We act straight becuz thats how they raise us. I think that liking girls n having a girlfrien is the gayes thing of all. People would bever know i like cock.
honestly I don't get why the hell so many gays get offended by the term "straight-acting" it just mean that a person prefer activities that straight people usually do, it has nothing to do with hate. If people stoped talking like there is only 1 kind of gay in this world, gay that don't conform to stereotype would not have to use it.
I am extremely offended by the term "straight-acting" because it implies that staight is superior to gay - period. It brings to mind the hatred people have for gay men more so than with gay women. That message says: How dare you want to act less than a man! I don't believe that I am any less of a man because I am gay. I am 47 years old and have been through A LOT of bullshit. However, we will always be viewed as "less than, " at least in my life time, but there's always hope for change.
@karmalevel I think you are missing the point. The term "straight acting" implies that gay, in and of itself, is wrong or makes one less than a man in comparison, whether masculine or not. I think the term masculine, alone, is a better term. You would not want to be debased or belittled, so it is not wise to put down those who are "flamers." All gay people, as a group, are belittled and attacked enough. We should not do it to ourselves. Flamer is always used as a derogatory description.
@karmalevel You miss my point. If one is straight acting, then that is not genuine. No gay man is "straight" and if one is "acting," then where is the honesty. My problem is only with the term. Masculine is a better alternative term. Also we should not berate each other with debasing terms, such as flamer. We get enough crap from homophobes without having to call other gay men who are not masculine names. As a gay man, you know the power of terms (words) to hurt or confuse.
I enjoyed him. Laid back and relaxed. Sounds like he'd go on and on like a pig mouthed whore about all the hot fuckin guys at work (etc). I love It. :O)
just be yourself, masculine or feminine, as long as you're happy. that's all that matters. you can call the act whatever you want, there are people who accept.
Straight acting is for closet queens who have homophobic tendencies....Tell a straight guy you are acting like him when sucking dicks and see how he REACTS!!
you say "straight acting" like it is a stereotype and you look like a campy flamer but you act condescending about flamers... but they own LOGO, the GLBT cult, politics and what society sees as gay and as a masculine fag, you better be nice to some of them because they aren't all mean...
Other than my stupid lisp(I hate it!) that i cant seem to get rid of Ive always been masculine . I tried to change that but i think its because i have a hearing problem. It makes me sound stereotypical gay and it sucks.
As far as dating is concerned. I would date masculine (I guess youd call it straight acting) guys. A bit of a flair here and there is okay with me but the eccentric flamboyant types i stay clear of.
Maybe someone can inform me how to get rid of this stupid lisp.
I would ever datea guy ACTING straight. A person is either feminime or masculine, I don't want to date a feminime man who's acting striaght, Thats ugly and i would neve want to be around someone acting ike someone theyre not to fit others prefrence
I think you should just be yourself, but I do agree with you on the media, they either portray gay men to be either steriod pumping hot guys or fashion loving sex addicted queens, for lesbians it's either the needy emotional type or the butch magnet and it pisses me off, I think that being gay doesn't mean you should change who you are as a person, I just dislike anyone in a minority who acts like a sterotype.
@devilshomie You think people should be themselves, yet you dislike anyone in a minority who acts like a stereotype....? SO you would dislike a flamboyant, "feminine" acting gay man, even though he's just being himself? Did you mean to sound hypocrite or did you phrase it wrong?
@JelloJenni I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite then oh well we all have our biases, I just don't like how the media portrays the majority of gay men and women
Sir... I am subbed to you because I like most of your videos. But ever since day one I hated hated hated your username. And this video hasn't changed my mind.It's only made it more so. Look at the top rated comments. They make outstanding points... And I personally just think it's sickening to know that you aren't the only gay person that thinks like this... It's extremely harmful to society. Homophobia wouldn't exist without sexism, and you are promoting sexism.
you my friend are the biggest Cocksucker I erve seen and yes homo you act very QUEER I can hear it in your voice you must have just finished blowing on some COCK
Got to tell you that you that I could tell you were gay the second I saw you, mainly due to your TOTALLY gay glasses -- and you DO very much act gay -- I can hear your gayness in your voice.
My suggestion for gay guys who are obssessed with being 'straight acting', is to force yourself to wear women's clothes for a month. UNLEASH the queen -- it's time you got in touch with your FEMININE side!
@karmalevel I'm not a flamer at all and I'm not a straight acting gay. I'm Hakaid just a normal person. Who happens to be sexually and emotional attracted to both men and women.
You basically want people to 'know i'm gay and accept that, but think i'm straight'.
You want to have your cum-cream-filled cake and eat it.
And you're clearly lying when espousing that people are 'surprised' to discover you're gay. Clearly a poorly executed tactic to render people skeptical of their skepticism, as in, you want people watching to feel surprised that others are purportedly 'not surprised' and be less cynical of your apparent gayness.
I'm sure you'll protest that you're not trying to 'act straight', that you 'just are', but from simply observing 10 seconds of you, anyone with a brain stem would easily conclude that you're a in fact a raging faggot, who hates himself, is repressing who he is as a defense mechanism to avoid being associated with those that are marginalized and scrutinized and perceived as diseased aliens to society, is in a deep state of denial and perpetuates heteronormative masculinity & gender norms.
I didn't realize how many masculine guys who were out there until I was older... In school, I would have loved to have a guy friend in school (with benefits ha ha) that liked what I liked. I love football, basketball, most sports. I actually like girls too. I'm bi, but I think even if I didn't I would still be masculine. I actually liked emo guys in school... before the "fags" became emo becaue the emo guys were "straight acting" for the most part. I liked those guys.
Well, you did say that you used the word for an attention grabber, so I cant really take it all that seriously. Many gay men fancy the "Straight Acting" moniker, because it makes them feel more attached to the dominate "straight" world, to which they so desperately wish they were apart of. GLBT come in all types, so the need to label oneself comes off as insecure and shamed. Im a fairly masc guy, but never call myself straight acting, as it elevates one way of living over another.
i have NEVER met a striaght acting gay guy in my life and i live in a big city and travel alot,,, the only ones i know of are ones like me who are in the closet. what it seems like to me is that gay people are striaght acting when they first come out, but over time seem to start falling into your sterio typical gay guy (excuse all my gramer and spelling) , but like i siad im in the closet so what do i know....
you wonder why gay kids are killing themselves? i don’t think it helps that these kids, already struggling with their own identities are also being put under the pressure of trying to fit themselves into these category that dictate how they can and cannot express themselves.
"effeminate" gay men are enforcing the stereotype?
you see those words you just used? "straight-acting" and "gay-acting"? we call those labels. labels that you're choosing to place on your own community. your decision to use these terms is promoting the gay community to categorize themselves into one or the other. therefore you, friend, are promoting the stereotype.
categorizing is a way to economize on information and communicate. The term "straight-acting" might promote the stereotype further, but it does so merely by communicating with people based on an already-existing stereotype. I think a better term though would be "masculine" vs "effeminate"
Their is no such thing as a straight acting guy...You can be manly but being or I mean acting straight is not real and for you to just right off the back assume that every gay guys is feminine well that makes you just as ignorant as the media on how they portray us on TV... And I don't believe in the masculine feminine thing because if people are going to act like this isn't it sort of reverting back to heterosexual :/... I believe that you are who you are and you can't label your self...
u assumed all gays r girly..imo there's no such thing as straight acting gays. i can tell if a guy is gay or not just by looking at them for a min, trust me.. feminine gays cant act straight. they cant hide it. if i were to be gay, i never acted to be straight, i am who i am, a man. and i dont wanna act like chick
hmmmm...I found good looking, masculine men attractive but i dont like feminine gays or most of the straight men, no offense. does that still make me bisexual? cuz i like girls too. maybe im straight cuz i dont talk, look, nor act gay, it's just that i appreciate how men look. idk i'm confused about my sexuality atm lol
Each gay person should determine how he/she wants to live their life Each individual knows what type of lifestyle he/she feels more confortable with. We have to respect and agree to disagree to the wishes and feelings of other's decisions.
