Should you lose weight for a guy???

[annettemint]

There are wayy to many men in the world to be stuck on some dude who can't get over your weight. I have NEVER had a problem attracting men and I'm at least 40 pds overweight. I'm lucky to have a man who adores my curves but also encourages me to exercise and eat healthy. If you don't respect yourself enough to value your own self worth then no other human being is going to.

[addicted2music07]

Can I just say that your hair is amazing in this video! I have naturally curly hair and can never get it to look like that unless it's a super-fantastic hair day :D

[LeoBeeyatch]

Hon the thumbnail for this vid is beautiful!!! u have amazing eyes and lips....cant wait to see u in whatever medium u are going for

[MzTeeSongz]

Okay so I LOVE YOU. Someone needs to give you a talk show!! So you can help and inspire young girls and women who are struggling with weight and personal confidence. + I have a very pretty face, but I am considered OBESE. & I have been smaller, & I know if I lost weight now being an adult [I'd be really good lookin. I've met so many guys that don't like me because of my weight, and I feel like, IF I WAS SMALLER & LOOKIN/FEELIN LIKE A MILLION BUCKS, I WOULDN'T BE INTERESTED IN YOU ANYWAYS!! :]

[breakingthebeat]

The fact is no one wants to be alone, men and women will always try to impress someone to be with him/her.

[FantasyStockings]

In my opinion it all depends on whether the weight is healthy or not. If a person is overweight, it's a health risk! This is not the same thing as if a guy would suggest to get fake breasts, let's say.

[VlogGANG]

I'd never lose weight for a guy NEVER and what I hate is when guys can be a girl "Friend" for the longest and as soon as she lose weight start to become more "Attractive" in his eyes they do a 360 and act like they've liked the girl FOREVER. If I lose weight it's going to be for me and MY HEALTH not for some dude idc who he is honestly. That's how me & my sisters were raised if you're going to do something do it for YOU not for the next person. So accept or not I really don't care. BOO-YOW LOL!

[rgchrono]

@VlogGANG : and women don't do that ?? a friend of mine told me a story, of a lady we know, who told him and I quote, " you know my friend and I both agree! you are a lot cutter now compare to when we first met you." AND!! this was after my friend went form 220 to 170 pounds, and going to the gym. Not just guys do that...women do this as well!!

[Asnov]

@VlogGANG that's right! Make him suffer. lol.

[RaGa2013]

You are right on, girl. Someone should only be losing weight for their own health and enjoyment. You have both types of beauty Q......outside and in. Hugs.

[FairyFederation]

First of all you have to change for you. YOu cannot change for someone and if you did, it wont last long. I dated my Japanese bf for over 5 years and things were great but i was under pressure to lose weight and while i did try to do it for him, it never worked andi would gain it back. WHen i finally did it for myself , i was happier. he wasnt shallow at all, just his preference and he treated me like a princess even if he was worried about my weight at times. but now im happy being single.

[Meena1587]

i think its up to the girl! Weight loss is something that has to be self motivated; if you lose weight for someone else you will never be happy; I think you should find a guy that looks beyond it; regarding the top 2 comments - being healthy is great but beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder (I was hit on more when I was bigger) and to all my plus size girls be comfortable in your skin (be it any size) and your positive-ness will definitely be noticed ;-)

[Joysmommy817]

AMEN!!! Girl, I lost 134 lbs and when I meet guys I insure that I show them my "before" pic. SMH. That way they know that this is where I have came from and could possibly go back. To the young lady NEVER lose weight for anyone but yourself. If you are happy..that's what matters! That guy is a shallow joke!

[MsGnette]

HEY CHICA-ITS BEEN SO LONG,IVE MISSED YOU! just wanted to tell you that your makeup looks amazing in this video!!!

[Mscookie3131]

I agree with you, but it also depends on the situation. I have been with my guy for 4 years. I I have gained weight. He recently told me that I need to lose some weight and has said that he will workout with me. In that case, I think its okay. So in this case I want to lose weight for me and for his eyes. If he gained a bunch a weight, I would be saying the same thing. As long as he isn;t rude about it and disrespectful I'm okay with his honesty.

[sashasingz]

I can very much relate to this video...it has helped me a lot!!! thanks girl...keep making videos like this. It is very inspiring to people who has been judged by their weight.

[prettyboy1970]

Tetgrin, you're taking my comments waaay to personally, and you're twisting my words. I never claimed thin folks don't have health issues, but health prisms are compounded by being overweight; ask you're doctor. Personally, I don't judge a woman by her dress size. Most of the women I've dated have been " plus size".

