girl.........i just started my own blog called "Diary of Debbie Divas Heartbreak"........ In doing this I came across your video entries.... I love this Girl!!!!!!!! U r so rite......... Thanxs for yer words of wisdom.......
I get turned off when a man talks about wanting children. Maybe that is just something that changes as you grow older. It didn't bother me ten or 15 years ago. It probably bothers those men that I am soooooooooo turned off about them wanting children. Men, you missed your opportunity to have kids as far as I am concerned when you are approaching 40 years old. WTF! WE DON'T WANT TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN!! YOU HAVE THEM!!!! Maybe it's just me who knows.
I agree with what you say about her thinking, like alot of female dating gurus, that theres just alot of little tricks to dating men. I think it's because they look to all these details themselves in what they want in guys, that they expect it must be the same in the reverse situation. Which is just not the case. And The whole "Men are natural hunters" Simply isn't the case. Men are hunters simply because Women refuse to be. Those who come across as assertive hunters have to learn it.
Well I think The Date Diva highlights one of the main problems with women in this day and age. They have primitive expectations - Ie the caveman archetype - to be hunted, protected, treated like the man's prize, but at the same time are quick to big up the virtues of feminism and equality and sisters are doing it for themselves. That sends conflicting messages to say the least.
wow thanks this really helped me.because there is this guy ive been talking to and we usually talk on the phone every day but all of a sudden i havent talked to him in 3 day,so im gonna just wait till he calls me instead of blowing up his phone.
I agree with you. Especially the first one. I'd be almost be guaranteed to misinterpret hard to get as uninterested. Theres no way women should expect men to warp our whole lives around them. We do have other, better stuff to do after all then waste time chasing someone whos basically trying to fuck with our minds.
you should ask men how often they or their friends are approached by women. Or when was the last time a woman (who they arent dating) has told them that they looked good or handsome. I went to a all male college and can honestly say it is RARE to NON EXISTANT. More men than you think have self esteem issues and never approach women or go out b/c they feel unwanted/unnatractive.
I'm tired of Mu'fuckas always giving advice about dating. There is no magic trick about dating if somebody likes you then they like you...If They don't they don't.
skip all the garbage and be yourself completely.. Let God drive. Stop trying to figure out other people and trying to read into everything.. enough fake people out there..
I love what you are doing and I agree with most of what you say. I don't agree that a woman should hide the fact that she had a threesome in college. If she had a threesome that means she indulges in homosexuality,while some men do not mind, other men may not want a woman who indulges in that. You encourage heterosexual women not to date men who practice homosexuality. A man has the right to know his womans sexual orientation.
Sista tell it!!!!!!!! Damn right a woman is never suppose to go out their and look for a man. A man should come to us. To many of our sisters our doing that. Pisses me off!!!!
I dissagree, women who walk around with their ass on their shoulders like they are too good to talk to men is pretty arrogant. But hey if it works for you....
The problem with that is , how are men supposed to know that you want us to come to you,
The better you look the more men assume you;re taken, The less interest you show, the more its assumed you're not interested. Relying on men to read signals is ludicrous because we aint that subtle.
i had a couple of women ask me for help to pay their rent and phone bills after the second date lol. i was like do u knoe we r in a recession lol. now i have to disagree on some of the stuff u was talking about. i have no problem with a woman coimng to me. im not saying i like every women to do that but once in while if that happens its cool. i find it sexy cuz it shows she is confident in herself to go get what she wants.
The only way to get to the man is NOT THROUGH HIS STOMACH but through HIS BRAIN, and men's brain is a logical machine, so USE LOGIC to work it. And the last thing, if a man smart, he will set up a bait, the deer will come once, twice, and then he will slowly walk up and shoot it. Both get what they want, deer got some bait and man got the deer, and little effort on both sides.
Turning women away is easy anyways, just few words will do it, so women can go ahead and chase the man they want, but they MUST BE LOGICAL in their approach and tell him why they like him. If they simply emotional and can't make sense of their attraction - he will think she is nuts or smthing.
