spanking doesn't work. they don't know for what they get punished. he laughs all the time, that's because he's not recognize what he's doing wrong. mom says get on the chair. get on the chair, finaly the chair goes out of the room. where has been his clarity? the consequence was sitting on the chair. he didn't he drops the chair on the ground, and mom picks te chair out of the room. that's really stupid to do. by the way it's a cutie. but he needs distinctness
This is a tantrum? He looks as if he is just jerking your chain. He's not minding you. But tantrum not. My son has Aspergers and he tantrumed hard and long. Screaming, spitting, running around, kicking and otherwise refusing to comply vehemently
seems he needs a good ol fashioned ass whooping!! and I do have kids..I wouldnt let my kid hit me at all like this young man does..no way!! my parents spanked me and Im good IDK y there is so much fuss about beating a kids butt when they are bad!!
@420LadyBlaze I have a five year old autistic son that acts JUST like this. If mine were to receive an "ass whooping" he would laugh in my face and hit me back thinking we were playing a game. Just like this child thinks it's a game to sit in the chair. When we are in public and everyone starts staring and having their whispers, my husband always reminds me
@420LadyBlaze ..."Half the people are saying, 'if they would whip him he wouldn't act like that.'The other half is saying, 'It's because they whip him that he acts like that.'" This is your son and your life; I commend you on doing what is right for you and your son.
@chewls981 beating aspies is the worse to do! its not a behaverial problem, its mental. i have a bro with aspergers (autism) as my parents use to spank him ALOT when he was little, and thaught something was off, so they took him to get tested for autism, and he came out positive, and did they feel like a douche. ass whoopings dont do it. letting them get through it is the best way to go.
@chewls981 How do we no you turned out ''well''? I mean if you're 30+ sitting on youtube urging parents to turn to violence (Any type is considered violence even spanking.) on a video of a child who you do not even no then i'd say you didn't turn out so well.
Every book you've ever read about raising (typical) kids which gives parenting advice like time outs, consequences, tough love, etc. IS TOTALLY INEFFECTIVE with kids DXd w autism.
This isn't bad parenting-- it's mysterious, baffling autism. Live 2 days with my son and you'll get it. The first day you'll know it all, the second day you won't be able to handle it.
For Mom- get online and find Parent Groups for Autism. You'll learn more from them them than 'experts'. Goodluck.
This is very similar to when my ADHD (pos asd too) son gets over stimulated. (Mine is a teenager now so slightly different but I still remember this well)
I understand that his laughing isn't happiness but probably frustration because he can't get out his system what ever he needs to. This usually turned into extreme anger and self hate towards the end from my son.
I really think all we can do when they are like this is wait it out, keep them safe,
how about just letting him be alone in the room with the bed and pillows for his time out? sure, he might not relax at first, but eventually he might get bored and relax. i also noticed that you only had one hand free, and used it to push him away as he came near you. he was hitting you and you did nothing. perhaps leaving was the right thing to do? or if you didn't want to leave, perhaps having him sit on your lap or next to you while you relax and model what you want him to do?
why do people like you post dumb videos of your autistic kids throwing tantrums?! Your camra is not going to calm him down,you need to do something about it not follow him with a camra.
@blackkittys668 why are you watching this video? I posted this in order to hear what other parents do in similar situations. He reacts this way with or with out me recording it.
@blackkittys668 The challenge of having autistic kids is ameliorated by sharing with other people in similar situations. It's odder to wonder why are you watching videos of kids having tantrums. Go take a walk in the park.
@blackkittys668 they post these videos to help other people who either have children with autism or children they suspect may have autism. The videos are very helpful to other concerned parents. I personally am thankful for all of the people who take the time to post videos related to Autism. They have helped me personally recognize signs of Autism in my baby.
well this is not that bad of a tantrum i used to have a severe case of adhd and bipolar disorder when i was 4-12 years old and i have destroyed walls because of it im so glad i can control my self now if you wanna talk about bad tantrums talk to me my cousin in 15 and has tantrums worse than i used to
I'm sorry I fail to see the autism, I have seen several children act this way, including my own niece right through to the demented laughing and they don't calm down until they know there are consequences. I see an extremely naughty child but no Autistic behaviour. Would love to know who gave you your autism diagnosis. It would seem he has learnt he can "get away with" this type of behaviour since being diagnosed, as it has since been met with tolerance, not consequences.
@BlueberryBubblegum18 LOL good luck with your schooling. I have read your comments on other peoples videos. You should never compare children. I had a team of doctors diagnose him Pediatrician, Psychologist/Psychiatrist, Speech Therapist, Occupational Therapist all of which confirm where he is lacking developmentally in order to be diagnosed. You have a lot to learn before you have any knowledge of the disorder to speak of and the fact that your in school to help these kind of kids is scary!
@BlueberryBubblegum18 I Take some sympathy towards the kid. He probably is extremely upset about something. I mean, being autistic is hard. I should know I have Aspbergers Autism myself.
@pinka0688 This little boy is over excited and frustrated but as you see, his response is not appropriate and he giggles. Spanking would excite him further and make the situation worse. He needs help to calm down.
A spank might scare some children into pretending to be calm so they don't get hit again but this little boy cannot calm himself. That is the whole problem.
