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  • im 19 and still a virgin...i dont think sex is everything..but i get made fun of somedays, and other days, people are like good for you...everybody has different views on the subject..i dont really care honestly, if it happens it happens whatever right..its gonna happen sometime anyway...

  • Thanks for the video, Laci. You're right; being a virgin after 1 is over the hill at 20 :-) doesn't mean something's wrong. However, it can be a symptom. For me, I had difficulty making friends in general (female friends in particular), a religious upbringing that I didn't get free from til I was 20 and that had a Catch-22 ("Only date the girl you'll marry, but you can't know if you'd marry her until you've dated"). 23 may have been the earliest possible age for me to have a sexual relationship.

  • You have a beautiful smile

  • 24 year old virgin here. It happens. I don't think I'm undesirable. Far from it actually. I think I'm pretty good looking (and I've been told that by numerous people), and I got strong morals (at least I think I do). Sometimes things don't fall into place. And hanging out with my close circle of friends who are all married or in a relationship probably doesn't help me find women. But I know it'll happen. Right now, though, I just want to find a girlfriend. Sex is secondary.

  • it's funny how everyone listens to this hot woman on youtube. yes it's obvious that she seems like a super honest girl with a good attitude trying to help people out. But does that mean anything? no.

  • @KlabauterManiac Laci has a BA in Legal Studies and Education from a top 25 university, she's done real life sex ed instruction since 2008, and she's a member of the board of directors for the ACLU of Northern California. She's 100 percent qualified to be giving sex advice anywhere, but especially on YouTube.

  • @IHeartMyLungs That's 1 (one) BA in "Legal Studies & Education", to be clear.

  • I know of a man who is 6 years married and 60 years old. Still a virgin.

  • @shocker154

    Lol, medical problem?

  • There's nothing wrong with not having sex, just like there's nothing wrong with having sex. It all depends on the context and what works best for you.

  • Can anyone tell me what she sings at the end I can never understand it thanks :)

  • Anyone else find it funny that a pokemon video is related to this?

  • i love your honesty

  • Choosing to be a virgin is a personal choice. Just because some people like to have a lot of sex that doesn't mean that everyone should.

  • i lost my gay virginity at 7 and my strait virginity at 16 for penetration and at 25 for first time i ever came inside the woman.

  • I am 23 and a virgin as well. In my teen and college years I felt like the odd one out, but now it is something that I value and am proud of!

  • This was made on my birthday!!

  • I lost mine when I was 20. I honestly, felt like i lost it at the right time. I was plenty old enough to go through it, I was mature enough to deal with it, and I was plenty educated enough by that point to understand the possible risks.

  • my virginity has been gone for a few months and im 13

  • @xxbrokexxable Doubt it. Go back to Call Of Duty and get your Math homework done for tomorrow. You have school in the morning and daycare afterwords.

  • @Bl0OdYShAdOw It's possible...Lil wayne lost his virginity at 11.

  • @teddybeartoe mmmk sure buddy ol pal

  • having sex for the hell of it is wrong, well in my opinion, because it is just materialistic. seriously, why go around banging girls or guys that you won't have a long lasting relationship with? it is just stupid.

  • and by whore, which is really the wrong word choice. but if i wanted it easily that is where i would go.

  • 19 and still a virgin, Just waiting for the perfect person. i don't want to just go around and doing it with some whore. lol so to put. Just waiting for the perfect moment, and i also am trying to find a person who believes that sex isn't everything.

    Sadly people where i live are just to plain fucking stupid.

  • @Omnidestrophic

    Oh my gosh someone isn't just fucking for the hell of it and looking for somebody worth it! BURN THE HERETIC!!

  • I guess I should say im facing the same issue but although this video is informative it still dosen't take away the worry.

  • i got my first smash when i was 19. i tricked girls into touching my penis when i was much younger, but they would get it in.....alcohol resolved that issue.

  • @TheFrustratedAtheist fuck, 'wouldn't get it in'

  • 21 years old here, and I know why, because I don't fit in, physically, mentally, and socio-economically. So fuck it.

  • So basically think you're awesome and radiate it to everyone you meet including girls or guys you like.

