The advice doesn't seem that bad. She's telling him to come out of the closet despite what his mother wants and to give his mom a break for being a flawed human. Big deal. Yes, the tone is obnoxious, but everyone who calls her expects that. It's a radio show, not therapy. And the guy doesn't even need therapy. It sounds like all he needed was someone to point out that his mother is embarrassed and that that's her problem, not his.
I don't generally like Dr. Laura, but she might be right about the mother wanting the son to stay closeted because of her own embarrassment. However, that is not the only possibility. Dr. Laura seems unaware that there may be a danger of physical attack by the father. Fathers sometimes kill sons over this. Dr Laura is being negligent toward this young man's safety by disregarding the possibility of physical attack.
@Jazsy Yes, that is the most irritating thing about Dr. Laura. She is so snippy and self-assured that her conclusion is the only correct one. Let's keep in mind that she is a licensed (not degreed) Marriage and Family COUNSELOR. She is not a psychiatrist nor is she a psychologist. She really should drop the title "Dr." as it relates to her advice program because her Ph.D. in PHYSIOLOGY does not apply to the work she is doing. It is out of context and used inappropriately making it deceptive
@CalifaJohn I'm glad you said that, because my next question was: How on God's green earth did she ever became a psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, or anything that exists in the "ist" family?! Knowing that makes total sense. I'm thinking "Any hack could talk down to people, and act like they are the end all be all of knowledge on human relationships without a shred of evidence, and now I see that she pretty much is "any hack".
@Jazsy There is a concept called "therapeutic communication" that health care professionals are trained in. They are supposed to be supportive of the client rather than harsh, judgemental and pretending to know the one best answer for the client. The client is supposed to make their own decision and the therapist is supposed to compassionately help the client find their own best answer.
Women have allot to learn in this country. First, women shall take care of the home, treat men like a king, make dinner every evening, give her husband a massage, agree with everything the man says, do the laundry, show respect at all times, make him comfortable, make coffee and pie every evening, speak in a sweet, soothing voice, be fresh looking and clean before he comes home, light a fire in the fireplace, give him a bath, cut his toenails and soap his arm.
This lady is a vapid cunt who makes a hell of a lot of generalisations. It's SOCIETY that makes mothers want to have these white-picket house lives with grandkids, deemed "perfect" by others. You can be understanding but she's WRONG, and in the end it will be HER that is wrong ultimately. ANd having angst towards that is completely justified. What a shitty approach from Laura on this issue, absolutely terrible.
You people are fucked, I know virtually nothing about this woman, but this is a perfectly reasonable response. Of course the vast majority of people who have a gay child are going to be a little disappointed. Just because you, a member of a tiny minority, isn't, does not mean the vast majority of people are wrong.
Of course there is no justification for holding a grudge or intervening, but there is all the reason in the world for being honest with yourself and admitting you wanted grandchildren
If I were a mother I wouldn't care who my son married just so long as she was happy, and her saying mother's would be "disappointed" is her own angry, selfish, and close-minded thinking. I've never met a Jewish woman as cold and calculated as her, she has a clear agenda and she rarely addressed the question, rather she goes off on tangents to express her own, outspoken views. Glad she's off the air.
Laura is such a total BITCH .. when people call, this woman who is not skilled in the science of Psychotherapy has SO little to say that is truly helpful. Her success lies in her ability, as a Jewish woman, to intimidate those who seek out her advice and see her as having a valid opinion.
Some of the comments on here are just obnoxious. For example, "if you want something sugar coated, buy a bag of skittles" A good therapist SHOULD empathize with a client. The person who posted the comment about the skittles should read some books by Carl Rogers or Abraham Maslow.
@TheMonsterphil actually, the fix for that is to surrond yourself with gay people or make a few gay friends so you can become more comfortable. they're just people! it's not like all they're gonna talk about is being gay! face your fears, grow, adapt, and open your heart! xxx
@nuaha02 I agree. I was prepared to hate her response but basically agreed with her perspective on the issue. It's too bad she's a conservatove, we could use someone with her talent on the left, like, to a lesser degree, Kathy Griffin
I'm not homophobic by a long shot. My bestfriend is as lesbian as they come and I've had many gay guy friends over the years also. As progressive as I think I am, if my son, (only child) came to me and said he was gay, I might be disappointed I wouldn't be embarrassed but given the background and family of this guy's mother, I can see how it's possible for her. My disappointment wouldn't mean that didn't love him but I'd be sad about the loss of the dreams I had for his future and mine.
@19sweetandbrown86 I would never wish to impose my private dream on a child. My dream would be for him /her to be happy, and then let them fill in the blanks, and would find my fulfillment in their happiness, as I would hope they as my kid would do for me as a parent. Assuming they are not committing bad deeds. But I appreciate your POV relative to those parents who would kick their kid out of their life , as if that were ever a moral option.
@lumpster70 Because she is intelligent, and very often makes solid judgments on complicated questions. Her perspective is limited, however, to the world of her own values and interests. If a gay advice line went on about Jews, what would she say? I've always wondered...but an LGBT knows the taste of discriminationa nd so would not reproduce it. So why woud a Jew? That's the puzzler...
@realjoefriday Nothing, but for the knowledge her listeners have that if pressed directly on the point of the morality of homosexuality, she would condemn it. She exercises restraint, but you never know when that restraint will become unleashed and become hurtful. That's the slippery slope of Dr. Laura and why ultimately she has had to quit the air waves.
@DarthConnis9999 I prefer the "glass half full" approach, i.e., "No one is born with the right to offend with impunity." Yes, we all have an innate right to not be offended just as we have a right not to be robbed or killed, and an innate responsibility as human beings not to be offensive or hurtful to others. Or are we apes, now? More thinking
@starryeyd615 I was thinking the same. Like where is this "dr".Laura from and her listeners that they don't see how fraud she is in her judgments... My sister would not in anyway be disappointed if her son falls in love with another man. I know they're parents like the ones she describes, and those parentsnshould not have had kids in the first place. How dare you dis own your own child or make them feel bad. People dare judge homosexuals and say they are an illness. You are the illness, you rel
My point is that if it were "the way that they naturally are", then a lot of Autistic disorders would fail to qualify as illnesses. The biggest thing is the loss of most of their reproductive capacity, and that's the primary thing that makes being a homo or a bi an illness.
@DarthConnis9999 Your arguments are even less sound than before. Just give up and go play some video games or something. It's not like someone is gonna give you a medal for having the longest one-sided, losing argument on Youtube. A month from now, you're probably going to regret having posted at all because people will be responding to something so ancient that you probably don't even care about anymore. I suggest you go play Minecraft because that'll give you a good year's worth of Gameplay.
@Sargentleman I was talking about people's feelings and making assumptions about how they would feel when a homo/bi did his/her thing around them.
If you're going to accuse me or my arguments of something, then you'll need to be more specific than this, because I'm having trouble understanding you.
I think being homosexual is an illness. Think of it this way: If everyone else were like that, humanity would die very soon. The homos' and bis' ability to reproduce is obviously hampered, and people are extremely uncomfortable around them. Look at kids with bad social problems. There's nothing life-threatening to themselves or to others, and yet people still consider certain Autistic disorders to be illnesses!
@themasterbakerrr That argument is fallacious, because not wanting to breed is not something that most people find offensive. Being a homo is something that people find very offensive, and I think that the "population contol" (if we lived in the wilderness, that is) would be straight cavemen removing the homo cavemen from the population. The only thing that's natural about them is a figment of their mind that really isn't a legitimate sexual attraction.
@DarthConnis9999 Their ability to reproduce isn't hampered. Most gay people are perfectly capable of reproducing -- a lot of them just choose not to. Then again, some do choose to reproduce.
I don't think it's fair to discount all gay people as mentally ill since many gay people live totally balanced, productive lives. The fact that you're offended by them is YOUR problem, not their problem.
@themasterbakerrr I said most people are offended by them, and that they would prefer not to be around them. It's unfair to the vast majority of people for gays to use the government to impose their agenda on their countrymen. That's different than me personally being offended (you're right, that is my problem).
Part of the reproductive process is a sexual attraction toward the opposite sex. By the definition of "sexual", it can only be toward the opposite sex, because you can't reproduce -
@themasterbakerrr -sexually without the cooperation of a member of the opposite sex. Adoption doesn't count as "having children and starting a family". That's not natural.
