Whats all this about lube? Is that an American thing or something? Strange how cultures differ, but surely young human bodies are generally the same when it comes down to sex... You dont look like you've hit the menopause yet.
There was only one person who I can say I really loved and would have relations with ,but now she's gone and I don't care anymore. People have told me that there are better girls than her. In truth I don't want anyone better or worse.
I'm really tired of noticing of how many teenagers ( example: the ages of even 14 and older ), are pregnant and have lost their virginity, or not pregnant. They think that they HAVE to have sex to fit in, or at least 'survive' amongst the crowd. Some just want to have sex just to say they've had it, yet they've ruined their real chance of meeting the right one. My urge of anger also lies where on the first time, they never take the incentive to use a condom.
in my opinion, being a virgin is your choice. I'm not one and haven't been one since i was 15, but that was my choice and i am happy with my choice. But i respect everyone who chooses to stay a virgin for willing to wait for "there one true love." I have no intent of marriage but might if i find the right person down the road. So to all the virgins out there more power to ya.
20 and still a virgin. all my relationships ended before i was ready to lose my virginity nobody wants to pop my cherry and I dont want a one night stand you know, guess that keep trying if it doesnt happen i will hook up with a stranger cause I dont want to be a virgin forever. Who wants to pop me? lol
I love all the videos Ive watched new to this subed u today ! lol u rock girl! I have been with my husband 11yrs so virgin I am not but how awesome to hve you talking to young kids and even I have been enlightened! Very smart and your so right!! 2011 is ur year!
I'm 18 and a virgin, not because I wait, but because I'm a perfectionist, an introvert and a cynic. I find girls my age not "interesting" enough instead of just wanting sex, I'm like a day-dreaming, self-hating poet with absurd hopes slowly drowning in this zombified society with no sense of value whatsoever. Day by day remains of my social skills vanish and I alienate myself starting to long for and enjoy my solitude.. talk about "f****d up"...but hey, maybe I'll meet a girl I can love..sure :)
LOL dont shove it in all at once but i agree with you virginity isnt taken its shared between that person and in the long run if a lovers did part theyre own way it sorta in a way makes them special because you gave them your virginity you know?
Thanks a lot for your videos (: haha I will like to show them to some of my girl friends because I'm sure we all get those questions even if we don't say it, and you talk about this so well ^^ thanks again (:
@zoekat99 I can answer this one, If its not to late, I was there with my bestfriend, I stumbled acrossed this video out of random, but no, you don't. My friend was 13 at the time, and I stood there with her getting one. Just a matter of being mature to get one, tho sometimes the cash lady or man don't have the most "happy" face on the earth lol ^-^ hope i helped!
i get wat ur saying but sometimes i feel shitty about myself cuz my friends (some younger some older) talk about how they've had sex before and they brag about it and point out how im still a virgin. i want to do it, but im never sure if i really want to do someone
@TheNewageshit I know what you mean, Im 17 years old... and Alot of my friends Are a year to two years younger then me and very few are virgins still. they always ask me why havent i had sex yet.. and everything like that and they always talk about sex.But to me, They were dumb losing it at a young age because some of them arnt even with the guy anymore, and they regret it. I feel i want to wait until i know i wont regret my first time. You have to think about that (:
im a 15 yr old girl and i dont have much interest in sex at all, but im watching this vid to know more about it :3! and i thank you for doing theese! ive watched a bunch of them already and ive learned things that the stupid school and parents havnt told me. but i find that (in my own opinion) sex isnt that desirable. though i am very curious as to what it feels like and things... i would say from my knowledge to wait for that one person you know your going to be with, thats what im waiting for
Like you said, just be yourself.. If they don't like you screw them, they're not right for you. I've told this to my little brother and little sister time after time, and finally they're listening to me.
I wish I had known about this channel before I lost my virginity (I say lost because I was a bit stupid...). I was older than 16, by several months, although this video was like... a month after I lost it xD. Great work on your channel, I hope you upload more stuff, because it's really helpfull =)
@iCriiNgei Rape is not sex.... it is violence using a cock on someone. A person is still a virgin because they have not mutually shared a sexual experience with someone.
@kicesie it doesn't have to be a cock...women seduce men which turns into rape, because men physically like it (or at least the penis is saying yes) while they psychologically don't, for girls it actually hurts so they know it is wrong/bad and know when they are being raped and know it is a good thing to tell people about it, for guys they *like* the physical sex but not in the way it came about and who is doing it, mostly because it feels good and does not hurt so your dick says yes and mind no
@kicesie Excellently put!!! To learn more about 'sexual violence' and its consequences check out my video, "REAL MEN UNDERSTAND THAT 'NO MEANS NO!' " Sex without consent is sexual assault/rape! Get that into your heads...DOUCHE-BAGS!!!!!!
hey im 16 and my friend set me up on a date and i found out she reallly wants to have sex so it'll probibly happen but its my first time and it feels a bit wrong because i hardly know her but i worry about everything so i was wondering is it actually wrong or am i just being a panzi?
You're not a panzi for being worried. For all you know, she could have a sexually transmitted disease and she could pass it on to you because she has been having sex with everyone else. Check her out with a doctor first, and scan her for VDs!
And if you do have sex with her, make sure you use a condom/Plab B pill and only have oral sex or give her a hand job!
I'm not interested in getting married but I'm not against it either; if me and my partner love each other why should marriage be important? Sure I would upset if we broke up but I'd be A LOT more upset if we were to get a divorce. Just because you're married doesn't mean you're going to be life long partners and vice versa for bf/gf.
The way I see it, legal documents do not indicate marriage. If you don't love each other enough to be together through absolutely ANYTHING, there is no marriage, even though there's a paper that says so. If you love her and would never let her go for anything, be it her cheating, an exorbitant offer to break up, money issues, you think you might love another girl, and others, then you're married, even if there is nothing that says so.
Cant believe a guy said that foreplay will make it hurt more! I have only had sex a few times, and my partner at that time wasnt really to big on foreplay so it was never enjoyable for me... I havent had sex with my current partner but we have talked about it, he understands that foreplay is important!!!
hi iam glad i ran upon your video iam 26 and still a virgen its hard some tymes but i choose to wait tell i find that one or married!!! and a lot of young gruls need to see this this is a wise video if a guy cant not wait u dont need to be with hym but if u do have sex use condomes alwayyszz!!!
Kicesie, I think i was meant to sign on to youtube and watch your videos today ... this was exactly what i needed to hear and I think you may have made a change in the course of my future, for the good
do you think that someone should be a certain age before even considering to have sex with somebody? i mean do you think one should be at least a certain age before giving themselves to somebody??
btw i would like to thank you for sharing these things with others, because so many ppl are never told.
@LoveHastensDeath There is no magical age, but if it's before 16, on average you're having sex earlier than other people, which seems.... unwise. Honestly if someone forced a number out of me, I'd say at LEAST 18.... But older is even better imo... That said, everyone has different experiences and I'm not here to judge anyone. I just want people to be educated and to have sex for as many of the right reasons as possible.
