I have to remind myself that this is also YOUR opinion and its based off of your experiences. You do not speak for all of our situations or circumstances, just your own. I am not offended at the video b/c everyone has an opinion but I have never been in those situations. I've never taken my kid out on dates or any of the other things you brought up....
When I want to go out I have a responsible sitter on call that I PAY for because I am an adult and thats what adults do. My child is well behaved b/c she has a MOTHER raising her and not a black woman with a kid (there is a difference!). So questioning our values, calling us losers, bad choices, petty is foolishness. When I date a man I am not asking for a savior I am seeking a partner on equal footing not someone who can pull me up and carry me.
I am single black mother. I have been alone with my child since I was six months preg with her. YES my kid comes first always however, I have never been on welfare (no food stamps, WIC, Medicaid etc). I had her in my third year of undergrad, I have my masters now, a career (teacher), and a house. Some of the comments on here are pretty offensive. I have never asked anybody to provide for me and mine and I do not need or require a savior.... Its only complicated if you allow it to be.....
@ashleyjordynn If you really cared about your child you would have picked a man who wants to be a FATHER. Children need BOTH parents and no amount of feminist bullshit will change that.
Women who made bad choices...Yes. Fooled by men who act like really Nice or gentelmen..NO. These young women are not attracted to these men, they are attracted to men who are thugs and bad boys. I like you commentary. Great.
If you are a man who is waiting till marriage to have sex then you can complain about single moms. If you have ever had sex with any woman you are not married to, then you are half the problem of the plague of single mothers.
Some of these old sensitive nigga's on here are cool.But most of them are just lame ass dumb pussy beggars. A whole lot of these nigga's claim to be real men,Just because they come to a dumb hoe's rescue when she is supposedly in need.These are also the same nigga's who claim to receive a whole lot of pussy.When in reality They just are pussies,Who hardly ever beat it.They just steady lick it and eat it.
And what is with all these mangina ass nigga's on these pro- black male centered websites. Or just male websites in general. I have much sympathy for women especially certain kind's of women.But a lot of these over sensitive ass nigga's make me sick.I guess these are the ones who supposedly got a lot of pussy in high school or college.I can not stand these old plum dumb. Captain Save A Hoe Ass Nigga's. They probably have a lot of kids out there,That they do not even know,Thanks to thug lovers.
Females have some nerve being too choosy,Being that some females can not even get much attention for certain things like being too dark, overweight, and being what some would say is just plain old ugly.Now personally I like dark skinned women, And thick women.But i have met a lot of men who do not. And I am not saying that it's right,As a matter of fact.I damn near could say that it is wrong.But we all have our personal taste,And have a right to it.
I should tell these females that they should woman up,And also stop complaining about certain things,You know like the guy who would not date you in college. Because of the color of your complexion,Most of the time they say it's too dark,But very seldom do they say it is too light.Or what about the guy who said you weighed too much,And what about the guy or better yet guys who knew you were a hoe, And would not give you a chance.And you''ll love this .What about the guy who left you pregnant.
How can u say all of what u said in the beginning of ur video and at the end say "not saying that single mother's are bad I just prefer not to dat one! Lol... such a contradiction! #STRONGSINGLEBLACKMOTHER!!!
women date assholes and think he'll change for her. then when she gets knocked up and ditched or divorced she'll try to score points with the nice guy she told to "fuck off" and try to sucker him into raising her bastard kids.
You won't find too many black men over the age of 25 who don't have kids so I'd say, YES, get over dating single moms because even though they're flooding the market, black men with multiple children by MULTIPLE women are flooding the market as wel.....Take a page from teh Brady BUnch!
Every child is a gift, and suppose one day you find out you can't have kids naturally and can only adopt?...you never know......
Where are the statistics to support the claim of not too many black men over the age of 25 with no kids?
Imo, a man should not be pressured into dating a single mom. Guys can have a preference to over single mothers as women can overlook guys with low-paying jobs or having a "nice-guy" personality with a decent job.
Every child should be a gift between the two who made it, not for other men who didn't help with it. (Unless they wanted to adopt.)
I was in a single mom situation where the guy is trash. What made it worse was the fact that both kids were born with health and mental problems. There is nothing wrong with the mother. When we had kids, all the kids excelled at sports, academics, the whole nine.
Women! please make the right choices. It changes your life!
Single mothers A-Have no respect for the institution of fatherhood (and probably men in general) and B-Don't give a shit about their children enough to make sure they have a father in their lives. NO SINGLE MOTHERS, NO EXCEPTIONS.
@BobbyL5757 the choice is yours whether to date a single mother, however, it's not fair to place us all in the same category. I was a single mother until I met my fiance. My son's father CHOSE not to be in his life. My fiance and I just had a daughter together and although we are getting married, I KNOW that if that weren't the case, he is still her father and I respect him for that.
@BobbyL5757 I'm not blaming my ex for my choice to be naive and submissive. I'm blaming him for being a deadbeat. I don't believe in blaming others for my choice. I don't play victim....which is why I have 2 degrees (in engineering) and make more money than most men that I meet/know. However, fact is that it takes 2 to tango and his father chooses not to be in my son's life because I choose not to deal with his abusiveness and lack of responsibility.
@LittaLee21 You make more money than most men you meet because A- A man with money wants his OWN children and thus is not interested in you. He also has young hotties without children lined up down the block for a chance to get at his bank account.B- Men are heavily discriminated against at the university level and later in hiring by feminist (female supremacist ) HR departments so you'll be seeing less and less men having a decent job in the future.
@BobbyL5757 How is that when I'm an engineer (engineering, btw is a predominantly male field). You still didn't address my other comment. My mother was married to my sisters' father and my father (with whom she was in a long-term relationship with post-divorce) played a bigger role in my sisters' lives than my mother's ex-husband did...so that whole philosophy of "securing a father via marriage" is a load of crap.
@LittaLee21 Perhaps if women stopped PICKING men who are destined for prison to marry and have children with then marriages WOULD be a way of securing good fathers but of course these men don't make young 'ginas tingle.
@BobbyL5757 My mom's ex-husband was an officer in the airforce. My father had an MBA and was a senior financial analyst for the SEC. My son's father isn't an ex-con, he's just an asshole. My fiance (and daughter's father) is a successful business owner...not some 'thug'. HeavenlyTruth1 has a video called "Single Mother by Choice" and I can agree with his video. I'm not saying that you should consider dating single moms. My point is that we're not all the same.
@BobbyL5757 Where is your research that supports this claim??? Do you have data, facts, or stats? No you don't. You can only speak for yourself and your experiences. This video only addresses some men and not all men and it isn't an absolute truth or fact. Now I make MY OWN money b/c I want to and not b/c I need a savior or a provider for my child. By the way 11.2% of corporate officers are women so who is handing out jobs?..... RIGHT men!
@BobbyL5757 And she probably makes more money because as of 2009 black women earned 66% of all bachelors degrees awarded to African Americans and 72% of all masters degrees in the same category. This is found on the national center for ed statistics if you want to know where my sources are from. So with that being said, how much money do YOU have and where the hell do YOU stand? Whether I have a kid or not if he isnt doing shit I dont want him anyway.
@BobbyL5757 also, are you saying that if I was a divorced single mother, that my situation would be different? Over 50% of marriages in America end in divorce, not to mention that my son's father and I WERE engaged until I decided that I didn't want my son to grow up w/a father who disrespected his mother and was only a father when it was convenient for him. You really shouldn't pass judgement on people because of circumstances...that's pretty ignorant.
@LittaLee21 Who picked a man to have a baby with who disrespected you and obviously didn't want to be a father.\? WHO MADE THAT CHOICE? Who? Women select males for mating and WON'T TAKE ANY RESPONSIBILTY FOR IT. You can blame men all you want for your fucked up choices but we're not buying it anymore. I repeat.
@BobbyL5757 Wedlock means nothing!!!! At the end of the day if he isnt ready he isnt ready whether married or not. Everyone and anyone can walk away so do not put the fault on us for choosing to be the one parent who stays and raises OUR kids. It takes two to create a life not ONE. Marriage does not secure a father!!! My older brother and I have different dads b/c my mom was married and my bro's dad walked out so your claim has absolutely no value.
YOU BLACK AS BROTHERS NEED TO KILL IT . IM A MAN ! ITHINK THIS VIDEO IS BULL . ALL YOU BLACK BROTHER ON YOUTUBE ARE SOME DAM BLACK KKK MEMBERS . IF IT WASNT FOR YOUR SKIN COLOR . YOU WOULD BE IN THERE . I MET SO MANY DAM AS WHITE GIRLS . WITH THE SAME DRAMA . AND IT,S THE BLACK MAN THAT GOT ALL THESE DAM KIDS THEY ANT TAKING CARE OF . AND ONE OF THEM WAS MY DAD . MAN UP AND STOP CRYING ABOUT THE GIRL THAT WOULDNT DATE YOU IN SCHOOL . WHIMP ! AND TELL THE BROTHERS TO STOP THE BABY DROPPING !