Thank you for posting this video. I don't feel so alone. My son is the same as yours. The laughing, hitting, the ten million cars toys. lol :) It's so frustrating, but I feel you.
the reason he is having a tantrum, is because you are giving him a verbal command as well as giving him a task at the same time. You need to learn to do one or the other to control him. Plus he's just playing anyway, Lovely child.
on my other account i commented you were hitting him, watching this again i was wrong, sorry. it has to have a lot of patiance to put up with that to and watching this vdeo again you definetly didn't hit him
Tantrum? I would give anything if my boy only had these types of tanrums..a tantrum here is stitches broken glasses head banging and more...God Bless you.
@jimigirl38 yeah this isn't that bad that's why I was able to film it. We did have mirrored closet wardrobe doors but he actually had broken 1 and I had to remove all of them from the apartment and recently he broke a window in his room in our new place.
Is he verbal??...once they start talking a little more.. and express themselves and tell you what they don't want... teach him to tell you" I don't want it" " don't do that" "N0" every time he doesn't want something..instead of going physical.
@elyloco he is only verbal when it comes to a need, like I want food, juice, bath, dinner. When he is in a mood it takes a lot to get anything out of him and actually it can escalate his behavior.
@420LadyBlaze .. what diet do you have him on... I saw a big in difference in a week when I put him on the Spectrum Protocol.... I think it was the sugar cut we did....he is improving a lot..
@462kitkat the 'ol "Worked for me" approach to critiquing. I'm really glad that you grew up well adjusted, but what has worked well for you as a child (for punishment) has had some disastrous effects on others. There are many many different forms of punishment that don't require assaulting (even slightly) a child.
I've worked w/ two kids that I felt for sure were autistic but I didn't have clinical confirmation that they were. They were for sure mildly MR and definitely displayed odd like behavior. I truly feel for these parents b/c these kids just aren't right. You almost feel like there is nothing you can say or do to make them "get it". It's really frustrating. I couldn't imagine being a parent. I have found a few ways that have worked as far as calming them down or getting them to do what I want.
Looks like you're a bit too easy on the punishment.... I understand he's autistic, but yeah I don't think this was a tantrum... It looks like a game. He totally used you for his entertainment. LOL If he doesn't take the punishment seriously, either make the punishment worse (I'm not saying hit him, that would be pointless in his case... he'd probably just become terrified of you) or simply forget it after he forgets what he's getting punished for. =/
I'm a special education teacher and have worked with children and adults with autism for almost 10 years. I have worked with a child similar to yours. One suggestion I could make is to have a system set up where he does "work" activities for a period of time, such as academic or fine motor skills, then have a break where he goes outside or does a physical activity so he can exert some physical energy. This interchange between focused work and getting out extra energy can sometimes help.
its not really a tantrum, he looks more like hes just having fun lol. i have an autistic little brother who's about 14 but his tantrums are ballistic. like the littlest thing will trigger an uncontrollable rage and when he's mad he attacks everyone and everything. my house looks like a project that got hit by a tornado with all of his tantrums. plus hes pretty big so its real difficult to restrain him when he does start up. hes kind of like broly, if you know anything about DBZ
my son is Autistic and he loves to eat chocolates...and sometimes if he is having tantrums he pulls my hair and kick me.. but i dont get mad..coz still He's my little angel.....and I LOVE MY SON SO MUCH...
What happens when you take all sugar out of his diet (including sucrose, fructose, glucose, maltose, and lactose) and let him run around the playground for a few hours? I would bet his condition would improve, or at least not get any worse, in the long run if seriously applied.
@CyrilHelnwein I did the casein free gluten free diet for 4 months and saw no change..so now we just eat organic as much as possible and no high fructose corn syrup and things of that sort...I can let him run all day and he will still fight...good ideas though :)
when dealing with kids i just run with them all day til they get worn down but i'll bet autistic kids never get bored so that tantrum would've lasted the whole day
Hang in there. I know it's hard when parents of NT children make rude comments. They see our children as normal because they don't have any classic signs of downs or retardation. I know this all to well. My son does the same thing. As for the one comment about locking him in his room........well, if he was like my son that would not be a safe option. I think we need to have a reality show about autism. Maybe the rest of the world would have a better understanding of what autism is.
@420LadyBlaze exactly. My husband's cousin has Autism, and he act's so...just....uncontrollable sometimes!!! But the thing is its SO hard to discipline him in a way that #1 isnt cruel and #2 he understand's.! He's starting to understand what "go to your room" means. But it's SO hard. I really feel for you <3 your so patient!!!
@dukygirl64 wouldnt work, itd just make it worse, and alot of autistic kids have self injurous habits, that can leave them badly hurt, a belt wouldnbt help it would just make it worse
@dukygirl64 spanking an autistic child doesnt make the child behave better, it just makes everything worse. he wouldn't understand why he is getting spanked, he will just get more violent and could end up traumatized.
@dukygirl64 you need to have your head examined first off Corporal punnishment teaches a child absolutely nothing but the following, you're a hypocrite (you tell them not to hit, but you hit) it is ok to hurt someone else when that person has upset them or done something that they didnt like, how to be smeakier and to be dishonest out of fear of being hurt, to fear you not respect you, how many people do you respect that you are fearful of for your physical well being?
