Don't have sex at a first date - FOR WOMEN ONLY ;)

[skittz1207]

@PutaLoca11 that sounds awesome! xD

[tom01555]

Thing is most women's want to have sex on the first night they just want it badly

[fuiiee]

ok, this is my biggest weakness... If I was dating someone I find I really attracted to, I would straightaway put it in my mind sex is going to happen, and it does! Maybe you can put a video guide on how to hold the temptations ! That would help me really well! Thanks for the vid! Really helps!!

[boganmettler]

You just failed as a man. and i guess that infers you suck as a human as well

[PutaLoca11]

I met my husband on CL casual encounters. I posted an ad just to get laid. He answered, we talked on the phone for a week about all kinds of things. Not the usual hook up routine. Finally when we met off course we had the most lustiest. The next morning I was expecting the awkward see you later have a nice life thing. Now we're married

[magmatic123]

im 24 and it happend to me, maybe its because i didnt want to get attached

[blackeyedhippy]

Well I agree with most points, the build up is what makes the attraction exist. After you've done it, it's like its all over and done with there's nothing left now.

But I disagree with the first point; I am a girl and I don't get emotionally attached at all because of sex. I feel that for me to get attached to someone, it has to be on a social level, not a physical one.

[vitalcoaching]

lucky you then ;)

[Kartikandrao69]

he's funny, lol

[gili71]

check out also evan marc katz : sex on the first date advice....

[ilsewz]

Nice video. I actually had sex on the first date... well it wasn't really a date, but I wanted to take him home that night and he didn't turn me down. I had never done something like that before, I didn't know him at all! But he turned out to be the most sweet and funny guy I know and we're together for 7 years now. Sometimes you just have to take a risk. Just don't expect too much and have an open mind.

[BLaSt911]

Exactly. Not all men will judge a woman for having sex the first day. Sometimes there's still more to learn even AFTER the sex, and your story proves that. So I say good for you.

[vitalcoaching]

Glad for you!

[gili71]

continued...

Most men I met dissapoint me with such behaviour, after 1 or 2 dates they either directly or indirectly try to make a move to have sex with me. I always wonder am I sooo attractive that they must have sex with me, or they thought I am easy... Why do these amazingly attractive looking men spoil my fun!!!

Anyway, I always categorize these chaps as desperates...married or singles. Tell me coach, do they have bad character or are they normal?

[vitalcoaching]

thats a cool topic for a new vid - can you post this as a vid request in the comments in my mian channel's page? That's where I keep track of vid ideas - Thanks

[Leto2ndAtreides]

I'd have to say that those guys are pretty normal. Also, I think that the only time those guys could tell you whether they're really interested in you or not, is after sex, when the mind has cleared some, and it's not 60% instincts talking.

[gili71]

I guess some people just treat sex as casual and some want it to be special. I prefer to have sex when I feel the man present himself as a person above the average behaviour. If he is not interested in me anymore because I don't compy to his sexual advances or request, then he is not a big loss for me.

[gili71]

Why do men put so much emphasis on sex and most men will try their 'luck' as soon as possible. Don't they evaluate the woman first, get connected, create more tension or can they recognize a woman who practice safe sex that they can actually make such a fast decision to have sex with her.

[sunnyquiet1982]

so freakin' true

[sugarcane4000]

omg..thx ..I have avery high sex drive all i talk about is sex and real freaky stuff with random guys.I use my sexuality to attractive them i sleep with them .I do it becos i doont care and Im not looking for anything serious.Ive had a few one night stands and frankly i like that becos i dont get emotionally attached..I know some might thats slutty but I dont know how to attract guys without being so freaky and overly sexual.should I not talk about sex with guys at all on the first attraction.

[vitalcoaching]

It totally depends on what YOU like and what works for YOU - If you feel you go too far, sure, change topic - By the way, talking about sex is VERY different than actually having sex ;) - STAY SAFE, ok?

[Mokurentate]

Who said there was anything wrong with being a slut? We all have needs. It becomes a problem when you start charging money though. XD lol

[jlynnb91]

dnt have sex on* a first date :)

[vitalcoaching]

oups! you're right - txz miss!

[raccoonate]

my thinking about women feeling used and rejected is that perhaps they didn't give it much thought in the first place. as a psychology student i really believe it is important to own every decision we make and live with as few regrets as possible. it is just as possible to feel used and rejected after first date sex as it is to feel used and rejected after going with a guy for a month, finally getting intimate, and having him dump you because sex was no good or he "just wasn't into you" anymore.

[vitalcoaching]

true! This can happen too - The whole idea of getting to know each other a bit better is to avoid as much as possible bad surprises. You seem like a smart girl already armed with the tools to deal with whatever happens with a guy. This means that if by any chance a guy rejects, you already know how to get over it very fast. Which is very good! - The most important is to discover dating attitudes that work for YOU

[raccoonate]

i disagree. the issue, i think, is very subjective so that while i might wait it out several dates for one guy, attraction might be so strong for another that it just might feel right. treating things like this as though they're set in stone creates such a stigma for people (men and women) who have had sex on a first date.

[vitalcoaching]

The advice I give is a suggestion - You are free to disagree of course. I respect that. Yes! it can definitely happen to have great first date sex. If you had and enjoyed it! Good on you! Don't feel offended by what I say here. I did hear much more stories where women felt used and rejected after it, though. This is why I recorded this vid ;) Enjoy!

[yourtango]

Good advice. Kind of strange advice coming from a man, but good advice nonetheless.

[vitalcoaching]

thanks

[nymphbitch]

so how do I get a sexual relationship (sex only) out of a guy who has the hots for me but is too shy and chicken to do anything?

[vitalcoaching]

if you want sex only and have no desire to establish an emotional connection with that guy, sex at first date is no problem - It might be a fun one time thing and this is it ;)

[nymphbitch]

no I mean a bed friend someone who comes over from time to time for sex only I want to ask someone but not be offensive

[vitalcoaching]

yeah, sure go ahead, better take a small step and see how he responds to it, rather than formaly asking "Do you want to have sex?"

[sadepayne]

This is what all women should hear even young girls (15- 17). Because their is so much pressure on the youngteens, if they don't go all the way the guy won't like them. That silly myth is so not true. This video is the truth, if their is no strong bond or connection and u choose to have sex. Get ready for a heartbreak or a short fling. No marriage or fairytale bull. Its reality and girls and women need to face it.

[vitalcoaching]

Thank you sadepayne - well said ;)

[browncandiixx]

lol i love your accent and youre so HELPFUL thankyou! <3

[vitalcoaching]

You're welcome ;)