Dating Sites: Is it for today's Single Christian? Question of the day #2

[claudiaferrari4jesus]

I would like to have inter relationship communication with believers male I am a devoted christian and I take God to women in a prison in Honduras

[stifman28]

That was God calling he's mad because you did not returned his phone call T_T

[zoltron30]

I don't think there's anything wrong with finding your potential mate online. Just first pray that God will guide you by the spirit and based on his word. Eventually you will have to meet the person, and the bible says thay you will know them by their fruits...

[TheFOA11]

I still can't believe that it's 2011 and you people are still running your lives based on a book written in the bronze age, by people who though the world was flat, condoned slavery and other atrocities. You are brainwashed, your parents were brainwashed, their parents were brainwashed, and on and on, can't you see? Religion is a business, and a method of controlling people through threats of divine judgement and eternal suffering. Please, enjoy THIS LIFE, stop worrying about the next one...

[TheK1N1]

@TheFOA11 Why do you advise others in matters that you yourself dont KNOW but just ASSUME? Do you know there's life after death or do you just THINK you know? Do you KNOW if God is real? You cant EXCLUDE it, therefore stop advising people to believe things that you cannot prove

[SavedSinner71]

Course its ok! What are we supposed to do? Even the unsaved know that "God helps those who help themselves".

[ryalst20011]

i think praying and asking god. and stand on what we are parying for . AND HAVING FAITH IN GOD.......god IS LOVE

[greenbelter123]

If you sit and wait for a christian man to walk through the church doors then you are a fool. You need to get out there and meet some people, get on a christian dating site. Why on earth do you think they were made? Do you think that God hasn't blessed these sites? God would rather people date christians than non christians.

[nomyaw]

You can most definitely be unevenly yoked and share be a believer. Example. Calvinist in no way shape should yoke them with an Armenian. Or if you’re a Baptist don’t go yoke yourself with a charismatic, Pentecostal

[hrhjudy]

interesting, I never thought about it, but as you ask, unfortunately it is not possible to know someone is a Christian unless they bare the fruits of the Spirit, how does one examine a person on a site. It seemed to be filled with dangers. ones persona cannot truely be examined via the pc, since one can create an illusion of what one wants the other to see.... hmmm im sure i can think of more but thats just it 4now :)

[Kirkatron1]

What do you mean by unequally yoked?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

@Kirkatron1 Believer with non-believer in regards to relationships. 2 Cor 6:14

[Kirkatron1]

@LadyLovelyLocs: oh, I was thinking both were believers one just stronger than the other.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

@Kirkatron1 That could be another way of being unequally yoked also between believers if the two don't know how to handle the different levels. For example: A woman who is mature in the Lord being with a man who is just coming into the faith.

[bailey1950]

I really respect your videos and opinion.. People should just live their life.. No one can get life "perfectly"..

[MarkAmerica1]

Great job, good to see other christians looking to help singles, I do the same on my channel.

[InTheseBooks]

First of all i think your very beautiful black woman who appears to have lighter skin and even if you had darker skin your beautiful woman. My question for you and other women out there why do women want to date other women and why do guys find that attractive and i happen to be one of those guys who finds it attractive can you share your knowledge on this i would appreciate thank you.

[wray1975]

Using interenet sites is merely an icebreaker, you truly won't find out about the person until you speak with them. But safety first, exchange a few email, and then chat on the phone before meeting. It boils done to the same standards as face to face single dating.

[eiobeautiful]

Always use discernment, wisdom,& common sense, no matter how you meet someone.***

[suaved]

@eiobeautiful

Good post. This is the best response i have seen thus far.

[canvasguy]

I am a Christain man and its very hard to find christain women they are all married or you gat 5 church guys after them.. LOL...

[y0y0moe]

A man can tell you anything, use your God given discernment when it comes to fostering friendships as well as relationships be it online or otherwise. There is nothing biblical about internet dating. But because we have modern tools available doesn't make it wrong or right. The word says by prayer and supplication make your request known to God. Use discernment.

[saunei]

is there any free sites

[MrGemile]

LadyLovelyLocs, I the Lord wants to bring two people together through a website he can. If he wants to bring two people together in person he can. He is all power who would be able to stop him from using the internet? With us things are impossible, but with him all things are possible. If you're living for the Lord. Jesus is able!! Ive been praying for someone, but I dont know how the Lord is going to complete it. I asked the Lord not to just send me anyone, but a God fearing woman.

