I Help You - Episode 4: Coming Out Of The Closet

[Oblivion1563]

Why do people worry about this sort of thing? It doesn't matter if you are gay, straight or bi-sexual! So what if you are? It doesn't change who you are! You are what you are!

[estilo741]

wow !! super !! that is really true. i appreciate your advice.

[killerdeen13]

Why should anyone take your advice? When its complete bullshit -_- you make an issue out of nothing fucking youtube leech

[Oblivion1563]

@killerdeen13 Hey stop being so mean! Just because her advice didn't help you, it may have helped other people in that situation!

[Traumatose]

I loved these "I help you" videos. :)

[CoolSarah8D]

Hi :) This helped me soo much :) I am 14 and I am almost 100% positive that I am bisexual :S I feel like I am ready to tell people about it but I don't think anyone will take me seriousle. And as I said; I'm not 100% sure. How can I find out if I am bisexual or now? PLZZ HELP MEEE!!!!!!!!!

[vglp33]

My ex best friend hated gays and called me gay all the time before I was out as Bi.

[furiousjuffowup]

Thank you for sharing your experience... I hate people that say ...so you're gay ..so you like cock?..that's so immature ..If i wanted to say I like the male private part..I would just go ahead and say so ...but I am gay = I am romantically attracted to boys.. some gays aren't all about the sex! .. I'm gay , i'm a virgin and plan on keeping it that way , and just want to succeed in education to get a decent career some day ....education , virginity, and good hygiene= me XD

[Oblivion1563]

@furiousjuffowup It is immature isn't it! So many people at my school are like that!

[chesielad69]

AMAZING advice :)

im out and i know all about what you're saying.

Well done :) x

[detriplea]

I knew you were lesbo, duh. The lesbo formula; Unattractive, nerdy, fat and female.

[imagesfromapoet]

@detriplea I'm not female, you asshole.

[detriplea]

@detriplea

I don't get it, are you a shemale?

[Oblivion1563]

@detriplea The correct term is hermaphrodite! I don't get it either but it doesn't in any way change my opinion of imagesfromapoet.

[vglp33]

@detriplea That's rather uncalled for. There are some really hot lesbians out there.

[detriplea]

@vglp33

I agree, there are some really hot lesbians out there, Jizz without them, My porn life would be really not all that exciting.

[Oblivion1563]

@detriplea Hey! She's not Unattractive or nerdy or fat!

[Sayurichan16]

The funny thing is, how I came out is that, I'm actually straight but i act lesbian just for fun :P and the sad thing is that people actually believe that I`m lesbian or bi...haha so I`m starting to clear out the misunderstandings.....

[hercrabbiness]

This was the order I did it in, and I thought it was pretty good:

1) Gay people in LGBT support groups. I think gay friends would've been more ideal, but I went to high school in an ultra-conservative area, and NOBODY was out. So I turned to the Internet. IMO coming out to gay people first is the best because they don't get weirded out, and they can relate to you on so many different levels.

2) My most gay-loving, open-minded friends.

(cont.)

[hercrabbiness]

3) The other close friends who I didn't know how they would take it.

4) The more religious, conservative friends.

5) Parents

After that, I'd only mention it to people when it was relevant. Anyway, the idea behind this order is to get as much support as possible before wandering into more "dangerous" territory. The more love, support, and confidence you gain from your friends, the easier it is to deal with crappy people who aren't okay with you.

[hercrabbiness]

When I came out to the first dozen people or so, I did it online. I felt safer being shielded by a screen and keeping my distance, both from the people I was telling, and from my own feelings (I'd get SO nervous telling people I was bisexual). After I was more comfortable, though, I could tell people to their face. It gets easier.

So, that's just my two cents. You gave some excellent advice yourself. :)

[gaveZexionMyHeart]

ive come out of the closet to pretty much everyone i know except for my parents. all my friends and most of my siblings know but im scared at how my parents will react. mainly cuz i dont really know how they feel about gay people.

