Turn The LIGHT On In Your LIFE + Bonus Footage Of Xem & Marvin In LA

[Sydwazi20]

I want to do drama

[dsharpswifey]

You are sooooo cute and inspirational I -3 you

[rufskinsonmybodi]

Xem Uv Helped me TURN THE LIGHTS ON ; I will forgive and renew my life!

[blakkone4000]

"Leave him!!! Leave her!!! Turn your lights on!!!" Too funny. I love it.

[soymiguelalejandro23]

This was so good I had to do it twice... life changing - motivation set to action and now I am checking to make sure that the lights are still on and burning bright! Thank you Papa.

Much Love,

Miguel!:O)

[Vindicator09]

I only just learnt about who you are and you seriously brighten up my day :)

[spokenwordable]

i like it when you do the zimmy man voice its funny as hell.

yeah i have more Potential to what i desire to be poet.

[ZemZam2000]

YES turn the lights on baby

I going to stopping being scared and follow my dream to have be a singer

[gachett2011]

Major props on the videos you continue to post. I came across your page after seeing my friend subscribed to you and definitely had to do the same. Responding to the video, I could definitely assert my independence a lot more. Easier said than done (lol), but it could definitely reinforce my confidence, which tends to waver between what I know I can do and my opinion of what people think I can do. Anyways, thanks for the vids...I'll definitely be watching.

[Mcgaww]

i really need to turn the lights on in my life, cuz im not happy, so i want to move to Cail and start my carer in dance. my mom talks down on me and tells me what she wants me to do, but i need to do what i want to do. thanks xem

[GAVINLUVSBEYONCE]

def going to be watching all of your videos that i missed....love those eyes..

[soultruth]

Gonna start my workouts, filter a few people and move forward!

[soultruth]

This is JUST what's going to happen... Thanks xem

[ChaunC8907]

I can get rid on a few people ...and imma start making my youtube videos (singing) so i can be discovered.... loved this video

[ChaunC8907]

Preach boy!!!

[Neeka693]

Marvin is something! you betta work...lol "i knoow ....totally irrelevant"..but just had to share that.

[rafaelsolece]

I watched this for the first time tonight, but it hit home so deep for me Because I have been agonizing about whether or not I should stay or go in Atlanta, And I made a descision early last month to apply to film school and move to NYC, where I have always needed and felt like I was supposed to be. Now that I have made that decision though I don't know how things are going to go for me there I am have to make a move for my future.

[spfxeyes]

Xem I need ro put in work and stop sitting around waiting for my dreams to come find me. I am tired of trying to find my way in the dark.

[gloryolivine]

ooooh!!! He's a cutie pooty!!!! :-) Go head

[TheJono1992]

XemY i've been watching your videos for some time now and this one has got to be one of the best only because i just recently got out of a situation where i was talking to this guy and everything was goin fine then stuff began to arise to the point where we don't talk anymore & i was at the club this past week and he was there with (mutual friends) and he exchanged words about me thinkin i wasn't lookin & i had the right mind to fight but i held back and now i learned to forgive and keep pushin!

[pateran]

I love to dance and be happy so i will take the job my old dance teacher is offering me along with the job i just got

[wileyshow]

Like always I always watch your videos and this video is so dear to me because the light in my life is still off and i dont know how to turn it on I really just dont know. But Xem I am BIG supporter of you and also I love the way you speak. You inspired me to make videos and to become LGBT bloggers.

[Jenkins0807]

I needed to hear your message today. Usually my light is on but somehow today it was off. I was in this mood today and I was doubting myself and the academic course I have been on thus far. I was about to leave campus today and forget about attending any further classes, but I grabbed my bible from my car, read some scriptures/prayed and continued the rest of my day. I did not give up and watching this video is just what I needed. Thanks Xem

[missptv9090]

That is so right XEM, turn on the light instead of being in the darkness, so many people hold grudges although it is hard to let go u must in order to progress in life!

[patnchrisnmary]

You seem so comfortable in your life, and your everyday surroundings. You truly inspire me to be myself and accept things as they are.

