Sounds better when we say we are perfect. Never was imperfection. Perfection always shines and we can see it so clearly if we remember it. It has been there since birth.
If I was talking to a beautiful girl like you I'd be stuttering and at a loss of what to say even though I'm past 40. Mine perhaps is a serious case of social phobia. i can talk to people, it's not that severe but it hinders my chances of meeting new and nice people and it's a roadblock on my future ahead in all respects. :-(
Just by looking at you, it seems odd that you'd be socially phobic. You're obviously very pretty, sweet, empathic and intelligent. Perhaps people have taken advantage of your positive traits and that's made you socially phobic? I haven't watched your other videos, so forgive me if you've explained reasons for being socially phobic. I suffered from social phobia quite badly in the past and still a bit to this day.
Be what you want to be, dont let the fear trick you into believe that you cant be what you want to be, its an illusion! The past is destiny, the future is choise/freedom, the present is what matters. Dont put weight in other peoples judgings, dont judge people. Happiness will come your way!
I think you need to change your way to look of things, much like you say, accepting. But, what one must remember is that social anxiety ultimetly means fear, for me it ment fear of not knowing who I am, and how to express myself. If you feel the same way, you must know that your light (you) can never be removed by any other way than death. Ask yourself what you like, what you want to do, how you feel about yourself, and simply LET GO!
@chillgrilldillsill Your right! I told my therapist "I don't know who I am anymore, it's like Iv'e lost my identity " she said just forcing myself into social situation will cure it eventually. It didn't.
So about 2 month ago I started to really look at myself and ask question about what I like and what I stand for. I found my passion for science again and am now starting a degree in natural science (physics).. As for what I stand for, check out The Venus Project on here. Not fully cured though!
I am generally confident but I kinda hide it or avoid it, I have trouble in class if I'm asked 2 do a presentation or even read in class :( I get a Rush of strong feeling over me and I can't think of what to say. What's really annoying is that I am perfectly capable of doing it
there is no "quick" "easy" way to overcome social anxiety you want confidence? you have to do something confidence worth. I had social anxiety and I decided that it was impossible for me to have a ripped six pack, and have low self esteem and care about about what people thought of me, so I changed my diet, put in the hard work, and now I'm a person with great confidence, It's as simple as that. it's impossible to just 'stop caring what people think of you'
Acceptance is just a part of it, you need to get over your fears and approach avoidance conflict, and the fear of failure in order for it to really work. Love yourself and care less about what people think because that doesnt make you WHO you are, you are complete and fine, not based upon others feelings..... Who needs them to be whole? No ONE!
@hoppy3char i am 33yo today, i don't have a job, i don't have friends, no girl, i live with my parents, i can't stand anyone in my family, i can't stand any ones' tastes or choices, people keep away from me and i form them. Believe me deal with it now that you are a teen, i never did, my parents didn't pay attention then, i didn't know, now my life is ruined.
Those of you saying 'easy for you to say, you're pretty' don't get it. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are--- if you don't have any confidence or if you can't talk to people, then people aren't going to want to be around you. And if someone has SAD, they're not going to ever be happy with who they are, and that's going to have an effect on their lives that other people won't ever be able to change… unless they take steps to deal with it, which is exactly what she's saying in the video.
Thank you so much sweetheart....I applaud you for having enough courage to put your face on camera while having social anxiety.Thanks for your videos.I suffer through this daily and I've struggled through this ever since 2008/2009.I'm 20 years old and I need serious help.
@rockwitchdrunk BABY YOU BORN THIS WAY! your comment reminded me of gaga :)
I have social anxiety, when I'm talking to a stranger, i don't like them to look at me, it makes me feel more anxious, like i want to just get away as quickly as possible, it sucks cause, i want to have people to hang out with and feel comfortable with myself. I also have bad depression , which is probably from the anxiety.
ill tell you a severe social axiety disorder simply you cannot smile you have this awkward smile,to bi polar disorder,to deppresion,actually you are like performing
even in one person you are trap in your self,if you are like me then reply
I have Aspergers syndrome and the main difficulty with this is the way that all social interactions need to be processed through an intellectual filter before i can get the sense of what is going on. I'm a reasonably intelligent person and i understand what you are saying on an intellectual level but applying it in real life causes incredible stress on my overall capabilities. It is not easy to grasp because essentially the key to enjoying socialising is to forget yourself and go with the flow.
@JennJenification She obviously has exp with social anxiety so this would have taken a lot of courage to record. Maybe you could be a bit nicer. Maybe i could. Come on everyone lets have a really good try at not being so negative about everyone else. Loveyoubye x
@pete3862 You're right. I'm sorry. SORRY also to NoSocialAnxiety. Thanks for your very well delivered, neutralizing argument. I can be very bitter sometimes.