[payableondeath7]

I was with a friend when he told his dad he was homosexual. His dad was like "So you like to fuck guys in the ass?" and my friend was like "No, its more complicated than that". Then his dad goes, "Like what? You mean you actually *love* dudes?" and my friend goes "Uh yeah, pretty much." There was an awkward pause, and then his dad say "Okay, uh, just remember to put a tie around your door knob or something when you bring a guy home." I was like "Your dad just gave you permission to fuck dudes."

[ImTheKobold]

@payableondeath7 thats hilarious

[unomiel]

Now I'm in college, and it's a lot safer for me to explore my outer identity & personal expression. I've gotta say, there's still a lot of ignorant people out there. I once met a lesbian who didn't like bi girls because they'd "cheat with a man". The most ignorant thing I ever heard from a fellow GLBT member. So my advice is: be careful who you tell, and don't use telling to validate your gayness to yourself. It's okay not to say anything unless it's relevant, and may be even more comfortable.

[photonman91]

I've heard of so many straight and gay people who thinks this. "I won't date a bi person because they will cheat on me"

I really don't see the relevance. If anything, it should mean they're even better for you since they chose you over twice as many people as a gay or straight person.

[furiousjuffowup]

@unomiel You're right..saying it too much just makes it seem like a joke ...saying it when necessary is the right way to handle it ..it's proper and will be taken more seriously than being repetitive..

[unomiel]

Well, I'm bi on a technicality. I'm genderqueer, and I like certain traits really regardless of gender that just so happen to be more feminine. For me, coming out was unnecessarily confusing because at the time "genderqueer" wasn't a word yet. But my mom's really cool. My sister suspected as much. My brother just doesn't care. But in high school I've had rocks pelted at me, been stalked, beaten up.. all that delicious stuff. The GLBT group was my safe haven.

[faydell]

you're absolutly right. Good advice!

Oh and one more advice... do not bring it up when you're in a fight with your parents... I came out that way and it got very confusing, my mom was like cool, you're still my boy and I love you whoever you love, etc... but my dad got a bit cold... if that happens to any of you guys don't worry let them think about it and eventually they'll sort it out themself.

[shinycrazy]

My best friend loved that I'm Bi she was so cool with it it was kinda funny and most of my friends were okay with it I mean some didn't believe me. As for my family my mom freaked at 1st but now she says she's fine with it also I have it out there in all of my profiles that Im Bi so Im not really hiding it. I think the only important ppl in my life that don't know is my dad and his parents only because I know they wont take it well. Also as of yet I still need them to support me so...

[rocketzombieboy]

you're awesome at helping, i couldn't give better advice :D <3

all i can recommend to others is that no one will be comfortable with your sexuality unless you are.

[Psoewish]

You know, when people tell me they're gay, it really doesn't affect my views on them in any way. I couldn't really care less about the sexuality of other people, if they feel most comfortable with the same sex, or if they feel comfortable with either sex then that's totally fine by me.

As you said, it can make for interesting conversation material but it doesn't affect my views about them whatsoever.

[Maiindeg]

It's wonderful that you talk about everything with people. I am Bi and well some of my friends know that, and they accept me for who I am. I believe that my parents will accepts me to, but I am not so sure about my brothers.And well, one thing I dont really like about some gay people, is that some of them tend to show them self in those a bit vulgar in my opinion parades and in some other ways like saying "Look I'm special I'm gay!" or something... I mean the world doesnt care that your a gay.

[DeathguardJono]

That is to say; seriously, you strange and prejudiced people. Your friend/relative whatever is gay. It's just a character trait like every other character trait, don't dramatise it so much.

I'm sure you'd not like it much either if someone verbally wailed on you for driving the wrong car - you made a choice you have every right to make in buying an Audi and not a Porsche.

It's especially sort of amusing that when it's religious groups attacking "gays," they forget about that free will stuff.

