the full value of women that are virgins,some of us have to work on that. Plus, I also think that ORAL SEX IS FUCKING NASTY! I hope that doesnt sound weird coming from a man,but shit I want to kiss my woman passinately and I wouldn't want her or ask her to do that hell no!
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i lost my virginity when i was 19 and i felt like i was the last virgin so i had sex i wish i knew back then i was not and waited until i got married like i planned! i am still not married but i wish i waited it i so much better to wait people men and wemen i wish i did dont let nobody talk you out of it stick to your gun's!
shrtsweetangel 1 year ago
i lost my virginity when i was 19 and i felt like i was the last virgin so i had sex i wish i knew back then i wasent and waited until i got maried like i planned! im still not married but i wish i waited it i so much better to wait people men and wemen i wish i did dont let nobody talk you out of it stick to your gun's!
shrtsweetangel 1 year ago
I love the title.
vinbroccoli 1 year ago
Oh goodness Tonya! You are a blessing. I am 23 yrs old African female, I am choosing to not "loose my Virginity" but rather " give my virginity" and trust it will have to be to the one who deserves it. My thing is it has been tough the older I get. It went from guys coming after it to them not wanting to talk to me any longer once I inform them. I am puzzled by this being that most of them are in college like me and I would think they would understand and respect just a powerful decision ?!?!
beautifulhossana 1 year ago
@beautifulhossana The same thing happened to me when I decided to live the remainder of my 20's celibate. Suddenly men began to avoid dating me OR even WORSE they tried hard to be the "One." So I stopped disclosing my virginal status. It really wasn't anyone's business. Bcz the bottom line is I was CHOOSING NOT to have sex. Whether I had been with One, None, Or One-Hundred-One, I was still making the choice to not have intercourse. Anybody in a rush was ONLY Wanted Sex anyone, so no Loss
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko I read your comment about being celabite throughout your 20's. I have been celabite for 2yrs now and i am currently 21; when did you know was the right time to start having sex again after being celibate? Some guys i have come across say to me that that is a good thing that I am celibate but then they try their best to break it, which is ironic, or in one situation a guy respected my desicion but then I discovered he was cheating.
daedriana2 1 year ago
@daedriana2 Honey Honey Honey, Thats a video in and Of Itself! wow... There is so much to speak on this topic. All I can say is "KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!" when the time is right you'll KNOW... and the guy will NOT be pressuring you. He's doing that for his ego. "Forbidden Fruit." Just trying to be the one to break it.
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
I'm almost 21! But, is it a good idea to keep yourself for marrage?
TinyRoseTamer 1 year ago
im 20, an asian, still a virgin, and i do have many guys chasing me but never once have i said yes simply because i feel they're only interested in sex and not a serious relationship. after watching both this video and the when to lose your virginity video, i'm glad i decided to wait as im sure that my future hubby(one who'll be my best friend and also my life time partner) will be proud of me for not being influenced by media and sticking to my beliefs.
thanks so much tonya! great advice! ^^
AnythingShimmery 1 year ago
she's a trip
Youbian 1 year ago
You were still a virgin when you were 19? Wow that makes me feel better about being a virgin and im almost 20.
spongebobgirlfriend 1 year ago 3
@spongebobgirlfriend I'll be 19 on March 2nd...& I'm still a virgin. Trying to wait for a decent guy...but my "so-called" Bff is constantly asking me when am I gonna lose my virginity! and I'm like..."WHY DO U CARE!??" well...I changed my phone number...I removed her from my life because she's a negative being. She's been trying to get me to have sex since we were 14...smh :/
aliadaduncan 1 year ago
@aliadaduncan I'm in a similar predicament and turn 19 in about 3 months but I haven't cut off my friend due to knowing that she doesn't mean any harm but then again her fuckin' indirects about my non-sexual encounters do piss me off...
