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  • You should have put it down when it was young...

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  • @bxdass What the hell is wrong with you?!

  • Simple West I'm autistic myself so I would know I can see others myself and have reserced it myself pretty well and I can tell that kid just doesent like his dinner that's all :P

  • I don't know how parents get by having children with Autism. He is actually drinking way more than he is eating. Maybe Pediasure would be better. But either way it looks like a struggle. And just think, she has to go through this everyday, maybe 3 times a day. My heart goes out to you.

  • My youngest boy is PPD-NOS and has severe food issues. Been fighting a losing battle for about six years now :(

  • and autism is a VERY WIDE spectrum. You are not doctors and should NOT be trying to diagnose him.

  • GREAT! I cant get my child to eat ANYTHING!!! chicken nug... pbsandwiches with cheese. THATS IT!!! and meal times are so so much worse!!!

  • Then you don't know what autism is...educate yourself..and read the numerous comments other parents have written about their child with autism and how they can relate...and y would it make you mad??? Educate yourself and don't judge others because u have a problem relating to something u know nothing about...

  • That's not autism and he makes me mad

  • @kitsunelover11577 How do you know unless your an expert in autism or something? And if he makes you mad then don't watch the video then, simple

  • @servingthealiens Yup, very good point

  • Meal issues were such a problem when my son was young, that we kept a clock on the table. He had 15 minutes to eat. Meals are still on a schedule, 6 am, he eats school lunch at 12 pm, snack at home at 4 pm, dinner at 6 pm, snack at 8 pm. Each time he has 15 minutes. We no long have issues with meals, but I have been doing this for 17 years too.

  • this is a video of my cousin who has the same name is your son the same first name

  • That must have been very stressful with all that.

  • wow he is just like my son picky as ever hes 8 and autistic it was like finding his twin seriously from the laugh to his actions god bless ya

  • I'm just curious. Would Jonathan eat when he's really hungry? He would eat rather than starving, correct?

  • i used to never eat but my mum made me and now i cant stop eating

  • Awesome kid. I love your videos. Jonathan is so such a pleasure to watch, and you seem to have such a good relationship with him too. The children that I work with are a little younger, and probably lower-functioning on the spectrum, but there is one boy that reminds me of your son. He is very bright and funny, but a HUGE challenge behaviorally, and your videos help keep me sensitive and creative! Tell John he's great, and that he is helping somebody be a better teacher!

  • You are so patient,as im only 10 i have stress of only being of 2/8 boys in my family 6 girls (well i think my mom is having a girl) and 2 boys im the oldest boy (other one is 2) and I have stress with some of the younger ones and they dont have autism.Very nice job your doing!

  • why cant you just let your child be

  • @bunnyz324 and what is that supposed to mean?

  • @WESTMIDLANDSGIRL2K11 this could mean that your child tells you to leave them alone and child need a moment to self

  • i saw him take two bites...thats why he was frustrated prolly

  • @loone248 you are an ignorant jerk. kill yourself or don't watch, you moron.

  • @loone248 WHAT THE HELL

  • My son behaves EXACTLY this same way. He's 12. I just showed him this video and he was fascinated, it was like a lightning bolt connection. He hasn't ever been diagnosed as "autistic" though, just "sensory integration disorder". But mealtime is always a challenge and he makes up silly phrases like your son, acts silly. Like you, I'm used to it and am pretty patient, though sometimes (like when he refuses to get up off of the floor for school) I'm annoyed!

  • He did ok

  • You're doing great! You're probably used to this kind of behaviour, but it's amazing to see how relaxed you are. I don't think I would be the same... Keep up the good work, good luck with everything!

  • That kid needs spanked. WTF!

  • esh I wouldn't have had this patience. I would have probably just taken him outside or something

  • Could you please let me know how to contact you directly? I have an important question to ask.

    Cynthia

  • Could you please let me know how to contact you directly?  I have an important question to ask.

    Cynthia

    cynth321@ymail.com

  • @SocietysChlorine You first.

