Daddy Drinks Too Much - Al-Anon

[ilovemesomechicken]

I drobe while drining a beer yesterday, im 17, it was pretty nice :)

[MsDragonegg]

i find waching this brings a tear to my aye i have nevr had anyone with that illness but i am a young ceaer its the most upseting thing when you feel alon and

you feel like there no point in life but theres tunes of people out ther who or there for people who care. we care for ouer family and others care for us.

[fkdent]

This could have been my story! The video cut through me like a hot knife. I've been in Al-Anon recovery for many years but the feelings talked about in this video still haunt me. I fight every day not to isolate or hide behind facades. Through Al-Anon I have been able to find serenity and live with the ghosts of my past 50 years later. If this video hits home for you I encourage you to find an Al-Anon group near you.

[Metalgamerdood]

Alcoholics are a bunch of ignorant fucks! I find it funny how it's psychologically proven that a lot of Alcoholic parents had a mom or a dad that drank. That's no fucking exuse. You bring the addiction onto yourself. Not other people.

[CherryLipSmacker14]

@Metalgamerdood how dare you even say thay, you clearly never had someone you love with this illness and i hope to god you never do. you dont understand it at all and i hate people like you that think they can just judge people like that!

[stlbeats]

I useto hide from my dad when it was time to c him every outer weekend

[Streightful]

i have the same problem.. don't know what to do :(((((((((

[blondeoftheworld]

The same thing happened to my sister on her eighth grade graduation-my father got drunk- now im afraid he will pick alchohol over my graduation next week also...

[SheiraBell]

I am 25 years of asge now. Although i still struggle with what happened growing up, i related completely. There needs to be more awareness that we are not alone.

[michmiss18]

Any child forced to live with an alcoholic parent: You are not alone & this is not all there is to your life! Live a life that does not depend on the alcoholic (which is hard) & find it in your heart to accept them. Harboring anger is easy, anyone can do it. But it takes a very strong person to love an alcoholic through the anger. Realize that regardless of what you're feeling, they will not always be around. Really think about the last thing you would want to say to them.

[thes0mething]

It breaks my heart so much that people always r gonna go through this, Sure i did too, my dad is still drinking and he is an asshole because he doesnt get it! all he does is feelin sorry for himself. I Have finally started to trust people and gotten a life which doesnt depend on him at all. I hate it that so many people r left in that situation and growing up with a "rolemodel" who's such a douche. And to everyone who is, it does get better! You're far from alone

[opendtuning]

I believe that the word "Alchoholism" is an umbrella term and if you disect the condition of "Alchoholism" you may find combinations of Depression,Paranoia,Anxiety,Lo­w Self Esteem,Split Personality,Mental health issues,Feelings of incredible loneliness and a feeling of failure to function in life at a low level...that's why I believe it is a Disease and a nasty one at that...it should never be under-estimated and dealt with the utmost of respect...

[FoxxyRoxxy022]

Sorry,but I must copy your work!I just got so sad,I had to let other people know!Sorry,but don't worry,I'll give you 120% of credit and I get 100% ;D

[ToxicButterflyXx]

its not easy having and alcoholic parent..its heart breaking i have one my mom im 16...this video states exactly wht i feel im shedding tears..*sniffs*

[frankie69ify]

Pray for me. x.

[ARL0869]

Could anyone tell me the artist and music used in this video?

[EnderGate]

It is nice to have a tissue when we have a runny nose, but even better to treat the cause rather than the symptom. Sin is the cause of these symptoms. Only Christ Jesus can cleanse us from sin. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life, no one comes to the Father but by me..."

This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief. (1 Timothy 1:15)

The truth will set you free... (John 8:32)

[VicktheChick]

I tried ACA meetings but they were boring and whiney and the pre-ramble was too long. AA had what I wanted -- people really living 12 step learning not to blame others -- so I had to go there instead. I still can't stand ACA meetings. I wish ACA was more like AA. ACAers are just as self centered as alcoholics they just feel more righteous about it. I've learned to just accept that I have alcoholic thinking even though I don't drink.

[eksxlife]

I'm 31 !!! and I can't forget how ugly my childhood WAS !! that I can't talk about it ??

[darrylduke]

I call myself a "Recovered Alcoholic and have attended many AA meetings, but I didn't get stuck in AA. I simply grew both spiritually and a person outside the rooms. It was this growth that helped me be happy in life and eventually love myself enough to be happy with who I was. I do give credit to the 12 Steps of AA though. If it wasn't for the practice of those steps and the help I got from some of the people in the meetings, I may never have stayed sober long enough to find what I have.