Actually now that I think about it... I've been ignoring her alot. Oh well -.-
SheThaBoss 7 months ago
some older men like younger women but, theres a club 2 blocks from me and its called Cougars. And the older women chase younger guys like u wouldnt believe. So if a guy likes a younger women it may be because old chics like u think they know everything and don't know shit. Oh but i do like your ass tho
a1knowledge1 1 year ago
some older men like younger women but there is a club 2 blocks from me and called Cougars. And the older women chase younger guys beyond imagination. So if a guy likes a younger women it may be because old chics like u think they know everything and don't know shit. Oh but i do like your ass tho
a1knowledge1 1 year ago
wtf, even if its the 1rst time, its still just ONE SINGLE SEX SESSION, theres plenty of time to catch on... dont make it such a big deal ... seriously... maybe u feel that it is THAT important but im pretty sure that not all women feel the same as u.
mxtheriault 1 year ago
You have a title that draws people to watch your video. Your lecture is associate level at Best. At times you Sound confused. You still need a big sister. You Got very far with your big honeysuckle lips. A quess your a leader and rolemodel.
hank456781 1 year ago
ok so im a gay guy lol but about the hotel thing i see what you mean but going to a hotel it would feel harder to say no and id think that he was planeing it and assumeing that id want to you know
TheXander360 1 year ago
I love this..women are the magnetic force so we should be attracting and not chasing
oridniv 1 year ago
Tell it sister!Your great your advise is very informational and so true=)
chiquitababy5 1 year ago 3
I really wish you were my older sister. Tonya, you're amazing! Thak you so much!
Love you sis
iluvgh3tt0princ3ss 2 years ago 21
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What happened to diet and exercise?
DrewryNewsNetwork 2 years ago
people! chill out! she has made a point, the thing is if you're virgin don't waste time and emotions on guys who are complete j******s. Also there is the problem that some people they just fall for simple tricks. I have a girl she is wonderful we want to do it before we get married. It's been a year since we're together and we're happy and we want to do it because we love each other. kudoz tonya
DzikaKuna 2 years ago 5
I just watched this video and the video where you are talking about losing your own virginity. It makes me so upset at women that go for bad boys and then when they get pregnant the sexy bad boy is nowhere to be found and they are surprised at that. I think they both should be responsible but it shouldn't be a surprise when the man gets up and leaves. I think monogamous sex is the best sex. If you trust them and have that chemistry then you explore sex together. It just gets better and better.
Goobian 2 years ago 2
Tonya. you are a saint. What you do is truly a help to us all. Even I, a 14-year-old male, feel that you do an amazing job of teaching us.
ITACHAMARU622 2 years ago 19
You are awesome!!!
MsTheVault 2 years ago 8
Tonya babe. You Rock! You and I need to show em how its done.
nside41 2 years ago 5
This advice still pertains to people who have lost their virginity and are in relationships.
"Listen to yourself, others and your intuition" is the message she's spreading. And I couldn't thank her enough.
Thank you, Tonya.
punjabDIjatti 2 years ago 6
oh my goodness,u look so much like your earlier vids. maybe its the hair color or lack thereof. thanks for talking to the young ladies.
9dayrow 2 years ago
what about the Girl pays the hotel or restaurants or all the whatnots a guy have to do just to have sex????
I think some women need to get off their pedestal of virginity (Its not the Holy grale!!!)...
Thats just my view... men also have feelings and plenty of problems and unsecuritys just because off this WALL of Holy Virginity.
Peace
lowrida82 2 years ago
Wow...Thanks for this video, its a scary thing but your words help alot
dianadee17 2 years ago
This like, completely changed the way I was thinking. I'm so glad I clicked this.
o0KatieGirl0o 2 years ago
let them go squirt in their hands....hilarious Tonya...you are a legend. I love you and I hope the girls take your advice. As a man I can completely agree with your take on how men feel when we are trying to seduce.