[MrGemile]

Lovely Lady locs, uhh, So do you plan on staying single your whole life? Or do you think all men are no good?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

No, No

[purveyor100]

come see john 14

[Kavvon]

you at work?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Yes I was in my office on my lunch break.

[MrGemile]

Hello LadyLove, I just wanted to know how interested you were in dating.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

No, I am not.

[Ghostkid202]

I think its a great idea.

[godsgirlg]

Lady D just dropping by and showing some love. Check out my first video when you get a response. Just trying to encourage all of the single ladies!!

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Will do! Thanks

[MSGOODBAR]

A Christian can go on dating sites becuase your mate may be attending another church. Still be cautious because some people are not Christian on these sites. Talk to the person on line first for a long time then use discernment before you meet them in public. It is ok to be proactive, just post your profile, but do not send messages to the men first, let them email you and then respond.

[woodypaq]

I met some great friends, and this is what I'd tell any of you. Beware your intent. We've hit on the fact that your lusts among other things will sell you out. Also, the peer pressure among women is just horrid, according to those I've met online, and I just find that no one can 100% scam you and tell you what you want to hear if you understand that online is just a great way to connect and make friends rather than just a quick husband. I like that someone mentioned displaying themselves.

[woodypaq]

ATTENTION: Slams to come, but personally, I've NEVER dated or had a relationship outside of "dating websites". Why the "" you ask? I've always been the very, very shy church guy and have had great difficulties in getting comfortable with women in person, especially at church. Acutally my first relationship wasn't until 23, literally. We met through a phone dating service by voice only, if you can imagine. Had some bad experiences, and some good ones. Overall, besides the relationship..

[murk4heart]

People have to stop thinking they can Identify who is or who is not saved..... No man on eath knows that but God... if you claim to know this your playing God..... Repent from this damaging doctrine...

[blackcherry8907]

Huh....Jesus even told the people after he performed a miracle to righteously judge.John 7:24-Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment. The bible says you know a tree by the fruit it bears and in Galations 5:19-23 it speaks of the actions of and unbeliever as compare to a believer...We are NOT suppose to condemn but we are suppose to discern. The bible says don't be unequally yoke with unbelievers (2 Cor 6:14).You have to judge or discern a believer from an unbeliever.

[murk4heart]

I dont think there is any difference between meeting someone on the internet or on the street ... both require time to get to know each other.. but even then you will never know who the person is untill you marry them.. you rjust gonna have to pray with some action ..like get out there go to conventions , seminary school .. visit church events... its all proximity ...

[murk4heart]

The dating environment is changing dramatically.... whats up with this old English bibles Christains are still using ...lol.. Findeth, cometh , thou...LOL!!!!! its time to move on and get some today bibles..NASB.. the best transaltion known today ...

[angelslight7]

@murk4heart the word of the Lord never changes!!

[murk4heart]

I dont think there is any difference in meeting a woman online or on the street.. its all the same.. you need to spend some time with the person .. but even then you womnt know fully what your dealing with untill your married to them...

[murk4heart]

The dating environment today ... is really changing ,,,,, its becoming more difficult to identify a non-believer and believer.... I see all of us just needed alot of faith in God to really find a good woman....

P>S: why do Christians insist on readin old english bibles, makes no sense... thou , cometh .. those words are not used anymore

[cPresley2004]

I have met Christian women over the internet and had bad experiences. I've spoken to women from different states and my first girlfriend was from my same area. I met her over the internet. It turned out to be a disaster. The anonymous nature of the net is very dangerous. The fact of the matter is, you dont really know what someone is like until you actually meet them face-to-face. People do a lot of posing and faking over the internet, and I'm tired of the whole thing.

[clairesayshi]

@cPresley2004 It's unfortunate that you've had bad experiences. At the same time though, you could meet somebody in person who puts on a front at first, and over time you'll find out more about how they really are. So, I don't think dating sites are automatically so much worse than meeting people face-to-face. With both, it's good to use wisdom and prayer when considering a relationship with someone.

[Funredeemed]

I think its a bad idea to meet someone on a Christian dating site simply because everyone is not saved on there and a lot of men are asking women for money. I know because it happend to me. He made up a concocted story about loosing his wallet and he didn't have any money to get back home from a flight. These men will have a long six hour conversation or better with you and be out to get you at the same time. I thank God for discernment and I recognized the scam.

