Hah at my old comment down there. Im 26+3 weeks now and we still have sex all the time. and will still carry on having sex up until about 36 weeks i think x
let alone the uncomfiness in sex what about foreplay? i find it so super sensitive in my vijayjay i laugh so much it tickles more than its pleasurable. same with my nipples . he wants to touch them so bad and i cant stand him to even get an inch away from them. not fun.
At first, my hubby and I were plowing the feild becuase of our successful fertility. Then it dropped after I got very very sick in the first trimester.
My sex drive has changed but it's beginning to pick up. I didn't really want it because I always felt fat and didn't want him squishing the baby when on top.
The sex dreams always convinced me to get a little freaky. LoL. I heard the orgasm is good for the baby and makes it into a more loving person.
That's how I felt too, Feel fat and sex drive has changed lol even the wet dream ahahah.... my partner first was scared to hurt the baby as the same time he want it too. We both read pregnantcy books and it tells us it ok to have sex during pregnancy. So we didi it! but not for long he so scare to have sex with me again lol.. but we communicate quite alot though during pregnant. If he doesn' want sex cos dont wana hurt the baby that's fine I just pressure him when he needs it
When I was pregnant with my daughter she is three now. I was afraid that if me and my hubby did it I would hurt her somehow so we ended up not doing it all my whole pregnancy. My poor hubby had to wait till after the baby was born.
@babyvlog I did not have sex in the beginning as I was ill & 2tired. Having sex frightened me :( I didnt wanna lose my baby. I was probably quite stupid about it and paranoi because its rare that even happens.. Now I am 22 weeks and 24 yrs and I am kinda huge, I have had sex 4 times in my 2nd Trimester. Sex feels strange because as babyvlog said it "U have a baby moving round in your belly" and it is such a turn off. Not that your baby kicking is a bad thing, its just not always at the best time
Haha you are so in my head!!! I was too chicken to vlog about sex though :(. Sex during pregnancy IS tough when the baby picks that moment to practice cartwheels. I almost want to show Clyde your video so he knows it's not just me. haha! My sex drive was very high before pregnancy, now i'm like "don't come near me with that thing!!" Pregnancy is just so uncomfy...sometimes the baby actually starts kicking down at "him" then i yell "OH NO SHE KNOWS!!" LOL
I was pregnant with a girl(she is now 3 months) and I was not interested in sex until my last trimester and even then, It was hard to find a comfy position ugh poor hubby lol (oh also add in leaky boobs, emotional wreak, and kicking baby...just wasn't always fun lol) Sex after the 6 wks hurt!!! now 3 month later I feel a little back to normal.
Oh my gosh you described exactly how I felt during pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my daughter(who is now 3 months) I had had 2 miscarriages before her so I did not want to be touched for the first 3 months just because I was soo nervous and then it kind of went back to normal but then once i started getting bigger my belly was always in the way and it was just uncomfortable and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't focus at the task at hand (LOL) all i could think about was baby!
@25netti - Thanks for sharing your own experience!! It's true that sex during and after baby is so different... I just didn't realize how different it would be!!
Oh my gosh you described exactly how I felt during pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my daughter(who is now 3 months) I had had 2 miscarriages before her so I did not want to be touched for the first 3 months just because I was soo nervous and then it kind of went back to normal but then once i started getting bigger my belly was always in the way and it was just uncomfortable and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't focus at the task at hand (LOL) all i could think about was baby!
Such an important topic I feel, so glad you brought it up! I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant and since conception I have not been the slightest bit interested in sex. I hardly let him look at me 'that way'. Poor guy, he must feel like it's been cut off! The thing that makes it easier (for me) is that we don't live together so I hardly have to think about it, but it's really awkward when he comes to see me as he obviously misses being close. I'm vlogging my pregnancy if you wanna look :)
@littlemamauk - Glad to hear that you are vlogging your pregnancy!! Will definitely check it out :D It probably does help a lot that you live apart but it's still difficult either way lol Especially for our poor boys!! haha
My husband and I didn't have relations the entire 9 months I was pregnant. We were told not to at first due to some spotting, and then when we got the go ahead I just never wanted to for various reasons. Then it took a good yr after I had the baby for it to go back to normal. It hurt. Then after a yr we are back to normal, thank goodness. I never thought it would have taken so long, and I thought something was wrong. I read that the walls of the vagina can become irritated for some woman.
