I hear where you are coming from I like what you said and I feel the same way to and I agree with everything that you have said in the video thank you for making this video because sometimes I feel like like how you feel some things just irritate me to the point I can't take it the way they talk about as gay white or not even human I have all the stereo type about us I am just 21 so I am a young guy looking for love and is hard but watching this video makes me feel so much better thank u:-)
I feel I can relate. I'm young and I'm 19. Besides that I'm naive at times.... But, I just want to let people know that even though I'm gay myself or bi idk yet, even though I'm still trying to find myself . But, we are human beings too, I mean just b/c we are gay our preference shouldn't define who we are and I want to be your friend on Facebook...
Keep sounding off! We all need and want to be loved, some of us don't realize what we want or what we need either at times! God bless you. I'm almost 45 with a 25 year old son and a lifetime of wishes that I have yet to share. peace and love always! Royce Lynch of Chicago, IL look me up on Face Book- Peace- Chavez!
Hey Chavez. Thank you so much for posting this video. I am in the same predicament right now as you. I am ready to share my life with someone but there are so many guys out here who just want to run around and not be serious. Thanks again for posting!
Hey Chavez. I like you. I don't like the top, bottom labeling either, especially when it comes from gays. I think that the moment you enter a gay relationship you should be prepared to play both roles. You can always adapt to one role based on mutual understanding between u and your partner. A guy should not declare his preference from the onset.
im a male bisexual and i find my self in a dubble reationship....its a secret.... i want to make a choice of whether to be striaght of gay...botom line iz ...im tyrd of hurtin others... my partners secretly....i feel like a hore....help..hit me up wit a video responce
Its interesting that u feel that the masculine boys are the main ones that start trouble, & theyre the ones that give gay guys a bad name. Then u said that People expect flamboyant types to start the trouble but they dont start trouble as much as the masculine guys? Really? Obviously u have not been watching College Hill South Beach and u definitely didnt see last Tuesday's episode! I wont spoil it for u, you should just watch it yourself online & then youll see what I mean.
Homosexuality should be accepted! I'm so happy that you said "I'm comfortable in my own skin to talk about my orientation (and so on)..." No matter what poeple say,just keep on doing your thing,because it's worth it!:):)
What u said was really true, and some of those stereotypes need to be avoided, and being gay in the society is hard, just know it will be ok. and one day you will find someone...
me personaly i dont want sum1 lik dat cause i can understand dat they do giv us bad names and cause da MOST drama... i lik normal guys dat no there gay n aint on da DL
heterosexual people will never accept nothing but stereotype about gays because they want to see a different between homosexuals and heterosexual other then sexual orientation. That's why they see a different in the way homosexual act, talk, dress, and etc.
Sexual expression is influenced more by our culture/environment. I say that because homosexual's grow up in a society with 'heterosexual standards'. It's just like growing up black in a white male dominated society. We(black people) tend to value ourselves based on what others think about us. The same is done in the gay community. Who has been there to teach same-gender loving people how to interact with one another? No one!
I can only speak from my experience; I should have clarified that. I do believe, in my case, sexual roles are biological. I derive no pleasure from the act of topping, in fact, doing so turns me off. I have tried it in the past, and I have always ended up disgusted by the whole ordeal. I don't like my penis to be touched, I just...it's a lot (and no, I have never been molested). I rather bottom; it's natural for me, as natural as being gay. I think all of that transcends societal influence.
Continued...The only examples you have is the relationship dynamic between a male and female(which is dysfunctional in itself), and the "DL" man that has a wife/girlfriend or so he claims. Now, there has been a whole culture to come out of this way of thinking and it is celebrated. People live their lives with this self-hatred that has been inflicted on them by society and in turn they belittle others.
Continued... An example of that would be when more "masculine" guys encounter someone who is feminine. They may have something negative to say about it but In reality, they are struggling internally with who they really are.
Wow, the awareness at your young age is reaffirming and breath-taking. You are on the right path, and following your Northern Star. I want to share that I prefer to use the words "Sexual Nature" to "orientation" or "preferance" to show that this characteristic is innate and intrinsic, not a choice or a whim. Thanks for your generous wisdom. BTW, you're sexy in your shy way.
Yes. When Caesar went to the Senate and they were petitioning him to set some people free he said " These bowings and lowly courtesies may move ordinary men but I am as constant as the Northern star" Now, I taught Literature some years ago and I am just quoting from memory. Here is another in which you may find some kinship : "Let me have men about me who are fat, sleek headed men and such as sleep O nights. Yon Cassius has a lean and hungry look, such men are dangerous" Does it ring a bell?