@DarthConnis9999 Oh well, like I said, that's your issue. Gay people will continue to exist, whether you like it or not. If you don't like it, move to a place where gay people "don't exist", like Iran. I'm sure you'd have a real hoot there.
@DarthConnis9999 If a non-religious cure is found, it can be reverse engineered to find a compound that causes homosexuality. After which, someone could actually make a virus that produces the Homosexualizing Compound. I hope someone Homosexualizes you when that time comes so that when you die, your God will say "Nope, you're gay, you go down stairs with Satan."
Homosexuality isn't a disease, but your religious is.
@DarthConnis9999 You're like the people who are Vegetarian for moral reasons but won't become Vegans. What's so bad about other people being homosexual? It's not like you're going to catch their "disease" by letting them live their lives the way they want to. If you're Atheist, you're a fan of logic, no? Explain why it's so bad or go away.
@Sargentleman One doesn't "believe" in logic, Sargentleman.
It's not "bad" or "wrong", because as far as logic is concerned, nothing is "bad" or "wrong" (those are matters of belief). However, one can't deny that a fag or lesbian is less likely to reproduce when they're uncured. Thus, if an illness is defined by any inhibition of a body's functions, then homosexuality is an illness.
You also can't train a society to be "accepting" of people. People are people with emotions, and it's their...
@Sargentleman ...choice when it comes to who they want to be around. If the GEGP (Government-enforced Gay Privileges, because that's what the Gay rights movement is, strictly speaking) succeeds, then the government will have to enforce (key word is, "enforce") the agenda onto normal citizens, and that (most likely) will only lead to further distrust and hatred between straights and homos/bis.
Look at history: People felt the exact same ways about homos and bis as they do now (they are people...
@Sargentleman ...after all, and you can't control their feelings), and the 2 groups were respectful enough to keep their habits (which straights obviously found extremely offensive) behind closed doors. When straight couples start doing things that require privacy, even they'll go behind closed doors, even though what they're doing isn't as likely to be received in a violent way.
Even if "society has changed", this (people seeming to be more accepting of homos/bis) has happened as a result...
@Sargentleman ...of brainwashing. On the other hand, you have the human nature of most people who are likely to react negatively to the sight of 2 people of the same sex insulting their (the straight individuals) sexuality by doing these things that the straight person is likely to describe as something similar to "disgusting" or "offensive" or "perverse". A society that is "accepting of gays", thus, is very forged and unnatural, and things like that never last (that is, the society never lasts)
@DarthConnis9999 There are heterosexual couples that cuddle and there are heterosexual couples that dress up as Nazi's and whip each other until they bleed. Should we be anti-heterosexual because in that light heterosexuality looks unnatural and perverse? Now, let's say that two sets of homosexuals do the same two acts. What is the difference? If you're sticking with the reproduction argument, why does the Earth need more humans? We've practically overpopulated the fuck out of this planet.
@Sargentleman Saying that we've overpopulated the planet is a matter of opinion, isn't it? That's a good point with heterosexual couples doing those things that aren't likely to be taken kindly by the average Joe. However, I didn't say that such things shouldn't be allowed, I just said that they shouldn't be given political rights to do those things openly in public (which is what those individuals are trying to do, which is again, imposing their will on the country).
@Sargentleman ... heterosexual couples won't do that, and only a minority of them would. Most homo/bi "couples" (a lot of people don't consider them to be legitimate couples) will do things that most people would describe as even worse than whipping your girlfriend. Don't forget that homo males are more likely to be infected with HIV than anything/anyone else.
About the studies: there are a number of malfunctions that cause homosexuality, and it all comes in different breeds of being homo,...
@DarthConnis9999 Assume that the studies showing that homosexuality is genetic are valid. If homosexuals don't reproduce, they don't pass on the homosexual gene. There won't be a time in which the entirety of the human race will be homosexual and the human population will stabilize, if not continue to increase. Think of homosexuality as natures response to human overpopulation, thereby, it's natural. Assume the average homosexual person does not act like those portrayed in pornos; not perverse.
@Sargentleman ...while straight sexuality (the only one that results is SEXUAL reproduction) comes in one form: the one necessary for reproduction. Thus, homo/bi "feelings" of "their own sexuality" are merely illusions, as they're not related to the sexuality that results in sexual reproduction.
Take an example of an Autistic kid with horrible social skills. From his perspective (don't call me a sexist, because males are more vulnerable to genetic illnesses than females), he can socialize ...
@Sargentleman ...just fine. He feels just fine, he's comfortable around other people! However, when he acts in a way that he finds comfortable, people will tell him that he isn't acting in a socially acceptable manner, even though he could have sworn that he was just fine. The only indication that he's able to receive about his mental illness is from other people. Not only that, but he isn't more vulnerable to HIV infection, as homo/bi males are.
@Sargentleman ...dude is in (less susceptibility to HIV infection, less susceptibility to being attacked and killed by a gang and his being a mere annoyance, rather than an offensive presence), Autism (the disorders that only affect your social skills) is still considered an illness, even though they're in much less danger than fags are.
@Sargentleman Correction: I should have said, "political privileges to do those things in public", and not "political rights to do those things in public." My mistake.
@Sargentleman Correction: I didn't mean that Autism is all disorders that inhibit social abilities, I meant that I was referring only to the Autistic disorders that do inhibit social skills.
@DarthConnis9999 You're a true jerk. What is the highest level of education you completed? Gayness has been declassified from the DSM since 1973. It is not an illness. If you respond to this and contradict me, you will most likely be ignored. Kindly stop the unjustified remarks. Now, Piss off!
@Jibjub80 Has it occurred to you that the declassification was for political purposes? Has it occurred to you that the Gay rights activists always go to the law in order to get their way (that means imposing their will in a dishonest way through the government)?
Have you noticed how much of a taboo topic that homosexuality is for most people? Has it occurred to you that it's because they're afraid of the violent reaction that would ensue if they spoke their minds? Do you think that (continued)
@Jibjub80 (Continued) ...has it occurred to you that human nature can't be changed by the passage of laws that enforce L.G.B.T. privileges? Have you noticed that emotionally loaded arguments are always used in support of L.G.B.T.-favoring propositions/arguments/comments (such as the insults that you have flung at me)?
@DarthConnis9999 no, the only thing that has occurred to me is that you're a narrow minded, patronizing bigot. The declassification was not for political reasons. I have read excellent books about the topic and I don't think you should argue with me. I'm a college instructor. What is the highest level of education you finished?
@Jibjub80 A college instructor...sorry but I have to call people when they make claims like that. What school is it and what do you teach? And in your readings about the declassification of homosexuality, what were your findings and what are these sources?
@randommagnum Sorry, but I'm not sharing specifically where I work. I teach a section of Developmental Psychology at a community college. I'm not sharing anymore information about my place of employment. The book I read was by a gentleman named Ronald Bayer titled "Homosexuality and American Psychiatry." The book title technically should be underlined or italicized, but that wasn't an option on here.
@Jibjub80 Well, it's just that your claim reminds me of the 18-year-olds who go on videos featuring over-unity machines, saying, "Yes this is possible...and I'm a physicist." Citing one's own education or profession only works if you are willing to back it up. You might as well not even mention it otherwise (nor should you bother mentioning the italicization technicality).
Now I'll ask again: what were your FINDINGS? That's what I'm going for here.
@randommagnum I dont remember what Bayer's findings were. It has been a little while since I read the book, but it i remember correctly, don't quote me, although there still some psychiatrists who wanted homosexuality to remain on the list of psychological disorders, most voted for its removal. And yes, there was some activist pressure, but most of them DID act out of conscience.
@randommagnum Jibjub80 has insulted me numerous times, randommagnum (somewhere in the neighborhood of 5 or 6 times). He might also be in the business of lying to people (or just saying politically correct, ignorant things). I've also asked him what he read about homosexuality, and he'll probably respond with more insults.
@DarthConnis9999 I am sorry that you feel insulted, but I think it is the other way around. You did not only insult me, but the entire GLB population. Maybe, you are unable to be empathetic to another human being, but I would like you to try. Try putting yourself in the shoes of a GLB individual. Just try for a minute. You are now treated with scorn, told your lifestyle is "unnatural," or "immoral" and that the only acceptable option is lifetime singlehood. Would YOU enjoy that?
@Jibjub80 I did not insult them, I said that they are suffering from unpreventable illnesses that can hurt all of us. Don't you think it's insulting to say that they're oppressed in some way? When you say that they are treated like that, you're calling them inferior. If I have insulted them in some way, then I guess that we're both guilty.