  • I'm a seventy-three-year-old virgin. Any tips?

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  • 22 years old so far. Bobby Knight describes my situation well: "This is absolute fuckin bullshit!"

  • lol at the Mormon ads.

  • my first time was when i was 17. I fucked a 21 year old blonde in the back of my car outside of a night club in toronto. This was last night.

  • @2:32 Haha until the time comes. I see what she did there.

  • This girl thinks that because she's given it so sweet to so many guys that every girl is like her.

    Slut?

  • My wife was 26 when she first had sex. I started when I was 12. In the end, doesn't really make much difference when or how or with who. But the longer you wait the higher the value it becomes to you and the person who you lend it to.

  • @outstandingpajamas 12? O.o

  • @TB674 Good times.  :)

  • @outstandingpajamas rofl, epic.

  • Your shoulders look juicy in this Laci

  • I'm still a virgin and I'm 38 year old man.Yes I am straight.Everybody that knows me pretty much knows that I'm a virgin.My situation has been much caused by social anxiety disorder.I don't give it much thought as far as it being"weird".However,I must say,I do envy those who are having sex.

  • transcribe audio at 3:00. when she says "thanks for watching my videos" it says "thanks for watching my babies"

  • I love your videos because theyre not shit like other videos, you're well informed, entertaining, you arnt completely biased on your opinions yet keep them strong. and you arnt afraid to talk about stuff and be open with it

  • im a 20 yr old virgin.. at least i got my health:D

  • @punkkimiko hey so am i :D just bein picky about my first time

  • @SuperboyXX0018 Why are trolls generally repressed religious types? You're not happy, so you take it out on others. You know deep down that there's no reply when you pray, as much as you hope for one, and that your text makes very little sense. This frustrates you. But don't take it out on others. We're just enjoying the life we have because there's no afterlife. Having a limited life of servitude isn't for everyone.So do the right thing and leave the rest of us to have happy and fulfilled lives

  • that is a cool shirt..... i like the cut off shoulders... iv never seen that before lol

  • ill be a 23 year old vergin next april

  • I only listened to half of that because your shoulders were exposed.

  • @Foxxxydelic Can you please show me a picture of you? I know who Hayden is and kinda like her

  • I lost mine when I was 22. But it was with the right guy and I had found the right situation. And honestly at the end of the day does it matter if you lose your V card at 16 or 22, or 30? I have found that experience doesn't matter too much. Sex almost comes naturally. Key word "almost." You still have to work at it a little at first.

  • Preconcieved opinion is the greatest factor in repeated failure.

  • Oh Laci, plz let me fuck your tits, plz plz plz. I only want your tits, not your pussy or ass, only your tits. I wanna suck your tits, fuck it, squeeze it and cum on your tits.

  • @AnzKillaBoy wow dude have some respect, shes a lady you know not a fucking pornstar

  • @AnzKillaBoy Tell me, has this ever worked on any girl?

  • I think it is so good there are people like you online who are not afraid to bring these topics up, I have learnt a lot about life and what choices to make.

  • i prefer a virgin male to be honest. i also dont care if the guy is experienced at all.

  • I lost my virginity when I was 21 and I've only had 5 sexual relationships to this day (32). I've never seen myself as ugly, but I'm quite scared of making a fool out of myself. All the time I've scored, I've been hit on to the point that it is a sure thing to make advances. One time some girl who I was talking to just started making out with me, and I didn't even realise we had been flirting. That was quite weird :) And well, sex isn't everything, like Laci said!

  • I'm 21 and still a virgin

  • @Foxxxydelic it means you're a lesbian.

  • @EchidnaStudios man..I'm thinkin the same fucking thing xD

  • SELF FUFILLIN PROPHESY: its weird because sometimes I go out and I have this feeling that I am going to get laid.. and whenever I have that feeling I always get lucky with either one two or sometimes three women... maybe I just have confidence?