[jeromenig2010]

yea ur ex is cute lol love yah xem

[JonathanGardnerTV]

Amen, amen, amen! :D

[stillgrow]

Wow, Xemmy bear, your man is a cutie, ya'll make a cute couple!

[sexymb18]

Xem idk if ive confessed this to you..but you are hot lol...and your friend..he's sexy too.lol..love your vids and work

[chrisrocksursocks]

omg... whats the name of that song?

[chrisrocksursocks]

omg... whats the name of the song at the end?

[vocalmastergirl9]

i love this video its so deep and powerful

[vocalmastergirl9]

great video marvin so cute he got a facebook

[RUSH2DESTINY]

both of u are so cute lol

[Devahn17]

Truth is, I'm a bit of a "HomoPhobe", [!!!HOWEVER!!!], after stumbling upon your videos and ignoring some of the uncomfortable material, your videos are pretty uplifting, and you have a great sense of character.

Anyways, I hope nobody took offense to that, but forget'em... Keep doin what you do, bruh.

[Mr247star]

@Devahn17 u shouldnt be a homophobe...you'll miss out on some gr8 ppl in life when u r too busy judging. Worry about urself and let live....no one on this earth is the same. We r all different and meant 2 learn 4rm each other for a reason. Dnt allow negativity 2 consume ur thoughts.

[Mr247star]

@Devahn17 u shouldn't be a homophobe...you'll miss out on some gr8 ppl in life when u r too busy judging. Worry about urself and let live....no one on this earth is the same. We r all different and meant 2 learn 4rm each other for a reason. Dnt allow negativity 2 consume ur thoughts.

[blackmonroe123]

How do you know where your switch is?

[Only1Choyce]

I really really love this. I love to hear my people being positive and motivating others. I try to live my life like that daily... Love you Xem

[1000WattSmile]

I enjoyed this. Good Job XemVanAdams @MattzOnFire

[Monty4117]

Thank you so very much for postingt this video. I have been wrestling with a very big decision can be life changing for me. Ending a relationship that was once so important. After hearing you speak, I realize that I will end it once and for all. I guess I just need to hear these words.

[justjayok]

I am quitting my job monday! LOL

[tennislover08]

stop worrying about love ans men

[artmo33]

Xem I just rewatched your video. If you read my latest message, rewatching this video has helped me realize I need to forgive them for critisizing my sister for being a lesbian, and maybe that's step one for me. I adore you, sir! That's what I WILL do ta'morra :)

[artmo33]

Xem I just rewatched your video. If you read my latest message, rewatching this video has helped me realize I need to forgive them for critisizing my sister for being a lesbian, and maybe that's step one for me. I adore you, sir!

[hecpr2001]

Your 'brother from another mother' has a thematically similar post. Love both vids.

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Don't dare stop posting vid's.

[bossforlife08]

OMG XEMMY HE IS SO FINE LOL U BETTA KEEP A LEASH ON HIM CAUSE I LOVE YA BUT...... I MIGHT HAVE TO TACKE HIM FROM YA ..LOL JUST KIDDING KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK

[toniherring]

Xem, I have to say I think this is one of your best to date. I have let "FRIENDS" go who were not good for me in my life and I have let things go that I felt were hold back with me for one reason or another. I you, with your words, bring another candle to the torch that burns in my life. I am so inspired with everything I hear from you. Keep it up, never let down. I love you my friend. I will for sure share this one on my facebook page. Love you and all you do here... Toni Herring

[klitoreece]

Another great vid man......inspirational and sincere. I can confess to turning on the light in my life. Took while for my eyes to adjust to the new lighting but i have discovered/noticed a lot in that room which i never knew was there or can be done.

Keep doing your thing man. May God continue to bless you and your inner circle....

[rath19]

I turned the lights on a while ago. I read these books by Eckhart Tolle called The Power of Now and A New Earth and it changed my perspective in life. I make it a concious effort to live in the moment, to not let anything hold me back. I want to make it to the list of legendary graphic novelists, and i only fear of being held back by some 9-5. I have one graphic novel published and I'm working on the 2nd book now, and i am determined to make it a hit in the comic and movie industry.

