thank god i live in malaysia coz i have seen the atmosphere in british schools,i would know coz im a british pakistani muslim.inshaAllah my kids gonna be safe over here!
I think it comes from home. Both parents are working in our society nowadays. No one is there for them. Who is? The gangs! Who, coincidentally, also have no one else at home. That and the fact that the media is raising them. The only way to fix it is to have a parent at home. Unfortunately, this is relatively impossible because the economic situation is miserable these days. It is turning into a dangerous cycle.
There are two places that people have no real choice to attend...school & prison. Kids should learn happily at home first, finding real friends is not a problem, later on they'll have more idea what to pursue & happily attend a college etc...but now we force kids to be close to disruptive bullies who normally they'd do their best to avoid outside school. Kids should be taught as individuals, not in a group because everyone is different.
I dont think one can blame anyone perse, or fingerpoint and say "oh its the parents fault or the teachers fault". Its the environment and the media which changes and corrupts kids and everyone else, especialy when one doesnt not have a strong base.
not that our schools are perfect here in jordan but i'm glad i have my kids here and not in england or the states... just because i hear of horror stories in schools abroad.. but i may be wrong.. it is very difficult choice i do think we have a very powerful tool... DUA.. inshallah allah will protect them.
I bet no one thinks their beloved litle boy will grow up to be a thieving junkie or a whore beating pimp or worse but it happens no matter how great a Mom you are or if he's raised spoiled or not, so prepare for that. Im not having any kids, I think i'll just stick with animals. Not that I don't like kids cause I do and for some reason kids just looove me. But its just not for me, I wish more ppl who are just not meant to be parents realized that. I see it alot here, bad parenting.
i say kids need a good old fashion spanking. i know that sounds horrible. but i mean spanking, not beating. like just one good pop on the bum. i know its looked down upon but in alot of cases it may stop the problem. but again i just mean one good pop on the bum, no more than that. usualy the kid learns after one and more than one is excessive to me (id know from my mother)
The kids and teens are playing up because the parents are either neglecting them or not displaying enough love and affection for them.
Once a parent captures his/her childs heart it is then easier for the parents to discipline the child. A parent who doesn't draw a line between love and spoiling the child also is neglecting the child because the kid deserves to have boundaries as it will help him/her and prepare him/her for later life. Parenting... Its probably the hardest job ever!
that's why you need strong parents.... I pashtun from Afghanistan and I used you do allot of bad thing but what kept me grounded was the FEAR of getting my ass whooped! parents have multiple use for there boots 1. to wear 2. to ass whoop your kids.
What is this world coming to? I used tutor little girls before but I stopped because one of the little girl who was 8 was giving me attitudes , she was being rude and very impolite. When I asked her Mom to speak to her, her mom got mad at me and said that her daughter was an angel and I did something wrong. I felt so bad, I stopped tutoring. I don't have kids of my own but I think I know what bad behavior is. I have no rights to discipline some one else kid but I can expect it from the mom.
In short....Mothers out there, please listen to your kids teacher. We are not trying to complain but it is your responsibility to teach your kids from right to wrong and not support them when they are doing something wrong. WOW.....blabbered a lot!!
Every child is innocent and it is up to the parent to give them proper guidance. May Allah guide all parents out there.
I was already scared for my future kids (Inshallah, one day I will be a mother), but now u scared me even more. Didn't think THAT far!! Should I bring an innocent life to this cruel world??
yea i'm scared to hve children now..lol..if tihins r like dis now..imagine in bout 10 more years..yea i dunt wanna tink bout it..pretty scary..i'm reli reli scared for the next generation...Allahu A'laam (Allah knows the best)..pray evryting is alrite InshaAllah.. for my little nieces n nephews, n if i hve children of my own inshaAllah...
islamic school isnt all its cracked up to be either though... the majority of kids that come to islamic school are the ones that need reformation in the first place... parents have put the kids in islamic school b/c they're scared.... so if a child who isnt such a bad apple so to speak is caught in the middle, bad habits will rub off
@ka7qur I completely agree with you - speaking from teaching experience, I've personally found that Islamic schools are often far worse than non-faith ones.. unfortunately 'those in charge' are often not concerned about the students but more concerned with lining their pockets. Ah I could go on about this...
i know right? i've been to islamic school from gr 7-12 and it wasn't that bad. but that was a few years ago. now my little sisters are going and i think theyve gotten a little worse rather than better since they switched from public school. but i guess it depends on who you hang out with. u cant exactly control who ur child will be friends with UNLESS u train them from the getgo on how to make sensible choices. thats why the Prophet (SAW) said that the mother's lap is the first school of a child
im sorry guys my comments are like a lecture,but by reading this maybe it will make other parents think,we need to let our children know whos BOSS! there are no best friends than parents thats what i tell my children all the time yes they will have good friends but only parents can and will be best friends!
