I honestly cannot help you. The only thing i can relate to is the confusion of what you feel and the frustration of labeling the condition. I admire you.. you're amazing.
13. individual scores extremely high on all intelligence test (not just IQ) and emotional intelligence test (not just EQ) -is gifted in BOTH departments
12. Individual ABHORS Imposed structure and routine-any structure one will accept is self created and nonauthoritarian in nature. Does better in chaos than highly structured enviroments. The complete opposite of AS.
4. individual is gifted in mathmatics, and technology, but not to such an extent as to be impatient or lack social functioning: prefers people over machines.
5. Individual although discriminate about social bonding forms relationships with other individuals at rates that cause some or most others to feel the breaks should be pressed. Gets to know people at alarming speed.
6, Individual is secure enough to alienate people who don't "Get it"
if there is a psychological term for this condition I don't know it. Sympthoms:
1. Indiviudal apparentally has NO fear of abandonment nor rejection.
2. Individual reaches out-a little too much, in emotional distress.
3. Individual is empathetic to such an extreme that when others describe their problems one will sometimes alienate the complaining party by advocating extreme solutions where other individuals feel moderate to conservative solutions are the proper ones
The hallmarks of aspies seem to be that they "don't like people-they prefer machines" also they are very analytical and left brained. What if My Left brain is just hyperactive and my right brain is normal to elevated as well?
it either event it's not either condition. I'm mechanically and mathmatically gifted, there's no genetic cause for what I have. Maybe I got diagnosed with AS because the way I relate to my family (the people I depend on) is somewhat autistic to them. If I need help with something I NEED HELP WITH SOMETHINg and Can be quite beligerent about getting it-they sometimes feel as if they're just a means to an end to me .nothing could be further from the truth.
I just had needs as a child that most children didn't have-my diet, my handwriting, etc. But people traditonally place what seems more accurate on the OPPOSITE end of the spectrum. because autism IS a spectrum, and as high functioning as AS is it's STILL on the opposite side-It seems WIlliam's syndrome would be closer to the truth.
as I was the one that had long felt my mother should leave my father for the way he treated her and all of us. I was the one that the MINUTE I found out my best female friend was being abused by the guy she was staying with shelled out hundreds of dollars to put her on a bus back to her family who was hopefully better to her. I was the one that heavily related to characters in books and movies and pop culture. I don't know HOW i got diagnosed with AS.
it's funny they diagnosed me with asperger's and it's always seemed to me that the real reason they suspected that was because of a marked lack of displayed empathy. But whenever I did display empathy i was usually the one recondmending a drastic course of action-as in I was overwhelmed by it. I was the one that thought the girls I liked who were being abused should divorce/dump their boyfriends/husbands and cut them completely from their lives
For comparison, the criteria for DSM-IV inhibited RAD were: absence of a discriminated, preferred adult, lack of comfort seeking for distress, failure to respond to comfort when offered, lack of social and emotional reciprocity, and emotion regulation difficulties.
"Disinhibited attachment disorder" wouldn't work either because I am HIGHLY discriminate about who I "Attach" to-it's not like I don't profile the individuals that I DO form RAPID relationships with. It's just that everything people would consider the "ordinary" "Getting to know" someone stage is ,,compressed into a timetable that leaves people who are timid terrified and leaves room only for the brave.
detachment has NOTHING to do with this-this is quite the opposite in nature. Borderline would make no sense, borderline individuals push people away BEFORE they can push THEM away as a means of protecting themselves because at the cost is a chronic fear of abandonment. I imagine most humans have at least some fear of abandonment. This is the OPPOSITE: it's RAPID ATTACHMENT-without pushing people away-without fear of abandonment, without regard to consquence.