In order to be "oppressed" by an entire society, a group would have to be inferior to begin with. Either that or impaired because of a genetic illness.
@DarthConnis9999 You state in order to be oppressed by an entire society, "a group would have to be inferior to begin with". Do you believe black people are "inferior to begin with", or have a genetic illness called "darker skin", and hence were/are. oppressed? One of the most absurd comments I've read that was not misspelled. How can you be at least moderately educated and still make such a wild statement? Human sexuality, like our other appetites, is fluid, diverse. FAIL
@DarthConnis9999 Wrong. We need more in-depth analysis of what oppression is, not an intellectual rout from it. Oppression is not "open to debate" for those who are actually oppressed. It is simply not an option to view it so. Human rights is an "open debate" for those for whom it is not a terrifying word. If it is an open debate for you, then you are living on the safe side of the gun.
@DarthConnis9999 1. won't live in same neighborhood 2. parents won't let children associate with them 3. no recognition by religious institutions 4. bullying /shame because of status 5. fear of eviction 6. exposure to hateful language/attitudes 7. can't hold hands in public 8. culture associated with urban ghettos 9. associated with diseases or crime 10. history peripheralized/ omitted from educational curriculum
@Jibjub80 Could we please keep this cordial and do away with the insults? I'm only a college freshman, majoring in Math. What are some of the books you've read about homosexuality, and what were the new discoveries that led to homosexuality being declassified as a reproductive/psychological/hormonal/social disorder?
Is our discussion about academic history or the classification of psychological disorders?
Even though i've WON 2 CARS, 1 HARLEY, lot's of TRIPS, & helped my mom win 2 LARGE SCREEN TV'S & a DELL P.C., she degraded me IN FRONT OF RELATIVES by saying 'i WISH HE'D GET A JOB'! Keep in mind, I worked SEVERAL jobs, ALL WITHOUT BENEFITS OR PAID VACATIONS. And my uneducated homophobic mom has the gall to DISS ME?????? WTF?????
i was expecting this to be a lot more offensive than it was. however i do take issue with her statement that 'moms want their sons to marry girls and have babies.' i think most good parents want their children to be happy, whatever manifestation that may take.
She gave pretty good advice here. Why couldn't she do the same for the caller asking about her husband's friends and their racist comments? She listened to this guy and didn't go on and on about homosexual stereotypes. But when the woman was calling in about her husband she started tlkn about Obama and the n-word as if the woman could speak 4 the whole race.
I am definitely NOT a Dr. Laura fan. However....I think that she definitely "hit the nail on the head" on this one. If this kid's father "flips-out" over the news that his son is gay,so be it. It's not healthy for this kid to spend his entire life "in the closet!!"
welll shes right it was mean but ti was the truth obviously if his mommy diddnt want hi to telll anyone it was because she was emabarrased or she just wats to protect him and make it easiyer and it was mean becaus eif ur gay and someones telling u ...that ur parent dosent want that and that theyre emabarrased by it then its gunna hurt and it was sad noone wants to hear that all she needed to say was that she was embarased she diddnt have to lecture on and on about what a mother wants it was mean
How the hell does Dr. Laura know what this guys mother expects or wishes? To plant that disappointment on this guy is Dr. Laura's perspective, not necessarily the guys mother.
Well, she wasn't as bad as I was fearing she was going to be. The furthest she went was mom's disappointment at no grandchildren but that's likely true. She was a bit cold though but I think in general she is with a lot of issues.
She didn't let him talk. But knowing her bigotted generalizations of gay men, any gay guy who calls her for advice has got to be on cloud 9. As usual, this "doctor" Laura is a dis appointment.
@seedsofgrace no, no i dont think anyone here is trying to claim babies can be made that way, but ya know, even if you catch the bus late at least you catch it.
@seedsofgrace Plenty of heteros do what you described. Not everyone has the desire to reproduce. Love alone between two people is sufficient for a satisfactory marriage.
@seedsofgrace If I were a mother I would want only for my child to feel happy and love, whatever manifestation that might take. Mother's do not need to be superficial and greedy, they need only to love, accept, and treasure their children for the God-given gifts they are.
@ithinkpigsarecool You can very well show that sort of affection and "love" after you rebuke his behavior and lifestyle. If you were a God fearing person you would show your dissaproval of his/her lifestyle by teaching them the truth through God's Word. True love is telling the truth. Homosexual lifestyle is against God's original plan. Just because we live in a 'watered down' society, doesn't mean we have to succomb to it.
@seedsofgrace If you rebuke someones lifestyle you are not showing them love and acceptance. And no one should be God-fearing, they should be God loving.
@seedsofgrace Are you smoking some of that WBC shit right now? I love God, I don't fear him. To fear him is to reject him an all that He has done for us. I love God, the only one I fear is myself for God has the final say for my actions, and if I do not ask for forgiveness then I just screwed myself over when my time comes.I also accept everybody, whether they be black, white, straight, or gay. And if that is a sin, then so be it. It's not changing who I am and it won't change who I am.
Funny, Dr Laura rocks, on air for 30+ years, so successful, so strong minded, so clear, yes we all screw up, and non of us focus the loght on our darkest / low point, we all want the sun to make us glow, those who reject her, have the most weakness, denial is easy, at least she has been brave enough, to swim against the tide, what a poorer place without the voice of reason, she made mistakes, she also made a LOT of clear vision, easy words, of compassionate agreement, are easy to hear
i would love to see dr laura get her skank head pile driven into the ground.,would do my heart good, skank thinks she can get away with being a smartass, pile drive her I say!!!!
If you think that 'free' response that the 'gay' caller ASKED for was harsh, you are VERY thin skinned and you will have trouble in life accepting reality. He didn't ask for EMPATHY, he asked for ADVICE on dealing with his mother not wanting to him to tell his father about his sexual preference. He got it. He took it well. It made perfect sense. If you want things sugar coated, grab a bag of skittles.
@mlvc82 At no point did Dr Laura say your mom hates you, exaggerating opinions / words / point of views is a shallow foundationless way to sway opinion to your opinion, if you dont like DL, swith off
I really don't have a problem with her reply to this caller. In fact, she usually makes sense on a lot of issues. The latest rant regarding the "N" word was way out of line, however, and she's getting what she had coming to her. Although I don't think she is racist, I think she was extremely insensitive in the position she took and even her apology rang hollow and rather a "whine" about losing her 1st amendment rights. She has the right to say what she feels. We have the right to turn the dial.
The echo is to make her sound evil. And of course, she is the voice of reason in an insanely politically correct world. If you think she is hostile to gays or blacks or whatever, you have selective listening skills. I have listened to her for years, and the idiocy comes from her callers, not her. Please, please tell me in this video where she is being homophobic or prejudiced. Have enough sense to know that "moms" is a term describing most, not all, moms. What mom wants her son to be gay? .0001%
not goood good advice, but when it's a personal question like that some things you shouldn't say like "your mom is embarrassed by you". still like she said it's his life whether his family treats him right or wrong over it they shouldn't pass judgement on him nor treat him differently. she held no punches lol
What a cunt! He is supposed to deal with his mother's disappointment of him----until when? The Grave! Fuck her! He should tell his mother to get on board with acceptance of him, or get lost. Bitch!
Seeing I decided to QUIT listening to Dr. Laura because I NOW believe she is a RACIST. If Dr, Laura finds the word NIGER acceptible then it would be ok to call her a "CUNT" Dr. Laura Cunt, how does that ring???? Get a life CUNT. p.s. I am WHITE, BTW.
@siankane Im just curious.......I have a fairly diverse group of friends.....and after observing behaviors im left wondering.......my Jewish friends DONT call each other kikes(EVER), my gay friends dont call each other faggots, my middle eastern friends dont ever call each other towel heads. Why do blacks choose to propagate that word?
@atheistforchange My point is exactly that. African-Americans, especially women, are most offended by the "N word." I guess you would have to have heard this Dr. Laura rant to understand, but it was unbelievably offensive and mean-spirited. If she had left it at the argument that you are making she would have retained a little credibility. She went on, however, to tell this poor woman who had called her for advice that if she is "that hyper-sensitive she shouldn't marry outside of her race."