Some choose to be "out" to everyone, others only to friends they can trust. As wrong and unfair as it is. Some employers descriminate and even terminate gay employee. Wrong, hell yes! However it is a reality we all must face. DADT repeal a start.
I agree 100%! Effeminate gays should realize that society's "stereotypical" view of a gay male unfortunatley is one who talks and shows female type characteristics. Hetros have a preconceived notion of it. People have always been suprised when they find out I'm gay. We are who we are. No one should take offense to it. If someone prefers to date masc. type guys, it's like preferring blue eyes rather that green, blondes over brunettes, etc. We don't get to choose our genetic make up. (:
@sloughery Maybe if more "manly" gay guys had the BALLS to be Out, fully and openly and visibly Out, there wouldn't be a stereotype.
That's the thing. It's not that those gender-nonconforming gay males are doing anything wrong, in fact, power to them. They are who they are in a world that discriminates against them for no intelligent reason.
There's nothing wrong with being effeminate. There's tonnes wrong with being ashamed of being gay.
@lardospanko I am a word for them....guys who don't think they are chicks. Just because you don't buy into the subculture that makes you think you can't be into sports or you have to wear make up doesn't when anything more then you like being a guy. Why would gay dudes act like women? None of us are attracted to women, but we are suppose to take on the characteristics of the sex we don't like....makes no sense.
@alicevana Nobody says gay men have to act like women. Alas, far too many gay men denigrate men who don't conform to ideas of gender-norms.
I like punk rock and opera. The Ramones and Barbra Streisand, Cyndi Lauper and Iggy Pop. I was a modern dancer and a baseball player.
Gay men who use the term "straight-acting" are cowards, and intellectually-feeble idiots. It reinforces the gender-norms and stereotypes that they themselves are scared of.
I don't try to be "straight acting" or care for makeup or whatever, and sure as hell have no desire to change my sex. I like being a boy. Honestly, I am just myself however it comes out.
That whole straight acting thing is just a bunch of shit. You are who you are. Embrace it.
Well, I've learned more about the diversities of gay men. There are no rules to being gay. Gay guys are diverse. Not all gay guys wear heels, are flambouyant(like me :o), and loves fashion. I think those who act straight are cool because there's this hint of classiness to them :)
I know. I'm a the flambouyant gay guy type and because there are soo many straight-acting gay guys here in the U.S., my gaydar cannot detect any gay guys anymore omgggggggg.
Hmm... Yeah, we're usually hard to find, since most people (straight, bi, gay... everyone) belive we're straight... Belive we're not in the media since we would be harder to put in a show... Cause a part of beeing so called "staight acting" is not taking TO MUCH about partners... Wich makes it hard to show us, cause we're not as likely to say "im gay" to everyone we meet, and they cant make it obvious then, and the character would be belived to be straight anyway.
I know what you are talking about. Just want to throw in that I do not like the term straight-acting but can not think of an other term that can be used?
@yoshidragon2 I think he has some good points. We are all part of the gay community whether we are more effeminate or masculine. I think it is important to be comfortabe with yourself. I do not think that guys who describe themselves as straight-acting are necessarily trying to hide being gay or are not proud to be gay. Certainly, a guy who describes himeself as straight-acting isn't necessarily in the closet. It's just important to be comfortable with one's self.
@StraightActingGayGuy WOW I respect your restraint in replying to MOKandRIFF. I'm about 63% gay acting, moreso than you but less than the conventional stereotype. Most people don't assume. And like you, I enjoy coming out. I think that's because I, perhaps like you, don't suffer because of my gender. Knowing this, I deal with effeminate gays very sensitively. I don't say I'm not into them. It's harder for them,and it's they who've had to fight for gay rights to survive. Thus their anger.
@MOKandRIFF you are so right....how did it become bad for a guy who is into guys, to like being a guy. You would think a gay guy would be more "manly" than a straight guy. I mean, he is into men, and he likes men. I am so tired of gays saying I hate being gay because I like sports, comics, action movies, and got a degree in mathematics instead of theater. Is shouldn't even be referred to as straight acting; it should be referred to acting like a man, and ther isn't anything wrong with it
@alicevana actually, it isn't even "acting like a man", as there are no set-in-stone ways that ALL men and ALL women act. gender norms are social constructs, and gender nonconformity should be embraced, not feared. This guy, "straight acting gay guy" is part of the Homophobic problem in the world, NOT the solution.
He's a cowardly gay apologist. He "explains" himself in this video, and simply proves to everyone that he's a complete fucking idiot. And a wimp with no balls. Yay.
this guy, "StraightActingGayGuy" deserves to have his ass kicked.
People like him are part of the problem, not the solution. And yes, he is dull and ugly. That's why people don't think he's gay. The idea is not that gay men are 'effeminate', but interesting and vivacious.
I've been str8 Acting for 16 years intill i slip it out that I am Gay .. but now most Gay Guy rather str8 acting guys i dont know why tho lol.. ps im 18yo now
The problem might be the term "gay". It doesn't really impart much info. Most guys who are into guys, are into what MAKES a guy a GUY. (Masculinity) If I was into guys who act girly, I might as well just date a girl.
no offense, but most of the guys i've encountered who call themselves "straight acting" and think they could "pass" as straight are still pretty obviously gay to me. and many of them are offended when i say so. sorry! it's hilarious that people substitute "masculine" with this meaningless term -- i wasn't aware that all straight people act the same! -- simply because they for some misguided reason believe that being yourself is ok as long as you're acting like "the straights."
Straight-acting term is BS. Simple as that. The gay men who describe themselves as this are essentially saying they could pretend to be straight when it counts.
i have a flamboyant guy friend that claims he is straight. He had about 5 girlfriends in the past and his last one was when he was 15...it lasted a 1.5 years. Now his career is not letting him have a normal life.So he doesnt have time to find a girl. (he also has trust issues) he's not into sex as much. he believes in true love. and is having trouble finding that perfect girl. His "gay acting" is making me double think his sexuality. So does acting and appearance affect a person sexuality?
The problem i have with the term "straight acting" is the same as civil union when you know it's marriage. Acting, putting on a production or display to entertain, this acting part is my problem. This crap i see all the time, the common stereotype like jack mcfarland of will and grace or the white man who loves to portray a confident to the point black woman "you go girl". This is the act!
Effeminacy of males is the only thing i see that is truly a chosen lifestyle!
I'm rather intellectual and androgynous, but obviously masculine. The *majority* of gay & bi guys R more-or-less naturally quite masculine & virile. Many if not most bi & gay guys like & prefer similar masculine types (though, having said that, many gay & bi guys can also, at least occasionally, find less masculine types attractive as well...). We're here, we're queer: Get over it! Wake-up & smell the coffee!
I personally really dislike the term 'Straight Acting' because in the gay community we've come to believe it is better to be straight acting key term here is ACTING it's an ACT! There are many straight men who have interests in 'gay' things, so to say that someone is gay or straight by their behavior is stupid. Lastly a note for the guy in the video. No offense but I don't think people see you as straight acting, people see you as kinda dorky which makes you Asexual in their eyes. Not the same.
Sorry to tell ya but as "straight acting" you think you sound... or look... It wouldn't fool me... you still look and sound gayer than a box of birds... No offense intended!
Hey! I really enjoy your videos because I can identify with a lot of what you're saying. I watched your coming out story too, and I was glad to learn that there are also other people who had "crushes" on girls when they were in elementary school like me. It was also for me, around seventh grade that I starting looking at guys, but like you I didn't make the connection with that meaning that I was gay.
