It's great that you had the courage to do that but these stories always piss me off.
For one thing, there is absolutely no excuse for not accepting your own children for who they are.
For another, coming to terms with sexuality as a teenager is hard enough for straight people, however we might try to hide it, so to make it even more difficult for someone else is just plain cruel. I hope your hometown someday realizes that it is no longer 1952, not that such BS was acceptable then either.
how sad....pretty girl like you is a bisexual???girl let me ask you...what will you gain being a bisexual?please be a normal person get a boyfriend have a nice life..
@Godlike0503 I am a "normal" person. I understand you are concerned, but I lead a very happy life, and being bisexual is not abnormal. Just because we have more of a voice in today's world, does not mean we haven't existed as long as heterosexuals have in this world. The only thing that's changed are laws.
I'm bisexual, but I don't think it's that much of an issue to be bisexual, and there's a lot less of a need to come out. Of course I'm not saying that being homosexual is bad or having any other sexual orientation.
I,m 14, and do not care who knows, the kids at school know , and they accept me for who I am, I have never hid it, I just don,t care, and this is the 21st century, Lets just love and accept everyone , by the way , your very pretty
Thank you for sharing this. You're obviously an intelligent, well-spoken young woman with a nice dose of courage. I know you did this video, what, two years ago, but I hope we hear from you again.
this seems so much like me! i've always felt those feelings for guys but i thought it too was just a phase until i realized, i don't think this is a phase . that's how i learned i was bisexual
I've been there too sweetie! Im bisexual and people judge..it sucks but I am who I am and I will NEVER change for anybody else in the world. great, inspirational video. (: <3 love is great, love who you want! Kisses
i came out to one of my friends i am bi... well some how every body found out.... i was like oh fuck..... i got bombarded with stupid questions like how do that work... do you pitch or catch ....my parents havent found out yet... though i did try to with my mother as she is the less accepting one of the two....hold up let me quote this " your not old enought to decide that"... so she wouldnt like it to much... my dad doesnt care (i think he already knows just doesnt care)
Well i dont think I am bisexual, i am quite sure i am a lesbian. But I commend you for having the balls to tell your parrents and everyone for that matter. I have not told anyone except for my best friend, and i might have accidentaly told people when I was drunk. I guess I am quite scared to tell people.
Wow, that was kinda sweet sad storie... Really liked it!! You are a real good storie teller.
I went to school in a really small town too, but fortunatally there was no discrimination at all. We had several gay/lesbien couples ans no one ever lost a bad word about that. Maybe it´s because there are very few christans in (east)germany.
I'm bisexual, too, and my 'rents acted like your mom did, but my mom was pretty bitchy about it. I came out to 8 close friends and they're completely fine with it. I came out to my sis and her b/f and they think I'm confused. Then I came out to my parents. They think it's just a phase and we should go to family therapy. O.O
I agree with you, too; I think it's pretty unfair how straight couples can show PDA but same-sex ones can't. I really hope the world grows up and will be more open-minded.
Im Bisexual But I Cant Tell Any Of My Friends My BestFriend Or Even My Parents Because My Parents Would Flip Annnnd My Mates Are Going Through This Thing Were They Think Its 'Cool' To Pretend Their Bisexual/Lebian/Gay. So If I Tell Them They Will Just Think Im Playing Along With Their Stupid Game Thing. But Yh Any Addvice Would Be AMAZING...ThankYou. XD x
I was the same at a stage of my life aswel but you just got to get over them that if they don't accept you for who YOU are then how can you ever accept yourself?