@siankane You have to hear the beginning of that phone call to understand why she said that. The caller was dating a white man, and felt that his family was being racist when they asked her how black people felt about things. Does sound pretty hypersensitive, which in turn doesn't sound like the makings of a happy relationship. The family wasn't using the "n" word. But then the call devolved into an argument about using that word, which was odd, & yeah, uncomfortable. I don't like hearing it.
@siankane Words do matter. I was just pointing out the reason she made that last statement about marrying outside her race; that it didn't come out of the blue. I listened to it again. (please don't make me listen again lol)
That statement may not have come out of the blue, but the wierd rant sure did.
Why did she even go there? The rant was offensive & mean-spirited....& not even necessary. I think we agree on that.
@Booofrthefirst I did hear the entire call. It started well enough, but as soon as this woman, who called her for comfort and advice, told DL that she felt "uncomfortable", the so-called "doctor" started in on defining levels racist semantics. In so doing, she suggested that now that we have a "half-Black President" racism isn't relevant and if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. If I said "Kike" to DL, I guarantee that she would be repulsed. It's not just semantics. Words matter.
Schlessinger never got along well with her father, and she and her mother had been estranged for at least 14 years before her mother's odd death in 2002. (Her partially decomposed corpse had been on the floor of her apartment for two months before being discovered[2], and police initially suspected murder).
Her affair with Bill Ballance began while Schlessinger was still married, and her affair with her current husband Lew Bishop began while he was still married. Dr. Laura disapproves of divorce and pornography, but as a divorcee she posed for what can be called a "beaver shot" with her legs spread. In October of 1998, this and other naked photos of Schlessinger appeared on the internet.
@justonefirefly1 So, let me get this straight...You have lived a perfect life so you can give advice? Frankly, I believe she's probably one of the rare ones who have actually learned from her mistakes. Of course, she has regrets. You're talking about a human being not a god.
@Ginasong So let me get this straight a whore that is not only NOT perfect nor has ever admitted her mistakes and let her mother die alone and not have her body discovered for 5 days, I should take advice from a whore who loves to victimize people because she enjoys their pain? I would never give advice when my own example was so poor. If I want advice - Mother Theresa, Ghandi, a trained therapist, pray go to church... ask someone I respect. She is like asking a child molester for advice.
@justonefirefly1 I think that the comment about Ms Schlessinger being like asking a child molester for advice is extreme, BUT Laura is not qualified to give the advice she gives, and I would not trust her. When she refers to herself as 'Doctor Laura,' she is being deceitful to those who are misinformed, because her degree is not in a counseling related field. I think that a better analogy would be, "calling this woman for advice is no better than asking an engineer who may hold a PHD"
@WebSurfing1ish Neither can I. She shows neither treats her callers with compassion nor respect. Listen closely to the way she handled this guy. Although she wasn't totally over the top this particular time, she responded with a tone of annoyance, and said that the mother was embarrassed. How would she know what the mother was thinking? Maybe Laura would have been embarrassed in the same situation, but she can't speak for others.
Why do young gay people insist on "coming out". Sexuality is a personal thing, and does not need to be discussed. I say, if someone asks you directly, feel free to tell them, otherwise, leave private things private.
OK. So don't talk to me or anyone about your girlfriend, boyfriend, don't invite people to wedding, ect. Good luck. Otherwise, shut the fuck up. Thanks. :]
Ha ha ha....love it!! Dr. Laura is right on here. It's amazing to me that if you are different we need to accept it but the people on the receiving end aren't supposed to have their own feelings. It truely does go both ways.
He should expect a negative reaction as his family may not show support and may not respect his gay life style. That is what to be expected in our society, negative reaction. A young man at the age of 18, maybe way too early to find that he is gay if he had no relationship with a woman,
@patsaxon That is ridiculous. You know. You may try to fight it, but deep down you know. How? Because it's innate. It's been shown that gay men are attracted to male pheromones, just as straight people are to opposite gender pheromones.
As a licensed clinician, I find her comments to be more for entertainment than therapeutic. She seems to be projecting her thoughts and beliefs on his situation. The comment about mom's wanting their children to marry girls, etc, is so ridiculous--as a therapist. It is unfortunate that he chose her for insight. The heterosexist and homophobic comments on this thread don't surprise ...sadly. It is the reason so many people live in fear of being who they are...whatever that is.
The advice doesn't seem that bad. She's telling him to come out of the closet despite what his mother wants and to give his mom a break for being a flawed human. Big deal. Yes, the tone is obnoxious, but everyone who calls her expects that. It's a radio show, not therapy. And the guy doesn't even need therapy. It sounds like all he needed was someone to point out that his mother is embarrassed and that that's her problem, not his.
TheSinisterKitty 4 months ago
I don't generally like Dr. Laura, but she might be right about the mother wanting the son to stay closeted because of her own embarrassment. However, that is not the only possibility. Dr. Laura seems unaware that there may be a danger of physical attack by the father. Fathers sometimes kill sons over this. Dr Laura is being negligent toward this young man's safety by disregarding the possibility of physical attack.
CalifaJohn 4 months ago
@CalifaJohn She is disregarding-as she often does-that there is any other possible scenario other than the one that she has in her twisted mind.
Jazsy 4 months ago
@Jazsy Yes, that is the most irritating thing about Dr. Laura. She is so snippy and self-assured that her conclusion is the only correct one. Let's keep in mind that she is a licensed (not degreed) Marriage and Family COUNSELOR. She is not a psychiatrist nor is she a psychologist. She really should drop the title "Dr." as it relates to her advice program because her Ph.D. in PHYSIOLOGY does not apply to the work she is doing. It is out of context and used inappropriately making it deceptive
CalifaJohn 4 months ago
@CalifaJohn I'm glad you said that, because my next question was: How on God's green earth did she ever became a psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, or anything that exists in the "ist" family?! Knowing that makes total sense. I'm thinking "Any hack could talk down to people, and act like they are the end all be all of knowledge on human relationships without a shred of evidence, and now I see that she pretty much is "any hack".
Jazsy 4 months ago
@Jazsy There is a concept called "therapeutic communication" that health care professionals are trained in. They are supposed to be supportive of the client rather than harsh, judgemental and pretending to know the one best answer for the client. The client is supposed to make their own decision and the therapist is supposed to compassionately help the client find their own best answer.
CalifaJohn 4 months ago
aside from being a little blunt, i don't really see the problem with this response :/
48sandra48 5 months ago
fags need to stop fagging.
FishlegsJones 7 months ago
@FishlegsJones racists, antisemitic and homophobes should stop hating
SimsMoyal 6 months ago
Women have allot to learn in this country. First, women shall take care of the home, treat men like a king, make dinner every evening, give her husband a massage, agree with everything the man says, do the laundry, show respect at all times, make him comfortable, make coffee and pie every evening, speak in a sweet, soothing voice, be fresh looking and clean before he comes home, light a fire in the fireplace, give him a bath, cut his toenails and soap his arm.
Chris6134 7 months ago
This lady is a vapid cunt who makes a hell of a lot of generalisations. It's SOCIETY that makes mothers want to have these white-picket house lives with grandkids, deemed "perfect" by others. You can be understanding but she's WRONG, and in the end it will be HER that is wrong ultimately. ANd having angst towards that is completely justified. What a shitty approach from Laura on this issue, absolutely terrible.
Svaato 8 months ago
echo echo echo.... do i hear an echo?
USZgxc151orbital 8 months ago
You people are fucked, I know virtually nothing about this woman, but this is a perfectly reasonable response. Of course the vast majority of people who have a gay child are going to be a little disappointed. Just because you, a member of a tiny minority, isn't, does not mean the vast majority of people are wrong.
Of course there is no justification for holding a grudge or intervening, but there is all the reason in the world for being honest with yourself and admitting you wanted grandchildren
countertreason 9 months ago 5
fuck you dr Laura. YOURE the dissapointment.
andyp3343 10 months ago
Dr. Laura is a horrible Jew cunt.
x2muchhorrorbizx 10 months ago
why is there a stupid echo on her voice?
zegron 10 months ago 2
If I were a mother I wouldn't care who my son married just so long as she was happy, and her saying mother's would be "disappointed" is her own angry, selfish, and close-minded thinking. I've never met a Jewish woman as cold and calculated as her, she has a clear agenda and she rarely addressed the question, rather she goes off on tangents to express her own, outspoken views. Glad she's off the air.
ithinkpigsarecool 10 months ago
Laura is such a total BITCH .. when people call, this woman who is not skilled in the science of Psychotherapy has SO little to say that is truly helpful. Her success lies in her ability, as a Jewish woman, to intimidate those who seek out her advice and see her as having a valid opinion.
