and i was just reading that research shows that relationships with women are good for ur health regardless of ur gender; but relationships w/ men are not as impactful
i agree with this video 110%. I hate when women talk about having more male friends, b/c women "are backstabbers" and "two-faced" and all this other negative shit. NOT EVERY FEMALE IS LIKE THAT!!!
I think some women just feel threatened by other females, so being around all males eliminates that kind of competition. I don't know for sure, but that's my guess. All I know is that Im sick of hearing the majority of women say this. Its pitiful. I happen to enjoy having female friends.
Hell Yes!! I'm glad she's talking about this, because women need to hear it!
The women who constantly say that are the ones who seem to stir up the most shit and are always at odds with someone. They can't get along with other females b/c THEY'RE the antagonist....and they're too dense and brainless to see it.
You are just always on point. I love your commentary. I admire your realness. This video gets a thumbs up. When you develop a real good sister-friend relationship you have to cultivate & hang onto it because those sisters will get you through any & everything. I wrote a book specifically about that. When you develop a friendship with a black woman, a real homegirl...that's loyalty like no other. You can't by that on 5th Avenue. You can't drill in the ocean and get it. That's magic!
who ever the lady is that told you that foolishness, need to realize that there are men that gossip more than women. there are men that get into everyone's business more than women. there is men that talk a lot more than women. there some women that always claim: i don't have women friends. while majority of their visitors are women. the lady that told me that is white. there are good friends, race has nothing to do with it.
I have to disagree. I have tried to forge friendships with women but it seems as if they just don't want to be bothered. I only have 2 and would like to have more. However, then again maybe there is something wrong with me.
I'm a sista and find that my relationships with female friends die out because they seem to be in competition with me. Which I find strange. Or they are jealous of me. I usually don't get catch on till later. But sometimes we have to weed out certain things we see in people in the beginning
many women are very, very competitive wiht one another(skin color, finances, hair, relationship status), the friend issue can vary by geographic location, yes it's not a race thing, and I know for a fact some married women with treat single women like outcasts.....I find it much easier to be friends with men, and I must say white men on the job have always treated me better than BM or other BW. AS it's great you have good friends and associates......
I look @ myself. I notice dat "flaws" dat I hav, people deal wit them, wit otha people. I AM shy, quiet wen I 1st meet U(I will spark small conversation somtime) but I'm an ok lookin dark skin female, & I'm really kool. Wen females c me(doesnt matta wat race,age) they automatically turn they lips up. It hurts, cuz like I sed, things I c cud b a turn off wit me, people wil choose otha females wit same "flaws" & jus not like me. wat cud it b?
i have trouble keeping women friends. they start out nice, but then they hate me. i have been trying to be nice, and thoughtful, but i just had another issue w/ one of my close friends. i told her "im uncomfortable being around her" about a chick that talks shit on me, and my "friend" put this chick right in my face so i walked out of my job. i dont hate women, but they seem to hate me. so im looking at myself and i think that its the type of women that i hang out with. i agree w/ you lady!
i agree with you 100% i watch reality shows sometimes and i wonder why the women always have problems with each other i always thought they just felt that they have to be protective around other women and you explained it to me because i never understood why, but i completely agree with you, you are so right!!
I don't agree! Although I have a few female friends, & I do MEAN FRIENDS, Not Associates! They tend to be much older than me! Women tend to want to gossip, talk about their men or other Bullshit! Frankly I have better things to do with my time! Feed me something that will enrich my life, Don't want to spend time doing things that won't allow me to grow! However, in passing, I get along just fine with Most Women!
@AtlantaSista, I LOVE YOU, LADY! I don't have a response to this video but I always love your messages. I am writing you because I have a group of young Black women that I work with in my community in Jacksonville,Fl that I KNOW could benefit from your Knowledge and Wisdom. Would you be willing to come as a guest speaker for these girls? We are a fairly new non profit group and we would LOVE to welcome you. I hope that you will take into consideration. shawnamassey52@yahoo.com. Thank You!