YOU BLACK AS BROTHERS NEED TO KILL IT . IM A MAN ! ITHINK THIS VIDEO IS BULL . ALL YOU BLACK BROTHER ON YOUTUBE ARE SOME DAM BLACK KKK MEMBERS . IF IT WASNT FOR YOUR SKIN COLOR . YOU WOULD BE IN THERE . I MET SO MANY DAM AS WHITE GIRLS . WITH THE SAME DRAMA . AND IT,S THE BLACK MAN THAT GOT ALL THESE DAM KIDS THEY ANT TAKING CARE OF . AND ONE OF THEM WAS MY DAD . MAN UP AND STOP CRYING ABOUT THE GIRL THAT WOULDNT DATE YOU IN SCHOOL . WHIMP ! AND TELL THE BROTHERS TO STOP THE BABY DROPPING !
@nizzobeats TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!! YOU CARRY THE BABY FOR 9 MONTHS NOT THE MAN SO THAT MEANS YOU HAVE TO "THINK" DAMMIT "THINK"!! CLOSE YOUR LEGS AND USE YOUR MIND! WOMAN UP GOD-DAMMIT AND STOP BLAMING THE INADEQUATE MEN YOU CHOOSE AND PUT THE BLAME ON YOUR THUG CHASING, LiL' WAYNE LOVIN' SELVES!! CHOOSE A GOOD MAN, BUT GET YOUR SHIT VALUE SYSTEM RIGHT FIRST!! YOU BABY DROPPIN COMMUNAL HOE' BAGGERS! CHOOSE A GOOD DUDE WHO MAY NOT BE THE HYPE' CLUB DUDE, BUT VALUES HIS EDUCATION!
Stay the fuck away from the single moms out here today. Stay the fuck away, they are pretty inferior mates for the man on the move going somewhere. Just look at why they are in that position? Bad choices, questionable value system, and no respect for the father figure. Stay the fuck away, it only gets worse as time goes on. Look out for yourselves guys get your priorities straight, fuck these useless babes. Shoot for the stars guys in all things, women, school, jobs, ect. Don't settle for B.S. !
You said life isn't a party. I think it is, when you're a teen, but you have a choice. You can be the designated driver. (The person who has a good time, but doesn't over do it.) You can leave early. (Focus only on your goals, and ignore anyone who isn't trying to do the same.) Or you can stay all night. If you do stay, just remember you have to clean up alone.
Females have ready access to all forms of contraception. They can take the contraceptive pill. They can take the morning-after pill. They can don the diaphragm. They can insist on condoms. They can use spermicide. They can have abortions. And they can refrain from having sex.
I am finally soo satisfied with finishing last..LOL..matter of fact if nice guys finish last these niggas don't finish at all. Nice guys don't finish last, they finish strong. Remember the race is given to those who endure till the end. Revelation 3:10 Because you have kept the word of my patience, I also will keep you from the hour of temptation, which shall come on all the world, to try them that dwell on the earth
Wan't to know why the world does not like or respect nice guys. John 15:19 If you were of the world, the world would love his own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. Nice guys don't lust after a woman who does not see your self worth.Revelations 22:11 He who does wrong let him do more wrong; he who is filthy let him be more filthy; he who is righteous let him be more righteous;he who is set apart let him be moresetapart
See I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it.
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family. But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then.
I just wish that people would stop confusing kindness with weakness.
Even some of my family members act that way towards their siblings, don't take advantage of your brother or sister simply because he or she is nice to you.
I won't downplay my ordeal, women have treated me very very very badly.
I finally figured out why last month,it's actually a combination of 2 things
1. Kindness or Niceness to women (people in general)
2. Looks (this was the part I figured out last month)
I figured out a few years ago to my surprise that women in the U.S don't like nice men(apparently that's a bad thing). For years I thought that that was the only reason why they treated me like trash.
Last month I realized that the facial scars that I has been the other reason why they treated me badly. You see it never occured to me that people are so superficial. I see lots of guys who get females and treat them like crap but man these women treated me like an animal and for what
They treated me like an animal and for what? simply because of the fact that I have facial scars they automatically thought they are out of my league and that I was worthless.
I just became a bit angry as I was typing, you poeple have no right to treat another person badly simply because of his or her scars.
I'm s mad it took me so long to realize the truth that was in front of me, I never though that people could be so shallow.
Honestly I have absolutely no desire to ever find a mate or have a child.
I am currently looking for a way to chemically castrate myself.
Jesus said "If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. For it is better for you to enter into life (heaven) with one hand than to have your whole body cast into hell"
Yep, nothing that I plan on doing is against God's word.
I don't have to marry, Paul didn't and neither do I.
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See, The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle. These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed..lol.their right in an aspect
I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
@ArGyProductions yes men who have sex and leave are to blame but don't blame another guy because he doesn't want to date you because you have a child that's not his. doesn't make him less of a man id only consider dating a single mum if her husband died in the army or something like that not gang warfare. Or if was divorce and didn't work out
How to tell if you're an Alpha Male or a Beta Male: get as much sex as you want: Alpha get sex from whoever you want: Alpha your woman obeys you: Alpha dump the ho when she doesnt: Alpha supporting only your kids: Alpha wearing a condom: Alpha getting head and putting it in her butt whenever you want: Alpha split paying bills: Alpha In relationship for love: Beta you dont get much sex: Beta with a single mom: Beta pay for everything: Beta married: Beta
In the animal kingdom - a lion takes over a pride and says to himself "Like fuck am I gonna invest any time looking after these bastard lion cubs", and commits infanticide by ripping out the throats of all the baby lions.
This triggers the lioness's of the pride to come into heat and be receptive and flush !!!
I'm taking what you are saying with a grain of salt... you have had your experiences and I can't knock you for having your opinions based on your reality... But you are very narrow in your thought process on a lot of what you are saying. But I digress...unfortunately there is a lot of truth to what you are saying...
I would not suggest you younger guys marry some of the these single moms but there is nothing wrong with dating one. Most of these young ladies have babies and yes the dead beat babys daddy is still lurking around somewhere. Date several of them at one time and coordinate your time with visitation and pickup by the babies daddy. Visitation time you are there and when not, you go see the other single mom. Less complications and less drama to deal with. You are to young for those type problems.
how old are you? you must have been burnt and big time..I'm sure there are a whole lot of examples that you are witnessed to but you seem very bitter..You think very negatively about single moms..if you feel that way about single moms..what do you think about single dads..and maybe the ladies w/o children weren't interested in you because they just weren't interested in your personality and maybe now they are a little more mature and are trying to give you a chance..but to each his own.good luck
gentlemen, don't date single mothers, they don't really want you, they just want you to be "captain save a-ho". she wants you to be the responsible one, the dependable one, the "provider", and trust me-she will continue fucking the "baby-father", i should know, i speak not just from my own personal experience, but some of my co-workers are now stuck paying child support for a kid that is not even their's. don't be "MR. NICE GUY", just fuck them, and leave them, just like the baby daddy.
@DJ4MONIE. Who would feel guilty about marrying their high school sweetheart and having a child from him?? Then after a few years of trying using my judgement to divorce. I don't know you nor do you know me. But none my Mom and Dads children lhave children out of wedlock if that's what you implied.
@lifeisforaseason all of you men have been burnt by hoodrats, and now you classify all single moms as being the same. I have 2 kids out of wedlock (am engaged to my daughter's father). My son's father had a choice and he chose not to be present once we didn't work out because he became abusive. We were together for almost 3yrs. I have 2 degrees in Engineering and make more money than most men that I meet/know. Don't stereotype someone based on a portion of their circumstances.
I agree with you 100% dating single mothers is not the way to go but what if you live in an area where that's all you have? if you stop dating single mothers and are looking for women at least 25 or older, you better be prepared to stop dating bw in some areas. In LA, you aren't going to find a single, attractive bw with no kids trust me. And if you do find one, you better be a pretty ass nigga or filthy rich.
Single mothers are losers,I could care less what her situation is,they are just out looking for extra cash and a total strangers to take care of their kids.If I date a woman I want her to tell me right off the bat if she has a kid or kids just so I can cut her off at the knees,I'm not picking up another man's trash and if you are a man who dates a single mother you are a loser.
Furthermore, I think females need to be more responsible when it comes to their kids. My man didn't meet my son until we had been together for about 8 months. Perhaps, if all of the females that had kids were actually women, we wouldn't have this problem. I don't take my son on dates. That's a NO NO. That's kind desperate to me...
The poor chap. The moment he found out you had a son, he should have left. I would use one of many people search sites online to find out info on a chick. Many such sites would tell the age, location, state of the person, as well as some of their relatives, and if they got kids!
