Society portrays men as sexual creatures and women as emotional. So if a woman cheats her man is going to think it's because she has feelings for the dude. It's not so much the physical part that would irritate them, but maybe the fact that he isnt enough for her and she cares about someone other than him. That shit would bruise a mans ego lol
I cheated on an ex... I thought we got past it, then I found out he cheated for the next year and a half. He's married with another kid, yet begs to take me out an accept his gifts. I bruised his ego but he is straving his heart for me. Maybe i should've kept it to myself!
Off of topic, but I absolutely love your look! Lipstick:on point, Hair:rocking, Eyes:smoking,Nails:too cute!...I LOVE IT ALL, & I LOVE YOU!!!!! God bless you and everything concerning you!
I think a lot of women tolerate infidelity because they're afraid. Afraid they can't do better. Afraid all men cheat so they stick with the devil they know. Men have a stonger sense of self. They'll be hurt but they know can fnd another woman. Women need to be more like men on this one.
@SDot2385 "Women need to be more like men on this one"...now if this ain't the truth I don't know what is. Women are in a sad state because they stand for any and everything.
I think it's harder for a man because they can't handle if their woman is emotionally attached to another man let alone sleeping with him. With women we are more worried about them sleeping with someone else.
You are correct Mrs Shanda. They can't take it. Bruises their ego and just seems to hurt so bad,but we've been conditioned too because often times even when me do cheat the women will still remain faithful. So definitely a double standard. Woman are held in a different regard than men in this area. .
All that "emotional connection" bs how much can you emotionally connect to someone in one day or a few hours that emotion bs is usually used as an excuse...they have women who just like to fuck, do as much dirt as these men and wont think twice about it...feeding her soul??? Puh-leeze he is feeding that Y....shit has nothing to do with gender I agree with @bigboyhollywood and @reneemcwhite
It depends on the person regardless of gender. I'm not sure if I could ever forgive my girl if she cheated on me. I believe it's equally as difficult for women to forgive infidelity as it is for men. Some people are more tolerant than others. I'm not sure how I would react to be honest.
I think it is just one those double standards. Men have big egos as well and thats why they cant handle it. Me and my husband had this discussion and he admitted that it is an ego thing and almost territorial. (hope i spelled that right)
I think its in the physical make up as well..women are recievers it drives them KRAZEE to know you have recieved another mans seed (Semen) They don't want anyone in their pot.
this is the truth hun.. the whatif game is fun, but i feel alot of the responses are watered-down... i feel that men think we're their possesion so its like its not right when you're recieving but its ok to give?? smh the world is a very bias place. a cheat is a cheat
No they cant!! men are more sensitive than women they really cant handle their pride being hurt or another man on " their turf" so territorial. me & my guy talked about it he said if we move in together im paying the bills and U CHEAT ON ME im going to seriously hurt you
I don't think it's harder for them I just think we as women are more willing. We hang on to things and people in a way that men don't. We will swallow our pride and put up with things that men wont. It doesn't mean it's easier for us to do....it just means we are willing to deal with what's hard for us and they wont. I also agree with sugasweets25 100%
First I have to say I love your channel.. Second, its funny that this is your subject. I was just having this conversation with a few friends and we came to the conclustion that men can not handle it.. and you are right they do tend to either become violent or extra possive... But the crazy thing is that this could be the same man the cheated on you and did u ditry... you forgave him and said you would move on. But let you do the same.He would never ever let you live it down..So sad but very tru
I agree, with all that you said. I think that men do have a harder time with infidelity. In our society men are just slapped on the wrist when they cheat, but women are called all sorts of hoes and bbbbbs. Men and women can cheat for just sex or for emotional connections. Either way it is wrong in my opinion. Men ususally think of their ego and how they will look to others just as much as it being about someone having what they feel they own. Good video.
There is a double standard, because of society and the fact that thats just the way it is, so most Women will forgive a Man at least once, I feel after once then its abuse and something Hes gonna continue, but as far as a Woman especially if youre that Mans Wife that Man looks at You as His everything His Wife His Mama His Queen, he holds You to such a higher standard even if He doesnt completely exspress that, He does
I so agree with your statement about ride or die chicks. Taking someone back after cheating in NOT ride or die. It makes me wonder why do we accept cheating amongst other things in relationships that we know with our God given sense aren't right?! honestly, I'm about to be 30 no children, never married and I'm scared. The cheating, lies, like I'm not ready to settle for *blank* to say I'm ride or die.
its harder for men to take a woman back who's cheated because he knows that females do that stuff for emotional reasons where as most men do it for physical pleasure. but men forgive cheating way easier than women do because they know when to let shit go. he really has to love you for him to take you back after somethin like that...men are more sensitive than women 3:
NO, NO, NO!!! I agree Shanda. Men generally cannot handle a women cheating on them and i think it boils down to 1 simple principle......when a man cheats, its generally just about sex. BUT, when a woman cheats its usually about an emotional connection. That new "side piece" is probably feeding her soul. And once a man learns that another man has crept in on what he thought was his emotional "territory", all bets are OFF!