When I was a resident adviser in undergrad, there were many young girls who would almost pride themselves on not having female friends. I agree with you 100%, women need each other, and if you aren't getting along with any of them, there's a problem with you, not women in general. Women, and not just black women, have got to stop tearing each other down. Kudos, girly!
I am new at YouTube and have not made any videos yet but will soon. I think we need to learn not react to negativity by other women by hiding from it and therefore hurting ourselves by staying isolated . Learning to love people where they are in life is the essential key. Female friendships are just as Male-Female relationships in that we just don't want to do the work to clean up the mess in the midst of us so we take the easy road out and just avoid each other.
I like the part you say about something being wrong with females having only male friends. I don't think it's healthy either for males just to have female friends only. A truly healthy person needs friendship and support with same sex people as well as the opposite sex. Although I think it's true to that some people gravitate more towards members of the opposite sex for love and friendship, than the same sex, and vice versa.
Excelllent! I cherish my woman friends. They are real with me. I treasure my Girlfriends of all races. But I must admit, because we as BW are so hard on each other, I especially treasure my AA girlfriends. I lost my BGF years ago to cancer and miss her very much.
It makes me sad that my enthusiasm about making a new AA GF's brings up homophobia in both of us. Our community is so homophobic.
I love Sisters cuz I love myself. And it took a long time to get there. I used to have mostly male friends. My Mom and I have a very toxic relationship. It took a long time for me to understand all BW weren't like her. To understand the nature of internalised sexism.
I also think the more right wing the religion, the more sexist. The more internalised sexism.
girl I worked for a company where I was the only femal. Men Keep UP JUST AS MUCH MESS AS WOMEN.IF NOT MORE..GOSSIPING, BACKBITING AND HATING..lol I promise you
And it is always the women that are troublemakers and drama queens that say that shit. I know this as a fact. When I look back on all of the women I have heard say this, they were the ones who caused drama, were liars, and were hoes lol. So basically women be about 10 seconds from whooping there ass so they go around saying that they don't fuck with women. They say, I only hang with niggas....blah blah blah lmao.
By the way, there is nothing like a good friend, regardless of gender, but to me--a woman--there is NOTHING like a good girlfriend. I think some women's insecurities keep them from forming close relationships with other women.
Amen. My best friend is a straight man, and I love him to death, and I can talk to him about anything, and he'll listen. However, he cannot relate to what's going on with my vagina if it ain't related to sex, just like I can't relate to why he likes to scratch his nuts, among other - not so crass things.There re just things women connect with other women about. I don't believe in strictly one sex friendships, either. We all need balance, in my opinion.
UGH! I cannot stand to hear women say they don't have women friends as if it's cute or cool. I say exactly what you said. Look in the mirror. Maybe it's YOU. I do agree that some women view EVERY woman as a competitor. Not every woman is jealous of you. Not every woman wants your man. UGH. That shit annoys me to no end!
You are SO on-point!!! I swear we share the same brain sometimes. :) You make me wanna do vids.
I agree b/c the common denominator in all of those relationships is "you" (the woman who have no female friends). Me and my girls are cool. I don't do drama. I have no patience for it.
This video is too funny. I seem to become friends with women like this. They always say they don't get along with women or they have no women friends. Well then how come there are always a group of us (women) that hang out together? Even in groups where its a bunch of men and two women the women get together they don't keep their distance. Seems very strange.
Its really funny how all of these so called "men" are discussing women issues. When did they learn what it was to be a woman? There seems to be some confusion or gender issues masking itself as a plain old YouTube topic. They act like they want to be women. If any of them read this I suggest they watch this series on youtube called: The Effeminization of the Black Man. Usually men who hate women have mother issues. Or their just gay and can't accept it.
Allergy season is not better here, the weather is whipping up all kinds of things for the nose.
Anway, I love hanging with women. Here in Texas I can't get my sistas to wanna do anyting without getting upset with one another over silly ish. It's true drama is a major factor!