[giftedchild1908]

I am a christian and have tried on line dating sites due to another way to meet other christian men. I see it as a way to meet potential suitors. My time is occupied by work and church. There are no guys on my job and there are no guys at my church. I don't frequent bars, parties, or clubs. I rarely meet anyone in the grocery store, gas station, or drug store. I am 34 and I have a strong desire to get married. I have not had any luck with the sites but will try again.

[rlcinnj]

i wood like to get marry some day. i just wood like to know where to look for a christian woman. all of the woman at my church. are married. or in there teens.

[CortezBailey]

The Church as it is believed by most is the physical building where we meet........being that is not true....the church is a people not a place.........using the most understood term church as the place, then that is one of the last places i would be trying to find a wife.......because most where masks when they come to what is considered the church.....im sure there are some success stories i just doubt if i will be one of them.....wherever you meet a person get to know them in different ways

[jhbreezeb]

wonderful point!

[NubianLockedPrincess]

I been there and have done that. We have to be careful with anything that we do in this world. Know the word and use your Godly descretion as you would in your every day life. This is the age of technology and the age of the Devil. I have met some really nice people online as well as people that had issues. I came to the conclusion that all good things come it Gods time! Anyway, I prefer the old fashion way! God Bless!

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I agree. Thanks for sharing!

[doronimoh]

i don't believe that being on a dating site cancels out the "he that findeth a wife" (is that some sort of doctrine on something LOL-LOL) yeah-yeah i know the TEXT says, "...he findeth...", but if y'all women sittin' around waitin' to be found, y'all might be waitin' for quite some time...booty gon' get mighty so' LOL ...it takes two to honestly find each other...just like he that findeth a wife, ...she that findeth a husband...ah come on man...there should be an EQUAL persuit...

[jacquie4]

Is it possible that we are taking that scripture too literally? The bible says that He that findeth, which would mean that he has to find us to date us then marry us, but it is possible that it does not matter how you met, but the man had to find the woman as his wife in order for a God centered marriage to happen? It's not the woman's responsibility to ask the man's hand in marriage, so if he finds us to be his wife then the marriage shoudl take place. Is this possible?

[EnChristosEime]

Yeah, I agree. I think it sends a lot of negative signals if a woman asks a man to marry her, uuulgh. I think by nature, men like to chase because they are natural hunters, whether on a primitive or "civilized" level.

Blessings,

ECE

[jhbreezeb]

this is definitely true! You basically summed up the principle of that scripture :D

[Chocomoca1]

yeah there's a lot of scam activity on christian dating sites. it's bad :( I've been on a few but there weren't enough people in my area ...so i just go on regular dating sites and look for people that are christian lol it's easier for me since i have a hard time mingling offline lol . yeah it's probably different dating someone who is baby christian and then someone who is mature b/c the baby one is probably struggling with stuff from their past and might affect the mature christian who knows

[LadyLovelyLocs]

You make some true statements! Thanks for you input!

[butterflyze]

waiting at the church or looking online is no different. all kinds of people go online and all kinds of people go to church! it's like you say just because people log on to a christian site doesn't mean they are a christian. just because people go to church doesn't mean they are a christian. some people go to church JUST to look for a date! it's silly but we know it happens. wait on the Lord's timing. If it's His will for you to be with someone and you truly want His will, it will happen.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

You hit the nail on the head! Thanks for sharing!

[cleanheart25]

Part2

Its hard to know if they really do attend the Church or as often as they say. And its so easy to be decieved by someone who speaks Christianesse. I came to the conclusion that I want to be able to discern his charater face to face. Many men will say whatever to get you but you can't be certain of their intensions. I conclude that for a woman their can be many safety issues therefore I'd say its not a good idea for Christians.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Good Reply! lol @ Christianesse.

I wouldn't personally do it. I wouldn't advise it either. To me it's hard enough discerning a person's spirit face to face much less through a computer screen.

As far as being "findable", I believe while we are "working" we will be found. By working I mean, being busy living our lives as pleasing unto the Lord. The Lord knows how to get HIS son or daughter in the right place at the right time for a meeting no matter where they are.

God KNOWS best!

[EnChristosEime]

Christianesse?

LOL

I know, you have people who are devotees to churchianity, but do not know CHRISTIANITY.

Agape

ECE

[cleanheart25]

Part 1

Are they ok? I don't know, I have used them but it was never a favorable experience. I just don't find them to be a benefit. I believe in being pursued so I would just put up a profile and "waited". Many "frogs" replied but none were worth "kissing". Its hard to understand someones walk through a pic and a email.

