Mastering Rage

[zaxman67]

Reality is an illusion. Bipolar is the label they give you when you come to this realization and the veil is lifted from the illusion that we are conditioned to perceive to be reality. The truth is stranger than fiction and perception is not realtity.

[MrRedFredSaid]

This guy has one enormous ego.

[desertjournalonline]

Thanks, I am learning how to identify triggers, and some of them reside in my home. Must I remove myself until I get a grip on life?

[desertjournalonline]

In my Anger Management Course, I am trying to learn how to cope with my rage and identify the triggers that set me off. It seems to make sense to remove yourself from the trigger until learning how to control the rage. But must I remove myself from my family in order to get a grip on things?

[appostollo]

I rage because I'm overly anxious and unable to socialize, and if someone is angry to someone else, what goes inside my head is not to calm them down, but to feel identified to one of them. Sooooooooooooo................ I'm not bipolar, I reject your request.

[MrSpieldose]

and we live in a world that a society convinces nations to commit genocides and manipulates people through fear and/or religion into validating and being proud of that and when you remind people of that they can't even say anything about their disregard for life and I see it that way... I grew up manic depressive and was violent as a kid and am against violence unless it was in a situation that absolute survival depends on it, it is ineffective and degrades humans as a whole.

[MitchelPie]

a simple solution being taken out back and being shot

[phfrankh]

What is meant then, by righteous anger and outrage?

Is it in order to control anothers behavior?

[YouKidsNever]

Excellent video:)

[cbrun67176]

I believe it is from an abusive childhood

[xxxmarch7]

I am not bi-polar..I am a smart ass..

[Belle19700]

My mother is bipolar, and doesn't know it. I am, and my children are also. I think I'm the only one who knows. I'm 59 now, and since the periods stopped, I've really calmed down, but it's till there. When I was younger, when triggered, I felt a prickling at the back of my neck, then the prickling would come around both sides of my head, meet in middle of forhead, and boom, the rage exploded. Is this just a physical disease, or is it from abuse, powerlessness as a child?

[sandbar3000]

Do you think that age makes a diifference-I mean you said you are 59 now. Does you think that maturity helps with having Bipolar?

[BipolarAdvantage]

Maturity is the key to getting bipolar in order. It doesn't come with age, it comes with effort.

[Belle19700]

If a person is bipolar, they have to make some rules for themselves. They have to really know what their triggers are. My trigger is feeling that someone is talking down to me. I never did the euphoria thing. I just had intense depression, and then rage. I got some help with the depression, and watch myself like a hawk, to keep my over-reactions in check. What U think is so important at a time, 2 weeks later, you wonder what the hell U were so mad about. That's bipolar.

[sandbar3000]

Triggers, sure. I know what my triggers are. Going out in pubic in large crowded places...like a crowded store. I better get out fast...of have cotton in my ears...but that is related to AS, not Bipolar. I am usally really mad just around that time of the month-and then-I'm over it within a day. my anger (when I have it or show it) lasts a very short time. My bf says "Oh, your PMSing again, huh?" and he runs for the hills...

[sk8bow]

in my opinion, it's not a disease but a fixation on the feeling of rage. this fixation can bother or not bother you. in your case, you don't like it and it manifests into an uncomfortable feeling.

this video in general, explains how accepting it and agreeing that you have this feeling of rage helps by making the rage not a big deal.

accept that feeling of rage and let it out by discussing it with your children in peace time and

by not taking it seriously when you feel it coming up.

laugh!

[Belle19700]

Make rage no big deal? I don't think so. My "supposed" bipolar rage triggers are when people talk down to me, or when people make claims about things, they know nothing about. My mother talked down to me for 18 years, and is still doing it. I think the supposed bipolar reaction, is more likely due to being abused, by someone who is supposed to be on my side. Rage is a very big deal. If you think rage is silly, or nothing, then U don't know true rage.

[sk8bow]

i don't know true rage because i avoid it now.

[j0hnwi11iams]

Your unconscious acquires archetypes and plotlines from everywhere. Your childhood experience is particularly deeply seated. The way the unconscious can be changed is through practice and training. Learning to control anger takes practice, and the earlier you recognize the stories that lead to your anger, the more effectively you can change them to a more complex, complete, and intelligent storyline that does not necessitate violence for its resolution.

[Research0digo]

Fight or Flight? Or screwed up f-ing brain!

More than once I tried choking my husband of 27 yrs with his shoulder strap.

I threw stuff just over his head (powerfully).

I threw his childhood chest of drawers at him - 1 drawer at a time - then the entire chest.

While I slept a week from my suicide attempt then the 72 hr hold in the psych ward - he took the opportunity to leave.

He had had enough. My final trigger event? Trying to stab him.

I am now absolutely devastated.  I adored him.

[sk8bow]

hey thanks for sharing that.

i have some stories of my own and i think we all do.

sometimes relationships can make you feel so close that we can feel irritated and moody that it causes the problem.

being at peace with yourself first and foremost no matter if you are alone is the way to go. if you can do that, happiness else seems to follow since you don't worry about happiness.

not that i know anything but i really do believe that and i want to practice just that.

[j0hnwi11iams]

You were probably angry at him for wanting to leave you. Life is not without irony. You were too insecure to reveal your true feelings, so you used anger instead, only that didn't work, did it?