HI I'm Alexis, I'm currently 31wkspreg I found that during the 1st and 2nd trimester sex was just as often as before baby and also intensified. Now as I have entered the 3rd trimester my drive has definitely gone down. before I wanted it EVERY day and now I only get the urge every other day to every 2 days. Cause it's getting more uncomfortable all the time! the baby's movements however, I have never found to be a distraction. thanks 4 posting the video! it's a sub. not many people talk about.
I can take it or leave it during pregnancy. If hubby wants it and I am not too tired then I will, but I am not initiating anything really. It is uncomfortable at times trying to maneuver positions with a big basketball belly in the way-LOL! Also you are so right, in the end of the 2nd trimester and beginning of the 3rd trimester the moving really will distract you from being intimate at all!! But, for many, sex will never be the same, even after having the baby :(.
I really didn't have much of a sex drive before I was pregnant but now since there has been an increase it makes me feel like I want it all the time, I think it's just because I'm not used to having much of a sex drive though. I have not felt movement during sex yet, but it has been on my mind and I know how awkward it's going to be. Just thinking about that almost makes me feel guilty or wrong for having sex while I'm pregnant. Anyone else feel like that too?
@jthompson1882 - I feel guilty sometimes too!! Like, why should I allow myself to feel all this good stuff when in reality, I should be just growing a human!! lol
Oh gosh I died laughing when I watched this! U r soooo funny! Hahaha! Anywho..sex during pregnancy for me? A complete no-go! Like u said the movement of the baby is a distraction..kinda makes me feel nasty getting my "groove" on in the place she calls home! Sex is very uncomfortable and actually gives me motion sickness! I have the urge but I won't do it b/c its so uncomfortable.
See for me it hasn't changed, and we had sex throughout the first trimester, but ever since my bump has started showing my hubby doesn't want to do the deed. He's worried that we'll harm the baby.
I'm lil miss freaky and my husband doesn't even want me giving him strip teases anymore for fear that i'll hurt myself or the baby lol - silly man. It's a two way thing so we find ways to compromise and make it work for both of us.
I had miscarriage too, a year ago. I remember that bleeding starts just after sex, and when I'm pregnant again I'm not fealing to have any sex because I'm very sceared!!! I have those days that I really want it, but I can't do this !!! In first trimester my husband was always ready to have sex, but he understood me and my problem. Now when my belly is bigger his not so much into it lol hehehe Thanks for the conversation, a lot of peoples don't want to talk abot it!
Well my boyfriend use to think that his thing would hit the babies face and that was what caused dimples. lol. He is ridiculous but then after hearing it a lot your like I wonder if the babies head is getting hit, when it really is not. lol. Plus ya you feel way less attractive because you see other girls who are flaunting in their bikinis or daisy dukes and your sitting here with a big ol belly. So ya it sucks.. But hey we all go thru it.
@strawberrylovegirl1 - LOL that is too funny!! I find myself feeling SO much less attractive even though he totally loves my baby bump and my new curves... lol
I am in my first trimester and I have no sex drive! My husband obviously still feels the same but with bloating, nausea and FATIGUE? I am not up for it at all and it kind of makes me feel bad...it feels like I just "used him" so to speak lol. He says if I am not up for it at least please him...maybe orally? ha! sorry how embarrassing! Sex is becoming an issue since we are both on opposite ends...I really do hope I get my sex drive back asap!!!
@PshYeahItzMe - Hey, I say that you gotta do whatever you gotta do to keep the relationship happy so if that means a little 'tending' to him, go for it!! :D
I go through my phases.. lots of sex.. no sex.. lots of sex.. no sex lol. My boyfriend goes to touch me and jump him and then the next day I go.. okay don't touch me. Poor man lol.
My biggest thing right now is I feel like we are squishing my stomach too much.
I also get weirded out if she moves while we are having sex.. seriously? its .. odd lol.
OH and she is SOO low that it is uncomfortable some times.. hmph.
I am a guy and I think sex during pregnancy is ok, we read and my point of view, she went ok alll the time, healthy 100%, now my children are 16/12 and they are ok also she
For me I wanted it all the time in the first trimester bc I was in this euphoric-like connected to my husband phase...and then once there was a bump in the second trimester I was worried about the pressure on the baby and it was hard to get in the "mindset" even though I wanted it. Now it is just uncomfortable but semi-normal. BUT it is a lot less frequent bc I don't initiate like before the baby. My husband has handled it well though, bless him. :)
My sex drive has really stayed the same. Hasn't really gone down or up, but I honestly worry about the mucus plug everytime. I feel like he'll knock it out of place and send me into pre-term labor, haha crazy i know. It is uncomfortable at times, but we have found different techniques and positions that work really well! great video! you're right, not alot of people have the courage to talk about this openly, kudos! =]
@mrstbraid - it's not crazy at all!! There are so many things that we women worry about... It's totally normal!! That's awesome that you have found things that work for you guys :D
GREAT VID!! seriously...i have been wanting to talk about this for so long, just never got around to it. i need some batteries for my camera (gonna pick some up today) and i am TOTALLY gonna do a video response to this!!!
