Painful Sex - Should It Still Hurt?

[AmandaRayne123]

lube doesnt' do anything for pain. it makes it a bit

easier to get it in there but it still hurts

[maypakialam]

@AmandaRayne123 I finally realized that God is indeed a MALE because:

1.) If God is a female, she would never inflict women with painful intercourse. Her empathy towards women's feelings will always prevail.

2.) It is known in history that men treat women as property. So if God inflicts a woman with vaginismus, thick hymen or dry vagina, then her vagina is God's property to control the population.

Prime Vaginismus = nun's vagina or celibacy. I'm now an enlightened man.

[Cselestyna]

Okay I'm kind of disappointed in this response. there were some good things mentioned, but what about Vaginismus and Vulvodynia? these are two hugely un-talked about issues and it's so upsetting that it's just looked over, it's such an important part of female sexual issues and not enough people know about it, females included.

[Cselestyna]

it feels like he's yelling at me.

[fingerboy18]

I feel really bad my girlfriend cries even when we try to get it in very slow. I can't even get the tip in without her being in pain. We haven't been able to get my penis inside without her having to stop in quite some time. I think I have an average penis. She is not a petite woman and we start with a lot of foreplay and use extensive water-based lubrication with correctly sized condoms. Any tips? I even massage her to relax her before we try.

[maypakialam]

@fingerboy18 She may have Primary Vaginismus. It is an involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles. Penetration becomes impossible and painful for her. Her vagina became an instrument of God's population control. Primary Vaginismus = nun's vagina or celibacy.

There are two forms of God's natural birth control:

1.) Primary Vaginismus

2.) Having a Thick Hymen

Sex is not for everyone. Some are unfit for sex. God OWNS her vagina to control the population.

[fingerboy18]

@maypakialam I don't believe in god, nor is this an appropriate explanation. We have had intercourse previously and it might be a matter of frequency of trial for her vagina to accommodate sex.

[maypakialam]

@fingerboy18 She may have limited or lack of masturbation skills. Vaginal masturbation teaches women how to use their vagina. If she doesn't know how to use it, then God owns it.

Type the keywords "Fingering/Stretching previous to sex yahoo answers" on Google.

Vaginismus may be the strongest evidence that God exist. Some higher power can manipulate a woman's body for population control. Penetrating an unwilling vagina is rape.

[fingerboy18]

@maypakialam She never really masturbated before, which is another reason why it may hurt so much. It's more likely a psychological issue. The brain can subconsciously do things to our bodies. When we put our fingers in our eyes to put contacts in, do we have much control over them shutting? No, it just happens. She needs to become more comfortable with her body. I would never penetrate her if it hurts her and we both have consent when we have sexual relations.

[maypakialam]

@fingerboy18 She's really not meant to have an intercourse. Her mind is consenting to it but her vagina does not. Her vagina belongs to God.

1 out of 1,000 women have Vaginismus, which means that 1 out of 1,000 women is special in the eyes of God.

[Kreezy218]

This happens with Me :( i even try masturbation to looseing me up but i kant even manage to get two fingers in there it really hurts iv been doing this even before i had sex i only had sex with one guy my whole kuz it hurts so bad i didnt wana have sex n emore but even before i had sex with him iv been having sex with girls they always tried sticking things up there n everytime they did i would bleed when i pee .. Now i just avoid it n when i get arroused i rub it out or i let em give me oral

[donnad23]

i have endometriosis which causes painful sex and orgasms. what do you suggest? its also something that cannot be cured and lubrication is not an issue

[maypakialam]

@donnad23 She may have Primary Vaginismus. It is an involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles. Penetration becomes impossible and painful for her. Her vagina became an instrument of God's population control. Primary Vaginismus = nun's vagina or celibacy.

There are two forms of God's natural birth control:

1.) Primary Vaginismus

2.) Having a Thick Hymen

Sex is not for everyone. Some are unfit for sex. God OWNS her vagina to control the population.

[yobiwolrd07]

Damn women back in the days must have just put up with the pain.