@savi915 Social anxiety, is holding me back on what i want my career to be, I love music. i want to become a musician, & play music for people, but its just makein git difficult, i hate it!
ive been shy all my life and what im about to say is like a life time of what people would hear me say.im extreamly shy and i dont feel comfortable around anyone not my family or my friends but to honest i hav no friends.people come up to me and treat me like im different just because i dont talk they always feel sorry for me but they leave me out.little things like saying she doesnt speak is really upsetting nd people dont understand that, the only cure for it is being shy i being excepted
First, think what you think about other people that u have had some contact with. Normal right?
Second, Thats what they think of you, fucking nothing. PEOPLE ARE MORE WORRIED ABOUT THEMSELVES. They don't care if you do this or that, or say this or that, remenber, people are selfish they only care about themselves, like you.
No offense but it is pretty easy for a beautiful girl to say that you shouldn't care about what people think about you. However, I do believe anyone whether they're good looking or not can have social anxiety, its about how you think.
You should shut-up, it's easy for an attractive woman to say it, but if u were butt ugly you'd be eating your words, maybe somebody should disfigure your face and body, maybe than REALITY would set in!!!
Very good advice. I'm in the process of learning this, but its always a process, no one is perfect but they can change for the better and head in a positive direction. BTW I have that music that you have in the background but I think the shorter mix. Also maybe want to tone the music down or off cause it takes away what you are saying and I know its important we don't want to miss it.
@chirayut I know how you feel, im 14 just started grade 10 and have 0 friends because im am so shy. I always think people will judge me and i sometimes get confidence to talk to someone and then ill end up chickening out...
This video is making me think more and is helpful ty
It doesn't matter if she is a very cute and attractive girl, anyone can have social anxiety. It has to do with how you look at people, purely from mindset. I don't understand why people don't get this simple concept. I have shyness because I think people are superior to me because I am alone and have no friends, and because because of my shyness I am inferior. It is a vicious cycle. Being afraid of failure and rejection is the core of all this, walking into the unknown is mentally exhausting.
Okay pretty girls giving advice on how to be more social...hmmm? So I'm not the most attractive guy, and I do talk to a lot of people, but for some reason my friends don't call me back that much...I treat everyone with kindness, and I'm friendly.
Am I missing something? I mean I go out of my way to get to know people, but? For some reason maybe it's just my looks...if I were more attractive I would get recognized more.
@SuperFromatoz I disagree. By calling yourself fat and ugly, you are conforming to standards of society and saying to yourself that these are the things people value, which is partly true, there is no denying that. But society has very stringent and high standards of "perfection", which can never be met. The best we can do is make our own standards and live up to them. What are your principles, your values, your beliefs? If you define them and live up to them, you have lived a life of purpose.
It's been 9 months that I have started my Phd and as it goes I feel more anxiety in different aspects of my life. I remember myself a few years ago as a sociable, fairly energetic and active person but these days I feel I'm afraid of action. Recently I started watching tip videos in You Tube to help myself and I've seen many clips that expertly and performatively give you motivation!
I loved this video because it helped me more than all of them as it is genuinly honest. Thanks.
Abuse in all its forms eg physical, verbal emotional etc whether done to you or you observe it done to others conditions and/or programmes the socially phobic that abuse is unpleasant. The anxiety or flusterd emabarassment that happens is essentially a proxy as an apology before a possible abuse or evaluation ( even if positive may be confused with ridicule). Put another way anxiety and emarassment is essentially saying to others "please dont hurt me" .
I can't overcome this crap. I hate being positive about myself. It'll kill me if I try. I'm only 15, and I play 5 musical instruments. I don't want to waste them. But i've wasted so many opportunities with them, I just have to face I can't live life to the full, or get the girl that I have feelings for. Life's a bitch, eh?
You seem as though you disassociate yourself while your talking.
All I got from this 6 minute video is "Accept yourself." and "Accept others."
This is my constructive criticism. Get your thoughts together, list them, read them with emotion, and THEN make a video. You seem like you don't know what else to talk about.
So never thinking about what people are thinking about you is simple to read and understand, but its really hard to apply it. No matter what, if I'm having a one on one conversation with someone, especially someone like a manager, supervisor, etc., I cant stop the repetetive racing thoughts going through my mind. While theyre talking to me about something important, Im thinking about how he/she sees me as a human being. Simply put... this is overwhelming and hard to deal with daily.
@SuperBeherenow But you shouldnt have to wait until your 56 to not care about what people think. And the way people are now a days doesnt help with social phobias either.
@kgpatrick21 Honestly the best way to overcome social barriers is to simply drop your care for other people. I'm not saying to be a jerk to people but assertiveness has alot to do with it. I used to have the same issues, now I have the opposite problem. My family and friends tell me that I'm more arrogant than I used to so don't make the same mistake I did when you decide to change. My problem is that I stopped caring about others and became egotistic, I overcame shyness, but look at the costs.