I agree with you; having and showing an active interest in your children's lives would definitely make a difference. Unfortunately, a lot of the parents out there simply don't, due to hectic lifestyles (for which they can't necessarily be blamed) or sheer disinterest. In order for things to improve in society, relationships have to improve in the home first. The relationship we have with our kids is vital to determining what kinds of adults they'll grow up to be. Thank u for your comments!
and our kids know that so thats why i say about being on top of things,being informed about things that go on in school,to be honest i think our children are our responsibillity,i mean as parents its our duty to lead them to the right path and to make sure they become good human beings,i mean if we make the decision to have children then we should be ready to be resposible,so this is my experience coz as kids grow worrys grow too,but let them know that we are hundred percent with them
we have to know who their friends are and who they hang around with and who the kids are in their classes,in fact i know and have met all my childrens friends and we go to each others houses as family friends coz this is important to and also any letters they get or anything they need signing by parents they should know that parents will find out anyway and also school contact numbers both me and my hubby have the schools numbers
i know its hard but we have to try to give them more time than anything else and boost their confident so that they can handle little things,well thats what me and my hubby do,we always talk to them especially when we have our tea tiogether we discuss the smallest issues and the most biggest issues and they know that they come home from school or college and they can talk to us openly
by being on top of things i mean that we have to get involved with the school more,like go to every event in school,make appointments to meet the teachers more often just to know how our kids are doing in school,keep telling our kids what is right and wrong,discussing things about school with them so that the kids know that they have to come home and talk to the parents about any kind of issue thats going on in school,
salam sister,im a mother to teenage kids,i have a daughter whos 18 now mashallah and son who is 15 mashallah and little son who is 9,now i understand what you are saying and you are so right that its very worrying for us parents and we all want the best for our children,but you see in my experience we parents have to be on top of things
The majority of school girls ive known over the years are either young mothers (some giving birth as early as14yrs) or expecting. Out of all of them, im the only one thats married. -- I cant help but wonder, are the parents likly to stay together n how will the child be raised.
oh definitely... most of the 'disturbed' kids I speak to come from single-parent homes, unfortunately. One child's parent had split as his mum had tried to kill him! He was on the 'violent kids' list so I had to be careful with how I treated him. So sad.
kids are thought at a young age to not to respect authorities such as their parents, guardians, elders, and God, yes God! Rather they should rebel against them a be lawless. They are thought to be self-center and do what ever they want and break "traditions"" meaning rules and follow their untamed desires, thus when these kids become adults, the cycle continues.
thank god i live in malaysia coz i have seen the atmosphere in british schools,i would know coz im a british pakistani muslim.inshaAllah my kids gonna be safe over here!
adk03ful 2 weeks ago in playlist Vlogs
I think it comes from home. Both parents are working in our society nowadays. No one is there for them. Who is? The gangs! Who, coincidentally, also have no one else at home. That and the fact that the media is raising them. The only way to fix it is to have a parent at home. Unfortunately, this is relatively impossible because the economic situation is miserable these days. It is turning into a dangerous cycle.
AmandeDeAmerique 3 months ago
I think that's why we need to be strict on them...
Reeminy98 6 months ago
There are two places that people have no real choice to attend...school & prison. Kids should learn happily at home first, finding real friends is not a problem, later on they'll have more idea what to pursue & happily attend a college etc...but now we force kids to be close to disruptive bullies who normally they'd do their best to avoid outside school. Kids should be taught as individuals, not in a group because everyone is different.
pardonmygenie 6 months ago
Salam sister, what hijab is this? And do u have a tutorial for it?? :)))) mekhzi
ChanelRose85 8 months ago
I dont think one can blame anyone perse, or fingerpoint and say "oh its the parents fault or the teachers fault". Its the environment and the media which changes and corrupts kids and everyone else, especialy when one doesnt not have a strong base.
