Good Bad Days

[andreaburnett]

Please, please, please write a book with your wonderful wisdom and humor it's guaranteed to be a best seller, and will touch many lives!

[unmeasuredinstances]

Again....thank you sweetheart. I DO appreciate the comments and will try to make more vlogs at some point. promise.

[roseblossoms00]

your are such a pleasure to watch

[unmeasuredinstances]

OK, you know, I can only blush so often in one day. :">

Thank you so much for your run through all these videos.

[SomebodyIusedtoknow]

♥

[unmeasuredinstances]

I've always wanted one of your hearts :)

[maimelania]

Oh Sarah, I so love love this video! It really hits home for me looking back at the beginning of my transition. I remembered it was just like yesterday how nervous and scared I was. Yet through it all, we are people with so much courage and conviction.  And with those good bad days, when I'm down and lonely, it's when I find the courage to pick myself up. It's never been easy, but I wouldn't have it any other way... I love my life and it loves me back :)

[unmeasuredinstances]

I love your last sentence here: "It's never been easy, but I wouldn't have it any other way... I love my life and it loves me back" In the end that's all we can ask - to have no regrets, to stand tall and proud, to love with all our hearts. I am SO glad this touched you and that you took the time to comment. Hugs...

♥ Sarah

[doorcodad]

I agree completely with the comment made by 1948mmm. You have gift for telling a story. God bless.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Its true, I like telling stories, so thanks for taking the time to stop by and listen.

[1948mmm]

Your video's are such a pleasure to watch.Even when you have bad days,your sweet nature shows itself.Thanks for being the person you are and sharing that person with everyone else..

[unmeasuredinstances]

Aw Patrick, thank you!! If nothing else I have been graced with a quirky sense of humor and an undying belief in the goodness of life. These, in turn, have gotten me through some pretty dark moments, and even - yes - a sea of gay bears :)

Thanks again for your own sweetness and light....Sarah

[GLBTQcommunity]

look at 1:55! My uncle's an otter. I think that's what it's called. semi-hairy semi-fat gay. I think... i think...

[unmeasuredinstances]

I went to 1:55 but not sure what you see there?? Oh well....but I love the thought that your uncle is an otter. So many animals....Otters, bears....mmmm, maybe I'm just a fish out of water then? :)

[nicanewnew]

How did you know?!

So the thing to do when that happens is get up the next day and keep on going.

I thought that I was the only one this ever happened to.

[unmeasuredinstances]

How did I miss your comment?! I am so sorry! Yep, you get up, dust off the dirt, and try again....and again...and again....and I still have those days. But you know, as time passes they truly do become sweeter, somehow - you see how you have grown, you learn to laugh, to become a lighter spirit.

[loetje]

Dear Sarah,

I,ve just discovered your vids, and am going to watch them all, right now! I love you!

[unmeasuredinstances]

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Wow, um....that's a compliment if I ever saw one! Thank you so much!

[alice9w9]

If you had stuck around that bar long enough, Sarah, you'd have have found that most of those bears are big ol' NELLIES!

[unmeasuredinstances]

I know, it's absolutely true, they really are among the sweetest. It was mostly just a matter of really really bad timing:)

[timhavens]

Well done! Very well done! Bravo!

And I can SO related to the GOOD, BAD Days. Doesn't really even matter the circumstance behind them.

This was a GREAT story.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Tim, THANK YOU! I really appreciate it! And you are absolutely right, the circumstances don't matter. I am always hoping I can reach beyond any single, restricted audience....that these stories might have relevance for anyone. So feedback like yours means a lot to me.

[timhavens]

Reality in living is all that really matters after all. :-)

Tim

[PatPaulJ]

I love you telling this story. sorry I had to laugh about you amongst all those bears. but hey, don't cry, girl / woman. you are beautiful and adorable. some days are hard, but most days are better. there is a saying: today we stand at the abyss, tomorrow we are a step further *lol*

[unmeasuredinstances]

Pat, I'm crushed, how could you ever possibly have laughed for a moment at my sorrow, my broken heart, standing there amidst the hairy bears? Seriously.

I mean, you KNOW that's supposed to be my job.