[YOninaBEZ]

you both are GORGEOUS!! my goooooodness

[zusman84]

Marvin looks yummy :-) but it's hard to let a grudge go when u lose trust in someone. U may forgive but could never forget.

[soymiguelalejandro23]

*I cried my eyes out* I fell hard 4 someone that did not return the affection & after all of the 'hoopla' that they initiated by saying they wanted 2B

w/ me & after we finally had sex they NEVER called me again. after that I hated & have held a grudge against him for the past 3 plus years. I never felt like that towards anyone in my whole life. It hurt so bad that I would get sick anytime I saw him anywhere. after watching this I made the decision 2release him & turn the lights on. thnx pa!

[JoLeeRey]

I know I can conquer my goals of being a photographer working out of Austin, TX. Xem, when I become more well known, I'll make sure to say that you helped me turn the light ON in my life. I love reading your blog, I love your style and your demeanor so I'll also make sure to book your for a free shoot of course :)

[slimsxyblkwoman]

Marvin is a cutie!

[kookiesncreamx]

<33

[abovethenormal]

I will turn on the lights by not being afraid to indulge in every form of art that I cherish and love. I will also continue to support individuals such as yourself that are making a positive and influential path for others to follow.

~Much Love~

[DigableDude]

I stop listening after Marvin's phine ass left the video....

Watch yo back. I want your Man! :)

[shawn27ful]

The has been deem and the lamp was in the corner unplugged, but XEM THE LIGHTS ARE ON! THANK YOU XEM for bringing the well needed attention to this subject!!

[atlpisces87]

Thank You so much Xem. I feel like you were talking directly to me with this video. I've always wanted to do voice overs but I've been constantly sweeping it under the rug and now I think I really need to start working towards it. So I'm turning the freakin Light On!!! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

[terrence748]

Xem thanks for the encouraging words dat you put thru this video keep up the good work bruh much love.

[blackmonroe123]

You are beautiful. Thank you sooooo much for sharing you gift.

I am going to apologise for treating an old boyfriend in a way that i wouldn't have now as it was horrible and only made known to myself this morning, then i'm going to text my two old best friends and tell them if i ever did anything wrong i'm sorry and i forgive them and then when i wake up i'm going to book my first singing lesson with a new teacher.

[rhj1988]

XEM MY COMMENT WAS TOO LONG, I was really having an epiphany while hearing you speak and i really want to share what happened today!!!!! For now all I will say is, at times God hands us signs. Hope to post more on facebook. Thank you

[Xone7]

love the VAN HUNT!!!

[SexyTheDyke]

DAMN YOUR BF IS FINE!

[SexyTheDyke]

love the beginning song. noahs arc forever!

why does it seem everyones getting a boo now

[selamawitee]

Marvin is FINNE... yOU HAVE REAL GOOD TASTE XEMMY ;) LOL

[GuappIncBaby]

OMG XEMMY, where did you find him he is so FINEE OMGG !! i hope you bagging it lmao <3 you.

[KESLAHBROWN219]

Short video, huh? LOL I love you and everything you do. I needed this at this point in my life. The happiness and positivity that radiates from you, saturated my soul and changed my whole day. As far as, Flipping My Switch, I will go into tomorrow with my head held high and a positive attitude. I thank you for sharing your spirit with me and everyoneelse. I absolutely love you, you are a sweetheart.

~Kez!

[Sbobz21]

Whats the songs playing at the end of the video? Beautiful.I should stop doubting and start executing.

[XemVanAdams]

@Sbobz21 SMH. You didnt watch the end credits, now did you? SMILES. His name is Jeramy Bailey. The song is called FLYING HIGH. Isue it to close each video now because the lyrics are so compelling and uplifting. I am encouraged by this young man's talent and writing skills.