When I was pregnant I really never wanted to do anything. Although, every once in while I would get a HUGE urge and wanted it really bad. It was super hard to find a position that worked for both of us, though.
@caelaandbrian - I am the same!! It goes for long periods of time where I don't want anything because of how I feel and then I get this urge to. Usually, it's when he's gone to work :S lol
Great video!! My sex drive is 0 but I guess for me is a good thing bcuz I have a cerclage so no sex for us I cant even have an orgasm. My poor husband is going crazy, so no more babies for us he says he cant go through this a third time lol
@MrYuniesky - Oh wow - that would definitely make regular sex a lot more difficult!! I guess you can still tend to him but it's probably nowhere near as fun ;) haha
i'm still in my first trimester and have had a miscarriage.. i find that i want sex and to be intimate with my husband but once we start like kissing and the passion starts then i get nauseous and my morning sickness hits.. It kind of makes me feel mean to tell him we have to stop so i can get sick and then the fire is out so to speak. I wish i could just say u know what lets do it and not get sick, maybe i have to time it sooner idk but i agree its hard..
@xoRamzadictox - I think you'll have an easier time once you are past the morning sickness stage!! The good news is that you still want it and have urges :D
Great video!!! You are awesome for posting this and being honest! Love that you don't care if your family watches or not. Wish I could be more like that! This is after the baby..but I nursed my son for 8 1/2 months..never thought I'd ever get my sex drive back...once I stopped breastfeeding..it went right back up and I felt like everything went back to normal, how I felt etc. before we had a child.
@dreamflight6000 - I figure the family all has sex too so why not talk about it!! LOL I'm so glad to hear that your sex drive came back and is normal!! I am definitely going to do a post-pregnancy sex update!! lol
i couldnt have sex my entire pregnancy because i had placenta previa.. i can tell you that after pregnancy sex is much much different.. I have zerooooo sex drive or anything--- not sure if its because im breastfeeding or what.. im also beyond tired at night so its last on my list... I am very happy with my body but its not like it used to be so im also very self aware...
@MaRiSa22Bunny - I had a friend who was exactly the same (placenta previa). Thanks for sharing your experience with your sex drive after baby!! I am definitely going to do a video about sex after pregnancy too!!
I was soo thinking of doing a video about this !!! Thanks for it !!! xoxox
Honestly we BARELY do the bad thing anymore .. For me I really dont want too and Matt doesnt really want too either .. He kinda feels wierd about it .. He says he feels like the baby is watching and he finds it a bit ackward ... So we have talked about it and we are okay with things the way they are .. If we feel like doing it we will and if we dont we dont .. so we just snuggle A LOT haha ..
@CrazyCoolShorty - haha, I totally hear ya on the awkwardness that comes along with it!! I think that what you guys are doing -- talking about it -- is the most important part :D Intimacy can come in all kinds of forms :)
I'm 33 weeks and find it hard to get comfortable sleeping let along having sex lol! that said it was much easier in the earlier months..I think once bump grows and baby is moving around it is a passion killer somewhat. I guess it would help if I felt sexy somewhat,and sadly I do not lol. My partner loves my curves,bump etc which is sweet.
@Pinketter - I totally agree -- I don't feel sexy either so it's harder to get into it. Before, I could pretend to be a sex kitten (haha) and that made everything different!
With my first pregnancy, I was horny ALL the time!! My husband sure liked it lol! But with this second pregnancy, I'm pretty uninterested in sex. I basically need A LOT of foreplay to get into the mood. I also feel tighter and tender down there, which can make it pretty uncomfortable at times. Boob touching is a turn off also. For some reason, I tire a lot faster during. And before I ever got pregnant with my first, I was into sex, didn't like going more than 2 days without it.
@ArmindaHeart - Was the gender of the baby different in each of your pregnancies? I often wonder if it is at all related... lol I hear ya on the foreplay!! Although, even then it sometimes doesn't help lol
@babyvlog Yes, with my first, I was pregnant with a boy, when I was horny all the time. This time I'm pregnant with a girl and sex isn't interesting to me at all. Sucks! Also, I had a c-section delivery with my son and when we started having sex again (about 6 weeks after delivery), it hurt soooooo bad (my vagina, not the incision). I remember crying about it because I wanted to have sex,, but it hurt. It took a few weeks to get back to normal, just lots of "reconditioning" lol!!