:) love ya.

[markdodge126]

Hey there,

I just got my internet hooked back up after a month..I recently moved..anyways glad to see ur new vids Hope u have a great X-Mas much huggs

[unmeasuredinstances]

WELL, its ABOUT time!! I mean, really Mark, it was - after all - YOU who goaded me over a month ago about not making more videos, dangling an image of 'fans' out there waiting for my next release, and so pushing me even further into the depths of youtube. Sheeeez!

:)

Anyway, welcome back. Its nice to see you again.

[markdodge126]

lol thanks :)

[markdodge126]

Remember..it's me who made you a star lol

[unmeasuredinstances]

Would never forget babe...at the Oscars, I promise, you'll be at the top of the list :)

[dast56]

As a physicist attempting to comprehend your plight, it seems clear that you have suffered immensely to be accepted as a gender variant person. I have a friend who is suffereing from gender dsphoria. I suggested to him to consider psychopharmalogical means to reduce the dysphoria. I believe that modern SSRI may be effective to prevent transition desires.

[unmeasuredinstances]

FYI: I don't consider myself gender variant - simply a woman. True, transition was hard, but I am SO completely happy with my life now there is no comparison. Also, dysphoria is not controlled by SSRI. It is not a form of depression or mental illness. If they have underlying depression, of course, treating that is important. And in my case, transitioning actually allowed me to stop taking SSRI.

[dast56]

Are you aware of any medication or therapy that would enable a person who chooses NOT TO transition to prevent the hardships and family loss etc...I believe God cannot be so cruel to subject a human being to so much suffering.

[unmeasuredinstances]

A good therapist that specializes in gender issues can help your friend understand who they are, and what steps - if any - they should take to be genuine and whole. And if God is cruel, it is by making people who are prejudiced and without compassion - not in making your friend. That is the source of the suffering, not the dysphoria. To help your friend the most - love them deeply for who they are. Just that.

[foxfire148]

IMO, her stories go beyond transgender issues and illuminate the universal human struggle for acceptance that we all face from time to time.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Thanks foxfire. I do like to believe my stories go beyond trans issues, so I appreciate your saying that.

[proudprogressiveTG]

i once lived in Albany and remember the water works. But the points you make and share so well is that bad days can be put behind us. The important thing is to hold on,cry when we have to, reach out and somehow endure. Thank you for sharing your stories with us. I am happy, that you are happy today and strong enough to share. You and others make the world a better place.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Thanks! And wow, another Albany person! Totally weird.

[foxfire148]

Your dimples are just too cute. I just had to say that. :D

[unmeasuredinstances]

No complaints here :")

[terraceterra]

Thanks for sharing, It is important to remember at times that bad days are just that and they happen to us all. I felt like I was watching a movie of sorts because it seems you have a natural ability to tell personal stories. It may be also your soft sensitive and maybe even vulnerable nature that comes through as well. Anyway I am glad you got through and are here to share. :) May we all live for better days....

[unmeasuredinstances]

Amen, I can drink to that! :)

And thank you, Terrace, for the warm feedback and words. I appreciate it, and it's always nice to hear from you.

[lorianngreen]

Big hug sis thanks for sharing

So i guess the moral of the story is always

check the events page before bopping into

"The Water Works"

[unmeasuredinstances]

I know Water Works but this actually took place at the Phoenix, up further on Central Ave. Not even sure if they are still up and welcoming or not - it has been so long. At the time though it was where we all went.

But yes, definitely read fliers...and understand that floral dresses simply are not appropriate for all occasions.

[bethanyann26tg]

hi sarah

i try my up most when im out to forget what anyone must think and just try be my true self.

unfortunatly my mum i constantly concered about what others must think of me and it plays far too much on her mind.

unfortunatly today was a rare bad day for me and i got very down and upset at how my pairent percive me becoming bethany......

[bethanyann26tg]

....i guess in a different light your expeareance at the gay bar that day could be viewed as a funny one, but its the way we feel at the time that can make any day good or bad and i know what that day must have felt like.

thanks for another grate vlog sweety, your words always puts a smile on my face and today i needed just that....

hugz!