The concept of Straight acting is the most juvenile trite I've ever heard. A legion of gay men insecure of their orientation therefore they feel that they have to adopt the characteristics of misogyny to distance themselves from the "Faggy" and "Flaming" Queer-eye stereotype.
Is it that hard to accept yourself and not adapt to pathetic stereotypes and counter-types?
For a bisexual male, I am pretty girly. Not too flamboyant, but it's noticeable. Everyone's different, I believe everyone has the right to be. I'm tired of being called gay just for how I act. Or straight for that matter.
"Straight Acting" is very relative depending on who you talk to. You may not be as "Straight Acting" as you think. Masculinity comes in many shades of gray. It seems like we humans are always trying to find ways to divide ourselves from one another to feel validated. BUT, I do get that you are attracted to who you are attracted to and that is fine; nonetheless, be careful about passing judgment on others you deem not "Straight Acting" enough. End of day, we're all in this hell hole together.
I'm gay but I don't "act" straight, I am who I am. I play sports, I play COD. I talk shit on xbox live. I don't fit any stereotypes. But its not me "acting" straight. It's just who I am.
I tired of people putting me and others down because we don't act gay! Me being gay, has no bearing on how I talk or the things I do! And it shouldn't for anyone else either!
The "lifestyle" is irritating to me because I believe it's an act. It's hard for everyday joes like myself to be out because we don't want to be perceived as something we're not. I'm about as straight as they come, other than not being attracted to the opposite sex. I agree, young gay men seem to believe that you have to be as gay as possible. Of course there are plenty of much older men who do too. But I am comfortable with who I am and old enough to not have to prove anything to anyone.
I love gay guys who think they aren't lit up and flashing. Usually you can only spot them from blocks away instead of miles.
Here's a clue young man: If people aren't figuring out that you are gay, it's because they aren't interested. I know, because I am not the butchest guy on the planet but because I am now older and chubby, people don't think of me sexually. When they don't think of you sexually, they don't think about sexual orientation. I know, that's stinging a bit.
I think alot of flamboyant gays in their youths do it because they feel they have to fit the stereotype, I knew a guy once who when he came out went into makeup, fashion ect as he got older he realised that wasnt who he really was. Just my thoughts.
Someone once said, "Camp is nostalgia laced with contempt." But it's also habit forming, because it can be fun and hilarious and who doesn't like to laugh?
Flaming, or "trashing" as it was once known, is the gay way of "niggering up", which isn't all that surprising when you consider how much of the affect comes from black drag queens.
@ExpressionOfMe I think that is part of it, but I also think that they feel that showing any sign of femininity will out them on the spot. So they usually end up overcompensating when they only real way to be happy is to be yourself and own it.
first of all im on my friends account so when sending this message say my name teddy when u say it haha. how do ut ell if sum1 is a straight acting gay guy let alone jsut a gay guy cuz alot of ppl act gay nowadays. i know sum guy told me to suck a rock hard throbbing sweaty dick one time and i thought that for sum1 to say sumthing like that they would have to be curious themselves.. just saying and thnx for the help if sum1 does help me out here.
haha, tht happens to me all the time, and they say ur 2 ghetto to be gay, im like im not ghetto cuz im black like they never heard of a gay black guy, let alone a gay straight acting black guy lol
why do yall call it acting i thought you all where just living....your masculine, if you were acting straight you'd be in the closet still pretending to like only females ....well thats my understanding of it all.
This video made me feel a little sad. It made me feel as though being an effeminate gay person is less admirable than being a 'straight-acting' gay person. I agree it's great that gay people are no longer being represented as a stereotype, but I identify with all members of the gay community and respect their diversity, from drag queens to bears to the boy next door to anyone. We are still subject to the same discrimination and prejudice. Being 'straight-acting' doesn't change this.
@blagorjam Ok. Perhaps what I should have said is it's great that not all gay people are being represented as a stereotype. It's not always easy to be who we really are, but it is important to try to accept people - fem, butch, 'regular' these are terms that we will probably never get away from. People are people. Many gay scenes/cliques should practice what they preach with regards to equality.
I am a gay guy in college. I don't flaunt it by any means, and you'll only find out if you ask me straight up if I am gay. The friends I've made here at college have known from the beginning I was gay. Now, about half of them question weather I am gay or not. It's the girls, no less. haha
Okay. I saw the article on you one Queerty so I figured I'd send some encouragement. You're cute. I don't call it "straight acting" I call it "non-stereotypically effeminate gay" but yes it basically does mean straight-acting. At any rate, I am not "stereotypically effeminate" but I am gay, and keep your head up, you'll find a guy. Honestly, just be open minded and be yourself.
Dude imagine for a second you're African American and some other black dude calls himself white acting... can you see? Dude be careful - your only alienating yourself and asking for criticism. There is NOTHING wrong with how ANYONE expresses him or herself....the more you embrace the more embraced you will be. A lot of "sissies" might call you a coward for not being more obvious...but they wouldn't know why you are how you are anymore than you should "qualify" what you see others do.
hi there im new to your channel i just want to say that if certain people bash you it just means that they do not deserve your attention. you are perfect just the way you are dear and its not wrong to try and find real love. i hope we can be friends.
i am attracted to the hinge in your mouth. it needs a gate fixing for best cosmetic equil-e-brum-r. i have a rivetting set for you to practice on.
alternatively, you can earn 500Ds by acting like a total fag, getting a rockerstiffy on and stuffing it in VFX's general direction on nudestage. no disguise for you tho pretty fairy insect glitter balls.
I am Straight Acting, and Gay so.... The stereo type is offensive to me. As the media in many cases uses this stereotype of lisping, dressing, slutting etc... anyhow that's my peice.
They are forcing gays to differentiate in amongst themselves. Divide and conquer. To say straight-acting means that you are pretending to be straight. You should be whoever you are and not give a damn what others say. Girly gay men would be girly straight men...people are just people.
@leigh2490 I thought I was the only one! feminine gay guys frustrate me and its such a turn off to me. I just cant associate myself with them. Most guys Ive crushed on were straight unfortunately.
@leigh2490 I think a better way of putting it is that you act like your self (a guy=masculine) and as you're into guys, you're attracted to guys (=masculinity). I think the terms cause a lot of confusion. But guys who like guys are into masculinity (or should be) if I were to like "Girly guys" I might as well date a girl. Best wishes!
@leigh2490 that's not homophobic....you are a man into men....you're the definition of what a gay guy should be. The homophobic ones are the ones who think they are women....essentially, they want to be straight chicks, and if thats not running away from being gay, I don't know what is.
@alicevana uh, no. the homophobic ones are indeed guys like the one who made this video: the gay men who are so insecure about being gay that they need to mention how "straight" they are, and by straight they mean "Normal"
it's the epitome of cowardice. We need to embrace not only LGBT people, but gender-nonconformity. Not all men and women, gay or straight, are the same.
Masculinity and Femininity comes with societal expectations. SMASH them.
@MOKandRIFF liking the gender roles of a guy isn't homophobic....it's just liking being a guy. I like being a guy, and believe me, I am the farthest from homophobic there is. If you want to be a woman, or take on all the charactisics of a woman, and you like men, then you don't like being gay, you actually want to be a straight woman. I am all for people being who they are, but because I don't buy into the subculture doesn't mean I hate being gay or am homophobic
@alicevana Wrong. You're saying "taking on the characteristics of a woman", but even THAT is a purely societal concept. Not all women are the same. Not all men are the same. I could very well say that you sucking a cock makes you "a woman", as most WOMEN do that, not men. See what I mean?
That you said "i don't buy into the subculture" in fact proves that you're not comfortable being gay, yet. You still think gay and straight cultures are different. you couldn't be more wrong.