[Sbobz21]

@XemVanAdams SMILES. I've never been one for adverts. Already got you here,twitter,fb,your blog etc Thanks for the Artist and song name. Now what did Beyonce say again?....Oh yeah. TURN THE LIGHTS ON! ;)

[scootsmit69]

I rwally needed to hear this today because im going thru something with my ex we have been apart for three years and he wont let go. So tomorrow ima tell him to leave mealone and we dont need to be frinds anymore! Thanks for the step to do this Xem i love the blog's and video's so much you keep us common folks going day by day. Much love friend scootsmit69

[XemVanAdams]

@scootsmit69 Much LOVE to you Scoot. Listen, you are making the BEST decision. Often times, past and present lovers have the ability to infest our lives with their needy and empty attachments. We spend so MUCH time trying to passify their existence that we take our attention away from tasks and others in our lives who are worthy of that energy. Release your ex once and for all. Once you do, the lord will create the physical distance you desire. I PROMISE.

[robertangel30]

@XemVanAdams  I object to this advice. More information is required. How dare you be an armchair psychiatrist. Shame on you Xem.

[taramic]

Thank you for the positivity, Xem VanAdams; as well as being your own individual. :) ...umm what I will do tomorrow (Thursday Sept. 30, 2010) to turn the LIGHT on in my life is allow myself to step outside my comfort/habits and get to know someone. There is someone I have met whom so far I enjoy her company and I want to get to know her more; so far we have not been in each other's own company, just the two of us. So tomorrow I will spend at least five minutes in her company. :)

[XemVanAdams]

@taramic YESS! She very well could be your angel on earth. SMILES. It's so amazing how we are often so afraid to let those in our life who the good lord has sent to strengthen our character and build our emotional layers. DO IT! Please update me on how everything turns out.

[conspiracylife13]

"kinda quick video" my ass... lmao!! I love you so much Xem!!! You look like you're having an amazing time and I'm so happy for you!! Glad you're back!!!!!! (^_^)

[Lady5Millz]

Today, I am going to continue working on my business plan and my screenplays. This video is a kick in the butt, helping me to kick that PROCRASTINATION. I wish you the best. Thanks for the vid.

[XemVanAdams]

@Lady5Millz Procrastination will KILL our ability to fulfill our dreams and to reach our destiny. DON'T allow any of it to ruin your spirit my dear. I have also fallen victim to my own means of procrastination. Then I simply listen to Christina Aguilera's LIFT ME UP, and all is well again. SMILES. Best Wishes and Many Blessings!

[Abstractionant]

I should do my homework

[wileyshow]

I really love this video the only to get that light and to keep it be around some good people that going to encourage u to keep the light burning. XemVanAdams you are so right with this video. I want to tell you that I really love your work and I see the light on you. And also I cant wait to finally see you in personal I really want to come see you speak. I am a following u on twitter @wileyshow be blessed XemVanAdams again I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH :)

[blacksglpower]

I can turn on the lights in my life by returning to my prayer life and speaking my vision into the atmosphere. I can turn on the lights in my life by not torturing myself with thoughts of women sexually and erotically that I don't want. I can turn on the lights in my life by getting the help that I need in my class that I'm having trouble with so I can come through this semester.

[XemVanAdams]

@blacksglpower AMEN AMEN AMEN! Don't force yourself to focus on turning the lights on in all areas at once, however. Focus on the most DIFFICULT first. Once that area is illuminated, you will find it easier to master the others. I am so PROUD of you! I hope you truly mean what you say.

[DTJ0906]

I wanted to say thanks for mentioning the Lauryn speech because i needed to hear both yours and her message. You have been so a enlightening figure in my life becuase you represent the type of person dream about being, somone free from a lot of the struggles that I face. I just want to say thank you for being the realist person i know and embracing everything that life has to offer.

[XemVanAdams]

@DTJ0906 I humbly bow unto you young soldia! Listen, please remember that all of what you see from me has also been a struggle. Im 30 years old now. I endured quite a bit to reach this stage, and still, there are times when I doubt and become frustrated. My life is NOT easy or 'Fabulous'. I try so HARD to remind you all of such. Dont look at me as THE example; maybe only one of. I truly LOVE you for sharing and being so open.