Ya know, I went through the whole "child's father" thing with the man I'm with now. He didn't believe that my son's father is truly not in the pic...it took him almost a year to believe me. I understand where you're coming from bc these grown up girls run game and it makes it hard for women like me, who are educated and don't need a man for money.
actually most sigle moms are bad people, someone has to say it. it's the same thing that turned them to singal mom and it just get worse one the the incoctination of "u poor singal mommy" you have it so rough for YOUR CHOICES, plust they living on welfare, they 9 of 10 low life scum bags, no thanks
Good video. Why is it that some BW get offended if no decent BM wants to date them? We BM have our standards and the irony is, is that I'm a dude and I know my self worth a whole lot better than most of these BW, which explains why they get pregnant by thug losers or don't see anything wrong with them dating thug loser BM that have kids already even though they shouldn't have to settle for those types of men in the first place.
I have to laugh at the whole single mother is undatable thing because I am single with no children and I get guys who ask me what is "wrong" with me because I have never been married and I have no children. Go figure.
@ORVX I fail to see what age has to do with anything. I promised myself that I would never have a child without first being married. And I have kept that promise. You are merely illustrating my point. On one hand, you castigate single mothers, and other the other hand, you criticize me for NOT being a single mother. Make up your mind, dear. Can't have your cake and eat it, too.
@Casey18735 I did not casigate u for not having a kid, I made point that there is probably a reason u don't have a man by age 43, anything is possible, but my guesss is, u not to easy to deal with. Men don't get married by this age becuase they don't want to deal with marriage industry & how it treats men. Women don't get married because by this age because reaized r unpleasable. I will give u that, atleast u know up front thus sparring a man the agony of what is marriage 90% for men.
@ORVX I think you are being rather presumptuous to claim that I am not married because I have an unpleasant personality. In fact, I have been told that my personality is "delightful." I have been told that I am smart, funny, attractive, gentle easygoing and caring. Andd since you don't know me or my circumstances, I also think it is presumptuous for you to attempt to cast me in a negative light.
@kizzmac Never ever, ever, EVER stick your dick in a single mother! Because if birth control fails she is going to keep the kid and dig into your pockes for her 216 monthly payments.
i agree, its not fun dating a black woman with kid(s) the baby father is never around until u step in the picture. I just find that so ironic, i think it is a crime for any black man having to deal with that, i've dealt with it and believe me, never never never again.
I can tell that you have been hurt and used you take isolated cases to categorize and apply to all single moms Im not the single mom norm I am a college educated black female I have a bachelor and a master degree I have a stable job and Im 4 pay raises from 6 figures Im 34 I own my own home I want someone to compliment me Im not looking for someone to come in and be dad my kid is in high school any man in my life would be someone she respects as an adult it too late for a new dad anyway
Who cares about your degree, a single mother is a single mother. And a man doesn't necessarily have to have had bad experiences with a single mother to know they are weren't it. As the old saying goes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. Any woman, single mother or otherwise, who starts having your little sassy attitude just can't take the fact that some men simply don't want to put up with the shit single mothers bring regardless of their "degrees".
I only ref. my degree b/c many assume I am on the system etc b/c Im a single mom I dont like being put in a box when im different I am independent yes but Im not pretentious there is a difference Im old fashioned and dont have a crazy attitude The guy I am with now does not have a degree but hes almost finished w/ his AS He likes that Im caring& not selfish like some that dont have kids I was married for 10 yrs I wasnt out here just having kids to have them like many single moms
like others here have said, most BM dont give a fuck about how educated you are........yea your educated, but your still a single mom.....furthermore, you obviously didnt listen to my video carefully, I never said that single moms are uneducated, or that theyre necessarily looking for a replacement daddy.....I even stated that there are nuff cases of dads staying in the picture........you know what? this is justa knee jerk, automated reaction.....to be cont...
I did listen to your video. I ref my education to point out to the people who were talking about paying for kids I know you didnt say we were uneducated I SAW THE VIDEO, you did mention bringing kids on dates and a daddy role, allot of single women need that, some dont you keep saying in the rebuttals what you didint say, when maybe YOU need to look at your video and see the generalizations you made its from a narrow scope you said these women wldnt date you not all women like thugs i never have
cont......knee jerk, automated reaction just cuz I didnt glamorize, immortalize, romanticize or just flat out kiss the ass of black single moms.......listen, I obviously hit a nerve, and i wouldnt be surprised if your lying about finding your so called superman anyway (although if you did, good for you).........ill end with the following: you want someone to kiss your ass and romanticize you, pick up a michael eric dyson book...
No I dont need anyone to placate me or babysit my ego I read a michael dyson book b/c people kept talking about it, thats not my thing though thanks I married a man who had issues he kept from me I found out yr after we were married I stayed 10 yrs for my kid, but I had to end it I was not the promiscuous woman going out being a baby momma like many on here (not u) like to assume my parents who are still together taught me better
if you know im not making those kind of assumptions in my video, then whats your beef? furthermore, what I said may not apply to every last single mother, but if im in the wrong, then youre just as much in the wrong for trying to represent every last single mother since single moms are not such a "monolithic" group and cant be painted with such a "broad brush" as women like to say.........
furthermore, if you want me to take you seriously in this debate, please know what the hell youre talking about and actually LISTEN to my motherfucking video.......
again I did listen to the video and its serious there are allot of single moms who want someone to come and rescue them I have turned down several men who didnt have kids because they liked the character motivation and goals that I look for The one I am with (no he isnt fictitious) He doesnt have kids and wants them he was reluctant but his opinion changed quick because of who I am if he wasnt out of the country w/ the military Id be cooking his dinner right now instead of looking at these blogs
good for you about your man........but my video talks about what would NORMALLY happen when trying to date a single mom.....furthermore, when people talk in the context I talk in, they talk about general trends and patterns that are observed.........even statitstics says there are "outliers" to these trends (since youre so educated, you should know what that is)......bottom line, if this doesnt necessarily apply to you, why you mad for?
Wow you dated 3 yep so that mean all single moms will bring you issues. You are probably one of those men who say well I dated 6 black women and I have problems I will date white ones. If the white ones give you problems do you turn to men? The guy I'm with you to feel the same way you do but after he met me he realized I had so much to offer he would have missed out for making a generalization in about 2 years after we get married I'll give him a child Suggestion change your surroundings/circle
FIRST of all this is the internet dont write if you dont want a reply Second Im far from an idot 3rd I was married for 10 years thats where my child came from I was never wild Lastly none of that stuff applied to me except that im a single mom thats it he said its hard to go out on a date etc not the case here my kid is a teen in high school then he mentioned filling the dad role its not needed here here dad is in her life my point is he sterotyped
Oh yeah going for himself that's cute again a stereotype that a single mom needs someone financially I have allot going for myself usually more than the guys who have approached me its ridiculous Its just annoying how everyone gets put in a box and no worries im not responding to you again you are intellectually and socially inferior to me
To us bm, single mothers are the biggest detriment to all aspects of our lives. Don't ever date baby-mamas (aka single moms). They'll drain you quicker than a crack-headed vampire.
I can't understand why sistas get so offened when black men they don't want to date a single (never married) mother? How is it different than when black women say they only want brothas who are a certain height, or have a bucket full of "swag", or etc.
Not true. I went out with a guy last year who was 5'3" I wasnt feeling it but he seemed very nice Im 5"6" plus I wear heels. Everything went fine until I found out he had 6 kids from 6 women I have 1 so I saw him as an obligation being that he only made $9hr If he had 1 and and made $9 cool I make allot more Id be paying all the bills b/c of all his childsupport and taxes I pay them now Plus I want another child at 40 he decided to have a vasectomy Get this he wont date women with allot of kids
I sure am b/c most of the men that approach me kids or not aren't on my level mentally emotionally or financially, that has changed I have met a remarkable man who truly defines what a man is, he was fine with me being a single mom he is a "good catch" and was smart enough to see that I am one
Yeah right! LOL! I am sure most are above your level! Black men still out-earn black women at the end of the day even when you account for the degrees. This derives from the simple fact that degrees =/= more money.
Overall yes put thats a % but on average now more bw are in school then bm im not a 23 yo intern fresh out of school i was in the military still am pt time I have allot of experiences certifications and I have 2 degrees I travel abroad extensively I own my own home I am big on character I dont look at money but its not my fault that men have insecurities and inferiority complexes The guy im with now is in the military I dont make allot more now but my next raise is 10k so it will be a bigger gap
Females have a choice to make a decision to keep the baby or not. If you made a mistake and you know your kid is going to be a bastard why even bring the kid into the world. I am sure you got a few months to make that decision. I can't imagine single mom struggling to bring up a child ... what are your chance that your kid is going to be successful or normal!
@soulja69, So what you saying bro is that if you`re not going to grow up and be either sucessful or normal then you shouldn`t have the right to live? In that case all disable kids, all poor kids, and all abnormal kids shoulda been aborted? You sound like fucking Adoph Hitler, for one thing you`re not sucessful, and everyone don`t support the murder of unborn kids regardless the circumstance. If so ignorant non educated people like you should be first to go.