[DeathguardJono]

I'm kind of baffled as to why people CARE so much about the whole issue.

I mean, nobody goes "Oh my gawd, you're straight! I never knew that!"

So why should anyone feel they have the moral imperative to say things like "Oh my god, you're gay!"

Waaaaat?

Well, yeah. They're gay. And you like ham and cheese sandwiches. People are gay. People like ham.

You don't dwell on it when judging someone - their sexuality will likely never affect you any more than their taste in food, so why does it MATTER?

[WhiteMageMentality]

So... You're really gay? I'm so clueless, I couldn't tell if you were kidding or not...

[DrHeinzy]

Dude, I'm just as confused right now. Bisexual or lesbian?

[imagesfromapoet]

you could, I dunno, read the comments and stuff? or I mean, I said my friend said "I'm bi" and I said "me too!" so that might help you figure things out.

[DrHeinzy]

Yeah, I could read the comments but I never do. And I actually missed that part with your friend. Oh well, I learn something new every day about you Samm.

[PaleVoyager]

The people in my non-online life think I am straight, and considering my sexual activities, I may as well be. I haven't really experimented or tried anything beyond what anyone would expect from a straight guy anyway, so it really isn't an issue.

My sexuality isn't something I feel other people need to be aware of as I don't really open up to anyone about the other facets of my life. It's irrelevant to the way I receive acceptance from my friends. They probably wouldn't be fazed anyway.

[imagesfromapoet]

I will rape you.

[meaganab]

good lord XD

[psycoroboproductios]

o also i had to idea u we bi

[psycoroboproductios]

thanks fer making this vid it will definatly help when i do come out to my mom... but im still never telling my dad lol. also my "friends" are kinda duchbags so im not sure how i would talk to them

[noXwingedXangel]

Thank you very much for making this help video. My friend has been wanting to let his parents know he's gay for the past four years. He found this video a lot of help with dealing with it. Again, thank you for making this.

[Cinnaminnamin]

I agree with you Samm.

I only bring up that I'm gay/Transgender when It's relevant.

Unfortunatly, theres this one asshat who makes it the only god damned subject he ever talks about. He has to make sure that every person in the god damned school know that he is gay, then he comes whining to us, saying "WHY DO PPL HAATE MEE!?!?!?"

[xXxSiyuxXx]

It took two years for me to accept myself, because of a highly religious environment. At 15 I stopped pretending and shortly after met my current girlfriend. The first to know was my amazing aunt, who helped me come up with ways to tell my other family members.

I told my mother, who simply told me she had suspected it and was totally okay with it.

I told my grandmother (who was supposedly "okay" with gays)and two and a half years later she still will not accept me for who I am.

[imagesfromapoet]

yeah, sometimes parents are okay with gay people, as long as they're not in the family, which sucks. :/

[LightSlei]

Sorry but I don't agree. Thinking less or more of someone because of their sexuality is sort of pathetic in my opinion. If they're my friend, they're my friend still, if it's work based, it doesn't change what they're good at it. Then again I'd agree relevancy does dictate a large portion of the way people should act.

[imagesfromapoet]

uh...what are you disagreeing with?

[LightSlei]

That everyone assumes everyone's straight and to have to adjust to someone admitting it instead of treating them the same way you have in the past.

[imagesfromapoet]

I think you're not understanding what I'm saying. it's assumed in society that people are straight until they say or do things that proves otherwise. I'm not saying someone will think more or less of someone (in fact I think I said that multiple times) but that it may take a period to adjust.

[vglp33]

@imagesfromapoet Exactly.

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

No matter how much you resent them or have no respect for them, there is always something that aches when your own parents reject you. My parents will never know the person I am, or the things Ive been able to do to help my community. But thats their lost, not mine.