@kgpatrick21 I know you probably can't see it over the internet, but I went from a shy and conscience person to a narcissistic asshole that probably needs to care more about people. Just be careful when you transition people, you can hit the extreme. :P
Some people can overcome social anxiety much easier than others. Some are blessed with being born with good looks and a natural ability to socialize. Others are born not so fortunate and must resort to other means to overcome social anxiety. I am 100% convinced the only way I'll ever overcome social anxiety is for me to be one of the best skiers or be very good at many things. One day I hope to feel like I belong even if I have to risk dying in making an effort.
you speak exactly like i do, slow and kinda out of it. I really stress myself out over it, but i love how you have come to accept it, and being urself.
too hard to be happy it drains my energy and my happiness is only fleeting lasting no more that a day or 2 i like being by myself i dont need to think about ne thing its eaiser said than done its too hard
@grega710 i feel u.. i feel the same way I tell my boyfriend the same thing, and he tells me i need to fight and stop being a coward and im no coward so.... i will fight and i will try harder. just no im fighting with u :)
@grega710 no problem hang in there i just got the program the linden method program. it cost a ot but i got it for free. if your interested where i got it from send me a personal message and i'll let you know how u can get it for free.
Hi Emily. Great video, I just stumbled upon your videos recently. They've helped me out and given me some useful insight on social anxiety.
Also, I've got a question about this particular video... what is the name of the song you used in this video, and who wrote it? I enjoy it very much. Thanks!
i have this too. i have found zazen and mindful meditation is working for me. 20 mins in morning and before bed. its ideal for worry / anxious feelings / panic attacks etc. have you tried it?
Problem with me is that i get all the symptoms of social anxiety ( super dry throat , feeling sick and stuff like that ) , but i manage to filter all my thoughts . I mean i am like socialy awesome in all the social situations , but i still have these social anx symptoms , very fucking annoying
hello congratulation to every one I found cure of this disease . first of all I am from India and sometimes I thought that I have social phobia also. But eventually i came to know that this not a disease but multinational companies of pharmaceuticals made this disease. It is due to lower level of oxygen in the brain. Just search baba ramdev kapalbhati videos . videos are about breathing exercises that will ensure oxygen to each and every part of brain nagative feelings even cant touch you
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
I can remember a shopping trip with my grandmother when I was 6 years old. I noticed all the people in the mall looking at me. It was like their eyes would attack my face every time I would look at them. And they secretly seemed to laugh at me. And I thought: Gee, this can´t be true, they can´t be observing me, that can´t be true! But it was. Years later I thought: This thing was already there when you were six.
I suffered from severe social anxiety but now I am taking paroxetine (paxil) and it helped soooo much . Now I am the one that is the most outgoing in my group of friend. I LOVE IT !
But you are pretty so it's easier for you. What if you are not that pretty, or not that intelligent or eloquent? That is what people are evaluating you on. That knowledge is what causes anxiety.
things get hard when it comes to anxiety fear thoughts and feelling but just know that there is hope. if i made it you can too trust me(: check out my video..
if any one needs advice or anything hit me up on youtube...thanks..
This is like telling someone who has cancer that they should just stop having cancer.
An Anxiety Disorder is a mental state where someone is NOT in control of their emotions; and your advice is to try and control them? I've suffered form AvPD for 6 years now, and believe me, I have struggled, and tried, and strived to get to the point where I can change my current perception of myself, but it is an impossible task. That is what makes these conditions so painful.
What a helpful and educational video! The beautiful girl makes watching this even better.
TheRealStinkyface 9 hours ago
Sounds better when we say we are perfect. Never was imperfection. Perfection always shines and we can see it so clearly if we remember it. It has been there since birth.
jonoce633 19 hours ago
There's a place in yourself that just knows and is. It's beyond words, where the words come from. Maybe that is where you will find for what you look.
This sounds very "teachy" but its true. lol
jonoce633 19 hours ago
you are a sweetheart and give lovely advice to those of us who need it great job! and if you want check out my channel and subscribe thank you :)
mattsterwoody 1 day ago
it's like I need to break through a wall..to be more sociable
candorpluslove 1 week ago
yu suck on gettin tips
karenhenriquez 1 week ago
If I was talking to a beautiful girl like you I'd be stuttering and at a loss of what to say even though I'm past 40. Mine perhaps is a serious case of social phobia. i can talk to people, it's not that severe but it hinders my chances of meeting new and nice people and it's a roadblock on my future ahead in all respects. :-(
gnossticc 1 week ago
Good channel. So positive!
CliveGains80s 2 weeks ago
Just by looking at you, it seems odd that you'd be socially phobic. You're obviously very pretty, sweet, empathic and intelligent. Perhaps people have taken advantage of your positive traits and that's made you socially phobic? I haven't watched your other videos, so forgive me if you've explained reasons for being socially phobic. I suffered from social phobia quite badly in the past and still a bit to this day.