Great video. I agree full heartily, Wait till you are emotionally ready. So important! Love yourself enough to be with someone who treats you right and you are comfortable to be with.
i wated till i was 18 to have sex. i had it and then me and the girl broke up and it was like i wated all those years just to throw it away... is that bad
you know your videos have made me think more deeply about my relationship with my girlfriend, and made me kinda wanna wait to have sex with her. i just wanted to say thanks! :)
I'm in the eighth grade, and I've heard things of "Popping the Cherry", and they say it hurts? Or is it just another rumor like you said it won't hurt?
@malia123owns Its different for all girls, it could hurt. Its like a sharp pain, like a cramp almost and you may also bleed when you pop your cherry, but not alot.
@rockincristi09 Let's not use terms like 'popping the cherry'... because there is no popping going on and no cherries. Instead, it's a tearing or stretching of the hymen. If anyone is old enough to be watching this, they best be old enough to talk about things with current terminology.
@funkyfunky98 It doesn't HAVE to hurt. If you rush into things and don't understand your body or prepare your body, etc... and if you don't use extra lubricant, and all of that, then yes, it most certainly could and likely will hurt! But my point is, it doesn't have to hurt if you're smart about it.
I'm 17 and I'm in a relationship right now, my very first one. (Yay)
and my partner seems very sexual because whenever we go into making out, he goes for my breasts or my butt. And yesterday he got behind me and was humping me grabbing my breasts. I liked it but I got nervous and said stop. He seemed hurt but he said he was sorry.
I feel bad for telling him to stop but, I was just nervous. Was I right or wrong because I think he's still hurt about it.
@gothvamp133 He needs to not get hurt, but respect your feelings! Obviously it was a little too much a little too soon! Good for you for speaking up and telling him! I really hope you continue to follow what feels right and stop anything that feels wrong. And he'd better respect that or you'll quickly lose respect for him.
@tubemankiwi Hey, if a someone (guy or girl) is advancing way beyond what their partner is comfortable with, it's not okay!!! It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with respect and maturity!!!
And if you want to be giving advice, start your own channel on youtube.
@tubemankiwi This is the last time I'm going to tell you to give advice on your own channel or you'll just get blocked, which I don't want to have to do.
I DO talk to LOTS of guys and get their input. And EVERY single guy that is respectable (in every aspect of his life, not just with sex!) agrees that you should completely respect how your partner feels and NEVER push her beyond her comfort zone. Doing so moves creepily close to rape, they say.
@TikTokManiac I don't regret my first time because I followed all the advice I mentioned in here and I waited until I was much older than the average age (16). So I was ready and I loved/love him very much!
Kicesie, Thank you for the very kind words. The part about /You have my respect/ are well taken and so appreciated. You have earned my respect already. Oh you have such a pretty Cat. I am a Virgin, male 43 nearing my 44th year.
I lost it when I was 17 1/2 with my current boyfriend and he never hurt me at all. He did use lube, condoms, finger me gently, he even stopped and asked "how do feel" "am I okay" he even now after over two years he's still with me and the sex is still nice and tender
@kicesie i wanna say how i really appreciate that you discussed this topic since due being in my country, there is no direct(i.e in school or university) or indirect at least i know of that address this issue.
and it was really nice to listen to you especially since i am 21~22 at end of this year as at least i wanted to just hear and know what others thinks about that and at same time in polite and decent way.
already did a post,but it said "gotta be approved" but anyway,???sometimes you look about 16 and sometimes you look older than that,like about17,lol,no but being a guy,different is good
Lol im allmost 16 and im a virgin. I dont know how long to wait or when to do it lol. I havent had a gf in a while so im scared im might just wanna do it really bad and do it. Because its really hard to not lol.
Usually I do NOT like talking videos at all especially if they are long but you should be a speaker, you're great at talking about topics and staying on track. .
And I believe that your book when you do write it will be really really good.
I'm glad my first guy I shared my virginity with I'm still with for 2 years. It didn't hurt at all it felt amazing he used lube, condom, gentle, and asked if I'm okay
Men have a physiological need to experience the touch or feel of someone, usually a woman. Full sex will probably satisfy the need the best; other touching will partially satisfy the need. This is not funny or embarrassing or immoral, it just is the way men are and it really is not healthy to be a virgin for too long. Look up "involuntary celibacy and you will see how serious the problem is."
There's a part of your brain that tells you to reproduce, but sex with proper protection will still satisfy this part of brain. Women's genes tell them to only have sex rarely because they can only have a few offspring, while men's genes tell us to have sex frequently. This is why you may think it is ok for men to never touch women or have sex.
ok, but that just reinforces my impression that sex is bad or dirty or immoral, and that logically can't be true. Look up Maslow's hierarchy and humanistic psychology- in some schools of psych you get drugs/ talk therapy if you are too disappointed at not having sex/ meting someone. In humanistic psych you get help/connections to someone of opposite sex/gender, to meet need for human contact/sex/acceptance, et cetera.
@lyutsin21 I have no idea how that makes you think sex is dirty or whatever. We just teach boys totally different standards that we teach our little girls. That's all.
@kicesie I'm not aware of what standards boys vs. girls are taught. In the orthodox Judaism I was brainwashed into thinking I had to do (I came out as an atheist when I was 26 and was afraid to anything w a woman before), there are rules that people of the opposite sex can't even touch each other, (except if married and even then only at certain times of month), women have to be dressed in a conservative-very non-revealing manner; inability to mention sex without embarrassment/silly euphamisms
@iloveskatinyo I've spoken to some couples who waited until they were married and ended up highly regretting that choice because despite marital counseling and everything, they were simply never sexually compatible. I'm not saying I'm against waiting, I'm just saying that reality isn't that cut and dry... or that simple.
@pprohands69 I certainly believe so! I mean I can only speak from personal experience and what friends have told me.... and we all seem to be in agreement. I waited until I was much older than the average age and WOW,... no pain, pure love and pleasure, no fear, no embarrassment, no worrying about being caught or getting pregnant or an STD. Just the two of us enjoying each other with love. Exactly what a first time should be like in my opinion.
Glad you put this video up, I usually don't respond to vids but, I believe your opinion on everything is spot on, and the advice is sound. So if anyone has doubts about what she's are saying don't she's right. I'm 27, had sex more times then I can remeber, but I wish this vid was up when I was 15. Thanks again great vid.
there is a "surefire" way, wait till their is an actual relationship then wait to see if its real enough to get married and then get married go to vegas yo... whats the point of sharing or GIVING your virginity away to somebody who isent a virgin, or doesent love you enough to get married and have your child and do things properly... plus uhm yeah nobody could want to marry this dood <<<<<
@evilcupcake12 Wasn't that long ago that I was an early teen. :-) I'm proud of the choices I made, glad I waited until I did (until there wasn't a doubt in my mind, not even one 'what if' or worry at all!). But I'm still quite aware of all the temptations, and questions I had, and worries and all of the things my friends went through.
And getting the messages I do from viewers makes it easy for me to keep those memories fresh.
@KTStarbuckACE You'll have to be a lot more specific. Do I believe Jesus existed as God incarnate? Yes. Do I believe we've misunderstood the majority of the Bible? Yes I do.
Could a person consider themself a virgin to some extent if they lost their virginity againest their will at a young age when they didn't even know what sex is?
@Im1Fallen2Angel As I've said, I don't believe anyone can TAKE your virginity from you. It's an experience and it's up to YOU who you share that with. NOBODY can take your virginity in my opinion. Never!
