Mm i think the student is a,. I forgot the term but its when people make her an outcast and dont talk,awknowledge, or look at her. Even i u have nothing against her u still cant talk to her/him because then ur one too.
Vile frigid woman, nobody cares about your JAPENIS experience and all your other bullshit. Japan is a filthy shameless country full of brainwashed fools and American dick suckers that should have been wiped out through mass genocide along time ago for its savage crimes against humanity.
You're beautiful! and i think it would definitely be difficult to be unable to consol a child when you outta....esp because of a language barrier, I think when u learn japanese and speak well you'll be able to really help/change/ and improve lives :) great vids!
I don't know if this helps, and I don't really know the japanese culture well enough to know How a japanese native would handle the situation but .. some words like doushita(whats wrong) or ne, daijyoubu desu ka(hey are you alright?) and the verb for cry is naku so u cud be like doushite naite iru.. why are you crying(lit. "why crying")
sometimes i won't acknowledge a person crying publicly to not call attention to it, but will consult them later. it could also be seen as a shameful thing and by not looking they are sparing her the shame.
@sanichiwa oh I see. So this is more of like the native japanese cultural view of this kind of situation, correct? (i'm curious myself about how japanese native or person would handle a person crying in public.) For me, its really, it hits me. Like I have such an empathy for other humans. that usually it at the very least I feel it too. But I get the urge to help them, say hey whats wrong. Or maybe even just hand a tissue(action, no words). But this is my American point of view. pls share :)
Sorry if this is off topic, but you are so beautiful! and you sound smart too. I'm another foreign girl living in Japan and its really hard but once your Japanese gets better Im sure you'll only have good days!! :)
Hi there! I love your videos. I also work in Japan with younger children, and l have similiar problems. The culture seems to deal with everything in a very indirect way.
THANK YOU JESUS CHRIST MY LORD!!! There are Black women in Japan! OMG!!!!!!!!!!! I was beginning to worry about going and pursuing my career because the very object of my obsession would not accompany me in the Land of the Rising Sun. But thank God; I am wrong in my assumptions! I'm so fucking happy right now!
stop whing the japs got difference culture then we do as matter of fact in jap basketball the players get slap by the coach for making penalty. didnt u know?
I see why it would take a lot for you to cry, because all hose stupid bullies gave you athicker skin and made you stronger! I am in school right now and I HATE bullies, because they always bring you down for no reason and give you this weird feeling for the rest of the day...
A SOLUTION - I would write down that Miss Latimer script, along with potential phrases and paliatives, and take them to a teacher (or Babelfish, if you can handle the Kanji) to translate the whole lot into Japanese. Then practice saying them, by rote if necessary. Then go back to class and trot them out as necessary.
A QUESTION - My understanding was that Japanese children had to learn judo as part of their curriculum. I don't get why it never occurs to them to try using it on their tormentors.
Comfort doesn't have a language. I mean sometimes just holding a hand or rubbing a kids back while they cried helps. But I guess there may be some cultural things that may interfere with your ability to comfort without an action like holding a hand or rubbing a back, being missinterpreted:)
the depression and suicide are very common place in japan.There are no psychologists and in there society if you have a problem most people will ignore you because they don't consider that problem any of there business. It could also be a problem in the family because most people who work in japan are over worked to the point that they are very aggressive and stressed out from non stop working.Not to mention the resection is hurting many family's who's working members are getting laid off.
Some people express emotion easier than others. i know some people who cry just because they have had stress built up slowly. not for any specific reason, just to occasionally vent, it helps.
>.> punch em in the face.........thats wat i did in 3rd grade ever since nobody has every bullied me and im like the smallest in my class but the strongest and most feared
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This is why if I EVER go to japan I'm going when Im DONE with school that way I'll avoid the embarresment. but if someone made fun of me cause I'm diffrent and not japanese(im black) I would sooo beat they ass I dont even care but they say ppl in japan is nice but I dont that applies to the teens there I dunno but thanks for the insight!
I know how u feel and how that girl feels. Iv been a target for all my life. y? idk, and this year the people who nearly turned the school on me r coming to this school this year. and i am scared, and worried. but u gave me some confidence and im welling to try and do my best this year. and icnor thoughs people. :3 I wish we have more peole like u in my school. T.T
i heard that in japan if youre different, individualistic, and independant, then the people there will pick on you and bully you for not being like everyone else! is this true?
there's a saying in Japanese and it goes "the nail that sticks out, must be hammered down", so in some cases yes, people are bullied, but Japanese people are polite, so they don't really say anything about it.
Thx 4ur thoughts,must b tough. This vlog will make future jet's aware + get teaching training before the program. I know the appeal is that you don't have to have any experience, but when you consider (like you said) that teachers can really have an impact on these kids lives, its a good idea to understand child psychology/behavior and how to deal with situations. There may be a different way to deal with this in Japan/US, that should be something JET teaches(b4!) or you learn on your own (b4!).
Judging by your speech, experience, and intelligence if you could speak Japanese you would've helped a lot. Also I think all the students in the school would want to hang in your classroom every day because of your great personality.
You definitely feel a wall between you and others in this situation. Sometimes it can't be helped. I'm currently prepping to work with much younger kids, so the environment is totally different. But, I would address this issue with the homeroom teacher, ask about the situation. Perhaps the girl has a history and going through something. Depending on what it is, a smile or some form of acknowledgment is the most/least you can do. Regardless of culture, a cry is a cry for help.
Im just saying thats what is used to discipline the student in asian countries and many other countries I didnt say it was right , it used to be done in the United States as well a long time ago of course
Culturally, I think that the general idea is to stick to yourself. So, if y someone sees another person drop something, the general reaction is to not say anything about it - in the same way that if someone saw a wallet on the street, the general reaction would be to leave it there instead of pick it up. I think it's the same kind of reaction a person might have if they saw another person crying. It's almost out of politeness, I think, to not comment.
If there's a stand-out student in your class, one of those 'ideal' students who's really friendly and whatnot, I guess ask them to talk to her? I met one of my best friends because a teacher strategically made us sit next to each other :P
i think youre being a bit too hard on yourself, You dont know the language so how could you have done anything. I guess you will learn in time if you want to learn the lang. but until then what is the point in beating yourself up on things you coulda, shoulda, woulda done....
But the point she was making is that she wanted to and could not.
She does not speak the language so as bad as she did want to help she could not do anything.
If she saw a option where she could have helped even if it was small she would have done it no doubt. The point she was making is that she did not see anyway to help and thats where her problem came in.
She refers to her kids that she teaches as students. So I would assume that she can speak Japanese. The fact that she is teaching a class suggests that she is the authority in the classroom; and the fact that she didn't take the opportunity to intervene the situation between her students suggests that she does not have control over her own class. Therefore ultimately, she could have done something, but instead she chose to vlog about it on Youtube.
