Woman Terminates Adoption Because She Can't Bond

[msbrowneyes11000]

but i think the decision she made is a good one i just don't understand how u can't bond witha baby

[msbrowneyes11000]

i don't understand, how can u not bond with a baby thats not even a year yet? /:

[Imogen1885]

Stupid selfish woman. She failed that child.

[frohblatt]

@iRSleepy

Don´t get me wrong, all you said is right. I´m just a little confused, because what I understood was that SHE does´nt bond with the baby, but says that she really loved him. Perhaps I have a mistake in my translation because my english is not perfect.

That´s what I´m wondering about: How can I say: I love you, but I feel no bond between us..........

Oh....ok, I think I got it. She had bonded, but felt that the Baby didn´t bond with her? Is that right?

[frohblatt]

@iRSleepy

But surely the Adoption Agency told her, that it could be possible that the child needs up to some years to bond with the adoptive parents. That´s what our agency told us. We are in the middle of process to adopt a child from czech republic. And when she loved him, why didn´t she gave him some more time to realize that he is in his foreverfamily now? I know a family, where the adoptive daughter needed 6 years till she bonded with her adoptive mother. Now they are a happy family.

[frohblatt]

Oo Sorry, I don´t understand. She says that she loved him, but couldn´t bond with the baby? How could someone NOT bond with the ones he/she love? Strange.....

[xQueenLeenax]

what a horrifying & selfish thing to do adopting a child & expecting to bond as if the REAL MOTHER!!! WOT A BITCH

[xQueenLeenax]

@xQueenLeenax SORRY not adopt but assist in kidnap & hostage situation

[cdurante007]

I don't get it. He was an infant when they adopted him so the bonding issues weren't on his side it was on hers. He reacted based upon what he felt coming from his "mother". It wasn't his fault they didn't bond not even in half his fault that she gave up her kid it is hers and only hers.

[lostindiancamp]

I think she was unable to bond with him because he was black, so she just couldn't see him as her child.

[KiowaPilotWife]

I think her use of the word "love" was used rather loosely. I wouldn't have agreed that she loved the baby but rather she cared for him. She also didn't give the baby time to adjust and bond with her as well. I assume bonding is an emotional attachment and she just did not fall in love with the child. And a child who has been with many caretakers and abandoned by his parents will have a more difficult time bonding.

[xQueenLeenax]

@KiowaPilotWife excellent analysis, bang on id say. & again WOT A BITCH

[KiowaPilotWife]

@xQueenLeenax Yep...I know adoption is hard especially with older kids who have behavioral issues, but it must be easier with a baby who has done nothing wrong but to be born to a bunch of idiots. She shouldn't ever be allow to adopt if she shows such lack of commitment especially to a baby. I can see if an adopted child is an endangerment to the family, but to say that the baby didn't bond with her and vise versa is wrong. What does she expect? For him to sprout wings and engulf her with love??

[xQueenLeenax]

Respond to this video...  poor baby

[kwak76]

More like she wanted to quit than deal with this child.

[xQueenLeenax]

@kwak76 right on man thats 4 sure, poor baby

[demeter630]

Did this woman forget that this child was found by the side of a road? Did she forget his head was flat from obvious neglect (read-no holding/love/bonding)? Would she "give back" one of her biological children? This is an outrage. Obviously the poor child needed a good home as he was a true orphan, but do not take in a child only to turn around and give him back when the going gets tough:*( Of course he's not bonding...he's obviously been tremendously traumatized. Shame on her!

[klassykarly]

Very proud of this mom for her decision. I was adopted and my mother and I did not bond. I always felt it was my fault and did anything and everything to have a connection. I was finally able to heal from the feelings when I adopted and bonded with a child...and realized it wasn't my fault. I wish my adopted mom would have had the strength to do what this mom did.

[lolitabrunette]

@klassykarly

i'm sorry u got hurt like that

ppl need to be sure befor they adopt

hope u doin fine:)

[jillyjilljill8000]

i got a great way 2 bond with the kid LISTEN TO THE GOD DAMN KID no offence take her to the park and if she doesnt want all that attention fine just let her be i retreat to my room lots and i mean lots for a few hours but then i would come downstairs have lunch and watch tv or go out 2 play ect and when i say play i mean shopping :D lol NEVER give up on an adoptded child they will warm up to you you gotta give them a lil time

[blessedmommy73]

shame on her. Just because this child was adopted does NOT give her the right to give him away. You NEVER give up on your child. NEVER. I have 5 adopted children, and I can;t even imagine ever giving up on them...no matter how difficult times can get...

[burrochapadogrl]

poor baby. I hope those who neglected him will die a slow death

[ItsHerTurn]

@burrochapadogrl Until you've walked in this person's shoes.......

[burrochapadogrl]

@ItsHerTurn im sorry but what does that mean? so are you saying that those "people" who caused him to have a flattened skull from never picking him up that it was alright to do that to him? yo itsherturn I think you need to just stop spewing and start reading correctly bc you didnt understand anything I wrote. p.s. wow.

[MotherVoltaire]

ATTACh speaks out of both sides of its mouth to avoid criticism. ATTACh still sells/recommends materials that promote the physical/emotional abuse of children. Its conferences invite speakers who do the same. And they are as unscientific in their approach as ever. They still use the unrecognized and catch-all dx of "Attachment Disorder" which demonizes children. I would be surprised if any legitimate therapist has ever called himself an "Attachment Therapist."

[ItsHerTurn]

@MotherVoltaire Bull

[MotherVoltaire]

Overlooked is mention that Anita did "Attachment Therapy/Parenting" (AT/P). This practice is denounced by APSAC and the APA (see journal "Child Maltreatment" Feb2006). AT/P demonizes adopted children, makes them seem potentially dangerous and prescribes extremely harsh treatment. Adam Pertman has also promoted AT/P beliefs and practices (see book "Adoption Parenting"). He needs to wake up to the fact that AT/P is a very damaging practice and leads to disruptions and even child deaths.

[ksattach]

Attachment therapy provided and attachment based parenting taught by therapists registered with ATTACh (and most legit Attachment therapists are) is not dangerous or harsh. Just because a group of professionals write an article filled with opinions and few facts does not make it the truth. You forgot to mention the article is mainly focused on a "subset of therapists and therapies" nor do you speak out about the dangers of the numerous medications these children are prescribed.

[MotherVoltaire]

@ksattach

What is the article you are talking about? What makes a "legit" attachment therapist? There is no research behind most of the things ATTACh members engage in, in addition to holding therapy. EMDR? NFB? Craniosacral therapy? All invalidated by science. Victoria Kelly's piece on the ATTACh website states that holding therapy *IS* part of ATTACh members' practice.

[ItsHerTurn]

@MotherVoltaire Sometimes the child IS dangerous, and that doesn't mean they are bad, it means they have experienced such extreme trauma that they can go into fits of rage that they can't control. I get so frustrated by people spewing judgments about something they have no experience with. It's like you are burning witches!

[polineviardot]

I think this woman realized that she couldnt love this kid like she loved her biological children so she gave it back, I also saw that she had like 3 or 4 other kids I feel people with no children should get some the kids, also gay couples like Elton John who tried to adopt a russian baby and they didnt let him

[xQueenLeenax]

@polineviardot big surprise!!! i wouldnt let him have your kids let alone mine!! what does he want a little boy for??? fuckin perv if u ask me...if homos were meant to breed it would happen naturally...that goes 4 men & women...it is sickening for me to think that society think that gay adoption is ok?!?!