if there all saying there bi/gay/lesbian just for a phase to be cool well then thats going to be short lived.. they will snap out of it eventually.. if u just come out they will realise your not only saying it to be "cool" because u will be the one to still be bisexual after the phase has ended..and at least come out while there saying it so u can try experimenting with some of the girls ;)
hope this helped a bit the same thing happened to me and thats what i done. :)
btw. about being "open" I completely agree with you .. its hard to be who you in general not to mention when you're a girl and you're with a girl... I guess it's a little bit easier when you are older? cus you can defend urself but I'm assuming ure still gonna get a lot of discrimination. Still, if I were there, I'm quite a rebel, so it actually gives me a jolt to be like "fcuk you all, I'm with my girl and say what you will just don't get in my path or I'll blow your brains" kinda attitude ;)
The only time I was intimate with my girl was at a club and people loved it! Oh GOD all the guys who wanted to/felt they had the right to interject! Which is totally gross .... but it was kinda funny at the time :P
My mom found out when I was 25 and she seemed SURPRISINGLY cool about it and was like "meh, it's ur life, do what u want .... but don't marry a girl! don't screw up your life" ... which made me laugh :)
Anyway, I'm quite independent so that's why other ppls opinion, even my rents', doesn't bother me.
hey, i really like ur video. i came out to my friends at school and they had the same reactions like omg i no a gay friend and then ut spread real quick and now i dont care anymore so ppl are like ur the bi girl arent u im like yer deal with it but i accept everybody and i wish ppl could do the same and im glad u didnt crack under the pressure of ur mum and yerrr i made the stupid mistake of answering questions lol
hey there, good video! sounds alot like me! im a bisexual guy and when i came out to my dad it shatard his world completly! right now he's just trying to ignore it and pretend it doesent exist.
I have a theory about female bisexuality. This was especially true when mankind was young. Theory is that bisexual relationships happen between women, so that if one of them dies in childbirth or soon thereafter, they are willing to take up raising that child as if it were her own. This increases odds of either female passing their genes along, even if one of them dies.
LOL Im gay and my mom fell down laughing and i started laughing then my stepdad called me a fag and i punched him in the face and pushed him down the stairs
lmao my dad had the same reaction as your mom! When i told him i was bisexual he couldn't stop laughing.. i was like "what..why are laughing? how is it funny?" he's like "nothing, i'm just shocked! I never would've expected that from you!" ...but overall he was ok with it!
Its so sad to see you start to choke up in the end Cassie. I don't know what you have gone through but I have experiences that i can relate to. Stay strong and remember to never be ashamed of who you are. I have had many friends who have gone through similar things. There is one piece of advice that was said by a person who didn't conform into society by the name of Kurt Cobain and he said this "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not"
luckily i've come out to almost all my friends and everyone's been really supportive and ok with it.. thing is that now my mom has gotten really overprotective and questions EVERYTHING (like u said with the sleepovers.. i'm barely allowed any anymore) so it sucks.. she always thinks im lying to her and stuff and i just really wish she'd accept me and move on.. problem is my whole family is so religious and they are against it all :( and they keep trying to force guys on me.. ughh.. k im done lol
Sounds like we share the same mother... but it makes such a huge difference when you become legal. Now even thou my parents say i must date a white male that's my age, I no longer have to listen to my parents. Who i date is not based upon race, age, or gender. And i know who i am with now my parents would not approve of, but that's not really my problem in the end. We must be who we are.
yeah my mom's the same! :P lol she says it all the time how she wants me to get with a white guy 2 and im like omg MOM like it's really annoying... like i'm currently crushing on this girl... and i kissed her once 2 (she's totally cool wit everything thank goodness) and i honestly thought she may be bi 2 but turns out she's straight :( so like i can't even tell her... it sucks! but yeah ur right we have to be who we are :) thanks! :D
even though i wasn't ready i had to... she was too upset and it was killing me so i said ok look mom the reason she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore is cuz we kissed once... and she fell silent... then i just said "i'm bi.." and she's like :|... it was such awkward silence... but then it kinda sunk in and she went crazy... she started yelling and crying and kept telling me it was "JUST A PHASE" and that i'd get over it... well i never did mom.. we haven't talked about it since..
so i had to talk to her about what had happened... i tried to cut as much as i could out without making it sound suspicious... i just said stuff like "we had a fight.. and she doesn't wanna be my friend anymore" and of course she kept questioning relentlessly!... but i just ignored it until it got to the point where she was sure i wuz hiding something and got really REALLY emotional (like ur mom) but she didn't even know yet! she thought i wuz like suicidal or something!!!! i had to tell her..
so we kissed... and clearly i had a crush on her that i had brushed off as just best-friend feelings... because i felt something during the kiss... anyways long LONG speculation... went on for about a year... i realized i wuz bi :) NOW i made the mistake of telling this girl that i liked her.. although i said that it didn't have to change anything or w.e. it didn't matter and she stopped talking to me... needless to say i was very upset and my mom wanted to know what was wrong with me...
