Rant on Gender & Sexuality: There is obviously a difference, people!

[Liyiemen]

Great video.

Ah. I wish more people could understand this. When I try to explain these things to people they just stare at me with a blank/confused expression... or just deny it. Even my psychologist(whom i do not intend to visit EVER again) did NOT get it at all when i told her. In fact she insisted that gender+sexuality are like... immediately and completely linked, and she missed the point all the time. It was AWFUL. And then they say i'm confused. I'm not. THEY don't understand. Aargh.

[dracojjfan]

I dont want to push a sore topic, but should you also then be concerned with the difference between the terms transgender and transexual? i agree completely with what you are saying btw

[yak1987]

@dracojjfan sure, but i don't really see how the difference between transgenderism and transsexualism is relevant to this discussion.

[BillyJoel1985]

a friend of mine (ftm) had his coming out in front of his parents and his parents said "thank God! We always were afraid that you might be a lesbian"

[codyAaron64]

amazing. thanks jak always a pleasure watching your vids.

[leesh924]

agree 100%! i've heard a lot of people say why did that FTM transition if their still going to date boy's, they mise well have stayed female then. A lot of people don't get that we transition for ourselves and no one else. We need to be comfortable in our own bodies before we can ever truly be comfortable with someone else. What i view myself as has no direct impact on who i date, or am attracted to

[Johnson210000]

There are some reports (from the US State Department) that in Saudia Arabia and Iran (where homosexuality is punishable by the death penality) that some persons are undergoing gender change to avoid the death penalty.

[yak1987]

@Johnson210000 wait, so, they´re willing to let a sex change fly without so much as a slap of the hand, but being gay is a death sentence? even if they did it in another country where it was legal, wouldn't there be a paper trail? anyway, that would seem strange to me, but very interesting to know so thanks for the comment. this could very well be true, but i´m a little skeptical that it´s the whole story because things are often much more complicated than the government makes them seem.

[Johnson210000]

@yak1987 The "sex change" clinics there are owned by the Mullah's (mid level religious leaders). Court verdicts (both guilty and innocent) must be approved by a Mullah. The State Department claims that homosexuality charges that would have resulted in the death penality are being plea bargined if the person has a "sex change".

[yak1987]

@Johnson210000 so, the decision to change sex is made after the court's verdict, but before it's approved by the mullah? to me, then, it sounds like the choice isn't really a free one at all; it's either die or change your sex. of course, given the fear of persecution, the decision still wouldn't be completely free if they made the choice BEFORE a charge/guilty verdict was dropped, but i wonder if there are cases where people pursue sex changes simply/mostly in order to be with who they want

[yak1987]

@Johnson210000 this is fascinating, albeit in a sad & disturbing way. i still stand by what i said in the video, though. sexuality and gender are very different things, but i'll admit to at least one strong similarity: you can't just change the gender someone was hardwired to be, the same way that you can't just change someone's sexuality. i'd love to hear what people who have gone through this have to say, because while i'm glad that they are still alive, i personally couldn't be very happy.

[Johnson210000]

@yak1987 I throughly agree with you that gender and sexuality are different. I don't want to leave the impression that changing gender can compensate for having a different sexual orientation. My only point is that in some cultures, it may not be seen the way you and I see it.

Since these parts of the world do not have a free press, we are unlikely to ever be able to evaluate the results of these efforts.

[yak1987]

@Johnson210000 of course, my culture has shaped the way i feel about this, & i hadn't really taken cultural differences into account when making this video, so i'm glad you brought it to my attention. still, i want to say that even though their country may employ sex changes as a way to "treat" homosexuality, that doesn't mean that the people going through it view it that way, agree with it or even choose it freely. that's why i'm curious to hear their perspectives & experiences. shame we can't.

[yak1987]

@Johnson210000 also: in some sense, the way that some people who share our culture view sex change isn't all that different, and that's exactly why i made the video. so many people, both within and outside of the queer community, act like people transition in order to avoid being homosexual. that's why people like my step-mom are so shocked and confused when someone is still gay after transitioning. that's the kind of ignorance that i'm trying to fight against here :)

[scubagirl100]

@Johnson210000 i have heard this too

[yak1987]

@scubagirl100 i looked into it a little. it's hard to know the whole story, but transitioning is apparently used as "treatment" for homsexuality, i.e. to "cure" it. pretty sick. i'd like to hear what the people going through it have to say (whether it's truly their choice). as someone who knows what it's like to live in the wrong gender, i can't imagine that they'd be happy transitioning to a sex that they don't identify as, even if it means they get to have relationships with who they want.

[kevil92]

well said!

[tfpunk1979]

agree 100% thanx for video

[BewareoftheSnowflake]

Right on, man.

[Wosbachia]

I run into this a lot as an FTM primarily attracted to guys. Like you, it gets to me particularly when it comes from people who are supportive. If they think transition is essentially a form of gay conversion therapy, why on earth would they support it?

It makes no sense unless they think avoiding homosexuality is a good thing (or simply have a very confused and inconsistent conception of the issue). Not a comforting conclusion.

[pyjamaparties]

Amen brother.

[TheBabyblu1987]

Hey jack loving wat ur doing and was wondering if ur into girls coz i think ur hottttt let me know? Xx

[Manacle180]

Hey. I know EXACTLY what you mean. I am a gay FTM. and I still get from my mom. "But you like guys. so you must not really be FTM. You must just be confused." Like the idea of a homosexual transsexual is completely impossible. WTF. People. Liking men does not make you a female, and liking women does not make you a male, there are homosexual cis gendered individuals and straight cis gendered individuals and the same goes for Transsexuals. That people don't seem to get this, is ridiculous.

[cocoanutaddict]

Mine is mtf too.. people are just ignorant :/

[DaveHFX]

Wow! You are 100% right on with this blog. One of my closest friends is FTM. He is attracted to men. As you mentioned, this "attraction" did not make his transition any easier. But, he would not have gone back for anything. He is one of the happiest, sexiest and best friends a person can have. Thanks for this video....it was NOT a rant, it was VERY educational! Love ya! :)

[Terry27100]

I completely agree with you, great video :)