@MOKandRIFF Yea, it's social, meaning it is social for gays too, and if you don't buy into it, it does not mean you don't like being gay. And just because a lot of gays buy into the subculture, it does not mean that they are some final say for me personally. I don't buy into drag shows, but I think gays are superior in general. And even if I suck dick, that does not mean I want to be a woman....it means I am a guy who likes guys. I am very comfortable being gay, just not wearing makeup
@alicevana Wrong. It's not about "Buying into the subculture" it's about not buying into the LARGER culture. You think you're a unique rebel by emulating stereotypical straight things? That's YOU buying into THAT culture.
You don't buy into drag shows? what the fuck does that even mean? are you from a small town with only one gay bar?
In society, more women suck dick than men, therefore you liking to suck dick means you're more of a woman than a man.
@MOKandRIFF No, it's about being who you are....I like being a guy, that does not make me homophobic...I am out and proud...I sure the fuck don't have to comform to anything except what I feel comfortable with, even if gay culture tries to tell me I need to act a certain way. What I am comfortable with is being a guy....that's nothing to be ashamed of, even if you think it is.
Drag shows are somehow a big part of the subculture. Sucking dick just means I am gay...it means I like dudes.
@alicevana Wrong. "Gay Culture" isnt' telling you to be a certain way, "MAN CULTURE" is.
You think you're not "conforming to gay culture", when in reality you're conforming to what straight culture at large deems "men" and "women" to be. It's incredibly unenlightened.
If you were comfortable with being a gay man, you wouldn't be distancing yourself from "gay culture" the way you are now. You're proving me right.
@MOKandRIFF if you are drawn to a culture that makes masculinity seem like a bad thing, then you don't want to be a man. If you are comfortable being femininine, be it, but don't tell me I have to or I don't like being gay...who are you to tell me. I love being gay, but gays can man up some. Gay culture doesn't define all gays, and if you don't buy into the culture, doesn't mean you don't like being gay, it means you don't relate to the culture...I am very comfortable being gay retard.
@alicevana you don't get it. "what a man is" and "what a woman is" are societal constructs.
You have completely bought into "man culture" as a fear of being associated with "gay culture" - it's frankly pathetic.
You're not comfortable being gay, at all, because you're still afraid of emasculation issues. You're scared of being emasculated, and that's why you distance yourself from perceived "gay culture".
You're still a little boy. But prove me wrong. post a vid :-)
We act straight becuz thats how they raise us. I think that liking girls n having a girlfrien is the gayes thing of all. People would bever know i like cock.
Spoon2329 1 month ago
look who juz came out his closet
samsox2121 1 month ago
well your sunglasses do not look cool in the least
screwthis900 1 month ago
honestly I don't get why the hell so many gays get offended by the term "straight-acting" it just mean that a person prefer activities that straight people usually do, it has nothing to do with hate. If people stoped talking like there is only 1 kind of gay in this world, gay that don't conform to stereotype would not have to use it.
Darkstorma1 2 months ago
you rock!!!!
karmalevel 2 months ago
You are not alone. most gays are not the stereotype!!!
karmalevel 2 months ago
I am extremely offended by the term "straight-acting" because it implies that staight is superior to gay - period. It brings to mind the hatred people have for gay men more so than with gay women. That message says: How dare you want to act less than a man! I don't believe that I am any less of a man because I am gay. I am 47 years old and have been through A LOT of bullshit. However, we will always be viewed as "less than, " at least in my life time, but there's always hope for change.
loudenblogger 3 months ago
@loudenblogger straight acting and masculine is what gay men are attracted to, not some flamer
karmalevel 2 months ago
@karmalevel I think you are missing the point. The term "straight acting" implies that gay, in and of itself, is wrong or makes one less than a man in comparison, whether masculine or not. I think the term masculine, alone, is a better term. You would not want to be debased or belittled, so it is not wise to put down those who are "flamers." All gay people, as a group, are belittled and attacked enough. We should not do it to ourselves. Flamer is always used as a derogatory description.
loudenblogger 2 months ago
@karmalevel You miss my point. If one is straight acting, then that is not genuine. No gay man is "straight" and if one is "acting," then where is the honesty. My problem is only with the term. Masculine is a better alternative term. Also we should not berate each other with debasing terms, such as flamer. We get enough crap from homophobes without having to call other gay men who are not masculine names. As a gay man, you know the power of terms (words) to hurt or confuse.
loudenblogger 2 months ago
I enjoyed him. Laid back and relaxed. Sounds like he'd go on and on like a pig mouthed whore about all the hot fuckin guys at work (etc). I love It. :O)
brama1969 3 months ago
When I Hear Straight Acting Gay Guy , I think of A Gay Man Acting Like They like woman.
isaiahking95 5 months ago
just be yourself, masculine or feminine, as long as you're happy. that's all that matters. you can call the act whatever you want, there are people who accept.
jsiszero 5 months ago
you look gay to me.
nimchimpskii 6 months ago
The opposite of efeminate is MASCULINE..
Straight acting is for closet queens who have homophobic tendencies....Tell a straight guy you are acting like him when sucking dicks and see how he REACTS!!
hawcubites 6 months ago
you say "straight acting" like it is a stereotype and you look like a campy flamer but you act condescending about flamers... but they own LOGO, the GLBT cult, politics and what society sees as gay and as a masculine fag, you better be nice to some of them because they aren't all mean...
MrSpemat 7 months ago
the more appropriate tertm is masculine gay man or feminine gay man
fall4fellatio 7 months ago
i prefer homosexual and heterosexual which is more accurate, gay and straight implies things which are not true
BananaSandwich1 7 months ago
Other than my stupid lisp(I hate it!) that i cant seem to get rid of Ive always been masculine . I tried to change that but i think its because i have a hearing problem. It makes me sound stereotypical gay and it sucks.
As far as dating is concerned. I would date masculine (I guess youd call it straight acting) guys. A bit of a flair here and there is okay with me but the eccentric flamboyant types i stay clear of.
Maybe someone can inform me how to get rid of this stupid lisp.
samhainaz 7 months ago
I would ever datea guy ACTING straight. A person is either feminime or masculine, I don't want to date a feminime man who's acting striaght, Thats ugly and i would neve want to be around someone acting ike someone theyre not to fit others prefrence
ukpkmkk 7 months ago
I would date any guy doesnt matter if theyre girly or manish.
FalseProphet501 8 months ago
I think you should just be yourself, but I do agree with you on the media, they either portray gay men to be either steriod pumping hot guys or fashion loving sex addicted queens, for lesbians it's either the needy emotional type or the butch magnet and it pisses me off, I think that being gay doesn't mean you should change who you are as a person, I just dislike anyone in a minority who acts like a sterotype.
devilshomie 8 months ago
@devilshomie You think people should be themselves, yet you dislike anyone in a minority who acts like a stereotype....? SO you would dislike a flamboyant, "feminine" acting gay man, even though he's just being himself? Did you mean to sound hypocrite or did you phrase it wrong?
JelloJenni 8 months ago
@JelloJenni I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite then oh well we all have our biases, I just don't like how the media portrays the majority of gay men and women
devilshomie 8 months ago
Sir... I am subbed to you because I like most of your videos. But ever since day one I hated hated hated your username. And this video hasn't changed my mind.It's only made it more so. Look at the top rated comments. They make outstanding points... And I personally just think it's sickening to know that you aren't the only gay person that thinks like this... It's extremely harmful to society. Homophobia wouldn't exist without sexism, and you are promoting sexism.
PurpleKillJoy 8 months ago
in my experience, flamers are some of the meanest, natiest assholes in the world. I am a girl, and I know many masculine gay men
karmalevel 8 months ago
Im just like u lol I think ur little cute
tennisgreen 8 months ago
I am just how u put it in this and I think ur a little cut
tennisgreen 8 months ago
I didn't know you can 'act' gay, straight, black, white, etc.