WELL that's freakishly similar to MY story :D lol im prob. gonna run out of room but i'll try... basically my whole life i thought i wuz just straight, i dated a guy, kissed him (didn't feel much but w.e.) i still thought i wuz straight. THEN (and at the time i was really close friends with this girl) i went over this girl's house and we played a game of dirty dice with her and her friend (so the 3 of us)... and it turns out that i kissed her...
i feel weird.... i totally "came out" as gay to my mom when i was TEN and to my dad when i was thirteen! woah. then barely came out as trans about a month ago, which made me almost 18.
im not really sure why i feel weird about it. its just, i watch everyone else's videos and theyve dealt with so much. and i was really lucky. my parents always accepted me (in both "coming out" circumstances) and my friends accept me as gay... a handful even know im going to transition. i just wish everyone else was as lucky as i am. i feel almost a sense of shame because its not fair that my family and community is so accepting and others arent.
Don't feel shame! Consider yourself lucky. Really... im jealous that you have been so lucky. But don't feel like you dont deserve that just because the rest of us struggle. I almost cried last night thinking about the next time I get a girlfriend... how I know next time im going to have to tell my entire family. Especially if I date the girl I have my eyes on, she is older and would need me to be completely out to everyone. And thats scary. It shouldnt be that big of a deal.
advice: if she wants you to be out and if you feel up for it, please do it. i was with this girl for my entire 4yrs of high school and i was a secret to her family and most of her friends. it made me feel so bad that she couldnt bring herself to tell her family or at least just her parents about me. that was the basis for all of our fights and, eventually, our break up last november (wow i cant believe its been a yr!) but seriously, never hide your feelings and/or the person you care for
Well I remember my with first girlfriend... my realitives would ask me if I had a boyfriend and id say no. And they would say "thats ok, one will come along". But really I wanted to brag about how great of a girlfriend I had, but I couldnt. I could not do that again... im in it for the long hall. Im pretty certain she would dump me anyways if I couldnt be out. She doesnt hide, and her whole fam knows about her so...
yeah I bet high school is a really tough place to come out. I came out at 27 (3.5 years ago) and I definitely miss the fact that I didn't get to have a lesbian youth. but I didn't have many social issues - didn't lose any of my straight friends over it and my family was cool about it. I had to leave a husband though. that was tough.
Oh yes, but it is much better not to live a lie. For me, I was only living half a lie i suppose. But it still ate me up inside. Being with my girlfriend, being happy... and not being able to share my happy stories with people hurt so much. It was painful.
I think hiding bisexuality is just as hard as hiding homosexuality. my sexuality isn't totally in stone but I'm much more comfortable out in the queer community than as a hetero-appearing wife in the suburbs nursing secret longings
Haha...my parents got suspicious about me, too when I started spending the night with my girlfriend a lot. My dad asked if I was a lesbian, and at the time I didn't know, so I told him I was confused but dating a girl. Now we're not allowed to have sleep overs anymore which sucks ass...but, yeah, just thought I'd share that.
Argh...you're lucky. I'm only 16 so I still have a few years before I move out. My girlfriend and I almost broke up because of how controlling my parents are. It makes things really hard, ya know?
Yes, I understand completely. Its a lot of stuff for young people to take on. You gotta stay strong though. I know I made a lot of mistakes, it was the best/worst year of my life. It was highly stressful, but I was also in love and that was amazing. Follow your heart always.
It's great that you had the courage to do that but these stories always piss me off.
For one thing, there is absolutely no excuse for not accepting your own children for who they are.