She said it had already happened she did not see the boy picking on her the girl was already crying when she saw her they later told her it was the boy who did it. So there was nothing to intervene with.
She cant speak Japanese as well as you might think either she has admitted she has very limited Japanese.
You said there was "nothing to intervene with", in fact she could have intervened the situation because the girl was crying and talked to the class about it, but instead she didn't do anything.
The fact that she could speak Japanese but not well suggests that she is too timid to do anything about the situation. Instead, she goes back to her home and Vlogs about it in her own privacy.
The logical and mature thing to do would be to confront the class regardless of what the students think. It still remains that she didn't take any action besides ranting about it on the internet.
It's unlikely that intro2the1 had this un-rational train of thought that you're talking about.
It's more likely due to the fact that she lacks self efficacy in her ability to speak Japanese, and therefore she did not take action because she fears failure.
You're final point is not even in the context of what we're talking about because you're talking about her psychology, which you have no evidence for at all.
At the beginning of your little dispute, you suggested that I didn't "comprehend" her situation. Well clearly I've proved that I do understand, but on the other hand, you've shown complete disregard for her situation since you failed to recognize that she didn't handle the situation effectively.
Actually you didn't comprehend, you made a comment based on your assumption of the situation. I am an assistant teacher. I am not the authority in that class. You may be new to these videos so you may not have known that. By law, I am not in any way shape or form supposed to intervene or institute discipline in the classroom. My concern was providing some sort of comfort in a situation I had no control over. Deathsfavorite1 was exactly correct
She never said anything about you being an assistant teacher and that you have no authority over the students, she just made illogical assumptions.
'By law you're not supposed to intervene the situation in the classroom' but it doesn't exactly say that you aren't allowed to either. The fact that you didn't try to comfort the student is still hypocritical of you because criticize other teachers for not taking any action while you didn't do anything either. That is my point.
But I guess I didn't take fully into account that your Japanese isn't good, so I understand where you're coming from. But you could have still interacted with the girl who was crying. Even though it might not be a big significant stride toward changing Japanese culture in terms of how students treat each other, it's still a step toward that direction.
Woh wait a minute. I'm not here to change anybody's culture. Nobody has the right to do that! If the people here want to change something than by all means.... but I am not here for that.
lol you didnt read the video description so that is probably why she didnt say anythin. and you don't know the details of my contract so again watch your assumptions. Loosing my job over a situation I don't fully understand is illogical in all aspects. If I had fully understood then I could see your point about being a hypocrite, but I didnt so Im not.
In your video you said that you asked a teacher about the situation and they said it was something about boys picking on the girl, which clearly indicates that they don't fully comprehend the situation either.
It's an innate idea that when a person cries, they are in distress because they are facing an aversive situation. Helping someone in distress won't cost you your job. Taking risks is what broadens a person's abilities to perform a task, so if it were me, I would have taken the chance.
yes I asked AFTER class. Our disconnect seems to be in the timing of these comments. You would have taken the chance and done what given the information available at the time? enlighten me. So here goes...
You turn around in the middle of class and a girl is crying. you don't know why and you are an assistant teacher with very limited Japanese speaking ability.
I would ask her to go out into the hallway and ask her what her problem was, then try to address it to the best of my abilities by speaking to the individuals who were causing the problem.
so you would bring more unwanted attention to her by singling her out. take her away from the classroom w/o the permission of the teacher AND expect her to confide in you with your limited language and authoritative capabilities? I'm not tying to assume anything but have you ever been a teacher before?
I believe that teachers are not only there to educate students on scholastics, they are there to educate students on correct moral conduct. By addressing the issue at that moment rather than later would prevent future anxiety from that student, so I think it would be more beneficial to speak to her then. Taking a student and talking to them privately isn't a big deal. If you were truly concerned about the student then you wouldn't hesitate to talk to them.
You are not a teacher. we have BOTH been students.
But you assume that the girl in question would not become a TARGET instead when not under your watchful eye? Wake up. A situation like this requires a bit more tact and diplomacy especially when you have crippling limitations in language, authority, and experience.
I need you to think 10 steps ahead of your current assumptions. Think about the future safety and ramifications not only for the victim but undermining the authority of the class
To question my concern for the students means you obviously missed a few steps in the video. If I didn't care I wouldn't talk about it, and if you were a teacher at any point in your life you would better understand this position. you can't just think your way is the best way and act without thinking thoroughly in a culture and classroom dynamic you are UNACCUSTOMED to.
your tangent looks like an evasive tactic to divert admitting your inefficiency in this spectrum.
Your experiences may be a lot different than mine and again you haven't read the video description. There are many ways to handle a situation while still exercising tact and and a certain level of diplomacy you are not convincing me of anything except that you are a tad selfrighteous. This has been a great discussion so lets agree to disagree as to an affective way to have handled this :-)
I believe that students learn through operant conditioning, which means will respond to punishment (not necessarily physical), and will be be less likely to behave in ways that will elicit punishment. Therefore by confronting the girl and addressing the situation, you are much more likely to prevent future anxiety from the girl. But you didn't take any action so the girl will still be in distress.
I know where you're coming from since I use to work with children. Unfortunately the way this situation was taken by the teacher must be cultural base or so I think. I haven't been to Japan to say it is for certain but every culture does view expressing emotions differently. I would really suggest for you to take some Japanese classes. Having an open relation with your students will help you understand where they are coming from. And good luck! I know kids take A LOT from you. But rewarding ^_^
I worry about abuse when it comes to children who do they turn to and it does seem like suicide is used as a pain reliever how much pain can a person hold onto without expressing it and working it out.
Especially girls, it is a helpless feeling since it will probably happen again maybe you Jet group along with others can make a suggestion. Meditate and pray about it.
gladly i haven't been picked on but i like some of the comment about a private approach I'm still in school and I know I would feel embarrassed with all my classmates behind me . But as
babiis0sweet2 said its great your showing concern. ^-^ peace
I think you should start trying to learn more japanese, since what you're feeling is caused by not being able to communicate fully with your students. That way if and when it happens again, you can feel more involved in the situation and not like an outsider...?
i agree. but i do believe since she's been there for a short while even if she does pick up some of the language it will still be hard to approach the problem with the student.but i still agree with you ^^.
I am no expert, but based upon my two years living in Japan, showing emotion, tears etc, especially in public is something that is not encouraged- it is unfortunately often ignored. I am assuming it is a cultural aspect and I sometimes wonder if the lack of expressing emotion or communicating emotion is the reason why Japan has such a high suicide rate. I hope this young girl will find solace in someone she can confide in and talk about it.