I think it's more like 'masculine' versus 'feminine'.
Garee1980 9 months ago
@Garee1980 well said. i think the same. besides i am gay why would i need to act it?
alexandraleckie 8 months ago
faggot!
ivstunts 10 months ago
you my friend are the biggest Cocksucker I erve seen and yes homo you act very QUEER I can hear it in your voice you must have just finished blowing on some COCK
ozruleslebuzz 10 months ago
Got to tell you that you that I could tell you were gay the second I saw you, mainly due to your TOTALLY gay glasses -- and you DO very much act gay -- I can hear your gayness in your voice.
My suggestion for gay guys who are obssessed with being 'straight acting', is to force yourself to wear women's clothes for a month. UNLEASH the queen -- it's time you got in touch with your FEMININE side!
ColonPal 10 months ago
why do you need to put a lable on yourself. Your no more of a man then any other gay guy.
Hakaid 10 months ago
@Hakaid uh flamer, you are the reason why straights hate us
karmalevel 8 months ago
@karmalevel I'm not a flamer at all and I'm not a straight acting gay. I'm Hakaid just a normal person. Who happens to be sexually and emotional attracted to both men and women.
Hakaid 2 months ago
I'm forced to be straight acting cuz I am still in the closet at 31 yrs. old!! sucks!
Chazzimmer 11 months ago
@Chazzimmer dude i could be your coming out buddy! im 16 and i say lets tell the world !!! :D
slanderskikio 10 months ago
fuck you guys... im straight acting. and gay.
and it is hard
Bignadz55 11 months ago
fuck you guys... im straight acting. and gay.
Bignadz55 11 months ago
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It's eminent to the point that you're in an unrealistic cognitive of delusional, wishful thinking.
Also, your nose looks like big fucking ben (pun intended, have fun masturbating to it, faggot).
Futuristic07 11 months ago
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Futuristic07 11 months ago
You basically want people to 'know i'm gay and accept that, but think i'm straight'.
You want to have your cum-cream-filled cake and eat it.
And you're clearly lying when espousing that people are 'surprised' to discover you're gay. Clearly a poorly executed tactic to render people skeptical of their skepticism, as in, you want people watching to feel surprised that others are purportedly 'not surprised' and be less cynical of your apparent gayness.
Futuristic07 11 months ago
@Futuristic07 amen
MOKandRIFF 11 months ago
I'm sure you'll protest that you're not trying to 'act straight', that you 'just are', but from simply observing 10 seconds of you, anyone with a brain stem would easily conclude that you're a in fact a raging faggot, who hates himself, is repressing who he is as a defense mechanism to avoid being associated with those that are marginalized and scrutinized and perceived as diseased aliens to society, is in a deep state of denial and perpetuates heteronormative masculinity & gender norms.
Futuristic07 11 months ago
@Futuristic07 EXACTLY
MOKandRIFF 11 months ago
What a complete faggot.
You have a stereotypical lispy, nasally, camp, gay voice.
You have quirky, effeminate, flamboyant, girly mannerisms and characteristics.
It's clear that you're simply emphasizing your 'deep voice' to sound more masculine.
Futuristic07 11 months ago
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@Futuristic07 :D
MOKandRIFF 11 months ago
I didn't realize how many masculine guys who were out there until I was older... In school, I would have loved to have a guy friend in school (with benefits ha ha) that liked what I liked. I love football, basketball, most sports. I actually like girls too. I'm bi, but I think even if I didn't I would still be masculine. I actually liked emo guys in school... before the "fags" became emo becaue the emo guys were "straight acting" for the most part. I liked those guys.
GayStraightOrTaken 1 year ago
kinda pathetic..
omeror2 1 year ago
Well, you did say that you used the word for an attention grabber, so I cant really take it all that seriously. Many gay men fancy the "Straight Acting" moniker, because it makes them feel more attached to the dominate "straight" world, to which they so desperately wish they were apart of. GLBT come in all types, so the need to label oneself comes off as insecure and shamed. Im a fairly masc guy, but never call myself straight acting, as it elevates one way of living over another.
BrandisLee 1 year ago
i have NEVER met a striaght acting gay guy in my life and i live in a big city and travel alot,,, the only ones i know of are ones like me who are in the closet. what it seems like to me is that gay people are striaght acting when they first come out, but over time seem to start falling into your sterio typical gay guy (excuse all my gramer and spelling) , but like i siad im in the closet so what do i know....
tubefube 1 year ago
When you say "straight acting", you are implying that all other gay men conform to the stereotype. Thanks a lot, asshole.
Daxt0r 1 year ago 8
@Daxt0r AMEN!
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@Daxt0r As I always say: how straight acting can you be with a dick in your mouth/ass?
loudenblogger 3 months ago
@Daxt0r
I hope your joking Dax.
if not.. lol get over yourself ;-)
jitterg 2 months ago
you wonder why gay kids are killing themselves? i don’t think it helps that these kids, already struggling with their own identities are also being put under the pressure of trying to fit themselves into these category that dictate how they can and cannot express themselves.
you're no better than the homophobes.
b28e 1 year ago
"effeminate" gay men are enforcing the stereotype?
you see those words you just used? "straight-acting" and "gay-acting"? we call those labels. labels that you're choosing to place on your own community. your decision to use these terms is promoting the gay community to categorize themselves into one or the other. therefore you, friend, are promoting the stereotype.
b28e 1 year ago 7
@b28e
categorizing is a way to economize on information and communicate. The term "straight-acting" might promote the stereotype further, but it does so merely by communicating with people based on an already-existing stereotype. I think a better term though would be "masculine" vs "effeminate"
stealthswimmer 2 months ago
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b28e 1 year ago
I think a little interest in fashion or skincare would so not hurt you.
TheDistrictSleeps 1 year ago
Their is no such thing as a straight acting guy...You can be manly but being or I mean acting straight is not real and for you to just right off the back assume that every gay guys is feminine well that makes you just as ignorant as the media on how they portray us on TV... And I don't believe in the masculine feminine thing because if people are going to act like this isn't it sort of reverting back to heterosexual :/... I believe that you are who you are and you can't label your self...
ToxicXRaver 1 year ago 2
u assumed all gays r girly..imo there's no such thing as straight acting gays. i can tell if a guy is gay or not just by looking at them for a min, trust me.. feminine gays cant act straight. they cant hide it. if i were to be gay, i never acted to be straight, i am who i am, a man. and i dont wanna act like chick
Alxphat 1 year ago
hmmmm...I found good looking, masculine men attractive but i dont like feminine gays or most of the straight men, no offense. does that still make me bisexual? cuz i like girls too. maybe im straight cuz i dont talk, look, nor act gay, it's just that i appreciate how men look. idk i'm confused about my sexuality atm lol
Alxphat 1 year ago
Each gay person should determine how he/she wants to live their life Each individual knows what type of lifestyle he/she feels more confortable with. We have to respect and agree to disagree to the wishes and feelings of other's decisions.
Some choose to be "out" to everyone, others only to friends they can trust. As wrong and unfair as it is. Some employers descriminate and even terminate gay employee. Wrong, hell yes! However it is a reality we all must face. DADT repeal a start.
sloughery 1 year ago
straight acting gay person ? wtf dose tha mean ? so you think all homosexuals should act like flaming fags and act all homocentric ?
housetaboo 1 year ago
I agree 100%! Effeminate gays should realize that society's "stereotypical" view of a gay male unfortunatley is one who talks and shows female type characteristics. Hetros have a preconceived notion of it. People have always been suprised when they find out I'm gay. We are who we are. No one should take offense to it. If someone prefers to date masc. type guys, it's like preferring blue eyes rather that green, blondes over brunettes, etc. We don't get to choose our genetic make up. (:
sloughery 1 year ago
@sloughery Maybe if more "manly" gay guys had the BALLS to be Out, fully and openly and visibly Out, there wouldn't be a stereotype.