For another, coming to terms with sexuality as a teenager is hard enough for straight people, however we might try to hide it, so to make it even more difficult for someone else is just plain cruel. I hope your hometown someday realizes that it is no longer 1952, not that such BS was acceptable then either.
TreasonousBastard 1 month ago
You need to join us girl and stop the sadness!
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cassie- make more vids! :D i want to see u and ur hot sexy bf or gf :D
zanaduify 2 months ago
u kinda look like me...cool!
zitalee2 6 months ago
how sad....pretty girl like you is a bisexual???girl let me ask you...what will you gain being a bisexual?please be a normal person get a boyfriend have a nice life..
this really pisses me off...
Godlike0503 6 months ago
@Godlike0503 I am a "normal" person. I understand you are concerned, but I lead a very happy life, and being bisexual is not abnormal. Just because we have more of a voice in today's world, does not mean we haven't existed as long as heterosexuals have in this world. The only thing that's changed are laws.
Cassie873 2 months ago
omg i love u! ur coming out story is a lot like mine :P :)
zanaduify 8 months ago
It's not your fault it is something you are born with, its ok :)
MultiMomoxx 8 months ago
I love this. This helped a lot. Thank you.
HydrogenIsExplosive 9 months ago
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I'm bisexual, but I don't think it's that much of an issue to be bisexual, and there's a lot less of a need to come out. Of course I'm not saying that being homosexual is bad or having any other sexual orientation.
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Emanresu56 9 months ago
hahaha suspicious lol
taraol88 10 months ago
janitor.. >.<
riverstwins 11 months ago
Everyone is bisexual.
Astraeos13 1 year ago
I,m 14, and do not care who knows, the kids at school know , and they accept me for who I am, I have never hid it, I just don,t care, and this is the 21st century, Lets just love and accept everyone , by the way , your very pretty
shygurl893 1 year ago 2
@shygurl893 I'm very glad to hear that! And thx :)
Cassie873 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing I'm bi and almost 14 and wanting to come out!
MsSneakerlover 1 year ago
@MsSneakerlover I wish you good luck!
Cassie873 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing this. You're obviously an intelligent, well-spoken young woman with a nice dose of courage. I know you did this video, what, two years ago, but I hope we hear from you again.
darkprose 1 year ago
@darkprose I'm alive and kicking. Everything is all good, I encourage people to be more accepting of others everyday.
Cassie873 1 year ago
Love is stupid
mskatybabe11 1 year ago
your camp story is cuteness
oh god mom walks in; tragedy ensues
by the way how do you do that and how does that work?
ps i'm a guy; username is joke
omgimlesbiantoo 1 year ago
Don't take this the wrong way but you remind me of a young Zac Hanson XD You're really pretty though, which I guess means he is also pretty.
FM897 1 year ago
Real friends & people with good hearts wont care about your orientation,
Live life the way you want too & enjoy it (dont do drugs)
You only live once x
Maddpadd 1 year ago
that's sad. did you break up cuz of the pressure? your parents are really closeminded.
you're so cute btw, you look like a prettier me. it's freaky.
LemonOdette 1 year ago
@LemonOdette Partly, that and she kept flirting with other people.
Cassie873 1 year ago
i am happy of being streight, and i wish u be happy of being bisexual..
Amid59 1 year ago 3
@Amid59 :) I like this comment.
Cassie873 1 year ago
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bobbyknight1970 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your story. Many blessings! Dee
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haha you can go choke on one b*tch
TandS9073 1 year ago
@TandS9073
I think you should talk to someone about your anger issues
Cassie873 1 year ago
haha it dawned on me too like that, I was like ya know, I'm in denial, I like girls too. hmph. yay.
APEEEEEx3 1 year ago
@APEEEEEx3 Haha its funny to realize, like its never really occurred to us before.
Cassie873 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your story... It has really helped me...
VampireUchiha467 1 year ago
Your very brave, I really admire you. Your sexaul preference has nothing to do with who you are inside.