Some of my homegirls didn't want other women around the man, and some had the man that didn't trust the woman around her attractive friend. Laaawd...
Good Video but the word friend is so over rated female has issues in relationship period.
BRKS627 3 months ago
and i was just reading that research shows that relationships with women are good for ur health regardless of ur gender; but relationships w/ men are not as impactful
banana08216 9 months ago
i agree with this video 110%. I hate when women talk about having more male friends, b/c women "are backstabbers" and "two-faced" and all this other negative shit. NOT EVERY FEMALE IS LIKE THAT!!!
I think some women just feel threatened by other females, so being around all males eliminates that kind of competition. I don't know for sure, but that's my guess. All I know is that Im sick of hearing the majority of women say this. Its pitiful. I happen to enjoy having female friends.
piscesariescusp121 1 year ago
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piscesariescusp121 1 year ago
Its you fool, Its you. DAMN! LOL. U speakin the truth! U dont have any female friends because females dont like you, not because u dont like them.
breezybree06 1 year ago
Hell Yes!! I'm glad she's talking about this, because women need to hear it!
The women who constantly say that are the ones who seem to stir up the most shit and are always at odds with someone. They can't get along with other females b/c THEY'RE the antagonist....and they're too dense and brainless to see it.
piscesariescusp121 1 year ago
You are just always on point. I love your commentary. I admire your realness. This video gets a thumbs up. When you develop a real good sister-friend relationship you have to cultivate & hang onto it because those sisters will get you through any & everything. I wrote a book specifically about that. When you develop a friendship with a black woman, a real homegirl...that's loyalty like no other. You can't by that on 5th Avenue. You can't drill in the ocean and get it. That's magic!
AuthorTanya 1 year ago
who ever the lady is that told you that foolishness, need to realize that there are men that gossip more than women. there are men that get into everyone's business more than women. there is men that talk a lot more than women. there some women that always claim: i don't have women friends. while majority of their visitors are women. the lady that told me that is white. there are good friends, race has nothing to do with it.
keta4332 1 year ago
this needed to be said. I agree-we as women should stick together and support one another. peace!!
Rebekah7713 1 year ago
I have to disagree. I have tried to forge friendships with women but it seems as if they just don't want to be bothered. I only have 2 and would like to have more. However, then again maybe there is something wrong with me.
LaReginaPatrizia 2 years ago 3
Yeah more friends that actually be there for you then the ones that talk about you and hatin' on you too.
84cincityboy 2 years ago
i know i need more black female friends i dont have any right now =P all i got is black male friends one trini friend and thats it.
rewindfive 2 years ago
I'm a sista and find that my relationships with female friends die out because they seem to be in competition with me. Which I find strange. Or they are jealous of me. I usually don't get catch on till later. But sometimes we have to weed out certain things we see in people in the beginning
breakofdawn26 2 years ago 4
many women are very, very competitive wiht one another(skin color, finances, hair, relationship status), the friend issue can vary by geographic location, yes it's not a race thing, and I know for a fact some married women with treat single women like outcasts.....I find it much easier to be friends with men, and I must say white men on the job have always treated me better than BM or other BW. AS it's great you have good friends and associates......
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago
I look @ myself. I notice dat "flaws" dat I hav, people deal wit them, wit otha people. I AM shy, quiet wen I 1st meet U(I will spark small conversation somtime) but I'm an ok lookin dark skin female, & I'm really kool. Wen females c me(doesnt matta wat race,age) they automatically turn they lips up. It hurts, cuz like I sed, things I c cud b a turn off wit me, people wil choose otha females wit same "flaws" & jus not like me. wat cud it b?
kievia04 2 years ago
i have trouble keeping women friends. they start out nice, but then they hate me. i have been trying to be nice, and thoughtful, but i just had another issue w/ one of my close friends. i told her "im uncomfortable being around her" about a chick that talks shit on me, and my "friend" put this chick right in my face so i walked out of my job. i dont hate women, but they seem to hate me. so im looking at myself and i think that its the type of women that i hang out with. i agree w/ you lady!
myteetharebleeding 3 years ago
I don't have any black female friends because they are loud and obnoxious just like you.
missmonicab 3 years ago
LOL! Okay. Now what??? You expect me to go off on you and put your ass in check??? Nah ... do you! It is indeed your loss. Good luck to you!
