This is gonna be annoying, (maybe I just feel that way when I get complimented) but I love your personality. I love your views. You're comfortable and honest and happy about who you are, which I envy SO MUCH. You're HILARIOUS as well - I've been laughing my ass off for the past hour watching your videos. You're a unique soul. Ok, I'm done. :-P
I can understand pretty much everything you said in this. For me the question would be: do you allow your partner the same freedom? That's an important point. Or is it only you, who is allowed to end up kissing so. else?
This video totally articulated everything I've been feeling about my own sexuality lately. My partner and I just recently opened up our relationship and I love living a more truthful and authentic life. I wish I could meet you in person, I think we'd be friends :)
I feel exactly like this. in fact i often fantasize about having a three person relationship. I want to get married and have children some day, but i hope i can do it with a partner (or partners) that has the same openness as this.
I don't ever want to 'settle down' &, personally, I dislike the term. I want to jump around & be awesome until I die. I'd LOVE to share my awesome jumping experiences with other partners, too. The more the merrier! Nothing against those who are in favour of 'settling down'; it's just not for me. I don't think there's just one person for everyone; I think we meet and enjoy partnerships with many people, and when (if ever) these partnerships end, we can happily move on to the next one.
Well i'm definitely not alienated, I can identify with a lot of the things you've said here :-) most of my bi friends are non-monogamous!
I really agree with what you've said about seeking happiness and not relying on other people for that. So yeah, you're not alone dude! If you're ever in the UK around September time check out BiCon I think you'd like it
There's a difference in saying you'll be with someone forever because it's what's your supposed to say and actually knowing that you've found the person you're going to spend your life with.Which is why you hear about couples who got engaged after 2 weeks (like my parents and all my aunts/uncles) staying together and couples who got engaged after 2 years divorcing. And not everyone finds that person, and that's alright, they just shouldn't get married.
I'm sort of the opposite of you. I'm a bad bisexual because, while monogamy is, like, in my DNA (and I want to say "this is my girlfriend" and sex comes second), I catch myself identifying as a lesbian because I'm, like, 95:5 gay-straight. I'd almost say homoflexible if I thought that word made any sense. So I sort of perpetuate the idea that all bisexuals are attention-whory straight chicks or ashamed lesbians. I'm not ashamed; I just really prefer there to be boobs.
Exactly. What a relationship is and trust and love, it's all so manufactured these days, shrunk-rapped in heteronormativity and monogamy. Where's the sincerity in something that's so synthetic? Not to discredit heterosexuals or monogamy, but the norms that they set can be very restricting to someone who feels differently. You bring up so many valid arguments about sexuality that many people are too afraid to voice and it makes you such an awesome person. Thank you.
Well said. I think as bi folk we have extra pressure on us to be monogamous, because of the stereotype that we need to be involved with both genders to be satisfied. And we want to prove the stereotypes wrong, right?? But the truth is so much more complex than that. Kudos to you for standing up for your beliefs, and I hope it brings more acceptance of the poly folk in the bi community! More power to ya!!
I totally feel you...sometimes its doesn't matter how well you explain it, people just don't get it. person: "so, you're bisexual?" me: "yup." Person: "And you're engaged to a girl?" me: "yup." person: "And she's bisexual?" me: "yup." person: "but you're both polyamorous?" me: "yup!" person: "wait...I don't get it." me: -_____-
It's not your fault if people take YOUR sexuality and assume that's how it is for all bisexuals. I'm strictly monogamous (and bi) myself, but as long as everything is consensual and honest and between adults, why should people have a problem with it? It's their sexuality and their life, not yours. What sense is it to try to force your sexuality on someone else? No one's getting hurt here. People really need to be more accepting. Nice video. :)
While watching the video I thought about how to put my agreement with your words into textform while the things you said that I highly identify with grew and grew even further.
So you do not represent bisexuals, but you definitely could represent me and my position on this. Especially the way you defined a relationship and how it is bound to change over time with it's participants. Oh god and the bit about day to day hapiness too.