I will never forgive my husband if he cheats....its crazy because If i was to cheat i think he would kill the man not me..but he will put his hands on me
First of all, let me say for you Shanda what you did not say in this video. BECAUSE you are a real woman, if Scoop wasn't satisfying you in any way, you would simply leave him. There would be no cheating. You would not do to him, what you would not want done to you.
Secondly, women are definitely more forgiving of infidelity and for all the wrong reasons. I am so sick of hearing women go on and on about how they love themselves, then turn around and tolerate being cheated on. Low Self Esteem!
No, men can not handle their woman cheating on them even if they cheated. My ex cheated on me and got a chick pregnant and like a FOOL, I continued with the relationship. While we were arguing one day I admitted I had cheated on him. On top of me cheating his ego became even more bruised because he admitted that he did not have any suspicion of my infidelity whatsoever. From then on he said all he could think about was me doing those freaky things I did with him with someone else. We broke up.
@vanessa8504 Wow! I know a lady who has let her husband make 3 kids with 3 different women during their marriage, and yes, they are still married today. Extra bad part about it, one of his baby mommas was pregnant at the same time as the wife!!
THE SHOW IS LOVE N HIP HOP, EMILY SAID SHE WILL RIDE OR DIE FOR HER MAN (FAB)........WITH HER OLD BUBBLE HEAD SELF.......BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY EVERY BODIES GROWN..........
I think it's harder for men because they know most of the time sex also involves emotion from women, and knowing that another man got your sex can also mean he has you period.....It becomes territorial, and the thought of you your with another man will always be in his mind.
Women aren't more forgiving because we never trust again and always think negative at the slightest change in his pattern though we may take them back its hell there after and if a man takes you back he is either gonna disrepect you at every chance he gets or call you all kinds of whores and dump you.
@MsTamicoshere Very good point about women never trusting again so that would mean that she hasn't forgiven. I see no use in me staying with a man who'll cheat on me, I'd be too paranoid about getting AIDS or any other STD for that matter.
No they can not take take a women cheating. They feel that once you give the love to someone else they now can have you . Yes, its easier for a women to forgive. This was my life last year. My husband cheated spit in my face and left to Jersey to be with the other women . He was there for about 8days. He came back everything was good between us for about 5 months but then he could not believe I would take him back with out me try to get back at him for what he did. He question my every move. lol
i think that when it comes to infidelity, it is harder for men to forgive because women cheat with their heart and emotions while men cheat with their penis.
Hey Shan, you keep lookin' better & better every time you film! :) lovin' it girl.
So yeah...about the topic, it really just depends...not every woman can forgive for infidelity so it is tough to say for a man's perspective. Cheating is wrong period, if you want to sleep with other people, then just say so, spare the lies & pain!
LADIES!!!How To Tell if Your Man is Cheating....What you do is fix your man a bath, watch him sit in the tub. If them balls float to the top. Them nuts is empty he cheating...LOL
I believe it is eaiser for women to forgive than men, because in this society women are used to men cheater more than women cheater on their man. It just earks me because why should is it that a man cannot accept a woman cheating, just as a woman can? Man can become violet and it can infuriate them because men like to have control over their women, and if they know that another man is seeing their woman then that makes the man feel inferior or intimdated./ Makesthemfeelliketheyhavelostcontrol
I said the same thing men definitely are more hesitant to forgive infidelity than women, they are physical beings and just the thought of their wife/girl having sex with someone will definitely create a man down situation for that female and possible whoever she cheated with, but if it were them cheating a woman is expected suck it up and keep it moving. Great Topic.
Women forgive cause they think they man will change but men they cant let it go because women are looked as the person who is suppose be faithful and keep the relationship together.