This is a tantrum??? Yea, Laughing and just getting off some energy. That sure does deserve time out.--You should take the time out and walk away. Your real sensitive,you are. Wouldn't want to kick my ball in your garden.
@pattixox at first it is just escape and he is laughing to get attention but by the end he starts to get destructive and aggressive with me..he is being punished with a time out from having a tantrum before I started filming..I don't think I am really sensitive but it is easy to judge from behind a computer screen.
I understand that you want to show this to and inform the world, but please keep in mind your child's feelings. I had rages/tantrums also uncontrollable due to lyme disease and some were videoed. Any time I even think about that I want to cry...
you know your son the best but i would have tried takin him to have time out in a different place and rather then being close enough to film i would have walked away/given him space to prevent him feeling he had attention and control over the situation.
@420LadyBlaze I still do that to this day, we havnt found anything better so far, I just dont have anything too fragile, dangerous or expensive in there
so i could easily imagine waking up to laughing at 4 in the morning and walk in and see a static screened tv with him sitting face to face with it laughing at it.
I think he's playing with the mom. It's clear to me that he's not taking her seriously. Maybe he does need more sensory input and not less. It's also possible---not necessarily probable---that ABA just isn't working for him.
@1958boomergirl yeah it is a form of escape..his favorite way is to laugh hysterically and run and hit...ABA has helped him tons..since this video he is way more compliant...I am finally getting internet again at home and can upload newer videos of his progress..
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This is one of the things I find so darn fustrating. You say sit down, your face is serious, your voice is all business, and your posture is enough to make the most unruly child stand at attention. Not an autistic child. They take one look at your serious face, bust out laughing, and do the opposite of what you're asking. All the chasing, the patience, the battle of wills....it's exhausting.
@BluFields yep, they have no clue about voice inflection, facial expressions etc.. i just learned to enforce and "show" everything i was saying ie if i said stop jumping off the couch, i could try saying it a million different ways but unless i physically stopped it and got right up in my child personal space it was never going to end.. its definately helped alot. i dont get the absurd responses as much anymore..
@BluFields it is exhausting! some days are better than others and I love those days...his compliance is getting better I can't wait to post new videos and share his progress
I guess this isn't a classic "tantrum" it's more non-compliance I wanted him to relax he was jumping all over the place and this was my first time using the chair as time-out by myself (w/o his ABA Therapist there) so I recorded it for them to review too...maybe he did do a little "show" since I was recording but this is on the milder side of non-compliance..Now he is in his own room in his own space and no vertical blinds so it's better...
@420LadyBlaze its so hard to film their behavior because you cant act naturally and focus on the task at hand of filming them.. too bad you dont have someone there who would help you film..
What has helped my son some is doing pressure therapy and brushing, I think for my son he gets (well he is ALWAYS hyper, but gets like this) when he needs extra sensory input. When we give it to him it helps, also weighted blankets.
My son is much the same, but kinda MORE hyper. For non ASD parents... think of having this at the grocery store, post office, etc trying to wait in line :-) It's hard for them to have to stand still. Maybe let us get a cut in front now and then! ;-)
@studioregency its pure hell.. recently i was in line at dept of motor vehicles.. they tried to make us leave b/c of my child behavior, i offered to wait outside if i wouldnt lose my turn in line,, a supervisor heard her employee talking to me and quickly decided to get us ahead of everyone else.. good thing becAuse i would have had a huge lawsuit on them for discrimination.
i dont know if you ever read the book DEAR JOHN but i would recommend it.its a love story but there are autistic characters in it.teaches us to love everyone. and your son is adorable.GOD BLESS YOU GUYS
@420LadyBlaze....my son is autistic, also...he's 9.5 years old....minimally verbal..but like your son, VERY smart. He tests me ALL the time. This morning his school had a 2 hour delay bcuz of snow, so I drove him in..on the way, he screamed LIBRARY! as we passed it to try and get out of going to school..as I kept driving past the library, he got mad. He climbed from the back seat, and ripped my hair out of my head while I was driving! So dangerous...but I like how he tried to use the library
@refi68 I know right! Lol he is doing better I'm going to post another video of him now..so different so happy and blessed that he has ABA and that I am learing quickly how to deal with him and prevent outbursts :)
@waarce becareful with toothpaste its very poisenous.. i know my child will eat the whole tube so I lock it all away and took years to train her not to eat stuff like this.. try using a motorized toothbrush also check out pica on the net just in case he is missing something in his diet, discuss with your ped... good luck!
@dclark12553 I am 13. My mother smacked me for hitting my brother when I was 5, and kept on doing it untill I learned, Now when im out in some type of swank restraunt the waitress or w/e says that im well behaved or w/e, just give them a smack and >>>YELL<<<
I have a child ASD we found that calming music was a tremdous help for relaxing him also sitting with him while the music played and just holding his hand was also very helpful.
My son was 6 when first diagnosed, he is now 17. It does get better
@CDFoakley he gets 4 hours of 1to1 ABA and I get 4 hours of PC...he's getting better for the most part but he has his moments where he gets "silly" then turns to violence..as for sensory toys he would just throw them he stims off his hotwheels and has a bandana for chewing instead of all his shirts..thanks for the positive comment...your an awesome mom too I love your videos..