~bethany

[unmeasuredinstances]

I know sweetheart - I know how hard it can be. I make fun of those days now simply as a way, in part, to get back at them - to make them powerless over me. But you are right - at the time they can crush and be cruel. And parents can be the hardest of all. Even mine took many years, and my Mother only in the last 18 months of her life.

Bethany - you are a beautiful person. No one can take that from you - only refuse to see it. You have my love and my hugs...Sarah

[Kinga1Kosinska]

Great video Sarah!Yes theres a lot sometimes really intense and maybe weird even memories.For me a lot is from my "full time"when i felt im not passing at all and everybody around hates me but had to face the world outside.You bring hope.Yes there are a good days.You seem so satisfied with your life now.I always feel better after your videos.Thank&hugs

[unmeasuredinstances]

Kinga - you are SO welcome. If I can bring a smile and a little hope, well, then it's worth it. The world can be so cruel and full of pain, and people so hateful. I know - I have felt those stings so often myself. So now I try to use my humor to rob those days of their power - to make them small and weak and of no consequence.

Hugs to you as well.

[Paulalovesit]

Sarah, as always your words and story make my day and make me feel like I belong. Sounds like my recent trip to Amsterdam and being touched and gropped on the street. I went back to the hotel and cried.

You are such an insperation to me and a light in my life!

Hugs,

Paula

[unmeasuredinstances]

Paula, of course you belong...and I am so sorry to hear about Amsterdam. If nothing else, though, we are all survivors, we make it through those awful days, and in the end, hopefully, it is us who get to have the last laugh. Lordy knows we deserve it. Take care. Hugs.

[foxfire148]

Bless your heart! Just when you think that your day can't get any worse!LOL It sounds like you handled it with grace though. We all have bad days and wonder how life could possibly go on after a particulary difficult one. Yet it does, and we do, and we find that we are stronger for it. Thank you for the new video BTW. You make my day (and many others) brighter just hearing your voice. Have a great week!

[unmeasuredinstances]

Thank you foxfire. And I do believe, as you said, that we become the stronger for it. But at the time it is so hard to see that. That is one of the things I enjoy about getting older...mmmm....actually, come to think of it, maybe the only thing. But that's a different story :)

Have a great week as well!

[micklo1]

Gurl every once in a blue moon I would have a spell like this.. Ohhh I just want to hide under a rock and even that isn't good enough.. HE HE HE. Thanks for this wonderful piece of your exp you shared with us.. ((HUGS))

[unmeasuredinstances]

Always great to hear form you. Hopefully those 'once-in-a-blue-moon' days are at last behind us, traded in long ago for the far more manageable once-in-a-week miserable hair day.

Hugs as well.

[torontoteddy62]

Glad you turned a bad day into a good day and may say you are really very gorgeous looking girl Kiss Kiss.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Mmmm, my fiancee might be a little jealous of those kisses, but thank you. That's very sweet.

[ParisMaridian]

Your story reminds me just how dynamic and wonderful life is. There are moments of sadness, torment, laughter, and love, but no matter how extreme the gambit, we'd never experience any of these feelings if we weren't brave enough to endure them. Thanks for being one of the courageous ones Sarah.

[unmeasuredinstances]

Precisely...and not just endure them, but being brave enough to feel them in the first place and open ourselves to that degree of vulnerability. As for courageous: there is a wonderful moment in Saving Private Ryan where Tom Hanks' figure explains how, counter to general belief, you only get the courage to do something after doing it, never before. I know exactly what he means. It has felt like that.

[nofreechange]

Muah,Muah,Muah Our Beautiful Lady Of YouTube. Your stories are like hot cocoa on a chilled day.

Liam

[unmeasuredinstances]

And your comments are like flowers. Thank you so much, Liam.

[pigpen7471]

at least ur smiling now :)

G8 STORY!

[unmeasuredinstances]

Thanks.....it's true, laughter and time heals many things.

[Juststircrazy]

THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!! It's absolutely incredible!!! I love you so much! xoAudra

[unmeasuredinstances]

:") Comments don't come any sweeter than that...I think you just made my week and it hasn't even begun yet! Love you to! xoxo