[ToxicButterflyXx]

I remember growing up with alcoholism my mom a alcoholic i was only nine every night i would watch from my room watch her drinking getting drunk i would cry my eyes out i remember walking to schools with cardboard shoes because we didn't have enough money because she spent it on drinks ....Bur hopefully shes getting better and she joined AA

[raider805able]

this video hit home for me

im an alcoholic father

this vid makes me think about

getting sober... thanks!!

[1jer4]

I give alot 2 my daughter, dont think that I pay no mind 2 her. I attend every sport that she is active in an even help coach. I am a great father an I know that, I just choose on my time 2 drink. My time 4 me is short b'cuz I work alot an help around as much that I can....

[Dip3rz]

alcohol is fine now and then, but please... control yourself.

[skittlezchikk2]

Story Of My Lyfe. ):

[1jer4]

i drink alot, i got my baby n she seez me, shye all straight. n more then i am. its not a gean or sominthing u pick up. its yer choice!!!!!!!

[ilive4playboy]

it is your choice but if you are going to drink stop and think is it bet for your daughters future and her happyness you may think this is coming from an adult its not this is coming from a 13 going on 14 child. who has an alcoholic dad and whos parents are divorced. and at some times in my life it feels like he chose alcohol over me. so its your choice do you want to love alcohol or your daughter.

[kumupaa]

Enjoyed the video and the story is so true. There are so many touched by alcoholism and for those who have found Al-Anon Family Groups they have finally found hope......One Day At A Time.

[Onlydreamin1959]

My father and his grand-father drank to oblivion. When my Dad died (of lymphoma )he had a six drink a day habit. We let that go. The day he died he had a beer. Big deal, he died that day I do wish he'd been sober in his lifetime, but he wasn't. Then again I could not deny him what he was used to. Please don'ttry to reform the dying.

[XoBrokenWingsXo2]

I know this is adults talking about their childhood... but I'm 15 and i want to thank you for this. My father only talked of money and how he hated my 4 siblings for screwing up his life. I sat outside my junior high for 6 hours even though i lived 10 minutes up the road because he promised to pick me up. he never showed. We decided we had to disconnect from him and his lies to survive. Now he calls us everyday and all i can do is shed a tear now and then... for what he misses out on.

[Onlydreamin1959]

I'm so sorry. This must be so hard for you to get through. No, this isn't just about adults. In fact, it's about the young trying to live through this problem. It's just that it hits a nerve for adults of alcoholics. Sorry that most here have forgotten the people that alcohol impacts the most. Your dad does miss out... and he might reget it later if he's ever sober. What would you do then? You might want to think. It's good to have a plan and to decide how commited to the relationship you are.

[magzzyboiproductions]

Im 15 too, im soo sad about this that i almost shed some tears. :( im glad your getting through this, it must be tough.. hang in there, your a very strong person.

[Nickjluvr1020]

i'm 16, i'm also almost shedding tears :(

it's not easy...

[DynaChik]

Thank you for posting this.

[NavajoKoLii]

i went through this with my mom i never wanted to invite friends over because everytime i did something always went wrong i felt so embarassed and i had to learn how to let people in and share my feelings and stop holding back the tears because i learned not to cry i held everything in with her b/c if i cried she'd call me a baby and if i tried to tell her anything truthful about how she was an alcoholic she would get mad at me i hated the alcohol not her

[kmgreensman]

I went through this with my father ever since I could remember. He died about 8 years ago with Lung Cancer, but he had Sclerosis of the liver also. It really affects you many years after you grow up. I am 42 now and there aren't many days that go by without thinking about it. I posted a video in the respond section about my mother's relationship with my alcoholic father. It's called "Liquor Coated Lies" His promises turned into Liquor Coated Lies. Thanks for the video!

[mysilentcries1]

We were always broke, because he would spend the money and sometimes even take our B-day or christmas money and told us he would pay us back, which he never did. I used to stay awake at night praying in my bed that he would come home, drunk of course but i wouldn't go to sleep until i knew that he was home.

[mysilentcries1]

Now that i look back at my childhood, i realize that being left in the car for 5 or 6 hours because he forgot about you while he went to drink, that it was neglect. He would also take me and my brother with him to the bars, bar is no place for children, i can still remeber the stench of the darken place, the cigar smoke, the loud music and the sound of a game of pool starting.

[mysilentcries1]

Yea my dad had me so wrapped up with his problem that i denied that he was an alcoholic. My Father is also homosexual and i think that had a large role that played in his life. It has affected my life because i can't live without chaos, and i can't have a realtionship because i still cannot trust anyone because i don't want them to get close because i know that i won't let them in.