LifterwiII 10 months ago
Raised by his mother and ended up gay, seems to be a pattern
dubified89 1 year ago
@dubified89 Is that a pattern?
kiminokami 1 year ago
@dubified89 wat r u talking about
8000cheese 11 months ago
Why does it sound like she is talking from the bottom of a well ?
TexasGuy214 1 year ago
@TexasGuy214 talking from hell does that lol
lilmrsgraceful 1 year ago
is she in the bath?
nuitetjuors1 1 year ago
Lets just all agree that humans suck. haha!
Or do they blow? Shit!
AutomHatter 1 year ago
Jesus darthconnis comment enuf
maclovesmonkeys 1 year ago
Some of the comments on here are just obnoxious. For example, "if you want something sugar coated, buy a bag of skittles" A good therapist SHOULD empathize with a client. The person who posted the comment about the skittles should read some books by Carl Rogers or Abraham Maslow.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
i dont hate gay people but i just dont want them to be around me because i feel weird being the only straight guy in one vicinity
TheMonsterphil 1 year ago
@TheMonsterphil wtf?
gabsylv 1 year ago
@TheMonsterphil actually, the fix for that is to surrond yourself with gay people or make a few gay friends so you can become more comfortable. they're just people! it's not like all they're gonna talk about is being gay! face your fears, grow, adapt, and open your heart! xxx
ithinkpigsarecool 10 months ago
I'm not a fan of Dr. Laura but she gave very good advice to this individual.
nuaha02 1 year ago
@nuaha02 I agree. I was prepared to hate her response but basically agreed with her perspective on the issue. It's too bad she's a conservatove, we could use someone with her talent on the left, like, to a lesser degree, Kathy Griffin
gabsylv 1 year ago
I fucking hate the echoes.
Michaeltanase 1 year ago
what is with the echoes???
rquinnley 1 year ago
I'm not homophobic by a long shot. My bestfriend is as lesbian as they come and I've had many gay guy friends over the years also. As progressive as I think I am, if my son, (only child) came to me and said he was gay, I might be disappointed I wouldn't be embarrassed but given the background and family of this guy's mother, I can see how it's possible for her. My disappointment wouldn't mean that didn't love him but I'd be sad about the loss of the dreams I had for his future and mine.
19sweetandbrown86 1 year ago
@19sweetandbrown86 I would never wish to impose my private dream on a child. My dream would be for him /her to be happy, and then let them fill in the blanks, and would find my fulfillment in their happiness, as I would hope they as my kid would do for me as a parent. Assuming they are not committing bad deeds. But I appreciate your POV relative to those parents who would kick their kid out of their life , as if that were ever a moral option.
gabsylv 1 year ago
Why in the hell would the caller ask THIS bitch for advice to begin with?
lumpster70 1 year ago
@lumpster70 Let's say that Dr. Laura is wrong on every shred of advice that she has given to every other caller that she has ever taken.
Now, let's analyze this particular call. What did she tell him in this particular specific call that was dangerous or hateful to him?
realjoefriday 1 year ago
@realjoefriday
My point was why would a gay male ask advice from a woman who has been openly hostile to homosexuals (or anyone that isn't just like her).
lumpster70 1 year ago
@lumpster70 Because she is intelligent, and very often makes solid judgments on complicated questions. Her perspective is limited, however, to the world of her own values and interests. If a gay advice line went on about Jews, what would she say? I've always wondered...but an LGBT knows the taste of discriminationa nd so would not reproduce it. So why woud a Jew? That's the puzzler...
gabsylv 1 year ago
@realjoefriday Nothing, but for the knowledge her listeners have that if pressed directly on the point of the morality of homosexuality, she would condemn it. She exercises restraint, but you never know when that restraint will become unleashed and become hurtful. That's the slippery slope of Dr. Laura and why ultimately she has had to quit the air waves.
gabsylv 1 year ago
@gabsylv When people say something, it's almost guaranteed that someone will be offended by it. No one is born with the right not to be offended.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 I prefer the "glass half full" approach, i.e., "No one is born with the right to offend with impunity." Yes, we all have an innate right to not be offended just as we have a right not to be robbed or killed, and an innate responsibility as human beings not to be offensive or hurtful to others. Or are we apes, now? More thinking
gabsylv 1 year ago
@gabsylv Well, in that case, we all are apes.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
HEY DR.LAURA LET HIM FINISH TALKING!
jayder65 1 year ago
what a douche she is
untamedshrew69 1 year ago
@starryeyd615 I was thinking the same. Like where is this "dr".Laura from and her listeners that they don't see how fraud she is in her judgments... My sister would not in anyway be disappointed if her son falls in love with another man. I know they're parents like the ones she describes, and those parentsnshould not have had kids in the first place. How dare you dis own your own child or make them feel bad. People dare judge homosexuals and say they are an illness. You are the illness, you rel
LikMyFace 1 year ago
My point is that if it were "the way that they naturally are", then a lot of Autistic disorders would fail to qualify as illnesses. The biggest thing is the loss of most of their reproductive capacity, and that's the primary thing that makes being a homo or a bi an illness.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 Your arguments are even less sound than before. Just give up and go play some video games or something. It's not like someone is gonna give you a medal for having the longest one-sided, losing argument on Youtube. A month from now, you're probably going to regret having posted at all because people will be responding to something so ancient that you probably don't even care about anymore. I suggest you go play Minecraft because that'll give you a good year's worth of Gameplay.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman How are my arguments unsound?
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 go to Wikipedia and look at their article for "Soundness".
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman I was talking about people's feelings and making assumptions about how they would feel when a homo/bi did his/her thing around them.
If you're going to accuse me or my arguments of something, then you'll need to be more specific than this, because I'm having trouble understanding you.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
I think being homosexual is an illness. Think of it this way: If everyone else were like that, humanity would die very soon. The homos' and bis' ability to reproduce is obviously hampered, and people are extremely uncomfortable around them. Look at kids with bad social problems. There's nothing life-threatening to themselves or to others, and yet people still consider certain Autistic disorders to be illnesses!
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 I think the existance of gay people is a natural kind of population control. Not everyone is driven by the desire to breed.
themasterbakerrr 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr That argument is fallacious, because not wanting to breed is not something that most people find offensive. Being a homo is something that people find very offensive, and I think that the "population contol" (if we lived in the wilderness, that is) would be straight cavemen removing the homo cavemen from the population. The only thing that's natural about them is a figment of their mind that really isn't a legitimate sexual attraction.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr You didn't tell me how being gay is not an illness even though their ability to reproduce is severely hampered.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 Their ability to reproduce isn't hampered. Most gay people are perfectly capable of reproducing -- a lot of them just choose not to. Then again, some do choose to reproduce.
I don't think it's fair to discount all gay people as mentally ill since many gay people live totally balanced, productive lives. The fact that you're offended by them is YOUR problem, not their problem.
themasterbakerrr 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr I said most people are offended by them, and that they would prefer not to be around them. It's unfair to the vast majority of people for gays to use the government to impose their agenda on their countrymen. That's different than me personally being offended (you're right, that is my problem).
Part of the reproductive process is a sexual attraction toward the opposite sex. By the definition of "sexual", it can only be toward the opposite sex, because you can't reproduce -
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr -sexually without the cooperation of a member of the opposite sex. Adoption doesn't count as "having children and starting a family". That's not natural.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr In my opinion, that's not only unnatural, it's completely perverted.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 Oh well, like I said, that's your issue. Gay people will continue to exist, whether you like it or not. If you don't like it, move to a place where gay people "don't exist", like Iran. I'm sure you'd have a real hoot there.
themasterbakerrr 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr Well, I'd always hope for a non-religious cure, and donate to research efforts.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 If a non-religious cure is found, it can be reverse engineered to find a compound that causes homosexuality. After which, someone could actually make a virus that produces the Homosexualizing Compound. I hope someone Homosexualizes you when that time comes so that when you die, your God will say "Nope, you're gay, you go down stairs with Satan."
Homosexuality isn't a disease, but your religious is.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman I'm an Atheist. Please try to get more information about people before you threaten them, Sargentleman.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 You're like the people who are Vegetarian for moral reasons but won't become Vegans. What's so bad about other people being homosexual? It's not like you're going to catch their "disease" by letting them live their lives the way they want to. If you're Atheist, you're a fan of logic, no? Explain why it's so bad or go away.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman One doesn't "believe" in logic, Sargentleman.