  • sex is to overrated i was 18 when i first did it i had plenty of opportunities in high school just never felt like it was the right time or place and for some strange reason it can never stay between just to people it was just way to much drama yea sex is fun and all but not to the point you should try to have sex with every person you think is cute

  • i'm glad that the whole thing about stressing about being 'undesirable' or 'unnatractive' was like adressed, cos that is me ALL OVER. self fulfilling propehcy is like my life. im still a functioning human and im a fairly intelligent person but having this thing at the back of my mind- it KILLS me. im just glad i'm not the only one who is in this situation.

  • I was 24. She was 28. She was hot. It was fine.

  • What if, I'm pretty sure I've gotten laid before but I was super drunk and I'm honestly not sure exactly what happened. Does that count? Am I still a virgin? I really don't want that to be my first experience.

  • @kyoukan102 I think that what counts as your first experience isn't what happened to your body which you don't remember, but the first time you're truly in it and experience it. Your mind is certainly virginal, and as far as physicality goes, most people break their hymen before they have sex anyway (riding bikes, any sports).

  • Disagree: practise makes perfect. I speak from experience.

  • I know full well why I still am: my standards are WAY TOO HIGH! I expect any girl I date to have read A BOOK!  You'd be surprised, but in this city, I really have been accused of having too high standards for expecting girls to read something without a backlight or glossy pages once in a while.

  • @NoobixCube Yeah, mine are way too high too. I expect a guy to be able to think for himself, carry a conversation, and omg, actually care about people. I'm starting to think this will only exist in my favorite novels (for me).

  • @NoobixCube literacy is considered a high expectation for you? You're beta as fuck. Get the fuck off of my internet.

  • @NoobixCube

    (Sorry I know your comment is 2 months old)

    God Damn I was beginning to think I was the only one! My problem is I don't like doing things people in my age group do (like partying etc.) I'm one of those "old souls." I'm fuckin 22 years old and can count the amount of girlfriends I've had on 2 fingers. They're all into getting drunk. What the fuck ever happened to just enjoying relaxing alone time, reading books etc? I fucking hate my generation.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry I'm 14 and well..it's not getting any better :(

  • @TeamMuffinFTW1

    Oh I believe it. Public education has been going to shit for decades, and it shows no sign of improving. When I was in high school we had one science lab that didn't even have gas going to the needle valves, and there's developing countries graduating more scientists than us (the richest country in the world). The garbage being force-fed to us over the idiot box from Cat-shit-fornia doesn't help, either. I'm not even having kids to protect them from this nonsense.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry I feel your pain.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry I am also 22 and was raised old school and traditional. I HATE my generation as well.

  • @SirRobbins

    Yup same here. I consider myself a "social liberal" on most issues, but as far as personal convictions go I hold myself to very conservative standards.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry it's sad that we are rare.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry I'm 23 years old girl/woman and like you, I could count the amount of boyfriends two fingers :) but I have quite a different experience than you... Cooking or walking the dog or lying in the bed, talking and eating chocolate is my favourite time with my partner and I think he would say the same. Please, give our generation a chance :) we're not all the same ;)

  • @Pe2805M *on two fingers

  • @NoobixCube You have no idea for how long I've been searching for a guy like that... you know, someone who can spell and talk about interesting things too.

  • @NoobixCube You, sir, are a snob. Some people are born stupid, and they need sex too. Also my BS detector needle is swinging into the red. I suspect you are afraid to "go for it" because you have built it up into this huge thing in your mind. So you set up situations, and standards and stories designed to rationalize chickening out. I say these thing not to hurt, but rather so you can see that you are waffling, overcome your fear, and carpe the damn diem.

  • @Snakepliskinist

    Oh, thank goodness the expert arrived!! I guess if somebody has high standards for companions (e.g. not showing idiotic high school behavior and having some degree of intelligence and self-respect) then they're REALLY just harboring a fear of sex. I sure am glad you showed up to rebuke this heretic!

  • @NashvilleKildCountry High standards are for people who have a little practice. Suppose he hold out for this fabled "worthy" woman but repels her by being all insecure and needy because he hasn't had practice mastering these emotions that are ubiquitously associated with the first time a man has sex? And as I said, people can't help being stupid. No one said anything about HS behavior or self-respect. You can bitch about what's available, or adjust your expectations. Which sounds smarter?