[Solaji2387]

I found the speech you were talking about and it was very moving as is this video. I love what you do. Keep up the level of excellency you bring. Can't wait to see what's next.

[XemVanAdams]

@Solaji2387 Wasn't that Lauryn Hill speech truly an inpiration? I still get emotional when I watch it. I thank you so MUCH for being yet another champion in my support corner. It means that I will never have to stand alone. You are everything to me.

[Vampirictattoo]

I'm so glad your back Xem, please don't stay away too long !!! xxx

[XemVanAdams]

@Vampirictattoo Don't worry my love. The NEW Xem VanAdams Project will be debuting so soon! I am so excited to challenge myself even further, as to also bring another dimension to my brand. You all make me feel like the greatest character in Disney World with all of the praise and accolades. PLEASE BE SURE to turn your light on as soon as you read this message. HUGZ.

[Vampirictattoo]

@XemVanAdams <3 I 100% believe you WILL make it to the place you want to be, you put in 100000000000000x more work than all other LGBT bloggers, it's just a matter of time !!!

[XemVanAdams]

@Vampirictattoo BIG SMILE. Thankyou for motivating me and prophecizing over my journey. I dont think that I work harder than the other LGBT bloggers. My approach and ultimate goal is just a bit different, I think. I cant wait for the day when we are all elevated to a level that reaches millions of ears and lives around the world!

[Dijon17]

thank you I came to Los Angeles to become and actor and have not been doing it. I feel like i have to loose weight first. but i am in such dark because i afraid of how i'm going to pay the bill. But no more I'm going to start my weight lost goals. and going after what i cam out here for. i can't keep asking God for help and not help myself. I going to do it. Thank you Xem. This was for me.

[Donwash20]

Thank you Xem for the encouraging words. I am in a dark place right now and I know that God will get me through. Thank you for being a positive influence in my life. I love you for it.

[blingsimm]

Have u thought of running for an office or being a counselor,like a consultant

[theloyalone100]

Is your friend a model or an actor? If not he should be..he has a great look.

[ekadeep88]

omg that was very powerful and inspiring god bless u.

[ekadeep88]

hey xem what is the music playin while he is gettin ready to go see the strippers cuz i love that composition

[DudefromMaryland]

I actually think your advice stinks... Your normally on point tho and, your friend is Fiiioone.

[taramic]

@DudefromMaryland I think your comment is limited. Explain more since you have an issue with the advice in the video.

[DudefromMaryland]

@taramic Maybe I was a bit rash with with my initial comment ... But I think the whole telling people to quit jobs and drop obligations to chase one in a million dreams is silly + I hate my dad and I haven't forgiven him for what he's done and I doubt I ever will. But I'm a happy sexy dude & hating my dad and my job all the while. I know not to expect a better job until I've finished college. I'm cynical I guess and this seems like a self-help like seminar which irritates me beyond compare.

[taramic]

@DudefromMaryland Thank you for explaining more. I do see what you are saying about the advice given in the video which is not very helpful in your situations. Over time you will learn in your own way that the things in the past are there for a reason, and will help you improve your life and future. It takes time.

[Appplecidder]

Is that cuttie pie yo boo cakes Xem lol.. Ohh yea great vid by the way... I love to see yo vids pop up in your subscription.. Thanks for sharing your thoughtful words...

[currelley20]

You are speaking the truth. Many of us go through life walking in darkness filling depressed and bitter. I know this is true from experience, I held on to grudges and its was not good for my body or spirit. I'm starting to in the light a litter bit each day and thanking God along the way. Thank You, for making this video.

[noodles286]

god i love you thank you for this vid

[Jamar84]

Ive "turned the lights on" bye singing all the time cuz i love to sing, im just nervous to do it, also the biggest element i need to turn my light on is to inform those im close to of my lifestyle.....Its such a big burden on my spirit but im determined to do it in the very near future! Wish me luck!