Another things is that a True Man of Woman's dream is a smart man. He will never run after the deer, they are much faster. Women get carried away with their emotions faster then deer and sometimes bump into trees on their way. Smart man will know how to handle a woman who is pursuing him and direct her for her own benefit if he is not interested or let her show what she means and feels about him. Man of high status, that Mr Right women want, is used to have women run after him.
What if you would divide women into categories and then give advise from that point? For example, fat woman and single mother in her 30s will need different advise from women who is 19 hot and single. I'm a hot guy and see it very attractive when women talk about babies, but must be within reasonable limits.
I'll tell you this.. The one thing women have to worry about is to KNOW when the guy is really into you! thats it.. Every guy comes across a girl that he would like to settle wit.. and theres girls that he would just like to have sex wit.. just sad that women have 2 read into it and figure it out before they put their all into it..
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooo! number 5 is wrong!! sometimes women can too miss out if they dont approach.. some guys look at theirself as if they are a prize, because they know what they have to offer! So whether she seems desperate or not.. if a guy is interested He's not gonna use that against her.. EVERY Women i been in love with persued me shorty!! all i did was speak.. simple hello.. next thing i know .. she puttin her number in my phone.. so it works both ways.. theres no one way
nice analogy. i will no longer persu a man i'll leave it up to them, even when i feel the urge to just go after what i want. i think they oughta work hard to catch a diva. matter of fact though Shay what if they just really enjoy the chase and aren't really interested in getting to know you the person. then they realize they really aren't gona get the kitty kat and just give up. well i think u'll tell me that is how we divas know or can differentiate the true men from the gamers
but then the man will already know she has interest hence she playing hard to get will be pointless because there's no mystery along with it for the man to sit and ponder "well does she really like me?" he's chasing when he already knows she likes what she sees but there's no mystery. good point but i'm sure mystery along with the chase is even better. for some men at least
You'll just have to know how to walk those lines. Don't play too too hard to get he will just lose interest after awhile. It's like catching a fish A fisherman knows when to reel the fish in when to ease off and when to reel in some more when to ease off .
well then a man who gives up wasn't really interested in more about the woman to begin with. then again there aren't that many men who would go the extra mile to get the apple of his eye. but then again could be that i'm just a hopeless romantic
in that man's eyes the woman has to be worth the chase it all boils down to how much that woman means to the man. if we're talking brief attraction then of course the hunter will just move on to hunt for another random deer
deer running ... running ... running I shoot and keep missing, at some point it's time to give up... cause in the end its just not worth it. I go rabbit hunting and others...
amen sister
dee196842 2 weeks ago
thanks for the advice!
IloveHamlet 1 year ago
Where is your Man I mean you give all this advise but who you wit?
collinsmichael0355 1 year ago
@collinsmichael0355 LOLOL!
America2France 1 year ago
girl.........i just started my own blog called "Diary of Debbie Divas Heartbreak"........ In doing this I came across your video entries.... I love this Girl!!!!!!!! U r so rite......... Thanxs for yer words of wisdom.......
DebbieBoop23 1 year ago
I get turned off when a man talks about wanting children. Maybe that is just something that changes as you grow older. It didn't bother me ten or 15 years ago. It probably bothers those men that I am soooooooooo turned off about them wanting children. Men, you missed your opportunity to have kids as far as I am concerned when you are approaching 40 years old. WTF! WE DON'T WANT TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN!! YOU HAVE THEM!!!! Maybe it's just me who knows.
kosdaisy 1 year ago
There's only three pieces of advice a woman needs to follow in dating and relationships.
1) Don't Nag.
2) Don't be oversensitive.
2) Don't get obese.
Simple.
Ayatron34 1 year ago
Those 3 simple rules will get any woman much farther in the dating game than the mindless drivel in this vid.
Playing "hard to get" with a top-notch guy will have a woman going home to a bucket of ice-cream and a vibrator. This ain't middle school.
