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  • I don't have any friends that are 'like me' because most of them don't like the same music as me and don't have the same style(but somehow we all come together). So I just talk to my dad because he was a lot like me when he was in school. He listened to rock and wore a lot of black and stuff like that. But I wouldn't really consider myself "goth" though. But I know my dad doesn't like the way I dress and I annoy him a lot, but he's always there for me when I need him. <3

  • You become a harder target and won't be bullied as much.

  • @0Th3CastOut0 So you're saying stop being yourself and enjoying yourself, because of what other people think? Sorry... But I'd never let that happen.

    In a way, that's what they WANT you to do. That would let the bullies win...

  • @ghostae138 if you red the comment completely i said the peaceful approach cant always be taken not that it shouldn't be taken, also i never said stop being yourself i said the opposite that you should always have confidence in yourself

  • @0Th3CastOut0 I'm sorry! I misunderstood!

    I only saw the second comment, not the first. I accidentally took it out of context, thinking you were referring to image, instead of defending yourself. I misinterpreted what you meant. I'm sorry... I feel bad now... lol

  • @ghostae138 haha it's ok I understand

  • I was bullied a lot in elementary school, physically as well as verbally, it only stopped when I took a stand for myself like a year after it began, you have a right to defend yourself and even if you lose you gain more respect for trying than cowering, didn't have a problem again until middle school, did the same thing, I agree with her views on how to stop getting bullied but the peaceful approach cant always be taken, but you should always have confidence in yourself, if you accept yourself

  • @SpiceAndWolfz500

    Go and tell someone. I know It's hard but you need to talk becose i was bullied last year and i went and see my teacher and talk to her and she phoned the guy's parent's and he never even talked to me anymore and never bullied anyone else so really, you need to tell someone, if they beat you up, take them to court and they'll shut there mouths.

  • just the other day I got suspended because I blew up on some assholes making "emo" jokes. when I got home and the principle called, my mom bitched him out and said she's removing me from the school. My advice would be is to tell your parents that they're bothering you. they help more than anyone else.

  • Well today 'twas my first dy of high school and I got bullied already. Want to know the reason y? Walking past the boys toilets the called me a f....$ng pig and I'm in yr 7 and there like in yr 10 so idk will some1 plz help me?

  • @SolidVermillion

    Thanks.. I really thank you for your advice :)

  • Ok so next year, im going in to college and im goth and im scared to be bullied...Becose first my brother don't accept me the way i am and he always tell me that next year i will get bully and maybe beated up. Can someone help me ?

  • @StyleShawn Why be scared? Do you feel attractive or proud that way? I have a lot of black clothing, skulls, light gore, etc. I'm not goth, however I do feel beautiful looking darker. Everyone says, "Oh, you should let your hair go blonde again," and in grade six, I was called "emo" for wearing a wristband. >.>

    I always just say I'm more comfortable this way. It's no concern of there's. If you get bullied, I don't suggest ignoring your feelings, or fighting back, just reply politely

  • Comments they don't bother me as much. I am happy with who I am. To anyone reading this, no matter what anyone else thinks, you are beautiful and have something to contribute to the world. Bullies are just ignorant and have nothing better to do and someday they way they treated people will come back to bite them on the ass

    Stay strong and I'm always able to chat to any of you about issues like this. You can message me if you want to chat :D

  • Good video and very helpful advice! -3

    I've been bullied on occasions in my life. I was born 3 months premature and I am naturally pale,skinny and have a heart shaped face. Because of these features I would constantly be made fun of when I was little like 10,11. I was called the scream and ET and I felt like utter crap. As I went into secondary school I become more into the gothic subculture in terms of aesthetic and music. I felt more comfortable with myself and although I get the occasional c

  • @MadCupcake38 I was a premie too! The weird thing is I'm super tall and when I wear heels I get strange looks because I'm bout 6'2" in them and am taller than everybody in school. But nevertheless, I think it's because people are jealous of you because they could never put themselves out there and express themselves the way we do. Even if they aren't goth, they need their friends surrounding them to be able to do anything.

  • What if u be nice to everyone for months and nothing changes or actually gets worse? Because i get bullied a lot because of how i act and how i dress and i think some people might actually think im a witch or something because once this one girl was saying that she didnt want me to "cast a spell on her or anything".