Sex is best in a loving and committed relationship. Please listen to Tonya. She is a wise woman.
glitzdealer1 2 years ago 2
I feel ya sis!
brooklyndreamz 2 years ago
Sex should only be done in marriage. Holy matrimony. That's what's up. Society is a whore..
nygrow10 2 years ago
@nygrow10 nope not even
its just sex...ge over it :)
africanTHEfire 2 years ago
It's just sex...
It's just sin. It's just herpes. It's just abortion. It's just Aids. Just STD's. Just broken hearts. Just disobedience to God.
You get over it! I will continue to complain about it since it's deteriorating society.
nygrow10 2 years ago
But marriage it is OKay.
Worship God not yourself
nygrow10 2 years ago
LOL how were you born????It must have been a sin
lowrida82 2 years ago
I was born in wedlock. It's not a sin to have sex in the context marriage. Sex outside of marriage is sin.
nygrow10 2 years ago
that s your point of view.
to me marriage or religion are Irrelevant.
you have the right to think its sin... but it doesnt mean all ppl who think different are sinners
lowrida82 2 years ago 4
@lowrida82 I know him a little better than you think. Sin is sin is sin is sin. 2+2=4 right? You can say 2+2=5 if it makes people feel better. But in the end of the day absolute truth will still be the same no matter what anyone says.
nygrow10 2 years ago
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lame ass
meneedmoney 2 years ago
God???Oh the Imaginary guy thats controls your minds that guy.
lowrida82 2 years ago
You don't know God
nygrow10 2 years ago
You dont know him either.
lowrida82 2 years ago
@lowrida82 nope the imaginary guy thats keeping your lazy ass alive everyday
Bluedeviant 11 months ago
You have such smooth cool skin
nygrow10 2 years ago
THANK YOU
hypnotizing101 2 years ago
Question... What normal straight man walks around with a handbag??? AND save up $300 to buy one at that?
sportstar82cr 2 years ago
LOL @ Sportstar, perhaps I could have said Rims. Just replace the word handbag for Rims k?
;-)
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Tonya, you are so dang encouraging. Thank you SO much for posting this video...
Gwen102938 2 years ago 3
Tonya, you are a true hero to young girls everywhere. Thank you for doing what you do.
NYCindustries 2 years ago 7
I can't wait to see your interview with TheYoungTurks, I was a subscriber to both you two long before this video.
TehRahk 2 years ago 4
Great video, big sis Tonya has spoken! What is going on that so many of these young girls are falling for this? Mom and DAD really need to step their game up, and speak to their daughters.. I think it's a good thing to hear from their father's perspective on how men think.. It can only benefit their daughters..
Mzrougepoupee 2 years ago
iv been wantin sum1 2 do a video like this. the oral sex part is deff a reality check 4 me.i really wish my sister or mother would have had the nerve 2 have this talk w/ me. ur mother raised a very beautiful smart woman =] thank u 4 this!
teacuuppee32 2 years ago 3
*HugS*
Dirtywayne80 2 years ago
'Do you're job man!!! DO the WORK!!!' Absolutely refreshing Tonnie. The girl that took my virginity absolutely enjoyed the 2 minutes of ecstasy I gave her. Good thing she was a virgin too and didn't know any better. I do however disagree, sex does keep a partner around. It's natural instinct.
LIQUIDSTEELTV 2 years ago
I would like TonyaTKO to watch the videos "female genital mutilation video 0001" I wonder what the states would be like if it was allowed in the U.S.. Teen girls would have no choice. Makes me wonder. No serious but just wondering.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
It's much more socially acceptable in some other places for a man to violate a woman (if he claims to have a "good reason" because you know...men can't control themselves, can they). It is also more common for a middle aged man to date a teenager. I venture to say most teenage girls are not virgins. I know there are repercussions in some instances, but I can't imagine how that many women could be murdered just because they don't have a hymen.