I just watched your video after I watched Marcus and Myk "alaboutus" and its very refreshing to see Gay men and women speak the truth. I was principally drawn to what you had to say about "trades". I have been always attracted to young, gifted and black men all of my 55 years. However, they never considered themselves gay and many of them are married now and thank me silently for the encounters. As shakespeare wrote in his play Julius Caesar ".......I am constant as the Northern Star" Peace
Thank you... this is some of the greatest feedback one could ever receive. And I never heard that quote from Julius Caesar, Imma have to look that up!
Wow....Look at my little brother. Vez, seriously, I'm so proud of you. I think about us as little kids and where we were back then and where we are now. You are one of the only people in my life as comfortable in your skin as I am. I sit back and watch your evolution and I'm so proud. Dude I was almost near tears. Lol. Just off of how much you've grown. I haven't even gotten to part II yet. Lol. This is def going in my favs. Keep walking the walk lil bro. You're beautiful.
OMG I LOVE THE VIDEO!!! it was inspiring n i admire the fact dat u say u or so comfortable n your own skin..im not but i think wit ya video im gonna try 2 b now!
WOW... THANK YOU! That means a lot to me when someone says I inspired them... it really does... and I encourage you to be comfortable in your skin! It's the only way to live...
i wish you would have included some definitions in your video but overall good video...can't that i totally agree with everything. touched on some valid points. not sure if everyone else thinks like you. in some cases it would be great if everyone would be in the same mindset as you! :-)
This is going straight to my myspace blog. I'm 19 so I'm a little younger, but watching this video is like getting a talk from my(gay) big brother.lol Thanks for this video!
For some odd reason peeps gotta hate on other who aren't like them just so that they can feel better bout themselves you know. I wish peeps would just love one another everyones going through a struggle of their own but love of all people would make it that much easier. You seem like a cool dude, keep preeching the truth friend...oh and nice hat:) peace,
You are right, people are going to hate on others unlike them and that is downright sad! I agree with everything you said, and thank you about the hat lol!
I Agree with you on that young gay boys lusting after these thugish or the idea of a thugish man, i think it's the thing of being around that and having to hide themselves from it, so when they can get with it they run to it...It's the bad boy image i guess..lol
I think every community or group has sterotypes. It seems like the gay community experiences the same things as in the straight community, like girls lusting after the thugs and sensitive men being called punks and things like that. I never thought about how the dynamics that I've seen with girls and guys equally apply in the gay community.
Even more reason why Proposition H8 shouldn't have been passed.
I hear where you are coming from I like what you said and I feel the same way to and I agree with everything that you have said in the video thank you for making this video because sometimes I feel like like how you feel some things just irritate me to the point I can't take it the way they talk about as gay white or not even human I have all the stereo type about us I am just 21 so I am a young guy looking for love and is hard but watching this video makes me feel so much better thank u:-)
JaquanCD 2 weeks ago
I feel I can relate. I'm young and I'm 19. Besides that I'm naive at times.... But, I just want to let people know that even though I'm gay myself or bi idk yet, even though I'm still trying to find myself . But, we are human beings too, I mean just b/c we are gay our preference shouldn't define who we are and I want to be your friend on Facebook...
Sydwazi20 5 months ago
omg me and you need to be friends can i add you on facebook?...we are so much a like
PatriceLamumba23 6 months ago
I agree, I never like them thug types anyway I would so date you, your so mature!
loveaffair79 1 year ago
well shit its ok. i accept all people.
spokenwordable 1 year ago
You are so awesome..don't let anyone put you in a box. You have SO MUCH potential based on how beautifully you expressed yourself..I'm bi
stheday1 1 year ago
THAT'S WHAT'S UP CHAVEZ
yankee4lyfe 1 year ago
@yankee4lyfe Thanks Yankee! :)
NorthernStar2187 1 year ago
Keep sounding off! We all need and want to be loved, some of us don't realize what we want or what we need either at times! God bless you. I'm almost 45 with a 25 year old son and a lifetime of wishes that I have yet to share. peace and love always! Royce Lynch of Chicago, IL look me up on Face Book- Peace- Chavez!
PrettyBlack1966 1 year ago
Hey Chavez. Thank you so much for posting this video. I am in the same predicament right now as you. I am ready to share my life with someone but there are so many guys out here who just want to run around and not be serious. Thanks again for posting!
kkain123 2 years ago
Hey Chavez. I like you. I don't like the top, bottom labeling either, especially when it comes from gays. I think that the moment you enter a gay relationship you should be prepared to play both roles. You can always adapt to one role based on mutual understanding between u and your partner. A guy should not declare his preference from the onset.