[vshancrawford]

I haven't visited a Christian dating site but I have to share this, I visited a church recently w/a large singles ministry(SM). During recongnition of visitors a man introduced himself saying "I am thinking of joining b/c this church has the best looking women in their SM" LOL! I could've fell off the pew. So if a person could say that in church among the saints, what could someone sitting alone at a computer have up his sleeve? I'm not saying it's a bad Idea but one should look DEEP b4 you LEAP

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Was he JK? LOL

Yes, I agree look DEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE­P before you Leap!

[EnChristosEime]

Wooooow, you make a good point. That's why I am at the place where I look at men in church as well as men who may not go to church, the same. You have some men who are truly born again, but don't attend a fellowship for a multiplicity of reasons (I know that's another topic). You also have men who belong to a church, but are not in THE CHURCH if you know what I mean. You have to be reeeealy careful on the internet. I mean, I have met some crazy ppl here on YT already, lol.

[JamJamNEggs]

I would say that you should wait on the Lord for you mate. I know it's hard for people now a days to do b/c we're so use to being independent but if we have real faith in our God, then it shouldn't be a problem. We all get lonely at one point in time but like everyone said, not everyone that goes on those sites are what you're expecting. Thats life outside of the internet also but it's all about patience is virture in the long run. Continue to pray and keep faith, the Lord IS listening!

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I wholeheartedly agree. Thanks for your input!

[EnChristosEime]

So you are saying it would be kewl if it was ministerial based?

What do you think about debutant balls? I'm not saying I am not saying I am into that, but I wonder if some churches do things like that or if it would be looked at as being worldly. It would have a more holistic approach though if a fellowship would take this on as a ministry that helps to groom people who are interested in marriage; Lord knows our young men and women need it, ughh.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I think it would be good if it was a minstry dedicated to helping Singles deal with Singles issues. Sure there can be outings and things but the main focus should be to hook up with someone.

[EnChristosEime]

I agree. I don't think there is anything wrong with that just as long as the fellowship do not set it up like a dating service.

I just sent you a PM regarding this and a show I watched last night. Let me know what you think.

Bless you,

ECE

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I meant SHOULD NOT be to hook up with someone

[jhbreezeb]

(hahaha!!! I exceeded my comment usage!)

anywho, I definitely think that that's a viable way to make yourself "findable." In addition to that, I think that when/if dealing with a dating site, a woman should only display, and not be the one searching for a mate. Present yourself (I guess it's like the debutante lol), and then get found :D

[EnChristosEime]

Hey Lady D,

What do you think about churchs hosting single gatherings? Some seriously fround upon that because some would say that that is not the chruch's mession. I have heard of some churches doing it. I am not saying I agree or disagree with it, but what are your thoughts on it???

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Wellllllllllllllllllllllllllll­lllll...LOL

I think it can be a good thing if the ministry was focusing on ministering to the specific needs that Singles have rather than Singles joing the ministry or going to outings just to see if they can find their mate. I guess what I am really trying to say it depends on the motive of the people in the Single's ministry.

[jhbreezeb]

Also, I am a stickler for the male pursuit (relationship-wise). I think that when looking to a person for platonic friendship, it doesn't matter who goes first, lol. But if a man is seeking a wife, no matter the avenue he meets her in, he needs to be in the pursuing position. I think that if a woman wants to BE found, she needs to be findable. But the guy needs to show the initiative in having a relationship. If you don't let the man pursue, then you will probably have problems keeping him.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Interesting word usage there. "FINDABLE". So according to this sister who asked this question, that's what she is doing on the dating site. Making herself findable.

Do you think there are boundaries to a woman making herself "findable"? If so, what would that include?

I guess it would have to depend on one's definition of what exactly does it mean to "making oneself findable" in regards to a woman and not stepping out of the boundaries of HE that findeth...

[jhbreezeb]

When you are "prescreened" and matched up, it just seems u take control out of God's hands into your own, as if you know better than He who you need to match up to.

[EnChristosEime]

Amen! That is why I am a little reluctant to do online dating.

I heard speed dating is good, but I don't know, it seems a little mainstream for me too, so I probably would not do it either.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

What is speed dating?