I was so sick during pregnancy that I basically could not do it but I did have a good sex drive still but it's just not that sexy to throw up in the middle. lol Then later, it was just kind of funny, but I still just did it anyway lol for his sake.
I wanted to have sex alot during the first trimester and than the seond the desire went down but still did like 1-2 times a week and than the 3rd my boyfriend completely refused to we did like 1 time every two weeks if i was lucky.
to me it was simple lol the first three months sex made me nauseous and dizzy
not good at all , they the baby kicks in the middle of it haha & then i was huge =[ but like you said in the last part our husband need the time with us , so i was always doing my best for both. great video by the way!!
Hated sex during pregnancy. Had absolutely no desire and when we would go to do it was so unbelievably painful that it was never enjoyable. I was looking forward to the increase sex drive instead i just got the complete opposite :(
@25BecBec - I am the same way!! I wish my sex drive would have gone through the roof because I have heard all of these stories about amazing sex during pregnancy... I had an awesome love life before but would have liked the spike of hormones ;) haha
that all my hubby's co-workers say their wives were super horny all the time!! Makes me look bad! But they're probably lying haha :P take care hun! Can't wait to see what everyone else says!
@mylomya26 - I hate it when people say that too!! It makes me feel like I'm broken ;) I agree - they are probably lying and just trying to make themselves feel better by concocting preggo fantasies ;) haha
i always feel like my husbands laughing at me... i honestly feel bad for him... i can never get into it and he trys so hard and i want it so bad and baby dosent do anything wrong.. but i feel like hes laughing at me :(
@deters90 - Awww :( I am sure he's not laughing at you -- I ended up laughing in the middle of the 'deed' the other night and I felt HORRIBLE!! All I could think about was how big and uncomfy it all was and then of course, to prevent myself from crying, I just burst into laughter lol
i hate sex during this pregnancy i have never liked it since i found out i was pregnant it hurts and no pressure at all but my partner/boyfriend hates the fact that we don't have sex since he is a guy and so on but it hurts for some people but yeah most people are different , during this pregnancy i don't want anything to do with anything sexual.
HATED sex during pregnancy.. felt huge and akward! I kept wishing my midwife would say it's not safe for us to have sex during my pregnancy! haha And it just felt so weird because the baby would move and kick sometimes during it... ick! It was like the baby was in the middle of us.. :o/
After I had him.. I have more of a sex drive than I did before I was pregnant! :o)
@JenNTim509 - LOL wouldn't that be great if you were told not to have sex at all?? Takes the pressure off ;) I hope that my sex drive goes way up after pregnancy too because I am certainly missing it right now LOL
awesome vid ! YES sadly i have lost my libido :[ . my husband is your average horny 23 year old who doesn't really push the whole sex thing on me [even though we still have sex at least 4 out of 7 days of the week.] since i've made it kind of obvious i'm not into sex as much as i was 4-5 months ago. it feel uncomfortable to me :/ . . i have been kind of constipated lately and on top of that, when we have sex it feels like it's pushing on my uterus, not to pleasent. i'm 5 1/2 mnths prego
@MicahsMommy1234 - Wow, you're still a trooper for going at it 4 times a week!! LOL My husband would fall on the floor if we did it that often ;) haha
Been ashamed to discuss. Prior to preg, I had a healthy drive. At 33 weeks, it is gone. I was almost relieved when my doctor restricted sex d/t prelabor scares. 1)I don't feel beautiful anymore at all-I love being pregnant but feel very ugly 2)Hurts like hell down there 3)Yes, the baby kicking, makes me feel like I am dirty, doing it in front of a child 4)Don't want my boobs touched, fear at any given moment they will leak. I really want my intimacy back w/ hubby, scared to grow apart
@kesofia11 - I TOTALLY hear you on the breast issue!! I am totally afraid that any sort of contact will result in colostrum leaking out and then that would be totally gross.... lol It's so interesting to hear from all of you on your own fears / concerns / etc.
i'm not pregnant/haven't been, but this interesting to hear about. at least i know what to look forward (or not lol) too! i'm sure this will help a lot of women. i was on anxiety medicine for awhile and i actually lost my sex drive during taking the medicine and now that I've stopped taking them, it hasn't came back, so I'm hoping maybe pregnancy will help. i feel bad that i don't really have one at all now :( but good video!