Thanks for sharing reality of living with autism. And for those who judge your way of handling him, recall they don';t know your son. They aren't experts in your son. They are sitting behind a computer typing judgements. So unless it's something positive and encouraging and practical and helpful. Ignore them. UR a wonderful mom, stay strong. U have a long journey ahead of you. Do you have behavioral supports? Does he like hand held sensory toys to help calm him or will he throw them?
@comedybenj he is laughing as a form of elopement/escape and he did share a room with his older sister but recently I gave up my room so he can have it I am a single mother to 3 kids living in Southern California and can't afford a 3 bedroom only 2
@420LadyBlaze i totally understand.. my autistic child i have found will get more destructive if hungry, bored, tired, or just plain angry b/c i said no to something..
time to bust out the leather belt. if you get him to associate pain with improper behavior, he will stop.
MCPObr44 2 weeks ago
@MCPObr44 read previous response to dumb ass people like you who say the same damn thing!
420LadyBlaze 2 weeks ago
put some of his toys in the bin, that will make him stop... :)
TheTreehouse3000 2 weeks ago
dlfreak1 2 weeks ago
This is a tantrum? He looks as if he is just jerking your chain. He's not minding you. But tantrum not. My son has Aspergers and he tantrumed hard and long. Screaming, spitting, running around, kicking and otherwise refusing to comply vehemently
luckylady6369 1 month ago
seems he needs a good ol fashioned ass whooping!! and I do have kids..I wouldnt let my kid hit me at all like this young man does..no way!! my parents spanked me and Im good IDK y there is so much fuss about beating a kids butt when they are bad!!
chewls981 2 months ago
@chewls981 He has no response to spankings. I wish it were that easy.
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@420LadyBlaze I have a five year old autistic son that acts JUST like this. If mine were to receive an "ass whooping" he would laugh in my face and hit me back thinking we were playing a game. Just like this child thinks it's a game to sit in the chair. When we are in public and everyone starts staring and having their whispers, my husband always reminds me
codyconnorcadenmom 3 weeks ago
@420LadyBlaze ..."Half the people are saying, 'if they would whip him he wouldn't act like that.'The other half is saying, 'It's because they whip him that he acts like that.'" This is your son and your life; I commend you on doing what is right for you and your son.
codyconnorcadenmom 3 weeks ago
@chewls981 beating aspies is the worse to do! its not a behaverial problem, its mental. i have a bro with aspergers (autism) as my parents use to spank him ALOT when he was little, and thaught something was off, so they took him to get tested for autism, and he came out positive, and did they feel like a douche. ass whoopings dont do it. letting them get through it is the best way to go.
killertellitubby 2 months ago
@chewls981 How do we no you turned out ''well''? I mean if you're 30+ sitting on youtube urging parents to turn to violence (Any type is considered violence even spanking.) on a video of a child who you do not even no then i'd say you didn't turn out so well.
UtubeDuDeDuh 1 month ago
Every book you've ever read about raising (typical) kids which gives parenting advice like time outs, consequences, tough love, etc. IS TOTALLY INEFFECTIVE with kids DXd w autism.
This isn't bad parenting-- it's mysterious, baffling autism. Live 2 days with my son and you'll get it. The first day you'll know it all, the second day you won't be able to handle it.
For Mom- get online and find Parent Groups for Autism. You'll learn more from them them than 'experts'. Goodluck.
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MaryCampbell22 2 months ago
I find that as my boy calms, a distraction does the trick and he just snaps out of it and it is like nothing has happened.
My son say that he doesn't know what makes him feel like that and not understanding what is happening to him makes him even crosser.
hipapotomus 2 months ago
This is very similar to when my ADHD (pos asd too) son gets over stimulated. (Mine is a teenager now so slightly different but I still remember this well)
I understand that his laughing isn't happiness but probably frustration because he can't get out his system what ever he needs to. This usually turned into extreme anger and self hate towards the end from my son.
I really think all we can do when they are like this is wait it out, keep them safe,
hipapotomus 2 months ago
how about just letting him be alone in the room with the bed and pillows for his time out? sure, he might not relax at first, but eventually he might get bored and relax. i also noticed that you only had one hand free, and used it to push him away as he came near you. he was hitting you and you did nothing. perhaps leaving was the right thing to do? or if you didn't want to leave, perhaps having him sit on your lap or next to you while you relax and model what you want him to do?
smollz 3 months ago
they tape it so maybe you can get at lease a little of what its like to walk in their shoe's
yellowlablovr 3 months ago
why do people like you post dumb videos of your autistic kids throwing tantrums?! Your camra is not going to calm him down,you need to do something about it not follow him with a camra.
blackkittys668 3 months ago 6
@blackkittys668 why are you watching this video? I posted this in order to hear what other parents do in similar situations. He reacts this way with or with out me recording it.