Why do people judge someone who is bisexaull? love is love.
singleguy1946 1 year ago
somtimes its hard to admit
pikachulovable 1 year ago
awe your so sexy!
Im a bi gurl ;]
what you were going through is different that me, but I feel for you <3
dontworrybehappyjuju 2 years ago
Do you know how many times I've watched this video?
Thanks for uploading this. I'm glad you filled out the 10 mins.
nomeconocen 2 years ago 3
@nomeconocen
:)
Cassie873 1 year ago
@nomeconocen I hope everything is going good, nearly a year later.
Cassie873 1 year ago
this seems so much like me! i've always felt those feelings for guys but i thought it too was just a phase until i realized, i don't think this is a phase . that's how i learned i was bisexual
pdiddlydegen 2 years ago
ohhhhhhh. been there *hugs*
mbrighter2 2 years ago
cool post.
pablo4115 2 years ago
I've been there too sweetie! Im bisexual and people judge..it sucks but I am who I am and I will NEVER change for anybody else in the world. great, inspirational video. (: <3 love is great, love who you want! Kisses
Jenna
ThatJENNAchick 2 years ago 2
Thx :)
Cassie873 2 years ago
you're pretty :)
andygabby100 2 years ago 4
*blush*
Cassie873 2 years ago
i came out to one of my friends i am bi... well some how every body found out.... i was like oh fuck..... i got bombarded with stupid questions like how do that work... do you pitch or catch ....my parents havent found out yet... though i did try to with my mother as she is the less accepting one of the two....hold up let me quote this " your not old enought to decide that"... so she wouldnt like it to much... my dad doesnt care (i think he already knows just doesnt care)
ravenmagic5 2 years ago
Well i dont think I am bisexual, i am quite sure i am a lesbian. But I commend you for having the balls to tell your parrents and everyone for that matter. I have not told anyone except for my best friend, and i might have accidentaly told people when I was drunk. I guess I am quite scared to tell people.
ihavnoideawattorite 2 years ago
Wow, that was kinda sweet sad storie... Really liked it!! You are a real good storie teller.
I went to school in a really small town too, but fortunatally there was no discrimination at all. We had several gay/lesbien couples ans no one ever lost a bad word about that. Maybe it´s because there are very few christans in (east)germany.
*sorry for spelling mistakes:)*
DunenPai 2 years ago
myparents found out i was bi a few months ago the're accepting, well atleast my dad is. i think my mom resents it which kinda hurts
good luck
sorry i didn't watch your whle video (i couldn't hear it)
(: ps you're really pretty. :)
rawrrawrdenisemarie 2 years ago
I'm bisexual, too, and my 'rents acted like your mom did, but my mom was pretty bitchy about it. I came out to 8 close friends and they're completely fine with it. I came out to my sis and her b/f and they think I'm confused. Then I came out to my parents. They think it's just a phase and we should go to family therapy. O.O
I agree with you, too; I think it's pretty unfair how straight couples can show PDA but same-sex ones can't. I really hope the world grows up and will be more open-minded.
purduepup 2 years ago 3
im so sorry hun.
truthfully, the worst thing that i think people can do to bisexual people and pansexual people is priech to them or try to "change" them.
ive been there.
emxempthy 2 years ago 3
"Oh my God... I know... a gay person! I must tell the wordl!"
Lol that DOES happen
Why do people react that way?
MienaiRose 2 years ago 2
I dont knovv, must just be a "its just like on tv!"
Cassie873 2 years ago
I Like Your Video. :)
Im Bisexual But I Cant Tell Any Of My Friends My BestFriend Or Even My Parents Because My Parents Would Flip Annnnd My Mates Are Going Through This Thing Were They Think Its 'Cool' To Pretend Their Bisexual/Lebian/Gay. So If I Tell Them They Will Just Think Im Playing Along With Their Stupid Game Thing. But Yh Any Addvice Would Be AMAZING...ThankYou. XD x
sk8abbez 2 years ago 3
I was the same at a stage of my life aswel but you just got to get over them that if they don't accept you for who YOU are then how can you ever accept yourself?