  • @Snakepliskinist

    I'm not "adjusting my expectations." That's called settling. I'll die a virgin before I settle. It sucks but that's the way it has to be for me. You may disagree and that's your right to do so. And, yes, many females in my age group act like high school students (and many males too), so I know what he meant when he said he expects them to have read a damn book. It's ridiculous that something so simple is considered "high standards" among my idiot generation.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry How very adorable of you. When you come up on half a century like yer ol' buddy Snake, you'll have adjusted your expectations about many things. I have two PhDs and a masters (behavioral psychology, btw), but you don't see me going around being a book snob. Most people don't like to read. It's no great shortcoming to be who you are. The egocentrism of youth believes it can't acheive intimacy with people of different values. This is being callow, and it is detrimental.

  • @Snakepliskinist

    Well I'm sure you're well-educated on what you're talking about, so I'll back away because it likely won't end well for me if I engage you further on this. I respectfully disagree, though. You have a great weekend.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry Mon frere, I'm not trying to have a pissing match( although I am kind of a dick). I was once a young man much like yourself, and I wish a hideous, one-eyed erstwhile physicist had taken the time to lay out the facts of life. High school suck ass if you don't instantly-assimilate-social-pr­ogramming gene. But only trying to establish intimacy while steadfastly "being yourself" will only hurt you. I'm just saying find some middle ground with the mouth-breathers.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry I mean seriously....You like to read. You are essentially judging partners as being unworthy because they don't like an activity you like.  That's not what's actually going on of course. The reason you so quickly jumped to Noobix's defense is because you are in much the same boat. Unless just have an incredibly deficient sex drive for a fourteen year old, intellectual principle is unlikely to be your limiting factor here.

  • @Snakepliskinist

    I'm 22, not 14.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry Oh damn. I was looking at a reply to you. In my defense, I'm an old fuddy-duddy, a cyclops, and simultaneously perusing porn and scrolling through these. I'll understand if you doubt my credibility. I'll even fuel it: only my masters was in behavioral psychology. The PhDs were branches of physics. Physicists aren't exactly great people for relationship advice.

  • @Snakepliskinist

    Lol not a big deal! I'm sure if I tried "debate" with you on this I'd get my ass stomped, even if I was right, simply because you know more about psychology than I do in general (my area of study is chemistry and I'm just barely finishing my bachelor's in that). I can be a bit of a dick myself, sometimes (as I've no doubt shown in my comments), so don't worry about that.

  • @NashvilleKildCountry My "retirement" is in no small part due to the current political/economic climate. Science is sooooooooo yesterday in the United States. I hope chemistry fares better than physics. Probably will...it has less chance of disproving God, and we always need sharp people working on combining prozac, statins, and viagra. Wocka wocka wocka.

  • @Snakepliskinist Yes! Well said. NoobixCube is taking hits at women to justify his haughty standards. I would recommend he get out of the city, book a ski trip to Whistler, and free his mind with nature. Like magic, literate and ambitious people will enter your life, paving the way to finding that one happy, long-lasting relationship.

  • Its about how u get in there and get the job done with passion my man, PASSION! LOL

  • self fulfilling prophecy = negative thinking = bad, bad, bad

  • wow..... her videos are more helpful than anything you'll learn in school

  • Her lips are SMEXY in slow motion... ;P

  • I'm almost 23 and i'm a virgin I don’t think I’m particularly ugly or beautiful…I’m normal!

    My problem is the social relationships. I’ve few friends and less social life that my coevals so a met a lot less boys.

    Considering that I’m not a model everything fit!

  • Sex is EVERYTHING !! =)

  • how do you know all this..... its soooo cool that someone knows all this..

    can i do what you are doing as a job.. can i get paid.... i would love to what your doing as a job...

  • I think any man still a virgin over the age of 20 will only be angered and frustrated by a woman lecturing on the social effects of being incel. Human relationships are important for emotional and psychological reasons, and sex IS NOT everything. However, at what point can we say, "I love you" to another person, and believe it, while in the end we're both going our separte ways. Friendship is so important, but when all you're friends are going home with their partners, you could still be alone.