7589g8e4444he4 2 weeks ago
Your words heal me. I am really thankful of you.
mrnetvideos 2 weeks ago
@honsemor
Please tell me what good it does to care what other people think? Are you going to
spend the rest of your life letting other people and their thoughts control you? That's
the same as giving power to other people over you, and letting them dictate what
you can and cannot do. You can use any excuse you want with me, like your
last response. They don't work though, cause you have to live with yourself.
Go for what you want in life. You get one chance. You live only once.
SuperBeherenow 2 weeks ago
ah very nice sentiments!! especially about accepting yourself And others! thanks sweetie ♥
Kamikazeina 2 weeks ago
@Kamikazeina
speaking of accepting, EFT might be of interest to people here
Kamikazeina 2 weeks ago
i have a stutter so that's why i don't talk
DanDaMaN95cov 3 weeks ago
Where did you learn such deep knowledge of life. that really is amazing.i am a fan
realslimshaddyy 3 weeks ago
and accept that you are a cute angel....
realslimshaddyy 3 weeks ago
you talk slow. I like that
smallpotatoes989 1 month ago
you are hot you should have no troubles
smallpotatoes989 1 month ago
"It's like a finger pointing to the sky, dont concentrate on the finger, or you will miss all that heavenly glory"
chillgrilldillsill 1 month ago
Be what you want to be, dont let the fear trick you into believe that you cant be what you want to be, its an illusion! The past is destiny, the future is choise/freedom, the present is what matters. Dont put weight in other peoples judgings, dont judge people. Happiness will come your way!
chillgrilldillsill 1 month ago
I think you need to change your way to look of things, much like you say, accepting. But, what one must remember is that social anxiety ultimetly means fear, for me it ment fear of not knowing who I am, and how to express myself. If you feel the same way, you must know that your light (you) can never be removed by any other way than death. Ask yourself what you like, what you want to do, how you feel about yourself, and simply LET GO!
chillgrilldillsill 1 month ago
@chillgrilldillsill Your right! I told my therapist "I don't know who I am anymore, it's like Iv'e lost my identity " she said just forcing myself into social situation will cure it eventually. It didn't.
So about 2 month ago I started to really look at myself and ask question about what I like and what I stand for. I found my passion for science again and am now starting a degree in natural science (physics).. As for what I stand for, check out The Venus Project on here. Not fully cured though!
DavidLawton93 4 weeks ago
i accept it too
johniiiiii72 1 month ago
i'll except that... :)
eddiomann 1 month ago
what?
shatterdpromiSes 1 month ago
social anxiety=takes soo much fun outta college :/
KeepHope0821 1 month ago 8
That Video Didnt Helped Me Thumbs Down, But the Others are Great, Thx.
TokraAkaOnur 1 month ago
be your self never let anybody change you
jamie54809 1 month ago
I made a video of 5 steps towards overcoming shyness, please check it out and I hope you help it
MsDeelz 1 month ago
thanks for the advice miss....you are very beautiful..if you don't mind may i know your name?
indigomage 1 month ago
I am generally confident but I kinda hide it or avoid it, I have trouble in class if I'm asked 2 do a presentation or even read in class :( I get a Rush of strong feeling over me and I can't think of what to say. What's really annoying is that I am perfectly capable of doing it
Metrotonic 1 month ago
there is no "quick" "easy" way to overcome social anxiety you want confidence? you have to do something confidence worth. I had social anxiety and I decided that it was impossible for me to have a ripped six pack, and have low self esteem and care about about what people thought of me, so I changed my diet, put in the hard work, and now I'm a person with great confidence, It's as simple as that. it's impossible to just 'stop caring what people think of you'
LegendOfTrance 1 month ago
i cant accept my goodamn personality i f.... hate being shy
dafaraed 2 months ago 4
@dafaraed same :( i am 18 and a guy so everyone just thinks its weird that i am so shy and nervous all the time.
AKBeazBoi 1 month ago
Acceptance is just a part of it, you need to get over your fears and approach avoidance conflict, and the fear of failure in order for it to really work. Love yourself and care less about what people think because that doesnt make you WHO you are, you are complete and fine, not based upon others feelings..... Who needs them to be whole? No ONE!
MatthewMattero 2 months ago
Social Anxiety.
First it was annoying. Then it was irritating. And now it's devastating.
And i'm only a teen.
hoppy3char 2 months ago
@hoppy3char i am 33yo today, i don't have a job, i don't have friends, no girl, i live with my parents, i can't stand anyone in my family, i can't stand any ones' tastes or choices, people keep away from me and i form them. Believe me deal with it now that you are a teen, i never did, my parents didn't pay attention then, i didn't know, now my life is ruined.
RETRONGAMES79 1 month ago
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1Foggia 1 month ago
This video has a strange rhythm. The music, the way you speak, your gestures. Is this supposed to be a form of hypnosis?