TAMAGAWA02 2 years ago
Chavez..I hear you brotha. I, too have had the same homophobia experience. You see like a cool cat and would like to get to know you better.
dee1234ize 2 years ago
@dee1234ize Thank you... that's cool... do you have a Facebook or anything?
NorthernStar2187 2 years ago
im a male bisexual and i find my self in a dubble reationship....its a secret.... i want to make a choice of whether to be striaght of gay...botom line iz ...im tyrd of hurtin others... my partners secretly....i feel like a hore....help..hit me up wit a video responce
24claudius 2 years ago
Its interesting that u feel that the masculine boys are the main ones that start trouble, & theyre the ones that give gay guys a bad name. Then u said that People expect flamboyant types to start the trouble but they dont start trouble as much as the masculine guys? Really? Obviously u have not been watching College Hill South Beach and u definitely didnt see last Tuesday's episode! I wont spoil it for u, you should just watch it yourself online & then youll see what I mean.
bethal1998 2 years ago
Homosexuality should be accepted! I'm so happy that you said "I'm comfortable in my own skin to talk about my orientation (and so on)..." No matter what poeple say,just keep on doing your thing,because it's worth it!:):)
XxxDominikaHugaixxX 2 years ago
What u said was really true, and some of those stereotypes need to be avoided, and being gay in the society is hard, just know it will be ok. and one day you will find someone...
SoliderSlim 3 years ago
me personaly i dont want sum1 lik dat cause i can understand dat they do giv us bad names and cause da MOST drama... i lik normal guys dat no there gay n aint on da DL
kingbacon333 3 years ago
heterosexual people will never accept nothing but stereotype about gays because they want to see a different between homosexuals and heterosexual other then sexual orientation. That's why they see a different in the way homosexual act, talk, dress, and etc.
uraine7626 3 years ago
Great words of wisdom to be so young! 5 Stars!
Morethan1Blessing 3 years ago
The whole confined notion of there being a "top/bottom" always throws me off with gay males. But other than that I really enjoyed this vlog.
DigitalDezinesCEO 3 years ago 2
Thank ya!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
Why is it confusing? It is biological. Nothing to be thrown off about.
CuntyonMars 2 years ago
Being a "top/bottom" is biological?
Sexual expression is influenced more by our culture/environment. I say that because homosexual's grow up in a society with 'heterosexual standards'. It's just like growing up black in a white male dominated society. We(black people) tend to value ourselves based on what others think about us. The same is done in the gay community. Who has been there to teach same-gender loving people how to interact with one another? No one!
DigitalDezinesCEO 2 years ago 2
I can only speak from my experience; I should have clarified that. I do believe, in my case, sexual roles are biological. I derive no pleasure from the act of topping, in fact, doing so turns me off. I have tried it in the past, and I have always ended up disgusted by the whole ordeal. I don't like my penis to be touched, I just...it's a lot (and no, I have never been molested). I rather bottom; it's natural for me, as natural as being gay. I think all of that transcends societal influence.
CuntyonMars 2 years ago
Well, the brain is the BIGGEST sexual organ. So, that's where it starts.
DigitalDezinesCEO 2 years ago
I love your responses.. they are very intellectual!
NorthernStar2187 2 years ago
Continued...The only examples you have is the relationship dynamic between a male and female(which is dysfunctional in itself), and the "DL" man that has a wife/girlfriend or so he claims. Now, there has been a whole culture to come out of this way of thinking and it is celebrated. People live their lives with this self-hatred that has been inflicted on them by society and in turn they belittle others.
DigitalDezinesCEO 2 years ago
Continued... An example of that would be when more "masculine" guys encounter someone who is feminine. They may have something negative to say about it but In reality, they are struggling internally with who they really are.