[EnChristosEime]

I have never been,but from what I hear it is when a group of people meet in an open forum like setting and each person has like 3 minutes to talk to a person before all the men have to get up and rotate to the next lady to the left or R and I think that when 2 people feel a mutual connection, then they connect and go out on a date. I guess the speed dating thing facilitates conversation that you would normally get out of the way prior to the initial date, but it allows for a place to meet ppl.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Interesting, that really happens eh?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

In your opinion, would that be any different than a friend matching you up based on each other qualites on a blind date?

[jhbreezeb]

hmm....I guess it could work very similarly to bling dating??? lol....I will just chalk it all up to having and exercising discernment, no matter HOW you meet.

[jhbreezeb]

Well, Lady D,am a personal testimony of God using the internet to introduce me to my husband. We did not meet on a dating SITE; but the internet was the way we initially met. I think s SITE where you are matched up with someone by some survey is a bit unauthentic, in terms of allowing room for a person's personality, charisma and spirit to be the hook and bait.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Based on what you stated, some would ask, How did you allow room for your husband's personality, charisma and spirit if you met through the internet if you dont believe in matching someone through the internet. Something had to be there (of one of these three) in order for you to pursue something outside of the screen. What would you say to that?

[jhbreezeb]

Well, we were in a platonic friendship for 8 mos before he decided that we would talk over the phone for the first time. So that time spent chatting, etc online gave us the avenue to be very casual and enjoy learning about each other (in addition to is being apart of each other's blog pages).

[jhbreezeb]

When he was ready to pursue me, he started calling. Then came the person to person trips and time together. I can't give a definite formula for this situation, but I CAN say that one needs an intimate relationship with the Father to know the genuinosity (yes, I made us that word lol) of the relationship/communication.

[jhbreezeb]

The Holy Spirit won't lie to you about a person who you meet in the grocery store, neither will He lie to you about someone from online. They will tell on themselves! Thank God for and don't ubserestimate discernment :D

[LadyLovelyLocs]

AIN'T THAT THE TRUTH! HE reveals all the time, if we are watching and hearing....he that hate and hear let him hear what the Spirit is saying...

[EnChristosEime]

You know sis, I really don't know what to say about this. I am not dating anyone right now and haven't for a very long time. I wouldnt mind getting to know someone on A STRICTLY HOLY AND PLATONIC BASIS (just to be clear for those who want to take what I say out of context).Imma old fashion gal when it comes to this.I like to be asked rather than ask and I am also a little reluctant to trust online dating b/c like you said, if you have to pay a fee, then anybody can join. I want a holy man.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

In regards to what you said, I heard one preacher say that we must look at a person's walk (with God) and how can you do that through a screen?

What do you think about her question of just sitting around waiting for a man to come to church. Do you think women should be proactive and in "helping" their mates to find them?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I've heard some single women would say that there are no men for them in their churches so how will they be found if they are not proactive? Especially those who have the same schedule...work, sleep, eat, church.

These ladies want to know where do the Saved, Sanctified and Single Men hang out? LOLOL Is their a club or something....LOL. I'm just JK.

I think its a very interesting topic she brings up.

[EnChristosEime]

Yeah, it is. I really wish YT would install an IM application on here. Then this site would really be bangging.

I hear what your friend is saying. Sad to say girl,but I am going to put this out there.The previous church that I went to, I was there for like eight years and only one guy asked me out.I declined at the time, though I really respected him for how he approached me and he dealt with my rejection (4 lack of a better term) very well. Later I came to find out that the reason many...

[EnChristosEime]

...of them were not asking me out is because they were fornicating and they knew straight of the bat Saran was not having none of that. The point I am making is just because there are men in your church, does not mean they are holy and they want what you want. Some men (and women) just come to church to see how man "clean" women/men they can get with. For some of them, marriage is the last thing on their mind. I'm like this, if the time in my life is right and a guy is interested in me and...

[EnChristosEime]

...I am interested in him and he looks like he is a pretty well-rounded guy,then I would go out with him in an unromantic setting.Just to put a pin in right here,I don't think that Christian unmarried people should be romancing each other any way.That is a BIG setup and let DOWN.If I feel like this person is not were I am spiritually,then I would tell him that I don't think it could go any further.Another thing,I don't discriminate when it comes to race either.They just need to be American,lol.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

What is a romantic setting in your opinion? All may not agree.

I agree with somethings being a BIG setup and a BIG let down. Why even put yourself out there like that anyway. Although some do.