That's the thing. It's not that those gender-nonconforming gay males are doing anything wrong, in fact, power to them. They are who they are in a world that discriminates against them for no intelligent reason.
There's nothing wrong with being effeminate. There's tonnes wrong with being ashamed of being gay.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
dude. You talk like a gay guy. Straight acting guys don't lisp.
Udj808 1 year ago
@Udj808 Not always true. I know actual straight guys with lisps. It's called a natural speed impairment.
Garee1980 9 months ago
Straight acting gay guy? um we have a word for those. "Closet Queers"
lardospanko 1 year ago
@lardospanko I am a word for them....guys who don't think they are chicks. Just because you don't buy into the subculture that makes you think you can't be into sports or you have to wear make up doesn't when anything more then you like being a guy. Why would gay dudes act like women? None of us are attracted to women, but we are suppose to take on the characteristics of the sex we don't like....makes no sense.
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana Nobody says gay men have to act like women. Alas, far too many gay men denigrate men who don't conform to ideas of gender-norms.
I like punk rock and opera. The Ramones and Barbra Streisand, Cyndi Lauper and Iggy Pop. I was a modern dancer and a baseball player.
Gay men who use the term "straight-acting" are cowards, and intellectually-feeble idiots. It reinforces the gender-norms and stereotypes that they themselves are scared of.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
Stop talking please
cartaman 1 year ago
I'm a gay fashion major who is also a hardcore gamer, now thats hard to find
fortysmthg 1 year ago
I don't try to be "straight acting" or care for makeup or whatever, and sure as hell have no desire to change my sex. I like being a boy. Honestly, I am just myself however it comes out.
That whole straight acting thing is just a bunch of shit. You are who you are. Embrace it.
inturn23 1 year ago
props dude
buschbeer100 1 year ago
Well, I've learned more about the diversities of gay men. There are no rules to being gay. Gay guys are diverse. Not all gay guys wear heels, are flambouyant(like me :o), and loves fashion. I think those who act straight are cool because there's this hint of classiness to them :)
bvlgary09 1 year ago
@bvlgary09 Amen
inturn23 1 year ago
I know. I'm a the flambouyant gay guy type and because there are soo many straight-acting gay guys here in the U.S., my gaydar cannot detect any gay guys anymore omgggggggg.
bvlgary09 1 year ago
Hmm... Yeah, we're usually hard to find, since most people (straight, bi, gay... everyone) belive we're straight... Belive we're not in the media since we would be harder to put in a show... Cause a part of beeing so called "staight acting" is not taking TO MUCH about partners... Wich makes it hard to show us, cause we're not as likely to say "im gay" to everyone we meet, and they cant make it obvious then, and the character would be belived to be straight anyway.
MrRikard1990 1 year ago
I know what you are talking about. Just want to throw in that I do not like the term straight-acting but can not think of an other term that can be used?
LeaVeliz 1 year ago
@LeaVeliz
What about Masculine?
Cause the diffrence aint straight/gay-acting
Its masculine/feminim.
And most people do see what i mean when i use that,
So hope it helps u to :D
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yoshidragon2 1 year ago
@yoshidragon2 I think he has some good points. We are all part of the gay community whether we are more effeminate or masculine. I think it is important to be comfortabe with yourself. I do not think that guys who describe themselves as straight-acting are necessarily trying to hide being gay or are not proud to be gay. Certainly, a guy who describes himeself as straight-acting isn't necessarily in the closet. It's just important to be comfortable with one's self.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
you are a complete fucking moron. you think it's hard to be a "straight-acting" gay man? fuck off, wimp.
congratulations on perpetuating heteronormative bullshit gender norms.
do you know why nobody thinks you're gay? because people think that gay men are vivacious and attractive, and you're dull and ugly.
and a conformist coward.
you, sir, fucking suck. grow some balls and grow a brain, you wuss.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF Thank you for your input.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
@StraightActingGayGuy you're welcome. let us all know when your balls finally drop.
you are, essentially, "passing for white". and if you dont' know what that historic term means, you can look it up.
you're perpetuating a very prejudiced and inaccurate stance. frankly, you should be ashamed of yourself.
you deserve to get your ass kicked.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@StraightActingGayGuy WOW I respect your restraint in replying to MOKandRIFF. I'm about 63% gay acting, moreso than you but less than the conventional stereotype. Most people don't assume. And like you, I enjoy coming out. I think that's because I, perhaps like you, don't suffer because of my gender. Knowing this, I deal with effeminate gays very sensitively. I don't say I'm not into them. It's harder for them,and it's they who've had to fight for gay rights to survive. Thus their anger.
gabsylv 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF you are so right....how did it become bad for a guy who is into guys, to like being a guy. You would think a gay guy would be more "manly" than a straight guy. I mean, he is into men, and he likes men. I am so tired of gays saying I hate being gay because I like sports, comics, action movies, and got a degree in mathematics instead of theater. Is shouldn't even be referred to as straight acting; it should be referred to acting like a man, and ther isn't anything wrong with it
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana actually, it isn't even "acting like a man", as there are no set-in-stone ways that ALL men and ALL women act. gender norms are social constructs, and gender nonconformity should be embraced, not feared. This guy, "straight acting gay guy" is part of the Homophobic problem in the world, NOT the solution.
He's a cowardly gay apologist. He "explains" himself in this video, and simply proves to everyone that he's a complete fucking idiot. And a wimp with no balls. Yay.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF Well there you go "you're dull and ugly". Talking about whose the moron! That's the typical gay response.
cyprixx 1 year ago
@cyprixx who's, not whose.
this guy, "StraightActingGayGuy" deserves to have his ass kicked.
People like him are part of the problem, not the solution. And yes, he is dull and ugly. That's why people don't think he's gay. The idea is not that gay men are 'effeminate', but interesting and vivacious.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
I've been str8 Acting for 16 years intill i slip it out that I am Gay .. but now most Gay Guy rather str8 acting guys i dont know why tho lol.. ps im 18yo now
GayBoyRunning 1 year ago
The problem might be the term "gay". It doesn't really impart much info. Most guys who are into guys, are into what MAKES a guy a GUY. (Masculinity) If I was into guys who act girly, I might as well just date a girl.
gustjorodedheo 1 year ago
I think girly guys are more attractive. I can relate to them better and they make me happy and excited in both ways.
MyNameNoLongerExists 1 year ago
How did your glasses break? I think they make you look cool and hotter. I don't know why other people don't like them.
MyNameNoLongerExists 1 year ago
god you have the deepest voice of any white gay man ive ever heard.
WhoaKaela 1 year ago
@WhoaKaela trust me, if you think he has a deep voice, you'll be amazed by mine
the1djhotwheels 1 year ago
I truly admire your courage,most people can't do that!
PLANETIMAGE1 1 year ago
I didn't like the term straightacting until I found out you use it in your username.. You can do whatever you want to sexy
starasstarel 1 year ago
no offense, but most of the guys i've encountered who call themselves "straight acting" and think they could "pass" as straight are still pretty obviously gay to me. and many of them are offended when i say so. sorry! it's hilarious that people substitute "masculine" with this meaningless term -- i wasn't aware that all straight people act the same! -- simply because they for some misguided reason believe that being yourself is ok as long as you're acting like "the straights."
dylz 1 year ago 5
@dylz amen
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@dylz perfectly stated!
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
ok:)
Flywave77 1 year ago
nerd
ImGuruS 1 year ago
The guy I have a crush on, looks and sounds straight.
spartacandream 1 year ago
hahahaha nice glasses gaywad
ratladehh 1 year ago
Your hands are so hot.