  • this is a serious question how is it being a mom with an autistic child is it hard

  • his a little scally wag haha thank you for being such a wonderfull mum i know it must be hard sometimes but so is life

  • HAHA he is so funny! I love it :D

    Sometimes I find it hard to keep a straight face with my kid - some of the things he comes up with. "Mumy I want kissie" haha what a character.

    I know its hard - I mean I am there every meal time. Its only funny when you're watching someone else's kid.

  • I really do admire your patience! I don't think I would be able to keep calm as much as you did... But I'm just 21 so I don't know how it must be to have kids (yet) :) eitherway, much respect to all the mothers!

  • Can I adopt this kid?

  • this kid ought to be a musician! 

  • How is he doing now?

  • He acts JUST like my brother! I think if they met they'd get along PERFECTLY. Drives you crazy sometimes though, that's for sure. I'll admit, I don't have the patience you have!

  • you know what? that's my problem with my kids. he has random bursts of acting this way, and people say he needs to be disciplined because he looks defiant. they don't get that he's not "acting retarded to piss me off". i don't even know how to explain it to people anymore.

  • @ediself I know what you are saying! I have the same problem. My son laughs when we discipline him, and goes on what would sound to others like disrespectful rants, but he doesn't really have awareness of what he is saying or who he is saying it to.

  • Oh my! This is my son in a couple of years. We go through this stuff all the time. I have a 40 lb 7 year old Aspie and getting him to eat is a nightmare especially if other kids are around.

  • I go through this almost everyday with my son. Everystep Everyday is a challenge. Patience is all we can be with these children. Some think I am ignoring his behavior, spoiling him, or letting him have his way, they don't understand what we go through on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing your video.

  • spoiled brat just smack his ass...

  • @sHaNeAlLeN91 do this and he will roll on the floor laughing until you lose your mind. better to keep your cool with those kids. thank you for the ignorant comment, at least you tried......

  • @sHaNeAlLeN91 they don't understand that. spanking isn't the answer. they also usually have high pain tolerances. name calling isn't helpful either, but I am seeing that you lack knowledge & intelligence, maybe even a heart.

  • what is he, a monkey?

  • he took two bites...:)

  • Wow! I just found out my son is autistic, and I find this video very familiar, as this is how dinner with him is EVERYNIGHT! How do you deal with it? It gets very frustrating for me.

  • woah

  • @11pouncey11 I don't care 4 cheez when it's cold nor do I care for pasty cheez like creme cheez or ricotta.

  • I'm an adult autistic woman. I tend to be very claustrophobic about eating and cannot stand when someone insists I eat. I feel nauseated and quite panicked when pushed in to such a corner. On the other hand, I'm not going to starve myself to death and will eat what is around when I am ready. Why is it I see so many mealtime battles with autistic kids on youtube? Sorry to chose your video to ask this but it happens to be the last one I'm watching today (in my bored youtube wandering :P)

  • I look after a boy 3-4 days a week who I highly suspect is mildly to moderately autistic. The parents just think its bad behaviour and yell at him but I can relate to this video. Mealtimes can be SOO frustrating. Bless parents like you who deal with it 24-7, and remain so calm. Keep up the good work!

  • you are very patient with this child, though a little too soft too.

    i have PDD-NOS (that also contains symptons of autism) and see some things of me in him. but my mother always said it to me like 5 times that i am not supposed to do that, and it didnt took an hour to teach me how to eat. maybe thats whats missing here

  • does he really have autism???? my son behaves exactly the same way, when he needs attention, and he never was diagnosed with autism! I recognize those sounds, the same movements... wow. are you sure???

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  • *spaaank* from day 1

    Looks like he was conditioned to this behavior all through out his life, and this is what he knows as normal.