420LadyBlaze 3 months ago
@blackkittys668 The challenge of having autistic kids is ameliorated by sharing with other people in similar situations. It's odder to wonder why are you watching videos of kids having tantrums. Go take a walk in the park.
sparxx53 2 months ago 2
@blackkittys668 they post these videos to help other people who either have children with autism or children they suspect may have autism. The videos are very helpful to other concerned parents. I personally am thankful for all of the people who take the time to post videos related to Autism. They have helped me personally recognize signs of Autism in my baby.
lucyddreamer17 1 week ago
well this is not that bad of a tantrum i used to have a severe case of adhd and bipolar disorder when i was 4-12 years old and i have destroyed walls because of it im so glad i can control my self now if you wanna talk about bad tantrums talk to me my cousin in 15 and has tantrums worse than i used to
zachpkmn 3 months ago
@zachpkmn I stopped recording once his behavior escalated.
420LadyBlaze 3 months ago
I'm sorry I fail to see the autism, I have seen several children act this way, including my own niece right through to the demented laughing and they don't calm down until they know there are consequences. I see an extremely naughty child but no Autistic behaviour. Would love to know who gave you your autism diagnosis. It would seem he has learnt he can "get away with" this type of behaviour since being diagnosed, as it has since been met with tolerance, not consequences.
BlueberryBubblegum18 3 months ago
@BlueberryBubblegum18 LOL good luck with your schooling. I have read your comments on other peoples videos. You should never compare children. I had a team of doctors diagnose him Pediatrician, Psychologist/Psychiatrist, Speech Therapist, Occupational Therapist all of which confirm where he is lacking developmentally in order to be diagnosed. You have a lot to learn before you have any knowledge of the disorder to speak of and the fact that your in school to help these kind of kids is scary!
420LadyBlaze 3 months ago
@BlueberryBubblegum18 I Take some sympathy towards the kid. He probably is extremely upset about something. I mean, being autistic is hard. I should know I have Aspbergers Autism myself.
Neku628 3 months ago
let himhve fun. :)
he like your camera
oooz2live 3 months ago
HHHhhmmmmm........ huuun well ... just let himhave fun :D
oooz2live 3 months ago
I can't wait until your son is 16. I wonder what will happen than.
SidTheLoveRat 3 months ago
That boy doesn't seem to have a problem to me.
SidTheLoveRat 3 months ago
@SidTheLoveRat I wish he didn't
420LadyBlaze 3 months ago
does spanking autistic kids work?
pinka0688 3 months ago
@pinka0688 No spanking does nothing.
420LadyBlaze 3 months ago
@pinka0688 This little boy is over excited and frustrated but as you see, his response is not appropriate and he giggles. Spanking would excite him further and make the situation worse. He needs help to calm down.
A spank might scare some children into pretending to be calm so they don't get hit again but this little boy cannot calm himself. That is the whole problem.
hipapotomus 2 months ago
Thank you for posting this video. I don't feel so alone. My son is the same as yours. The laughing, hitting, the ten million cars toys. lol :) It's so frustrating, but I feel you.
TaMaSouLjAh 3 months ago 2
the reason he is having a tantrum, is because you are giving him a verbal command as well as giving him a task at the same time. You need to learn to do one or the other to control him. Plus he's just playing anyway, Lovely child.
LongshanksSid 3 months ago
on my other account i commented you were hitting him, watching this again i was wrong, sorry. it has to have a lot of patiance to put up with that to and watching this vdeo again you definetly didn't hit him
MPSmurf1999 3 months ago
Yeh..the really bad ones are hard to film when your being attacked..lol
jimigirl38 4 months ago
I feel bad! When I grow up and have kids, i dont know if i would be ready to deal with child like behavior for longer!
FillingMyPants5 4 months ago
Tantrum? I would give anything if my boy only had these types of tanrums..a tantrum here is stitches broken glasses head banging and more...God Bless you.
jimigirl38 4 months ago
@jimigirl38 yeah this isn't that bad that's why I was able to film it. We did have mirrored closet wardrobe doors but he actually had broken 1 and I had to remove all of them from the apartment and recently he broke a window in his room in our new place.
420LadyBlaze 4 months ago
Is he verbal??...once they start talking a little more.. and express themselves and tell you what they don't want... teach him to tell you" I don't want it" " don't do that" "N0" every time he doesn't want something..instead of going physical.
paren of a 4y/o pdd nos
elyloco 4 months ago
@elyloco he is only verbal when it comes to a need, like I want food, juice, bath, dinner. When he is in a mood it takes a lot to get anything out of him and actually it can escalate his behavior.
420LadyBlaze 4 months ago
@420LadyBlaze .. what diet do you have him on... I saw a big in difference in a week when I put him on the Spectrum Protocol.... I think it was the sugar cut we did....he is improving a lot..
elyloco 4 months ago
try a weight vest for relaxing child see nyk
steeplechaserider 4 months ago
@steeplechaserider this is actually a good idea and i think they use one at school on him. I will look into one!
420LadyBlaze 4 months ago
You're a very patient momma. He is lucky to have you.
sweetalker79 4 months ago
@462kitkat the 'ol "Worked for me" approach to critiquing. I'm really glad that you grew up well adjusted, but what has worked well for you as a child (for punishment) has had some disastrous effects on others. There are many many different forms of punishment that don't require assaulting (even slightly) a child.