GataAgressiva411 2 years ago
@GataAgressiva411
I know alot of African women and many I know married. Husband was their first. It is part of their culture. That is why rape is a serious weapon on them their families and cultral beliefs.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
but what if you're not a virgin anymore..is it too late to take it back?
prncssjasmine 2 years ago
No need to try to take it back darling... Life is made up of moments... just make sure you move forward and create great moments.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago 4
Honestly Tonya, looking back on some of my ex boyfriends (those who were neither "good" nor "respectable"), if I told any one of them that I wanted my first sexual experience to be "special", they would have given me whatever I wanted. The dinner, the candlelight, the room, whatever. It doesn't say anything about their character. At the end of the day, after he's done using your body like a damn toilet, the show is over. Money shouldn't buy trust or affection. It's bribery.
GataAgressiva411 2 years ago 5
i lurv!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thank u soo much for this video..
i knw ive sed dat lyk a million times already but im so grateful u did dis!!.. thnks!!
auggyb 2 years ago
and ive been looking for a way to get to view live broadcasts but i cant!!
and i want to watch them ( since i guess u do one every wednesday) please i'ld love it if someone could explain how i could.
auggyb 2 years ago
Any man who doesnt agree with anything I have stated in this video you are probably the type of men I'm warning these girls about. The favor you can do for ME is to educate YOUR daughters to let a man UFCK them out of their virginity anyWHERE and ANYhow he chooses... not investing In the relationship emotionally or the event effortlessly. GO Instruct your daughters with that mess, and hopefully their mothers will STILL show them MY video.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago 5
@TonyaTko did yo funky ass listen to your parents when they told you not to have sexx, no u didnt, so who in the fuck do you think you are trying to give advice when yo fat baldhead ass aint got nothing better to do then sit yo stankin ass at home all day on the computer and talk shit, if i could get my hands on you rite now i would make you suck my dick and i would fuck you in your ass an make you love it then cum all over your face, now what?
hunglikeahorseful 1 year ago
@hunglikeahorseful fuck off. tko's advices are great. you go get over yourself. :)
AnythingShimmery 1 year ago
No...she's a woman. Whoever said that was just being rude
iloveshoes08 2 years ago
BlakkahXX ISNT GETTING IT, IF A GUY WANTED SOMETHING, FOR EXAMPLE, THE NEW JORDANS, HE WOULD SAVE UP TO GET THAT, SO IF HE WANTED THE GIRL TO BE COMFORTABLE IN SHARING THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN HER LIFE WITH HIM, HE WOULD DO WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THAT SETTING AND THAT MOMENT, AS BEAUTIFUL AS IT SHOULD BE, BECAUSE HE WANTS TO, HE WANTS HER TO FEEL LIKE SHE ISNT JUST GIVING IT UP, BUT SHARING SUCH A BEAUTIFUL THING WITH HIM, AND FOR THAT, HE WANTS IT TO BE JUST AS BEAUTIFUL.
HuNniBaBii 2 years ago
I do get it.... But you still failed to answer the question i asked.. Is the girls virgin experience only enhanced by how much money the man spends on it. and if yes... then we both know what that really is?
BlakkahXX 2 years ago
Why don't you direct the question at me Blakkah, so that I can help you understand it.
I am a GROWN woman and I have dated. And there is a tremendous difference btwn a man who will NOT put forth the effort to ensure the event is memorable and one who WILL. All to often these men are putting a rush on these girls with no preparation, no consideration, no Romance, No Respect. I asked about the flowers, candles, & comfortable surroundings because these things show an effort on the man's part...
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Part II... to put some planning into the event for the WOMAN involved. Now there is no right recipe for the event, but you must also take into account that you did NOT (obviously) watch the FIRST video (which I instructed you to do several times throughout this video). I'm using the examples I did in this video because I talked about love etc in the first and still people are confused..... (cont..)