I think for a male like myself. I do sometimes get a little shy and nervous particularly around women whom I have genuine feelings for. Which often bothers me about sex, and virginity. I'm usually not the type of guy who happens to rush into these sorts of things, often think if these something wrong with me but some say that I'm not.
How old were you when you lost it? I am curious. Also, what you said in part one and in part two really got to me and helped me make decisions in my sex choices. So thank you(:
@ashleyt112233 I don't talk about how old I was because I don't want my choices to influence anyone else's, good or bad. I want people to be as knowledgeable as possible and make mature choices, that simple. I want them to be true to themselves and do what they know inside is right for them at that time in their lives.
ok heres the deal... its NOT ALL THAT BIG OF A DEAL LADIES AND GENTLEMEN its not like you feel like a different person after you lose it so bang away because honestly its not even a huge deal the whole virginity thing just gets blown hugely out of proportion
@ThrowinDs42 I remember thinking when I looked in the mirror after I first had sex I'd somehow be different. And that different feeling just never happened. There was no huge change. Granted I wasn't young and I was insanely mature enough by the time I did it... so that probably made a difference.
I used to think that everyone would make fun of me for being a 22-year-old virgin, and say that I needed to get laid, but everyone I've talked to about it is so encouraging! Thanks for your videos and for your encouragement! And everyone else, don't be ashamed that you're a virgin! When the right person comes along, you'll be glad you waited until you met them. :)
thanks for explaining the concept of atleast waiting i made the mistake of llosing mine at 14 right before i turned 15 and the girl left me like a week later anyway im 16 now and to this day i don't splurge if i do have sex it ain't much and i won't go and do it regularly until marriage and i use protection and make sure the girl im with is ready and on the pill great channel and to anyone who thinks that they are ready- please, please, be sure you are ready and yea im a guy!
well im glad u helped me out on trying to be myself and knowing and loving myself thanks for that advice now at least itll be easier 4 me to get some gf lol
I think not to have sex is really dangerous,I'm a 20 years old guy that he's never had sex and instead of that I've got addicted to porn that I think it's pretty awful thing that destroying my life!
You seem to be very tolerant of religious people and in part 1, you said you respect people who are abstinent for moral reasons. But your viewers who may feel reassured by this respect are receiving conflicting advice when you casually mention the use of condoms and birth control. The use of those methods is contradictory to their beliefs of sexual morality.
@spinemelter2000 Things aren't always so cut and dry. I respect a person who choses to wait to have sex until they are married. But I also respect a person who decides that's not right for them and has sex, but responsibly! MY job is to be sure they have the information they are seeking (the UN's list of Human Rights includes freedom of access to information, something I support!!).
I'm here to support all of my viewers who want to be responsible. Nothing contradictory about that.
@spinemelter2000 And I'm more than tolerant of religions; I have deep respect for all religions (except for any religion or system of belief that attempts to restrict MY right to a freedom of religion).
My minor before I switched schools was World Religions. So it's another passion of mine.
i'm 21 & still a virgin, i haven't been kissed yet either, but i have a guy friend that i dated a month, we have done foreplay before but i refused to have sex so he broke up with me than afterwards he lost his virginity recently & now is pressuring me to do it with him. Thanks for clearing up the fact about "the first time hurts" b/c my mom told me & scared me. It's good to know that they're people who still have some morals or have self control. Thanks for making this video!
Okay so Im just going to start off saying well no duh Im a virgin but the thing that when i was born i had an opening... but as i grew up it like disappered. so I had to get some surgical thing. I know how strange this is but sometines I think that maybe IT won't fit inside...wow that was REALLY embarrasing!
You shouldn't be embarassed. It happens to a lot more women than you might think. By getting regular check-ups with your doctor, you can ensure there won't be any problems when you're ready to have sex.
My mom is a nurse who sees this often. So trust me when I say there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about!
Imagine dating a girl for a month, and one time drinking a bit too much, forgoing a condom, and 18 months later, meeting your 9 month old son. It's fantastic!
I'm 23 and I decided to wait when I was younger and i might be getting married soon (I say might because we're just discussing it right now) and I was a bit scared of the wedding night because I'd heard that it hurt the first time but this video really helped me. Thank you sooo much!
I like what you're saying, but it wouldn't need to be said if society hadn't made such a big hairy deal about sex for the last 10 centuries. People wouldn't need to worry about needing to communicate if sex wasn't such a huge taboo.
Umm, yeah, I think always. If someone (male or female) knowingly pressures you to do something you don't want to do, they don't respect you. And if you don't respect someone, you certainly can't love them.
@kicesie well i think a guy can let his physical needs get the best of him sometimes and make him pressure a girl like that often unintentionally. Not that I'm advocating pressuring girls into having sex just that sometimes guys (and girls) can get ahead of themselves
Love is about caring about the other person MORE than yourself. So it's NOT love if you let your lust 'get the better of you'. By those justifications, rape would make sense.
@kicesie pressuring someone is completely different from forcing someone. pressuring can happen just by someone asking about it often or saying they want to do it often. It's a little harsh to say that if someone pressures you on sex that 100% of the time they don't love you without even considering the situation.
I agree that pressuring is a !far! cry from forcing. I was simply taking your logic a step further.
That said, I disagree 100% with everything else you said. So we're going to have to agree to disagree. I believe love is not existent if you can't 100% respect and abide by your partner's limits that they have been clear about.
I've given you room to explain your side. I've explained my side. So let's leave this alone now.
@kicesie yes while I might disagree with you as well I can certainly see your side of the argument. Suppose it depends on what you can define as love. Here's looking forward to that book. :D
I'm 19, and I've barely had any useful sex ed like this. All the sex ed I had in HS was "Abstinence is 100 % and vague info about contraceptives" And pictures of STDS ): I'm 19 and too freaked out even date b/c I'm still not comfortable with finding out about sex or birth control...
Hi, Kicesie. I'm a 27 year-old male. My girlfriend is 28 and not a virgin. I am still a virgin. I am ready to have sex. My girlfriend and me talked about it deeply. I bought condoms, and she's on the birth control pill Yasmin. We also have K/Y lubricant. I am going to take all your advice in your virginity video posts. I really think you are amazing and tomorrow night (March 13th 2010) I am making love to her. I am ready and so is she. It will be a night I will never forget.
Hey, Im a twenty year old virgin male. Just throwin that out there. Listen, ive got a question for you and you seem like a great person to ask. So, I feel odd telling girls that im a virgin becuase i get the reaction that im immautre, or inexperienced, or along those lines. Do women not like taking a guys virginity? Because they think its wrong, or the sex might not be good enough?
Whenever i tell a girl that im a virgin they either dont believe me (cuz of my age?), or they just smile.
@noostafa im 16yrs old and girls understand me thats what they like. You took the time to find the the right one to lose it too not just any girl and that girl probaly wants to be the one ckuz girl finds that sweet bout a guy. Thats my opinion lol
You're right, many argue that it's just semantics. But I think it completely changes our perceptions of sex and virginity.
And we CAN get LOTS of people viewing it this way if we just had the resources and opportunities to incorporate it into quality sex education programs.
Over this next year I'm going to be making a HUGE call toward the US government to increase funding for STD and pregnancy prevention through quality education!