I work w/ kids that have the same issues that u went through. The abandonment thing can cause Reactive Detachment Disorder (RAD). But reading ur profile it says there is a history of Aspergers which is a diagnosis I have also worked w/. I don't believe that ur issue is Borderline Personality Disorder b/c then u would be more of a feeling of detachment from others emotionally. Or, u would express emotions inappropriately. I think what u need to do is learn how to express urself more appropriately
It's kind of funny but as I watched this video, the first thing that popped out of my mouth is "autism". It was my fiance who spotted your prior asperger's diagnosis on your profile. I have autism as well. What you are describing is classic autism on the net. I just recently participated in a research study on this very subject. Autism isn't a lack of empathy. I feel an incredible amount of empathy for my fellow human being, perhaps more than others. Hope this helps.
you are freakin out man! no need to do so. master your mind, allow your self to want things and try not caring so much about random shit. would also help to not think so much. can take years and years of work to pull these things off so good luck
Duno, I got a friend request.. so I will say this, You need to do what is best for you, screw the opinions.. and screw the comments... Just be you and stop sweating all the crap
When I was growing up, I was small and skinny. Plus, my parents were physically abusive so it was "normal" to be shy and timid. Oddly enough, I was very outgoing, especially with theater, which I had no problem. In a way, I can relate to you. I can perform in front of hundreds of people and so long as I am focused in the character or moment, it's all good. I don't know how to take compliments very well, which is strange to me, but I think it comes from my childhood. I can talk to anyone.
Hi Paul, you will not believe this but I work with companies to help their staff to become more like you (no boundries or less barriers)! Where most people loose the ability to form strong instant relaytionship by the time they are 8 to 12 years old, you may have missed this level of development previously but it sounds like you are growning now. Your emotions are a guide follow your positive emotions and feel the benifits...
what I meant by boundaries is that things move faster for me than most people in relationships. I'm not interested in getting to know people on a superficial level and this can alienate the shit out of people who are either VERY reserved or who are Game players. I'm really not interested in talking to someone for months or even years on end, waiting for them to get comfortable enough to open up to me.
those who withdrawn -ARE!- in a serious crisis; whereas, those who are seperate -just like to keep their nose out of everyone's business. and there's absolutely nothing wrong with respeting other people like that, fire : )
people who become nosey, will notice tons and tons of problems in a very short amount of time.
try choosing who you allow to come in. do not be afraid to profile (clothing, lifestyle, belief in god/no belief in god, hobbies, etc) who you allow in
try keeping a journal of daily affirmations. what worked for me is to come up with a 'Words of Wisdom' Quote of the day. And just meditate on that. for me, it helped me know the difference between 'separation' and 'isolationism/withdrawn'. there is a huge difference.
you seem to be better at one on one conversation and choose to know a person on a much 'quieter' and personal level than those who are excessively assertive (ie one who meets lots of people at once; just to be the ring-leader)
@ marketing 'logos?'
i grew up humbled (low-middle income)
PS - i noticed these things early on just as you ; )
We are usually attractive soul mates on here, so u have been around many times over together..many have issues that are related to child hood abandonment, so would rather bolt than have u leave, often they will be nasty about it too, so u have to be restrictive with personal details. its not a bad thing to share, its just knowing when to stop or when to trust someone. everyone is being triggered right now into anger & conflict. other people are just drifting through on the conveyor belt of life.
HI YOU ARE SO LIKE ME :) just remember that you have to be careful who you let into your life but in the same token if you are honest and have nothing to fear then dont worry just be ya self ...most people want friends that are worse people than them so they feel better about themselves ...who cares babe you just remember you are a nice person ...dont worry about people likeing you if they dont fk them
Strangers online are easily avoided if you need to. Anyways you sound like you have a lot on your mind. Thank you for sending me an add request. Always good to reach out for a warm caring hand.
Complete strangers offer a human sounding board of random response, which helps us to speak our deepest feelings out straightaway. A closer social circle can be a nuisance to discussion of deeper feelings because you have to face them much more frequently and therefore have to deal wihth a whole range of possibilities that could get tiresome if run into in a negative way repeatedly.