  • @bloodrayne5661 Eventually those bullies will realize how wrong they were to mistreat you and that you were in fact the better person the whole time. They probably already know it but just can't be mature enough to admit they're wrong. Carry on being nice to everyone no matter what because it won't go unnoticed and you'll be better off for it in the long run.

  • What people say, don't matter if you are happy with yourself. Good advice. ^_^

  • ive been bullied since i was at least 6 i think or younger by people in my school,i got spitted on,footballs kicked at me,my stuff stolen,my bag slashed,called emo,goth,slut,whore etc. and the stufgf about tellign a teacher or a parent is a lie because i told my parents before,they told the school and a week later,i got glass bottles and rocks thrown at me and my friend...they believe im a vampire because of my natural pale skin and decided to watch stop bullying videos and yours helped a lot!!!

  • <3

  • Bullies are assholes, I just ignore them and make laughs about them. They're the fools and clearly I'm happier than them by being myself. So glad I let their bullshit not get to me any more. What really bothers me though is being alone. I love comfort.

  • I'm a cybergoth who gets bullied a lot for the friends I have (mostly romantic goths) and for just being me. It's really hard for me to find a good response to bullies (there's not much dignity in cybergoth). I'm not really sure what to do.

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  • I am glad u made this video. I am bullied everyday at school, my teachers don't necessarily seem to care. I have told them countless times. Last year I was in trouble 1 time for an ex friend threatening a good friend of mine and they suspended me for 10 days yet people leave me notes telling me to kill myself they won't do anything at all about it, it just hurts and it makes me scared to even go to school I don't retaliate at all to them they just keep getting worse

  • My grandfather used to have this saying. "Someone bullies you in school ask them to stop if not... Bash the bully with the heaviest book in your backpack"

    ...It fucking works.

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  • I just ignore them 'till one day someone messed with my entire family I punched him hard on the face, his glasses fell down & cried LOL >:B

  • i got caled an emo once because the way i dressed the best thing u cud do is respond once theres a diffrence between emo and goth and ignore them if they keep coming back just be nice and dont be a jerk when someone asks yu a regular question sometimes yu will get bullied alot but dont take that out on someone who mite be plain curious just be nice play it cool and ignore someone if they keep bothering yu

  • I hate when people are bullying you because of how you look or dress. I mean really if you don't like what someone's wearing just move on with your day. I mean like if I don't like someone's shirt I don't go up to that person and be like hey man I hate your shirt! I just ignore it and move on with my day. Those people who come up to you to tell you that they don't like what your wearing or to bully you that's all they've got. They have no life. That is the best part of their day because they ar

  • i dont dress like a goth but people used to fuck with me for the way i dress. now im more confident, know how to fight, and am always ready for a fight. unfortunately not only do shitty people avoid me but so does everyone else. i think i come across as crazy . but im just trying to keep my self respect. 

  • I know you're super busy in school right now but I hope you're able to still make videos pretty often. I love your videos so much. Thank you for taking the time to make them. 

  • I'm not goth, but people that bully goths are half retarded. Why do they care how someone else dresses? How does the style of somebody else's clothing effect them in any way?

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  • I think most bullies grow up to be cops.

  • thx natilie this is very useful information

  • I've seen all ur vids! There truly amazing!! This is a great video! Thank u!:)

  • You are absolutely delightful!

  • Hey you know what, this isn't a very p-c response to the whole "bullying" topic but: I have a friend who was the runt of the litter- so to speak- who CONSTANTLY got bullied until one day he came up to the kid and said, "My dad has a gun, and the next time you bully me, I'm going to bring it to school and shoot you". Okay, that was 30 years ago, (obviously long before the whole Columbine thing) BUT IT WORKED. My friend never got bullied again- and he wasn't ACTUALLY going to bring in a gun.

  • I got bullied, I just said smiled and said thank you. Lol it was funny to see their faces go into a qustion mark. Plus now I don't see words like freak and weird as a bad thing. Oh well.. hope one day no one will be bullied. Being weird is a good thing! Remember that. Have a nice day everyone. Fyi Miss BatcaveDilemma: you are wonderful and love your look. Stay dark and beautiful. ^_^ If any one need help just messenge me and I will do anything I can :) Much love!