ScrewTheLiving 5 months ago
I've worked w/ two kids that I felt for sure were autistic but I didn't have clinical confirmation that they were. They were for sure mildly MR and definitely displayed odd like behavior. I truly feel for these parents b/c these kids just aren't right. You almost feel like there is nothing you can say or do to make them "get it". It's really frustrating. I couldn't imagine being a parent. I have found a few ways that have worked as far as calming them down or getting them to do what I want.
ladyEulaelie 5 months ago
soooo very similar to my son.
somefamousperson 5 months ago
Looks like you're a bit too easy on the punishment.... I understand he's autistic, but yeah I don't think this was a tantrum... It looks like a game. He totally used you for his entertainment. LOL If he doesn't take the punishment seriously, either make the punishment worse (I'm not saying hit him, that would be pointless in his case... he'd probably just become terrified of you) or simply forget it after he forgets what he's getting punished for. =/
DoorFamelicious 5 months ago
I'm a special education teacher and have worked with children and adults with autism for almost 10 years. I have worked with a child similar to yours. One suggestion I could make is to have a system set up where he does "work" activities for a period of time, such as academic or fine motor skills, then have a break where he goes outside or does a physical activity so he can exert some physical energy. This interchange between focused work and getting out extra energy can sometimes help.
rowdyk27 5 months ago
Typical asspie doing what they do best!
Popanator2010 5 months ago
its not really a tantrum, he looks more like hes just having fun lol. i have an autistic little brother who's about 14 but his tantrums are ballistic. like the littlest thing will trigger an uncontrollable rage and when he's mad he attacks everyone and everything. my house looks like a project that got hit by a tornado with all of his tantrums. plus hes pretty big so its real difficult to restrain him when he does start up. hes kind of like broly, if you know anything about DBZ
BDG013 5 months ago
my son is Autistic and he loves to eat chocolates...and sometimes if he is having tantrums he pulls my hair and kick me.. but i dont get mad..coz still He's my little angel.....and I LOVE MY SON SO MUCH...
javatearlyn81 6 months ago
he is so sweet and you handled him very nicely, ive seen poeple beat their autistic children.
Iggygirl22 6 months ago
What happens when you take all sugar out of his diet (including sucrose, fructose, glucose, maltose, and lactose) and let him run around the playground for a few hours? I would bet his condition would improve, or at least not get any worse, in the long run if seriously applied.
CyrilHelnwein 6 months ago
@CyrilHelnwein I did the casein free gluten free diet for 4 months and saw no change..so now we just eat organic as much as possible and no high fructose corn syrup and things of that sort...I can let him run all day and he will still fight...good ideas though :)
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago
when dealing with kids i just run with them all day til they get worn down but i'll bet autistic kids never get bored so that tantrum would've lasted the whole day
themananswer2250 6 months ago
@themananswer2250 if it is something they love to do they could and want to do it all day. They are very hard to tire out.
sparkey2140 5 months ago
Hang in there. I know it's hard when parents of NT children make rude comments. They see our children as normal because they don't have any classic signs of downs or retardation. I know this all to well. My son does the same thing. As for the one comment about locking him in his room........well, if he was like my son that would not be a safe option. I think we need to have a reality show about autism. Maybe the rest of the world would have a better understanding of what autism is.
bigelvis1485 6 months ago 9
Cute kid.
Marinedude2 6 months ago
@Marinedude2 thanks :-)
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago
just get the belt
dukygirl64 6 months ago
@dukygirl64 fucking child abuse
TheConorgray1 6 months ago
just get the belt or spank him
dukygirl64 6 months ago
@dukygirl64 that would work with a typical child but with him he wouldn't understand...
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago 2
@420LadyBlaze exactly. My husband's cousin has Autism, and he act's so...just....uncontrollable sometimes!!! But the thing is its SO hard to discipline him in a way that #1 isnt cruel and #2 he understand's.! He's starting to understand what "go to your room" means. But it's SO hard. I really feel for you <3 your so patient!!!
PantheraFatalis 4 months ago
@dukygirl64 wouldnt work, itd just make it worse, and alot of autistic kids have self injurous habits, that can leave them badly hurt, a belt wouldnbt help it would just make it worse
rhino2960 5 months ago
@dukygirl64 spanking an autistic child doesnt make the child behave better, it just makes everything worse. he wouldn't understand why he is getting spanked, he will just get more violent and could end up traumatized.
jeanaliz2006 4 months ago
@dukygirl64 you need to have your head examined first off Corporal punnishment teaches a child absolutely nothing but the following, you're a hypocrite (you tell them not to hit, but you hit) it is ok to hurt someone else when that person has upset them or done something that they didnt like, how to be smeakier and to be dishonest out of fear of being hurt, to fear you not respect you, how many people do you respect that you are fearful of for your physical well being?
rocknrazrbld 4 months ago
This is a tantrum??? Yea, Laughing and just getting off some energy. That sure does deserve time out.--You should take the time out and walk away. Your real sensitive,you are. Wouldn't want to kick my ball in your garden.
pattixox 6 months ago
@pattixox at first it is just escape and he is laughing to get attention but by the end he starts to get destructive and aggressive with me..he is being punished with a time out from having a tantrum before I started filming..I don't think I am really sensitive but it is easy to judge from behind a computer screen.
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago
I understand that you want to show this to and inform the world, but please keep in mind your child's feelings. I had rages/tantrums also uncontrollable due to lyme disease and some were videoed. Any time I even think about that I want to cry...