I dont know about Asian culture by my spidey sense tells me that its more probable that she was crying over not succeeding in something rather than a boyfriend...I used to IM an Asian girl to try to learn the lang. and I thought she was older cos of the way she spoke about her studies but she was like a 8th grader or something lol!
I think you should take her out alone one day and just see if she's okay. Don't let others see that the reason that you're taking her out is because of something wrong, maybe just a simple "Can you help me get this?" Or something so that you can address the situation alone.
I agree with what was said before about " baby japanese talk". Its better than nothing y' know?
Thats really sad to hear about.
n i too can't help but look at it from an american perspective because where im from,if someone is crying in class, besides the teacher stepping in, at least one other student will ask the person "hey, are u ok?" and offer some sort of comfort.
but i mean, i guess u can't help cultural differences when it comes to that.
I used to be picked on as well.. but there was only a handful of teachers that could help.. The special teachers that actually cared about the students themselves. I wish you could have helped the girl too.. She probably needed it, but It may have been looked down on by the children and their parents and maybe even the other teachers because you would have been condoning that behavior which I don't think was acceptable.
Well, I would have brought the girl to the front of the class(or after) while everyone else did their work and asked her what was wrong. Then again you don't speak Japanese that well, so its easier said than done from my perspective. Hop down on that! :[
I hate it when people cry, makes me wanna cry. >:[
Wow, that takes me back. That's Japanese culture to just ignore people. I think it's more so because of the "embarrassment factor".. No one wants to embarrass or be embarrassed. I was on the train and a young girl was crying in the corner... everyone ignored her. But I couldn't help but to ask her "Daijoubu desu ka?" Ganbatte ne... Just that little bit of caring put a smile on her face... This is one of the things I will never understand about Japanese ... ignoring pain seems so cold ^n^
I apologize if I came off too harsh. I think that I reacted to the poster who said that I watched too much anime. Also, probably coming from a debate about the US being in Iraq has left me steamed.I just hate when people come here, live for 2 secs, and try to change the everyone to fit their way of thinking. This is why other countries hate us.
Intro, please continue to care about your students, but don't expect to change the world in one day or one year. They have to live here after you leave.
You know what i apologize too, i shouldn't have come off like that either.Sorry about that, i hope you accept my apologize for that anime comment....I also watch anime so yeah i put my foot in my mouth...Sorry :(.
At 4:00, you said that when you asked the teacher, it was because of the boys in class and you jumped to the conclusion that they had actually DONE something "'cause the are just some rude little boys!" . You say yourself in the video, YOU DONT KNOW! so why go there?
Oh yes, thank you for suggesting that I watch the video again because more things did come to light.
In your video, you intimated that your teacher Ms. Latiimer, did or said something to the boy(s) who bullied you and you said you wished that you could do the same for the girl except you cant do it in Japanese. At 5:00 is where you say that Ms. Latimer would have stopped class and confronted the person. Again, this does not work in the Japanese context.
That's a tough one. I don't really know specifically what you could have done. Like you said, language is a barrier, whether or not we like it. Maybe trying to speak to her after class, or maybe a student or teacher who was good with english could translate. But then again, would she want to talk about it?
I was playing Moody Blues In Your Wildest Dreams while watching you do your thing, it was an awesome soundtrack to this latest piece of yours. Hey, Wonderful Kind Lady, it's Japan. That kid had better toughen up or she will have a dreary adolescence. Find a word that means 'be strong, and emulate your classmates' and leave it at that. She was born in a society where kids is sometimes made to be shirtless (girls and boys) during the winter, so she'd better get strong or fall away.
I understand how you feel. If it were me, when she was alone I would have said "ganbare". Or since I know some Jap I would have tried to give her a little chat. I don't know if it would be the best thing to do, but I probably would have done that I suppose. ^_^ Don't worry. Ganbare intro2the1!
Your interference would have exacerbated the situation, and embarassed the girl even more! No one said anything to her because they DO care about her!
Also it sounds like you are projecting your past experiences onto her and misinterpreting the situation. They could be dating and had a fight. He could end up as her future husband!
The homeroom teacher knows the students better than anyone because it is her job to handle problems with students, and is more qualified to find a solution.
She asked for input, I'm giving my 2 cents. If you or she don't like it, don't be in the forum. I assumed that people were looking for lively debate, not personal attacks on who watches anime. Please read CAREFULLY! I AM COMMENDING HER FOR NOT DOING ANYTHING AND LETTING HER KNOW THAT THERE WAS NOTHING SHE COULD HAVE DONE!!!
see this is you assuming quite a bit as well. you were not there and didnt see it. couples are very well known in a small town and a fight that makes someone cry is not healthy at all, future husband or not.
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No, I didn't see it and that is my point. I understand your concern, but the fact is you don't know why she was crying and if it was serious or not. I am sure that her friends are well aware of the situation because she was crying and would be better at helping her than going and yelling at the boy when you don't know what's going on. Still really sounds like you are internalizing the situation. Americans are not here to save Japanese from themselves! That is a very elitist attitude to have.
when did i ever say i was going to yell at anyone? i missed that. if anything my internalization was of my own inadequacy. I never said there was anything wrong with crying either....where are you getting this from? obviously i haven't projected on anyone because i didn't do anything. listen to the video again....i think you may have missed my intention and decided on your own what I have ALREADY done.
It's a culture shock I know, but you handle it so well, most people would just give up and go home. But as is, you're stronger than most, but in the future, tell that kid to be strong and not to draw attention to herself. As a kid growing up in the Bahamas, they mostly treated us like cattle, shut up or get a slap; that was their words to us, if you tattled on another student, that student would get a beaten, and so would i, so i learned to shut up.
Hey intro, I had my friend Steve Phan go to japan, and he said that if people tripped and fall, everyone around would just keep walking passed the person. He said that he saw a very old lady drop all her bags one time and everyone just turned their head acting like they didn't see anything. I guess maybe it's a cultural thing? IDK, just thought I tell you that.
I know that you said in your video that you were a strong woman who doesn't cry. While I applaud you for what you had to endure, everyone doesn't react to stressors the same way you do. Even though Japanese sometimes don't show emotions readily, I have known many to be very in touch with their emotions. Crying is NOT bad! This is how SHE is dealing with her emotions and you have no right to tell her how she should act! Again, maybe you should deal with you first so you dontproject on others
I don't know if you are familiar with the tv show, "Star Trek: Enterprise" but my previous post is a transcript of a scene from the first season when a Trip (a human) and a T'Pol (a Vulcan like Mr. Spock) observe an alien woman and her child. I think this fits your situation very well and I don't think you need to be a "Trekkie" to understand it; ust replace "humans" with "Americans".
We Americans try too hard to fix everything without knowing the whole picture; you don't even know Japanese..