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Part III.... A man who cares Many NOT be able to afford a hotel room... but one who DOESNT CARE may be able to afford one and just WONT. So look at his feet... he has new shoes he saved up for but when it comes to her virginity cant be bothered to put aside a few coins? Its a telltale sign and a Hotel Room is NOT expensive for ONE NIGHT. But its the sentiment behind the lack of thought, preparation, romance AND respect in rushing someone and shortchanging the event.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Thank you for the clarification Tonya.. most of the time people ask questions to get a better understnding and sometimes people get mad cause we don't instantly get what is being said so i appreciate the time you took to explain it.
BlakkahXX 2 years ago
Why do you say she's a man?
iloveshoes08 2 years ago
What foolishness, the girls virgin experience is only enhanced by how much money the dude spends? sounds like your telling girls to rent out their pussy? Or did i get what you were saying wrong?
BlakkahXX 2 years ago
Those two things come with the territory if you ask me, loving is caring about someone with everything in your heart, and only wanting the good for that person. Respect comes from admiration and honor for that person, if you have those two things in your corner for real for real, Sex isn't as big of a deal as you make it, once the young ladies of the world realize that, there'll be less games and less heartache dealing with this boys you think are men who're just trying to prove themselves.
afrokidryder 2 years ago
Respect doesn't exist ove rthe internet and text Princess. But not everybody under values their virginity it's not just real women in the equation, it's real men. I know it's hard to pick the phony guys who aren't gonna stay true to their girls from situational matters where things just go awry. I know being a virgin is a big deal, but later on in life it's not, and neither is holding onto things like that, everyone is over valuing sex over love and respect altogether in my opinion.
afrokidryder 2 years ago
@mestizaprincess I'm probably getting them all from people like you who can't back up their points well so they resort to either trying to insult me or silencing my voice. But you're right talking to you is like screaming over concert amps. And you're right I am like most men. It's unfortunate that you don't get that most of us are good people. And I like debating issues, next time don't start the fire. And my friends and I think you're a joke. Like I said good cop-out.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
@mestizaprincess Can't even address the issues. Good cop-out.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
she should pay half the bill just in case she wants to change her mind not to have sex. She should be put in the work as well.
MrSexxxyCream30 2 years ago
In Africa many of the young females value their virginity like it is sacred. That is why rape is used as a weapon on her and her people. This ALL has to do with values how a female was brought up.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
In Africa? Can you specify where in Africa? Last time I checked plenty of young African ladies are getting down just like anyone else. It's just not openly talked about in certain places. Rape is used as a weapon? lol...right. That's if the woman isn't blamed first.
GataAgressiva411 2 years ago
@GataAgressiva411
Yes it crosses over in many parts of Africa. In North Africa you can get killed for not being a virgin in central Africa if you are not a virgin you will not be married I can go on. Remember many African nations use to or still practice "Female Circumcision" LOOK IT UP.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
@GataAgressiva411
In Nigeria I believe it is the same they stone women to death for those things.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
She isn't really making a distinction between the types either, but fine whatever, she isn't saying all men. As to the "why"s, well there are no right moments in consensual sex. There is always the after that needs to be dealt with and no one can see the future. I'd like to know why he should have to "work" for it? If two people like each other a lot and decide to have sex, SO WHAT? And making sure there are no regrets, don't have sex with jerks. Chemistry is chemistry, sometimes things blow up.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
My thoughts exactly, i think in particular ladies need to have their guard up for so many things and i'm not going to say it's unfair, because everyone has to take care of themselves, but you need to make sure you make decisions based on common sense rather than fierce and raw emotion, which is a powerful thing, but's not everything, and neither is sex. Good sex is an awesome, awesome thing, but in the rights hands within the right continuity. It adds a layer of depth to a personal relationship
afrokidryder 2 years ago
@afrokidryder Indeed, you make a good point.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
But that doesnt mean that it has to be there with every relationship, i wont lie and say as a guy i'm not thinking about it 24/7, but it comes along with the pretext of, "Is this going to be for the long haul or is it just going to be ALL about the sex." If someone didn't want to drop their v-card for their own personal reasons, that's respectable, but make sure it's for the right reasons also. There's just too many games floatin around, including that one. And you're right, things happen.
afrokidryder 2 years ago
Very informative Tonya.....tell them love! Good one!