It's not "bad" or "wrong", because as far as logic is concerned, nothing is "bad" or "wrong" (those are matters of belief). However, one can't deny that a fag or lesbian is less likely to reproduce when they're uncured. Thus, if an illness is defined by any inhibition of a body's functions, then homosexuality is an illness.
You also can't train a society to be "accepting" of people. People are people with emotions, and it's their...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...choice when it comes to who they want to be around. If the GEGP (Government-enforced Gay Privileges, because that's what the Gay rights movement is, strictly speaking) succeeds, then the government will have to enforce (key word is, "enforce") the agenda onto normal citizens, and that (most likely) will only lead to further distrust and hatred between straights and homos/bis.
Look at history: People felt the exact same ways about homos and bis as they do now (they are people...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...after all, and you can't control their feelings), and the 2 groups were respectful enough to keep their habits (which straights obviously found extremely offensive) behind closed doors. When straight couples start doing things that require privacy, even they'll go behind closed doors, even though what they're doing isn't as likely to be received in a violent way.
Even if "society has changed", this (people seeming to be more accepting of homos/bis) has happened as a result...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...of brainwashing. On the other hand, you have the human nature of most people who are likely to react negatively to the sight of 2 people of the same sex insulting their (the straight individuals) sexuality by doing these things that the straight person is likely to describe as something similar to "disgusting" or "offensive" or "perverse". A society that is "accepting of gays", thus, is very forged and unnatural, and things like that never last (that is, the society never lasts)
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 There are heterosexual couples that cuddle and there are heterosexual couples that dress up as Nazi's and whip each other until they bleed. Should we be anti-heterosexual because in that light heterosexuality looks unnatural and perverse? Now, let's say that two sets of homosexuals do the same two acts. What is the difference? If you're sticking with the reproduction argument, why does the Earth need more humans? We've practically overpopulated the fuck out of this planet.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman Saying that we've overpopulated the planet is a matter of opinion, isn't it? That's a good point with heterosexual couples doing those things that aren't likely to be taken kindly by the average Joe. However, I didn't say that such things shouldn't be allowed, I just said that they shouldn't be given political rights to do those things openly in public (which is what those individuals are trying to do, which is again, imposing their will on the country).
Don't forget that most...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ... heterosexual couples won't do that, and only a minority of them would. Most homo/bi "couples" (a lot of people don't consider them to be legitimate couples) will do things that most people would describe as even worse than whipping your girlfriend. Don't forget that homo males are more likely to be infected with HIV than anything/anyone else.
About the studies: there are a number of malfunctions that cause homosexuality, and it all comes in different breeds of being homo,...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 Assume that the studies showing that homosexuality is genetic are valid. If homosexuals don't reproduce, they don't pass on the homosexual gene. There won't be a time in which the entirety of the human race will be homosexual and the human population will stabilize, if not continue to increase. Think of homosexuality as natures response to human overpopulation, thereby, it's natural. Assume the average homosexual person does not act like those portrayed in pornos; not perverse.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...while straight sexuality (the only one that results is SEXUAL reproduction) comes in one form: the one necessary for reproduction. Thus, homo/bi "feelings" of "their own sexuality" are merely illusions, as they're not related to the sexuality that results in sexual reproduction.
Take an example of an Autistic kid with horrible social skills. From his perspective (don't call me a sexist, because males are more vulnerable to genetic illnesses than females), he can socialize ...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...just fine. He feels just fine, he's comfortable around other people! However, when he acts in a way that he finds comfortable, people will tell him that he isn't acting in a socially acceptable manner, even though he could have sworn that he was just fine. The only indication that he's able to receive about his mental illness is from other people. Not only that, but he isn't more vulnerable to HIV infection, as homo/bi males are.
So, despite the lesser amount of danger that...
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman ...dude is in (less susceptibility to HIV infection, less susceptibility to being attacked and killed by a gang and his being a mere annoyance, rather than an offensive presence), Autism (the disorders that only affect your social skills) is still considered an illness, even though they're in much less danger than fags are.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman Correction: I should have said, "political privileges to do those things in public", and not "political rights to do those things in public." My mistake.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Sargentleman Correction: I didn't mean that Autism is all disorders that inhibit social abilities, I meant that I was referring only to the Autistic disorders that do inhibit social skills.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 I think this theory also makes more sense than dismissing everyone who is gay as mentally ill.
themasterbakerrr 1 year ago
@themasterbakerrr I don't dismiss them as ill, but I feel that it more provable than any pro-gay argument that I've heard.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 You're a true jerk. What is the highest level of education you completed? Gayness has been declassified from the DSM since 1973. It is not an illness. If you respond to this and contradict me, you will most likely be ignored. Kindly stop the unjustified remarks. Now, Piss off!
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 Has it occurred to you that the declassification was for political purposes? Has it occurred to you that the Gay rights activists always go to the law in order to get their way (that means imposing their will in a dishonest way through the government)?
Have you noticed how much of a taboo topic that homosexuality is for most people? Has it occurred to you that it's because they're afraid of the violent reaction that would ensue if they spoke their minds? Do you think that (continued)
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 (Continued) ...has it occurred to you that human nature can't be changed by the passage of laws that enforce L.G.B.T. privileges? Have you noticed that emotionally loaded arguments are always used in support of L.G.B.T.-favoring propositions/arguments/comments (such as the insults that you have flung at me)?
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 no, the only thing that has occurred to me is that you're a narrow minded, patronizing bigot. The declassification was not for political reasons. I have read excellent books about the topic and I don't think you should argue with me. I'm a college instructor. What is the highest level of education you finished?
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 A college instructor...sorry but I have to call people when they make claims like that. What school is it and what do you teach? And in your readings about the declassification of homosexuality, what were your findings and what are these sources?
randommagnum 1 year ago
@randommagnum Sorry, but I'm not sharing specifically where I work. I teach a section of Developmental Psychology at a community college. I'm not sharing anymore information about my place of employment. The book I read was by a gentleman named Ronald Bayer titled "Homosexuality and American Psychiatry." The book title technically should be underlined or italicized, but that wasn't an option on here.
Sorry,
Instructor Jim
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 Well, it's just that your claim reminds me of the 18-year-olds who go on videos featuring over-unity machines, saying, "Yes this is possible...and I'm a physicist." Citing one's own education or profession only works if you are willing to back it up. You might as well not even mention it otherwise (nor should you bother mentioning the italicization technicality).
Now I'll ask again: what were your FINDINGS? That's what I'm going for here.
randommagnum 1 year ago
@randommagnum I dont remember what Bayer's findings were. It has been a little while since I read the book, but it i remember correctly, don't quote me, although there still some psychiatrists who wanted homosexuality to remain on the list of psychological disorders, most voted for its removal. And yes, there was some activist pressure, but most of them DID act out of conscience.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@randommagnum Jibjub80 has insulted me numerous times, randommagnum (somewhere in the neighborhood of 5 or 6 times). He might also be in the business of lying to people (or just saying politically correct, ignorant things). I've also asked him what he read about homosexuality, and he'll probably respond with more insults.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 I am sorry that you feel insulted, but I think it is the other way around. You did not only insult me, but the entire GLB population. Maybe, you are unable to be empathetic to another human being, but I would like you to try. Try putting yourself in the shoes of a GLB individual. Just try for a minute. You are now treated with scorn, told your lifestyle is "unnatural," or "immoral" and that the only acceptable option is lifetime singlehood. Would YOU enjoy that?
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 I did not insult them, I said that they are suffering from unpreventable illnesses that can hurt all of us. Don't you think it's insulting to say that they're oppressed in some way? When you say that they are treated like that, you're calling them inferior. If I have insulted them in some way, then I guess that we're both guilty.