[ericascag]

I wish we were friends in real life. You are just awesome haha.

[mila0487]

Wat your name on fb

[MsHiyello]

Ps..love ur vids!!

[MsHiyello]

Love urself! If someone loves u..he'll love u 4who u r n not try 2change u. I had a guy..he was supportive when I DECIDED 2 lose weight. We worked out 2gether. But he didn't force me..he let me decide. He loves me whether I'm 220 or 120. Love ourselves women..we're beautiful no matter wut size..shape...or color!

[Lakota505]

Monique lost weight for a guy...her husband. He married breaking the scales at over 200 lbs. One day he caught her coming out the shower and made a comment about how large she was. His last words were, I married you for forever and walking around like that is cheating me of my time. i need ya healthy I plan to have you for every bit of forever. Mo now weighs 168lbs. I wouldda lost that weight too.

[Cheri406]

Q is 1000% right! If someone doesn't like/love you for being you, then that person neva has, neva could and neva ever care unless he changes ... Alot!

Great advice Q :-)

[FashionQueen360]

Great pep talk thanks your really great

[tetgrin]

here's some tough love for you if you shallow and ignorant u just damn shallow and ignorant. real talk.folks are so damn caught up in society you don't know what the hell you want. talking about a big person got health issues.ain't a damn thing wrong with me but this battle of the ignorant people. but i loose weight just to prove that it can be done. it's so stupid to judge some for it , because weight can be lost or gained, but there is no rehab for stupidity ..they still the same damn person

[tetgrin]

@prettyboy1970 so what you trying to say skinny folks ain't got health issues? so damn ignorant with this weight thing. u can be a skinny hot mess as well as a big one.u ugly u just damn ugly no matter the size looks don't make u no better than the other person. as far as money goes not all women is worried about how much money a damn man got especially if u ain't worth the dollar u flashing. u can have all the money and houses in the world if u disrespect me u a bum like the rest point blank.

[passionateone72]

It someone doesn't love/want you at your "worse" then they don't deserve you at your best!

[Dntcountonu2]

Don't do it. I've lost 50 pounds for my ex. And come to find out he was messing around with chicks way bigger than me. And left when the weight was gone. Even though now I can pick up three times more men. But its not the one I wanted... Lose the weight because you want to.

[xoxtamisha]

Men are visual creatures and from what I have learned about men is that they like a nice body, a cute face and a well maintained appearance. It may not be fair but thats just how men are and there really is no changing that. Losing weight for a guy is not the answer but can be a motivation is she doesn't like her appearance now.

[SephiaWalkthroughs]

@xoxtamisha lol women ourselves are double standards. We like muscular guysthat are cute and get paid well. Its just natural instinct. Same for guys.

[rgchrono]

@SephiaWalkthroughs : thank you!! a lot of women do not see that they are the same as us men, of course! men have to both have a decent job and career goals to get attention, but they also have to have some type of looks and also be in a healthy body shape as well. I know that to be true, back when i was fatter I used to be turn into a friend lots of times by women. Women who say that looks do not matter to them, are usually shallow themselves.

[EbonyAbraxas]

i dont know... i dont want no fat ass man.... and i am not shallow

[msyaya2014]

@EbonyAbraxas lol

[lollypopy8]

what if u already have a boyfriend and he never mentioned it, can u want to lose wait for them and for u?

[spankiefresh21]

Dear girl...leave him alone he is projecting his own insecurities onto you. Yes, I am in a 10 marriage and happily so. I am over weight but my husband is understanding and ecouraging me to get the baby weight off. Love yourself enough to walk away from that bone-head. Good luck and God bless.

[mahathesweetest]

OMG q u r looking awesome n this color suits u shooooooo much... n do buy more dresses in this color...love you gal muuuuuuuuuaaahhhhhhhh :)

[mizzannie001]

love this video and totally agree with u we are who we are and if a guy doesn't like it who cares move on someone else will if u wanna lose weight do it if u dont, dont

[sairaj1]

yeah but what if the girl is skinny and dresses tacky and smells bad? or she is not knowledgable or is not independent? there are other factors. you do not have to be obese but only the good guy will remain when the bad ones leave or cheat on u.

[sairaj1]

i always gained and lost weight. i want to start loosing weight again. i know from experience that when a guy will truly have something for you, no matter what happens he will be there--and does not matter if you become a beauty queen--during your bad times only the RIGHT guy will be there. iam not saying u should not take care of urself, but if a guy makes u doubt urself then it is time to look for another one. there are so many out there.