If you're just looking to get fucked by guys who like the thrill of conquering stuck-up females then by all means listen to this "dating Diva".
If you want something of substance, learn to identify men of character and show them you are available.
rfrantzt 1 year ago 2
I agree with what you say about her thinking, like alot of female dating gurus, that theres just alot of little tricks to dating men. I think it's because they look to all these details themselves in what they want in guys, that they expect it must be the same in the reverse situation. Which is just not the case. And The whole "Men are natural hunters" Simply isn't the case. Men are hunters simply because Women refuse to be. Those who come across as assertive hunters have to learn it.
Ayatron34 1 year ago
Well I think The Date Diva highlights one of the main problems with women in this day and age. They have primitive expectations - Ie the caveman archetype - to be hunted, protected, treated like the man's prize, but at the same time are quick to big up the virtues of feminism and equality and sisters are doing it for themselves. That sends conflicting messages to say the least.
Ayatron34 1 year ago
I shouldn't have called you a dumbass. I apologize. I just get worked up when I hear women being given asinine advice.
You know what men complain about?
1. Weight... Many women refuse to get fit.
2. Shallow thinking... Many women are only worth their vaginas because what comes out of their mouth is hardly worth listening to.
3. Promiscuity... Speaks for itself, and you addressed it.
4. Combativeness... Frequent arguments are ABnormal.
5. Lack of independent thought... Women listen to everyone.
rfrantzt 1 year ago
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rfrantzt 1 year ago
wow thanks this really helped me.because there is this guy ive been talking to and we usually talk on the phone every day but all of a sudden i havent talked to him in 3 day,so im gonna just wait till he calls me instead of blowing up his phone.
asc1213 2 years ago
So, what ever happened to the guy you ignored?
rfrantzt 1 year ago
@rfrantzt
lol we still talk.
we are pretty much on the virge of being a pair now.
asc1213 1 year ago
I agree with you. Especially the first one. I'd be almost be guaranteed to misinterpret hard to get as uninterested. Theres no way women should expect men to warp our whole lives around them. We do have other, better stuff to do after all then waste time chasing someone whos basically trying to fuck with our minds.
Ayatron34 1 year ago
@Ayatron34 Ayatron34 is short , and is fat, and the face is very very ugly.
This asshole is homosexsual.
6676plentybody 1 year ago
What if the man dosnt cair if she talks to mutch? Is he maby lieng or just tryna be nice?
7thPlace 2 years ago
That's what im sayin david.
kingson86 2 years ago
what if the man is shy about approaching? if the woman waits she could miss out.
davidnhvtme 2 years ago 2
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DarkAnGeLl1993 2 years ago
@DarkAnGeLl1993 I have a camera stand. Talking to the camara is like talking to a passenger in the seat next to me!
SYDD
lovein30days 2 years ago
lolzzz yea watever
DarkAnGeLl1993 2 years ago
@lovein30days
You know there are those of us men who are mentally disabled and can't socialise much or pursue even if we wanted to.
Ayatron34 2 years ago
AMEN!!=}
prinzess1173 2 years ago
5. Stop chasing the biggest wallet.
4. Don't come off as desperate
3. Don't try to chase you child hood fantasy badboy.
2. Don't judge a good man by his job or status
1. Have an open mind and not be shallow.
Be good sisters!!! God Bless! I also agree with this video! And Yes we are hunters!!
supersayin1 2 years ago
you should ask men how often they or their friends are approached by women. Or when was the last time a woman (who they arent dating) has told them that they looked good or handsome. I went to a all male college and can honestly say it is RARE to NON EXISTANT. More men than you think have self esteem issues and never approach women or go out b/c they feel unwanted/unnatractive.
hrobbins 2 years ago
gotta keep trying. 1 lady out of every 70 will be happy to be with u. its the nature of the game
tranquilbluesky 2 years ago
I'm tired of Mu'fuckas always giving advice about dating. There is no magic trick about dating if somebody likes you then they like you...If They don't they don't.
g77seven 2 years ago 3
skip all the garbage and be yourself completely.. Let God drive. Stop trying to figure out other people and trying to read into everything.. enough fake people out there..