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jodeanog 2 years ago
these tips are also good if ur not a virgin cuz u may get caught up in all the hype of them seducing u and u get swooped up n used again i favorite this so my viewers can view it. sex aint everything girls its better to have respect for urself n do it with who u feel comfortable with in every way not cuz they say things u want to hear u need to treat ur private area like a temple n only a certain person can access if u allow it. good luck
BRONXPEPE 2 years ago
Tonya why don't you have any kids ? what do you think about having kids or getting pregnant in our days ? please make a video on this topic , i wanna know what you think about giving birth in 21 st century
thanks & love your videos
zzDBOIzz 2 years ago
Wow Tonya very informative and this is what young girls need right now is some guidance. Ur awesome and keep doing what u do.
dtoussaint80 2 years ago
- wow this hits hard especially to me . even though im not a virgin i havent had sex in 8 months && crazy how i feel like one again && this opens my eyes more especially in my situation thank u Tonya
dancerbx 2 years ago
Virginity is overrated, women are no longer traded for land and goods
FourG6397GST 2 years ago
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Auntkekebaby 2 years ago
Tonya why don't you have any kids ? what do you think about having kids or getting pregnant in our days ? please make a video on this topic , i wanna know what you think about giving birth in 21 st century
thanks & love your videos
jissa683 2 years ago
I wish this video was out when I was younger.....this is serious, excellent advice. I hope my younger sistahs listen to this!
JazzyJ251987 2 years ago
I'm so glad you made this video Tonya! Even though my fiance is older and I'm almost 23...when he calls my virginity "our promise" I knew he was committed to us waiting until marriage. It takes a lot of time to get trust like that...most people are simply too impatient. Thanks again for this video.
NegraBendita 2 years ago
this is very insightful and informative. keep these advice vids comin x
UKangel18 2 years ago
Beautiful Tonya! young girls please listen, she speaks truth. Men are beautiful but some are very cold hearted. Don't fall for the act. I recommend creating a rule until you are older and more mature, for example a 3 month rule. If he doesn't have the patients to wait only 3 mnts how you expect him to be with you for 3 years and so on? if he likes you Time shouldn't exist. Just being with you should be heavenly. Also when single focus on self worth and healing! Peace Loves
indigobeauty1 2 years ago
this video should be viewed in sex ed (for young girls)in school
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago 4
this was a Wooooooonderful Vlog. Great big sista point of view. 5 stars.
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
AMEN
MusicFilled 2 years ago
People keep putting down Jamaican music but that is what it preaches. Do not bow. Do not give no oral or anal. "Heads High kill them with the NO." One of my favorite songs "Mr Vegas - Heads High".
MusicFilled 2 years ago
@MusicFilled yea thats just one song but alot of reggae tunes are extremely misogynistic and violently homophobic
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
All the female songs coming from Jamaica teach girls not to be whores and to respect themselves LOL. The dances you see the "Dancehall Queens" do came from Africa like "Mapouka and Niiko" Dancehall does not disrespect females.
No actually it is not what you think. Women actually rule in the Dancehalls and the anti gay thing is all about not bowing down to the slave master. Gays stand out because of what they do in bed not because of who they are.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
Well all the booty shaking, head top, head dancing came from Africa. But the rest are all Jamaican.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
i dont care if its Jamaican or not. why r they so concerned about what 2 same sex consenting adults do in the bedroom? why r they so involved and passionate about that? that is like real nosey. "not b/c who gays r but what they do" isnt that a personal matter. get real.