YepImBisexual 2 years ago
Supose Your Right, Thankz. :)
sk8abbez 2 years ago
if there all saying there bi/gay/lesbian just for a phase to be cool well then thats going to be short lived.. they will snap out of it eventually.. if u just come out they will realise your not only saying it to be "cool" because u will be the one to still be bisexual after the phase has ended..and at least come out while there saying it so u can try experimenting with some of the girls ;)
hope this helped a bit the same thing happened to me and thats what i done. :)
Irish111o 2 years ago
haha 'i know a gay person!'
that is so true :)
nice vid
FantastalisticJonas 2 years ago
btw. about being "open" I completely agree with you .. its hard to be who you in general not to mention when you're a girl and you're with a girl... I guess it's a little bit easier when you are older? cus you can defend urself but I'm assuming ure still gonna get a lot of discrimination. Still, if I were there, I'm quite a rebel, so it actually gives me a jolt to be like "fcuk you all, I'm with my girl and say what you will just don't get in my path or I'll blow your brains" kinda attitude ;)
chromeNRG 2 years ago
Hahaha i like your attitude u remind me of me =)
Irish111o 2 years ago
The only time I was intimate with my girl was at a club and people loved it! Oh GOD all the guys who wanted to/felt they had the right to interject! Which is totally gross .... but it was kinda funny at the time :P
chromeNRG 2 years ago
ure so cute ♥ and wise.
lol about ur "sleepover" story.
My mom found out when I was 25 and she seemed SURPRISINGLY cool about it and was like "meh, it's ur life, do what u want .... but don't marry a girl! don't screw up your life" ... which made me laugh :)
Anyway, I'm quite independent so that's why other ppls opinion, even my rents', doesn't bother me.
chromeNRG 2 years ago
lol i got tht reaction, but my friend is a really nice guy, he knows im Bi, and hes not, but i like him, and he hugs me everyday :D:)
Anton4223 2 years ago
hey, i really like ur video. i came out to my friends at school and they had the same reactions like omg i no a gay friend and then ut spread real quick and now i dont care anymore so ppl are like ur the bi girl arent u im like yer deal with it but i accept everybody and i wish ppl could do the same and im glad u didnt crack under the pressure of ur mum and yerrr i made the stupid mistake of answering questions lol
bi4lifexo 2 years ago
hey there, good video! sounds alot like me! im a bisexual guy and when i came out to my dad it shatard his world completly! right now he's just trying to ignore it and pretend it doesent exist.
webirule 2 years ago
WOW. I know a GAY PERSON.
^ I lol'd :P
maya9312 2 years ago
if ur parents dont accept it fuck em, seriously u dont need parents 2 giv u ur own self confidence
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I have a theory about female bisexuality. This was especially true when mankind was young. Theory is that bisexual relationships happen between women, so that if one of them dies in childbirth or soon thereafter, they are willing to take up raising that child as if it were her own. This increases odds of either female passing their genes along, even if one of them dies.
ChuckyJesus666 3 years ago
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yeah sex sex sex sex i want a video about you and your friend!!!!!!!!! you making out!!!!
zyzydeath 3 years ago
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hey faggot i pitty you!
you cant feel the buiety of this hot girl that totaly fuckable id fuch her haaaaaaard!
zyzydeath 3 years ago
LOL Im gay and my mom fell down laughing and i started laughing then my stepdad called me a fag and i punched him in the face and pushed him down the stairs
EraticEmo 3 years ago 29
That started out nice and ended really scary.
Cassie873 3 years ago
lmao my dad had the same reaction as your mom! When i told him i was bisexual he couldn't stop laughing.. i was like "what..why are laughing? how is it funny?" he's like "nothing, i'm just shocked! I never would've expected that from you!" ...but overall he was ok with it!