[peymaania]

@yobiwolrd07 Yes and many of them died, especially at Child Birth.

[yobiwolrd07]

@peymaania

SMH WOW THANK GOD MEDICINE HAS IMPROVED

[GodisMywitnesSs]

@nameless212 lol..kinda true..but its easy for them i guess so they wouldnt know..the only thing they can tell u is to go see a doc..but sry to hear that ur going through vaginismus..its very difficult, and i know exactly how u feel..and thankfully i got over it..quick and easy! i was so surprised...iam sexually active now and damn does it feel good.lol.. good luck hun! inbox me anytime if u need advice :)

[fatman13x]

im a guy and my boyfriend fucks me in the ass 2-3 times a day, it hurts like shit everytime but i still do it

[pinkarcticfoxyy]

im a virgin, and i plan to be for a little while longer, but i am scared cause i have this bump of flesh in my vaginal canal, and its very thick, i have not gone to the dr, but i asked ppl about t and they said its you cherry, will it hurt to lose my virginity if i have a thick cherry?

[fatman13x]

@pinkarcticfoxyy i had this big bump too, basically the bigger the bump the bigger the cherry, and you will bleed a lot because that holds a lot of blood, and it will hurt substantially more. good luck and may god be with you.

[GodisMywitnesSs]

@pinkarcticfoxyy if your relaxed it shouldnt hurt..but u will feel a bit of pressure (which is no big deal) the more ur nervous and scared the more the muscles in your vagina tighten up which makes sex more painful..Try and be relaxed to the max, take a deep breath and have him attempt to have sex..slowly with a little push..as long as ur relaxed it should slide right in..the only part that hurts is when hes begining to enter..the opening of the vagina..once the penis is in it glides right in..

[GodisMywitnesSs]

@pinkarcticfoxyy if u need help or anyone to talk to just inbox me anytime :)

gd luck!

[maypakialam]

@pinkarcticfoxyy There are two forms of God's birth control. They are:

1.) Vaginismus

2.) Having a thick hymen

Yes. Sex is part of our biology. But NOT all humans are the same. There are those who are incapable of being penetrated..

There are some women who in spite being engaged in hard physical activities still have intact thick hymen. Others have closed UNWILLING vagina. That, combined with their limited or lack of masturbation skills, they're meant as God's birth controllers.

[ZONKEDproductions]

so wise

[TheGABRIELACANELA]

IT REALLY SHOULDNTHURT  UNLESS U LAST A LONG TIME NOT HAVING SEX... SO YOUR OPEN HOLE WILL JUST CLOSES...

[This2shallpass1]

I struggle with a form of painful intercourse called vaginismus. I am documenting my journey on my blog (overcomevaginismus.blogspot.c­om).

[lacek2700]

dear dan and jen, what qualifies you as experts on sex ed? do you have some type of college education? it seems to me like youre two fucking morons giving out advice with no professional background. no one listen to these morons.

[neil22100]

HA you think this is painful try gay sex umm! It takes a real man to have gay sex!

[GodisMywitnesSs]

@neil22100 hehe :D silly

[joshua97ify]

@neil22100 NOOOOOOOOOoooo!!!! ,Damn!!!! you are fucking retarded it takes a FAG to have gay sex

[JenJenC]

Jennifer, had anyone ever told you that you look like Lisa Kudrow from F.R.I.E.N.D.S?

[TheShramik123]

I love this video most becoz it seems that it's really works.

[mutejerk123]

its all true.

have sex on youre own risk..

xPP

[rahiee]

idk anything bout it =/

i hav a purity ring. but u guys gic aweosme tips.lol

[msdogooder]

Sometimes sex hurts me.  I don't even like to wear tampons. :-(

[NeonDinoRoar]

omg me 2.

[msdogooder]

I am glad to know that I am not the only one :-)

[awareness4vaginismus]

Hi NeonDinoRoar,

Please look up the word VAGINISMUS in Wikipedia. It may exactly describe the problem you are having and nobody in the society (even gynocologists) speaks about! I knew someone, who suffered many years because of it. May be it helps you too!