LoveMeBuggy 6 months ago
@LoveMeBuggy sorry about your experience I dont do this regularly to him...
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago
why does he wear that sheet aound his neck
1234548840 6 months ago
@1234548840 its a bandana so he will chew on that instead of his shirt
420LadyBlaze 6 months ago
Those are cute sheets! I reember my brother having tantrums like this..he has autism.
cuppycakenomnom 7 months ago
you know your son the best but i would have tried takin him to have time out in a different place and rather then being close enough to film i would have walked away/given him space to prevent him feeling he had attention and control over the situation.
but hey every child and situation is different
ahlnatural 7 months ago
pretty nice cars 2 bed
Pjbeauprejr 7 months ago
I like the name of the Uploader LOL
Thomasnolaniscool 7 months ago
Did the plan worked?
CoolZafara96 7 months ago
@CoolZafara96 it didn't...i put my phone down and had to physically restrain him until he calmed down....
420LadyBlaze 7 months ago
like his car bed
1234548840 8 months ago
why didnt you just lock him in his room til he calmed down?
XGamerGX 8 months ago
@XGamerGX because he would destroy the entire room..
420LadyBlaze 8 months ago
@420LadyBlaze I still do that to this day, we havnt found anything better so far, I just dont have anything too fragile, dangerous or expensive in there
the1princefrank 7 months ago
so i could easily imagine waking up to laughing at 4 in the morning and walk in and see a static screened tv with him sitting face to face with it laughing at it.
rf1308 9 months ago
in the chair does not make sense.
leah1999rf 9 months ago
@leah1999rf I was trying to get him to have a time out in the chair....he needed to sit there until he calmed down..
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
I think he's playing with the mom. It's clear to me that he's not taking her seriously. Maybe he does need more sensory input and not less. It's also possible---not necessarily probable---that ABA just isn't working for him.
1958boomergirl 9 months ago
@1958boomergirl yeah it is a form of escape..his favorite way is to laugh hysterically and run and hit...ABA has helped him tons..since this video he is way more compliant...I am finally getting internet again at home and can upload newer videos of his progress..
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
is that zebra striped bed for you and the car bed for him or something else? ( sry if im being annoying)
TheMarblegirl101 9 months ago
@TheMarblegirl101 He used to share a room with his older sister..we moved into a house now and he has his own room...
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
The U.S. Department of Justice has handed down an indictment against a former CDC scientist who led research studies that claimed to disprove any link between vaccines and autism.According to government documents, Dr. Poul Thorsen, one of the key researchers in "disproving" any link between vaccines and autism, allegedly defrauded the scientific research community of over one million dollars. See NaturalNews*cm
promiseIsaih60 10 months ago
no1 in this world wants to listen to autistic children
they cant help it
bunnyz324 10 months ago
@bunnyz324 I know! he drives me nuts sometimes with his vocal stims at least when we are out in public he doesnt do that too much
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
just sticky tap him or he wont get out of the chair. Isaw a teacher do it to a Student
CoolZafara96 10 months ago
@CoolZafara96 lol sticky tape thats a good idea ;)
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
This is one of the things I find so darn fustrating. You say sit down, your face is serious, your voice is all business, and your posture is enough to make the most unruly child stand at attention. Not an autistic child. They take one look at your serious face, bust out laughing, and do the opposite of what you're asking. All the chasing, the patience, the battle of wills....it's exhausting.
BluFields 10 months ago
@BluFields yep, they have no clue about voice inflection, facial expressions etc.. i just learned to enforce and "show" everything i was saying ie if i said stop jumping off the couch, i could try saying it a million different ways but unless i physically stopped it and got right up in my child personal space it was never going to end.. its definately helped alot. i dont get the absurd responses as much anymore..
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
@BluFields it is exhausting! some days are better than others and I love those days...his compliance is getting better I can't wait to post new videos and share his progress
420LadyBlaze 9 months ago
we is he eating his scarf?
TheMarblegirl101 10 months ago
@TheMarblegirl101 he likes to chew and he used to chew up his shirts so I started using bandanas so he chews them instead...
420LadyBlaze 10 months ago
I guess this isn't a classic "tantrum" it's more non-compliance I wanted him to relax he was jumping all over the place and this was my first time using the chair as time-out by myself (w/o his ABA Therapist there) so I recorded it for them to review too...maybe he did do a little "show" since I was recording but this is on the milder side of non-compliance..Now he is in his own room in his own space and no vertical blinds so it's better...
420LadyBlaze 11 months ago
@420LadyBlaze its so hard to film their behavior because you cant act naturally and focus on the task at hand of filming them.. too bad you dont have someone there who would help you film..
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
What has helped my son some is doing pressure therapy and brushing, I think for my son he gets (well he is ALWAYS hyper, but gets like this) when he needs extra sensory input. When we give it to him it helps, also weighted blankets.
studioregency 11 months ago
My son is much the same, but kinda MORE hyper. For non ASD parents... think of having this at the grocery store, post office, etc trying to wait in line :-) It's hard for them to have to stand still. Maybe let us get a cut in front now and then! ;-)
studioregency 11 months ago
@studioregency its pure hell.. recently i was in line at dept of motor vehicles.. they tried to make us leave b/c of my child behavior, i offered to wait outside if i wouldnt lose my turn in line,, a supervisor heard her employee talking to me and quickly decided to get us ahead of everyone else.. good thing becAuse i would have had a huge lawsuit on them for discrimination.