I like your lecture.I first did sex with a girl when i was 15 and i dont think that you have to get mature in order to take sexual decisions.and by the way when you will celebrate your opening ceremony.
and im not 1 of those 13 yr olds so thnk god !!! cuz thats just sad they arent gonna be ready there jus gonna do it for the sake of it or cuz the bf wants them to and if they didnt they would look stupid :L
my bf wants to have sex wiv me but hes in my class at skwl and i dnt wanna but i dnt think he cares if i say no and puttin the pressure on me isnt helpin wat am i gonna do ???????? and im scared :,( and im only 12 help me !!!!
Don't do anything you don't want to do. And don't make such a life-altering decision so early in life. Wait, at least for a while. You have everything to gain by waiting.
cute, good thing she was just passing by and didnt actually want some attention during your video, cause i know some little creatures that really speak their mind when they know they deserve some of your time :P
She used to be a HUGE camera whore... and made sure she was in ALL of my videos (somehow instinctively knew I was filming)... these days she's either laying on my throat or curled up in some unknown corner of the house,
Saying that having sex before marrige isnt good is a very Christian thing to say. Thats first and foremost. 2nd If you have a bf/gf statistics say 1-3% actually keep the past sexual relationships in mind. Even if its the first.
THANK YOU! It's not "losing" your virginity. I've always viewed it as "giving" - it's a special thing that can only be given away once. The info in these two videos is great, and I hope people take advantage of it. I know you definitely re-affirmed my own faith in waiting for my "One".
Whats all this about lube? Is that an American thing or something? Strange how cultures differ, but surely young human bodies are generally the same when it comes down to sex... You dont look like you've hit the menopause yet.
Otherwise, nice video, and you speak very well :)
Otherwise, cool video, you seem pretty alright
zipjoys 3 weeks ago
Smart and hot...i hope whoever gets to wake up next to you everyday realizes just how lucky they are!
MrCaptainchronic99 1 month ago in playlist Kicesie
A lot of us (myself included) are not virgins by choice...This is extremely frustrating!!! (as I'm sure you can imagine...)
MilesHendrix0 1 month ago
I would so buy your book on virginity. You're a very smart girl.
TheMollyWillis 2 months ago
You need to make part 2. Avalible on smart phone.
britishshock 4 months ago
to be honest i think it takes a big sense of maturity to get problems like that
newgx67 6 months ago
There was only one person who I can say I really loved and would have relations with ,but now she's gone and I don't care anymore. People have told me that there are better girls than her. In truth I don't want anyone better or worse.
Humane219 7 months ago
I'm really tired of noticing of how many teenagers ( example: the ages of even 14 and older ), are pregnant and have lost their virginity, or not pregnant. They think that they HAVE to have sex to fit in, or at least 'survive' amongst the crowd. Some just want to have sex just to say they've had it, yet they've ruined their real chance of meeting the right one. My urge of anger also lies where on the first time, they never take the incentive to use a condom.
Knux038 7 months ago
in my opinion, being a virgin is your choice. I'm not one and haven't been one since i was 15, but that was my choice and i am happy with my choice. But i respect everyone who chooses to stay a virgin for willing to wait for "there one true love." I have no intent of marriage but might if i find the right person down the road. So to all the virgins out there more power to ya.
floridaboyz4lyf 7 months ago
20 and still a virgin. all my relationships ended before i was ready to lose my virginity nobody wants to pop my cherry and I dont want a one night stand you know, guess that keep trying if it doesnt happen i will hook up with a stranger cause I dont want to be a virgin forever. Who wants to pop me? lol
ollianlover2011 9 months ago
I love all the videos Ive watched new to this subed u today ! lol u rock girl! I have been with my husband 11yrs so virgin I am not but how awesome to hve you talking to young kids and even I have been enlightened! Very smart and your so right!! 2011 is ur year!
dianab996 9 months ago 12
@dianab996 Thank you for the kind words.
kicesie 9 months ago 9
I'm 18 and a virgin, not because I wait, but because I'm a perfectionist, an introvert and a cynic. I find girls my age not "interesting" enough instead of just wanting sex, I'm like a day-dreaming, self-hating poet with absurd hopes slowly drowning in this zombified society with no sense of value whatsoever. Day by day remains of my social skills vanish and I alienate myself starting to long for and enjoy my solitude.. talk about "f****d up"...but hey, maybe I'll meet a girl I can love..sure :)
Inidiom 9 months ago 8
LOL dont shove it in all at once but i agree with you virginity isnt taken its shared between that person and in the long run if a lovers did part theyre own way it sorta in a way makes them special because you gave them your virginity you know?
TheSurelia 9 months ago
Thanks a lot for your videos (: haha I will like to show them to some of my girl friends because I'm sure we all get those questions even if we don't say it, and you talk about this so well ^^ thanks again (:
anemix1005 10 months ago
I think the concept of virginity is exactly that....a concept. We made it up.
JoeJimipac112742 10 months ago
@kicesie do you have to be a certian age or have someone with you of a certain age to buy a pregnacy test?
zoekat99 11 months ago
@zoekat99 I can answer this one, If its not to late, I was there with my bestfriend, I stumbled acrossed this video out of random, but no, you don't. My friend was 13 at the time, and I stood there with her getting one. Just a matter of being mature to get one, tho sometimes the cash lady or man don't have the most "happy" face on the earth lol ^-^ hope i helped!
7Milk7Shake7 6 months ago
omg you look so familiar, Have i met you, oh and these 2 videos have been extremly helpful thank you
nowaydude9777 1 year ago
This is the kind of advice that needs to be sponsored.
Btriex 1 year ago 8
you've got my respect :) thanks for talking about this stuff it takes alot of guts
MrDiet46 1 year ago 5
You're very accurate in addressing your audience and situations they're in. Nice one!
666cornholio666 1 year ago 4
You have a beautiful cat! :O
SpavVy1993 1 year ago
i get wat ur saying but sometimes i feel shitty about myself cuz my friends (some younger some older) talk about how they've had sex before and they brag about it and point out how im still a virgin. i want to do it, but im never sure if i really want to do someone
TheNewageshit 1 year ago
@TheNewageshit I know what you mean, Im 17 years old... and Alot of my friends Are a year to two years younger then me and very few are virgins still. they always ask me why havent i had sex yet.. and everything like that and they always talk about sex.But to me, They were dumb losing it at a young age because some of them arnt even with the guy anymore, and they regret it. I feel i want to wait until i know i wont regret my first time. You have to think about that (:
TokioHotelChick1989 1 year ago
im a 15 yr old girl and i dont have much interest in sex at all, but im watching this vid to know more about it :3! and i thank you for doing theese! ive watched a bunch of them already and ive learned things that the stupid school and parents havnt told me. but i find that (in my own opinion) sex isnt that desirable. though i am very curious as to what it feels like and things... i would say from my knowledge to wait for that one person you know your going to be with, thats what im waiting for
DeidarasLilStudent 1 year ago
im 16 and never even hugged a girl :o
mrmyaccount1000 1 year ago
@mrmyaccount1000 I'm 18 and still a virgin.