Everyone has their own pace. Hell, I have a problem with my wife when she starts in on my pace and asserting her ideas of how things should be and then have a hard time communicating my feeling to her in a positive way...because I feel that my boundaries have been overstepped.
you are who you think you are ^^ don't worry about whether you have a problem or not...go with the flow and feel what you can from everything. You can enjoy books for opening insight...search out info on the net, but finding people can give other views to share. It can be easy to talk with people on all different levels. I leave it open, but I feel out the air of people before I get into deeper discussions.
I honestly cannot help you. The only thing i can relate to is the confusion of what you feel and the frustration of labeling the condition. I admire you.. you're amazing.
iNinjaPenquin 1 month ago
13. individual scores extremely high on all intelligence test (not just IQ) and emotional intelligence test (not just EQ) -is gifted in BOTH departments
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
12. Individual ABHORS Imposed structure and routine-any structure one will accept is self created and nonauthoritarian in nature. Does better in chaos than highly structured enviroments. The complete opposite of AS.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
7. individual feels that the world is emotionally timid-As a "run to" in a world that's inclined to "Run away"
8. Individual heavily relates to finctional characters-To such an extent that it's almost as if he knows them personally.
9. Individual has few if any secrets-is an open book.
10. Individual has a deep rooted need to expose their emotional underworld to the public.
11. individuals "emotional clock" seems to move at least 50% faster than everyones around them.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
4. individual is gifted in mathmatics, and technology, but not to such an extent as to be impatient or lack social functioning: prefers people over machines.
5. Individual although discriminate about social bonding forms relationships with other individuals at rates that cause some or most others to feel the breaks should be pressed. Gets to know people at alarming speed.
6, Individual is secure enough to alienate people who don't "Get it"
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
if there is a psychological term for this condition I don't know it. Sympthoms:
1. Indiviudal apparentally has NO fear of abandonment nor rejection.
2. Individual reaches out-a little too much, in emotional distress.
3. Individual is empathetic to such an extreme that when others describe their problems one will sometimes alienate the complaining party by advocating extreme solutions where other individuals feel moderate to conservative solutions are the proper ones
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
The hallmarks of aspies seem to be that they "don't like people-they prefer machines" also they are very analytical and left brained. What if My Left brain is just hyperactive and my right brain is normal to elevated as well?
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
it either event it's not either condition. I'm mechanically and mathmatically gifted, there's no genetic cause for what I have. Maybe I got diagnosed with AS because the way I relate to my family (the people I depend on) is somewhat autistic to them. If I need help with something I NEED HELP WITH SOMETHINg and Can be quite beligerent about getting it-they sometimes feel as if they're just a means to an end to me .nothing could be further from the truth.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
I just had needs as a child that most children didn't have-my diet, my handwriting, etc. But people traditonally place what seems more accurate on the OPPOSITE end of the spectrum. because autism IS a spectrum, and as high functioning as AS is it's STILL on the opposite side-It seems WIlliam's syndrome would be closer to the truth.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
as I was the one that had long felt my mother should leave my father for the way he treated her and all of us. I was the one that the MINUTE I found out my best female friend was being abused by the guy she was staying with shelled out hundreds of dollars to put her on a bus back to her family who was hopefully better to her. I was the one that heavily related to characters in books and movies and pop culture. I don't know HOW i got diagnosed with AS.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
it's funny they diagnosed me with asperger's and it's always seemed to me that the real reason they suspected that was because of a marked lack of displayed empathy. But whenever I did display empathy i was usually the one recondmending a drastic course of action-as in I was overwhelmed by it. I was the one that thought the girls I liked who were being abused should divorce/dump their boyfriends/husbands and cut them completely from their lives