I can't express how much I would like to get intoxicated and talk with you! About everything, including but not limited to sex and philosophy and social/cultural/political shenanigans...you are a fantastic human being, and I so appreciate and respect your genuineness. fuck yeah.
5:02 "I just want everyone to be terrified of loving me. That's a good plan, right?" It's hard to be BI+poly/non-monogamous. I'm also an atheist. The trifecta of things people don't understand.
It does suck, though, to be yourself and have people mistakenly think you're some kind of example of all bisexuals. And, I'd agree that the vast majority or bisexuals I know are totally monogamous (and happily so) and even most of the poly people I know are equally as wholesome.
When I felt like I wasn't into monogamy (It's changed for me since), I stayed out of relationships and set down my rules from the get-go. It's obviously somewhat different than your situation but I avoided falling in love or getting close enough to people to lead them on, because I felt so bad if it got to that point.
It's not your responsibility to represent everyone. Live your life by the rules which honestly make you happy. You're entirely right. :)
I completely understand when you talk about kissing someone else yet loving someone else. A drunken kiss, heck a drunken fuck, it well just a kiss and a fuck. It is pleasure. Doesn't mean we can't love someone else as well.
This is gonna be annoying, (maybe I just feel that way when I get complimented) but I love your personality. I love your views. You're comfortable and honest and happy about who you are, which I envy SO MUCH. You're HILARIOUS as well - I've been laughing my ass off for the past hour watching your videos. You're a unique soul. Ok, I'm done. :-P
TheDarkestStarRMS 2 weeks ago
@TheDarkestStarRMS aw that wasn't annoying at all! Thanks so much!
RitchandFamous 2 weeks ago
I can understand pretty much everything you said in this. For me the question would be: do you allow your partner the same freedom? That's an important point. Or is it only you, who is allowed to end up kissing so. else?
nanu1980 3 weeks ago
@nanu1980 No, I'd never ask for monogamy from someone. I wouldn't want it, even if it were fair.
RitchandNaked 3 weeks ago
This video totally articulated everything I've been feeling about my own sexuality lately. My partner and I just recently opened up our relationship and I love living a more truthful and authentic life. I wish I could meet you in person, I think we'd be friends :)
pencilppl 1 month ago
I feel exactly like this. in fact i often fantasize about having a three person relationship. I want to get married and have children some day, but i hope i can do it with a partner (or partners) that has the same openness as this.
yuugiho 2 months ago
I don't ever want to 'settle down' &, personally, I dislike the term. I want to jump around & be awesome until I die. I'd LOVE to share my awesome jumping experiences with other partners, too. The more the merrier! Nothing against those who are in favour of 'settling down'; it's just not for me. I don't think there's just one person for everyone; I think we meet and enjoy partnerships with many people, and when (if ever) these partnerships end, we can happily move on to the next one.
WarmLittleDiamond90 3 months ago 2
You articulated everything I feel about sexuality and monogamy with great ease and charm. Thank you for this; it's nice to not feel so alone.
historiesinrust 4 months ago 2
Well i'm definitely not alienated, I can identify with a lot of the things you've said here :-) most of my bi friends are non-monogamous!
I really agree with what you've said about seeking happiness and not relying on other people for that. So yeah, you're not alone dude! If you're ever in the UK around September time check out BiCon I think you'd like it
purplefrog42 4 months ago
monosexuals suck!
makmegs 4 months ago
There's a difference in saying you'll be with someone forever because it's what's your supposed to say and actually knowing that you've found the person you're going to spend your life with.Which is why you hear about couples who got engaged after 2 weeks (like my parents and all my aunts/uncles) staying together and couples who got engaged after 2 years divorcing. And not everyone finds that person, and that's alright, they just shouldn't get married.
shanaleex 4 months ago
I'm sort of the opposite of you. I'm a bad bisexual because, while monogamy is, like, in my DNA (and I want to say "this is my girlfriend" and sex comes second), I catch myself identifying as a lesbian because I'm, like, 95:5 gay-straight. I'd almost say homoflexible if I thought that word made any sense. So I sort of perpetuate the idea that all bisexuals are attention-whory straight chicks or ashamed lesbians. I'm not ashamed; I just really prefer there to be boobs.