AtlantaSistah 3 years ago 4
LOL good response to that nonsense! lol
cocoaisbeautiful 2 years ago
lol
crazygirlemmerz48 2 years ago
i agree with you 100% i watch reality shows sometimes and i wonder why the women always have problems with each other i always thought they just felt that they have to be protective around other women and you explained it to me because i never understood why, but i completely agree with you, you are so right!!
michmich1000 3 years ago
You are absolutely right!
haostrom 3 years ago
LECLARA 3 years ago 5
My life experience has taught me something different. Thanks for weighing in.
AtlantaSistah 3 years ago
@AtlantaSista, I LOVE YOU, LADY! I don't have a response to this video but I always love your messages. I am writing you because I have a group of young Black women that I work with in my community in Jacksonville,Fl that I KNOW could benefit from your Knowledge and Wisdom. Would you be willing to come as a guest speaker for these girls? We are a fairly new non profit group and we would LOVE to welcome you. I hope that you will take into consideration. shawnamassey52@yahoo.com. Thank You!
foxxybrownable 1 year ago
@foxxybrownable Just seeing your message. Would love to come. Let me know more about the group. Thanks.
AtlantaSistah 1 year ago
Being a HS guidance counselor, I see drama all of the time. Drama attracts drama!
wakawaka71 3 years ago
When I was a resident adviser in undergrad, there were many young girls who would almost pride themselves on not having female friends. I agree with you 100%, women need each other, and if you aren't getting along with any of them, there's a problem with you, not women in general. Women, and not just black women, have got to stop tearing each other down. Kudos, girly!
hwillis7 3 years ago
Hi, Atlantasistah
I am new at YouTube and have not made any videos yet but will soon. I think we need to learn not react to negativity by other women by hiding from it and therefore hurting ourselves by staying isolated . Learning to love people where they are in life is the essential key. Female friendships are just as Male-Female relationships in that we just don't want to do the work to clean up the mess in the midst of us so we take the easy road out and just avoid each other.
steelblacknolia 3 years ago
I like the part you say about something being wrong with females having only male friends. I don't think it's healthy either for males just to have female friends only. A truly healthy person needs friendship and support with same sex people as well as the opposite sex. Although I think it's true to that some people gravitate more towards members of the opposite sex for love and friendship, than the same sex, and vice versa.
rain73 3 years ago
Excelllent! I cherish my woman friends. They are real with me. I treasure my Girlfriends of all races. But I must admit, because we as BW are so hard on each other, I especially treasure my AA girlfriends. I lost my BGF years ago to cancer and miss her very much.
It makes me sad that my enthusiasm about making a new AA GF's brings up homophobia in both of us. Our community is so homophobic.
makezmuzic 3 years ago
I love Sisters cuz I love myself. And it took a long time to get there. I used to have mostly male friends. My Mom and I have a very toxic relationship. It took a long time for me to understand all BW weren't like her. To understand the nature of internalised sexism.
I also think the more right wing the religion, the more sexist. The more internalised sexism.
makezmuzic 3 years ago
girl I worked for a company where I was the only femal. Men Keep UP JUST AS MUCH MESS AS WOMEN.IF NOT MORE..GOSSIPING, BACKBITING AND HATING..lol I promise you
ZoeyAbena08 3 years ago 8
Yes, girl. men can be the epitome of bitchassness. LOL! I just did a video about it. LOL!
AtlantaSistah 3 years ago 3
And it is always the women that are troublemakers and drama queens that say that shit. I know this as a fact. When I look back on all of the women I have heard say this, they were the ones who caused drama, were liars, and were hoes lol. So basically women be about 10 seconds from whooping there ass so they go around saying that they don't fuck with women. They say, I only hang with niggas....blah blah blah lmao.
tlarenzo 3 years ago 2
True, so very true.