BecauseWereHuman 3 years ago 11
Lol
imisshim8 2 years ago
@EraticEmo best coming out story ever :')
zitalee2 6 months ago
Its so sad to see you start to choke up in the end Cassie. I don't know what you have gone through but I have experiences that i can relate to. Stay strong and remember to never be ashamed of who you are. I have had many friends who have gone through similar things. There is one piece of advice that was said by a person who didn't conform into society by the name of Kurt Cobain and he said this "I'd rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not"
From a fellow BlogTVer
SuperTrooper107 3 years ago 4
Aw thank you, that was very sweet. I also love that quote.
Go Blogtv :)
Cassie873 3 years ago
luckily i've come out to almost all my friends and everyone's been really supportive and ok with it.. thing is that now my mom has gotten really overprotective and questions EVERYTHING (like u said with the sleepovers.. i'm barely allowed any anymore) so it sucks.. she always thinks im lying to her and stuff and i just really wish she'd accept me and move on.. problem is my whole family is so religious and they are against it all :( and they keep trying to force guys on me.. ughh.. k im done lol
hermione1135 3 years ago
Sounds like we share the same mother... but it makes such a huge difference when you become legal. Now even thou my parents say i must date a white male that's my age, I no longer have to listen to my parents. Who i date is not based upon race, age, or gender. And i know who i am with now my parents would not approve of, but that's not really my problem in the end. We must be who we are.
Cassie873 3 years ago
yeah my mom's the same! :P lol she says it all the time how she wants me to get with a white guy 2 and im like omg MOM like it's really annoying... like i'm currently crushing on this girl... and i kissed her once 2 (she's totally cool wit everything thank goodness) and i honestly thought she may be bi 2 but turns out she's straight :( so like i can't even tell her... it sucks! but yeah ur right we have to be who we are :) thanks! :D
hermione1135 3 years ago 2
even though i wasn't ready i had to... she was too upset and it was killing me so i said ok look mom the reason she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore is cuz we kissed once... and she fell silent... then i just said "i'm bi.." and she's like :|... it was such awkward silence... but then it kinda sunk in and she went crazy... she started yelling and crying and kept telling me it was "JUST A PHASE" and that i'd get over it... well i never did mom.. we haven't talked about it since..
hermione1135 3 years ago
so i had to talk to her about what had happened... i tried to cut as much as i could out without making it sound suspicious... i just said stuff like "we had a fight.. and she doesn't wanna be my friend anymore" and of course she kept questioning relentlessly!... but i just ignored it until it got to the point where she was sure i wuz hiding something and got really REALLY emotional (like ur mom) but she didn't even know yet! she thought i wuz like suicidal or something!!!! i had to tell her..
hermione1135 3 years ago
so we kissed... and clearly i had a crush on her that i had brushed off as just best-friend feelings... because i felt something during the kiss... anyways long LONG speculation... went on for about a year... i realized i wuz bi :) NOW i made the mistake of telling this girl that i liked her.. although i said that it didn't have to change anything or w.e. it didn't matter and she stopped talking to me... needless to say i was very upset and my mom wanted to know what was wrong with me...
hermione1135 3 years ago
WELL that's freakishly similar to MY story :D lol im prob. gonna run out of room but i'll try... basically my whole life i thought i wuz just straight, i dated a guy, kissed him (didn't feel much but w.e.) i still thought i wuz straight. THEN (and at the time i was really close friends with this girl) i went over this girl's house and we played a game of dirty dice with her and her friend (so the 3 of us)... and it turns out that i kissed her...
im gonna continue in the next comment...
hermione1135 3 years ago
i feel weird.... i totally "came out" as gay to my mom when i was TEN and to my dad when i was thirteen! woah. then barely came out as trans about a month ago, which made me almost 18.
ajisrad 3 years ago
Why do you feel weird?
Thats really young to tell your parents stuff like that... my mom barely took me seriously at 16. Nevermind 10 or 13.