DigitalDezinesCEO 2 years ago
Wow, the awareness at your young age is reaffirming and breath-taking. You are on the right path, and following your Northern Star. I want to share that I prefer to use the words "Sexual Nature" to "orientation" or "preferance" to show that this characteristic is innate and intrinsic, not a choice or a whim. Thanks for your generous wisdom. BTW, you're sexy in your shy way.
manofcolor 3 years ago
Thank you... I really respect your opinion about the use of "orientation" and "preference". And thank you again... for the sexy compliment lol!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
Yes. When Caesar went to the Senate and they were petitioning him to set some people free he said " These bowings and lowly courtesies may move ordinary men but I am as constant as the Northern star" Now, I taught Literature some years ago and I am just quoting from memory. Here is another in which you may find some kinship : "Let me have men about me who are fat, sleek headed men and such as sleep O nights. Yon Cassius has a lean and hungry look, such men are dangerous" Does it ring a bell?
maturedteacher 3 years ago
No, it doesn't ring a bell but I would love to gain knowledge about it lol
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
I just watched your video after I watched Marcus and Myk "alaboutus" and its very refreshing to see Gay men and women speak the truth. I was principally drawn to what you had to say about "trades". I have been always attracted to young, gifted and black men all of my 55 years. However, they never considered themselves gay and many of them are married now and thank me silently for the encounters. As shakespeare wrote in his play Julius Caesar ".......I am constant as the Northern Star" Peace
maturedteacher 3 years ago
Thank you... this is some of the greatest feedback one could ever receive. And I never heard that quote from Julius Caesar, Imma have to look that up!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
Wow....Look at my little brother. Vez, seriously, I'm so proud of you. I think about us as little kids and where we were back then and where we are now. You are one of the only people in my life as comfortable in your skin as I am. I sit back and watch your evolution and I'm so proud. Dude I was almost near tears. Lol. Just off of how much you've grown. I haven't even gotten to part II yet. Lol. This is def going in my favs. Keep walking the walk lil bro. You're beautiful.
RavenEkundayo 3 years ago
Thanks big bro! All I can do is be comfortable in my skin, and love who I am as a person!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
I really enjoyed this video..it seems like this video came straight from the heart..raw real and refreshing...
BeeTeeV 3 years ago
OMG I LOVE THE VIDEO!!! it was inspiring n i admire the fact dat u say u or so comfortable n your own skin..im not but i think wit ya video im gonna try 2 b now!
Flexn732 3 years ago
WOW... THANK YOU! That means a lot to me when someone says I inspired them... it really does... and I encourage you to be comfortable in your skin! It's the only way to live...
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
hey you,
im glad that you have come so far with your self acceptance. It takes decades for some. You are comfortable, and know who you are, and thats great.
:)
fatboislim86 3 years ago
Thank you... I am really really blessed!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
i wish you would have included some definitions in your video but overall good video...can't that i totally agree with everything. touched on some valid points. not sure if everyone else thinks like you. in some cases it would be great if everyone would be in the same mindset as you! :-)
Giveit2me420 3 years ago
I forgot some major points and may have to do another video, but thanks for watching the video!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
This is going straight to my myspace blog. I'm 19 so I'm a little younger, but watching this video is like getting a talk from my(gay) big brother.lol Thanks for this video!
coupsaen 3 years ago
WOW! Your welcome... I'm so happy you were able to get something out of this video!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
For some odd reason peeps gotta hate on other who aren't like them just so that they can feel better bout themselves you know. I wish peeps would just love one another everyones going through a struggle of their own but love of all people would make it that much easier. You seem like a cool dude, keep preeching the truth friend...oh and nice hat:) peace,
DSym21
symbolrock 3 years ago
You are right, people are going to hate on others unlike them and that is downright sad! I agree with everything you said, and thank you about the hat lol!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
speak it boo! :) Great examples...
onlyoneofme7 3 years ago
Thanx!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
good one! really good one!
4MusiCiAns 3 years ago
Thank you!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
you're the best!
tesroz 3 years ago
i love how u keep it real gud video! :)
jaimex001 3 years ago
Thank you!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
I Agree with you on that young gay boys lusting after these thugish or the idea of a thugish man, i think it's the thing of being around that and having to hide themselves from it, so when they can get with it they run to it...It's the bad boy image i guess..lol
VizionaryVideoz 3 years ago
You know what... I believe that's why they like that lifestyle as well!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
TRUE
VizionaryVideoz 3 years ago
"Whatever the hell you want to call 'em"
I love how blunt you are :-)
I think every community or group has sterotypes. It seems like the gay community experiences the same things as in the straight community, like girls lusting after the thugs and sensitive men being called punks and things like that. I never thought about how the dynamics that I've seen with girls and guys equally apply in the gay community.
Even more reason why Proposition H8 shouldn't have been passed.
Jedemilee 3 years ago
WOW... you've really just put everything into perspective, Jenise! Especially about the "boy/girl" thing.
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
And thanks for loving my bluntness lol!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago
And thank you for spelling my name right :-) I get daily emails at work that say "Jenice". Not cool. lol.
Jedemilee 3 years ago
Lol... you're welcome!
NorthernStar2187 3 years ago