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
it is what i think because the lyrics are loud and clear- it may not be all- as in the female dance hall lyrics- but alot of these male dancehall tunes are downright soft porn and very very vulgar and the anti gay thing is just what it is ANTI GAY and blatently homophobic talking about killen and burning chi chi man and also persecuting those who even hang around gay people. there against what gays do in the bedroom? does that rationalize those disgusting slur lyrics?
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
It has to do with the roots culture in Jamaica why they do not believe in homosexuality. On the songs about females you probably do not understand the lyrics. Our cultural religion is mixed Penticostal with Rastafarian.
Young girls would know not to be crawny and a whore.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
@ MusicFilled I definitely understand the social psychology behind that islands homophobia. and also- i defintly get jamaican patwa- and mysogyny IS a theme in many songs.
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
When you hear men in Jamaica talk about women that way it is usaully for those in an ADULT relationship where the woman is called the "wifey" all others are considered whores or butoo. "Goodas" I know is misunderstood it means an "A" class woman who has a man she calls a husband or where she is the real woman in the man life not the whore.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
i definitely wasnt talking about anything But *ADULT* relationships.
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
I just added adult I know you where. But most of the songs push women to feel shame.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
EXACTLY like many other cultures, we have to stand up for our women and young gurls@ MusicFilled
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago
@RootsRunDeeep
I think I know the song you were refering to.
Erup - Gal a Run dem Head
That song is not lying it is the truth.
MusicFilled 2 years ago
@MusicFilled; Jamaica has a very strong patriarch environment- and it is reflected in alot of the music- in particular, dancehall..the act of sex is communicated with aggressive and violent adjectives and the male point of view is often that of ownership towards women and their vaginas, as in property. so much so that many native women may confuse this as normal. Rape has been known to happen too many times then i care to count for the sickening "cure" of lesbianism. this is demonic patriarchy.
RootsRunDeeep 2 years ago 3
I think this is a great message for all girls/women... sexually active or virgins .
secsyme 2 years ago
I like this video all little girls on a hype need this they are fast now we need to talk to the 11 year olds and 13 teen. Keep them coming.
ziziuk22 2 years ago
If the average dude bought some 20+ rims and some other chicks started paying attention to him she's coming right up off of it. More than likely a dude taking the average female's virginity isn't old enough to drive, let alone get a room somewhere. You might want to change your age demographic.
Silkravage 2 years ago
Do you have a boyfriend lol :)
NazzieMan 2 years ago
this is pointless, R&B music & tv shows that young ladies listen to all day long promotes promiscuous sex
Its a losing battle, high teenage pregnancies,are proof of this.
Doorag1986 2 years ago 2
Thanks.. For your vids cause sometimes I'm not sure what to say. My little cuz is at that age in her life where. You known... Me as a guy dont known what to say to her at times. Your vids help me out alot. Keep them coming.... So I dont feel that stupid trying to talk to her....
bigtojo 2 years ago
Or you can just forward her the video :-P
I hear ppl say it helps when the message comes from a neutral party. Some say they tried talking and it didnt get through, but when they sent them my video it began to stick in
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Im still a virgin.
stacynewyork 2 years ago 3
You never did watch the first video did you Dragon? I have to come at this from all angles in different videos. No need to make two videos with the same message. For some people the message in the first vid will resonate with them, for others this one. But all components need to be in place. I talked about love and emotions in the first vid, but you would be surprised how for many the sacrifices a man is NOT willing to make is the greatest and quickest telltale sign.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
I need to save this for when I have my kids
blackhoney99 2 years ago
@mestizaprincess You are wrong on several points and perhaps the delivery of my opinion has given you the wrong impression of me. Not that it matters to you, but I am not one of the men she is talking about. Secondly, sex is this weighty human experience that requires all of this manipulating. Men are not solely responsible for sexual encounters. We are not semen-shooting wild beasts. Lumping us all into one group is just as insulting as referring to women as "bitches".