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
1. I AM the adult.
2. I seek out TONS of Comfort seeking for my distress-It's why I have a confession addiction.
3. I am HIGHLY reciporcal-My emotions seem to move too fast for most individuals.
4. I'm not unstable.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
For comparison, the criteria for DSM-IV inhibited RAD were: absence of a discriminated, preferred adult, lack of comfort seeking for distress, failure to respond to comfort when offered, lack of social and emotional reciprocity, and emotion regulation difficulties.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
"Disinhibited attachment disorder" wouldn't work either because I am HIGHLY discriminate about who I "Attach" to-it's not like I don't profile the individuals that I DO form RAPID relationships with. It's just that everything people would consider the "ordinary" "Getting to know" someone stage is ,,compressed into a timetable that leaves people who are timid terrified and leaves room only for the brave.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
@mcwillis2831
detachment has NOTHING to do with this-this is quite the opposite in nature. Borderline would make no sense, borderline individuals push people away BEFORE they can push THEM away as a means of protecting themselves because at the cost is a chronic fear of abandonment. I imagine most humans have at least some fear of abandonment. This is the OPPOSITE: it's RAPID ATTACHMENT-without pushing people away-without fear of abandonment, without regard to consquence.
Fireinthedawn 1 month ago
I work w/ kids that have the same issues that u went through. The abandonment thing can cause Reactive Detachment Disorder (RAD). But reading ur profile it says there is a history of Aspergers which is a diagnosis I have also worked w/. I don't believe that ur issue is Borderline Personality Disorder b/c then u would be more of a feeling of detachment from others emotionally. Or, u would express emotions inappropriately. I think what u need to do is learn how to express urself more appropriately
MAwillis2831 1 month ago
It's kind of funny but as I watched this video, the first thing that popped out of my mouth is "autism". It was my fiance who spotted your prior asperger's diagnosis on your profile. I have autism as well. What you are describing is classic autism on the net. I just recently participated in a research study on this very subject. Autism isn't a lack of empathy. I feel an incredible amount of empathy for my fellow human being, perhaps more than others. Hope this helps.
ki11aki77en 2 months ago
you are freakin out man! no need to do so. master your mind, allow your self to want things and try not caring so much about random shit. would also help to not think so much. can take years and years of work to pull these things off so good luck
ChairSpinnin 2 months ago
sounds like you want to be loved. Have the people ask you about things dont force the issues those who do love you will want to know all danke danke
deathsite1902 2 months ago
Duno, I got a friend request.. so I will say this, You need to do what is best for you, screw the opinions.. and screw the comments... Just be you and stop sweating all the crap
stonooblivion 2 months ago
When I was growing up, I was small and skinny. Plus, my parents were physically abusive so it was "normal" to be shy and timid. Oddly enough, I was very outgoing, especially with theater, which I had no problem. In a way, I can relate to you. I can perform in front of hundreds of people and so long as I am focused in the character or moment, it's all good. I don't know how to take compliments very well, which is strange to me, but I think it comes from my childhood. I can talk to anyone.
ChristopherJManess 2 months ago
Hi Paul, you will not believe this but I work with companies to help their staff to become more like you (no boundries or less barriers)! Where most people loose the ability to form strong instant relaytionship by the time they are 8 to 12 years old, you may have missed this level of development previously but it sounds like you are growning now. Your emotions are a guide follow your positive emotions and feel the benifits...
ronaldchughes 2 months ago
@clocknumerlogy
what I meant by boundaries is that things move faster for me than most people in relationships. I'm not interested in getting to know people on a superficial level and this can alienate the shit out of people who are either VERY reserved or who are Game players. I'm really not interested in talking to someone for months or even years on end, waiting for them to get comfortable enough to open up to me.