MegaBarrybrown 2 months ago 3
@MegaBarrybrown i agree, this video is trippy as hell. fucking hate having this disorder though.
nuclearshadow12 2 months ago
you are so pretty, your eyes are so sexy and bright
AtlantiXYL 2 months ago
u did say "accepting" too many times lol :P
nickallah 2 months ago
imperfect? is that a joke? youre pretty close to perfect
nickallah 2 months ago
Those of you saying 'easy for you to say, you're pretty' don't get it. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are--- if you don't have any confidence or if you can't talk to people, then people aren't going to want to be around you. And if someone has SAD, they're not going to ever be happy with who they are, and that's going to have an effect on their lives that other people won't ever be able to change… unless they take steps to deal with it, which is exactly what she's saying in the video.
youcantakearest 2 months ago
um, no
karp821 2 months ago
You are so cute... :)
mauronaranjo 2 months ago
You seem like a very sweet girl thank you for making all these videos :) I'm sure they've helped many people. God bless
TheSADdaydreamerr 2 months ago
Thank you so much sweetheart....I applaud you for having enough courage to put your face on camera while having social anxiety.Thanks for your videos.I suffer through this daily and I've struggled through this ever since 2008/2009.I'm 20 years old and I need serious help.
malik8991 2 months ago
I fapped to this video and then felt really bad. Sorry.
mushymaple 2 months ago
you're damn beautiful
TheCrossov3r 3 months ago
its a sickness it is inborn,you have to be strong if your born this way,reply
to me anyone if its hard for you to smile sometimes cause its awkward
rockwitchdrunk 3 months ago 3
@rockwitchdrunk BABY YOU BORN THIS WAY! your comment reminded me of gaga :)
I have social anxiety, when I'm talking to a stranger, i don't like them to look at me, it makes me feel more anxious, like i want to just get away as quickly as possible, it sucks cause, i want to have people to hang out with and feel comfortable with myself. I also have bad depression , which is probably from the anxiety.
MusicManiaacify 3 months ago
ill tell you a severe social axiety disorder simply you cannot smile you have this awkward smile,to bi polar disorder,to deppresion,actually you are like performing
even in one person you are trap in your self,if you are like me then reply
rockwitchdrunk 3 months ago
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miissmiaa 3 months ago
I have Aspergers syndrome and the main difficulty with this is the way that all social interactions need to be processed through an intellectual filter before i can get the sense of what is going on. I'm a reasonably intelligent person and i understand what you are saying on an intellectual level but applying it in real life causes incredible stress on my overall capabilities. It is not easy to grasp because essentially the key to enjoying socialising is to forget yourself and go with the flow.
sarahparsons87 3 months ago
People tell I'm beautiful but I'm very shy It is how u think and I always worry about what people think or say bout me dang it :(
hotfemmefatale619 4 months ago
Like, omigawd!!! I thought dim wit valley girls existed only in america!?! Sorry hon, but yeesh..Maybe assemble your thoughts before you hit record.
JennJenification 4 months ago
@JennJenification She obviously has exp with social anxiety so this would have taken a lot of courage to record. Maybe you could be a bit nicer. Maybe i could. Come on everyone lets have a really good try at not being so negative about everyone else. Loveyoubye x
pete3862 4 months ago
@pete3862 You're right. I'm sorry. SORRY also to NoSocialAnxiety. Thanks for your very well delivered, neutralizing argument. I can be very bitter sometimes.
JennJenification 4 months ago
thumps up if social anxiety ruined your carrier.
savi915 4 months ago 48
@savi915 Social anxiety, is holding me back on what i want my career to be, I love music. i want to become a musician, & play music for people, but its just makein git difficult, i hate it!
MusicManiaacify 3 months ago
@savi915 no but it may have ruined my career
felixthemaster1 1 month ago
@felixthemaster1 LOL at your reply, I can imagine the dry sense of humour! :)
DavidLawton93 4 weeks ago
@savi915 just ask for a new mailman.
JustBeBased 3 weeks ago
@savi915 My carrier? I haven't been carried since I left elementary school.
bibliotheek357 3 days ago
I accept myself and I am very confident. I still can't think of why I am shy. I am very academically talented and I have no depression nor sadness.
I am gay and an athiest and I'm proud of it. I laugh at those who insult me. Yet, I cannot figure out why I am shy.
makemegood5two 4 months ago
ive been shy all my life and what im about to say is like a life time of what people would hear me say.im extreamly shy and i dont feel comfortable around anyone not my family or my friends but to honest i hav no friends.people come up to me and treat me like im different just because i dont talk they always feel sorry for me but they leave me out.little things like saying she doesnt speak is really upsetting nd people dont understand that, the only cure for it is being shy i being excepted
123reletive123 4 months ago
easy to say when your stikingly beautiful :(
xSpArTiChRiSx 4 months ago 2
First, think what you think about other people that u have had some contact with. Normal right?
Second, Thats what they think of you, fucking nothing. PEOPLE ARE MORE WORRIED ABOUT THEMSELVES. They don't care if you do this or that, or say this or that, remenber, people are selfish they only care about themselves, like you.