Sorry it took so much to say it all. It's been a while since I've talked about it, bitter sweet and not,

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

. The argument changed when my younger brother got in the mix, as he had always been our Dads punching bag. Fear of what he'd do to my brother for knowing had me say it was a test. He wanted to drag me to church & said the rest of the family would be ashamed. Told my Mother I was going through a phase. He threatened to disown me. I was 16.

I ran into my first gf's arms, and the rest of my friends and mothers side of the family followed. And all those who respect you will help you survive.

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

Planning is so crucial. I was heavy into the community & activism before either of my parents knew. Then one day my Dad said someone called for volunteers for SF Pride and said no for me. It was wrong and god hates fags (Its funny how God always seems to hate the same people they do). It sky rocketed into a tornado of hate until I told him the truth. He said that the media and the influence of my friends had confused me; basically I was too stupid to think for myself.

[imagesfromapoet]

oh man, I read all of these comments and I'm sorry. that sounds like a horrid situation.

[ALIOrigafan]

I think your advice is dead on more so for people in smaller places, I came out and told my bestfriend almost 5 years ago (i was 13) lol she fainted in a snowbank lol, i was really lucky in the aspect that when I told my mom that I was gay, all she said was "Bout time you told me, I don't think any less of you but I will wory about not only you but the everyday stupidity you'll have to deal with" I was shocked but its been great, if your out go you if not your time will come don't fret :D

[Crystalwolf78]

Sounds like something my mom would of said to one of us if we were gay. She was quite respectful when I told her I was a witch lol my dad is another story ....

[ALIOrigafan]

cool, not to step on toes but witches are awsome, my friend is one tho she won't loan me her books lol, an yea my dad wasn't the nicest about it all but i'm not worried he's dead to me ;P hehe

[LadyRhii]

Well said. I ultimately decided coming out wasn't important to me. I'm openly bi, so people do see comments/flirts/indications from me online that I'm clearly interested in the ladies too - and that includes my parents, if they choose to read & pick up on the clues.

I don't really care if my parents know though. My dad taught me to hate the words gay, f*g, dyke, queer, etc - before I knew I was bi, and not because he was teaching me tolerance. My mom probably accepts it. I just don't care.

[revam1ssp1ss]

Me and my friends came out to each other. I imagine most of my friends don't really know about my bisexuality, but it's not really relevant to them. My parents don't know/don't need to know. No girl has ever been interested which is a shame but irrelevant now so ehhh.

Another awesome bit of advice Samm :D

[outlander654]

Im not bi, but this is really good advice to people who are. People should not think bi's are high pitched guys who like pink or something like that, cause its not true

[GamerMomiji19]

I guess I lucked out. My parents couldn't care less if I was bisexual or not. I can't imagine what other people must go through, though. I agree with you, Samm, very good points. =]

[youwatts]

wow...i never suspected. Im Bi too :D. You fallow me on twitter so i think you already know since i tweeted that. and put it all over my Youtube account. I told my mom the month i found out, she always she would love me no matter what. she still does. told my two best friends nothign changed. told stepdad last he just said "oh really" he didn't care. Never knew you were bi too. :)

[BeatenAndMauled]

I'm in the closet because of where I live, I have asked my friends if they'd still talk to me if I were theoretically bi, only one that said yes was my best friend who moved away, I don't want to come out cause it's never relevant, if i saw a guy that I think is cute I know cause where I live they're straight or wouldn't admit otherwise. My dad's told me that I can't live at home if i was gay, I'm moving to NY after School, where it'll be more accepted and then maybe I will write to my parents.

[repoelfie]

I like this advice a lot...

Maybe I'll come out on my birthday this year...

But my dad thinks that I'm too young to make that kind of decision, what the hell, right.

So yeah. Thanks Samm, even though I didn't ask this really...

And I didn't know you were bisexual...

I suspected you were...

But thanks for the confirmation, also.