The thing is that there is no counselor. No teacher has been trained to handle or address situations like this. As soon as one does without qualifications they put themselves at risk so I can see why nobody wants to step in.
maybe "baby talk japanese" is all that is needed. sometimes just acknowledgement of a problem is all that is needed to show someone understands, even more so in a culture like japan where bullying is taken with the "you should suck it up and deal with it" mentality
I feel how you feel a lot. I'm in Nishiwaki Japan and that happens a lot at my school. I had to sit and watch a boy cry because of a bully girl. I walked over and just tried to make her stop but since we can only speak english in class words just flew and my school says tell the home room teacher also. sucks not knowing what to do at that moment.
Mm i think the student is a,. I forgot the term but its when people make her an outcast and dont talk,awknowledge, or look at her. Even i u have nothing against her u still cant talk to her/him because then ur one too.
classconstipated101 1 month ago
Ps your very pretty with respect ;)
Mike203011 1 month ago
Whiteman Okc keep your head up ;)
Mike203011 1 month ago
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Vile frigid woman, nobody cares about your JAPENIS experience and all your other bullshit. Japan is a filthy shameless country full of brainwashed fools and American dick suckers that should have been wiped out through mass genocide along time ago for its savage crimes against humanity.
hijacker050 2 months ago
Are you at a private school or Public school in Japan?
Cutiepie747 2 months ago
You're so pretty XD!!
mavisthepanda 3 months ago
are you on the JET programme in japan or something else? (you're very pretty btw)
smooshie3 4 months ago
your so freaking pretty!
CoolColorBlack 4 months ago
That is a problem. A lot of things there have to change. (I'm half Japanese too so I'm not being racist with this comment I promise)
DemonnPrincess9 5 months ago
You're beautiful! and i think it would definitely be difficult to be unable to consol a child when you outta....esp because of a language barrier, I think when u learn japanese and speak well you'll be able to really help/change/ and improve lives :) great vids!
sarahxxkristine 5 months ago
I don't know if this helps, and I don't really know the japanese culture well enough to know How a japanese native would handle the situation but .. some words like doushita(whats wrong) or ne, daijyoubu desu ka(hey are you alright?) and the verb for cry is naku so u cud be like doushite naite iru.. why are you crying(lit. "why crying")
charcharyin 5 months ago
we need more teachers like you out there!
apie77 6 months ago
You're going to make a great teacher!
donutmaster 9 months ago 3
I hope she made it home before the tsunami hit.
MaDmOnkyKungFu 9 months ago 4
@MaDmOnkyKungFu wat a scary thought that i watching a video of someone that might be dead.
methodize808 9 months ago
@methodize808 I just found her last video she came back from Japan and is now in Puerto Rico..
MaDmOnkyKungFu 9 months ago
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what the hell are you doing in japan??!!
Mrcbclobster 9 months ago
why are you in japan whats your story? and can you speak japanese?
solidfox13 10 months ago
@solidfox13 She's a teacher in Japan(most likely english teacher) and I think she mentions she can't speak it. But she's learning.
charcharyin 5 months ago
sometimes i won't acknowledge a person crying publicly to not call attention to it, but will consult them later. it could also be seen as a shameful thing and by not looking they are sparing her the shame.
sanichiwa 1 year ago
@sanichiwa oh I see. So this is more of like the native japanese cultural view of this kind of situation, correct? (i'm curious myself about how japanese native or person would handle a person crying in public.) For me, its really, it hits me. Like I have such an empathy for other humans. that usually it at the very least I feel it too. But I get the urge to help them, say hey whats wrong. Or maybe even just hand a tissue(action, no words). But this is my American point of view. pls share :)
charcharyin 5 months ago
@charcharyin lol i'm american as well, just trying to see how it could be. :)
sanichiwa 5 months ago
@sanichiwa oh lol, wow. hahahah sorry about that.
charcharyin 5 months ago
Sorry if this is off topic, but you are so beautiful! and you sound smart too. I'm another foreign girl living in Japan and its really hard but once your Japanese gets better Im sure you'll only have good days!! :)
lyndyfu1124 1 year ago
You are so sweet! I just want to give you a hug! ^.^
TokyoGeisha21 1 year ago
Rihanna?
tattaslayer 1 year ago
Hi there! I love your videos. I also work in Japan with younger children, and l have similiar problems. The culture seems to deal with everything in a very indirect way.
chocoleto 1 year ago
who is this pretty lady? & her name is alafiya? wow.
sunmanpatoo 1 year ago
THANK YOU JESUS CHRIST MY LORD!!! There are Black women in Japan! OMG!!!!!!!!!!! I was beginning to worry about going and pursuing my career because the very object of my obsession would not accompany me in the Land of the Rising Sun. But thank God; I am wrong in my assumptions! I'm so fucking happy right now!
Nblood1992 1 year ago 8
Why do ppl waiste their lives on fighting or hearin ppl talk crap bout them trouble will follow u everywhere u don't even have to do nun so
sexxibhaddgirl 1 year ago
I like your hairstyle .
Herssonisos1 1 year ago
dont worry,just learn japanese ,im sure you can easily if you put your mind to it, and help in future situations.
mieery 1 year ago
well maybe you could have rubbed her head is that allowed?
ricardoredway 1 year ago
stop whing the japs got difference culture then we do as matter of fact in jap basketball the players get slap by the coach for making penalty. didnt u know?
gell7 1 year ago
I live in japan. What school do u teach at?
winter123win 1 year ago
You should watch the documentary "Children Full of Life" to see the way teacher Toshiro Kanamori dealt with bullying. The documentary is on youtube.
kmj2000 1 year ago
are you a teacher "intro2the1"
EruTpuR 1 year ago
I think you should follow your instincts, seems like you should have done what you spoke about.
ColdBoi 1 year ago
its crazy how lot of ppl remember there 3, 4, and 5 grade teacher
they to me was the greatest
they stand for me and made me strong i love them so much
Catherineluv24 2 years ago
I see why it would take a lot for you to cry, because all hose stupid bullies gave you athicker skin and made you stronger! I am in school right now and I HATE bullies, because they always bring you down for no reason and give you this weird feeling for the rest of the day...
You are awesome! SUBSCRIBING!
MrMari1 2 years ago
A SOLUTION - I would write down that Miss Latimer script, along with potential phrases and paliatives, and take them to a teacher (or Babelfish, if you can handle the Kanji) to translate the whole lot into Japanese. Then practice saying them, by rote if necessary. Then go back to class and trot them out as necessary.
A QUESTION - My understanding was that Japanese children had to learn judo as part of their curriculum. I don't get why it never occurs to them to try using it on their tormentors.
yavin1 2 years ago
lol thanks for the comment.
