Friend, your post has some good points, especially when you speak about emotional and relational needs. But you are fooling yourself if you think you can put your sexual desires on a shelf and just dust them off now and then. You are encouraging other gay men to be half-people, instead of guiding them toward wholeness, which includes their sexuality. You are well-intentioned but you are naive.
i'm trying not to preach, but honestly being sexually attracted to men makes you at the very least bisexual. i'm going by the definition of the word. i think religion or whatever has somehow made you feel guilty for your feelings and you're repressing them. i know a lot of gay christians and i don't understand why a benevolent god wouldn't love everyone he made... you shouldn't consider your actions or thoughts to be a sin and if you do then consider it already forgiven. my two cents.
Notice that he never talks about girls or a girlfriend? His smile has disappeared since he decided not to be gay. He watches gay porn but tries to avoid it as long as he can. Never heard him mention straight porn. He's falling into an abyss of sadness and denial. It's so sad to watch him degrade over time. I hope he finds himself before it's too late.
It's better to watch porn than to actually go out and have sex with random people, some people tries to degrade watching porno but those same people go out and have sexual intercouse with multiple parnters like those people on porno.
Just become an atheist and go out and fuck some guys already! You know in the old testament times God would have had you put to death. I can't believe that gay people would worship a God that had gays put to death only a few thousand years ago. Does anybody not think that that is fucked up? Am I the only person who has actually read what is in the bible? According to the bible, God has killed many times more people than Hitler and Stalin put together.
Good video, and mad props for confronting the difficult issue and helping others with it. I must say though that the best advice to give would be to cling to God for support and guidance
something that you don't really have to be shame of. You can only hold in so much. You have or had an addiction not a gay disease. And you can't pray the gay away.
you poor dear... i'm so sorry that you've been forced to deny that part of yourself. If you ever feel that its time to be free please find good support system that doesnt think you are evil. i feel so sorry for you
Glad I haven't felt guilty for watching porn or even jerking off for years. I feel so sad for the people who still let them be suppressed and suppress themselfs.
Porn is porn, you watch it, you jerk it. Don' t feel guilty for doing what you like in your own time!
A big reason to watch porn is the physical feeling you get when you orgasm. Don't you think it could also be a good escapegoat for some people? You sound like you think about a lot of stuff, but honestly I do disagree with some things you say.
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Gay porn is just plain dirty and nasty, people always use sex in a nasty ass way, i to used to watch porn(not gay porn!!!) andi realized how wrong that shit was and how degrading it is,
It takes alot of guts and faith to talk about your matter keep living for Jesus know matter what anyone comments on here because you are helping others who really need help in finding Christ again after they have gone through same battles. If you need prayer let me know God bless ya bro.
I struggle with hetero sexual porn too, can't stand the woman in the picture blocking the view of the guy!
And the bible is to violent for my tast. All the killing, slicing of throats, how to deal with slaves and woman who have there period. Wayyyy to kindy for me. But what ever rocks your boat dude;)
Thank you so much for this video, brother. I can relate so much to what you said, although I deal with an opposite problem - I'm a female who used to be addicted to lesbian porn and lesbian videos on youtube.
You know why you felt degraded? Because you're really fucked up about it all. It's very sad to see. You've been screwed over by dogma and doctrine, so that you think the whole thing is 'disgusting'.
you should never feel that you or your sexuality is discusting. It's a natural God given part of your life. Your right about porn not being a completly fullfilling outlit. I don't think that friendship is completly fullfilling either. In a real relationship you should be open and real and share all of ourselves. Sexuality, companionship, romance, the whole nine yards. And it has to be the real you. And we all need that. I hope you can find yourself again. God Bless.
Your sooo cute! I wish you were not brainwashed, do you like girls just as much as guys? I am a girl date me hhhaha jk. Aweee why people! Their is not one way of life, you can be taught anything, everything in life is ideas, not much is fact. Nothing wrong with homosexuals, please be yourself. Kiss
Dude you know you do and u whack to it so why not be who you really are.Life is hard enough why would you make it 10 times harder for yourself?BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE!!!
Your right; its NOT fulfilling. Furthermore, there are more productive and interesting things to do with your time, and making friends and getting some fresh air into your lungs is a good start. Great video, RH!
I am totally agreed with you. The porn industry makes a lot of money and support terrorist, while degrading human race.
The majority of people watched porn play solos, feeling empty, and depress without love, wasting time and losing the opportunity to meet someone & share love. Beside porn separated us from God which is love and hope. We all human are entitle to give and received love and be with God.