@twistedheartsx - It's totally different for everyone but I think just knowing what can happen helps a ton!! I hope that the pregnancy hormones help you get your groove back!! :D
i tried tellin my husband that. its just not "comfy" any more. lol and then once your 35 weeks preggers you have this big ol' belly in the way. i do know that once i hit ooh round 38 39 weeks ill be askin for it not him lol. there are pros and cons.
@shelleehutch24 - It's tough to have your body go through all of these changes huh?? Does the late pregnancy sex come on due to hormones or because it can help you go into labor?
@babyvlog during the first trimester of pregnancy it was all hormones. now its mostly wanting to get labor started. and i kinda feel sorry for my husband. lol dont get me wrong i feel pretty being pregnant just not sexy with this big ol' belly. but its different for everyone.
@babyvlog lol well you know when your goin to be induced dont you??? lol just try like a day or two before. maybe you wont need to be. if you dont mind me askin why are goin to be induced? i might have missed that vid. lol.
@shelleehutch24 - I'm being induced because I am high risk for blood clots. If I go into labor while on the blood thinners, it can be really bad (they do have reversal options but it makes everything harder) so I don't want to do anything to bring on sudden labor :D
@babyvlog well that is very smart. i didnt even think about that. well i take it back dont have sex!!!! lol we want you to be safe and we want the baby to be safe too. good luck . :D just be glad you arent on bedrest. it sucks!!!! this is my 2nd week on it and im bout to go crazy.
Good video! I must also add that my husband at one point did make the comment of, "I'm scared to hurt you." He says now it doesn't bother him but I feel like he still has some issues with the baby in my belly while he's doing his thang. But yeah, a large belly, constipation and gas DOES NOT make me feel hot.
I also didn't have sex for the 1st 3 months due a prior miscarriage. I've always had a high sex drive however, once my husband entered residency his went down. Now that I'm 6 months along I find myself wanting sex still but then I'm like, well....I kinda don't want to put all the effort into it. I guess I've just become lazy. Also, at about 4 months, having sex weirded me out because I could FEEL my uterus rockin' back and forth...yuck. Lol.
@deathcabforjenny - Ugh, I totally hear you on the uterus thing!! It's so weird to feel your body have all these extra 'parts' and have them doing things through sex. LOL, you are totally right - constipation / gas / bloating / etc. SUCKS!
Hah at my old comment down there. Im 26+3 weeks now and we still have sex all the time. and will still carry on having sex up until about 36 weeks i think x
TwitchTheLizardx 6 months ago
let alone the uncomfiness in sex what about foreplay? i find it so super sensitive in my vijayjay i laugh so much it tickles more than its pleasurable. same with my nipples . he wants to touch them so bad and i cant stand him to even get an inch away from them. not fun.
misskatieerin88 6 months ago
im 17 weeks and 4 days. I want it all the time off my boyfriend. and its not changed. we still do the same.
TwitchTheLizardx 8 months ago
At first, my hubby and I were plowing the feild becuase of our successful fertility. Then it dropped after I got very very sick in the first trimester.
My sex drive has changed but it's beginning to pick up. I didn't really want it because I always felt fat and didn't want him squishing the baby when on top.
The sex dreams always convinced me to get a little freaky. LoL. I heard the orgasm is good for the baby and makes it into a more loving person.
SkittlesNTwix 8 months ago
@SkittlesNTwix
That's how I felt too, Feel fat and sex drive has changed lol even the wet dream ahahah.... my partner first was scared to hurt the baby as the same time he want it too. We both read pregnantcy books and it tells us it ok to have sex during pregnancy. So we didi it! but not for long he so scare to have sex with me again lol.. but we communicate quite alot though during pregnant. If he doesn' want sex cos dont wana hurt the baby that's fine I just pressure him when he needs it
gudevilgirl 8 months ago
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PS no, drinky! drinky!.... yucky! yucky! only spit, wash and brush afterward
gudevilgirl 8 months ago
When I was pregnant with my daughter she is three now. I was afraid that if me and my hubby did it I would hurt her somehow so we ended up not doing it all my whole pregnancy. My poor hubby had to wait till after the baby was born.
candi0826 1 year ago
@candi0826 - I think a lot of pregnant women are like that!! Totally normal :)
babyvlog 1 year ago
@babyvlog I did not have sex in the beginning as I was ill & 2tired. Having sex frightened me :( I didnt wanna lose my baby. I was probably quite stupid about it and paranoi because its rare that even happens.. Now I am 22 weeks and 24 yrs and I am kinda huge, I have had sex 4 times in my 2nd Trimester. Sex feels strange because as babyvlog said it "U have a baby moving round in your belly" and it is such a turn off. Not that your baby kicking is a bad thing, its just not always at the best time
ilovemyrotty86 1 year ago
do u still have sex now while being pregnant?
misaki52008 1 year ago
@misaki52008 - We have resorted to other things aside from actual intercourse ;)
babyvlog 1 year ago
what's this thing u call sex?