GetShook1 2 years ago 2
Every single woman needs to see this video!!!!!
Keithisha24 2 years ago
I soooo agree ! I love this video
HIMAY10NENCE 2 years ago
puppies are not a turnoff. the rest are but dogs rule.
tonylee1973 2 years ago
To: Shay your day diva.
I love what you are doing and I agree with most of what you say. I don't agree that a woman should hide the fact that she had a threesome in college. If she had a threesome that means she indulges in homosexuality,while some men do not mind, other men may not want a woman who indulges in that. You encourage heterosexual women not to date men who practice homosexuality. A man has the right to know his womans sexual orientation.
mindyourbizok 2 years ago
Sista tell it!!!!!!!! Damn right a woman is never suppose to go out their and look for a man. A man should come to us. To many of our sisters our doing that. Pisses me off!!!!
9thunderhawk 2 years ago
I completely agree.
merco80 2 years ago
why i dont see any thing wrong with a sister Approaching a brother ?
dariusphilly 2 years ago
I dissagree, women who walk around with their ass on their shoulders like they are too good to talk to men is pretty arrogant. But hey if it works for you....
hrobbins 2 years ago
@9thunderhawk
The problem with that is , how are men supposed to know that you want us to come to you,
The better you look the more men assume you;re taken, The less interest you show, the more its assumed you're not interested. Relying on men to read signals is ludicrous because we aint that subtle.
Ayatron34 2 years ago
Ayatron34 is an unplesant homosexsual abnormal GAY . ! !
6676plentybody 2 years ago
Hehe, we basically have to play hard to get :)
NatashaLeBlanc15 2 years ago
This reminds me how I hooked up with my loser ex on KissKnot d0t c0m
lisasummings 2 years ago
Good STUFF....ive been saying this stuff to my friends for sooo long.....lol
poo0115104 2 years ago
i had a couple of women ask me for help to pay their rent and phone bills after the second date lol. i was like do u knoe we r in a recession lol. now i have to disagree on some of the stuff u was talking about. i have no problem with a woman coimng to me. im not saying i like every women to do that but once in while if that happens its cool. i find it sexy cuz it shows she is confident in herself to go get what she wants.
ucntcdz 2 years ago
are you married?
uglyassbitch06 2 years ago
Sept 5, 2009
lovein30days 2 years ago
congrats wish u all the best
uglyassbitch06 2 years ago
The only way to get to the man is NOT THROUGH HIS STOMACH but through HIS BRAIN, and men's brain is a logical machine, so USE LOGIC to work it. And the last thing, if a man smart, he will set up a bait, the deer will come once, twice, and then he will slowly walk up and shoot it. Both get what they want, deer got some bait and man got the deer, and little effort on both sides.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
Turning women away is easy anyways, just few words will do it, so women can go ahead and chase the man they want, but they MUST BE LOGICAL in their approach and tell him why they like him. If they simply emotional and can't make sense of their attraction - he will think she is nuts or smthing.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
Another things is that a True Man of Woman's dream is a smart man. He will never run after the deer, they are much faster. Women get carried away with their emotions faster then deer and sometimes bump into trees on their way. Smart man will know how to handle a woman who is pursuing him and direct her for her own benefit if he is not interested or let her show what she means and feels about him. Man of high status, that Mr Right women want, is used to have women run after him.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
Women must demonstrate that they love babies, but keep it low profile and discuss it only after man decides to have her carry his genes.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
What if you would divide women into categories and then give advise from that point? For example, fat woman and single mother in her 30s will need different advise from women who is 19 hot and single. I'm a hot guy and see it very attractive when women talk about babies, but must be within reasonable limits.
syntonicstorm 2 years ago
She looks a little like Rosi Perez:):) Who I find sexy:)
MANGOMAN1999 3 years ago
How about a guide to how/where to find the dream man????