  • Autism rose 200 % after childhood vaccine programs were mandated in the USA fact ! Autism in the USA is for the most part a childhood adverse reaction to Vaccines...Fact ! my child had a severe reaction to his MMR and has been autistic ever since....the Vaccine Manufactures know this and created these Vaccines as part of a attack on the people of the USA...we are being poisoned and our children weakened so as the elite emerge as the superior race ! FACT ! this is Genetics ! THE NWO ARE COWARDS !

  • He may not like the texture.

  • ur kid is adorable! and you have a lot of patience too!

  • hielijkt het erg op mijn zoon altijd problemen met eten elke dag 3x op een dag hetzelfde probleem nu is hij bijna 12 en ook die geluiden hetzelfde wel goed en fijn om te zien( hoe bizar dit ook klinkt )dat het niet alleen bij mij is en dit gedrag vertoont hij alleen maar thuis is erg moeilijk

  • i have alot of respect for you, you have alot of patience. my brother had autism and he passed on... but he was alot like jonathon... in every way... i couldnt help but notice even in the other videos that he likes beats and patterns... have you ever tried him to play in a marching band or drumming band.. or get a drum set of his own?? say hi to jon and your family :)

  • Omigoodness he is so cute

  • i showed a friend this video and they said ''is it right for her to bribe him with toys and playing out side" i responded its not a bribe its reinforment and it works...well most of the time lol you stayed very calm its not easy! you both did great. GOOD job eating jonathan!! :)

  • smack that kid :)

  • Same things I deal with at home everyday-my son is 6.

  • this situation is like me and my son. my son is autistic too, he's 11 years old. he can talk too. he's doing the same if he needs to eat. one day more than the other day. maybe it can help if you sit with him ? maybe not, every child with autism is different. how old is your son ?

  • Wow - I applaud your efforts on keeping your sangfroid towards your kid. I'm autistic too, but I do not have recollections of mealtime battles like this. Nevertheless, you did not yell at him and did not even spank him. I'm proud of you!

  • @fromwkfsmouth Thank you... I couldn't spank him.. and he did eat bites I didn't see.. so I can't always be right eiher. Being autistic is a challenge, I coach challenger baseball and love it. good for you to be so open about being autistic... keep being positive and thank you for the comment :)

  • @autismom6 8:02, isn't the phrase he said there not actually funny?

    This comment is not intended to be rude

  • @autismom6 is he in special ed

  • @fromwkfsmouth No one should hit nor yell at an autistic child. There are other ways. I feel hitting is a horrible thing, as autistic people have heightened senses & hitting is just plain cruel. Time out works, but should not be used a lot. Just stay on the level they are on and love them, and play with them and teach them, and talk to them, and make sure that they are very well loved. Autistic children can be so wonderful if only parents or caregivers know how to deal with them.

  • @fromwkfsmouth Why the fuck would anyone spank a child for not eating it's food?

  • You are doing a great job.. such patience. My son is Autistic and Ive had him on the GFCF diet for 7 months now. Seems to be doing great! Good luck to you all, and dont listen to ignorant people. Youre a warrior!

  • My son has similar behaviors, he has an Autism Spectrum diagnosis but he also has ADHD, he can't sit still, focus, or be quiet. He takes Intuniv (a non-stimulant ADHD med) and I have seen a huge improvement in this type of behavior. Bless you for your patience, I know it's difficult!

  • Autismom6, to begin with a huge compliment for you doing such an amazing job in raising your child. He's got a good sense of humor and a lovely steady home to grow up in. I love seeing things like this .. Love is what matters and eventually it pays off! My parents never were what I needed, so I know what I am talking about when I say this. Bless you both :)

  • Wow your lucky in a crazy sense, my 5yr old son has got ASD, OCD, ODD, ADHD and narcolepsy and I have to put him in a highchair to make him stay at the table. If not he will just not stay still. He only eats peas, carrots, potatoe and sauages for dinner and vegemite sandwhiches for lunch. He is huge on texture too though if he has something like rice or cous cous or anything like little balls he physically vomits his food. I would have to say out of all his problems eating is the worst.