In order to be "oppressed" by an entire society, a group would have to be inferior to begin with. Either that or impaired because of a genetic illness.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 You state in order to be oppressed by an entire society, "a group would have to be inferior to begin with". Do you believe black people are "inferior to begin with", or have a genetic illness called "darker skin", and hence were/are. oppressed? One of the most absurd comments I've read that was not misspelled. How can you be at least moderately educated and still make such a wild statement? Human sexuality, like our other appetites, is fluid, diverse. FAIL
gabsylv 1 year ago
@gabsylv The definition of "oppression" is always open to debate. I suggest that we avoid the use of such emotionally-loaded words.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 Wrong. We need more in-depth analysis of what oppression is, not an intellectual rout from it. Oppression is not "open to debate" for those who are actually oppressed. It is simply not an option to view it so. Human rights is an "open debate" for those for whom it is not a terrifying word. If it is an open debate for you, then you are living on the safe side of the gun.
gabsylv 1 year ago
@gabsylv All right, professor. What is oppression? Give me 10 highly detailed examples of it.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 1. won't live in same neighborhood 2. parents won't let children associate with them 3. no recognition by religious institutions 4. bullying /shame because of status 5. fear of eviction 6. exposure to hateful language/attitudes 7. can't hold hands in public 8. culture associated with urban ghettos 9. associated with diseases or crime 10. history peripheralized/ omitted from educational curriculum
gabsylv 1 year ago
@gabsylv The more objective you are in your analysis, Professor, the less confusion there will be as to what you mean.
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
@DarthConnis9999 And the more you seek, the more you will understand. Good!
gabsylv 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 Could we please keep this cordial and do away with the insults? I'm only a college freshman, majoring in Math. What are some of the books you've read about homosexuality, and what were the new discoveries that led to homosexuality being declassified as a reproductive/psychological/hormonal/social disorder?
Is our discussion about academic history or the classification of psychological disorders?
DarthConnis9999 1 year ago
Even though i've WON 2 CARS, 1 HARLEY, lot's of TRIPS, & helped my mom win 2 LARGE SCREEN TV'S & a DELL P.C., she degraded me IN FRONT OF RELATIVES by saying 'i WISH HE'D GET A JOB'! Keep in mind, I worked SEVERAL jobs, ALL WITHOUT BENEFITS OR PAID VACATIONS. And my uneducated homophobic mom has the gall to DISS ME?????? WTF?????
datamatx 1 year ago
i was expecting this to be a lot more offensive than it was. however i do take issue with her statement that 'moms want their sons to marry girls and have babies.' i think most good parents want their children to be happy, whatever manifestation that may take.
starryeyed615 1 year ago
She gave pretty good advice here. Why couldn't she do the same for the caller asking about her husband's friends and their racist comments? She listened to this guy and didn't go on and on about homosexual stereotypes. But when the woman was calling in about her husband she started tlkn about Obama and the n-word as if the woman could speak 4 the whole race.
MiiReaLitY 1 year ago
I am definitely NOT a Dr. Laura fan. However....I think that she definitely "hit the nail on the head" on this one. If this kid's father "flips-out" over the news that his son is gay,so be it. It's not healthy for this kid to spend his entire life "in the closet!!"
operacrasher 1 year ago
welll shes right it was mean but ti was the truth obviously if his mommy diddnt want hi to telll anyone it was because she was emabarrased or she just wats to protect him and make it easiyer and it was mean becaus eif ur gay and someones telling u ...that ur parent dosent want that and that theyre emabarrased by it then its gunna hurt and it was sad noone wants to hear that all she needed to say was that she was embarased she diddnt have to lecture on and on about what a mother wants it was mean
IloveCupcakesandTea 1 year ago
"You mother is embarrassed." 3 second silence.
wildreams 1 year ago
How the hell does Dr. Laura know what this guys mother expects or wishes? To plant that disappointment on this guy is Dr. Laura's perspective, not necessarily the guys mother.
CARSONART 1 year ago
@CARSONART She is his mother.
Sargentleman 1 year ago
he sounds exactly like my ex-best friend who is gay and hispanic!!!So weird! And whats with the stupid echo?
JessieAckles 1 year ago
Personally, I think she responded quite well to that call.
windigo77 1 year ago
"Your mom is embarassed by you!!! She want babies!!" Such healthy advise.
MegaJoey43 1 year ago
@MegaJoey43 Lol. Good 1!
MiiReaLitY 1 year ago
Well, she wasn't as bad as I was fearing she was going to be. The furthest she went was mom's disappointment at no grandchildren but that's likely true. She was a bit cold though but I think in general she is with a lot of issues.
mervinprone 1 year ago
god she's a bitch
captainclayman 1 year ago
@captainclayman No, that isn't strong enough for this woman. Schlessinger is a worthless, patronizing, insensitive, frigid, heartless TWAT
Jibjub80 1 year ago
She didn't let him talk. But knowing her bigotted generalizations of gay men, any gay guy who calls her for advice has got to be on cloud 9. As usual, this "doctor" Laura is a dis appointment.
ZarahLean 1 year ago
I love the echo by the way. I think that was a good call. "moms want their sons to marry and have babies" Amen to that!
You can't produce a baby by putting your penis is a poop hole, plain and simple.
Good video!
seedsofgrace 1 year ago
@seedsofgrace no, no i dont think anyone here is trying to claim babies can be made that way, but ya know, even if you catch the bus late at least you catch it.
malibulanlan 1 year ago
@seedsofgrace Plenty of heteros do what you described. Not everyone has the desire to reproduce. Love alone between two people is sufficient for a satisfactory marriage.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@seedsofgrace If I were a mother I would want only for my child to feel happy and love, whatever manifestation that might take. Mother's do not need to be superficial and greedy, they need only to love, accept, and treasure their children for the God-given gifts they are.
ithinkpigsarecool 10 months ago
@ithinkpigsarecool You can very well show that sort of affection and "love" after you rebuke his behavior and lifestyle. If you were a God fearing person you would show your dissaproval of his/her lifestyle by teaching them the truth through God's Word. True love is telling the truth. Homosexual lifestyle is against God's original plan. Just because we live in a 'watered down' society, doesn't mean we have to succomb to it.
seedsofgrace 10 months ago
@seedsofgrace If you rebuke someones lifestyle you are not showing them love and acceptance. And no one should be God-fearing, they should be God loving.
ithinkpigsarecool 10 months ago
@ithinkpigsarecool You read from a different bible than I do. I follow the KJV bible.
seedsofgrace 10 months ago
@seedsofgrace Are you smoking some of that WBC shit right now? I love God, I don't fear him. To fear him is to reject him an all that He has done for us. I love God, the only one I fear is myself for God has the final say for my actions, and if I do not ask for forgiveness then I just screwed myself over when my time comes.I also accept everybody, whether they be black, white, straight, or gay. And if that is a sin, then so be it. It's not changing who I am and it won't change who I am.
PACMANnot 10 months ago 3
Funny, Dr Laura rocks, on air for 30+ years, so successful, so strong minded, so clear, yes we all screw up, and non of us focus the loght on our darkest / low point, we all want the sun to make us glow, those who reject her, have the most weakness, denial is easy, at least she has been brave enough, to swim against the tide, what a poorer place without the voice of reason, she made mistakes, she also made a LOT of clear vision, easy words, of compassionate agreement, are easy to hear
xopipperxo 1 year ago
i would love to see dr laura get her skank head pile driven into the ground.,would do my heart good, skank thinks she can get away with being a smartass, pile drive her I say!!!!
grenda5 1 year ago
If you think that 'free' response that the 'gay' caller ASKED for was harsh, you are VERY thin skinned and you will have trouble in life accepting reality. He didn't ask for EMPATHY, he asked for ADVICE on dealing with his mother not wanting to him to tell his father about his sexual preference. He got it. He took it well. It made perfect sense. If you want things sugar coated, grab a bag of skittles.
teacupindian 1 year ago 9
God, she is the least compassionate person.
youthnovels13 1 year ago
that's her advice? your mom is embarrased...and hates you...deal with it.....FUCK DR.LAURA!
mlvc82 1 year ago
@mlvc82 At no point did Dr Laura say your mom hates you, exaggerating opinions / words / point of views is a shallow foundationless way to sway opinion to your opinion, if you dont like DL, swith off
xopipperxo 1 year ago
I really don't have a problem with her reply to this caller. In fact, she usually makes sense on a lot of issues. The latest rant regarding the "N" word was way out of line, however, and she's getting what she had coming to her. Although I don't think she is racist, I think she was extremely insensitive in the position she took and even her apology rang hollow and rather a "whine" about losing her 1st amendment rights. She has the right to say what she feels. We have the right to turn the dial.
stevos999 1 year ago
The echo is to make her sound evil. And of course, she is the voice of reason in an insanely politically correct world. If you think she is hostile to gays or blacks or whatever, you have selective listening skills. I have listened to her for years, and the idiocy comes from her callers, not her. Please, please tell me in this video where she is being homophobic or prejudiced. Have enough sense to know that "moms" is a term describing most, not all, moms. What mom wants her son to be gay? .0001%
grips13 1 year ago
She was harsh, but she told him the honest truth, maybe sometimes people need to hear it.
beautifulday01 1 year ago
I think she sort of has a point, but didn't seem to show much empathy towards the gay caller. It's very hard for him, I am sure.