  • Some people are self made Eunechs and some are gifted to being single. Compassionly Laci tries to speak, but ends up accepting culture as a standard. Like if you don't have sex, you are an outcast. So what if you don't have sex. Not everyone has tried alchol, or some kind of illegal drugs. So it's OK if you are a "virgin" if you will use that term. The world puts som much on people, and I am tired of the world. But I bear with it in patience and mercy towards them, as the Lord God does.

  • @Shoots1978 The world is weak. Ugliness and pain are far more common than beauty and pleasure. I believe God intened us to decided for ourselves what the difference between those are. When you can love something that frightens you, or that disgusts you, then you have truly lost your virginity. When you have experienced caring about another person more then yourself, then you will be a "experienced."

  • @SlashinatorX male/female, doesnt matter, make friends, you can do it :)

  • 21, not proud but really really really really shy & waiting for love.

  • @MsCerealKiller Pretty tough subject ... sometime it feels like I miss something in my teenage years... and now i kinda regret my lack of experience, in front of pepole of my age ^^

  • Its really hard in this day and age to abstain from sex

  • marry me

  • Superboyxx018 I totally agree with you

  • you remind me of "As told by Ginger" idk why though

  • Virgins>Non Virgins

    Sex is an abomination you dumbed down people.

  • @SuperboyXX0018

    its not an abomination, its a natural urge. a natural thing. part of the circle of life. you wouldnt be here without it. so if something so natural or human is an abomination, itd be interesting on how you feel about other things.

  • @TEHKiTTEHSOUP-I know i wouldn't be here without it, which is the main reason i hate it. Another reason i hate it is because of the way you sick bastards view it as this GREAT thing and make such a big deal about it.

  • @SuperboyXX0018 what makes it not a great thing exactly? the reason that everyone views it as a bad thing is because the way mainly religion has shunned it. who says religion, or the media, is right or wrong? im not going into a religious debate, but just because one or two groups says its bad, what really makes it bad. you should watch more of lacis videos, youd learn so much.

  • @TEHKiTTEHSOUP-You people overrate it! Why does it has to be this big social thing and something people like to laugh and joke about? Sex is suppose to be something private and done in a way that is acceptable by married couples. It's not for your own entertainment and pleasure, it's a very serious thing it is the instrument that brings life into this world.

  • @SuperboyXX0018 Cool story bro.

  • @HybridD91-Us independent thinkers have power over you dependent thinkers. What i've been saying is TOO deep for you dumbed down folks to take in.

  • @SuperboyXX0018 Wow...move over there, man. There isn't room for all of us /and/ your ego. Why are you even watching this video if you're still living in the middle ages anyway?

  • @sophietuesday-To expose the truth.

  • @SuperboyXX0018 lol, go back to Church and ask god for the answer.

  • @PsychoBatcave-And continue to follow the world to hell you dumbed down and ignorant fool. Sex is supposed to be holy and private, between two married people, man and woman, not something to be played with and talked about on a regular basis.

  • @SuperboyXX0018 Hell sounds like fun then. I'm pretty sure with your attitude you've never actually had sex, so I really don't see how you can possibly know what it's supposed to be about. Holy sex, is that like sex doggy style with a bible on the girl's back?

  • @PsychoBatcave-Yes, i've never had sex and never will(by choice). And i know all about sex because of wisdom, and it should be done in a way that's not improper like oral sex, anal sex, and etc......

  • @SuperboyXX0018 I hate to inform you of the fact, oh wait, actually I love to, that there is no God and your holy book does not dictate "proper" ways to have sex. People can have sex whatever way they want so long as they are not harming another individual. 

  • @ReasonIsADivineGift-You're deceived.

  • i was 17 but i was in a weird situation when i lost my V card. if it wasnt for that i probably would still be a virgin haha and really i wouldnt of minded hahaha. i love you movies its really informative thanks :)

  • the boy i'm seeing at the moment, was a virgin when i met him, and he's 20, the thing is he's really attractive. funny thing is, he was with a girl for two years before me, but they never had proper sex(he never got to finish because se complained a lot or something) I wasn't turned off, a little when i found out i took his virginity, just because i had not had a lot of sex before him.