Your comment to your spirituality touched on the QOD yesterday. Do you mean as mature as you are in Christ? Do you think you can really gage a person's maturity level in Christ on the first date (I'm not talking about someone who is out there bcuz you wouldn't have agreed to the date from jump)

[LadyLovelyLocs]

LOL@ Needs to an American...is that biblical?..LOL JK.

[EnChristosEime]

...I'm just not going to be interested if the person is not a Christn. because I know there will always be compromise and I am thinking for the future.I am not going steady with any man if I know there isn't a potentiality for marriage and If the man is an unbeliever,then that means I will run a high risk of having an unbalanced home when it comes to a lot of things,one being child rearing.I would not want to lead someone on that is why I would find out by the 2nd date if I intrige still awaits.

[EnChristosEime]

I would say that romance is open to interpretation, so anything that could put you in the mindset of wanting to... don't do it until you are married. Just don't put Urself out there whether male or female. So for example I would not agree to go to a single man's house alone for dinner, nor would I have any dinners at my house. Group dates or dinner parties are safe and sound. I prefer lunch date b/c I have some have told me, dinner date could have a loaded meaning...

[EnChristosEime]

"Your comment to your spirituality...Do you mean as mature as you are in Christ? Do you think you can really gage a person's maturity level in Christ on the first date..."

I mean both. If a man takes an interest in me and I am interested in him I would go out to get to know him better. I may not know on the first date if he is Christian or not, but Saran will definitely know on the second because I would make it a point to swing the convers. in that direction rather than draw things out...

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I follow you, but some would say being a Christian (Believer in Christ) be one of the first criterias of going on on a date. So, you are saying you would date a person based on initial things that you have in common and find out the spirituality part at a later date, right?

[EnChristosEime]

Yes, it's possible that I would. If the person is just way out there. Like for example, looking me up and down or gawking at me in places the person has no business, then they ain't got nothing coming. But if the person is friendly, respectable and seem to be genuine, then I would be open to going out on a lunch date. More than likely, the issue with spirituality is going to come up. Like for exmpl, if I am asked what I do for fun, what are my interest or if I asked the same of him.

[EnChristosEime]

What about you? Would you be open to going out on a date with someone you are not sure is a Christian or not?

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Me personally, I would not. That would come out in our initial conversation some where before I would think about going out on a date. Although, I must say many say they are Christians these days and the next convo would be for me to distinguish just exactly what that person meant by saying they were a Christian.

But most definitely, the man can be intelligent, job, nice, etc. etc. and not a believer and I am completely turned off...maybe sad...LOL...but I would not go out or talk further.

[LadyLovelyLocs]

I feel that I would be wasting my time. Let's get the facts out in the open and go from there.

Most of the time, as for me, people tell me what I need to hear when I am intently listening to their words and using discernment the first time we talk and I know right there to go on or walk away.

[EnChristosEime]

friendly the setting, the better because it doesn't set you or the person up to expect no more than just plain ole clean fun. When two people are enjoying themselves and feel safer, then people are more open. I think if a person has a set of deep questions to ask a person prior to going out, it is easier for the person to retreat or to put on a show just so that you can go out with them and find out that uhg, this is not what I signed up for.

[EnChristosEime]

You have the same type of men in church as well as outside-sad to say, but very true. I really try to find out before hand (b/c I do not want to lead anybody on and I don't need headaches) where the person stands spiritually before any potential outings.

[EnChristosEime]

I hear you on that. I guess one reason I have become a little open when it comes to knowing before the first date vs. not know is precisely because of what you just said. Some people may say oh yeah, Imma Christian and then come to find out they are nothing more than a bible toting bamma that need to be left alone and prayed for. That is why I am more open to and unconventional dating scene where we can go play laser tag or gocarting or something (okay I'm telling my age, lol).I think the more

[LadyLovelyLocs]

LOL @ "a bible toting bamma that need to be left alone and prayed for."

I like those things as well....I guess ya'll can talk about the main issues while trying to race each other on the track or between shots...LOL JK

[EnChristosEime]

Lastly, as far as going out with someone who is a professing Christian, I would go out with that person to see were their head is (same as with one I do not know is a Christn.). If I sense immaturity, then I am not going to be interested. I tend to be attracted to men who woo me intellectually (but they are not arrogant, but confident about it). A person could have a PhD and still be immature to me both spiritually as well as socially and mentally, but the spirituality bit is the deal breaker.

[drivenentertainment]

Thank you for doing what you do

[LadyLovelyLocs]

Thanks for the love!