Zepphead93 1 year ago
Haha you are so in my head!!! I was too chicken to vlog about sex though :(. Sex during pregnancy IS tough when the baby picks that moment to practice cartwheels. I almost want to show Clyde your video so he knows it's not just me. haha! My sex drive was very high before pregnancy, now i'm like "don't come near me with that thing!!" Pregnancy is just so uncomfy...sometimes the baby actually starts kicking down at "him" then i yell "OH NO SHE KNOWS!!" LOL
Bunnylove2o1o 1 year ago
@Bunnylove2o1o - I agree!! It is uncomfy... LOL
babyvlog 1 year ago
@Bunnylove2o1o I know the feeling. I caught my boyfriend pleasuring himself. So now I am trying my hardest to sleep with him
ilovemyrotty86 1 year ago
I was pregnant with a girl(she is now 3 months) and I was not interested in sex until my last trimester and even then, It was hard to find a comfy position ugh poor hubby lol (oh also add in leaky boobs, emotional wreak, and kicking baby...just wasn't always fun lol) Sex after the 6 wks hurt!!! now 3 month later I feel a little back to normal.
aMochaMommy 1 year ago
@aMochaMommy - LOL, I hear ya on that!! I'm glad to hear that it eventually goes back to normal ;)
babyvlog 1 year ago
Oh my gosh you described exactly how I felt during pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my daughter(who is now 3 months) I had had 2 miscarriages before her so I did not want to be touched for the first 3 months just because I was soo nervous and then it kind of went back to normal but then once i started getting bigger my belly was always in the way and it was just uncomfortable and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't focus at the task at hand (LOL) all i could think about was baby!
25netti 1 year ago
@25netti - Thanks for sharing your own experience!! It's true that sex during and after baby is so different... I just didn't realize how different it would be!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
Oh my gosh you described exactly how I felt during pregnancy. When I was pregnant with my daughter(who is now 3 months) I had had 2 miscarriages before her so I did not want to be touched for the first 3 months just because I was soo nervous and then it kind of went back to normal but then once i started getting bigger my belly was always in the way and it was just uncomfortable and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't focus at the task at hand (LOL) all i could think about was baby!
25netti 1 year ago
Such an important topic I feel, so glad you brought it up! I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant and since conception I have not been the slightest bit interested in sex. I hardly let him look at me 'that way'. Poor guy, he must feel like it's been cut off! The thing that makes it easier (for me) is that we don't live together so I hardly have to think about it, but it's really awkward when he comes to see me as he obviously misses being close. I'm vlogging my pregnancy if you wanna look :)
littlemamauk 1 year ago
@littlemamauk - Glad to hear that you are vlogging your pregnancy!! Will definitely check it out :D It probably does help a lot that you live apart but it's still difficult either way lol Especially for our poor boys!! haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
My husband and I didn't have relations the entire 9 months I was pregnant. We were told not to at first due to some spotting, and then when we got the go ahead I just never wanted to for various reasons. Then it took a good yr after I had the baby for it to go back to normal. It hurt. Then after a yr we are back to normal, thank goodness. I never thought it would have taken so long, and I thought something was wrong. I read that the walls of the vagina can become irritated for some woman.
holdendmb 1 year ago
@holdendmb - Thanks for sharing your experience post-baby too!! :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
HI I'm Alexis, I'm currently 31wkspreg I found that during the 1st and 2nd trimester sex was just as often as before baby and also intensified. Now as I have entered the 3rd trimester my drive has definitely gone down. before I wanted it EVERY day and now I only get the urge every other day to every 2 days. Cause it's getting more uncomfortable all the time! the baby's movements however, I have never found to be a distraction. thanks 4 posting the video! it's a sub. not many people talk about.
jeffarnold86 1 year ago
@jeffarnold86 - That's still awesome that you get the urge every two days... I'm lucky if I feel it once a week or once every two weeks LOL
babyvlog 1 year ago
I can take it or leave it during pregnancy. If hubby wants it and I am not too tired then I will, but I am not initiating anything really. It is uncomfortable at times trying to maneuver positions with a big basketball belly in the way-LOL! Also you are so right, in the end of the 2nd trimester and beginning of the 3rd trimester the moving really will distract you from being intimate at all!! But, for many, sex will never be the same, even after having the baby :(.