missmuggledetector 1 year ago
That is the prettiest cat that I have ever seen :)
Great vid by the way
AmberLynne2010 1 year ago
wow. you're really smart! i never thought of it that way! you should write a book on this. talk to a publisher! you have great ideas
HEYOOOHHHHHHH 1 year ago
keep it up young lady!
zanardhan1 1 year ago
Like you said, just be yourself.. If they don't like you screw them, they're not right for you. I've told this to my little brother and little sister time after time, and finally they're listening to me.
lillwhitegirl 1 year ago
:)
karakuras 1 year ago
i bought comdoms in walmart and i was 13 lol
bigbobgotu 1 year ago
Thank you for making these videos, they really really help. Tons of respect for you! ^^
JamesWrenWaZErE 1 year ago
I wish I had known about this channel before I lost my virginity (I say lost because I was a bit stupid...). I was older than 16, by several months, although this video was like... a month after I lost it xD. Great work on your channel, I hope you upload more stuff, because it's really helpfull =)
misslorblack 1 year ago
you cant lose your virginity? what about rape?
iCriiNgei 1 year ago
@iCriiNgei Rape is not sex.... it is violence using a cock on someone. A person is still a virgin because they have not mutually shared a sexual experience with someone.
kicesie 1 year ago 34
@kicesie i know, what i was saying was, you said you can't lose it. it can only be shared. but rape is "losing" your virginity
iCriiNgei 1 year ago
@iCriiNgei No it's not, because it's not SEX.... sex is a mutual act. Therefore it is not sex.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie it doesn't have to be a cock...women seduce men which turns into rape, because men physically like it (or at least the penis is saying yes) while they psychologically don't, for girls it actually hurts so they know it is wrong/bad and know when they are being raped and know it is a good thing to tell people about it, for guys they *like* the physical sex but not in the way it came about and who is doing it, mostly because it feels good and does not hurt so your dick says yes and mind no
MarinesRProud 4 months ago
@kicesie Excellently put!!! To learn more about 'sexual violence' and its consequences check out my video, "REAL MEN UNDERSTAND THAT 'NO MEANS NO!' " Sex without consent is sexual assault/rape! Get that into your heads...DOUCHE-BAGS!!!!!!
PureGuy1995 1 month ago
Why can't I view this on iPod?
dawg3651 1 year ago
@dawg3651 It might be in flash. :-/
kicesie 1 year ago 6
when did you "share" your virginity?
yellowbanana159 1 year ago 8
@yellowbanana159 I don't answer personal questions. I will say I was older than the average age of 16.
kicesie 1 year ago 18
hey im 16 and my friend set me up on a date and i found out she reallly wants to have sex so it'll probibly happen but its my first time and it feels a bit wrong because i hardly know her but i worry about everything so i was wondering is it actually wrong or am i just being a panzi?
gjhgljhgljhgljh 1 year ago
@gjhgljhgljhgljh
You're not a panzi for being worried. For all you know, she could have a sexually transmitted disease and she could pass it on to you because she has been having sex with everyone else. Check her out with a doctor first, and scan her for VDs!
And if you do have sex with her, make sure you use a condom/Plab B pill and only have oral sex or give her a hand job!
NemonicLee 1 year ago
I'm not interested in getting married but I'm not against it either; if me and my partner love each other why should marriage be important? Sure I would upset if we broke up but I'd be A LOT more upset if we were to get a divorce. Just because you're married doesn't mean you're going to be life long partners and vice versa for bf/gf.
iDoRimjob 1 year ago 33
@iDoRimjob
The way I see it, legal documents do not indicate marriage. If you don't love each other enough to be together through absolutely ANYTHING, there is no marriage, even though there's a paper that says so. If you love her and would never let her go for anything, be it her cheating, an exorbitant offer to break up, money issues, you think you might love another girl, and others, then you're married, even if there is nothing that says so.
talsajstar 1 year ago
Cant believe a guy said that foreplay will make it hurt more! I have only had sex a few times, and my partner at that time wasnt really to big on foreplay so it was never enjoyable for me... I havent had sex with my current partner but we have talked about it, he understands that foreplay is important!!!
kiki181992 1 year ago
hi iam glad i ran upon your video iam 26 and still a virgen its hard some tymes but i choose to wait tell i find that one or married!!! and a lot of young gruls need to see this this is a wise video if a guy cant not wait u dont need to be with hym but if u do have sex use condomes alwayyszz!!!
ilovechance00 1 year ago
Kicesie, I think i was meant to sign on to youtube and watch your videos today ... this was exactly what i needed to hear and I think you may have made a change in the course of my future, for the good
MGD82391 1 year ago 4
thanks for taking the time to answer this, i rlly appreciate it (:
LoveHastensDeath 1 year ago
thnx for opinion, i rlly appreciate it (:
LoveHastensDeath 1 year ago
do you think that someone should be a certain age before even considering to have sex with somebody? i mean do you think one should be at least a certain age before giving themselves to somebody??
btw i would like to thank you for sharing these things with others, because so many ppl are never told.
LoveHastensDeath 1 year ago 6
@LoveHastensDeath There is no magical age, but if it's before 16, on average you're having sex earlier than other people, which seems.... unwise. Honestly if someone forced a number out of me, I'd say at LEAST 18.... But older is even better imo... That said, everyone has different experiences and I'm not here to judge anyone. I just want people to be educated and to have sex for as many of the right reasons as possible.
kicesie 1 year ago 7
Great video. I agree full heartily, Wait till you are emotionally ready. So important! Love yourself enough to be with someone who treats you right and you are comfortable to be with.
somebodyluvsu87 1 year ago
i love how when you talk about things you have to try and keep it pg hahaha
soildman595 1 year ago
i wated till i was 18 to have sex. i had it and then me and the girl broke up and it was like i wated all those years just to throw it away... is that bad
soildman595 1 year ago
you know your videos have made me think more deeply about my relationship with my girlfriend, and made me kinda wanna wait to have sex with her. i just wanted to say thanks! :)
Conpro100 1 year ago
as me grandad once said slow down or she wake the neighbours =]
lostwill86 1 year ago
I'm in the eighth grade, and I've heard things of "Popping the Cherry", and they say it hurts? Or is it just another rumor like you said it won't hurt?
malia123owns 1 year ago
@malia123owns Its different for all girls, it could hurt. Its like a sharp pain, like a cramp almost and you may also bleed when you pop your cherry, but not alot.
rockincristi09 1 year ago
@rockincristi09 Let's not use terms like 'popping the cherry'... because there is no popping going on and no cherries. Instead, it's a tearing or stretching of the hymen. If anyone is old enough to be watching this, they best be old enough to talk about things with current terminology.
kicesie 1 year ago
wow i think ure the only one that said it dont hurt
funkyfunky98 1 year ago
@funkyfunky98 It doesn't HAVE to hurt. If you rush into things and don't understand your body or prepare your body, etc... and if you don't use extra lubricant, and all of that, then yes, it most certainly could and likely will hurt! But my point is, it doesn't have to hurt if you're smart about it.
kicesie 1 year ago
I'm 17 and I'm in a relationship right now, my very first one. (Yay)
and my partner seems very sexual because whenever we go into making out, he goes for my breasts or my butt. And yesterday he got behind me and was humping me grabbing my breasts. I liked it but I got nervous and said stop. He seemed hurt but he said he was sorry.