Mursilia 4 months ago
telling us what to do cant help us but there is one thing you can tell us to do and its killing our self
yossijoeyX 4 months ago
No offense but it is pretty easy for a beautiful girl to say that you shouldn't care about what people think about you. However, I do believe anyone whether they're good looking or not can have social anxiety, its about how you think.
undeadgil 4 months ago 3
You should shut-up, it's easy for an attractive woman to say it, but if u were butt ugly you'd be eating your words, maybe somebody should disfigure your face and body, maybe than REALITY would set in!!!
So shut the fu*k up!!
EsotericAdept 4 months ago
i got social anxiety too but its fixable
WutangClan4LiF3 4 months ago
you're an angel...! : )
filthysock 5 months ago
Can i lick your asshole?
JohnathanPozzi 5 months ago
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Can i lick your asshole?
JohnathanPozzi 5 months ago
do u have aboy friend??
koky3040 5 months ago
Very good advice. I'm in the process of learning this, but its always a process, no one is perfect but they can change for the better and head in a positive direction. BTW I have that music that you have in the background but I think the shorter mix. Also maybe want to tone the music down or off cause it takes away what you are saying and I know its important we don't want to miss it.
rowsdower12 5 months ago
Man you are beautiful, I have Social Anxiety Thanks for the tips.
1mmafrka 5 months ago
@chirayut I know how you feel, im 14 just started grade 10 and have 0 friends because im am so shy. I always think people will judge me and i sometimes get confidence to talk to someone and then ill end up chickening out...
This video is making me think more and is helpful ty
CodyAK951 5 months ago
Always go out armed to the teeth. It's the best way to avoid social anxiety.
guydecervens 5 months ago
love the music. chicane offshore;)
Moetitube 5 months ago
It doesn't matter if she is a very cute and attractive girl, anyone can have social anxiety. It has to do with how you look at people, purely from mindset. I don't understand why people don't get this simple concept. I have shyness because I think people are superior to me because I am alone and have no friends, and because because of my shyness I am inferior. It is a vicious cycle. Being afraid of failure and rejection is the core of all this, walking into the unknown is mentally exhausting.
chirayut 5 months ago
Okay pretty girls giving advice on how to be more social...hmmm? So I'm not the most attractive guy, and I do talk to a lot of people, but for some reason my friends don't call me back that much...I treat everyone with kindness, and I'm friendly.
Am I missing something? I mean I go out of my way to get to know people, but? For some reason maybe it's just my looks...if I were more attractive I would get recognized more.
EricSchwin22 6 months ago
get over yourself. just be normal
SJGibbons1000 6 months ago
so the key is accepting others as they are then we can accept ourselves more
sebastiancalico41 6 months ago
But if u r fat and ugly such as myself, I feel the shyness is justified. Ugly people SHOULDN'T want to be social. Anyone agree?
SuperFromatoz 6 months ago
@SuperFromatoz Everyone should be social.
jennisonlikescookies 6 months ago
@SuperFromatoz I disagree. By calling yourself fat and ugly, you are conforming to standards of society and saying to yourself that these are the things people value, which is partly true, there is no denying that. But society has very stringent and high standards of "perfection", which can never be met. The best we can do is make our own standards and live up to them. What are your principles, your values, your beliefs? If you define them and live up to them, you have lived a life of purpose.
chirayut 5 months ago
It's been 9 months that I have started my Phd and as it goes I feel more anxiety in different aspects of my life. I remember myself a few years ago as a sociable, fairly energetic and active person but these days I feel I'm afraid of action. Recently I started watching tip videos in You Tube to help myself and I've seen many clips that expertly and performatively give you motivation!
I loved this video because it helped me more than all of them as it is genuinly honest. Thanks.
13241945 6 months ago
i didnt think cute girls have social anxiety
Ursonmory 6 months ago
Awesome video, thank you for taking the time!
moshiwill 6 months ago
what a nice video! but what is the ambient music ?
myeyeswillburn 6 months ago
Abuse in all its forms eg physical, verbal emotional etc whether done to you or you observe it done to others conditions and/or programmes the socially phobic that abuse is unpleasant. The anxiety or flusterd emabarassment that happens is essentially a proxy as an apology before a possible abuse or evaluation ( even if positive may be confused with ridicule). Put another way anxiety and emarassment is essentially saying to others "please dont hurt me" .
raccuia1 6 months ago
I can't overcome this crap. I hate being positive about myself. It'll kill me if I try. I'm only 15, and I play 5 musical instruments. I don't want to waste them. But i've wasted so many opportunities with them, I just have to face I can't live life to the full, or get the girl that I have feelings for. Life's a bitch, eh?
Grimzzx 7 months ago
Super awesome vidd
Guerrero3546 7 months ago
great vid!
Daveyolous 7 months ago
For god sake shes is a girl
how in the world she wantz to talk loud
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annyian23 7 months ago
You seem as though you disassociate yourself while your talking.