Many of these BW babymommas don't want to hear or try to comprehend these truths, but the word is spreading. There is no badge of honor that goes with being a single mother, contrary to what people have been conditioned to believe.
I don't have any kids, and when I do, I want to SHARE that first-time experience with a woman (who would be my WIFE, not babymomma) who can identify with and accommodate that. It's not much to ask, so I won't settle.
I've seen a couple of these videos now, these guys are right, the babes wanted to hang with the cool boys, not some everyday decent guy. These women would not have given u the time of day before.
The same women who were prejudiced and rejected an average, but decent guy previously, now screams "foul" when u want to exercise your choice, that is, avoid single mothers. She had choices and blew it. No male should be obligated to be open-minded in that way.
I'm surprised that these videos are made by mostly black men, and they act like this is a "Black" issue. Hasn't everyone seen at least a couple episodes of Maury Povich? This is an issue that affects all guys, not just blacks. I think it's a cheap shot to pick on "brothers" who won't go out with single moms, using the "race card", maybe even implying these men are "race traitors" All the practical arguments these men use for not dating single women are equally applicable in ALL races.
@Lionsareus, 65% of black women are single mothers, compared to all others races at about estimated 25% on average, or even less. 70% of black women are husbandless, mainly because of them being single mothers, what planet are you on?
I admit I've never heard such statistics, and if they are true, damn. But I was really referring more to the truth of what this, and a few other videos, were driving at.
And that is: There are awfully good reasons for a man to think twice before involving himself with a single mother. Why these women get that way, I don't know. As simply dating advice, its good advice, regardless of race.
um...church....the issue at hand is that no good man wants a ready made family....so since the losers aren t trying to be married the good men are saying no thank you
Most women are single mothers because they grew up without fathers and spend their youth looking for a guy to be a daddy to them which basically means giving it up out of both draws legs to anyone with $5 worth of attention. Be that as it may, I cant do single mothers. I cant be bothered with another mans child. they need to wait until the kid is grown and try again. The only encentive is that single mom is easy pussy. But just like all money aint good money , all pussy aint good pussy.
Question #1, who would want any of these YouTube weirdos with enough time on their hands to make video after video about single moms, who just happen to be the same chicks they wanted back in high school who wouldn't give them the time of day. There's a common theme amongst all these losers if you notice. You've got Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, dude... Either get over that chick or go talk to a shrink. YouTube's not a good look for you.
I'm not saying that these kind of women don't exist, I'm just saying that it shows me what kind of women you attract or have attracted. Hopefully this sends out a big red flag to anyone else who may read this post. I'm not knocking your opinion, but at least state that these ate the kind of women that YOU have come in contact with. Don't label ALL single mothers this way. You shared your comments and thoughts and I though that I would do the same.
I dont remember saying ALL single mothers are like this, but if me and a lot ofo ther brothers are having these sorts of experiences, obviously there must be a trend if so many in the single mom demographic are exhibiting these characteristics....
I've only made it through 4 minutes and 39 seconds of your video and I had to stop it. I have to ask you this question...Are you serious? I 'm kinda laughing at the thought that you may be serious about the things that you are saying here. I can see your point, but your approach sounds ignorant and definately needs more research. Of all of the examples that you given of single moms, I don't know any women like that. So that tells me the caliber of women that you attract.
yea and you know most black men have a 2 baby minimum yet trash the single moms..HAHA some even lie and say they have no kids to attract white women...how fucking funny is that
Your video is so unlikely for a lot of single women with children. As a former single mom who has interviewed over 300 single moms, your interpretation is not OUR story. First, I NEVER looked at being a mother as a negative or down fall. I have been proposed to 3 times and I was very choosy. I teach all women to be selective and NOT to choose a man who is a "dont wanter." When dating, I always had a sitter, no baby daddy drama, my divorce was the fault of my ex husband and our
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relationship was positive. My current husband stepped in as a pro athlete and good man who fell in love with my kids because he loved me. Mature men, who grow up learn that some superficial criterias dont work when it comes to finding love and they remain open. Single moms are getting married and falling in love ever day and not all of them got there because they made poor choices. All of them created their child with a MAN.
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My overall rating of your video although I do understand that those experiences do happen, is a 2. But thanks for sharing and good luck on the love front.
Best advice: Choose better quality women who know better than to take their child on a date with a man they dont know.
I have to remind myself that this is also YOUR opinion and its based off of your experiences. You do not speak for all of our situations or circumstances, just your own. I am not offended at the video b/c everyone has an opinion but I have never been in those situations. I've never taken my kid out on dates or any of the other things you brought up....
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
When I want to go out I have a responsible sitter on call that I PAY for because I am an adult and thats what adults do. My child is well behaved b/c she has a MOTHER raising her and not a black woman with a kid (there is a difference!). So questioning our values, calling us losers, bad choices, petty is foolishness. When I date a man I am not asking for a savior I am seeking a partner on equal footing not someone who can pull me up and carry me.
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
I am single black mother. I have been alone with my child since I was six months preg with her. YES my kid comes first always however, I have never been on welfare (no food stamps, WIC, Medicaid etc). I had her in my third year of undergrad, I have my masters now, a career (teacher), and a house. Some of the comments on here are pretty offensive. I have never asked anybody to provide for me and mine and I do not need or require a savior.... Its only complicated if you allow it to be.....
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
@ashleyjordynn If you really cared about your child you would have picked a man who wants to be a FATHER. Children need BOTH parents and no amount of feminist bullshit will change that.
BobbyL5757 1 week ago
Women who made bad choices...Yes. Fooled by men who act like really Nice or gentelmen..NO. These young women are not attracted to these men, they are attracted to men who are thugs and bad boys. I like you commentary. Great.
Nylonstrings777 1 month ago
If you are a man who is waiting till marriage to have sex then you can complain about single moms. If you have ever had sex with any woman you are not married to, then you are half the problem of the plague of single mothers.
wlkgbrft1 1 month ago
@wlkgbrft1
i never got anyone pregnant so im not part of the problem AT ALL!!!
ghost2101 1 month ago 5
Some of these old sensitive nigga's on here are cool.But most of them are just lame ass dumb pussy beggars. A whole lot of these nigga's claim to be real men,Just because they come to a dumb hoe's rescue when she is supposedly in need.These are also the same nigga's who claim to receive a whole lot of pussy.When in reality They just are pussies,Who hardly ever beat it.They just steady lick it and eat it.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
And what is with all these mangina ass nigga's on these pro- black male centered websites. Or just male websites in general. I have much sympathy for women especially certain kind's of women.But a lot of these over sensitive ass nigga's make me sick.I guess these are the ones who supposedly got a lot of pussy in high school or college.I can not stand these old plum dumb. Captain Save A Hoe Ass Nigga's. They probably have a lot of kids out there,That they do not even know,Thanks to thug lovers.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
Females have some nerve being too choosy,Being that some females can not even get much attention for certain things like being too dark, overweight, and being what some would say is just plain old ugly.Now personally I like dark skinned women, And thick women.But i have met a lot of men who do not. And I am not saying that it's right,As a matter of fact.I damn near could say that it is wrong.But we all have our personal taste,And have a right to it.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
I should tell these females that they should woman up,And also stop complaining about certain things,You know like the guy who would not date you in college. Because of the color of your complexion,Most of the time they say it's too dark,But very seldom do they say it is too light.Or what about the guy who said you weighed too much,And what about the guy or better yet guys who knew you were a hoe, And would not give you a chance.And you''ll love this .What about the guy who left you pregnant.
1makaylacoffman 2 months ago
How can u say all of what u said in the beginning of ur video and at the end say "not saying that single mother's are bad I just prefer not to dat one! Lol... such a contradiction! #STRONGSINGLEBLACKMOTHER!!!
lillypooh83 2 months ago
Very true.
Koolregg1014 2 months ago
Great video...
JasonDrvmz 2 months ago
women date assholes and think he'll change for her. then when she gets knocked up and ditched or divorced she'll try to score points with the nice guy she told to "fuck off" and try to sucker him into raising her bastard kids.
capnhands 3 months ago 5
You won't find too many black men over the age of 25 who don't have kids so I'd say, YES, get over dating single moms because even though they're flooding the market, black men with multiple children by MULTIPLE women are flooding the market as wel.....Take a page from teh Brady BUnch!
Every child is a gift, and suppose one day you find out you can't have kids naturally and can only adopt?...you never know......
theherdmentality 3 months ago
@theherdmentality
Where are the statistics to support the claim of not too many black men over the age of 25 with no kids?
Imo, a man should not be pressured into dating a single mom. Guys can have a preference to over single mothers as women can overlook guys with low-paying jobs or having a "nice-guy" personality with a decent job.
Every child should be a gift between the two who made it, not for other men who didn't help with it. (Unless they wanted to adopt.)