There is no Judo in any of the schools of my area but other schools have it as an elective to my knowlege.
intro2the1 2 years ago
Comfort doesn't have a language. I mean sometimes just holding a hand or rubbing a kids back while they cried helps. But I guess there may be some cultural things that may interfere with your ability to comfort without an action like holding a hand or rubbing a back, being missinterpreted:)
poo0115104 2 years ago
the depression and suicide are very common place in japan.There are no psychologists and in there society if you have a problem most people will ignore you because they don't consider that problem any of there business. It could also be a problem in the family because most people who work in japan are over worked to the point that they are very aggressive and stressed out from non stop working.Not to mention the resection is hurting many family's who's working members are getting laid off.
wolf1blood 2 years ago
You have to assimilate to their social norms. No idea how long that takes.
BossMadOne 2 years ago
yeah you couldve gave her a hug...or maybe the tissue idea
meheh12345 2 years ago
Some people express emotion easier than others. i know some people who cry just because they have had stress built up slowly. not for any specific reason, just to occasionally vent, it helps.
atherrien95 2 years ago
in 6th grade i was bullied a lot , I'm an 8th grader now and I'm still being bullied .I'm always afraid to go to school ;*(
twistypink 2 years ago 3
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hahahhaahahaha
Arifo786 2 years ago
its ok when u go to high school make a whole new you :)
I had to go to a whole new high school so i was a loner like till the iddle of 9th grade
but in the 10th grade i have alot of new friends
so it will get better
straberrygirl04 2 years ago
>.> punch em in the face.........thats wat i did in 3rd grade ever since nobody has every bullied me and im like the smallest in my class but the strongest and most feared
2118viper 2 years ago 4
focus on education it will take you to great places smile ^_^
orochipet 2 years ago
It's very different from how it it in Canada. Yeah, isn't there a counselor there?
CamKiyo 2 years ago
Is there a guidance counselor in the school you work at? Is it even common in Japan to have school counselors?
spucy 2 years ago
wow. thats a new concept. a teacher actually CARING about student relations. they should introduce that in england.
ZubinZubinZubin 2 years ago 5
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This is why if I EVER go to japan I'm going when Im DONE with school that way I'll avoid the embarresment. but if someone made fun of me cause I'm diffrent and not japanese(im black) I would sooo beat they ass I dont even care but they say ppl in japan is nice but I dont that applies to the teens there I dunno but thanks for the insight!
TheLoveableToasty 2 years ago
You're definitely not a stereotype
NabilRU 2 years ago 4
so you are from sac area?
spekion 2 years ago
the teacher is dumb, if she knew why the girl was crying and knew who it was all along, why didn't she try to stop it?
supatoker420 2 years ago
this has to do with culture
lovergurl 2 years ago
culture will kill people. japanese people that work hard everyday is "culture", but many commit suicide cause of the stress. things have to change.
supatoker420 2 years ago 44
yes they do but people dont always necessarily WANT to change and feel you have no right to tell them to.
I am not one of these people but its out there.
lovergurl 2 years ago
@supatoker420 in japan culture people kill them self in american culture people kill so i think every culture hase to change a little
dorianali1 8 months ago
thats so sad its so hard being in another country and trying to follow ther customs and laws but to also follow ur heart
Tokyo171 2 years ago
I know how u feel and how that girl feels. Iv been a target for all my life. y? idk, and this year the people who nearly turned the school on me r coming to this school this year. and i am scared, and worried. but u gave me some confidence and im welling to try and do my best this year. and icnor thoughs people. :3 I wish we have more peole like u in my school. T.T
TheTwighlightangel 2 years ago
i heard that in japan if youre different, individualistic, and independant, then the people there will pick on you and bully you for not being like everyone else! is this true?
koreadude 2 years ago 5
there's a saying in Japanese and it goes "the nail that sticks out, must be hammered down", so in some cases yes, people are bullied, but Japanese people are polite, so they don't really say anything about it.
supatoker420 2 years ago
yes
lovergurl 2 years ago
i wish i could meet a girl like u in
the U.S
jnookdacrook 2 years ago 4
Thx 4ur thoughts,must b tough. This vlog will make future jet's aware + get teaching training before the program. I know the appeal is that you don't have to have any experience, but when you consider (like you said) that teachers can really have an impact on these kids lives, its a good idea to understand child psychology/behavior and how to deal with situations. There may be a different way to deal with this in Japan/US, that should be something JET teaches(b4!) or you learn on your own (b4!).
Puppyzluv77 2 years ago
Judging by your speech, experience, and intelligence if you could speak Japanese you would've helped a lot. Also I think all the students in the school would want to hang in your classroom every day because of your great personality.
tahthedon 2 years ago 46
aww
kyliekaos 2 years ago
Anyways, I agree we should end this discussion b/c I need to go to bed.
GL with teaching
chanace 2 years ago
But I guess it would be harder than it sounds because your Japanese isn't good.
chanace 2 years ago
You definitely feel a wall between you and others in this situation. Sometimes it can't be helped. I'm currently prepping to work with much younger kids, so the environment is totally different. But, I would address this issue with the homeroom teacher, ask about the situation. Perhaps the girl has a history and going through something. Depending on what it is, a smile or some form of acknowledgment is the most/least you can do. Regardless of culture, a cry is a cry for help.
matman125 2 years ago
I heard that in japanese culture you are aloud to discipline the student as in hit them i know for fact in Korea idk about Japan
WorldofNene 2 years ago
Oh nooooo corporeal punishment is a no no.
badazzkelana 2 years ago
Im just saying thats what is used to discipline the student in asian countries and many other countries I didnt say it was right , it used to be done in the United States as well a long time ago of course
WorldofNene 2 years ago
It's not my opinion I just should have ended that with "in Japan." I caused all sorts of confusion.
badazzkelana 2 years ago
not exactly with female teachers but i have seen male teachers hit children before. I don't know about other places but I have seen it.
intro2the1 2 years ago
Culturally, I think that the general idea is to stick to yourself. So, if y someone sees another person drop something, the general reaction is to not say anything about it - in the same way that if someone saw a wallet on the street, the general reaction would be to leave it there instead of pick it up. I think it's the same kind of reaction a person might have if they saw another person crying. It's almost out of politeness, I think, to not comment.
mercedespuppy 2 years ago
If there's a stand-out student in your class, one of those 'ideal' students who's really friendly and whatnot, I guess ask them to talk to her? I met one of my best friends because a teacher strategically made us sit next to each other :P
StarlightLullaby 2 years ago
i think youre being a bit too hard on yourself, You dont know the language so how could you have done anything. I guess you will learn in time if you want to learn the lang. but until then what is the point in beating yourself up on things you coulda, shoulda, woulda done....
and congrats on being so adventurous! lol
vierra01 2 years ago
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To the vlogger:
THEN DO SOMETHING
You're no better than the other teachers if you don't act.
chanace 2 years ago
you dont comprehend well do you?