[j0hnwi11iams]

The basic unit of human understanding is the story. When you find yourself feeling rage, there is generally a storyline that precedes it. In it you have a relationship between archetypes. When you become mindful of rage, you not only catch yourself before expressing it, you catch yourself creating the stories that make you angry. Rage most often is a maladaptation based on the stories you use to remember your experience. Those stories are filled by holes eagerly filled by your unconscious.

[Belle19700]

Will you please speak further about the story line you're talking about? I don't quite understand how to do this.

[darkpal123]

i know 3 people with biopolor :O family too

[CounterActPsych]

I would like to see you focus more on GROUP relations rather than focusing too much on the psychiatrized individual. Just a thought.

[isegoria1]

Giving this videos less than 5 stars just proves the users BiPolar status :-)

[teaparty111]

I used to hide away and sometimes still do but that is not facing life properly now is it! Good Video.

[teaparty111]

Anger is a good emotion; it is natural to get into a rage in certain circumstances. I would not advocate getting into a rage for somebody stepping on your toes, literally or figuratively. But if somebody is violating you and yours seriously then rage is a good thing--might even save your life. Everything is good if used correctly and not good if abused or not controlled. I never have a problem with rage. Only had it a few times and I needed it at the time--solved the problem---PEACE!

[BipolarAdvantage]

teaparty,

You hit on a very important point - "Everything is good if used correctly and not good if abused or not controlled."

That is a central concept to the Bipolar Advantage. When we understand ourselves and have control over our behavior, then we can turn every thought and feeling to our advantage. Mastering Rage is not about making the feelings go away, it is understanding it so well that we have the choice of how to respond with wisdom.

[teaparty111]

OK---I guess this is a truncated version--we did not hear the whole lecture---good speaking by the way. I figured you would get around to the rest of it. Do you sell the tapes?

[mrunconventional]

You know guys... rage, mood swings, emotional outbursts etc. are "often" signs and symptoms of an underlying nutritional deficiency. Could be something as simple as a zinc/copper imbalance, shortage of omega 3s, amino acids etc.

That is the FIRST place I would suggest looking if you are dealing with any of these kinds of problems. Second would be a hormone imbalance... especially testosterone and thyroid. Seriously. It could change your life almost instantly by finding the internal source.

[vbakster2]

I can be overly emotional. I do not like that. When I pray to GOD , I am much more able to control my temper. Recently I prayed and a MINUTE later I ran into someone who doesn't like me and my husband and had gossiped. Only GOD helped me to not say anything

[BipolarAdvantage]

Sounds like you should pray all the time!

[riwired]

Ridiculous!

[Viktir666]

I agree.

[Bonersoup183]

@vbakster2 lol wat if ur an athiest and your bipolar now who do u pray to?

[daleshankins]

Wonderful, inspirational speaking...I need to hear more. Over the years I have had a nagging question: "Is my mental illness a result of my failure to take control of my life and do things like 'master rage'?" If so, is my illness merely a matter of my poor character? Or failure/unwillingness to change? The danger of such thoughts for me is that the can lead to crushing guilt. I prefer Amen's approach in his book, Change Your Brain-Change Your Life. But I will listen to more.

[mrssmithjr]

I have a really hard time controlling my rage/anger,I tend to lash out on those who try their hardest to help me.What advice can you give me on how to control that rage that's built up inside me?

Oh and your definently right some of those psychiatrist are full of it!

[NragedXX]

i deal with. or attempt i should say.poorly hence my screen name, i have a horrendous temper that can be compared to having this alien monster dwelling inside men so i too was hoping this video was offering some sort of insight as to how i can control it, right now its done with meds,which im getting tired of

[BipolarAdvantage]

Hi Nraged,

Dealign with my rage was the hardest thing I ever did. It didn't happen overnight and it didn't seem to make any progress for months, but I stuck to introspection and attempts to change. Over time I got better at it. It took several years to get to the point that I had it under control and even longer till I was able to calm others down. There is no secret pill or mantra that will instantly cure you unless you like being a zombie - I hated that worse than raging.

[NragedXX]

thanks! and yeah that is where im at in treatment now, the doctor just wants to dope me up, i keep saying there has to be another way, this dilemma has really become a large hurdle in my day to day, but im up for any advice you may have

~Rage

[quixotica]

You've told us how it's become a good thing for YOU but the title is misleading; I was thinking it was an educational on HOW you mastered it.

[BipolarAdvantage]

Hi quixotica,

I am sorry if you find the title Mastering Rage misleading. The video was a segment of a one hour talk about mastering rage and in that particular segment I talked about my own example, but the example is that if you do the introspection that I outlined in the clip you will slowly gain control over the triggers and over time gain your own mastery over it.

[BipolarAdvantage]

An important video about gaining the insight is Introspection. It talks about the process in greater detail and may be more in line with what you are looking for. Another clip that covers similar points is Self Mastery. It jokes about a simple test to see if you are making progress, but the point is that the only way to truly master your condition is to understand it to the point that you control it instead of it controlling you.

[ChrysalisBound]

i occasionally get what i like to call the 'screaming mimis'. how did you learn to control your rages?

[ponyboyuk]

hmmm....