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
I have six children and four of them have and ASD. I know what you are going through :-( it's very hard.
astraldragons 11 months ago
wow he is hardheaded
honor21221able 11 months ago
@Prettypuffle18
As a learning experience for other parents and myself to hear what other parents in similar situations would do differently.
420LadyBlaze 1 year ago 8
i dont know if you ever read the book DEAR JOHN but i would recommend it.its a love story but there are autistic characters in it.teaches us to love everyone. and your son is adorable.GOD BLESS YOU GUYS
lalinda1985 1 year ago
me neiphew does the same thing.......
miranda3271 1 year ago
i wish my bro was like that im 15 and hes 7 we could play around all the time
pimpleface99 1 year ago 2
My brother us autistic. I know how hard it is.
MrSirBentley 1 year ago
@420LadyBlaze....my son is autistic, also...he's 9.5 years old....minimally verbal..but like your son, VERY smart. He tests me ALL the time. This morning his school had a 2 hour delay bcuz of snow, so I drove him in..on the way, he screamed LIBRARY! as we passed it to try and get out of going to school..as I kept driving past the library, he got mad. He climbed from the back seat, and ripped my hair out of my head while I was driving! So dangerous...but I like how he tried to use the library
refi68 1 year ago 2
he's looking right at you...he knows he's being naughty...lol
refi68 1 year ago
@refi68 I know right! Lol he is doing better I'm going to post another video of him now..so different so happy and blessed that he has ABA and that I am learing quickly how to deal with him and prevent outbursts :)
420LadyBlaze 1 year ago
My son likes to eat Styrofoam plates, he has autism, he will also eat soap and toothpaste too.
waarce 1 year ago
@waarce I'm sorry that must be hard to stop. My son chews on his clothes so that's why he is wearing a bandana around his neck.
420LadyBlaze 1 year ago
@waarce becareful with toothpaste its very poisenous.. i know my child will eat the whole tube so I lock it all away and took years to train her not to eat stuff like this.. try using a motorized toothbrush also check out pica on the net just in case he is missing something in his diet, discuss with your ped... good luck!
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
he thinks its a game
AcaAllertor127 1 year ago
chair got owned
Daghead 1 year ago
Screaming's a tantrum, and all I hear is laughing, and loud voice, but no screaming.
dclark12553 1 year ago 8
@dclark12553 didnt you see the non stop hitting of his mom? thats sort of a tantrum.. and some autistic laugh when they get naughty, mine does..
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
@dclark12553 tantrums are different for kids with autism some scream and kick and cry and some just decide to disobey and not pay attention.
jeanaliz2006 4 months ago
@dclark12553 I am 13. My mother smacked me for hitting my brother when I was 5, and kept on doing it untill I learned, Now when im out in some type of swank restraunt the waitress or w/e says that im well behaved or w/e, just give them a smack and >>>YELL<<<
Megakent11 4 months ago
@Megakent11 at your age you have no life experience to give advice on what to do with my son. Yelling and hitting him only feeds into the tantrum.
420LadyBlaze 4 months ago
At least he wears colored underwear): LOL
travelplus1 1 year ago
I have a child ASD we found that calming music was a tremdous help for relaxing him also sitting with him while the music played and just holding his hand was also very helpful.
My son was 6 when first diagnosed, he is now 17. It does get better
InocenciaRubia 1 year ago
@InocenciaRubia get him a rocking chair of some sort. or swinging hammock
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
@CDFoakley he gets 4 hours of 1to1 ABA and I get 4 hours of PC...he's getting better for the most part but he has his moments where he gets "silly" then turns to violence..as for sensory toys he would just throw them he stims off his hotwheels and has a bandana for chewing instead of all his shirts..thanks for the positive comment...your an awesome mom too I love your videos..
420LadyBlaze 1 year ago 2
Thanks for sharing reality of living with autism. And for those who judge your way of handling him, recall they don';t know your son. They aren't experts in your son. They are sitting behind a computer typing judgements. So unless it's something positive and encouraging and practical and helpful. Ignore them. UR a wonderful mom, stay strong. U have a long journey ahead of you. Do you have behavioral supports? Does he like hand held sensory toys to help calm him or will he throw them?
CDFoakley 1 year ago 2
@wbeliever if I'm not there where I can see him he gets destructive fast.
@okudaisi thank you it is hard to remain neutral.
@comedybenj he is laughing as a form of elopement/escape and he did share a room with his older sister but recently I gave up my room so he can have it I am a single mother to 3 kids living in Southern California and can't afford a 3 bedroom only 2
420LadyBlaze 1 year ago
@420LadyBlaze i totally understand.. my autistic child i have found will get more destructive if hungry, bored, tired, or just plain angry b/c i said no to something..
JINAYKHAN 9 months ago
why is he in the same bedroom as you?
comedybenj 1 year ago
lol why is he laughing
comedybenj 1 year ago
i think you are really patient, thanks for this vid
okudaisi 1 year ago
BEAT DOWNS
bongloaded 1 year ago
you really shouldn't stand there over him when giving time out
Wbeliever7 1 year ago