DeathsFavorite1 2 years ago
What do I not comprehend, care to elaborate?
chanace 2 years ago
...sure thing.
You said "do something".
But the point she was making is that she wanted to and could not.
She does not speak the language so as bad as she did want to help she could not do anything.
If she saw a option where she could have helped even if it was small she would have done it no doubt. The point she was making is that she did not see anyway to help and thats where her problem came in.
DeathsFavorite1 2 years ago
She refers to her kids that she teaches as students. So I would assume that she can speak Japanese. The fact that she is teaching a class suggests that she is the authority in the classroom; and the fact that she didn't take the opportunity to intervene the situation between her students suggests that she does not have control over her own class. Therefore ultimately, she could have done something, but instead she chose to vlog about it on Youtube.
chanace 2 years ago
um no....
She said it had already happened she did not see the boy picking on her the girl was already crying when she saw her they later told her it was the boy who did it. So there was nothing to intervene with.
She cant speak Japanese as well as you might think either she has admitted she has very limited Japanese.
DeathsFavorite1 2 years ago
You said there was "nothing to intervene with", in fact she could have intervened the situation because the girl was crying and talked to the class about it, but instead she didn't do anything.
The fact that she could speak Japanese but not well suggests that she is too timid to do anything about the situation. Instead, she goes back to her home and Vlogs about it in her own privacy.
chanace 2 years ago
Well this basically goes down to how everyone thinks differently.
Perhaps you would have thought to do that but obviously some do not.
You have to understand everyone has different ways of thinking and doing things.
What you said probably never came to her mind.
I would not ask the class because most of the time they usually say they do not know because they do not want to be called a snitch.
So you see everyone thinks differently and perhaps has a reason for why they think it would be better.
DeathsFavorite1 2 years ago
The logical and mature thing to do would be to confront the class regardless of what the students think. It still remains that she didn't take any action besides ranting about it on the internet.
It's unlikely that intro2the1 had this un-rational train of thought that you're talking about.
It's more likely due to the fact that she lacks self efficacy in her ability to speak Japanese, and therefore she did not take action because she fears failure.
chanace 2 years ago
....I would keep trying to explain but i think we have already taken up a page so i will have to let my final words be this.
Almost everyone fears something.
I dont know if you just dont like her or whatever the fact maybe but lighten up everyone has to learn its not like she said she was all knowing.
DeathsFavorite1 2 years ago 2
You're final point is not even in the context of what we're talking about because you're talking about her psychology, which you have no evidence for at all.
At the beginning of your little dispute, you suggested that I didn't "comprehend" her situation. Well clearly I've proved that I do understand, but on the other hand, you've shown complete disregard for her situation since you failed to recognize that she didn't handle the situation effectively.
I'm going to end the discussion here.
chanace 2 years ago
Actually you didn't comprehend, you made a comment based on your assumption of the situation. I am an assistant teacher. I am not the authority in that class. You may be new to these videos so you may not have known that. By law, I am not in any way shape or form supposed to intervene or institute discipline in the classroom. My concern was providing some sort of comfort in a situation I had no control over. Deathsfavorite1 was exactly correct
intro2the1 2 years ago
She never said anything about you being an assistant teacher and that you have no authority over the students, she just made illogical assumptions.
'By law you're not supposed to intervene the situation in the classroom' but it doesn't exactly say that you aren't allowed to either. The fact that you didn't try to comfort the student is still hypocritical of you because criticize other teachers for not taking any action while you didn't do anything either. That is my point.
chanace 2 years ago
But I guess I didn't take fully into account that your Japanese isn't good, so I understand where you're coming from. But you could have still interacted with the girl who was crying. Even though it might not be a big significant stride toward changing Japanese culture in terms of how students treat each other, it's still a step toward that direction.
chanace 2 years ago
Woh wait a minute. I'm not here to change anybody's culture. Nobody has the right to do that! If the people here want to change something than by all means.... but I am not here for that.
intro2the1 2 years ago
lol you didnt read the video description so that is probably why she didnt say anythin. and you don't know the details of my contract so again watch your assumptions. Loosing my job over a situation I don't fully understand is illogical in all aspects. If I had fully understood then I could see your point about being a hypocrite, but I didnt so Im not.
intro2the1 2 years ago
In your video you said that you asked a teacher about the situation and they said it was something about boys picking on the girl, which clearly indicates that they don't fully comprehend the situation either.
It's an innate idea that when a person cries, they are in distress because they are facing an aversive situation. Helping someone in distress won't cost you your job. Taking risks is what broadens a person's abilities to perform a task, so if it were me, I would have taken the chance.
chanace 2 years ago
yes I asked AFTER class. Our disconnect seems to be in the timing of these comments. You would have taken the chance and done what given the information available at the time? enlighten me. So here goes...
You turn around in the middle of class and a girl is crying. you don't know why and you are an assistant teacher with very limited Japanese speaking ability.
3 2 1 go.
intro2the1 2 years ago
I would ask her to go out into the hallway and ask her what her problem was, then try to address it to the best of my abilities by speaking to the individuals who were causing the problem.
chanace 2 years ago
so you would bring more unwanted attention to her by singling her out. take her away from the classroom w/o the permission of the teacher AND expect her to confide in you with your limited language and authoritative capabilities? I'm not tying to assume anything but have you ever been a teacher before?
intro2the1 2 years ago
I believe that teachers are not only there to educate students on scholastics, they are there to educate students on correct moral conduct. By addressing the issue at that moment rather than later would prevent future anxiety from that student, so I think it would be more beneficial to speak to her then. Taking a student and talking to them privately isn't a big deal. If you were truly concerned about the student then you wouldn't hesitate to talk to them.
chanace 2 years ago
you didn't answer my question.....
intro2the1 2 years ago
you asked 2 of them...
I'm not a teacher, but I've been a student most of my life, and I've seen how they handle situations like these and I agree with their actions.
chanace 2 years ago
You are not a teacher. we have BOTH been students.
But you assume that the girl in question would not become a TARGET instead when not under your watchful eye? Wake up. A situation like this requires a bit more tact and diplomacy especially when you have crippling limitations in language, authority, and experience.
I need you to think 10 steps ahead of your current assumptions. Think about the future safety and ramifications not only for the victim but undermining the authority of the class
intro2the1 2 years ago
To question my concern for the students means you obviously missed a few steps in the video. If I didn't care I wouldn't talk about it, and if you were a teacher at any point in your life you would better understand this position. you can't just think your way is the best way and act without thinking thoroughly in a culture and classroom dynamic you are UNACCUSTOMED to.
intro2the1 2 years ago 8
What do you think Prisons are for? and Law enforcement? and Judaical Courts?