[awareness4vaginismus]

Hi msdogooder,

please look up the word VAGINISMUS in Wikipedia. It may exactly describe the problem you are facing. I knew someone who suffered many years, because noone could name her problem - not even gynocologists!

May be it helps you too!

[relipik]

guys im serious about this question

does sticking your ding dong in a girls cha cha hurt the first time when you do it?

how far back is you foreskin supposed go when you stick it in?

[coltz1993]

hahaha

same thing im thinking.

[myleskubicek]

it wont hurt, and if it does just punch her so she feels pain too

[GodisMywitnesSs]

@myleskubicek wtf!

[Pornbelly]

she could be allergic to sperm... It happens. It's not cool, but it happens. Usually the person gets a rash or trouble breathing, but sure, why not a rash in her vagoo?

Or, and I do not mean to be al morbin or somthing, she could have an std or cancer or something else physically wrong and needs to get her gyno to check it out asap. And while she's in there, well... Tell the gyno! They work with vagoos all day long, seeing them, smelling them, looking up into them... Fingering them...

[Gggmanlives]

I've got the same problem with my gf. I'm above average size and we're finding it difficult.

[atvracin74]

does it hurt girls the first time they bang or something?

[Racr4Lyfe]

Oooh....dry skin sex, that's gotta burn!

[USA3333]

that girl's vagina must be big

[freddyzcount90]

It hurts more on the girl, I think.

[lovagetvshows23]

Yeahh it hurts like fuck :

[donaldthescotishtwin]

sex is ment to be a joyfull thing for a woman not a painfull thing unless it goes to far and fast

[deLaughing1]

As usual, these video responses are awesome! You two give such dead-on right feedback to all those people out there who think they are the ONLY not-normal freaks in the world. Believe me, as someone who fields sexual/relationship questions regularly, everyone has something they think or do which could be considered by SOME as 'weird'...ask these two, you'll be well-informed and it'll put that smile back on your face...like, right after you 'did it'! Thanks

[peymaania]

@maypakialam Did the Nun get to have a Say in her VAGINA becoming an INstrument

of God's Population Control? Why doesn't God practice his INstrument on Paris sHilton,

MadDonna and Lady Gag Me? Are some of us Born to be Rich, Wealthy SLUTS? It just

seems incredibly unfair

[maypakialam]

@peymaania Well, they're wealthy enough to provide child support.

It is clear that the woman has primary vaginismus. If her masturbation skills are limited or just lacking, then God owns her to control the population. I am a man who believes in women's rights as well as VAGINAL RIGHTS. They are:

1.) Vagina's right 2 refuse sex

2.) Vaginas right to self-pleasure

3.) Vaginas right to self lubricate.

Penetrating a dry, unaroused, unwilling vagina is rape. Her vagina is not consenting to any man.

[TerryLicious911]

Thanks!

=D

[igorok234]

What are they drinking? Some Penis juice with sperm and chemicals?

[xXhelmsdeepXx]

Make her vaginal lips seal around your ass hole, then shit into her vagina. Afterwards, close the vagina with paper clips or hair pins and keep the shit in there for 3-5 hours or longer. It'll work, trust me.

[raynor117]

hahahahaha xD xD i just rofled at that ::P

[TerranMarineCore]

so if my penis makes a squeaking noise i should see a doctor? cuz personally i think its pretty cool

[MaRaX93]

my ex was rly small...when we tried anal sex,i actually didnt realise the differance xD

[TheJazzman44]

no it should not hurt, especially if you are wet, you eventually stretch to fit especially after a year, and I know I've dated girls much smaller than me, and I being 6 2 have the average for the height round like 8 and a half long, also you might be going on too much, cause the lube might be drying out too soon, and then you are causing the rubbing, and also these guys saying it should hurt are WRONG, no it is not supposed to hurt unless you want it to hurt, it's supposed to be pleasureful damn

[mozo38]

That's not average for that height. I would say 6 and a half. You should just feel special.