Safe-Sex and DNA Testing!
Tarikan5 2 months ago 2
I was in a single mom situation where the guy is trash. What made it worse was the fact that both kids were born with health and mental problems. There is nothing wrong with the mother. When we had kids, all the kids excelled at sports, academics, the whole nine.
Women! please make the right choices. It changes your life!
nukeman444 4 months ago
@loverboy7905....... I'm glad you are seeing that clearly!!
nagone11 4 months ago
Single mothers A-Have no respect for the institution of fatherhood (and probably men in general) and B-Don't give a shit about their children enough to make sure they have a father in their lives. NO SINGLE MOTHERS, NO EXCEPTIONS.
BobbyL5757 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 the choice is yours whether to date a single mother, however, it's not fair to place us all in the same category. I was a single mother until I met my fiance. My son's father CHOSE not to be in his life. My fiance and I just had a daughter together and although we are getting married, I KNOW that if that weren't the case, he is still her father and I respect him for that.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
@LittaLee21 You CHOSE to have a child out of wedlock thus proving my point. As always, you blame the father for your own choices.
BobbyL5757 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 I'm not blaming my ex for my choice to be naive and submissive. I'm blaming him for being a deadbeat. I don't believe in blaming others for my choice. I don't play victim....which is why I have 2 degrees (in engineering) and make more money than most men that I meet/know. However, fact is that it takes 2 to tango and his father chooses not to be in my son's life because I choose not to deal with his abusiveness and lack of responsibility.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
@LittaLee21 You make more money than most men you meet because A- A man with money wants his OWN children and thus is not interested in you. He also has young hotties without children lined up down the block for a chance to get at his bank account.B- Men are heavily discriminated against at the university level and later in hiring by feminist (female supremacist ) HR departments so you'll be seeing less and less men having a decent job in the future.
BobbyL5757 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 How is that when I'm an engineer (engineering, btw is a predominantly male field). You still didn't address my other comment. My mother was married to my sisters' father and my father (with whom she was in a long-term relationship with post-divorce) played a bigger role in my sisters' lives than my mother's ex-husband did...so that whole philosophy of "securing a father via marriage" is a load of crap.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
@LittaLee21 Perhaps if women stopped PICKING men who are destined for prison to marry and have children with then marriages WOULD be a way of securing good fathers but of course these men don't make young 'ginas tingle.
BobbyL5757 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 My mom's ex-husband was an officer in the airforce. My father had an MBA and was a senior financial analyst for the SEC. My son's father isn't an ex-con, he's just an asshole. My fiance (and daughter's father) is a successful business owner...not some 'thug'. HeavenlyTruth1 has a video called "Single Mother by Choice" and I can agree with his video. I'm not saying that you should consider dating single moms. My point is that we're not all the same.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 Where is your research that supports this claim??? Do you have data, facts, or stats? No you don't. You can only speak for yourself and your experiences. This video only addresses some men and not all men and it isn't an absolute truth or fact. Now I make MY OWN money b/c I want to and not b/c I need a savior or a provider for my child. By the way 11.2% of corporate officers are women so who is handing out jobs?..... RIGHT men!
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
@BobbyL5757 And she probably makes more money because as of 2009 black women earned 66% of all bachelors degrees awarded to African Americans and 72% of all masters degrees in the same category. This is found on the national center for ed statistics if you want to know where my sources are from. So with that being said, how much money do YOU have and where the hell do YOU stand? Whether I have a kid or not if he isnt doing shit I dont want him anyway.
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
@BobbyL5757 also, are you saying that if I was a divorced single mother, that my situation would be different? Over 50% of marriages in America end in divorce, not to mention that my son's father and I WERE engaged until I decided that I didn't want my son to grow up w/a father who disrespected his mother and was only a father when it was convenient for him. You really shouldn't pass judgement on people because of circumstances...that's pretty ignorant.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
@LittaLee21 Who picked a man to have a baby with who disrespected you and obviously didn't want to be a father.\? WHO MADE THAT CHOICE? Who? Women select males for mating and WON'T TAKE ANY RESPONSIBILTY FOR IT. You can blame men all you want for your fucked up choices but we're not buying it anymore. I repeat.
NO SINGLE MOTHERS.
BobbyL5757 5 months ago
@BobbyL5757 Wedlock means nothing!!!! At the end of the day if he isnt ready he isnt ready whether married or not. Everyone and anyone can walk away so do not put the fault on us for choosing to be the one parent who stays and raises OUR kids. It takes two to create a life not ONE. Marriage does not secure a father!!! My older brother and I have different dads b/c my mom was married and my bro's dad walked out so your claim has absolutely no value.
ashleyjordynn 3 weeks ago
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YOU BLACK AS BROTHERS NEED TO KILL IT . IM A MAN ! ITHINK THIS VIDEO IS BULL . ALL YOU BLACK BROTHER ON YOUTUBE ARE SOME DAM BLACK KKK MEMBERS . IF IT WASNT FOR YOUR SKIN COLOR . YOU WOULD BE IN THERE . I MET SO MANY DAM AS WHITE GIRLS . WITH THE SAME DRAMA . AND IT,S THE BLACK MAN THAT GOT ALL THESE DAM KIDS THEY ANT TAKING CARE OF . AND ONE OF THEM WAS MY DAD . MAN UP AND STOP CRYING ABOUT THE GIRL THAT WOULDNT DATE YOU IN SCHOOL . WHIMP ! AND TELL THE BROTHERS TO STOP THE BABY DROPPING !
nizzobeats 5 months ago
YOU BLACK AS BROTHERS NEED TO KILL IT . IM A MAN ! ITHINK THIS VIDEO IS BULL . ALL YOU BLACK BROTHER ON YOUTUBE ARE SOME DAM BLACK KKK MEMBERS . IF IT WASNT FOR YOUR SKIN COLOR . YOU WOULD BE IN THERE . I MET SO MANY DAM AS WHITE GIRLS . WITH THE SAME DRAMA . AND IT,S THE BLACK MAN THAT GOT ALL THESE DAM KIDS THEY ANT TAKING CARE OF . AND ONE OF THEM WAS MY DAD . MAN UP AND STOP CRYING ABOUT THE GIRL THAT WOULDNT DATE YOU IN SCHOOL . WHIMP ! AND TELL THE BROTHERS TO STOP THE BABY DROPPING !
nizzobeats 5 months ago
@nizzobeats TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!! YOU CARRY THE BABY FOR 9 MONTHS NOT THE MAN SO THAT MEANS YOU HAVE TO "THINK" DAMMIT "THINK"!! CLOSE YOUR LEGS AND USE YOUR MIND! WOMAN UP GOD-DAMMIT AND STOP BLAMING THE INADEQUATE MEN YOU CHOOSE AND PUT THE BLAME ON YOUR THUG CHASING, LiL' WAYNE LOVIN' SELVES!! CHOOSE A GOOD MAN, BUT GET YOUR SHIT VALUE SYSTEM RIGHT FIRST!! YOU BABY DROPPIN COMMUNAL HOE' BAGGERS! CHOOSE A GOOD DUDE WHO MAY NOT BE THE HYPE' CLUB DUDE, BUT VALUES HIS EDUCATION!
nagone11 5 months ago
Stay the fuck away from the single moms out here today. Stay the fuck away, they are pretty inferior mates for the man on the move going somewhere. Just look at why they are in that position? Bad choices, questionable value system, and no respect for the father figure. Stay the fuck away, it only gets worse as time goes on. Look out for yourselves guys get your priorities straight, fuck these useless babes. Shoot for the stars guys in all things, women, school, jobs, ect. Don't settle for B.S. !
nagone11 6 months ago 22
@nagone11
Amen
i called these single mother roaches (the ones who're NOT married by their husbands)
UltraDOG17 5 months ago
@nagone11 Truth serum!
screamatchaboi 4 months ago
You said life isn't a party. I think it is, when you're a teen, but you have a choice. You can be the designated driver. (The person who has a good time, but doesn't over do it.) You can leave early. (Focus only on your goals, and ignore anyone who isn't trying to do the same.) Or you can stay all night. If you do stay, just remember you have to clean up alone.
Kyensai 8 months ago
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Kyensai 8 months ago
Females have ready access to all forms of contraception. They can take the contraceptive pill. They can take the morning-after pill. They can don the diaphragm. They can insist on condoms. They can use spermicide. They can have abortions. And they can refrain from having sex.
OpenERP1 8 months ago
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I am finally soo satisfied with finishing last..LOL..matter of fact if nice guys finish last these niggas don't finish at all. Nice guys don't finish last, they finish strong. Remember the race is given to those who endure till the end. Revelation 3:10 Because you have kept the word of my patience, I also will keep you from the hour of temptation, which shall come on all the world, to try them that dwell on the earth
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
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Wan't to know why the world does not like or respect nice guys. John 15:19 If you were of the world, the world would love his own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. Nice guys don't lust after a woman who does not see your self worth.Revelations 22:11 He who does wrong let him do more wrong; he who is filthy let him be more filthy; he who is righteous let him be more righteous;he who is set apart let him be moresetapart
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
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See I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it.