Society portrays men as sexual creatures and women as emotional. So if a woman cheats her man is going to think it's because she has feelings for the dude. It's not so much the physical part that would irritate them, but maybe the fact that he isnt enough for her and she cares about someone other than him. That shit would bruise a mans ego lol
baddestbarbii 17 hours ago
I cheated on an ex... I thought we got past it, then I found out he cheated for the next year and a half. He's married with another kid, yet begs to take me out an accept his gifts. I bruised his ego but he is straving his heart for me. Maybe i should've kept it to myself!
hypah616 1 week ago
Off of topic, but I absolutely love your look! Lipstick:on point, Hair:rocking, Eyes:smoking,Nails:too cute!...I LOVE IT ALL, & I LOVE YOU!!!!! God bless you and everything concerning you!
MilknHoney09 4 weeks ago
i agree 100%, and i think you're so beautiful. you're my new idol. WURK
Mimejohnson 1 month ago
AH,,, I didnt know you had another channel,,,Im subbin!
sugawallz910 1 month ago
This video has given me much more strength!
MissJacque87 1 month ago
so true about the ride or die chick, thumbs up on dat one.
karma499 1 month ago
I think a lot of women tolerate infidelity because they're afraid. Afraid they can't do better. Afraid all men cheat so they stick with the devil they know. Men have a stonger sense of self. They'll be hurt but they know can fnd another woman. Women need to be more like men on this one.
SDot2385 1 month ago 4
@SDot2385 "Women need to be more like men on this one"...now if this ain't the truth I don't know what is. Women are in a sad state because they stand for any and everything.
lrrichards1218 1 month ago
I think it's harder for a man because they can't handle if their woman is emotionally attached to another man let alone sleeping with him. With women we are more worried about them sleeping with someone else.
ItspronouncedJulia 1 month ago
You are telling the truth!!! I don't think men can handle women cheating. I was told if I was with another man that I would get "burnt!"
treylove8 1 month ago
what?? of course men can't forgive their women cheating, that's why we're such good liars, lol.
frau4bzna 1 month ago
Tell it MA!!! I agree 100% on the Ride or Die chick...they have it twisted. Men can't take it because they would have a bruised ego! Luv the topic...
MsLadyKanKan 1 month ago
Thank you Lady Shanda for commenting on the "ride or die chick" topic! Many ladies and young girls have that all confused.
SexxiiBlaque 1 month ago
You are correct Mrs Shanda. They can't take it. Bruises their ego and just seems to hurt so bad,but we've been conditioned too because often times even when me do cheat the women will still remain faithful. So definitely a double standard. Woman are held in a different regard than men in this area. .
LifeIsMyTeacher 1 month ago
I agree with you and man will want to put his hands on you if you cheat!
MsMamamo1 1 month ago
All that "emotional connection" bs how much can you emotionally connect to someone in one day or a few hours that emotion bs is usually used as an excuse...they have women who just like to fuck, do as much dirt as these men and wont think twice about it...feeding her soul??? Puh-leeze he is feeding that Y....shit has nothing to do with gender I agree with @bigboyhollywood and @reneemcwhite
NiqCacho 1 month ago
It depends on the person regardless of gender. I'm not sure if I could ever forgive my girl if she cheated on me. I believe it's equally as difficult for women to forgive infidelity as it is for men. Some people are more tolerant than others. I'm not sure how I would react to be honest.
BigboyHollywood 1 month ago
PLEASE tell us what lipcolor you are wearing! You are giving me LIFE, Shanda!
MissEmbrya 1 month ago
I think it is just one those double standards. Men have big egos as well and thats why they cant handle it. Me and my husband had this discussion and he admitted that it is an ego thing and almost territorial. (hope i spelled that right)
reneemcwhite 1 month ago
Men become bitter after they've been Cheated on
teaundra 1 month ago
omg!!! i agree with the ride or die chick
msyana80 1 month ago
I think its in the physical make up as well..women are recievers it drives them KRAZEE to know you have recieved another mans seed (Semen) They don't want anyone in their pot.
FlygirlTMT 1 month ago
this is the truth hun.. the whatif game is fun, but i feel alot of the responses are watered-down... i feel that men think we're their possesion so its like its not right when you're recieving but its ok to give?? smh the world is a very bias place. a cheat is a cheat
MZHUEY100 1 month ago
Gorgeous, Thank you 4 the conversation!
stilettojo 1 month ago
Hi!! I want to subscribe but it is saying you tube not avail?
cheapelectricity 1 month ago
No they cant!! men are more sensitive than women they really cant handle their pride being hurt or another man on " their turf" so territorial. me & my guy talked about it he said if we move in together im paying the bills and U CHEAT ON ME im going to seriously hurt you
sugarfreenow 1 month ago
I love you Shanda!!!!