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
i would like to watch tha video but why the fuckkk izzz it 25 minutes??????
ddeshan3086 2 years ago
If you were asking your mother or father for advice on sex, would you want the short-cut "Now get out of my face" version or the informative version? That's why its 25 minutes. I talk to my girls like this all of the time. If more parents spoke to their children for this duration about sex, there would be less teenage pregnancies.
AfreeQueen 2 years ago 3
love you girl. Great lesson here. I completely agree with everything you said. I am sending this video to my younger sisters.
ShikaG81 2 years ago 3
Tonya, a question; what if you have respect for yourself, but don't put such an emphasis on virginity? That is, you're not "permiscuous"
It's just..well..when people bring up virginity, they lump in self-respect and the like plus marriage, I tend to disagree. My thoughts behind this are that sex, or making love rather, is a natural thing the human body in general by some means will come across. Why make such a big deal out of it now these days when children are so plentiful? If that makes sense.
Dinker27 2 years ago
Hey Dinker, if you watch the first video I say that the right time to lose your virginity is when you dont feel as if you are "Losing" anything... And there ARE people who its not a big deal to. They have my blessings. But this video is to the multitudes of younger ladies who contact me in desperate need of advice on how to keep their virginity without losing their man and vice versa.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
I think your comments in the beginning, about the "art of seduction tactics" is totally unfair- I mean not every guy does that. You make it sound as if all guys are just out to cause harm.
WFNelson 2 years ago
Why are you saying everyone's first time should be in a hotel room? I think that's a little ridiculous... I don't see the reason.
WFNelson 2 years ago
yeah thats weird hey. i think a hotel seems a lil suss anyway.. its kinda like he can buy her virginity by spending money on a nice hotel
LydiaKelso123 2 years ago
Yeah exactly. It's also shallow as hell... I mean surely there are other ways to have a special time together, you really need someone to dish out money on a hotel? Anyone can buy a hotel room, but it takes a real man to give her an awesome time. When I want to impress my girlfriend on a special night, I cook a nice dinner before she comes. I'm sure she would always like that a lot more than getting a hotel room!
WFNelson 2 years ago
game reconizge game.
JDOGFTW 2 years ago
You know nothing.
bammbamm12 2 years ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Sex is not that serious. Putting it up on this kind of pedestal, only makes it harder to get. Sex is fun, it feels good, yes it's risky, by why the hell does a man need to spend money on a girl, to have sex with her? Doesn't that just make her a thing that he owns or rather her virginity then becomes his. I mean c'mon, we live in a different time now. A girl doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have too. If a girl falls for the game, that is also her fault.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
I kinda agree with you on this one.
SimonDB2006 2 years ago 2
Thanks, but I didn't have enough characters to better articulate my thoughts.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
sex is not that serious??? are you freakin' serious do you know how many sexual diseases are out there and how many of'em are deadly viruses. Sex is supposed to be fun fir a husband and wife, these days the media's influencing alot of people like you, telling you that sex isn't that serious really?? these days people don't have any self respect for their bodies that's why they're sleeping with all sort of animals in this planet this world is getting disgusting
labellecongolaise 2 years ago
@labellecongolaise Sex is not an exclusive marital privilege, it is a human right. In fact traditionally, marriage is a man's ownership of a woman, that being said, her body is forfeit, her vagina, merely a means to an heir and his physical pleasure. Yes people can get a disease, but do no take what I am saying out of context. Yes the media influences me and EVERYONE else, but I have a lot of awareness about my own sexuality and knowledge of how to protect my body, because of the "media".
SanityMechanism 2 years ago
@labellecongolaise Also, I don't entirely disagree with Tonya's points, because there are a lot of men with unsavory agendas, but that type of man does not represent me. I have never taken advantage of anyone who felt attracted to me enough to want to have sex with me. Sex is not some disgusting animal act. Rudimentarily sex is a means to reproduce, so the idea that it is some construct of marriage is made up and silly.
SanityMechanism 2 years ago