XD

[BishounenNerd]

I agree when you say that you should only bring it up when it's relevant. You don't have to go around advertising it. But, you shouldn't be ashamed of it, either. If they think less of you for it, it's their problem, not yours. Case in point, Freddie Mercury is probably one of the best-known gay people in rock. He was the lead singer of "Queen". But it didn't eclipse his whole life. He was known for "Bohemian Rhapsody", one of the coolest songs ever made. I strongly recommend reading about him.

[joeyshotbitch82]

thank you so much for this vid im glad ur gay friendly and happy u have so many gay subs myself included, u just became more awesomer since i dont know how people in the midwest are towards the gay folks, are they becoming better accepting in your opinion

[paradoxpiex]

my best friend recently came out to me. I'm the only one at school who knows and not because of him not wanting to tell people. He just figured he'd tell me first, talk about it with me and then decide what to do from there. It's just never come up amougst the friends. I dont think any of them would react badly either. he's told his parents and he really has the best situation, he's lucky cause his parents are really ok about it. Too bad its not that easy for everyone.

[13mathilda]

My mum still refers to my "girlfriend" as my "best friend". I saved up with some friends to buy my girlfriend an ipod, and I was picking the engraving and my mum said so bluntly:

"Don't add her last name; if she gets married she'll take her husband's name". Which is totally out of order since it was for her 18th. One friend found out and it spread like wild fire my new name is Fagthilda, but they are still my friends and its all good; just get used to the gay jokes if youre 17 -.-

[stonebob26]

my parents would kill me if i was gay

[TomALehrer]

As your stream's token fruit (I think so, anyway... Maybe someone else has that role), I loved this vidya.

Very helpful, though I still won't tell my parents anytime soon.

[keelay17]

Honestly if you want to come out of the closet then do it, trust me when I did I felt so much better, and happier about it. BUT only do it if you can accept yourself for being gay/bi/trans or whatever other wise you will never be ok with being like that. Also come out to people you know you want to, or that will be ok with it to start off.

Hope this helps some of you guys out there.

[katrinonus]

That's great.

However, my Dad's a Southern Baptist preacher and I've never told him. I heard a really scary story from one of my gay friends. His mom tried to preform an exorcism on him because he was gay. It was very scary and I don't think I'll ever tell my biological Dad because of that and that he doesn't except gays anyway.

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

Ditto. My father is a southern baptist straight from Alabama. When I attempted to come out, I was met with a similar response, as well as threats of dis-ownment. Despite how little I care for the man, I find that my heart still stings because he will never know the person I am, or the wonderful people I want to spend my life with. I hope well for you, and that one day your Father becomes a little more understanding.

[TheFooey]

thank you for makeing this video

[PancorRath]

i never knew you're a bisexual, and i think thats kinda cool. it would have been a lil better if it did come out on the 11th but oh well

[kawaiininjakat]

That's some excellent advice. I'm glad to be a friend to people who come out because I never judge people based on sexuality. It doesn't matter if you like guys, gals or both, you're still the same person at the core and that's what really matters.

[Deckof51]

I have nothing to say on this subject.

Nope.

Good luck to all of those who are coming out as gay!

[FireyVampireOctopus]

Also, I'm going to make a response.

[betocool]

Have you made out with a girl yet? :3

[imagesfromapoet]

I'm 26. what do you think?

[FireyVampireOctopus]

Sam is bi?

Fucking A!

[betocool]

Hi KyoraMishiso

[KyoraMishiso]

...YOOOU!

Hi ^^

[Bastiest]

Bleh... Not like I'm fond of it but we're living year 200x. Being gay is like a fashion so it's not really that big issue anymore.

I wonder how many people actually ARE gay or have they just pondered about it so much that they have grown a fetish to it.

Tends to happen a lot to me too with plenty of things "Eww, that'll never work for me! But what if...?"

Anyways, my chump is blessed for one thing only and even that tends to be more pain than it is worth of.

[imagesfromapoet]

gotta try everything once, my friend.