a0martin 1 year ago
@a0martin - It's so true - I hear that it does really change things for a long time!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
I really didn't have much of a sex drive before I was pregnant but now since there has been an increase it makes me feel like I want it all the time, I think it's just because I'm not used to having much of a sex drive though. I have not felt movement during sex yet, but it has been on my mind and I know how awkward it's going to be. Just thinking about that almost makes me feel guilty or wrong for having sex while I'm pregnant. Anyone else feel like that too?
jthompson1882 1 year ago
@jthompson1882 - I feel guilty sometimes too!! Like, why should I allow myself to feel all this good stuff when in reality, I should be just growing a human!! lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
Oh gosh I died laughing when I watched this! U r soooo funny! Hahaha! Anywho..sex during pregnancy for me? A complete no-go! Like u said the movement of the baby is a distraction..kinda makes me feel nasty getting my "groove" on in the place she calls home! Sex is very uncomfortable and actually gives me motion sickness! I have the urge but I won't do it b/c its so uncomfortable.
AleeShaRenae 1 year ago
@AleeShaRenae - LOL I never thought of it like that... doing it up in her house ;) haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
See for me it hasn't changed, and we had sex throughout the first trimester, but ever since my bump has started showing my hubby doesn't want to do the deed. He's worried that we'll harm the baby.
I'm lil miss freaky and my husband doesn't even want me giving him strip teases anymore for fear that i'll hurt myself or the baby lol - silly man. It's a two way thing so we find ways to compromise and make it work for both of us.
LouLou230705 1 year ago
@LouLou230705 - That's awesome that you guys have kept things pretty normal!! I wish it was the same with me haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
I had miscarriage too, a year ago. I remember that bleeding starts just after sex, and when I'm pregnant again I'm not fealing to have any sex because I'm very sceared!!! I have those days that I really want it, but I can't do this !!! In first trimester my husband was always ready to have sex, but he understood me and my problem. Now when my belly is bigger his not so much into it lol hehehe Thanks for the conversation, a lot of peoples don't want to talk abot it!
nanusia69 1 year ago
@nanusia69 - Maybe, instead of sex, you can try doing other things? I agree though, we have to have understanding husbands to get through this ;)
babyvlog 1 year ago
Well my boyfriend use to think that his thing would hit the babies face and that was what caused dimples. lol. He is ridiculous but then after hearing it a lot your like I wonder if the babies head is getting hit, when it really is not. lol. Plus ya you feel way less attractive because you see other girls who are flaunting in their bikinis or daisy dukes and your sitting here with a big ol belly. So ya it sucks.. But hey we all go thru it.
strawberrylovegirl1 1 year ago
@strawberrylovegirl1 - LOL that is too funny!! I find myself feeling SO much less attractive even though he totally loves my baby bump and my new curves... lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
I am in my first trimester and I have no sex drive! My husband obviously still feels the same but with bloating, nausea and FATIGUE? I am not up for it at all and it kind of makes me feel bad...it feels like I just "used him" so to speak lol. He says if I am not up for it at least please him...maybe orally? ha! sorry how embarrassing! Sex is becoming an issue since we are both on opposite ends...I really do hope I get my sex drive back asap!!!
PshYeahItzMe 1 year ago
@PshYeahItzMe go ahead
fonsy2000 1 year ago
@PshYeahItzMe - Hey, I say that you gotta do whatever you gotta do to keep the relationship happy so if that means a little 'tending' to him, go for it!! :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
I go through my phases.. lots of sex.. no sex.. lots of sex.. no sex lol. My boyfriend goes to touch me and jump him and then the next day I go.. okay don't touch me. Poor man lol.
My biggest thing right now is I feel like we are squishing my stomach too much.
I also get weirded out if she moves while we are having sex.. seriously? its .. odd lol.
OH and she is SOO low that it is uncomfortable some times.. hmph.
HopefulLadie 1 year ago
@HopefulLadie - Thanks for sharing your experience!! I am the same way - the movement during sex just freaks me out. I can't focus on anything else!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
I am a guy and I think sex during pregnancy is ok, we read and my point of view, she went ok alll the time, healthy 100%, now my children are 16/12 and they are ok also she
fonsy2000 1 year ago
@fonsy2000 - Thanks for sharing your experience from a guy's perspective!! :)
babyvlog 1 year ago
Rockin the Casbah.. hahahahaha.