PhuckerPhacePhuck 1 year ago
Straight-acting term is BS. Simple as that. The gay men who describe themselves as this are essentially saying they could pretend to be straight when it counts.
humps678 1 year ago
It's called being Masculine not acting straight, and I thought you were smart.
4EverABeyFan 1 year ago
i have a flamboyant guy friend that claims he is straight. He had about 5 girlfriends in the past and his last one was when he was 15...it lasted a 1.5 years. Now his career is not letting him have a normal life.So he doesnt have time to find a girl. (he also has trust issues) he's not into sex as much. he believes in true love. and is having trouble finding that perfect girl. His "gay acting" is making me double think his sexuality. So does acting and appearance affect a person sexuality?
hollisterbabii28 1 year ago
I suppose I would fit "straight acting" but I don't call it acting, I call it being myself.
DerekOfficial 1 year ago
The problem i have with the term "straight acting" is the same as civil union when you know it's marriage. Acting, putting on a production or display to entertain, this acting part is my problem. This crap i see all the time, the common stereotype like jack mcfarland of will and grace or the white man who loves to portray a confident to the point black woman "you go girl". This is the act!
Effeminacy of males is the only thing i see that is truly a chosen lifestyle!
Jharen1231 1 year ago
I'm rather intellectual and androgynous, but obviously masculine. The *majority* of gay & bi guys R more-or-less naturally quite masculine & virile. Many if not most bi & gay guys like & prefer similar masculine types (though, having said that, many gay & bi guys can also, at least occasionally, find less masculine types attractive as well...). We're here, we're queer: Get over it! Wake-up & smell the coffee!
MCP2012 1 year ago
I personally really dislike the term 'Straight Acting' because in the gay community we've come to believe it is better to be straight acting key term here is ACTING it's an ACT! There are many straight men who have interests in 'gay' things, so to say that someone is gay or straight by their behavior is stupid. Lastly a note for the guy in the video. No offense but I don't think people see you as straight acting, people see you as kinda dorky which makes you Asexual in their eyes. Not the same.
tosheatower 1 year ago
Sorry to tell ya but as "straight acting" you think you sound... or look... It wouldn't fool me... you still look and sound gayer than a box of birds... No offense intended!
acloster 1 year ago 2
Hey! I really enjoy your videos because I can identify with a lot of what you're saying. I watched your coming out story too, and I was glad to learn that there are also other people who had "crushes" on girls when they were in elementary school like me. It was also for me, around seventh grade that I starting looking at guys, but like you I didn't make the connection with that meaning that I was gay.
seblepage 1 year ago
The concept of Straight acting is the most juvenile trite I've ever heard. A legion of gay men insecure of their orientation therefore they feel that they have to adopt the characteristics of misogyny to distance themselves from the "Faggy" and "Flaming" Queer-eye stereotype.
Is it that hard to accept yourself and not adapt to pathetic stereotypes and counter-types?
stefmano88 1 year ago 3
Straight Acting: performing a role on level stage
Mikeymcguy 1 year ago
For a bisexual male, I am pretty girly. Not too flamboyant, but it's noticeable. Everyone's different, I believe everyone has the right to be. I'm tired of being called gay just for how I act. Or straight for that matter.
ImageoftheMench 1 year ago
@ImageoftheMench I understand you! Everyone does have the right to be how they are. I don't think it should matter too much. Good luck to you!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
@StraightActingGayGuy hi i think youre awesome, soo wazzap?
Freodeo 1 year ago
"Straight Acting" is very relative depending on who you talk to. You may not be as "Straight Acting" as you think. Masculinity comes in many shades of gray. It seems like we humans are always trying to find ways to divide ourselves from one another to feel validated. BUT, I do get that you are attracted to who you are attracted to and that is fine; nonetheless, be careful about passing judgment on others you deem not "Straight Acting" enough. End of day, we're all in this hell hole together.
greatbydesign33 1 year ago 2
I'm gay but I don't "act" straight, I am who I am. I play sports, I play COD. I talk shit on xbox live. I don't fit any stereotypes. But its not me "acting" straight. It's just who I am.
mrjellyglaze93 1 year ago 5
@mrjellyglaze93 Yeah, I understand you Jeremy!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
@mrjellyglaze93 Finally someone else who gets it!
I tired of people putting me and others down because we don't act gay! Me being gay, has no bearing on how I talk or the things I do! And it shouldn't for anyone else either!
maddenofarrell 1 year ago
Theres this really straight acting gay guy on youtube, forgot his name but hes latino and always wears a new era cap, anyone know his name?
handmaster57 1 year ago
The "lifestyle" is irritating to me because I believe it's an act. It's hard for everyday joes like myself to be out because we don't want to be perceived as something we're not. I'm about as straight as they come, other than not being attracted to the opposite sex. I agree, young gay men seem to believe that you have to be as gay as possible. Of course there are plenty of much older men who do too. But I am comfortable with who I am and old enough to not have to prove anything to anyone.
jordan31483 1 year ago
I love gay guys who think they aren't lit up and flashing. Usually you can only spot them from blocks away instead of miles.
Here's a clue young man: If people aren't figuring out that you are gay, it's because they aren't interested. I know, because I am not the butchest guy on the planet but because I am now older and chubby, people don't think of me sexually. When they don't think of you sexually, they don't think about sexual orientation. I know, that's stinging a bit.
Gulfporter 1 year ago
I think alot of flamboyant gays in their youths do it because they feel they have to fit the stereotype, I knew a guy once who when he came out went into makeup, fashion ect as he got older he realised that wasnt who he really was. Just my thoughts.
ExpressionOfMe 1 year ago
@ExpressionOfMe
Someone once said, "Camp is nostalgia laced with contempt." But it's also habit forming, because it can be fun and hilarious and who doesn't like to laugh?
Flaming, or "trashing" as it was once known, is the gay way of "niggering up", which isn't all that surprising when you consider how much of the affect comes from black drag queens.
Gulfporter 1 year ago
@ExpressionOfMe I think that is part of it, but I also think that they feel that showing any sign of femininity will out them on the spot. So they usually end up overcompensating when they only real way to be happy is to be yourself and own it.
blagorjam 1 year ago
first of all im on my friends account so when sending this message say my name teddy when u say it haha. how do ut ell if sum1 is a straight acting gay guy let alone jsut a gay guy cuz alot of ppl act gay nowadays. i know sum guy told me to suck a rock hard throbbing sweaty dick one time and i thought that for sum1 to say sumthing like that they would have to be curious themselves.. just saying and thnx for the help if sum1 does help me out here.
xMxYxSxTxIxKxAxLx 2 years ago
Agh omfg I agree with u 100%.. I hate it when people are like "Why don't you sound gay?"
happybirthdayamelia 2 years ago 3
haha, tht happens to me all the time, and they say ur 2 ghetto to be gay, im like im not ghetto cuz im black like they never heard of a gay black guy, let alone a gay straight acting black guy lol
xMxYxSxTxIxKxAxLx 2 years ago
why do yall call it acting i thought you all where just living....your masculine, if you were acting straight you'd be in the closet still pretending to like only females ....well thats my understanding of it all.
mrproper15 2 years ago
This video made me feel a little sad. It made me feel as though being an effeminate gay person is less admirable than being a 'straight-acting' gay person. I agree it's great that gay people are no longer being represented as a stereotype, but I identify with all members of the gay community and respect their diversity, from drag queens to bears to the boy next door to anyone. We are still subject to the same discrimination and prejudice. Being 'straight-acting' doesn't change this.
buffalopauln 2 years ago
@buffalopauln: "it's great that gay people are no longer being represented as a stereotype" Where the hell are you living?
blagorjam 1 year ago
@blagorjam Ok. Perhaps what I should have said is it's great that not all gay people are being represented as a stereotype. It's not always easy to be who we really are, but it is important to try to accept people - fem, butch, 'regular' these are terms that we will probably never get away from. People are people. Many gay scenes/cliques should practice what they preach with regards to equality.
buffalopauln 1 year ago
back in my day straight acting meant something
amicusnemini 2 years ago 2
I am a gay guy in college. I don't flaunt it by any means, and you'll only find out if you ask me straight up if I am gay. The friends I've made here at college have known from the beginning I was gay. Now, about half of them question weather I am gay or not. It's the girls, no less. haha
cocoapuffaddict 2 years ago
dont forget dr.'s construction men, marines, and sailors, and for some weird as fuck reason congressmen
ANCHORSaweighMYboys 2 years ago
Okay. I saw the article on you one Queerty so I figured I'd send some encouragement. You're cute. I don't call it "straight acting" I call it "non-stereotypically effeminate gay" but yes it basically does mean straight-acting. At any rate, I am not "stereotypically effeminate" but I am gay, and keep your head up, you'll find a guy. Honestly, just be open minded and be yourself.