In the classroom, the teacher are all of those things.
What would happen if the justice system stopped working? Chaos
Well it's the same idea when you don't exert your power, because that little girl suffers when you don't do anything about it.
I can't believe I have to convince you that helping a person is a good thing.
chanace 2 years ago
your tangent looks like an evasive tactic to divert admitting your inefficiency in this spectrum.
Your experiences may be a lot different than mine and again you haven't read the video description. There are many ways to handle a situation while still exercising tact and and a certain level of diplomacy you are not convincing me of anything except that you are a tad selfrighteous. This has been a great discussion so lets agree to disagree as to an affective way to have handled this :-)
intro2the1 2 years ago 4
I believe that students learn through operant conditioning, which means will respond to punishment (not necessarily physical), and will be be less likely to behave in ways that will elicit punishment. Therefore by confronting the girl and addressing the situation, you are much more likely to prevent future anxiety from the girl. But you didn't take any action so the girl will still be in distress.
chanace 2 years ago
I know where you're coming from since I use to work with children. Unfortunately the way this situation was taken by the teacher must be cultural base or so I think. I haven't been to Japan to say it is for certain but every culture does view expressing emotions differently. I would really suggest for you to take some Japanese classes. Having an open relation with your students will help you understand where they are coming from. And good luck! I know kids take A LOT from you. But rewarding ^_^
eclst 2 years ago
That's so awful, repressing your emotions like that can lead to depression and other emotional problems later in life.
Even if you can't communicate so well, even a simple, "daijobu desu ka"? would've helped maybe.
EllyatheDisco 2 years ago 4
It's a cultural difference.
Natashalulu 2 years ago
I worry about abuse when it comes to children who do they turn to and it does seem like suicide is used as a pain reliever how much pain can a person hold onto without expressing it and working it out.
Especially girls, it is a helpless feeling since it will probably happen again maybe you Jet group along with others can make a suggestion. Meditate and pray about it.
JamConcerned 2 years ago
gladly i haven't been picked on but i like some of the comment about a private approach I'm still in school and I know I would feel embarrassed with all my classmates behind me . But as
babiis0sweet2 said its great your showing concern. ^-^ peace
xrapids 2 years ago
I think you should start trying to learn more japanese, since what you're feeling is caused by not being able to communicate fully with your students. That way if and when it happens again, you can feel more involved in the situation and not like an outsider...?
I don't know. XD
intoxicatedbiscuit 2 years ago
i agree. but i do believe since she's been there for a short while even if she does pick up some of the language it will still be hard to approach the problem with the student.but i still agree with you ^^.
thugriddim 2 years ago
I am no expert, but based upon my two years living in Japan, showing emotion, tears etc, especially in public is something that is not encouraged- it is unfortunately often ignored. I am assuming it is a cultural aspect and I sometimes wonder if the lack of expressing emotion or communicating emotion is the reason why Japan has such a high suicide rate. I hope this young girl will find solace in someone she can confide in and talk about it.
globaljamaican 2 years ago 4
I have seen that people would just fall about and break out cry and wherever and people ignore them.
JamConcerned 2 years ago
I dont know about Asian culture by my spidey sense tells me that its more probable that she was crying over not succeeding in something rather than a boyfriend...I used to IM an Asian girl to try to learn the lang. and I thought she was older cos of the way she spoke about her studies but she was like a 8th grader or something lol!
vierra01 2 years ago
even if there wasnt much you could do in the situation.
at least give yourself some credit for caring and showing concern for your students :)
babiis0sweet2 2 years ago
I think you should take her out alone one day and just see if she's okay. Don't let others see that the reason that you're taking her out is because of something wrong, maybe just a simple "Can you help me get this?" Or something so that you can address the situation alone.
DirectlyHere 2 years ago
I agree with what was said before about " baby japanese talk". Its better than nothing y' know?
Thats really sad to hear about.
n i too can't help but look at it from an american perspective because where im from,if someone is crying in class, besides the teacher stepping in, at least one other student will ask the person "hey, are u ok?" and offer some sort of comfort.
but i mean, i guess u can't help cultural differences when it comes to that.
babiis0sweet2 2 years ago
Kids don't need time out, they need BELT out when they misbehave.
Adrianrulz 2 years ago 3
I used to be picked on as well.. but there was only a handful of teachers that could help.. The special teachers that actually cared about the students themselves. I wish you could have helped the girl too.. She probably needed it, but It may have been looked down on by the children and their parents and maybe even the other teachers because you would have been condoning that behavior which I don't think was acceptable.
AiRiLovee 2 years ago
Well, I would have brought the girl to the front of the class(or after) while everyone else did their work and asked her what was wrong. Then again you don't speak Japanese that well, so its easier said than done from my perspective. Hop down on that! :[
I hate it when people cry, makes me wanna cry. >:[
winDragon79 2 years ago
Wow, that takes me back. That's Japanese culture to just ignore people. I think it's more so because of the "embarrassment factor".. No one wants to embarrass or be embarrassed. I was on the train and a young girl was crying in the corner... everyone ignored her. But I couldn't help but to ask her "Daijoubu desu ka?" Ganbatte ne... Just that little bit of caring put a smile on her face... This is one of the things I will never understand about Japanese ... ignoring pain seems so cold ^n^
GnyseGirl 2 years ago 4
I apologize if I came off too harsh. I think that I reacted to the poster who said that I watched too much anime. Also, probably coming from a debate about the US being in Iraq has left me steamed.I just hate when people come here, live for 2 secs, and try to change the everyone to fit their way of thinking. This is why other countries hate us.
Intro, please continue to care about your students, but don't expect to change the world in one day or one year. They have to live here after you leave.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
You know what i apologize too, i shouldn't have come off like that either.Sorry about that, i hope you accept my apologize for that anime comment....I also watch anime so yeah i put my foot in my mouth...Sorry :(.
Michellerouge33 2 years ago
At 4:00, you said that when you asked the teacher, it was because of the boys in class and you jumped to the conclusion that they had actually DONE something "'cause the are just some rude little boys!" . You say yourself in the video, YOU DONT KNOW! so why go there?
ranmachan4 2 years ago
Oh yes, thank you for suggesting that I watch the video again because more things did come to light.
In your video, you intimated that your teacher Ms. Latiimer, did or said something to the boy(s) who bullied you and you said you wished that you could do the same for the girl except you cant do it in Japanese. At 5:00 is where you say that Ms. Latimer would have stopped class and confronted the person. Again, this does not work in the Japanese context.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
That's a tough one. I don't really know specifically what you could have done. Like you said, language is a barrier, whether or not we like it. Maybe trying to speak to her after class, or maybe a student or teacher who was good with english could translate. But then again, would she want to talk about it?