ThePrettynikki610 1 month ago
I don't think it's harder for them I just think we as women are more willing. We hang on to things and people in a way that men don't. We will swallow our pride and put up with things that men wont. It doesn't mean it's easier for us to do....it just means we are willing to deal with what's hard for us and they wont. I also agree with sugasweets25 100%
kissy728 1 month ago
First I have to say I love your channel.. Second, its funny that this is your subject. I was just having this conversation with a few friends and we came to the conclustion that men can not handle it.. and you are right they do tend to either become violent or extra possive... But the crazy thing is that this could be the same man the cheated on you and did u ditry... you forgave him and said you would move on. But let you do the same.He would never ever let you live it down..So sad but very tru
sunnishowers 1 month ago
I agree, with all that you said. I think that men do have a harder time with infidelity. In our society men are just slapped on the wrist when they cheat, but women are called all sorts of hoes and bbbbbs. Men and women can cheat for just sex or for emotional connections. Either way it is wrong in my opinion. Men ususally think of their ego and how they will look to others just as much as it being about someone having what they feel they own. Good video.
empressjahada 1 month ago
YOU HAIR LOOKS AHHHHH-MAZINGGGGGGGG <3
mrobins90 1 month ago
There is a double standard, because of society and the fact that thats just the way it is, so most Women will forgive a Man at least once, I feel after once then its abuse and something Hes gonna continue, but as far as a Woman especially if youre that Mans Wife that Man looks at You as His everything His Wife His Mama His Queen, he holds You to such a higher standard even if He doesnt completely exspress that, He does
sheleahw 1 month ago
I so agree with your statement about ride or die chicks. Taking someone back after cheating in NOT ride or die. It makes me wonder why do we accept cheating amongst other things in relationships that we know with our God given sense aren't right?! honestly, I'm about to be 30 no children, never married and I'm scared. The cheating, lies, like I'm not ready to settle for *blank* to say I'm ride or die.
moniquedanielle82 1 month ago
its harder for men to take a woman back who's cheated because he knows that females do that stuff for emotional reasons where as most men do it for physical pleasure. but men forgive cheating way easier than women do because they know when to let shit go. he really has to love you for him to take you back after somethin like that...men are more sensitive than women 3:
pnkpath 1 month ago
NO, NO, NO!!! I agree Shanda. Men generally cannot handle a women cheating on them and i think it boils down to 1 simple principle......when a man cheats, its generally just about sex. BUT, when a woman cheats its usually about an emotional connection. That new "side piece" is probably feeding her soul. And once a man learns that another man has crept in on what he thought was his emotional "territory", all bets are OFF!
ScandalousCMJ 1 month ago 26
@ScandalousCMJ Right on...you have hit the nail on the head!!!!
MzChellesoul 1 month ago
@talwoang3l deep....and so true!
speerrituall1 1 month ago
I will never forgive my husband if he cheats....its crazy because If i was to cheat i think he would kill the man not me..but he will put his hands on me
Mzshondagirl 1 month ago
you'e so stunnig! <3
cobainbride 1 month ago
First of all, let me say for you Shanda what you did not say in this video. BECAUSE you are a real woman, if Scoop wasn't satisfying you in any way, you would simply leave him. There would be no cheating. You would not do to him, what you would not want done to you.
Secondly, women are definitely more forgiving of infidelity and for all the wrong reasons. I am so sick of hearing women go on and on about how they love themselves, then turn around and tolerate being cheated on. Low Self Esteem!
quietbeauty1 1 month ago
No, men can not handle their woman cheating on them even if they cheated. My ex cheated on me and got a chick pregnant and like a FOOL, I continued with the relationship. While we were arguing one day I admitted I had cheated on him. On top of me cheating his ego became even more bruised because he admitted that he did not have any suspicion of my infidelity whatsoever. From then on he said all he could think about was me doing those freaky things I did with him with someone else. We broke up.
vanessa8504 1 month ago
@vanessa8504 Wow! I know a lady who has let her husband make 3 kids with 3 different women during their marriage, and yes, they are still married today. Extra bad part about it, one of his baby mommas was pregnant at the same time as the wife!!
