For Jen's class Pt. 2

[Chaosdude7111]

You are a straight girl now, attracted to straight males, and yet before transition, you were attracted to female partners? How did your orientation change with transition? Was it hormonal?

[frnkcap]

i like to see in swim ware

[Lunaxekiese]

you will have the same problems that you had before surgery.... it will just be internal. Youll still feel self concious about your body because mostlikely you wont have bigger hips to make up for your shoulders. youll still wonder if people are looking at you because they know or because you are pretty. If you decide not to tell your boyfriend or husband, youll feel like you arent sharing yourself with him completely. You will always be a transsexual. no matter what you do or dont.

[Lunaxekiese]

Being a transsexual doesnt mean having a penis. Its will always be part of you because no other women have gone through the same things that trans women have gone through...not because they never got the chance but because it was never even an option. THe best thing to do is to love yourself completely....i think its time for us transwomen to change our views about our community and ourselves. I think its time for change. Transsexual are beautiful people. We are not freaks.

[Lunaxekiese]

The same thing that happened in the gay community needs to happen here. We need to come out from everywhere. We need to stand strong, we need to fight. All these women after SRS go and hide and live "normal" lives and what does that leave the community with people that just started, people that escort. By doing this we give the world only a small view into who we are. What Trannygirl13 said in one of her videos of what she thinks about srs and why she isnt gettign it is a great point of view.

[Lunaxekiese]

BTW im not telling you tell the guy for his good but for your well being...You are a transsexual and being raised as a male is a huge part of your life and will always be, non transsexual women have not been raised as boys there for making us different kinds of women. It might seem appealing now not to say anything but trust me you are not happy until you share your full self. Nothing good can come from hiding, youll be hiding in plain sight.

[Lunaxekiese]

Like a saying goes, Everything falls at its appropriate weight. Meaning you can hide who you are. A flower petal can not fall at the same speed as a feather. Im not saying you are not a woman. YOU COMPLETELY ARE. So am I. But we are different from other women.

[beksaczarna]

please tell any guy you sleep with that you used to physically be a male. i know it's hard but it's very important that you do.

[icecoldbath]

why?

[rybpo7]

Because it's honest. Because it's fair. Wait until you are comfortable and he knows YOU as the lovely woman you are, but it's not fair to not say anything. What happens when he meets your kind friend Ted and it comes out that you used to have a male body? How do you think he would feel?

[Christadarling]

too tell a potential partner? Yes. Please tell them. They deserve to know that. However if I were straight I dont know if would tell someone who is simply a sexual partner post transition

[GLBTQcommunity]

there's a complication that happens VERY RARELY where you... well... you end up taking shits out of your vagina. The lucky thing about ftms is that bathing suits are easy. Baggy trunks. The thing is that when you go to the bathroom you have to sit unless you have one of those pee stick things. If you get into a serious relationship with somebody and they want to have kids, what will you do?

[Christadarling]

Adoption is always popular. And i know many MANY biological women who can pee standing up.

[kevininlove1]

i would date her...winks

[RosebudOfCane]

Therapy. Right on! Of course, there are dumb therapists, especially in the Midwest, but there are smart therapists too

[lisaovdarlo]

my last message didnt go where i wanted it to ,so this is to clear it up,my message is for you yereviltwin2,grow up man for gawd sake

[florydorygirl]

It's wonderful that therapy these days help you to sort this all out where just as early as the eighties they were still of a mind to find out what made you this way and to cure it. It was their dismal failures with that attitude that forced them to change their way of looking at us.

[lisaovdarlo]

can u send some of the therapy to the guy below.....

[Yereviltwin2]

The pussy is a self cleaning organ how the hell do you fake it, you sure are a sick-o. I hope someone kicks the crap out of you until you think STRAIT.

[GoldRainGirl]

Well, you see, normally, the penis is also self-cleaning (at least when it's uncircumcised, since most of the glands for this are located in the foreskin.

Besides, the sex organs for both sexes come from the same cells, so really, it's just a little reconfiguration (well, I do hope I could say this about FTMs too someday).

Am I wasting my time... absolutely.

[EtherealKingdom]

That was really informative! I'd previosuly ignored reading stuff on surgery because it was yuck, but I listened to this and now I know. Thanks...

What's the NHS?

[icecoldbath]

Naional Health Service. Its the thing that the British have - its 100% free healthcare. It pays for Hormones and SRS.

[EtherealKingdom]

Wow, lucky bastards. Australians just get a health-care card, but that makes hormoens only $5 dollars so its not bad I guess

[meganblah]

What about bi guys?

[icecoldbath]

few and far between, but i do look for them.

[bethanyann26tg]

hi ashley

surgery has always been a biggy for me, i know i will have it done but have no plans to get my surgery in the uk.

i just dont intrust my genitals to the NHS, hell no!!!

top of the list at the moment is canada, there suppost to be one of the best...

hugz!

~bethany

[icecoldbath]

but NHS is free!!! OMG!

[bethanyann26tg]

true, but with surgery of this kind thing take years and years to get going and thou it is free our healf service dose have a bit of a bad rap, theres too many of these super bugs going wround.

i have to weigh up all my options first but i may have ways to pay for my surgery so heres hoeping.....

hugz!

~bethany

[orangebandana]

Hey Bethany,

As a Canadian let me warn you, we have our bad sides too and a lot of fakers out there.

Just FYI,

Jay

[GenieP]

Got that right, Ashley, a penis belongs on a boy. And, girl, you clearly are not a boy! So, I hope you can buy your vagina just as soon as possible. Good video responses!

[icecoldbath]

Thank you!!

[orangebandana]

"If someone discovered it in public",

Oh Sweetie, if any penis is discovered in public there's a trouble. Not just for transgals.

[icecoldbath]

haha, far less chance of beat down if someone sees a guys penis shape in his pants.

[mhtothee]

I never thought of peeing being an issue.

And I like your honesty about possibly not being active in the LGBT community post-surgery. I understand your reason, but even though your physical problems are solved with surgery, by transgendered will always be a part of your life, and future trans kids need a role model like you.

[icecoldbath]

Yeah, I don't know what I was thinking when I said that. I love being apart of the GLBT community and don't see myself ever leaving it.