I feel bad for telling him to stop but, I was just nervous. Was I right or wrong because I think he's still hurt about it.
gothvamp133 1 year ago
@gothvamp133 He needs to not get hurt, but respect your feelings! Obviously it was a little too much a little too soon! Good for you for speaking up and telling him! I really hope you continue to follow what feels right and stop anything that feels wrong. And he'd better respect that or you'll quickly lose respect for him.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
OMG! HONESTLYYYYYYYY
not to contradict everything u say!
but..ur a girl, u should have the opinion of a guy.
wth is that with victimyzing the girls?? honestly!
tubemankiwi 1 year ago
@tubemankiwi Hey, if a someone (guy or girl) is advancing way beyond what their partner is comfortable with, it's not okay!!! It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with respect and maturity!!!
And if you want to be giving advice, start your own channel on youtube.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
nothing to do with it,
just that u r giving the advise for girls.
its impossible for u to know the boy part.
tubemankiwi 1 year ago
@tubemankiwi This is the last time I'm going to tell you to give advice on your own channel or you'll just get blocked, which I don't want to have to do.
I DO talk to LOTS of guys and get their input. And EVERY single guy that is respectable (in every aspect of his life, not just with sex!) agrees that you should completely respect how your partner feels and NEVER push her beyond her comfort zone. Doing so moves creepily close to rape, they say.
So I'm passing on THEIR opinions here.
kicesie 1 year ago
@TikTokManiac The (16) I put in my comment is the average age, not the age I was.
kicesie 1 year ago
@TikTokManiac I don't regret my first time because I followed all the advice I mentioned in here and I waited until I was much older than the average age (16). So I was ready and I loved/love him very much!
kicesie 1 year ago
Kicesie, Thank you for the very kind words. The part about /You have my respect/ are well taken and so appreciated. You have earned my respect already. Oh you have such a pretty Cat. I am a Virgin, male 43 nearing my 44th year.
onehundredstocks 1 year ago
Aw cute cat!
Your very intelligent and offer a lot of valuable info on the subject! XD
sex ed really didn't tell me anything.....
MissLucyBoomer 1 year ago
Thank you.
bananas1and2 1 year ago
I lost it when I was 17 1/2 with my current boyfriend and he never hurt me at all. He did use lube, condoms, finger me gently, he even stopped and asked "how do feel" "am I okay" he even now after over two years he's still with me and the sex is still nice and tender
lovefordante 1 year ago
@kicesie i wanna say how i really appreciate that you discussed this topic since due being in my country, there is no direct(i.e in school or university) or indirect at least i know of that address this issue.
and it was really nice to listen to you especially since i am 21~22 at end of this year as at least i wanted to just hear and know what others thinks about that and at same time in polite and decent way.
So again thx and wish you best of luck
leweswes88 1 year ago
already did a post,but it said "gotta be approved" but anyway,???sometimes you look about 16 and sometimes you look older than that,like about17,lol,no but being a guy,different is good
UzerBoy1 1 year ago
@UzerBoy1 Actually I'm about to turn 25. lol...
kicesie 1 year ago
good video
jperk04 1 year ago
so you mean to wait till the time expire.
to wait till you 21 or 25 and above?
ydumbuya 1 year ago
I will be looking for your book in the future. I love your views on sex and virginity.
slushlove69 1 year ago
Satisfation can be punishment for example, so punishment what kind of, eh
Dolflu 1 year ago
Lol im allmost 16 and im a virgin. I dont know how long to wait or when to do it lol. I havent had a gf in a while so im scared im might just wanna do it really bad and do it. Because its really hard to not lol.
angeriod 1 year ago
You're great. :)
Usually I do NOT like talking videos at all especially if they are long but you should be a speaker, you're great at talking about topics and staying on track. .
And I believe that your book when you do write it will be really really good.
LittleMonstersInMe 1 year ago
I'm glad my first guy I shared my virginity with I'm still with for 2 years. It didn't hurt at all it felt amazing he used lube, condom, gentle, and asked if I'm okay
lovefordante 1 year ago
"you dont lose it, you share it" - i really like that
see040 1 year ago
Men have a physiological need to experience the touch or feel of someone, usually a woman. Full sex will probably satisfy the need the best; other touching will partially satisfy the need. This is not funny or embarrassing or immoral, it just is the way men are and it really is not healthy to be a virgin for too long. Look up "involuntary celibacy and you will see how serious the problem is."
lyutsin21 1 year ago
@lyutsin21 There is great debate on whether or not it's a physiological need.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
There's a part of your brain that tells you to reproduce, but sex with proper protection will still satisfy this part of brain. Women's genes tell them to only have sex rarely because they can only have a few offspring, while men's genes tell us to have sex frequently. This is why you may think it is ok for men to never touch women or have sex.
lyutsin21 1 year ago
@lyutsin21 I disagree that it's much evolutionary and nearly ALL taught to us as children.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
ok, but that just reinforces my impression that sex is bad or dirty or immoral, and that logically can't be true. Look up Maslow's hierarchy and humanistic psychology- in some schools of psych you get drugs/ talk therapy if you are too disappointed at not having sex/ meting someone. In humanistic psych you get help/connections to someone of opposite sex/gender, to meet need for human contact/sex/acceptance, et cetera.
lyutsin21 1 year ago
@lyutsin21 I have no idea how that makes you think sex is dirty or whatever. We just teach boys totally different standards that we teach our little girls. That's all.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie I'm not aware of what standards boys vs. girls are taught. In the orthodox Judaism I was brainwashed into thinking I had to do (I came out as an atheist when I was 26 and was afraid to anything w a woman before), there are rules that people of the opposite sex can't even touch each other, (except if married and even then only at certain times of month), women have to be dressed in a conservative-very non-revealing manner; inability to mention sex without embarrassment/silly euphamisms
lyutsin21 1 year ago
wow wtf no foreplay who the hell is tht stupid WTF ii always start with foreplay
jmerrit75 1 year ago
thats why you save it till marriage hten there is no regrets
iloveskatinyo 1 year ago
@iloveskatinyo I've spoken to some couples who waited until they were married and ended up highly regretting that choice because despite marital counseling and everything, they were simply never sexually compatible. I'm not saying I'm against waiting, I'm just saying that reality isn't that cut and dry... or that simple.
kicesie 1 year ago
so the longer you wait it will be better. but is it worth waiting?
pprohands69 1 year ago
@pprohands69 I certainly believe so! I mean I can only speak from personal experience and what friends have told me.... and we all seem to be in agreement. I waited until I was much older than the average age and WOW,... no pain, pure love and pleasure, no fear, no embarrassment, no worrying about being caught or getting pregnant or an STD. Just the two of us enjoying each other with love. Exactly what a first time should be like in my opinion.
kicesie 1 year ago 7
Glad you put this video up, I usually don't respond to vids but, I believe your opinion on everything is spot on, and the advice is sound. So if anyone has doubts about what she's are saying don't she's right. I'm 27, had sex more times then I can remeber, but I wish this vid was up when I was 15. Thanks again great vid.
tommycirrus 1 year ago 3
@tommycirrus Thank you for the compliment! It means a lot to me!
kicesie 1 year ago
there is a "surefire" way, wait till their is an actual relationship then wait to see if its real enough to get married and then get married go to vegas yo... whats the point of sharing or GIVING your virginity away to somebody who isent a virgin, or doesent love you enough to get married and have your child and do things properly... plus uhm yeah nobody could want to marry this dood <<<<<
LJRCassidy 1 year ago
god gave you a clit to play with
KTStarbuckACE 1 year ago
You are quite knowledgeable about early teenage sexual tendencies
evilcupcake12 1 year ago
@evilcupcake12 Wasn't that long ago that I was an early teen. :-) I'm proud of the choices I made, glad I waited until I did (until there wasn't a doubt in my mind, not even one 'what if' or worry at all!). But I'm still quite aware of all the temptations, and questions I had, and worries and all of the things my friends went through.