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family. But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then.
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
@YahcobYsrael
I have noticed that especially in the U.S. Nice people or truly good hearted people are treated badly.
I am no saint but one thing that I take seriously is treating others the same way that Jesus wanted us to do.
I won't lie, in anger I've said many bad things about these women adn people in general who treat nice people like they are weak.
I ask the Lord to forgive me of my sins daily and to make me the man he intended for me to be.
As much as I've been humilitaed I have forgiven
lifeisforaseason 5 months ago
@YahcobYsrael
I just wish that people would stop confusing kindness with weakness.
Even some of my family members act that way towards their siblings, don't take advantage of your brother or sister simply because he or she is nice to you.
I won't downplay my ordeal, women have treated me very very very badly.
I finally figured out why last month,it's actually a combination of 2 things
1. Kindness or Niceness to women (people in general)
2. Looks (this was the part I figured out last month)
lifeisforaseason 5 months ago
@YahcobYsrael
I figured out a few years ago to my surprise that women in the U.S don't like nice men(apparently that's a bad thing). For years I thought that that was the only reason why they treated me like trash.
Last month I realized that the facial scars that I has been the other reason why they treated me badly. You see it never occured to me that people are so superficial. I see lots of guys who get females and treat them like crap but man these women treated me like an animal and for what
lifeisforaseason 5 months ago
@YahcobYsrael
They treated me like an animal and for what? simply because of the fact that I have facial scars they automatically thought they are out of my league and that I was worthless.
I just became a bit angry as I was typing, you poeple have no right to treat another person badly simply because of his or her scars.
I'm s mad it took me so long to realize the truth that was in front of me, I never though that people could be so shallow.
Funny thing is that I'm also a virgin like you
lifeisforaseason 5 months ago
@YahcobYsrael
Honestly I have absolutely no desire to ever find a mate or have a child.
I am currently looking for a way to chemically castrate myself.
Jesus said "If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. For it is better for you to enter into life (heaven) with one hand than to have your whole body cast into hell"
Yep, nothing that I plan on doing is against God's word.
I don't have to marry, Paul didn't and neither do I.
lifeisforaseason 5 months ago
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See, The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle. These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed..lol.their right in an aspect
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
YahcobYsrael 8 months ago
The irony is this... Men are willing to have sex with these women but when the baby arrives they are quick to get out of there!
Being a Single mum is hard work, I know because i was raised by one and she is the most amazing woman in the world.
Stop being so narrow minded people! there are many reason why some women BECOME single. Cheated on, divorced, widowed even beaten.
Single siblings have to practically raise each other!
You couldn't hack being a single PARENT for 6 months
ArGyProductions 9 months ago
@ArGyProductions yes men who have sex and leave are to blame but don't blame another guy because he doesn't want to date you because you have a child that's not his. doesn't make him less of a man id only consider dating a single mum if her husband died in the army or something like that not gang warfare. Or if was divorce and didn't work out
princejlee 9 months ago
AnimeNikkaJamal 11 months ago
awesome video brother but actually its 84 per cent
ola6861 1 year ago
In the animal kingdom - a lion takes over a pride and says to himself "Like fuck am I gonna invest any time looking after these bastard lion cubs", and commits infanticide by ripping out the throats of all the baby lions.
This triggers the lioness's of the pride to come into heat and be receptive and flush !!!
kbdkbd99 1 year ago
I'm taking what you are saying with a grain of salt... you have had your experiences and I can't knock you for having your opinions based on your reality... But you are very narrow in your thought process on a lot of what you are saying. But I digress...unfortunately there is a lot of truth to what you are saying...
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hkjhkghjhjk 1 year ago
I would not suggest you younger guys marry some of the these single moms but there is nothing wrong with dating one. Most of these young ladies have babies and yes the dead beat babys daddy is still lurking around somewhere. Date several of them at one time and coordinate your time with visitation and pickup by the babies daddy. Visitation time you are there and when not, you go see the other single mom. Less complications and less drama to deal with. You are to young for those type problems.
maybwrongmaybringht 1 year ago
so f**king true!!!!
Jarack123 1 year ago
how old are you? you must have been burnt and big time..I'm sure there are a whole lot of examples that you are witnessed to but you seem very bitter..You think very negatively about single moms..if you feel that way about single moms..what do you think about single dads..and maybe the ladies w/o children weren't interested in you because they just weren't interested in your personality and maybe now they are a little more mature and are trying to give you a chance..but to each his own.good luck
IndigoBlueSole 1 year ago
@IndigoBlueSole,
Short men?
fairguynova 1 year ago
gentlemen, don't date single mothers, they don't really want you, they just want you to be "captain save a-ho". she wants you to be the responsible one, the dependable one, the "provider", and trust me-she will continue fucking the "baby-father", i should know, i speak not just from my own personal experience, but some of my co-workers are now stuck paying child support for a kid that is not even their's. don't be "MR. NICE GUY", just fuck them, and leave them, just like the baby daddy.
sasquatch13ja 1 year ago 2
@sasquatch13ja that is the truth.I wish everybody knew that.
robertjosephgreen 1 year ago
@DJ4MONIE. Who would feel guilty about marrying their high school sweetheart and having a child from him?? Then after a few years of trying using my judgement to divorce. I don't know you nor do you know me. But none my Mom and Dads children lhave children out of wedlock if that's what you implied.
myhellokitty76 1 year ago
The only thing i want from a single mom is her money in in that tuna
terrence6720 1 year ago
Single mothers are not even human, they are evil creatures from the pit.
They are demons and so are their kids.
I would never ever marry a filthy single Black mother.
They deserve what they get.
The most I can do is sleep with them.
Of course it's a hit and run operation.
No more Mr Nice guy
lifeisforaseason 1 year ago
@lifeisforaseason all of you men have been burnt by hoodrats, and now you classify all single moms as being the same. I have 2 kids out of wedlock (am engaged to my daughter's father). My son's father had a choice and he chose not to be present once we didn't work out because he became abusive. We were together for almost 3yrs. I have 2 degrees in Engineering and make more money than most men that I meet/know. Don't stereotype someone based on a portion of their circumstances.
LittaLee21 5 months ago
A good mother wouldn't introduce strangers into their child's life.
EC0urbanGeNiUs713 1 year ago
I agree with you 100% dating single mothers is not the way to go but what if you live in an area where that's all you have? if you stop dating single mothers and are looking for women at least 25 or older, you better be prepared to stop dating bw in some areas. In LA, you aren't going to find a single, attractive bw with no kids trust me. And if you do find one, you better be a pretty ass nigga or filthy rich.
lamareaton 1 year ago
Single mothers are losers,I could care less what her situation is,they are just out looking for extra cash and a total strangers to take care of their kids.If I date a woman I want her to tell me right off the bat if she has a kid or kids just so I can cut her off at the knees,I'm not picking up another man's trash and if you are a man who dates a single mother you are a loser.
blodachia 1 year ago 8
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prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010 Most of the time, the man isnt' the custodial parent, so it's not that much of an issue.
Dmacho78 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010,
Short guys?
fairguynova 1 year ago
@fairguynova What about short men?
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
@prettyLibra2010,
Do not play stupid.
fairguynova 1 year ago
@fairguynova Seriously, I do not know what your talking about :-/
prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
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prettyLibra2010 1 year ago
good point bro
uzoma0024 1 year ago
I never want to date a single mom again
TheLou28 1 year ago
"Single mothers should date single fathers instead."
MrWINNSLAW 1 year ago 3
@MrWINNSLAW real talk
TheLou28 1 year ago
this tru!!! it all depends on how much u love that woman to but up with it.
spriels516 1 year ago
Furthermore, I think females need to be more responsible when it comes to their kids. My man didn't meet my son until we had been together for about 8 months. Perhaps, if all of the females that had kids were actually women, we wouldn't have this problem. I don't take my son on dates. That's a NO NO. That's kind desperate to me...
LittaLee21 1 year ago
@LittaLee21,
The poor chap. The moment he found out you had a son, he should have left. I would use one of many people search sites online to find out info on a chick. Many such sites would tell the age, location, state of the person, as well as some of their relatives, and if they got kids!
fairguynova 1 year ago
Ya know, I went through the whole "child's father" thing with the man I'm with now. He didn't believe that my son's father is truly not in the pic...it took him almost a year to believe me. I understand where you're coming from bc these grown up girls run game and it makes it hard for women like me, who are educated and don't need a man for money.