RunRoseRun 3 years ago
You should not want to find the dream man. If you do, continue sleeping and that is where you will find him each and everytime.:)
MANGOMAN1999 3 years ago 3
omd that was sooooo funny!!!! LOOOOOOL seriously can not sto laughin HAHA xx (sorry 2 the other person)
tuaprincessa 2 years ago
lol @ the deer scenario
xxBeautiful1xx 3 years ago
I'll tell you this.. The one thing women have to worry about is to KNOW when the guy is really into you! thats it.. Every guy comes across a girl that he would like to settle wit.. and theres girls that he would just like to have sex wit.. just sad that women have 2 read into it and figure it out before they put their all into it..
Soulige 3 years ago
The first chick.. turned out to be a chicken head! but the second Me and her still kick it to this day.. best of friends.
Soulige 3 years ago
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooo! number 5 is wrong!! sometimes women can too miss out if they dont approach.. some guys look at theirself as if they are a prize, because they know what they have to offer! So whether she seems desperate or not.. if a guy is interested He's not gonna use that against her.. EVERY Women i been in love with persued me shorty!! all i did was speak.. simple hello.. next thing i know .. she puttin her number in my phone.. so it works both ways.. theres no one way
Soulige 3 years ago
Hummmm, well if that is the case what happen to the relationship?
SYDD
lovein30days 3 years ago
that is SO UNSAFE, but good vid. too many women dont know there worth and MEN NEED SPACE, thank you so much for saying that.
Riddlla 3 years ago 2
nice analogy. i will no longer persu a man i'll leave it up to them, even when i feel the urge to just go after what i want. i think they oughta work hard to catch a diva. matter of fact though Shay what if they just really enjoy the chase and aren't really interested in getting to know you the person. then they realize they really aren't gona get the kitty kat and just give up. well i think u'll tell me that is how we divas know or can differentiate the true men from the gamers
hugandkissme33 3 years ago 2
Very good...and I didnt even have to say a word:)
SYDD
lovein30days 3 years ago
The thing is men are hunters but a woman should send out a signal saying she is interested .And then let him pursue.
blacktigerwu 3 years ago 12
but then the man will already know she has interest hence she playing hard to get will be pointless because there's no mystery along with it for the man to sit and ponder "well does she really like me?" he's chasing when he already knows she likes what she sees but there's no mystery. good point but i'm sure mystery along with the chase is even better. for some men at least
hugandkissme33 3 years ago
You'll just have to know how to walk those lines. Don't play too too hard to get he will just lose interest after awhile. It's like catching a fish A fisherman knows when to reel the fish in when to ease off and when to reel in some more when to ease off .
blacktigerwu 3 years ago
well then a man who gives up wasn't really interested in more about the woman to begin with. then again there aren't that many men who would go the extra mile to get the apple of his eye. but then again could be that i'm just a hopeless romantic
hugandkissme33 3 years ago
in that man's eyes the woman has to be worth the chase it all boils down to how much that woman means to the man. if we're talking brief attraction then of course the hunter will just move on to hunt for another random deer
hugandkissme33 3 years ago 2
deer running ... running ... running I shoot and keep missing, at some point it's time to give up... cause in the end its just not worth it. I go rabbit hunting and others...
stoldgar 3 years ago 2
lol @ Desperate perfume!!
jmfsc08 3 years ago 8
i'm guilty....
BrokenAngelWings2000 3 years ago 4
Great Advice!
This is going in my favorites.:)
J.
2sweet2classy23 3 years ago 2
Good tips though!!
dreadee34474 3 years ago
Did I miss something or did you skip reason #2
dreadee34474 3 years ago
who do I send you a personal e-mail in not that sue new to to youtube
SimplyAdiva 3 years ago
lmao from ur car, it couldn't wait! lol 5*
kat24101 3 years ago 3