ChanelRose85 9 months ago
Schools are getting out of hand nowadays.
pashun88 10 months ago
not that our schools are perfect here in jordan but i'm glad i have my kids here and not in england or the states... just because i hear of horror stories in schools abroad.. but i may be wrong.. it is very difficult choice i do think we have a very powerful tool... DUA.. inshallah allah will protect them.
hajeh 11 months ago
I bet no one thinks their beloved litle boy will grow up to be a thieving junkie or a whore beating pimp or worse but it happens no matter how great a Mom you are or if he's raised spoiled or not, so prepare for that. Im not having any kids, I think i'll just stick with animals. Not that I don't like kids cause I do and for some reason kids just looove me. But its just not for me, I wish more ppl who are just not meant to be parents realized that. I see it alot here, bad parenting.
Puddycat11385 1 year ago
i say kids need a good old fashion spanking. i know that sounds horrible. but i mean spanking, not beating. like just one good pop on the bum. i know its looked down upon but in alot of cases it may stop the problem. but again i just mean one good pop on the bum, no more than that. usualy the kid learns after one and more than one is excessive to me (id know from my mother)
MorbidAma 1 year ago
The kids and teens are playing up because the parents are either neglecting them or not displaying enough love and affection for them.
Once a parent captures his/her childs heart it is then easier for the parents to discipline the child. A parent who doesn't draw a line between love and spoiling the child also is neglecting the child because the kid deserves to have boundaries as it will help him/her and prepare him/her for later life. Parenting... Its probably the hardest job ever!
moneydollarznmore 1 year ago
i really think women look so pretty with the veil. i dont knw why other people talk so much crap about them and say that its unfair to wear them.
gothickchik13 1 year ago
my bro got chased with a knife
HijabAdikt 1 year ago
that's why you need strong parents.... I pashtun from Afghanistan and I used you do allot of bad thing but what kept me grounded was the FEAR of getting my ass whooped! parents have multiple use for there boots 1. to wear 2. to ass whoop your kids.
arfanullah 1 year ago
you don't even know how funny i find the close-up black and white with "scary" music. ahhah.
LeftyHandedGuns 1 year ago
What is this world coming to? I used tutor little girls before but I stopped because one of the little girl who was 8 was giving me attitudes , she was being rude and very impolite. When I asked her Mom to speak to her, her mom got mad at me and said that her daughter was an angel and I did something wrong. I felt so bad, I stopped tutoring. I don't have kids of my own but I think I know what bad behavior is. I have no rights to discipline some one else kid but I can expect it from the mom.
sonyaahasan 1 year ago
In short....Mothers out there, please listen to your kids teacher. We are not trying to complain but it is your responsibility to teach your kids from right to wrong and not support them when they are doing something wrong. WOW.....blabbered a lot!!
Every child is innocent and it is up to the parent to give them proper guidance. May Allah guide all parents out there.
sonyaahasan 1 year ago
the best thing for children is to keep making duas for them as the best most accepted dua is the one made by a mother to her child.
flower3990 1 year ago
I was already scared for my future kids (Inshallah, one day I will be a mother), but now u scared me even more. Didn't think THAT far!! Should I bring an innocent life to this cruel world??
bismillaislam 2 years ago 3
word!!! lol
yea i'm scared to hve children now..lol..if tihins r like dis now..imagine in bout 10 more years..yea i dunt wanna tink bout it..pretty scary..i'm reli reli scared for the next generation...Allahu A'laam (Allah knows the best)..pray evryting is alrite InshaAllah.. for my little nieces n nephews, n if i hve children of my own inshaAllah...
preciouspearl9 2 years ago
n yea i tink all the Muslim children shud n must go to Islamic school...its btter tht way i tink :S..lol
btw ..where did the chidren find a iron at school? lol..
preciouspearl9 2 years ago
islamic school isnt all its cracked up to be either though... the majority of kids that come to islamic school are the ones that need reformation in the first place... parents have put the kids in islamic school b/c they're scared.... so if a child who isnt such a bad apple so to speak is caught in the middle, bad habits will rub off
ka7qur 2 years ago
@ka7qur I completely agree with you - speaking from teaching experience, I've personally found that Islamic schools are often far worse than non-faith ones.. unfortunately 'those in charge' are often not concerned about the students but more concerned with lining their pockets. Ah I could go on about this...
Amenakin 2 years ago
i know right? i've been to islamic school from gr 7-12 and it wasn't that bad. but that was a few years ago. now my little sisters are going and i think theyve gotten a little worse rather than better since they switched from public school. but i guess it depends on who you hang out with. u cant exactly control who ur child will be friends with UNLESS u train them from the getgo on how to make sensible choices. thats why the Prophet (SAW) said that the mother's lap is the first school of a child
ka7qur 2 years ago
those were some great words of wisdom......
monifahkiani1 2 years ago
asalam3alaikum dear sister,
I often thought about the same issue and it worries me although i dont have any children yet..
but i believe that being conscious about the childs education form the very beginning or even before is crucial.