[XemVanAdams]

@Jamar84 I most certainly am praying for you Jamar! I PROMISE YOU that once you open up and share your sexuality with those closest to you, it seems as if NOTHING ELSE in the world matters. You will be able to share ANYTHING with ANYONE. I wish I could stand alongside you as you do it.

[Jamar84]

@XemVanAdams OMG Xemmy replied to my comment!!! *Faints* lol But thank you so much, its nice to know somebody out there has my back no matter how it goes down, Im actually VERY fortunate because i was able to share it with my mother is much more than many can say so i am SOOO thankful!! But its my dad & his family that scare me but i honestly wish u were with me Xem when i do it so i can have a place of comfort (just in case)

[Will9323]

AMEN!

[RhapsodicBlues]

Damn, seems like you made this video just in time. I've been going through a lot of darkness--unfortunately, I'm very much aware of it. Great video!

[XemVanAdams]

@RhapsodicBlues I hope you find the courage to turn the light on in your life. So MANY blessings will begin to flow in your direction. I PROMISE. Im not just saying it because it sounds good. Ive LIVED it. Im LIVING it.

[makaylis]

Amen my brother! =)

[XemVanAdams]

@makaylis ...as we all hold hands and bask in the glory of our own LIGHT. Smile~

[babiimak3r]

the song you played in the beginning reminded me of noah's arc. now i wanna watch it!! giggle:) and you and your ex look good together. but its great to see you still have a friendship with him.

[XemVanAdams]

@babiimak3r I absolutely LOVE the track. It's performed by one of my favorite male artists; VAN HUNT. Get into his music. It's such a breath of fresh air; abondoning the mundane antics of today's TOP 40.

[babiimak3r]

@XemVanAdams im definitely going to check this artist out.. im a big music fan. and im totally open to all types of music. keep up the go work mister! love your vids.

[VaunTV]

Your friend is fine.

[XemVanAdams]

@VaunTV Isn't he though. *WINKS* He drives the men in LA crazy!

[VaunTV]

@XemVanAdams I bet he does. lol. He's Uberliciously Cute. lol

[TheWayneDominic]

WOW I truly enjoyed this video....once again an inspirational vid from Xem that opens our eyes a little wider when we are beginning to become lost......#TTLO

[XemVanAdams]

@TheWayneDominic It is my belief that we all serve the purpose of enlightening and strengthening one another through our tales, trials, tribulations and triumphs. TURN YOUR LIGHT ON WAYNE!

[hip2dadip]

Pure...unadulterated....excell­ence.

[XemVanAdams]

@hip2dadip I thank you humbly my love. I hope you were able to take something away from my message.

[hip2dadip]

@XemVanAdams Your powerful and awe inspiring words always give me everything I need and so much more. This post was no exception. 

[panamanianman1]

You alaways seem to say the words my own family takes a long time to say to me and love you for that and you really have a positive roll in my life and I thank you for that

[XemVanAdams]

@panamanianman1 I truly know in my spirit that God has delivered me unto each of you. I had no idea that when I even traveled to LA that I would feel this message and be inclined to share it publicly. He knew that YOU and so many others WANTED to hear something to encourage you to TURN YOUR LIGHT ON.

[7Nubi]

Hahahahahaha... I love this video. 

[XemVanAdams]

@7Nubi SMILES! Thankyou babes. Xemmy LOVES You!

[313AKA]

Wait..... is that the ex?!?!?!

[XemVanAdams]

@313AKA YES...that is him; in the flesh. He is the man responsible for helping to shape a LOT of the advice, ideas, thoughts and opinions that I speak of & write about when discussing love, relationships, couples and sex. I thank God for the 4 years we were romantically linked, and the 5 that have framed our friendship.

[archvedek]

Xem, you are a source of positive energy my friend. I watch you and charge up all the time.  God Bless You and Steps.

[XemVanAdams]

@archvedek You warm my heart! Thankyou incredibly for saying so.

[nimayee]

How do you always know what's going on in My life!!!

[XemVanAdams]

@nimayee Often times, our journies reflect the same path traveled by those who only exist an ocean or distance away. Its amazing how God uses our lives as a testament for others.