All I got from this 6 minute video is "Accept yourself." and "Accept others."
This is my constructive criticism. Get your thoughts together, list them, read them with emotion, and THEN make a video. You seem like you don't know what else to talk about.
happykins2 7 months ago
So never thinking about what people are thinking about you is simple to read and understand, but its really hard to apply it. No matter what, if I'm having a one on one conversation with someone, especially someone like a manager, supervisor, etc., I cant stop the repetetive racing thoughts going through my mind. While theyre talking to me about something important, Im thinking about how he/she sees me as a human being. Simply put... this is overwhelming and hard to deal with daily.
kgpatrick21 7 months ago 26
@kgpatrick21
The older you get, (I'm 56 next week) the more you don't care what people think about you.
SuperBeherenow 5 months ago 17
@SuperBeherenow But you shouldnt have to wait until your 56 to not care about what people think. And the way people are now a days doesnt help with social phobias either.
StriveParkour 2 months ago
@StriveParkour
You're right, someone shouldn't wait till they're 56 to not care about what people think.
But....when you are in your teens or 20's especially, your world is so much smaller,
and you base your self worth on those few people.
SuperBeherenow 2 months ago
@SuperBeherenow And then when you are at that age when you dont care what people think you are too old to enjoy life
honsemor 3 weeks ago
@honsemor
If you keep caring what other people think, you'll spend the rest of your life
not doing anything...for fear you'll embarrass yourself. It's "your" choice.
Get out and live your life while you have one. I used to be like you. You're
never too old to enjoy life.
SuperBeherenow 2 weeks ago
Respond to this video...
No, people with social anxiety do not judge other people. The way you say it, you couldn't possibly
have this disorder. No offense, but it's the truth. "We worry about what other people think about
us".
SuperBeherenow 5 months ago
@kgpatrick21 Try mindfulness meditation. Don't listen to this goofy woman, she is clueless.
MrGrevy 4 months ago
@kgpatrick21 Honestly the best way to overcome social barriers is to simply drop your care for other people. I'm not saying to be a jerk to people but assertiveness has alot to do with it. I used to have the same issues, now I have the opposite problem. My family and friends tell me that I'm more arrogant than I used to so don't make the same mistake I did when you decide to change. My problem is that I stopped caring about others and became egotistic, I overcame shyness, but look at the costs.
DJRedMEDIA 2 months ago
@kgpatrick21 I know you probably can't see it over the internet, but I went from a shy and conscience person to a narcissistic asshole that probably needs to care more about people. Just be careful when you transition people, you can hit the extreme. :P
DJRedMEDIA 2 months ago
ur hellla fiineee!! marry me!!
TheMaciel89 7 months ago
@RB902050
that touched me.
NE0Nwhip 7 months ago
appreciate you trying to help people out there as im one of them who needs the help, so thanks for the videos
stevedeckham 8 months ago
In future you need to lose the backing track. It was hard to concentrate on what you're saying sometimes.
stixflix06 8 months ago
Some people can overcome social anxiety much easier than others. Some are blessed with being born with good looks and a natural ability to socialize. Others are born not so fortunate and must resort to other means to overcome social anxiety. I am 100% convinced the only way I'll ever overcome social anxiety is for me to be one of the best skiers or be very good at many things. One day I hope to feel like I belong even if I have to risk dying in making an effort.
RB902050 8 months ago
you seem like a very sweet girl, thank you for the videos. hope you are doing well.
hughes0687 8 months ago
wtf
1bboyred1 8 months ago
i think im in love with you! :D :D
you speak exactly like i do, slow and kinda out of it. I really stress myself out over it, but i love how you have come to accept it, and being urself.
have an awesome life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
vermisultimo 8 months ago
You are to me like the perfect woman. You have a kind heart (very rare in this world). Oh, and you're hot! :)
omgbygollywow 8 months ago
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danceisfun43 8 months ago
this never helped at all :L
jezhwe 8 months ago
too hard to be happy it drains my energy and my happiness is only fleeting lasting no more that a day or 2 i like being by myself i dont need to think about ne thing its eaiser said than done its too hard
grega710 9 months ago
@grega710 i feel u.. i feel the same way I tell my boyfriend the same thing, and he tells me i need to fight and stop being a coward and im no coward so.... i will fight and i will try harder. just no im fighting with u :)
SHoward152 9 months ago
@SHoward152 thankyou very much well im sure if ur b/f was in our position he'd understand betta ty for ur reply
grega710 9 months ago
@grega710 no problem hang in there i just got the program the linden method program. it cost a ot but i got it for free. if your interested where i got it from send me a personal message and i'll let you know how u can get it for free.
SHoward152 9 months ago
DAE think she resembles Sandra Bullock?
nimchimpskii 9 months ago
Hi Emily. Great video, I just stumbled upon your videos recently. They've helped me out and given me some useful insight on social anxiety.