Cassie873 3 years ago
im not really sure why i feel weird about it. its just, i watch everyone else's videos and theyve dealt with so much. and i was really lucky. my parents always accepted me (in both "coming out" circumstances) and my friends accept me as gay... a handful even know im going to transition. i just wish everyone else was as lucky as i am. i feel almost a sense of shame because its not fair that my family and community is so accepting and others arent.
ajisrad 3 years ago
Don't feel shame! Consider yourself lucky. Really... im jealous that you have been so lucky. But don't feel like you dont deserve that just because the rest of us struggle. I almost cried last night thinking about the next time I get a girlfriend... how I know next time im going to have to tell my entire family. Especially if I date the girl I have my eyes on, she is older and would need me to be completely out to everyone. And thats scary. It shouldnt be that big of a deal.
Cassie873 3 years ago
advice: if she wants you to be out and if you feel up for it, please do it. i was with this girl for my entire 4yrs of high school and i was a secret to her family and most of her friends. it made me feel so bad that she couldnt bring herself to tell her family or at least just her parents about me. that was the basis for all of our fights and, eventually, our break up last november (wow i cant believe its been a yr!) but seriously, never hide your feelings and/or the person you care for
ajisrad 3 years ago
Well I remember my with first girlfriend... my realitives would ask me if I had a boyfriend and id say no. And they would say "thats ok, one will come along". But really I wanted to brag about how great of a girlfriend I had, but I couldnt. I could not do that again... im in it for the long hall. Im pretty certain she would dump me anyways if I couldnt be out. She doesnt hide, and her whole fam knows about her so...
Cassie873 3 years ago
the prop 8 people need to learn this. I doubt they ever will...
jonthebaptist666 3 years ago 2
So true.
Cassie873 3 years ago
hey awesome video =) hope it all works out for you :)
muggle20 3 years ago
Thx!
Cassie873 3 years ago
Great video,I'm sure many people are jealous of your braveness. :)
krdmonika3 3 years ago
hmmm... maybe...
Cassie873 3 years ago
neat vid :) I wish I'd come out that early
nihilisia 3 years ago
Thx! Hmm I dunno. Highschool is tough enough.
I think it would almost be easier to wait until college and or when one is out on their own. Its easier to advoid the negative people that way.
Cassie873 3 years ago
yeah I bet high school is a really tough place to come out. I came out at 27 (3.5 years ago) and I definitely miss the fact that I didn't get to have a lesbian youth. but I didn't have many social issues - didn't lose any of my straight friends over it and my family was cool about it. I had to leave a husband though. that was tough.
nihilisia 3 years ago
Oh yes, but it is much better not to live a lie. For me, I was only living half a lie i suppose. But it still ate me up inside. Being with my girlfriend, being happy... and not being able to share my happy stories with people hurt so much. It was painful.
Cassie873 3 years ago
I think hiding bisexuality is just as hard as hiding homosexuality. my sexuality isn't totally in stone but I'm much more comfortable out in the queer community than as a hetero-appearing wife in the suburbs nursing secret longings
nihilisia 3 years ago 3
Yes, the queer community certainly offers some comfort. I have a friend that whenever she sees a same sex couple she says "oh look! Family!"
Cassie873 3 years ago
heh! I still do that. it's always a comfort to see others. :)
nihilisia 3 years ago
good luck dealing with all of that!! hope your mom will accept you soon enough...
QueerFAQtor 3 years ago
Haha...my parents got suspicious about me, too when I started spending the night with my girlfriend a lot. My dad asked if I was a lesbian, and at the time I didn't know, so I told him I was confused but dating a girl. Now we're not allowed to have sleep overs anymore which sucks ass...but, yeah, just thought I'd share that.
Embersofanalibi 3 years ago 2
Yes, after my mom found out... sleepovers were banned.
But now it doesnt matter... I dont live at home anymore.
Cassie873 3 years ago
Argh...you're lucky. I'm only 16 so I still have a few years before I move out. My girlfriend and I almost broke up because of how controlling my parents are. It makes things really hard, ya know?
Embersofanalibi 3 years ago
Yes, I understand completely. Its a lot of stuff for young people to take on. You gotta stay strong though. I know I made a lot of mistakes, it was the best/worst year of my life. It was highly stressful, but I was also in love and that was amazing. Follow your heart always.
Cassie873 3 years ago
Thank you. That's good advice.
Embersofanalibi 3 years ago