And getting the messages I do from viewers makes it easy for me to keep those memories fresh.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie are you a jesus person?
KTStarbuckACE 1 year ago
@KTStarbuckACE You'll have to be a lot more specific. Do I believe Jesus existed as God incarnate? Yes. Do I believe we've misunderstood the majority of the Bible? Yes I do.
kicesie 1 year ago
Could a person consider themself a virgin to some extent if they lost their virginity againest their will at a young age when they didn't even know what sex is?
Im1Fallen2Angel 1 year ago
@Im1Fallen2Angel As I've said, I don't believe anyone can TAKE your virginity from you. It's an experience and it's up to YOU who you share that with. NOBODY can take your virginity in my opinion. Never!
kicesie 1 year ago
Thanks (: Your video really , really * HELPED me <3 thankyou thanyou :D
MisNikkiAshlee 1 year ago
I think for a male like myself. I do sometimes get a little shy and nervous particularly around women whom I have genuine feelings for. Which often bothers me about sex, and virginity. I'm usually not the type of guy who happens to rush into these sorts of things, often think if these something wrong with me but some say that I'm not.
Higginsonje 1 year ago
How old were you when you lost it? I am curious. Also, what you said in part one and in part two really got to me and helped me make decisions in my sex choices. So thank you(:
ashleyt112233 1 year ago
@ashleyt112233 I don't talk about how old I was because I don't want my choices to influence anyone else's, good or bad. I want people to be as knowledgeable as possible and make mature choices, that simple. I want them to be true to themselves and do what they know inside is right for them at that time in their lives.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie One of THE most smartest people on youtube, not only i but most of us say thanks for talking about this with us.
CoryByrum21 1 year ago 59
ok heres the deal... its NOT ALL THAT BIG OF A DEAL LADIES AND GENTLEMEN its not like you feel like a different person after you lose it so bang away because honestly its not even a huge deal the whole virginity thing just gets blown hugely out of proportion
ThrowinDs42 1 year ago
@ThrowinDs42 I remember thinking when I looked in the mirror after I first had sex I'd somehow be different. And that different feeling just never happened. There was no huge change. Granted I wasn't young and I was insanely mature enough by the time I did it... so that probably made a difference.
kicesie 1 year ago
Me ND My girlfriend lost (Shared w/e) our virginity to Eachother!! she told me it hurt the first time But then IT Didnt hurt! We had a Good Time =)
LILJOKER33000 1 year ago
you have my respect kicesie :]
heilien 1 year ago
I used to think that everyone would make fun of me for being a 22-year-old virgin, and say that I needed to get laid, but everyone I've talked to about it is so encouraging! Thanks for your videos and for your encouragement! And everyone else, don't be ashamed that you're a virgin! When the right person comes along, you'll be glad you waited until you met them. :)
rosey4exclaim 1 year ago
thanks for explaining the concept of atleast waiting i made the mistake of llosing mine at 14 right before i turned 15 and the girl left me like a week later anyway im 16 now and to this day i don't splurge if i do have sex it ain't much and i won't go and do it regularly until marriage and i use protection and make sure the girl im with is ready and on the pill great channel and to anyone who thinks that they are ready- please, please, be sure you are ready and yea im a guy!
TheRedneckdb 1 year ago
it is actually cool to wait ;)
akasin01 1 year ago
thanks , you made me feel a whole lot better about my decision to wait
lDival 1 year ago
Did you start writing that book? Cause I'd really like to read it. :)
divinedido 1 year ago
@divinedido No but right now I'm reading 'The Purity Myth' which is AMAZING!!! An absolute must read!
kicesie 1 year ago
well im glad u helped me out on trying to be myself and knowing and loving myself thanks for that advice now at least itll be easier 4 me to get some gf lol
Criticismguy2009 1 year ago
you are so right you don't have to penetrate in like 10sec and for god sake have forplay
dancinggey 1 year ago
I think not to have sex is really dangerous,I'm a 20 years old guy that he's never had sex and instead of that I've got addicted to porn that I think it's pretty awful thing that destroying my life!
SuperShitttttttttttt 1 year ago
@SuperShitttttttttttt sex just makes you want to watch more porn if you have that addiction, sex isnt going to fix it.
phil656565 1 year ago
You seem to be very tolerant of religious people and in part 1, you said you respect people who are abstinent for moral reasons. But your viewers who may feel reassured by this respect are receiving conflicting advice when you casually mention the use of condoms and birth control. The use of those methods is contradictory to their beliefs of sexual morality.
spinemelter2000 1 year ago
@spinemelter2000 Things aren't always so cut and dry. I respect a person who choses to wait to have sex until they are married. But I also respect a person who decides that's not right for them and has sex, but responsibly! MY job is to be sure they have the information they are seeking (the UN's list of Human Rights includes freedom of access to information, something I support!!).
I'm here to support all of my viewers who want to be responsible. Nothing contradictory about that.
kicesie 1 year ago
@spinemelter2000 And I'm more than tolerant of religions; I have deep respect for all religions (except for any religion or system of belief that attempts to restrict MY right to a freedom of religion).
My minor before I switched schools was World Religions. So it's another passion of mine.
kicesie 1 year ago
Thanks for your reply to my comments. You are a very nice person.
spinemelter2000 1 year ago
i'm 21 & still a virgin, i haven't been kissed yet either, but i have a guy friend that i dated a month, we have done foreplay before but i refused to have sex so he broke up with me than afterwards he lost his virginity recently & now is pressuring me to do it with him. Thanks for clearing up the fact about "the first time hurts" b/c my mom told me & scared me. It's good to know that they're people who still have some morals or have self control. Thanks for making this video!
CuteMichelle07 1 year ago
you are good. you known how to said it like it is.. i love your video . keep going you should write a book. you are the best. i learn alot thank you
MrGrease23 1 year ago
health classes help..lol
bubblegirl4569 1 year ago
Hello Kicesie. I´m 25 and I´m a virgen. I´m getting married in 4 months and I am a little concerned about the pain.
I wouldnt like my first time with a condom, I would like pills or something. Wich one do you recomend?
How could I avoid friction without a condom? Does de Lub has to be water based or oil based?
I talked with a few friends that got married being virgins, and it hurt, for all of them, even with a lot of foreplay. (They werent using a condom)
Thanks for your answer!
sofia4utube 1 year ago
@sofia4utube I believe I wrote you back on facebook. Let me know if that was someone else and you still need an answer. :-) And congrats!!
kicesie 1 year ago
Okay so Im just going to start off saying well no duh Im a virgin but the thing that when i was born i had an opening... but as i grew up it like disappered. so I had to get some surgical thing. I know how strange this is but sometines I think that maybe IT won't fit inside...wow that was REALLY embarrasing!