Please God, help us to cleanse the computer of viruses & evil pornography which disturb & ruin our work, so that we shall be able to cleanse ourselves. Memories of sex sin can be hard to remove from our minds. If we want to gain complete victory, we will have to stop lusting over the memories of past. The main reason for this is that memories of sin can block our prayers, healing & deliverance. With the Holy Spirit's help, we can shut off the porn input & focus our minds on God (Romans 8:11,13)
Your answer Revolutionaryhorizon is the cleaverest and most sincere I have heard about this question.
Everything in your mouth sounds here simple and honest and goes right to the essential !
This so right to remind our need of intimacy and put the emphase on our fear of it, showing how porn is just a lie of this wonderful need of intimacy. I would add as christian that only the love of Christ can fullfill deeply enough our need of intimacy
I'm glad you stopped referring singularly to gay porn. I imagine it's true for all forms of porn; still, for as many friends as I have, it doesn't fulfill me when at the end of the day I retire to my bed and wonder when I'll finally have somebody I can say I love, inside and out. Refer to my post "Scrubs - People aren't meant to be alone" for more insight into this feeling.
Do you feel degraded or do you feel guilt? I am no longer guilt driven by mans law, hormones are a gift from God to promote procreation. I am certain I am as God intended me to be.
Thank you, Rik. I always value your comments on my videos. I was actually waiting eagerly for you to leave one on this video, just curious to see what you would say this time.
I've found porn in general to be empty and pointless. It temporarily serves masturbation, but both become an addiction that cannot fill a void within a person.
I SWEAR to god im not starting shit but i just gotta say this.
Every christian watching this - encouraging him to keep himself locked in that closet - where he is alone, unloved (yes unloved because no one knows the real him - because the real him cant be allowed out) and worrying about hell should be really ashamed of themeselves for perpetuating the mental anguish he has been going through for so many years. Sick Sick people. ok - i ve said my peice i'll move on.
Your judgments "degrading" and conclusions for why anyone enjoys porn are predicated upon unproven assumptions as are the religious responses you propose as "solutions." Until such are proven to be (without exception and without a doubt) true, your whole package of arguments fails.
Love it bro :)
Tazzmanofchrist777 6 months ago
Friend, your post has some good points, especially when you speak about emotional and relational needs. But you are fooling yourself if you think you can put your sexual desires on a shelf and just dust them off now and then. You are encouraging other gay men to be half-people, instead of guiding them toward wholeness, which includes their sexuality. You are well-intentioned but you are naive.
chubbtm5 1 year ago
You're not alone man! You're not alone!
phourthefunovit 1 year ago
Thank you! You actually have the courage to do what you feel is right as opposed to everyone else in he "do what you feel like" handbasket.
akdamagecontrol 1 year ago
i'm trying not to preach, but honestly being sexually attracted to men makes you at the very least bisexual. i'm going by the definition of the word. i think religion or whatever has somehow made you feel guilty for your feelings and you're repressing them. i know a lot of gay christians and i don't understand why a benevolent god wouldn't love everyone he made... you shouldn't consider your actions or thoughts to be a sin and if you do then consider it already forgiven. my two cents.
rocktronical 1 year ago
It takes strength to resist temtation. I admire you Kev.
PsEdmundSmith 2 years ago
Kevin - you are special and I love you!
PsEdmundSmith 2 years ago
Notice that he never talks about girls or a girlfriend? His smile has disappeared since he decided not to be gay. He watches gay porn but tries to avoid it as long as he can. Never heard him mention straight porn. He's falling into an abyss of sadness and denial. It's so sad to watch him degrade over time. I hope he finds himself before it's too late.
oropesav 2 years ago
It's better to watch porn than to actually go out and have sex with random people, some people tries to degrade watching porno but those same people go out and have sexual intercouse with multiple parnters like those people on porno.
uraine7626 2 years ago
Just become an atheist and go out and fuck some guys already! You know in the old testament times God would have had you put to death. I can't believe that gay people would worship a God that had gays put to death only a few thousand years ago. Does anybody not think that that is fucked up? Am I the only person who has actually read what is in the bible? According to the bible, God has killed many times more people than Hitler and Stalin put together.
arlobeckham 2 years ago
i got a new boy friend and i am a boy too heh GayBangz . com is the real deal
merlinFeltner 2 years ago
dat sucks that u restrain yourself from wath u want and feel good i never do that to my self
jay2692 2 years ago
Good video, and mad props for confronting the difficult issue and helping others with it. I must say though that the best advice to give would be to cling to God for support and guidance
Sophageddon 2 years ago
I hate to say it but when you surpress
something that you don't really have to be shame of. You can only hold in so much. You have or had an addiction not a gay disease. And you can't pray the gay away.
darkal13 2 years ago
you poor dear... i'm so sorry that you've been forced to deny that part of yourself. If you ever feel that its time to be free please find good support system that doesnt think you are evil. i feel so sorry for you
tweatyhobbs 2 years ago
Glad I haven't felt guilty for watching porn or even jerking off for years. I feel so sad for the people who still let them be suppressed and suppress themselfs.