[Dracanomite]

My Father is dying from Cirrhosis of the liver right now because of his alcoholism. This is a great group and it is nice there are caring loving people out there who understand.

[sumperliam]

my mother is a heavy alcoholic and because of this she has affected me pshycologically and this hurts because as we all know the parents are the most important people in our lives. my mother has tried to commit suicide on 2 occasions on a friday and on a wednesday. she has commited drink driving and chased me round the table with a knife when i was 5. i often wonder what im supposed to do now, my dad is the only one i have and he spends his time on the computer and i have nobody to talk to.

[JayPourte]

Hi,

Both of my parents were alcoholics. I understand what you are living with. I too was chased with a knife when I was younger. I never ran out of the house o so fast in my life. I still remember that as being one of my worst moments. It was hard to find adults that were good examples of what an adult was supposed to be. You can talk to me.

[Allieternal]

I grew up in an alcoholic household the quotes are ones I can relate to. I have experienced most of the things in this video, neglect being a major one. I have also been in a car with parents (my father driving) while they both had been drinking. There are some many problems with alcohol in families and not many people seem to realize the effects their drinking may have on those around them.

[6467199]

I didn't grow up in an alcoholic home, but my kids are. I could relate to many of the comments. I like the movie a lot, but could it be faster? Good job!

[peacelovejoy54]

I did not grow up with alcoholism in my home. However, other things happened in my childhood which caused me to have a tremendous fear of abandonment and to crave love...at any cost. I found Al-Anon in 1989 when my husband was in treatment. I owe my very life to the Al-Anon program. The 12 Steps, meetings, my sponsor, and most of all my Higher Power keep me sane and joyful one day at a time. Thanks for creating this wonderful video to share the message. Peace, Love, and Joy to you today.

[luella359]

Great way to tell others about the Al-Anon program! It does need some tweeking, great just the same.

[leonlifer]

The message contained in this video is dynamic. However I found the delivery to be poor quality, at least on my computer. The font was blurred when played at full screen, the comments in the solution portion went too fast to read. Its a good concept, it just needs tweaking.

[merrymeibe]

It was in Al-Anon that I finally found the hope and help I had been searching for. Thank you, sereneodat and the people who shared, for making this video. Hopefully, it will touch those in need of help who view it to seek out Al-Anon for themselves.

[tcichantk]

I grew with an alcoholic father, brother, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, boy, you name the person, they were alcoholic. I believed in being invisible to protect myself and as a child this worked somewhat, but as an adult, not so much. Al-Anon has helped me to grow up, to take care of myself in a healthy way as an adult.  When I get better, it helps my family and the other people around me. Thank God for Al-Anon. I think it saved my life (and it certainly saved my husband's!).

[wld4advnture]

I grew up w/alcoholism all around me & never felt like I fit in anywhere...until Al-anon. Our stories may be diff, but our problems/feelings are very similar. I've learned my thinking has been affected, which not only affects me but also my relationships. Al-anon is a safe place for me to discover why I feel the way & do the things I do. Through others experience, strength & hope, I'm building my self-esteem, I have courage to do things I never could do before & I've found some peace in my life.

[mjmsm61]

My life was affected as a child because my mother's life was affected and she committed suicide when I was 21 yrs. old. As I grew up and immediately fell for the first alcoholic I met, I tried for many years to change him, with no results, except for me to get sicker. I thought children would help him stop, but it didn't, so my children grew up with alcoholism. How many times I wish I could take back those bitter years from us, but because of Al-Anon, I am free of those ugly times.

[likethecats]

"I thought children would help him stop'" My mother is in her eighties now and she thought this way. What she put us through to keep my father going is not fair. How can I get her to be truthful and apologize before she passes away. I would mean a lot to me.

[JayPourte]

Many people think they can change an alcoholic if they just try hard enough. But this just doesn't work out. There are millions of people who have made this same mistake. Unfortunately, you can't force her to apologize. You can your local Al-Anon service center and perhaps attend an Al_Anon meeting for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Just google Alanon meetings and the name of your state. We ACOA's understand your anger.

[likethecats]

Thank You Jay, for your message. People that have not grown up with this type of parent don't understand the spiderweb of damage. Panic attacks, eating disorders, can't stay in a relationship, can't trust or trust to much. I never learned how to plan for a year or a month ahead. I never knew from one day to the next. With my mother it's one step forward and then a retreat into "that never happened." But that one step forward is a little bit of hope. Thanks.