  • I have been watching for years and instill don't get the end

  • I didn't lose my v card until I was 22, I waited until I was with a guy I felt like I could trust

  • It seems like the real reason why people are obsessed with it is because is because having sex merits some type of bizarre respect in our culture. Sex is important, but its the person's business, not everyone elses.

  • @ReasonIsADivineGift That, is so hot. (brains and logic)

  • @PsychoBatcave Well, I'm glad that at least someone thinks so! So, thank you! :P

  • @ReasonIsADivineGift judging by 30 likes I'm certainly not the only one.:)

  • @PsychoBatcave There's a difference between liking a person's comment and being attracted to them :P. And, your expectations actually describe myself, and most of my close friends. There are guys out there that you'd actually like. :)

  • @ReasonIsADivineGift Touche. I certainly hope so. Maybe I have a case of bad luck right now combined with age. Maybe I'll find love when I'm 80 lol. Yay.

  • I want to make love, do you say? (oh yes baby... ohhhh yeeeeeeess yes fvck me)

  • Your shirt makes me wanna take my pants off. Jussaying.

  • My V-Card says Lifetime Member, but that doesn't bother me. Work hard in life, and it will be worth living.

  • I had sex for the first time att 18. A good friend of mine did it at 28. I had sex after a really wet night, still drunk. He did it sober with someone he'd gone out with for a while and really liked. Big difference between us? Well... I don't think so.

  • hm..biologic speaking being a virgin does infact change your behavior if your a male.Natural selection coded something there for sure.

  • Virginity is a myth.

  • @TurkishButcher

    It's all too real for some of us.

  • wait, this is actually insightful. after reading an all caps title saying 23 year old virgin thats not exactly what i'd have expected. nice.

  • GO GREEN!!!!!!

  • would you prefer virgin or experienced man ?

  • I don't get what the big deal is. I don't plan on ever losing my virginity

  • @IronMaidenEdForce1 Your a Loser

  • @IronMaidenEdForce1 Iron Maiden fucking rocks !!!!!!!

  • nothing wrong with being a virgin. Wait till your married.

  • I love your shirt, omg!

  • Well..... Start by talking to a girl....

  • lol I lost my virginity to my neighbor when I was around 10 I think she was 16 then she molested me.. I think it has something to do with desirability just look clean... me I used to seduce girls who smells good because I love giving oral sex... and having sex for hours... hygiene plays a major part to me.

  • to the virgins reading my comment just jack off before dates , party, or any social events where there are possibilities of you getting laid... and you wouldn't have any problem with embarrassing yourself at all... works every time for me.. and being fit really helps as well... maybe its because of my abs or improve diet... I cum like peter north no pun intended. BTW I am Filipino Japanese I live in Asia. So don't contact me anymore I am deeply in love with my wife thanks but no thanks.

  • Dudeeeeee ... I've been watching this video for 3 minutes , and all i can hear was "Sex,sex,sex,sex" ... If u want cock , girl in your age can get it anywhere! :-))

  • didn't have sex until I was 21. I wasn't shy, I wasn't anti-social. I just was never thinking about it. And this chick I met well yea we got it on. and shocked her to deatht hat I had my v-card. Anyway last time I have had sex has been in October of last year. Quite literally I do not sleep around. Too much drama connected to it. Sex is only for those I have a deep affection to, and to be honest its fun, but its overrated, but still awesome. Not so great to where I would do anything for it

  • If you want to have sex go to the places were men/women congregate and just ask people "Hey do you want to have sex" it may seem crude and strange but it works. Just make sure to use a condom!!!!

  • I can help some guys that are worried feel better about themselves. I didn't have sex until I was 25, mostly because I was shy and didn't have confidence. I eventually did find the right person and it's a lesson to me and to everyone that their time will come but the key is to work on your confidence first. Everything starts with confidence.

  • 1:27 Spider web (x

    But its okay laci, we all love you!

  • Sex Hair? lol

  • i'm in my 20s and i'm still a virgin. and i'm not some mutant shut-in... i'm decent looking, but i'm just extremely shy. i never had the courage to talk to girls for more than a dozen topics or phrases so i never got the chance to negotiate a sexual encounter.

    i wish Lacey would come over and pop my cherry