Porn is porn, you watch it, you jerk it. Don' t feel guilty for doing what you like in your own time!
Delano87JDK 2 years ago
Who's the christians bussines to steal YOUR sexuality?
deusAtheismus 2 years ago
you know he looked at porn as soon as he finished his video. "heelllooo i has pen0r"
galeforcewinds13 2 years ago
A big reason to watch porn is the physical feeling you get when you orgasm. Don't you think it could also be a good escapegoat for some people? You sound like you think about a lot of stuff, but honestly I do disagree with some things you say.
yenqfarh 2 years ago
What a wise and honest video! Very true
eezyone 2 years ago
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Gay porn is just plain dirty and nasty, people always use sex in a nasty ass way, i to used to watch porn(not gay porn!!!) andi realized how wrong that shit was and how degrading it is,
Porn = it fucks up your life
RealHipHopTunes 2 years ago
It takes alot of guts and faith to talk about your matter keep living for Jesus know matter what anyone comments on here because you are helping others who really need help in finding Christ again after they have gone through same battles. If you need prayer let me know God bless ya bro.
Praisewarrior21 2 years ago
so glad i didnt grew up religeous
sleekcartim 3 years ago 7
I struggle with hetero sexual porn, the only way to overcome it is by praying and reading the bible.
mexiluvsw 3 years ago
I struggle with hetero sexual porn too, can't stand the woman in the picture blocking the view of the guy!
And the bible is to violent for my tast. All the killing, slicing of throats, how to deal with slaves and woman who have there period. Wayyyy to kindy for me. But what ever rocks your boat dude;)
Delano87JDK 2 years ago
@mexiluvsw lmao
wayneready 1 year ago
Your appreciated thanks
atrao101 3 years ago
i sort of feel sorry for you, just ditch your christianity and be done with it, you will be happier when you except your self.
paris4185 3 years ago 5
Exactly.
I feel so bad for him. Having to lie to himself emotionally.
deusAtheismus 2 years ago
Thank you so much for this video, brother. I can relate so much to what you said, although I deal with an opposite problem - I'm a female who used to be addicted to lesbian porn and lesbian videos on youtube.
spreadthegospel 3 years ago
You know why you felt degraded? Because you're really fucked up about it all. It's very sad to see. You've been screwed over by dogma and doctrine, so that you think the whole thing is 'disgusting'.
ZdPhoenix 3 years ago
HAY JUSTIN LONG!
whoaGirl12 3 years ago
why is your 7 year old cousin near a computer with internet access? that's not very bright.
AisforAd4m 3 years ago
man u have to travel a bit mister... this offensive 2 yourself! I mean u come through as an ignorant
EnvironmentKeeper 3 years ago
you sound is if you are reading a quit smoking book, there is nothing wrong with sex
dont block what god gave you even being gay. porn is a relief valve not a end to a problem
gaylordbazza 3 years ago 5
Porn isn't fulfilling. Putting my penis in another guy's butt is.
scolac 3 years ago 4
:-) lol! Je préfère le cul de mon petit ami!
sauvignonblanc0 3 years ago
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That's just gay and nasty
Shadowsodi 3 years ago
So is putting it into a vagina.
fflybz 3 years ago 3
you should never feel that you or your sexuality is discusting. It's a natural God given part of your life. Your right about porn not being a completly fullfilling outlit. I don't think that friendship is completly fullfilling either. In a real relationship you should be open and real and share all of ourselves. Sexuality, companionship, romance, the whole nine yards. And it has to be the real you. And we all need that. I hope you can find yourself again. God Bless.
Israel16180 3 years ago 2
you're really funny i like your style... to get the guts to talk about that is great but to talk about it for 2 hours long...lol
Keep goin like that!
ps: you're hot (respectfully)
NJrickrolh 3 years ago 2
Your sooo cute! I wish you were not brainwashed, do you like girls just as much as guys? I am a girl date me hhhaha jk. Aweee why people! Their is not one way of life, you can be taught anything, everything in life is ideas, not much is fact. Nothing wrong with homosexuals, please be yourself. Kiss
LOAKGGFULIEBE 3 years ago
Your bisexual, it's ok. Please be yourself, don't live your life by a fucking book dammit!