  • my son does the same thing with repeating stuff over and over and fake laughing at himself. hes 7

  • theleighanna, if you work with autistic children, its very sad, you dont know much about autism. did you learn anything about it? if you would have, then you would know, that plenty autistic children make eye-contact. you cant just judge them by one criteria, everybody is different!!!!!!!!!!!

  • haha thats not autism thats a fuckin naughty child i work with autistic children look at him he has eye contact and perfect communication skills if anything he has fragile X

  • is this boy really autistic?

  • I totally get this!

    My 8 year old is autistic also and eats pretty much the same thing all 3 meals every day (for the last 4 or 5 years other than a year long spurt of ham sandwiches for lunch instead of PB&J). Hostess Mini muffins/or mini donuts and milk, PB&J, carrots, pretzels, cookies, strawberries or banana, and juice for lunch, and a turkey burger/hamburger, carrots, strawberries and milk for dinner. Occasionally I can squeeze in fish/chicken nuggets!

  • Ben also likes to get up and spin in circles when he eats, so a lot of times I just let him watch tv (it keeps him seated).

    Good luck, he is a lovely little boy!

  • Wow... this is something we deal with on a regular basis, but my Son is 5 and just diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome.

  • everything he does he looks for a reaction.

    kids not under wait... get over it when he doesnt want what you want. you give the kid a choice between liquid sugar and food what would you choose if you were addicted to sugar.

  • i don't know how people with autistic children deal with it. the way this kid is acting would personaly frusturate me to no end

  • People who are ignorant about autism should not make any rude comments because only a parent of an autistic child would know what a struggle it is to teach even simple stuff in day-to-day life that all normal people would take it for granted.

  • I suffer from Asperger's Autisim and it was very hard growing up as a child. I just wasn't able to act in a socially acceptable manner. It was frustrating for my family and for me. People that make vile comments when they have no idea how hard this disorder is to deal with and live with need to grow up. I still have tics to this day, like finger tapping and rocking, social introversion and mood issues. Keep getting the truth out there.

  • The difference is some autistic kids have issues with textures so they have real issues eating unlike you who was just a spoiled brat who didnt want to eat

  • I acted exactly like that at the dinner table... and I'm not Autistic. I would act up and my dad would smack me in the head. I learned quickly how to be a good boy and clean my plate.

  • You're lucky you're able to have him eat a sandwich. My autistic brother eats nothing but peanut butter and bread, though my parents have been informed to feed him real food despite any "battles."

  • I think you are rude. Do you have a child with Autism?

  • Thank you TayHay... seriously, have you noticed the ignorant people who make comments like that have NO IDEA what we go through on a daily basis.

  • Oh yeah it really makes me so mad. Oh and look, there is yet another comment here now, this fine example of a human being is insinuating that you should just smack your son in the head to make him eat. Makes me sick. You are doing a fantastic job :)

  • He has autism. He cannot help his actions. You need to be more understanding.

  • that reminds me on my own son. He has (high functioning) autism, too. He always makes strange noises, don´t want to eat- just like your son. Sorry, if my english were better I could write more but I don´t find the right words...

  • who's julie?

  • at least he is staying in the chair. mine won't do that. if we go out, we have to get a booth and trap him in.. when he is done or bored, he is trying to escape any way possible and if he can't then squealing and meltdowns start.

  • I also love how consistent you are. My parents had the same troubles with me when I was younger. I have Asperger's Syndrome. They always struggled to get me to eat.

  • I work with preschool autistic children and had the same problem with a little three-year-old boy. It took forever to get him to eat one bite. He also did not try new things. He simply would not. He was very sensitive about foods and how they felt.

  • youre a very patient mother :)

    We have to choose our battles ^^

    Good job and a big hug for you and your son.

  • I agree!!!!!!!!!!

  • that is very wrong! It doesn't matter if u were joking or not, comments like this are unnecessary.