Fireinthedawn 2 months ago
@ no longer have boundries (continued)
those who withdrawn -ARE!- in a serious crisis; whereas, those who are seperate -just like to keep their nose out of everyone's business. and there's absolutely nothing wrong with respeting other people like that, fire : )
people who become nosey, will notice tons and tons of problems in a very short amount of time.
that's my opinion
Hope everything turns out well : )
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
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ClockNumerology 2 months ago
@ no longer have boundries
fire, that -IS!- a crisis.
try choosing who you allow to come in. do not be afraid to profile (clothing, lifestyle, belief in god/no belief in god, hobbies, etc) who you allow in
try keeping a journal of daily affirmations. what worked for me is to come up with a 'Words of Wisdom' Quote of the day. And just meditate on that. for me, it helped me know the difference between 'separation' and 'isolationism/withdrawn'. there is a huge difference.
(continued)
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
Part IV
@ dissident
i love the amish lifestyle : )
do you love nature? i do..
your comments are most welcomed here : )
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
Part III
@ approx 2:00 'people don't get it'
you seem to be better at one on one conversation and choose to know a person on a much 'quieter' and personal level than those who are excessively assertive (ie one who meets lots of people at once; just to be the ring-leader)
@ marketing 'logos?'
i grew up humbled (low-middle income)
PS - i noticed these things early on just as you ; )
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
Part II
@ no friends (5th grade)
i suppose you mean, from k-5?
and you have no fear of it?
WoW! most would freak-out from not having friends. You have developed a gift of 'INDEPENDENCE' : )
@ people come in; leave rapidly
i do not mean to counter you so soon, fire...
you said you get to know people 'extremely' fast.
i'm anxious to hear you explain further (?)
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
@ sharing intimate details
'intimate' details?
are you surrrrre that's the right word ; )
i know of people who share personal details with a stranger like, "Help! I broke my leg"
@ rejection
that's a hard thing to deal with and most likely you'll 'deal' with it for the rest of your life. i hope you make the right decisions in life : )
ClockNumerology 2 months ago
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ClockNumerology 2 months ago
We are usually attractive soul mates on here, so u have been around many times over together..many have issues that are related to child hood abandonment, so would rather bolt than have u leave, often they will be nasty about it too, so u have to be restrictive with personal details. its not a bad thing to share, its just knowing when to stop or when to trust someone. everyone is being triggered right now into anger & conflict. other people are just drifting through on the conveyor belt of life.
SovereignBeing 2 months ago
HI YOU ARE SO LIKE ME :) just remember that you have to be careful who you let into your life but in the same token if you are honest and have nothing to fear then dont worry just be ya self ...most people want friends that are worse people than them so they feel better about themselves ...who cares babe you just remember you are a nice person ...dont worry about people likeing you if they dont fk them
oliviamulgrew 2 months ago
Thank you for sharing.
gcraw7777 2 months ago
my partner is transgender so your not alone
VampyrNeeceFiregrave 2 months ago
oh yeah I had to break up the posts so read them from the bottom up hahaha
jaderagon 2 months ago
Strangers online are easily avoided if you need to. Anyways you sound like you have a lot on your mind. Thank you for sending me an add request. Always good to reach out for a warm caring hand.
Peace brother!
jaderagon 2 months ago
Complete strangers offer a human sounding board of random response, which helps us to speak our deepest feelings out straightaway. A closer social circle can be a nuisance to discussion of deeper feelings because you have to face them much more frequently and therefore have to deal wihth a whole range of possibilities that could get tiresome if run into in a negative way repeatedly.
jaderagon 2 months ago
Everyone has their own pace. Hell, I have a problem with my wife when she starts in on my pace and asserting her ideas of how things should be and then have a hard time communicating my feeling to her in a positive way...because I feel that my boundaries have been overstepped.
jaderagon 2 months ago
you are who you think you are ^^ don't worry about whether you have a problem or not...go with the flow and feel what you can from everything. You can enjoy books for opening insight...search out info on the net, but finding people can give other views to share. It can be easy to talk with people on all different levels. I leave it open, but I feel out the air of people before I get into deeper discussions.
jaderagon 2 months ago
your vid ended a bit abrupt... ;))
peace & love
putzilutzi 2 months ago