NCISROX06 1 year ago
You shouldn't be embarassed. It happens to a lot more women than you might think. By getting regular check-ups with your doctor, you can ensure there won't be any problems when you're ready to have sex.
My mom is a nurse who sees this often. So trust me when I say there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about!
kicesie 1 year ago
Imagine dating a girl for a month, and one time drinking a bit too much, forgoing a condom, and 18 months later, meeting your 9 month old son. It's fantastic!
SouthernWhiteTrash 1 year ago
I hope you're being sarcastic about the 'fantastic' part, because it's far from that.
kicesie 1 year ago
you really helped me! Thank you sooo much!
I'm 23 and I decided to wait when I was younger and i might be getting married soon (I say might because we're just discussing it right now) and I was a bit scared of the wedding night because I'd heard that it hurt the first time but this video really helped me. Thank you sooo much!
ChibiWinry 1 year ago
I like what you're saying, but it wouldn't need to be said if society hadn't made such a big hairy deal about sex for the last 10 centuries. People wouldn't need to worry about needing to communicate if sex wasn't such a huge taboo.
scizophrenicpanda 1 year ago 3
A guy pressure you on sex, he doesnt loves you period, nor respect, doesnt matter how much you love him.
ThePizazzy 1 year ago
not always
rockleeownsu 1 year ago
Umm, yeah, I think always. If someone (male or female) knowingly pressures you to do something you don't want to do, they don't respect you. And if you don't respect someone, you certainly can't love them.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie well i think a guy can let his physical needs get the best of him sometimes and make him pressure a girl like that often unintentionally. Not that I'm advocating pressuring girls into having sex just that sometimes guys (and girls) can get ahead of themselves
rockleeownsu 1 year ago
Love is about caring about the other person MORE than yourself. So it's NOT love if you let your lust 'get the better of you'. By those justifications, rape would make sense.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie pressuring someone is completely different from forcing someone. pressuring can happen just by someone asking about it often or saying they want to do it often. It's a little harsh to say that if someone pressures you on sex that 100% of the time they don't love you without even considering the situation.
rockleeownsu 1 year ago
I agree that pressuring is a !far! cry from forcing. I was simply taking your logic a step further.
That said, I disagree 100% with everything else you said. So we're going to have to agree to disagree. I believe love is not existent if you can't 100% respect and abide by your partner's limits that they have been clear about.
I've given you room to explain your side. I've explained my side. So let's leave this alone now.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie yes while I might disagree with you as well I can certainly see your side of the argument. Suppose it depends on what you can define as love. Here's looking forward to that book. :D
rockleeownsu 1 year ago
I'm 19, and I've barely had any useful sex ed like this. All the sex ed I had in HS was "Abstinence is 100 % and vague info about contraceptives" And pictures of STDS ): I'm 19 and too freaked out even date b/c I'm still not comfortable with finding out about sex or birth control...
MsCerealKiller 1 year ago 12
You have beautiful eyes
JakeJohnsonAKAJdogg 1 year ago
you should write a book... lol
bksrocks 1 year ago
Hi, Kicesie. I'm a 27 year-old male. My girlfriend is 28 and not a virgin. I am still a virgin. I am ready to have sex. My girlfriend and me talked about it deeply. I bought condoms, and she's on the birth control pill Yasmin. We also have K/Y lubricant. I am going to take all your advice in your virginity video posts. I really think you are amazing and tomorrow night (March 13th 2010) I am making love to her. I am ready and so is she. It will be a night I will never forget.
gameowl82 1 year ago
I wish you the best! Remember she has to be on birth control for a month or more for it to truly be effective.
kicesie 1 year ago
Hey, Im a twenty year old virgin male. Just throwin that out there. Listen, ive got a question for you and you seem like a great person to ask. So, I feel odd telling girls that im a virgin becuase i get the reaction that im immautre, or inexperienced, or along those lines. Do women not like taking a guys virginity? Because they think its wrong, or the sex might not be good enough?
Whenever i tell a girl that im a virgin they either dont believe me (cuz of my age?), or they just smile.
noostafa 1 year ago
It's a matter of finding the right person... that's all. Most are probably not worth it.
kicesie 1 year ago
@noostafa im 16yrs old and girls understand me thats what they like. You took the time to find the the right one to lose it too not just any girl and that girl probaly wants to be the one ckuz girl finds that sweet bout a guy. Thats my opinion lol
MrStarvy 1 year ago
"...lose virginity. Which I hate that term. You don't lose it; you share it. It's not something it can be taken away from you."
Altough it's a small change in terms (share for lose), your perception in that matter is visionary in my opinion.
Yeesh I wish I could get a partner with your kind of ideas, it would be enriching and warming
AndresApolo 1 year ago
You're right, many argue that it's just semantics. But I think it completely changes our perceptions of sex and virginity.
And we CAN get LOTS of people viewing it this way if we just had the resources and opportunities to incorporate it into quality sex education programs.
Over this next year I'm going to be making a HUGE call toward the US government to increase funding for STD and pregnancy prevention through quality education!
kicesie 1 year ago
I like your lecture.I first did sex with a girl when i was 15 and i dont think that you have to get mature in order to take sexual decisions.and by the way when you will celebrate your opening ceremony.
Tahirsultan1000 1 year ago
and im not 1 of those 13 yr olds so thnk god !!! cuz thats just sad they arent gonna be ready there jus gonna do it for the sake of it or cuz the bf wants them to and if they didnt they would look stupid :L
spongebabe411 1 year ago
my bf wants to have sex wiv me but hes in my class at skwl and i dnt wanna but i dnt think he cares if i say no and puttin the pressure on me isnt helpin wat am i gonna do ???????? and im scared :,( and im only 12 help me !!!!
spongebabe411 1 year ago
Don't do anything you don't want to do. And don't make such a life-altering decision so early in life. Wait, at least for a while. You have everything to gain by waiting.
kicesie 1 year ago
lol thnx ;) btw i like ur cats name
spongebabe411 1 year ago
@ 8:05 did i hear a kitty?
MrChompenstein 1 year ago
Probably my Ophelia! She's laying on me right now!
kicesie 1 year ago
cute, good thing she was just passing by and didnt actually want some attention during your video, cause i know some little creatures that really speak their mind when they know they deserve some of your time :P
MrChompenstein 1 year ago
She used to be a HUGE camera whore... and made sure she was in ALL of my videos (somehow instinctively knew I was filming)... these days she's either laying on my throat or curled up in some unknown corner of the house,
kicesie 1 year ago
Saying that having sex before marrige isnt good is a very Christian thing to say. Thats first and foremost. 2nd If you have a bf/gf statistics say 1-3% actually keep the past sexual relationships in mind. Even if its the first.
lolwhatsup123456 1 year ago
THANK YOU! It's not "losing" your virginity. I've always viewed it as "giving" - it's a special thing that can only be given away once. The info in these two videos is great, and I hope people take advantage of it. I know you definitely re-affirmed my own faith in waiting for my "One".
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