I'm sorry it was a bad day though.
Peace.
xoNanamiHikaruxo 2 years ago
I was playing Moody Blues In Your Wildest Dreams while watching you do your thing, it was an awesome soundtrack to this latest piece of yours. Hey, Wonderful Kind Lady, it's Japan. That kid had better toughen up or she will have a dreary adolescence. Find a word that means 'be strong, and emulate your classmates' and leave it at that. She was born in a society where kids is sometimes made to be shirtless (girls and boys) during the winter, so she'd better get strong or fall away.
avernikas 2 years ago
I understand how you feel. If it were me, when she was alone I would have said "ganbare". Or since I know some Jap I would have tried to give her a little chat. I don't know if it would be the best thing to do, but I probably would have done that I suppose. ^_^ Don't worry. Ganbare intro2the1!
GogatsuGirl 2 years ago
Well u have a great heart...but schools got a somewhat TOUGH LOVE with the students.
again you do have a great heart.
loczster 2 years ago
i Think that a simple, Daijoubu/ Genki Dasou, ne?/ or maybe even a ganbare would have been just fine ^^
next time if she is crying try one :3 cause i think even the smallest will help O:
NekochanNyanNyan 2 years ago
Your interference would have exacerbated the situation, and embarassed the girl even more! No one said anything to her because they DO care about her!
Also it sounds like you are projecting your past experiences onto her and misinterpreting the situation. They could be dating and had a fight. He could end up as her future husband!
The homeroom teacher knows the students better than anyone because it is her job to handle problems with students, and is more qualified to find a solution.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
this guy watches a little bit to much anime,lol.
Michellerouge33 2 years ago 2
No, this comes from living in Japan for 11 years and being able to speak the language. Oh yeah, and I am also an Anthropologist.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
I couldn't care less if you lived on the moon. She's learning. you sound like a know it all.
Michellerouge33 2 years ago 5
She asked for input, I'm giving my 2 cents. If you or she don't like it, don't be in the forum. I assumed that people were looking for lively debate, not personal attacks on who watches anime. Please read CAREFULLY! I AM COMMENDING HER FOR NOT DOING ANYTHING AND LETTING HER KNOW THAT THERE WAS NOTHING SHE COULD HAVE DONE!!!
ranmachan4 2 years ago
you gave more then 2cents. you do come off pretty harsh. and not everyone needs tough love
poet111 2 years ago
see this is you assuming quite a bit as well. you were not there and didnt see it. couples are very well known in a small town and a fight that makes someone cry is not healthy at all, future husband or not.
intro2the1 2 years ago
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No, I didn't see it and that is my point. I understand your concern, but the fact is you don't know why she was crying and if it was serious or not. I am sure that her friends are well aware of the situation because she was crying and would be better at helping her than going and yelling at the boy when you don't know what's going on. Still really sounds like you are internalizing the situation. Americans are not here to save Japanese from themselves! That is a very elitist attitude to have.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
when did i ever say i was going to yell at anyone? i missed that. if anything my internalization was of my own inadequacy. I never said there was anything wrong with crying either....where are you getting this from? obviously i haven't projected on anyone because i didn't do anything. listen to the video again....i think you may have missed my intention and decided on your own what I have ALREADY done.
intro2the1 2 years ago
It's a culture shock I know, but you handle it so well, most people would just give up and go home. But as is, you're stronger than most, but in the future, tell that kid to be strong and not to draw attention to herself. As a kid growing up in the Bahamas, they mostly treated us like cattle, shut up or get a slap; that was their words to us, if you tattled on another student, that student would get a beaten, and so would i, so i learned to shut up.
avernikas 2 years ago
Hey intro, I had my friend Steve Phan go to japan, and he said that if people tripped and fall, everyone around would just keep walking passed the person. He said that he saw a very old lady drop all her bags one time and everyone just turned their head acting like they didn't see anything. I guess maybe it's a cultural thing? IDK, just thought I tell you that.
priscillaxoxoxox 2 years ago
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I know that you said in your video that you were a strong woman who doesn't cry. While I applaud you for what you had to endure, everyone doesn't react to stressors the same way you do. Even though Japanese sometimes don't show emotions readily, I have known many to be very in touch with their emotions. Crying is NOT bad! This is how SHE is dealing with her emotions and you have no right to tell her how she should act! Again, maybe you should deal with you first so you dontproject on others
ranmachan4 2 years ago
I have also taught in several schools in small towns as well as large ones.
ranmachan4 2 years ago
I don't know if you are familiar with the tv show, "Star Trek: Enterprise" but my previous post is a transcript of a scene from the first season when a Trip (a human) and a T'Pol (a Vulcan like Mr. Spock) observe an alien woman and her child. I think this fits your situation very well and I don't think you need to be a "Trekkie" to understand it; ust replace "humans" with "Americans".
We Americans try too hard to fix everything without knowing the whole picture; you don't even know Japanese..
ranmachan4 2 years ago
TRIP:(Watching a woman taking a respirator away from the child, who gasps each time) What are you doing? Leave the kid alone!
T'POL: Don't get involved.
Do you see what she's doing? He's going to suffocate!
They're Lorillians. Before the age of four, they can only breathe methyloxide. The mother is simply weaning her son.
Could've fooled me.
Humans can't refrain from drawing conclusions. You should learn to objectify other cultures, so you know when to interfere, and when not to.
ranmachan4 2 years ago 2
u r the most ncouraging strong yung women ever and i can completely agree with everything u said gurl
mzluv2dance 2 years ago
me 2 i cudnt talk 2 my mom i only talked 2 my teacherz
mzluv2dance 2 years ago
You should watch episodes of Great Teacher Onizuka....it's kind of like the Japanese version of Lean on Me, but with comedic elements.
lonesaku 2 years ago
The thing is that there is no counselor. No teacher has been trained to handle or address situations like this. As soon as one does without qualifications they put themselves at risk so I can see why nobody wants to step in.
intro2the1 2 years ago
maybe "baby talk japanese" is all that is needed. sometimes just acknowledgement of a problem is all that is needed to show someone understands, even more so in a culture like japan where bullying is taken with the "you should suck it up and deal with it" mentality
The2ndKrezzz3 2 years ago 3
i know i am prying but have you made the same effort to learn japanese as you have to teaching english?
Azzaiel 2 years ago 3
I feel how you feel a lot. I'm in Nishiwaki Japan and that happens a lot at my school. I had to sit and watch a boy cry because of a bully girl. I walked over and just tried to make her stop but since we can only speak english in class words just flew and my school says tell the home room teacher also. sucks not knowing what to do at that moment.
sec1productions 2 years ago