Cyanidesin 2 years ago
But good on you for putting yourself out there. Just wondering what you hope to accomplish with identifying yourself as such.
ccm800 2 years ago
Dude imagine for a second you're African American and some other black dude calls himself white acting... can you see? Dude be careful - your only alienating yourself and asking for criticism. There is NOTHING wrong with how ANYONE expresses him or herself....the more you embrace the more embraced you will be. A lot of "sissies" might call you a coward for not being more obvious...but they wouldn't know why you are how you are anymore than you should "qualify" what you see others do.
ccm800 2 years ago 2
hi there im new to your channel i just want to say that if certain people bash you it just means that they do not deserve your attention. you are perfect just the way you are dear and its not wrong to try and find real love. i hope we can be friends.
vartimor 2 years ago
the problem is the word "straight" - i'm sure you mean more masculine than fem in your behavior- vs acting-
most homosexual men are attracted to masculine men- not too much call for fem acting guys in gay porn
z2u 2 years ago
i am attracted to the hinge in your mouth. it needs a gate fixing for best cosmetic equil-e-brum-r. i have a rivetting set for you to practice on.
alternatively, you can earn 500Ds by acting like a total fag, getting a rockerstiffy on and stuffing it in VFX's general direction on nudestage. no disguise for you tho pretty fairy insect glitter balls.
look forward to the show.
gays most welcome.
hd.
OH.DINNER TOO. EAT NICELY.
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ArtificialCleverenAI 2 years ago
I am Straight Acting, and Gay so.... The stereo type is offensive to me. As the media in many cases uses this stereotype of lisping, dressing, slutting etc... anyhow that's my peice.
Finalcut23 2 years ago
They are forcing gays to differentiate in amongst themselves. Divide and conquer. To say straight-acting means that you are pretending to be straight. You should be whoever you are and not give a damn what others say. Girly gay men would be girly straight men...people are just people.
goebels99 2 years ago
its gonna sound bad but I'm gay and act straight and am only attracted to guys who act straight. Sounds terribly homophobic but its true :\
leigh2490 2 years ago 19
@leigh2490 I thought I was the only one! feminine gay guys frustrate me and its such a turn off to me. I just cant associate myself with them. Most guys Ive crushed on were straight unfortunately.
2short99 1 year ago
@leigh2490 I think a better way of putting it is that you act like your self (a guy=masculine) and as you're into guys, you're attracted to guys (=masculinity). I think the terms cause a lot of confusion. But guys who like guys are into masculinity (or should be) if I were to like "Girly guys" I might as well date a girl. Best wishes!
gustjorodedheo 1 year ago
@leigh2490 same! like a homofobic homosexual lol x
Starloulou1990 1 year ago
@leigh2490 I'm the same way. This guy is obviously gay, though. My gaydar is going off
xxblodlustxx 1 year ago
@leigh2490 that's not homophobic....you are a man into men....you're the definition of what a gay guy should be. The homophobic ones are the ones who think they are women....essentially, they want to be straight chicks, and if thats not running away from being gay, I don't know what is.
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana uh, no. the homophobic ones are indeed guys like the one who made this video: the gay men who are so insecure about being gay that they need to mention how "straight" they are, and by straight they mean "Normal"
it's the epitome of cowardice. We need to embrace not only LGBT people, but gender-nonconformity. Not all men and women, gay or straight, are the same.
Masculinity and Femininity comes with societal expectations. SMASH them.
BE who you are, not who you aren't.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF liking the gender roles of a guy isn't homophobic....it's just liking being a guy. I like being a guy, and believe me, I am the farthest from homophobic there is. If you want to be a woman, or take on all the charactisics of a woman, and you like men, then you don't like being gay, you actually want to be a straight woman. I am all for people being who they are, but because I don't buy into the subculture doesn't mean I hate being gay or am homophobic
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana Wrong. You're saying "taking on the characteristics of a woman", but even THAT is a purely societal concept. Not all women are the same. Not all men are the same. I could very well say that you sucking a cock makes you "a woman", as most WOMEN do that, not men. See what I mean?
That you said "i don't buy into the subculture" in fact proves that you're not comfortable being gay, yet. You still think gay and straight cultures are different. you couldn't be more wrong.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF Yea, it's social, meaning it is social for gays too, and if you don't buy into it, it does not mean you don't like being gay. And just because a lot of gays buy into the subculture, it does not mean that they are some final say for me personally. I don't buy into drag shows, but I think gays are superior in general. And even if I suck dick, that does not mean I want to be a woman....it means I am a guy who likes guys. I am very comfortable being gay, just not wearing makeup
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana Wrong. It's not about "Buying into the subculture" it's about not buying into the LARGER culture. You think you're a unique rebel by emulating stereotypical straight things? That's YOU buying into THAT culture.
You don't buy into drag shows? what the fuck does that even mean? are you from a small town with only one gay bar?
In society, more women suck dick than men, therefore you liking to suck dick means you're more of a woman than a man.
See how your logic is flawed?
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF No, it's about being who you are....I like being a guy, that does not make me homophobic...I am out and proud...I sure the fuck don't have to comform to anything except what I feel comfortable with, even if gay culture tries to tell me I need to act a certain way. What I am comfortable with is being a guy....that's nothing to be ashamed of, even if you think it is.
Drag shows are somehow a big part of the subculture. Sucking dick just means I am gay...it means I like dudes.
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana Wrong. "Gay Culture" isnt' telling you to be a certain way, "MAN CULTURE" is.
You think you're not "conforming to gay culture", when in reality you're conforming to what straight culture at large deems "men" and "women" to be. It's incredibly unenlightened.
If you were comfortable with being a gay man, you wouldn't be distancing yourself from "gay culture" the way you are now. You're proving me right.
respect Drag Queens, read about Stonewall, idiot.
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago
@MOKandRIFF if you are drawn to a culture that makes masculinity seem like a bad thing, then you don't want to be a man. If you are comfortable being femininine, be it, but don't tell me I have to or I don't like being gay...who are you to tell me. I love being gay, but gays can man up some. Gay culture doesn't define all gays, and if you don't buy into the culture, doesn't mean you don't like being gay, it means you don't relate to the culture...I am very comfortable being gay retard.
alicevana 1 year ago
@alicevana you don't get it. "what a man is" and "what a woman is" are societal constructs.
You have completely bought into "man culture" as a fear of being associated with "gay culture" - it's frankly pathetic.
You're not comfortable being gay, at all, because you're still afraid of emasculation issues. You're scared of being emasculated, and that's why you distance yourself from perceived "gay culture".
You're still a little boy. But prove me wrong. post a vid :-)
MOKandRIFF 1 year ago