I believe that bringing up children by actively conveying islamic values can prevent the spoilage of a child. what do you think?
lots of love
ps I ADORE you forgive me, i dont want to be strange,but you seem to be a really beautiful person, inside and outside
FlourishingMoss 2 years ago 2
can u do tutoral for this please... its gorgeous!!!
MsNazzii 2 years ago
@MsNazzii this tutorial is now up, it's called 'the neat style'
Amenakin 2 years ago
wow this style of hijab is soo smart mashallah u really suit it can u please do a tutorial for it... !!!
MsNazzii 2 years ago
can you do a hijab tutorial for this? x You look very preety
xkhadzxq 2 years ago
@xkhadzxq this tutorial is now up, it's called 'the neat style'
Amenakin 2 years ago
im sorry guys my comments are like a lecture,but by reading this maybe it will make other parents think,we need to let our children know whos BOSS! there are no best friends than parents thats what i tell my children all the time yes they will have good friends but only parents can and will be best friends!
bewafalarki 2 years ago
I agree with you; having and showing an active interest in your children's lives would definitely make a difference. Unfortunately, a lot of the parents out there simply don't, due to hectic lifestyles (for which they can't necessarily be blamed) or sheer disinterest. In order for things to improve in society, relationships have to improve in the home first. The relationship we have with our kids is vital to determining what kinds of adults they'll grow up to be. Thank u for your comments!
Amenakin 2 years ago
and our kids know that so thats why i say about being on top of things,being informed about things that go on in school,to be honest i think our children are our responsibillity,i mean as parents its our duty to lead them to the right path and to make sure they become good human beings,i mean if we make the decision to have children then we should be ready to be resposible,so this is my experience coz as kids grow worrys grow too,but let them know that we are hundred percent with them
bewafalarki 2 years ago
we have to know who their friends are and who they hang around with and who the kids are in their classes,in fact i know and have met all my childrens friends and we go to each others houses as family friends coz this is important to and also any letters they get or anything they need signing by parents they should know that parents will find out anyway and also school contact numbers both me and my hubby have the schools numbers
bewafalarki 2 years ago
i know its hard but we have to try to give them more time than anything else and boost their confident so that they can handle little things,well thats what me and my hubby do,we always talk to them especially when we have our tea tiogether we discuss the smallest issues and the most biggest issues and they know that they come home from school or college and they can talk to us openly
bewafalarki 2 years ago
by being on top of things i mean that we have to get involved with the school more,like go to every event in school,make appointments to meet the teachers more often just to know how our kids are doing in school,keep telling our kids what is right and wrong,discussing things about school with them so that the kids know that they have to come home and talk to the parents about any kind of issue thats going on in school,
bewafalarki 2 years ago
salam sister,im a mother to teenage kids,i have a daughter whos 18 now mashallah and son who is 15 mashallah and little son who is 9,now i understand what you are saying and you are so right that its very worrying for us parents and we all want the best for our children,but you see in my experience we parents have to be on top of things
bewafalarki 2 years ago
hey any chance you can do a tutorial on the way you have worn your scaf on this tutorial of who'sresponsibility the children are? its really cool! x
missish83 2 years ago
I know what you mean about your concerns and bad children my school was one of them...
iwantalaptopnow 2 years ago
i like the way you've wrapped your scarf here x
faz78626 2 years ago
thanks faz
Amenakin 2 years ago
The majority of school girls ive known over the years are either young mothers (some giving birth as early as14yrs) or expecting. Out of all of them, im the only one thats married. -- I cant help but wonder, are the parents likly to stay together n how will the child be raised.
umhasoomi 2 years ago
oh definitely... most of the 'disturbed' kids I speak to come from single-parent homes, unfortunately. One child's parent had split as his mum had tried to kill him! He was on the 'violent kids' list so I had to be careful with how I treated him. So sad.
Amenakin 2 years ago
oh my goodness!
iwantalaptopnow 2 years ago
kids are thought at a young age to not to respect authorities such as their parents, guardians, elders, and God, yes God! Rather they should rebel against them a be lawless. They are thought to be self-center and do what ever they want and break "traditions"" meaning rules and follow their untamed desires, thus when these kids become adults, the cycle continues.
greennoor 2 years ago
im hoping i can homeschool ;-)
FamilyOfThreeNow 2 years ago 3