LittaLee21 1 year ago
actually most sigle moms are bad people, someone has to say it. it's the same thing that turned them to singal mom and it just get worse one the the incoctination of "u poor singal mommy" you have it so rough for YOUR CHOICES, plust they living on welfare, they 9 of 10 low life scum bags, no thanks
ORVX 1 year ago
why don't you ever show your face.
etatslartnec 1 year ago
Good video. Why is it that some BW get offended if no decent BM wants to date them? We BM have our standards and the irony is, is that I'm a dude and I know my self worth a whole lot better than most of these BW, which explains why they get pregnant by thug losers or don't see anything wrong with them dating thug loser BM that have kids already even though they shouldn't have to settle for those types of men in the first place.
MarkTheGreat555666 1 year ago
I have to laugh at the whole single mother is undatable thing because I am single with no children and I get guys who ask me what is "wrong" with me because I have never been married and I have no children. Go figure.
Casey18735 1 year ago
@Casey18735 lol, yea but you 43, come on!
ORVX 1 year ago
@ORVX I fail to see what age has to do with anything. I promised myself that I would never have a child without first being married. And I have kept that promise. You are merely illustrating my point. On one hand, you castigate single mothers, and other the other hand, you criticize me for NOT being a single mother. Make up your mind, dear. Can't have your cake and eat it, too.
Casey18735 1 year ago
@Casey18735 I did not casigate u for not having a kid, I made point that there is probably a reason u don't have a man by age 43, anything is possible, but my guesss is, u not to easy to deal with. Men don't get married by this age becuase they don't want to deal with marriage industry & how it treats men. Women don't get married because by this age because reaized r unpleasable. I will give u that, atleast u know up front thus sparring a man the agony of what is marriage 90% for men.
ORVX 1 year ago
@ORVX I think you are being rather presumptuous to claim that I am not married because I have an unpleasant personality. In fact, I have been told that my personality is "delightful." I have been told that I am smart, funny, attractive, gentle easygoing and caring. Andd since you don't know me or my circumstances, I also think it is presumptuous for you to attempt to cast me in a negative light.
Casey18735 1 year ago
Nigga you a bitch simp for dating a single mother. Fool U should just fucked the bitch and that's it.
kizzmac 1 year ago
@kizzmac
the fact that you try to talk tough and sound all hard tells me youre probably a worse simp than I ever was..........*sigh*
ghost2101 1 year ago 22
@kizzmac Never ever, ever, EVER stick your dick in a single mother! Because if birth control fails she is going to keep the kid and dig into your pockes for her 216 monthly payments.
violatione 1 year ago 4
@kizzmac u must listen to swp using words lik simp lol
kingdetroit10 1 year ago
She have a 1 yr old and she's already out back on the grind dating? Alrighty then.
NYDASH28 1 year ago 2
i agree, its not fun dating a black woman with kid(s) the baby father is never around until u step in the picture. I just find that so ironic, i think it is a crime for any black man having to deal with that, i've dealt with it and believe me, never never never again.
NYDASH28 1 year ago 3
I can tell that you have been hurt and used you take isolated cases to categorize and apply to all single moms Im not the single mom norm I am a college educated black female I have a bachelor and a master degree I have a stable job and Im 4 pay raises from 6 figures Im 34 I own my own home I want someone to compliment me Im not looking for someone to come in and be dad my kid is in high school any man in my life would be someone she respects as an adult it too late for a new dad anyway
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
Who cares about your degree, a single mother is a single mother. And a man doesn't necessarily have to have had bad experiences with a single mother to know they are weren't it. As the old saying goes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. Any woman, single mother or otherwise, who starts having your little sassy attitude just can't take the fact that some men simply don't want to put up with the shit single mothers bring regardless of their "degrees".
gwynplane723 2 years ago 3
I only ref. my degree b/c many assume I am on the system etc b/c Im a single mom I dont like being put in a box when im different I am independent yes but Im not pretentious there is a difference Im old fashioned and dont have a crazy attitude The guy I am with now does not have a degree but hes almost finished w/ his AS He likes that Im caring& not selfish like some that dont have kids I was married for 10 yrs I wasnt out here just having kids to have them like many single moms
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76
like others here have said, most BM dont give a fuck about how educated you are........yea your educated, but your still a single mom.....furthermore, you obviously didnt listen to my video carefully, I never said that single moms are uneducated, or that theyre necessarily looking for a replacement daddy.....I even stated that there are nuff cases of dads staying in the picture........you know what? this is justa knee jerk, automated reaction.....to be cont...
ghost2101 2 years ago
I did listen to your video. I ref my education to point out to the people who were talking about paying for kids I know you didnt say we were uneducated I SAW THE VIDEO, you did mention bringing kids on dates and a daddy role, allot of single women need that, some dont you keep saying in the rebuttals what you didint say, when maybe YOU need to look at your video and see the generalizations you made its from a narrow scope you said these women wldnt date you not all women like thugs i never have
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76
cont......knee jerk, automated reaction just cuz I didnt glamorize, immortalize, romanticize or just flat out kiss the ass of black single moms.......listen, I obviously hit a nerve, and i wouldnt be surprised if your lying about finding your so called superman anyway (although if you did, good for you).........ill end with the following: you want someone to kiss your ass and romanticize you, pick up a michael eric dyson book...
ghost2101 2 years ago
No I dont need anyone to placate me or babysit my ego I read a michael dyson book b/c people kept talking about it, thats not my thing though thanks I married a man who had issues he kept from me I found out yr after we were married I stayed 10 yrs for my kid, but I had to end it I was not the promiscuous woman going out being a baby momma like many on here (not u) like to assume my parents who are still together taught me better
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76
if you know im not making those kind of assumptions in my video, then whats your beef? furthermore, what I said may not apply to every last single mother, but if im in the wrong, then youre just as much in the wrong for trying to represent every last single mother since single moms are not such a "monolithic" group and cant be painted with such a "broad brush" as women like to say.........
ghost2101 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76 Feel guilty much?
dj4monie 1 year ago
@myhellokitty76
furthermore, if you want me to take you seriously in this debate, please know what the hell youre talking about and actually LISTEN to my motherfucking video.......
ghost2101 2 years ago
again I did listen to the video and its serious there are allot of single moms who want someone to come and rescue them I have turned down several men who didnt have kids because they liked the character motivation and goals that I look for The one I am with (no he isnt fictitious) He doesnt have kids and wants them he was reluctant but his opinion changed quick because of who I am if he wasnt out of the country w/ the military Id be cooking his dinner right now instead of looking at these blogs
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76
good for you about your man........but my video talks about what would NORMALLY happen when trying to date a single mom.....furthermore, when people talk in the context I talk in, they talk about general trends and patterns that are observed.........even statitstics says there are "outliers" to these trends (since youre so educated, you should know what that is)......bottom line, if this doesnt necessarily apply to you, why you mad for?
ghost2101 2 years ago
Awesome video man, I tried dating three single moms last year and I will NEVER do it again.
esmooth100 2 years ago
Wow you dated 3 yep so that mean all single moms will bring you issues. You are probably one of those men who say well I dated 6 black women and I have problems I will date white ones. If the white ones give you problems do you turn to men? The guy I'm with you to feel the same way you do but after he met me he realized I had so much to offer he would have missed out for making a generalization in about 2 years after we get married I'll give him a child Suggestion change your surroundings/circle
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
No idiot my current girl friend is a black women, I guess the statement that applied hit home didn't it.
You can sit up here and write all the stuff that you want but you know that the majority of what this guy is saying applies to you.
A lot of you learn to settle down once you have a child, and then you look for the brotha that has things going for himself.
YEAHHHHH, you found a superman that is willing to put up with the fact that you have a child.
Peace out, don't write me back please.
esmooth100 2 years ago
FIRST of all this is the internet dont write if you dont want a reply Second Im far from an idot 3rd I was married for 10 years thats where my child came from I was never wild Lastly none of that stuff applied to me except that im a single mom thats it he said its hard to go out on a date etc not the case here my kid is a teen in high school then he mentioned filling the dad role its not needed here here dad is in her life my point is he sterotyped
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
Oh yeah going for himself that's cute again a stereotype that a single mom needs someone financially I have allot going for myself usually more than the guys who have approached me its ridiculous Its just annoying how everyone gets put in a box and no worries im not responding to you again you are intellectually and socially inferior to me
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
@myhellokitty76 ALL SINGLE MOTHERS BRING YOU ISSUES!
215workhard 1 year ago
Good job bruh! You made a well rounded arguement hit it frompoint sides of the fence
dario202f 2 years ago
To us bm, single mothers are the biggest detriment to all aspects of our lives. Don't ever date baby-mamas (aka single moms). They'll drain you quicker than a crack-headed vampire.
BlackHeartMetal666 2 years ago
I can't understand why sistas get so offened when black men they don't want to date a single (never married) mother? How is it different than when black women say they only want brothas who are a certain height, or have a bucket full of "swag", or etc.