Also, I've got a question about this particular video... what is the name of the song you used in this video, and who wrote it? I enjoy it very much. Thanks!
bassman7530 10 months ago
i like this
dazeguy513 10 months ago
Thank you pretty
prototipass 10 months ago
good
ibmsyd11 10 months ago
Thank you
4331ivan 10 months ago
I want to know if you feel different at school, in everyday life.. where anxiety never ends?
my88music 10 months ago
Thanks for this video! Very helpful :) but no offence... by the slow and quiet way youre talking, you should probably take your own advice. haha
DanteDevil2727 10 months ago
she's really pretty, and she has a cool British accent!
MasterFrigginYoda 10 months ago
your really pretty!:)
tubeuser314 11 months ago
emily!! why r u talking so slow.. is that how u talk or did u developed that thing as a part of cure for SA?
23026614 11 months ago
search COURAGE WOLF on youtube. It has great advices too.
KnuckleBallz 11 months ago
WOW you are so beautiful.
sakinehbs 1 year ago
i have this too. i have found zazen and mindful meditation is working for me. 20 mins in morning and before bed. its ideal for worry / anxious feelings / panic attacks etc. have you tried it?
daleyboy50 1 year ago
You don't know shit. No offense meant but it's true.
bergalini 1 year ago
@bergalini i agree, when will she stfu
pianist231 11 months ago
@bergalini na im joking she is ok, she has the right point. She just talks so dang slow its annoying
pianist231 11 months ago
@pianist231 I liked your first comment better.
bergalini 11 months ago
Problem with me is that i get all the symptoms of social anxiety ( super dry throat , feeling sick and stuff like that ) , but i manage to filter all my thoughts . I mean i am like socialy awesome in all the social situations , but i still have these social anx symptoms , very fucking annoying
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MrSolmon123 1 year ago
Thanks for the video. Enjoyed it.
1TruthExposer 1 year ago
I can remember a shopping trip with my grandmother when I was 6 years old. I noticed all the people in the mall looking at me. It was like their eyes would attack my face every time I would look at them. And they secretly seemed to laugh at me. And I thought: Gee, this can´t be true, they can´t be observing me, that can´t be true! But it was. Years later I thought: This thing was already there when you were six.
johnnyolsen100 1 year ago
great stuff.. your lovely words put me at ease :)
eazy3deal 1 year ago
I suffered from severe social anxiety but now I am taking paroxetine (paxil) and it helped soooo much . Now I am the one that is the most outgoing in my group of friend. I LOVE IT !
ThePenguinProduction 1 year ago
now all we have to do is pay her
StevieStarry 1 year ago
You really need to talk faster. Like, are you a crack baby?
thedon4203333333 1 year ago
what is the music called? i like it.......x
glamourgirlholly 1 year ago
oh and by the way i love your accent
codylawson2005 1 year ago
thank you for the video. ive never reallly thought about it that way but im pretty sure your right. thanks again, nice video.
codylawson2005 1 year ago
I agree with tuanDinhVu, you are soo pretty, most everyone will accept and listen to you. but its harder when you know people arent accepting you.
KIGS1122 1 year ago
Beautiful and precious, thank you for sharing your gifts with us....oh and the music is cool too.
RyanRandolphYangTown 1 year ago
But you are pretty so it's easier for you. What if you are not that pretty, or not that intelligent or eloquent? That is what people are evaluating you on. That knowledge is what causes anxiety.
TuanDinhVu 1 year ago
your cute y would u be scare to talk sweetie.....
MrPhon1984 1 year ago
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duke1k 1 year ago
What's with the porn music? :)
Scrapattack13 1 year ago
You are pretty. btw, love the soundtrack.
tonycl568 1 year ago
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things get hard when it comes to anxiety fear thoughts and feelling but just know that there is hope. if i made it you can too trust me(: check out my video..
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God Bless everyone
littlelakeloco805 1 year ago
This is like telling someone who has cancer that they should just stop having cancer.
An Anxiety Disorder is a mental state where someone is NOT in control of their emotions; and your advice is to try and control them? I've suffered form AvPD for 6 years now, and believe me, I have struggled, and tried, and strived to get to the point where I can change my current perception of myself, but it is an impossible task. That is what makes these conditions so painful.
OliveSmack 1 year ago
I wish there were more people like you in the world...
xaiomanga 1 year ago
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Can u stop sayin EXCEPTING
Tunaluna777 1 year ago
@Tunaluna777 Can you stop talking the way you do? Can you not watch a video if you don't like it?
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago 46
@NoSocialAnxiety Except he wasn't talking, retard. harharharhar
thedon4203333333 1 year ago
@NoSocialAnxiety For someone not to like the video they must have watched it first. 15 people including yourself are stupid.
bergalini 1 year ago
@Tunaluna777 it's spelled 'accepting', genius.
sillydillydokieo 1 year ago
@Tunaluna777 Accepting*. Don't tell someone to not use a word if you can't even spell it correctly.
KittyzKatterz 1 year ago