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  • soo i'm a young mom and ive been researching autism because my son has been seeing speech pathologists for over a year now and they keep saying the same thing to me .. and its concerning sometimes i think he is autistic other times i fight tooth and nail to defend that he isn't ..... i just want some advice really before getting him tested because doctors havn't been helpinjg him and its frustrating.

    any advice that you could give would be amazing my son is only 2 when wa syoru son diagnosed?

  • I just found out my son has autism.Its hard for me so far but I have to learn more about autism.

  • the autism def. shows up here but this is an interesting kid, like i said the expressive and receptive language is appropriate and does not sound scripted , meaning he can understand verbal questions asked of him and knows how to quickly respond appropriately without the aid of a learned phrase such as " i dont want to eat " which usually come out more custom like "no eat , no eat, no eat NO EAT, NO EAT" or staring and flapping hands for example. i also wonder if there is some tourettes her

  • I dont mean to offend or challenge but there is very little that resembles autism in this vid.His expressive language is appropriate to the situation(altho antagonistic)and very authentic.Nothing scripted or echo lalic.His receptive language is fine. He looks to be getting a reaction from you and it looks like he knows just how to do that(wether it works or not)but that is a form of interaction that requires interpreting others actions.Clearly something is going on, but classic autism it is not.

  • and what are your qualifications to make that assessment on a ten minute portion of video where the child knew he was being videotaped?

  • I am assessing,really i was just commenting... based only on my experience as a skills trainer for two autistic boys. I am trained in a.b.a. therapy and was surprised to see alot of behaviors that are clearly high functioning and not classically autistic. i think i mentioned them...normally the kids that i have seen would not care either way if a video was being taken, or at least there would not be behaviors that demonstrated this... why are you being combative? only curious...

  • Sorry if I came off combative, I'm just trying to understand what makes you think that and if youre right or not. I mean, the autism shows up clearly in the other videos of him.

  • THANK YOU SAXXITUP! I get this stupidity alot...no 2 autistic children are alike, and too many people have opinions on something they know nothing about, I get alot of comments from "professionals" who "work with these kids, and they have NO CLUE IF THEY DO NOT LIVE WITH ONE!!! Thanks again, very well said!!

  • WTF? lawl!

  • My autistic friend likes his food cold and used to have meltdowns like this at school. He also never stops moving either.

    Did Jonathon know the camera was there?

    His dad used to make him pick out things to eat and he knew what to expect. I think that happed him. He had a list and could also try one new food a day. I think they had a two bite rule too.

    The autistic kids I have met all seem thristy and all have issues with food. It must be a common trait.

  • You handled that very well autismom6. <3

  • I think you are doing great.

  • thank you!!! that means alot!

  • Does Jonathan notice the camera? Was it disguised?

  • My friend had a sis who goes crazy with his food in Middle School, and the video you posted is just like him.

  • Haha, (slap), that's what my mom would have done. Although I was autistic, my mom didn't treat me as "special". I'm actually thankful for it. I can actually do things and I'm perfectly fine.

  • lol autistic people get treated like that

  • Special?

  • Then you were not autistic, you don't outgrow it, if you discipline does not cure autism,,, look it up, it is not funny either so watch your comments so you dont offend the wrong person...

  • Asperger's is a high functioning form autism. They LEARN over the years how to deal with things, unlike LFA like your son. Look it up.

  • Sorry that you misunderstood me.

  • Thanks for sharing!

  • What kind of sandwitch was he eating?

  • Looks like a meat sandwich with salad in it.

  • thanks!

  • hey where do you guys live it would be cool if you would come to pa and your son is s cute and hansome i just want eat him!!!! LOL no i am just joking he is cute and hansome though. it must be a challange for you and your husband having 2 normal kids and 1 autistic kid i really look up to people like that you guys are doing a good job!!!! kept up the good work!!!!!!!!

  • thank you

  • My daughter was just diagnosed with PDD-NOS and she has been a horrible eater since the day she was born. Horrible vomiting and texture issues once foods were introduced. I was getting so upset for a while that she would starve, but I put her on a gummy vitamin and now I am less stressed that she is getting the nutrients that she needs and I figure, she will eat when ready. Good luck with your son.