QUINTUSMAXIMUS 1 year ago
Laura's feeble apology is unconvincing.
What do you expect from a bottled blond from old school Brooklyn?
Typical nasty broad from cheap immigrant parents. Somewhat smart
who bullied her way into success as a cheap radio host.
allermenchenaufder 1 year ago
@allermenchenaufder There isn't anything wrong with her having immigrant parents. It's her attitude, not having immigrant parents and what not.
QUINTUSMAXIMUS 1 year ago
not goood good advice, but when it's a personal question like that some things you shouldn't say like "your mom is embarrassed by you". still like she said it's his life whether his family treats him right or wrong over it they shouldn't pass judgement on him nor treat him differently. she held no punches lol
igotapk 1 year ago
What a cunt! He is supposed to deal with his mother's disappointment of him----until when? The Grave! Fuck her! He should tell his mother to get on board with acceptance of him, or get lost. Bitch!
page371069 1 year ago
I'm surprised, she actually gave good advice here.
Andorian323 1 year ago
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falbenze68 1 year ago
Man, she put the nail on the head!
Sebastian is probably crying now. lol
SpeedingStudent 1 year ago
This woman is sick. Good thing she's gonna be off the air soon. n_n
Dyakki 1 year ago
I'm finding myself agreeing with her on this one.
LarryRhodesIntl 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Seeing I decided to QUIT listening to Dr. Laura because I NOW believe she is a RACIST. If Dr, Laura finds the word NIGER acceptible then it would be ok to call her a "CUNT" Dr. Laura Cunt, how does that ring???? Get a life CUNT. p.s. I am WHITE, BTW.
gumshew2007 1 year ago
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siankane 1 year ago
@siankane Im just curious.......I have a fairly diverse group of friends.....and after observing behaviors im left wondering.......my Jewish friends DONT call each other kikes(EVER), my gay friends dont call each other faggots, my middle eastern friends dont ever call each other towel heads. Why do blacks choose to propagate that word?
atheistforchange 1 year ago
@atheistforchange My point is exactly that. African-Americans, especially women, are most offended by the "N word." I guess you would have to have heard this Dr. Laura rant to understand, but it was unbelievably offensive and mean-spirited. If she had left it at the argument that you are making she would have retained a little credibility. She went on, however, to tell this poor woman who had called her for advice that if she is "that hyper-sensitive she shouldn't marry outside of her race."
siankane 1 year ago
@siankane You have to hear the beginning of that phone call to understand why she said that. The caller was dating a white man, and felt that his family was being racist when they asked her how black people felt about things. Does sound pretty hypersensitive, which in turn doesn't sound like the makings of a happy relationship. The family wasn't using the "n" word. But then the call devolved into an argument about using that word, which was odd, & yeah, uncomfortable. I don't like hearing it.
Booofrthefirst 1 year ago
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siankane 1 year ago
@siankane Words do matter. I was just pointing out the reason she made that last statement about marrying outside her race; that it didn't come out of the blue. I listened to it again. (please don't make me listen again lol)
That statement may not have come out of the blue, but the wierd rant sure did.
Why did she even go there? The rant was offensive & mean-spirited....& not even necessary. I think we agree on that.
Booofrthefirst 1 year ago
@Booofrthefirst I did hear the entire call. It started well enough, but as soon as this woman, who called her for comfort and advice, told DL that she felt "uncomfortable", the so-called "doctor" started in on defining levels racist semantics. In so doing, she suggested that now that we have a "half-Black President" racism isn't relevant and if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. If I said "Kike" to DL, I guarantee that she would be repulsed. It's not just semantics. Words matter.
siankane 1 year ago
@siankane If Jews referred to each other as Kikes, you'd have a point.
grips13 1 year ago
I don't understand why anyone would post this unless it's just to show how spot-on Dr. Laura can be.
guyNbluejeans 1 year ago
@guyNbluejeans exactly ... i think everything she said is right.
salmaaO1x3 1 year ago
This is so fake, you made this up.
kikusama 1 year ago
Dr. Laura hates fags because god told her to hate fags. She needs to keep religion out of her practice!
setmedic 1 year ago
Schlessinger never got along well with her father, and she and her mother had been estranged for at least 14 years before her mother's odd death in 2002. (Her partially decomposed corpse had been on the floor of her apartment for two months before being discovered[2], and police initially suspected murder).
justonefirefly1 1 year ago
@justonefirefly1 copy paste much? lmao. fail! oh teh lulz!
OzPublic 1 year ago
@OzPublic If you think that passes for wit - rethink. Non contributor....bet you say here 1st when there are no other comments?
justonefirefly1 1 year ago
@justonefirefly1 lmao! is that in the video? because you sound like you have something up your ass. oh teh lulz
OzPublic 1 year ago
Her affair with Bill Ballance began while Schlessinger was still married, and her affair with her current husband Lew Bishop began while he was still married. Dr. Laura disapproves of divorce and pornography, but as a divorcee she posed for what can be called a "beaver shot" with her legs spread. In October of 1998, this and other naked photos of Schlessinger appeared on the internet.
justonefirefly1 1 year ago
@justonefirefly1 So, let me get this straight...You have lived a perfect life so you can give advice? Frankly, I believe she's probably one of the rare ones who have actually learned from her mistakes. Of course, she has regrets. You're talking about a human being not a god.
Ginasong 1 year ago
@Ginasong So let me get this straight a whore that is not only NOT perfect nor has ever admitted her mistakes and let her mother die alone and not have her body discovered for 5 days, I should take advice from a whore who loves to victimize people because she enjoys their pain? I would never give advice when my own example was so poor. If I want advice - Mother Theresa, Ghandi, a trained therapist, pray go to church... ask someone I respect. She is like asking a child molester for advice.
justonefirefly1 1 year ago
@justonefirefly1 I think that the comment about Ms Schlessinger being like asking a child molester for advice is extreme, BUT Laura is not qualified to give the advice she gives, and I would not trust her. When she refers to herself as 'Doctor Laura,' she is being deceitful to those who are misinformed, because her degree is not in a counseling related field. I think that a better analogy would be, "calling this woman for advice is no better than asking an engineer who may hold a PHD"
Jibjub80 1 year ago
I can't stand Dr.Laura!
WebSurfing1ish 1 year ago
@WebSurfing1ish Neither can I. She shows neither treats her callers with compassion nor respect. Listen closely to the way she handled this guy. Although she wasn't totally over the top this particular time, she responded with a tone of annoyance, and said that the mother was embarrassed. How would she know what the mother was thinking? Maybe Laura would have been embarrassed in the same situation, but she can't speak for others.
Jibjub1980 1 year ago
Why do young gay people insist on "coming out". Sexuality is a personal thing, and does not need to be discussed. I say, if someone asks you directly, feel free to tell them, otherwise, leave private things private.
billyphx2001 1 year ago
OK. So don't talk to me or anyone about your girlfriend, boyfriend, don't invite people to wedding, ect. Good luck. Otherwise, shut the fuck up. Thanks. :]
Dyakki 1 year ago
Ha ha ha....love it!! Dr. Laura is right on here. It's amazing to me that if you are different we need to accept it but the people on the receiving end aren't supposed to have their own feelings. It truely does go both ways.
Dean100able 1 year ago
He should expect a negative reaction as his family may not show support and may not respect his gay life style. That is what to be expected in our society, negative reaction. A young man at the age of 18, maybe way too early to find that he is gay if he had no relationship with a woman,
patsaxon 1 year ago
@patsaxon That is ridiculous. You know. You may try to fight it, but deep down you know. How? Because it's innate. It's been shown that gay men are attracted to male pheromones, just as straight people are to opposite gender pheromones.
jadorechanel19 1 year ago
As a licensed clinician, I find her comments to be more for entertainment than therapeutic. She seems to be projecting her thoughts and beliefs on his situation. The comment about mom's wanting their children to marry girls, etc, is so ridiculous--as a therapist. It is unfortunate that he chose her for insight. The heterosexist and homophobic comments on this thread don't surprise ...sadly. It is the reason so many people live in fear of being who they are...whatever that is.
NzingaWarrior 1 year ago