  • i use to be a bully at my school but i completely changed it just seemed like i grew up what was weird though was that i was the different one i dressed in all black and listened to death metal i always had a cannible corpse shirt on i got accused of being goth but i wasn't i still where the same kind of clothes till this day lol

  • Cool video and certainly a touchy issue. I've watched a lot of your videos and you seem like an intelligent girl with a lot of interesting things to say and some good advice, considering your age. I'm a bit older than you, I went to high school in the 80s, that's all you need to know, LOL. I had to deal with my share of bullies and smartasses too. I was a headbanger (Still am) which made me kind of an easy target. I would just say "fuck you" and give em the finger. Worked for me! LOL.

  • I have the same shirt! :)

  • what if your "friends" don't do anything and go along with the bully and laugh or just watch and don't do anything and most of them are making fun of you but they are nicer to you than any one els at that school. what should i do because i have tried for like 4 years now to kill it with kindness. and i still have to put on a fake smile every day. what should i do?

  • @AloiseRose Than I would say those are not your real friends. I would not even "hang" with them anymore. If they cant respect you enough to stick up for you or tell that person to knock it off, than their not worthy of hanging out with you. It may be hard to realize this, But trust me, been there done that, and I say its just better to cut your ties with them now. Save you the aggravation. Trust me when I say this, your better off alone than to deal with a bunch of trashy followers. F*ckem.

  • @laviah19 ok i will.

  • @AloiseRose Good luck hun. :)

  • I respectfully disagree. Kill them with niceness? I see where you're coming from. Theoretically you're right, but technically it doesn't work.Anger does work. But you have to follow up with it. Had a bully freshmen year in HS. Saw him after school in the parking lot once and went straight to him and told him, "what now". We got into a quick brawl, I kicked his ass. You need to stand up for yourself and take control of the situation.

  • @DrAstrophysics I agree with both you and Natalie. But I have to say this: When you respond with kindness, it's hilarious to watch their reaction. A lot of the time, they just draw a black and it's priceless XD.

  • I get judged wayyy to much -_- a girl told everyone in school i had a knife with me! o_O and the stupid people believed her.. and i was new to that school so nobody wanted to even be near me.. but those who got to know me stood by me :)

  • give him a punch?? :)

  • Thanks for posting this video. I adore you and your videos and I wish people in my area were more open minded towards the gothic subculture. I love all aspects of the subculture, Tim Burton is my favourite director of all time! Hope things are going well for you regarding your college life and just want to proclaim how awesome I think you are :D

  • I love watching your videos :) Im a 15 year old goth, and i get bullied a lot at school and also when I'm out. I live in a conservative community in Europe, so it's quite schocking when people see someone like me, I am used to it and it really does not bother me when people comment. I am proud of myself, and i have plenty of awesome friends, I am finding locals in my community the same age as me who are like me, and hang out with them instead of people in my grade! Ignore the ignorant :)

  • As a slightly older "goth" who has been through a lot of bullies, I can probably counsel baby-bats on how to deal with them.

    I'm a 23 year old university graduate, and while I don't have all the answers nor am I going to claim my life is anything much better than what it was before, I think that for the lot of you baby-bats, life will get much better for you than it did me. I'm here to listen and help if I can.

  • I love your vocabulary :D

    "Oh God I wish you'd get Lou Gehrig's disease and burn in a pit of fire"

    Where do you come up with that? It's so cool and quirky ^_^

  • @BubblegumMurder

    Wishing Lou Gehrig's on people they hate is something a friend of mine does and it cracks me up.

  • @BatcaveDilemma Hahaha! :D That's so cool, it's actually quite a satisfying thought to wish Lou Gehrig's on someone you hate ;) lol

  • @BatcaveDilemma im a dude and when i got black nail polish someone calls me gay, what do i have to say?!

  • @hansbananendans just say "and what's wrong with that?" even if you aren't gay, that person should not be an asshole homophobe about people who are...

  • @IllusiveOddity thnx :)

  • I'm kinda spamming your videos, sorry lol.

    Anyways I think that if there is no danger involved learning to devalue ignorant opinions really helps. Works with anything really. If someone is a jerk their opinion means less.

    On the other hand you could intentionally develop a severe anger deficiency syndrome complex lol..

    Anyways nice to see all's-well :)

  • yea being a chubby baby bat in junior high....not fun but almost all the kids who make fun of me have the stupidest come backs and they don't bother me any more

  • 3rd hehe 1st on last vid..

  • first view hehe. good advice !

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