[roseloomis01]

I think it really depends on the what kind of "curves" we're talking about. If you love your curves and only think about losing weight for a guy then yeah it's a bad idea and he's definitely not worth it BUT if you're weight really is a problem for your everyday life, health etc... then I don't think it would be shallow for a guy to ask the girl to loose some weight before starting a relationship with her.

[Marshae1093]

I believe the most important thing is to not be too big if you dont want to be "skinny". I know plenty of big confident women who dress well if not better than smaller females. A man is also attracted by confidence but a good number are discriminative against size..

[Marshae1093]

I cant tell you how many times Ive been dissed for another female who wasnt as pretty in the face but was smaller.. Thats life. I beleive if you are picky and attracted to a certain type, you need to set an ex. to attract that type. If u like fit/skinny men, you need to be in somewhat good standing size and fit wise. Men like things that compliment them. But you shouldnt lose weight for anyone b/c even when you get small you still feel insecure vying for that persons affection. Ive been there.

[bribduzeculapte]

I adore you and your advice. you really make my day with the way that ur thinkin

[EBONYGUY10]

Say it again! I bet u his moms big.

[NvrSettle]

I agree with Prettyboy1970. He is right. It is what it is.

[ShanaJaye]

I just had this conversation with a FB "fren" just 2 nights ago and was floored by some of the things he was saying. I think I'll do a vid response to this TODAY!

[Monyluv63]

Relationships should be built on unconditional love... Any preferred condition means they can easily leave you if you change that condition. Trying to make a relationship like this is just an open door of heart ache and misery! "Love me for me! Not my body!" lol Great video Q XOXO

[andsanp]

Wait... why is he a jerk and shallow just because he has a preference? These Double standards are ridiculous.

[xBrazilianBarbiex]

Love this video!!

[MarvBerry]

I have to AGREE.. (as hard as it is..lol) with PRETTYBOY1970... Did I say that?.. Lol

[1bluepurple]

omg girl !

i beeen waiting for a video

like this!

i havent seen you in like foreverrrrrrr !

finally you're back !

[prettyboy1970]

....If you met a guy who was barely getting by,lived with his mama,never had any money,how attracted would house find him? Let's say that he later graduates college and starts a very successful career. He's more appealing now, isn't he. The same analogy applies to ladies and weight gain/loss. It may sound shallow, but it's just fact. Besides, it's hard-wired into our brains to desire a person who is fit and healthy; being overweight is an indicator for a long list of potential health problems.

[mizzannie001]

@prettyboy1970 being attracted to someone who is "fit and healthy" is not hard wired in anyones brain people are attracted to different things its not facts its opinions.... whos to say someone who is fat isn't healthy

[rgchrono]

@mizzannie001 : it is a fact not an opinion.... it has been proven by even sexual psychologist professors. That men are visual creatures and our brains evolved to find a certain type of body type, in a woman, attractive. If a woman gains weight and begins to both ruin that image and distort it, to the point that they also erase the sexy female walk, that all men love!! , and more of a male like type of walk. We will not find that attractive, some men do. BUT! what he said is a fact.

[mizzannie001]

@rgchrono do u have links to these "facts" what scientific journals are these in because it has never crossed me when i read any journals.... just because u look at television and look at the internet and u see a bunch of underweight women who do the "sexy walk" (what is that btw lol) does not make ur opinion a fact... u could not be attracted to bigger women but then again...ur not all men so it doesnt matter :) if u look at history being bigger was more attractive than skinnier...so

[prettyboy1970]

Ladies, I'm going to be realistic and very direct, because I see it's time for some "tough love". In our society, a woman's attractiveness is largely based on her appearance, and a man's attractiveness is based largely on his money or earning potential - the ability to provide security for his lady. A persons appeal is not based entirely on these things, but they play a large part.

[DaPlusSizeDiva]

agreed love this video HELL 2 THE FUCK NO

[Prionsa]

Love you for this video !



[xxcnh93]

awh, i kno how she feels. when me and my boyfriend of over a year broke up, i felt lyk i had to be wid sumbody. so i was looking and looking. there was this one guy, we started talkin.. it was over facebook. he was lyk "i can tell yur tha one etc.." we chilled and when i left, he txtd me and tx me i was a sweet person but he wasnt feelin mr lyk that. thats cool, i wasnt feelin him there... but then he told me that im pretty enough to have sex with..

[Blu3Hea7en]

Ooooooommmmmmmmggggg I'm doin this now ...but not to keep him but jus to show him I'm tryin to stay healthy ...me n my dude already together he loves me for who i am but it jus makes me feel better gettin sexier for him but ultimately for MOI