BruhMan09 2 years ago
Great comment. Sistas are bad about the height sh*t.
fairguynova 2 years ago
Not true. I went out with a guy last year who was 5'3" I wasnt feeling it but he seemed very nice Im 5"6" plus I wear heels. Everything went fine until I found out he had 6 kids from 6 women I have 1 so I saw him as an obligation being that he only made $9hr If he had 1 and and made $9 cool I make allot more Id be paying all the bills b/c of all his childsupport and taxes I pay them now Plus I want another child at 40 he decided to have a vasectomy Get this he wont date women with allot of kids
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
But you are a single mom...
fairguynova 2 years ago
I sure am b/c most of the men that approach me kids or not aren't on my level mentally emotionally or financially, that has changed I have met a remarkable man who truly defines what a man is, he was fine with me being a single mom he is a "good catch" and was smart enough to see that I am one
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
Yeah right! LOL! I am sure most are above your level! Black men still out-earn black women at the end of the day even when you account for the degrees. This derives from the simple fact that degrees =/= more money.
fairguynova 2 years ago 3
Overall yes put thats a % but on average now more bw are in school then bm im not a 23 yo intern fresh out of school i was in the military still am pt time I have allot of experiences certifications and I have 2 degrees I travel abroad extensively I own my own home I am big on character I dont look at money but its not my fault that men have insecurities and inferiority complexes The guy im with now is in the military I dont make allot more now but my next raise is 10k so it will be a bigger gap
myhellokitty76 2 years ago
Females have a choice to make a decision to keep the baby or not. If you made a mistake and you know your kid is going to be a bastard why even bring the kid into the world. I am sure you got a few months to make that decision. I can't imagine single mom struggling to bring up a child ... what are your chance that your kid is going to be successful or normal!
souljaz69 2 years ago
@soulja69, So what you saying bro is that if you`re not going to grow up and be either sucessful or normal then you shouldn`t have the right to live? In that case all disable kids, all poor kids, and all abnormal kids shoulda been aborted? You sound like fucking Adoph Hitler, for one thing you`re not sucessful, and everyone don`t support the murder of unborn kids regardless the circumstance. If so ignorant non educated people like you should be first to go.
craigblast 2 years ago
Thank you craigblast. Some sanity, finally.
ddsharper 2 years ago
successful
craigblast 2 years ago
Solid breakdown, brotha Ghost. Five Stars.
Many of these BW babymommas don't want to hear or try to comprehend these truths, but the word is spreading. There is no badge of honor that goes with being a single mother, contrary to what people have been conditioned to believe.
I don't have any kids, and when I do, I want to SHARE that first-time experience with a woman (who would be my WIFE, not babymomma) who can identify with and accommodate that. It's not much to ask, so I won't settle.
RealDealBrotha 2 years ago 4
I have never heard so many whiney brothas.
ddsharper 2 years ago
@ddsharper,
bitter single black mom!
fairguynova 2 years ago 3
I am not bitter. I am not single. You are just as stupid as the brotha speaking. Shut the hell up.
ddsharper 2 years ago
I've seen a couple of these videos now, these guys are right, the babes wanted to hang with the cool boys, not some everyday decent guy. These women would not have given u the time of day before.
The same women who were prejudiced and rejected an average, but decent guy previously, now screams "foul" when u want to exercise your choice, that is, avoid single mothers. She had choices and blew it. No male should be obligated to be open-minded in that way.
lionsareus 2 years ago 27
@lionsareus,
...and BOOM goes the dynamite!
fairguynova 2 years ago
@lionsareus I agree
TheLou28 1 year ago
I'm surprised that these videos are made by mostly black men, and they act like this is a "Black" issue. Hasn't everyone seen at least a couple episodes of Maury Povich? This is an issue that affects all guys, not just blacks. I think it's a cheap shot to pick on "brothers" who won't go out with single moms, using the "race card", maybe even implying these men are "race traitors" All the practical arguments these men use for not dating single women are equally applicable in ALL races.
lionsareus 2 years ago 4
@Lionsareus, 65% of black women are single mothers, compared to all others races at about estimated 25% on average, or even less. 70% of black women are husbandless, mainly because of them being single mothers, what planet are you on?
craigblast 2 years ago 2
I admit I've never heard such statistics, and if they are true, damn. But I was really referring more to the truth of what this, and a few other videos, were driving at.
And that is: There are awfully good reasons for a man to think twice before involving himself with a single mother. Why these women get that way, I don't know. As simply dating advice, its good advice, regardless of race.
lionsareus 2 years ago
um...church....the issue at hand is that no good man wants a ready made family....so since the losers aren t trying to be married the good men are saying no thank you
snipermg6 2 years ago 6
@craigblast,
I think what you mean to say is that of all black women who have children, 65% are single mothers.
fairguynova 2 years ago
Most women are single mothers because they grew up without fathers and spend their youth looking for a guy to be a daddy to them which basically means giving it up out of both draws legs to anyone with $5 worth of attention. Be that as it may, I cant do single mothers. I cant be bothered with another mans child. they need to wait until the kid is grown and try again. The only encentive is that single mom is easy pussy. But just like all money aint good money , all pussy aint good pussy.
tbursee 2 years ago
Bitcheswithchildrenitis is a serious disease to ordinary black me like me.
dznutz1971 2 years ago
Ghost2101!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My man!!!!!!!!!
You hit some key points on how these women would not ordinary men the time of day before they get knocked up and a hard head makes a soft ass.
dznutz1971 2 years ago
Question #1, who would want any of these YouTube weirdos with enough time on their hands to make video after video about single moms, who just happen to be the same chicks they wanted back in high school who wouldn't give them the time of day. There's a common theme amongst all these losers if you notice. You've got Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, dude... Either get over that chick or go talk to a shrink. YouTube's not a good look for you.
itgirlstyle 2 years ago
@itgirlstyle
I see my video hurt your feelings...........furthermore, I only made ONE video about this subject, but I guess thats all it took.........
ghost2101 2 years ago
I'm not saying that these kind of women don't exist, I'm just saying that it shows me what kind of women you attract or have attracted. Hopefully this sends out a big red flag to anyone else who may read this post. I'm not knocking your opinion, but at least state that these ate the kind of women that YOU have come in contact with. Don't label ALL single mothers this way. You shared your comments and thoughts and I though that I would do the same.
SonyiaT 2 years ago
@SonyiaT
"Don't label ALL single mothers this way"
I dont remember saying ALL single mothers are like this, but if me and a lot ofo ther brothers are having these sorts of experiences, obviously there must be a trend if so many in the single mom demographic are exhibiting these characteristics....
ghost2101 2 years ago
Can short brothers not be all labeled negatively by sistahs?
fairguynova 2 years ago
I've only made it through 4 minutes and 39 seconds of your video and I had to stop it. I have to ask you this question...Are you serious? I 'm kinda laughing at the thought that you may be serious about the things that you are saying here. I can see your point, but your approach sounds ignorant and definately needs more research. Of all of the examples that you given of single moms, I don't know any women like that. So that tells me the caliber of women that you attract.
SonyiaT 2 years ago
@SonyiaT
"Are you serious?"
yes
"Of all of the examples that you given of single moms, I don't know any women like that."
thats what they all say......
"So that tells me the caliber of women that you attract."
What you attract is one thing.......what you choose to accept is another....
ghost2101 2 years ago
i agree with this video 100% but i always catch hell for turning down men with kids... nice or not i dont want the last womans baggage
disneydiva21 2 years ago 2
yea and you know most black men have a 2 baby minimum yet trash the single moms..HAHA some even lie and say they have no kids to attract white women...how fucking funny is that
BLACKMENAREFAILINGUS 2 years ago
lol guys dont get it :) news flash women have kids with men i would never date a man with kids
disneydiva21 2 years ago
me either if he didnt marry his other 2,3,4,5 baby mommas then he wont marry you either
BLACKMENAREFAILINGUS 2 years ago
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Your video is so unlikely for a lot of single women with children. As a former single mom who has interviewed over 300 single moms, your interpretation is not OUR story. First, I NEVER looked at being a mother as a negative or down fall. I have been proposed to 3 times and I was very choosy. I teach all women to be selective and NOT to choose a man who is a "dont wanter." When dating, I always had a sitter, no baby daddy drama, my divorce was the fault of my ex husband and our
lovein30days 2 years ago
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relationship was positive. My current husband stepped in as a pro athlete and good man who fell in love with my kids because he loved me. Mature men, who grow up learn that some superficial criterias dont work when it comes to finding love and they remain open. Single moms are getting married and falling in love ever day and not all of them got there because they made poor choices. All of them created their child with a MAN.
lovein30days 2 years ago
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My overall rating of your video although I do understand that those experiences do happen, is a 2. But thanks for sharing and good luck on the love front.
Best advice: Choose better quality women who know better than to take their child on a date with a man they dont know.
With Love
Shay Your Date Diva
lovein30days 2 years ago
you said that mature men learn that superficial criterias don't work but you women never learn that get the fuck outta here with that bullshit
imthrowed94 2 years ago 5