LOAKGGFULIEBE 3 years ago 8
@LOAKGGFULIEBE Whether you believe it or not..There is a hell to shun
freedom12325 1 year ago
Dude you know you do and u whack to it so why not be who you really are.Life is hard enough why would you make it 10 times harder for yourself?BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE!!!
cbrun67176 3 years ago
Your right; its NOT fulfilling. Furthermore, there are more productive and interesting things to do with your time, and making friends and getting some fresh air into your lungs is a good start. Great video, RH!
QUICHEPIE 3 years ago
I am totally agreed with you. The porn industry makes a lot of money and support terrorist, while degrading human race.
The majority of people watched porn play solos, feeling empty, and depress without love, wasting time and losing the opportunity to meet someone & share love. Beside porn separated us from God which is love and hope. We all human are entitle to give and received love and be with God.
kingvoyager 3 years ago
Please God, help us to cleanse the computer of viruses & evil pornography which disturb & ruin our work, so that we shall be able to cleanse ourselves. Memories of sex sin can be hard to remove from our minds. If we want to gain complete victory, we will have to stop lusting over the memories of past. The main reason for this is that memories of sin can block our prayers, healing & deliverance. With the Holy Spirit's help, we can shut off the porn input & focus our minds on God (Romans 8:11,13)
kingvoyager 3 years ago
I'm an orthodox jew and not a christian but I agree with what you say 100%
primeralives 3 years ago
Your answer Revolutionaryhorizon is the cleaverest and most sincere I have heard about this question.
Everything in your mouth sounds here simple and honest and goes right to the essential !
This so right to remind our need of intimacy and put the emphase on our fear of it, showing how porn is just a lie of this wonderful need of intimacy. I would add as christian that only the love of Christ can fullfill deeply enough our need of intimacy
So thank you brother for this video!
eti067 3 years ago
Its fantastic watching the stuff. I wish revolutionary would make one (hint hint) God won't mind, I promise.
taraniso 3 years ago
I'm glad you stopped referring singularly to gay porn. I imagine it's true for all forms of porn; still, for as many friends as I have, it doesn't fulfill me when at the end of the day I retire to my bed and wonder when I'll finally have somebody I can say I love, inside and out. Refer to my post "Scrubs - People aren't meant to be alone" for more insight into this feeling.
bourgtai 3 years ago
When you're horny, a deep platonic relationship is a POOR substitute for a good jack-off session....
Your approach misses one thing: physical intimacy.
Tuxster3 3 years ago
Do you feel degraded or do you feel guilt? I am no longer guilt driven by mans law, hormones are a gift from God to promote procreation. I am certain I am as God intended me to be.
Earthmunky 3 years ago
this was a particularly insightful video.
daveydaquiri 3 years ago
Umm, i didn't see an argument here. He's just giving tips to people who want them.
COMPLEX147 3 years ago
Whoops. Wrong spot. Disregard this comment.
COMPLEX147 3 years ago
Excellent Video once again. I like the part especially where you say "why look at a perversion of something you already have?"
COMPLEX147 3 years ago 2
Thank you, Rik. I always value your comments on my videos. I was actually waiting eagerly for you to leave one on this video, just curious to see what you would say this time.
revolutionaryhorizon 3 years ago
I've found porn in general to be empty and pointless. It temporarily serves masturbation, but both become an addiction that cannot fill a void within a person.
Stephen5000 3 years ago
I SWEAR to god im not starting shit but i just gotta say this.
Every christian watching this - encouraging him to keep himself locked in that closet - where he is alone, unloved (yes unloved because no one knows the real him - because the real him cant be allowed out) and worrying about hell should be really ashamed of themeselves for perpetuating the mental anguish he has been going through for so many years. Sick Sick people. ok - i ve said my peice i'll move on.
dannyjam 3 years ago
i love your honesty
luckyclover012 3 years ago 8
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you tempted cause your gay.
WayneHughes86 3 years ago
Your spirit is willing to please God, but your flesh wants to do his own thing.
But be happy that you feel bad afterwards.
That's the Holy spirit convicting you.
It'll be okay.
alcoholharmony 3 years ago
Keep posting vids. I really enjoy all your vids.
willy517 3 years ago
I have learned so much from your videos, I just can't take you enough
TheRightDecision 3 years ago
*thank
TheRightDecision 3 years ago
a machine must stay well oiled and used frequently to continue working properly
beachbumde 3 years ago
Your judgments "degrading" and conclusions for why anyone enjoys porn are predicated upon unproven assumptions as are the religious responses you propose as "solutions." Until such are proven to be (without exception and without a doubt) true, your whole package of arguments fails.
mybigbearron 3 years ago