[Bastiest]

Only if someone zaps me with ranma gun.

[digitalscissors]

ok, maybe i should have watched that video before writing.

but thats cool.

[CPCGamer]

I know I'm going to come off like a huge bigot here but my opinion on coming out is...well, Don't.

It is, to me at least, like me saying to you, "Hi, my name's Andy and oh by the way I have AIDS". It is to be shared between you and whoever you're sleeping with and that's it.

If you insist on coming out, however, be 100% sure you want to do it, since you can't make it unhappen. You can't go "Stop treating me differently" after you've pointed out to people how you're different.

[imagesfromapoet]

no, I agree. it doesn't sound bigoted at all.

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

There's more to coming out and being out than just talk. Hand holding & PDA all show your sexuality, and is something straight people do all the time without fear of judgement. When gays do it, people think we're just shoving it in their face. Why should I be denied those simple things that straights take for granted due to ignorance and fear? To me, the whole nature of coming out is to be true to yourself, show that being gay really isn't that big a damn deal, and that anybody can be gay.

[CPCGamer]

You misunderstand.

I'm not saying "Keep your faggotry out of my face", nothing of the sort.

Im saying that none of my other friends tell me personal information like that. Not without lots of alcohol or the prefix "Truth or Dare". So I kinda prefer it when the gay community follow suit.

And being gay IS a big deal. It shouldn't be, but it is. Know what doesn't help? The fact that certain members of the gay community (but not all, of course) make such a big deal out of it.

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

My thing is simply that I don't see it as a private matter. Sex runs the world just as much as money and power. Me and my friends don't need the excuse of games or alcohol to discuss who we like and what we would like to do to them, regardless of whose gay or straight.

Is it lame to yell out your gay for attention and such? Yes and you're right. But again, the real criminal is ignorance and fear and this condemnation of sex as taboo. That's just me. Thank you for not replying with "STFU fag"

[CPCGamer]

Most of the problem is the way certain straight guys act.

But! Another part of the problem is how the gay community reacts to certain stimulus. Again, not the entire gay community, just...well, the loud ones and the ones they put on TV.

If I HAD insulted you, the popular media says you'd retaliate with a hundred snap per second flaming rainbow of justice, necause that's how certain people DO react.

And as long as they do react like that, it's going to be hard to get as much respect as you could

[photonman91]

Yes, but a lot of people don't feel that way. Some things are just distasteful in public, sex being one of them. Just because it runs the world, doesn't mean it should be public. I find making out in a public place just as bad as well. Maybe I just have too many rules drilled in, but IMO, even if they're everywhere, some things just aren't public things. As ssskinner said, telling trusted friends or family is one thing, especially in a relevant convo is one thing, telling everyone is another

[KillerBunnyFooFoo]

And again, I said nothing about telling everybody or sex in public. I refer only to the fact that living out means at times garnering attention for simple things that heteros take for granted, like holding hands and such. We get hammered for things like that as if we were running around naked. Suddenly a kiss before parting is rubbing our "lifestyle" in people's faces. It's who I love that I won't keep secret, it's the rest of the world who makes it out to only sex. But it's worth it.

[photonman91]

And I said nothing about it being gays only. And you said "I don't see it as a private matter." That's what I was arguing. I, as well as many people I know, find it disgusting, straight or gay, when people kiss or embrace or anything in public. Nobody, straight or gay, should do it, because it's not something that's public.

You were talking about how your friends also all talk about this openly, and while that might be good between you, I know I don't want to hear about my friend's sex lives

[photonman91]

and I'm sure they don't want to hear about mine. Private things should be kept private IMO, whether that be talking about sex, talking about your problems, or talking about something that really shouldn't be everybody else's business (especially when you don't want them to know, and blame someone else when you're yelling about it in public).

For a non-sex example: In highschool, I heard some kid in the freshman hall once yell, "Hey man, I have your drugs in my car. Come me me after class".