BLU3R0S3S1 1 month ago
Men can dish it but they definitely can't take it
nettiegonehealthy 1 month ago
THE SHOW IS LOVE N HIP HOP, EMILY SAID SHE WILL RIDE OR DIE FOR HER MAN (FAB)........WITH HER OLD BUBBLE HEAD SELF.......BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY EVERY BODIES GROWN..........
firstlady2323 1 month ago
your makeup is on point in this episode!!!
lotosmart 1 month ago
i know what show ur talking about!!!!!! :)
kbearsmusik 1 month ago
what website did you purchase your contacts at ?
TrueToSelf1st 1 month ago
.........and you know how men think, they'll be thinking you have done all kinds of freaky stuff with the other man and it just eats away at them.
sugasweets25 1 month ago
I think it's harder for men because they know most of the time sex also involves emotion from women, and knowing that another man got your sex can also mean he has you period.....It becomes territorial, and the thought of you your with another man will always be in his mind.
sugasweets25 1 month ago 10
@sugasweets25 I agree with you 100%
IBleedPurpleFuchs 1 month ago
You look super gorgeous...:)
MsTamicoshere 1 month ago
Women aren't more forgiving because we never trust again and always think negative at the slightest change in his pattern though we may take them back its hell there after and if a man takes you back he is either gonna disrepect you at every chance he gets or call you all kinds of whores and dump you.
MsTamicoshere 1 month ago
@MsTamicoshere Very good point about women never trusting again so that would mean that she hasn't forgiven. I see no use in me staying with a man who'll cheat on me, I'd be too paranoid about getting AIDS or any other STD for that matter.
BLU3R0S3S1 1 month ago
No they can not take take a women cheating. They feel that once you give the love to someone else they now can have you . Yes, its easier for a women to forgive. This was my life last year. My husband cheated spit in my face and left to Jersey to be with the other women . He was there for about 8days. He came back everything was good between us for about 5 months but then he could not believe I would take him back with out me try to get back at him for what he did. He question my every move. lol
jaRwalker 1 month ago
@jaRwalker Are you still with him?
BLU3R0S3S1 1 month ago
i think that when it comes to infidelity, it is harder for men to forgive because women cheat with their heart and emotions while men cheat with their penis.
ta1woang3l 1 month ago
Women seem to be more forgiving. More so if children are involved.
TheSasha4578 1 month ago
Hey Shan, you keep lookin' better & better every time you film! :) lovin' it girl.
So yeah...about the topic, it really just depends...not every woman can forgive for infidelity so it is tough to say for a man's perspective. Cheating is wrong period, if you want to sleep with other people, then just say so, spare the lies & pain!
malicemajesty 1 month ago
You remind me of TONYATKO sooooo much
DJDREXTV 1 month ago
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LADIES!!!How To Tell if Your Man is Cheating....What you do is fix your man a bath, watch him sit in the tub. If them balls float to the top. Them nuts is empty he cheating...LOL
DJDREXTV 1 month ago
Women are more forgiving...
DJDREXTV 1 month ago
you look beautiful
cynmille2000 1 month ago
Love the lip color, whispy lashes,what are you up to...... Lol, great topic
tbell1967 1 month ago
IS ALL ABOUT THE EGO
AGZVLOG 1 month ago
I love looking at you! Not gay but you have great features, great makeup and banging hair!
jlcsharp 1 month ago
I believe it is eaiser for women to forgive than men, because in this society women are used to men cheater more than women cheater on their man. It just earks me because why should is it that a man cannot accept a woman cheating, just as a woman can? Man can become violet and it can infuriate them because men like to have control over their women, and if they know that another man is seeing their woman then that makes the man feel inferior or intimdated./ Makesthemfeelliketheyhavelostcontrol
99SweetCheecks 1 month ago
its all on the individual though popular opinion is men find it harder!
mscandyx0x0 1 month ago
I said the same thing men definitely are more hesitant to forgive infidelity than women, they are physical beings and just the thought of their wife/girl having sex with someone will definitely create a man down situation for that female and possible whoever she cheated with, but if it were them cheating a woman is expected suck it up and keep it moving. Great Topic.
MRSSAXTON1968 1 month ago
I believe its easier for women forgive, men don't forgive like women.
AishiaiFication 1 month ago
Women forgive cause they think they man will change but men they cant let it go because women are looked as the person who is suppose be faithful and keep the relationship together.
chontaye 1 month ago
I think it IS harder for men to forgive infidelity. It seems to do something to their 'egos'.
Shanda, please let us know in the next upcoming Fat Friday what lipstick that is you're wearing in this vid. It looks great on you!
MfromNO 1 month ago
women definitely forgive much easier than men...i dont understand why though...i think for men its a territorial thing...great topic shanda
michellestanley100 1 month ago