[Loaded300]

Girls. It should hurt. We penetrate. Anything that gets penetrated is going to have negative affects. I myself have had girlfriends that were virgins and no longer are. They all went on to have kids. Its like a spark after the first time and it does hurt. I made it hurt because life and sex are no different after the first time for a chick.

Also don't be "man hungry". U don't need a guy to know your absolutely gorgeous! -Get it right or I'll correct it-

[Lexy015]

ya it should hurt

[lisaem22]

not still!

[stephenhalo22]

@chrisbom8... umm wear a dom when your going backdoor dude...

[12KingdomHearts12]

why is this flagged

[L4dyk1d]

It also could be cervicitus...it maybe because he doesnt keep clean down there. or because he might be carrying something from another relationship...

[gossamerwindweb]

lube lube lube

[clublanddude14]

lol dan you are all ways sayn some thing funny and jen is more brains lol na you both did another good job

[chrisbom8]

When i was having sex with a girl in her anus she accidently crapped on my dick and some shit fell down the whole? is this bad or will i be okay?

[hornydutch2]

use a condom next time

[texasgurl224]

really? im a girl and do that all the time it just FALLS OUT! not my fault@ i accidently farted and peed on him too... is this normal?

[liukevin5is18]

=p lmao not normal...

[Loaded300]

Tottaly normal texasgurl224

[Cap1108]

LOL. you pissed on his dick?

[chimpstop]

This took me back to my first long term girl friend who was also my long regular sexual partner. For the first six months we were together and Working the Parts for several hours at a time she experienced this...years later, with more experience with more women, I realized it was more likely day after sorness, which can result from several hours of frenzied sex, especially if it's just once a week. She had no lubrication problems. And she had a little problem initially relaxing in to it.

[whocaressomething]

Good honest real world advice, keep it up!! Much more helpful 4 younger people than listing to religious freaks..

[leafsfan9917]

who keeps on flaging these videos, what if a kid tries to see them but is unable because of the sencorship and ends up with a baby or an std because someone thought theese videos shouldnt be avalable to young peaople for "racy language"

[yahboy25]

That poor girl. Ouchh

[Andrexthor]

Dan's jokes are lame.

[Nekoflame]

Yeah, but those two make a nice mix. Don't you agree?

[wheateater]

I think there was a song about this by John Cougar? Hurts so Good

[Backhymen]

Lol well thats good to know....i guess

[J0rdan691]

lol a landing strip

[killintymm]

but asians are really tight and take such really big african ones inside , sometimes two !!!! how is that

[Gladosayx]

HAHAHA

[dagoba91]

you're wrong evry 1 has difrente body

[ayoumans25]

Dan & Jennifer -

The person also didn't mention how often they have sex. When I was 17 I could have sex everyday but now that I am in a long distance relationship, we only get to have sex on the weekends and sometimes longer than that...so it may be that they are having sex enough for her to be "comfortably loose"

Also, if she is on BC she may be less naturally lubricated...

Or if they aren't using a condom she may feel a burning sensation in her vagina do to his precum or ejaculation...

[ayoumans25]

*aren't having sex enough

[1988simondoyle]

people mecanic hahahaha

[DanAndJenn]

right on - sometimes people are intimidated about talking with their doctor - but your doctor is just a person there to help you, like a mechanic for your car, but for your body. that analogy seems to help. :-)

[spencerthizzz]

HAAAAAAAAA

[xJMACORONIX]

lol

[DaTrAgGeRnAuT]

LMAO

[findonethen]

use lubricant it helps ha ha

[Ayecone]

great video as usual

[ilovesouthpark01]

Like a virgin, ooh, ooh

Like a virgin

Feels so good inside

When you hold me, and your heart beats, and you love me.........

[haelionis]

:)

Indeed.

[tegansoir]

You guys are sooo cute <3

[LKskateNC]

thanks for ur videos these keep me informed well :D