[digitalscissors]

did i just get that right? your gay?

[tayo3o]

I haven't completely came out yet, but I think I can pass some knowledge.

I've told some of my closest friends. I kinda told my closest friend in a weird way. She saw I was very down in the dumps and sad and asked why, as I had previously 'fallin' for a straight guy I THOUGHT was gay but wasn't made my self seem a fool and confided it all right then and there.

My parents know sorta, I told them but they don't like to acknowledge it. It's sort of an under the table thing.

[XxLuvxxAddictxX]

Great advice, I'm really loving this channel.

Being gay to me is completely cool. It doesn't change my views about any one person. A lot of my friends are either bi or gay. And I love them no matter if they are or not.

But one thing that bothers me lately is that being bi is like a trend now days. A lot of people are doing it to just be 'cool.' And I don't even know why it started.

[NerdExtraordinaire]

To an extent, I see a lot of "I'm going to be bi because it makes me unique whoohoo!" In my school, it's almost to the point where every other girl at least says she's bi.

I don't exactly see many males claiming to be bi as part of a trend, though. Then again, that might just be the effects of my living in coast-side Mississippi.

[XxLuvxxAddictxX]

Yes, in the schools in my area every single girl is saying they're bi to impress someone or something. That or to be in some sort of in crowd.

Amazingly enough there are a lot of guys in my area doing the very same thing.

I mean if you were really bi that is cool! But don't just say you are to be some sort of crowd. =/

[pilip170]

well i find if some differant is wrong with you (not exactly wrong) you either keep it to yourself and hope for the best or tell people and expect multiple scenarios and you then go with people who are the same way for example i would like to the life out of one o mh friends i he anoys me but if i say that he wont be my friend but i find it best toaddmit it and get it over with.

[KingKool2099]

Am I completely daft for not having a clue before this that you were? I would swear you referenced a 'boyfriend' at some point.

I do this all the time. I have the least sensitive gaydar in the Northeast, and I even have a degree in Theatre, for crying out loud. You'd think I'd learn.

As an involuntary celibate, I've basically never had to talk about sex with my parents at all. That's one benefit, I suppose.

[imagesfromapoet]

at this point, I'd consider myself pansexual, but I'm also polyamorous.

[stonebob26]

wats pansexual?

[Crystalwolf78]

I think it means something like no bounderies gay bi or relative not sure they said the girl in Reveloutary Girl Utena anime who was the rose bride in the movie version. Maybe look it up I think wikipeadia has the right defenition.

[BeatenAndMauled]

pan is a greek derivitave from the word "all" it's basically being Gender Blind and loving people not for their bodies or biology but for their personality and actions, it's different than bisexual in the sense that they pay no attention to gender while bisexuals do.

[Ericapantses]

Simply put: beauty is beauty. For instance, I find some drag queens just as gorgeous as a masculine man, or a beautiful woman equally attractive compared to what I consider a pretty/handsome transsexual. Aesthetics or personality reign in our attractions too, and that is that but gender is irrelevant if you fit the 'bill' on our perception of beauty.

But on topic of the video, Thank you for this, Samm. This is fantastic. I wish the best on those who decide to come out when they decide to do so.

[BritneyBritofldw]

You know what Samm?

I like this channel more than your Let's Plays.

[NerdExtraordinaire]

Excellent advice, Samm. It was awkward coming out to my closer friends about it, and there was an adjustment period for them, but they just accept it.

My parents, on the other hand... Well, I was told my church was immoral because they did a comedy outreach night with a "womanless beauty pageant," and I haven't been allowed to go there or see them for almost a year.

If I were to come out to them, I'd likely get kicked out and have to find somewhere else to stay.

[imagesfromapoet]

yeah, that's why I said sometimes you have to wait until you're not dependent on them anymore -- if you live with parents who you have to get along with, telling them you're something they believe is wrong is probably not in your best interests.