AtlantaSistah 3 years ago
Yep! They don't want women as friends because of who they are and what they're capable of.
lifeinterrupted 3 years ago
By the way, there is nothing like a good friend, regardless of gender, but to me--a woman--there is NOTHING like a good girlfriend. I think some women's insecurities keep them from forming close relationships with other women.
lifeinterrupted 3 years ago 2
Amen. My best friend is a straight man, and I love him to death, and I can talk to him about anything, and he'll listen. However, he cannot relate to what's going on with my vagina if it ain't related to sex, just like I can't relate to why he likes to scratch his nuts, among other - not so crass things.There re just things women connect with other women about. I don't believe in strictly one sex friendships, either. We all need balance, in my opinion.
heavenleiblu 3 years ago 2
UGH! I cannot stand to hear women say they don't have women friends as if it's cute or cool. I say exactly what you said. Look in the mirror. Maybe it's YOU. I do agree that some women view EVERY woman as a competitor. Not every woman is jealous of you. Not every woman wants your man. UGH. That shit annoys me to no end!
You are SO on-point!!! I swear we share the same brain sometimes. :) You make me wanna do vids.
Feel better!
lifeinterrupted 3 years ago
@lifeinterrupted good comment. Agreed!
Rebekah7713 1 year ago
I keep having this same damn conversation over and over w/ people. I'm tired of it, frankly. And the "It's not them, it's YOU" argument, too. SMH.
heavenleiblu 3 years ago
I agree b/c the common denominator in all of those relationships is "you" (the woman who have no female friends). Me and my girls are cool. I don't do drama. I have no patience for it.
tonyatunez 3 years ago
tony, oh so true! The common denominator is indeed the person staring right back at you in the morror! That pride is something serious!
lajablesse 3 years ago 2
This video is too funny. I seem to become friends with women like this. They always say they don't get along with women or they have no women friends. Well then how come there are always a group of us (women) that hang out together? Even in groups where its a bunch of men and two women the women get together they don't keep their distance. Seems very strange.
belleama 3 years ago
lol @ 'that's not cute"! You're right, that is sad.
pcrudup 3 years ago
Exellent points...
We are what we attract...
msdrella 3 years ago
Bham Weather is going crazy also - But I really understand / agree with u on this video..
RonaRandomRambling 3 years ago
It's hard to find good,true friends.
angeleye1998 3 years ago 4
Excellent vid. I so agree with you on this topic.
bestlife08 3 years ago 2
I got a question tho what if a blk woman has too many friends? Peace!!!
calliope3rdward 3 years ago
You can NEVER have too many FRIENDS. The key word is FRIENDS.
AtlantaSistah 3 years ago
Too much of anything can be as dangerous as too little. You gotta have balance. Peace!!!
calliope3rdward 3 years ago
OMG! I can't stand black ppl who demean black ppl in front of white ppl!!! You hit the nail right on the head!
youlovemeandiknowit 3 years ago 13
Its really funny how all of these so called "men" are discussing women issues. When did they learn what it was to be a woman? There seems to be some confusion or gender issues masking itself as a plain old YouTube topic. They act like they want to be women. If any of them read this I suggest they watch this series on youtube called: The Effeminization of the Black Man. Usually men who hate women have mother issues. Or their just gay and can't accept it.
Allergy Solution: A Neti Pot
GradieGreen 3 years ago 2
Right on sista!
I think sometimes women only have male friends, cuz the female friends they did have called them on the carpet about thier flaws.
Stay up my sista!
106harlem232 3 years ago
Allergy season is not better here, the weather is whipping up all kinds of things for the nose.
Anway, I love hanging with women. Here in Texas I can't get my sistas to wanna do anyting without getting upset with one another over silly ish. It's true drama is a major factor!
Some of my homegirls didn't want other women around the man, and some had the man that didn't trust the woman around her attractive friend. Laaawd...
Great vid!
Sahbisun 3 years ago