LokcedUot 4 months ago
Exactly. What a relationship is and trust and love, it's all so manufactured these days, shrunk-rapped in heteronormativity and monogamy. Where's the sincerity in something that's so synthetic? Not to discredit heterosexuals or monogamy, but the norms that they set can be very restricting to someone who feels differently. You bring up so many valid arguments about sexuality that many people are too afraid to voice and it makes you such an awesome person. Thank you.
shannonelizabeth91 4 months ago
Well said. I think as bi folk we have extra pressure on us to be monogamous, because of the stereotype that we need to be involved with both genders to be satisfied. And we want to prove the stereotypes wrong, right?? But the truth is so much more complex than that. Kudos to you for standing up for your beliefs, and I hope it brings more acceptance of the poly folk in the bi community! More power to ya!!
fergonzo27 4 months ago
I don't think this is an exception to most bisexuals, or most any-sexual people. It's just a personality thing individual of sexuality.
RyuuMakato42 4 months ago
AWESOME!!
chenoamonster 4 months ago
I totally feel you...sometimes its doesn't matter how well you explain it, people just don't get it. person: "so, you're bisexual?" me: "yup." Person: "And you're engaged to a girl?" me: "yup." person: "And she's bisexual?" me: "yup." person: "but you're both polyamorous?" me: "yup!" person: "wait...I don't get it." me: -_____-
tvanymesic 4 months ago
It's not your fault if people take YOUR sexuality and assume that's how it is for all bisexuals. I'm strictly monogamous (and bi) myself, but as long as everything is consensual and honest and between adults, why should people have a problem with it? It's their sexuality and their life, not yours. What sense is it to try to force your sexuality on someone else? No one's getting hurt here. People really need to be more accepting. Nice video. :)
poodlestyle33 4 months ago 2
I friggin LOVE the stuff that's in your head.
While watching the video I thought about how to put my agreement with your words into textform while the things you said that I highly identify with grew and grew even further.
So you do not represent bisexuals, but you definitely could represent me and my position on this. Especially the way you defined a relationship and how it is bound to change over time with it's participants. Oh god and the bit about day to day hapiness too.
:)
ruolbu 4 months ago
ok, this one is awesome!
I was trying to explain this stuff to a lot of people too.
you were going toward this issue, I think, and finally you posted. !
ghematriah 4 months ago
privilegedenyingdude(dot)tumblr(dot)com/post/10738358428
sillyyetsuccinct 4 months ago
@sillyyetsuccinct He's so right
RitchandFamous 4 months ago
I can't express how much I would like to get intoxicated and talk with you! About everything, including but not limited to sex and philosophy and social/cultural/political shenanigans...you are a fantastic human being, and I so appreciate and respect your genuineness. fuck yeah.
timeslush 4 months ago
5:02 "I just want everyone to be terrified of loving me. That's a good plan, right?" It's hard to be BI+poly/non-monogamous. I'm also an atheist. The trifecta of things people don't understand.
It does suck, though, to be yourself and have people mistakenly think you're some kind of example of all bisexuals. And, I'd agree that the vast majority or bisexuals I know are totally monogamous (and happily so) and even most of the poly people I know are equally as wholesome.
fuzzynippleman 4 months ago
When I felt like I wasn't into monogamy (It's changed for me since), I stayed out of relationships and set down my rules from the get-go. It's obviously somewhat different than your situation but I avoided falling in love or getting close enough to people to lead them on, because I felt so bad if it got to that point.
It's not your responsibility to represent everyone. Live your life by the rules which honestly make you happy. You're entirely right. :)
hylareca 4 months ago
I completely understand when you talk about kissing someone else yet loving someone else. A drunken kiss, heck a drunken fuck, it well just a kiss and a fuck. It is pleasure. Doesn't mean we can't love someone else as well.
TheLastDorrito 4 months ago
Monogmay was all about property and money.
Maverynthia 4 months ago
Ritchrosexuality
Zombwynne 4 months ago