  • pdd-nos is a really shady and crappy diagnosis,, Jonathan was diagnosed with that too.. then I took him to a doctor who knew what the hell she was doing and gave him the autism diagnosis.. take your daughter to another doctor.. don't take that diagnosis, it accually hurts you because you wont get the help you need.. look into it.. please,

  • only watched 1 min of this vid, what your son is going through seems to me like a normal tantrum for his age, dont force him to eat though, itll only take longer and most likely his not gonna do what you say, either ask him politly or let him do it in his own time, hell get hungry eventually

    the trick is that you cant force someone with autism, you can ask them nicely though (you gotta figure out what this means for your son though, noone but him could tell you ...)

  • when my autistic 6 year old gives me a hard time about food then I just leave the food there and don't let her eat anything else. i do however keep the food to a few certain items that I know she has eaten before. luckily her food items has gone beyond just fried, cheesy, or crunchy.

  • My son who is 6 doesn't eat hardly anything. He will eat PBJ's and thats it. He is currently seeing a feeding therapist. My son didn't even eat a PBJ until he was 4.5 so this is SUPER hard to deal with. I feel what your going through.

  • My son was tube fed for a while. :(  Such challenging little sweeties... Hang in there, it gets better.

  • thank you!!!

  • I tried to take away my friend's brother's sandwich and offer him a pizza with a treat after, but the kid still doesn't react. Your right though that you need a food therapist.

  • I go through similar things when it is a non-preferred task. God bless you for not giving up! And I am restraining myself from going off on the person who has no idea what we go through! I have a friend with a autistic child who only eats french fries. The child is 9. IT is tragic. Thanks for the share.

  • my son doesn't eat as well as he should, but instead of forcing him to eat, i let him eat when he wants...which is usually breakfast and dinner, then give him a breakfast carnation shake to make up for any miss nutritions...try that =)

  • Amen...not to mention imagine someone posting a video of you eating online without you knowing it!

  • wow i applaud you mom bravo for how well you handle every thing ....nice job keep it up i know it's hard

  • Thank you so much. Yes it is hard, and challenging. Your kind comments are what keeps us positive and our chins up! GOd Bless You!

  • I have little brother who has asperger syndrome and we have meltowns often :D Thanks your tips and god bless :)

  • he did take 2

  • LOL yes he did!! You have to laugh or you'll cry!!! he is a challenge like this all the time about most everything he does not want to do!

  • He probably just hates the texture, and or flavor.  I have to agree that thing (appears as if its a hot dog) does look kind of gross. I have Asperger's myself and refuse to eat many foods (mostly junk foods thankfully).

  • It was his favorite.. Subway meatball sub!!!

    he has very fer things he does like, but this was one he does like!!

  • what a challenge (day by day) youve gone through with your son. i see you are a strong family, and a "supermom" [all the patience]

    is it true, that there are many different levels of autism?

    acording to my "view" i see him like in tantrums and he really needed attention

    there is something in the brain that makes him "tantrum" just like when a person deprived of sleep

    hello! all the way from manila,phils

  • Thank you, yes he likes the attention, but only on his terms and when you try to give him the positive attention, he is not interested much...he avoids things he is not wanting to do or is overwealmed by.

  • yeah i kno it was inconsiderate and rude and again, i'm sorry i'm just a stupid 11 yr old and i've actually been watching videos concerning autistic kids because i want to learn more about autism i really do.

  • i'm sorry that last comment from me was just mean i'm sorry

  • Thank you for the apology, that was very rude and inconsiderate. I hope you will educate yourself on behaviors with Autism, it takes alot of patience and love to get through a day with our son. Alot of people who are uneducated about the disorder feel that same way until they know more about it. Apology accepted, it was hurtful, but hopefully you will have more compassion for special needs children and thier families when watching videos such as these.