For me I wanted it all the time in the first trimester bc I was in this euphoric-like connected to my husband phase...and then once there was a bump in the second trimester I was worried about the pressure on the baby and it was hard to get in the "mindset" even though I wanted it. Now it is just uncomfortable but semi-normal. BUT it is a lot less frequent bc I don't initiate like before the baby. My husband has handled it well though, bless him. :)
stefanidawne 1 year ago
@stefanidawne - Thanks so much for sharing your experience!! I am the same way - I initiate it a lot less too!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
My sex drive has really stayed the same. Hasn't really gone down or up, but I honestly worry about the mucus plug everytime. I feel like he'll knock it out of place and send me into pre-term labor, haha crazy i know. It is uncomfortable at times, but we have found different techniques and positions that work really well! great video! you're right, not alot of people have the courage to talk about this openly, kudos! =]
mrstbraid 1 year ago
@mrstbraid - it's not crazy at all!! There are so many things that we women worry about... It's totally normal!! That's awesome that you have found things that work for you guys :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
GREAT VID!! seriously...i have been wanting to talk about this for so long, just never got around to it. i need some batteries for my camera (gonna pick some up today) and i am TOTALLY gonna do a video response to this!!!
splinterofh0pe 1 year ago
@splinterofh0pe - You TOTALLY need to do a video response!! xoxo
babyvlog 1 year ago
When I was pregnant I really never wanted to do anything. Although, every once in while I would get a HUGE urge and wanted it really bad. It was super hard to find a position that worked for both of us, though.
caelaandbrian 1 year ago
@caelaandbrian - I am the same!! It goes for long periods of time where I don't want anything because of how I feel and then I get this urge to. Usually, it's when he's gone to work :S lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
Great video!! My sex drive is 0 but I guess for me is a good thing bcuz I have a cerclage so no sex for us I cant even have an orgasm. My poor husband is going crazy, so no more babies for us he says he cant go through this a third time lol
MrYuniesky 1 year ago
@MrYuniesky - Oh wow - that would definitely make regular sex a lot more difficult!! I guess you can still tend to him but it's probably nowhere near as fun ;) haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
i'm still in my first trimester and have had a miscarriage.. i find that i want sex and to be intimate with my husband but once we start like kissing and the passion starts then i get nauseous and my morning sickness hits.. It kind of makes me feel mean to tell him we have to stop so i can get sick and then the fire is out so to speak. I wish i could just say u know what lets do it and not get sick, maybe i have to time it sooner idk but i agree its hard..
xoRamzadictox 1 year ago
@xoRamzadictox - I think you'll have an easier time once you are past the morning sickness stage!! The good news is that you still want it and have urges :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
Great video!!! You are awesome for posting this and being honest! Love that you don't care if your family watches or not. Wish I could be more like that! This is after the baby..but I nursed my son for 8 1/2 months..never thought I'd ever get my sex drive back...once I stopped breastfeeding..it went right back up and I felt like everything went back to normal, how I felt etc. before we had a child.
dreamflight6000 1 year ago
@dreamflight6000 - I figure the family all has sex too so why not talk about it!! LOL I'm so glad to hear that your sex drive came back and is normal!! I am definitely going to do a post-pregnancy sex update!! lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
i couldnt have sex my entire pregnancy because i had placenta previa.. i can tell you that after pregnancy sex is much much different.. I have zerooooo sex drive or anything--- not sure if its because im breastfeeding or what.. im also beyond tired at night so its last on my list... I am very happy with my body but its not like it used to be so im also very self aware...
MaRiSa22Bunny 1 year ago
@MaRiSa22Bunny - I had a friend who was exactly the same (placenta previa). Thanks for sharing your experience with your sex drive after baby!! I am definitely going to do a video about sex after pregnancy too!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
I was soo thinking of doing a video about this !!! Thanks for it !!! xoxox
Honestly we BARELY do the bad thing anymore .. For me I really dont want too and Matt doesnt really want too either .. He kinda feels wierd about it .. He says he feels like the baby is watching and he finds it a bit ackward ... So we have talked about it and we are okay with things the way they are .. If we feel like doing it we will and if we dont we dont .. so we just snuggle A LOT haha ..
CrazyCoolShorty 1 year ago
@CrazyCoolShorty - haha, I totally hear ya on the awkwardness that comes along with it!! I think that what you guys are doing -- talking about it -- is the most important part :D Intimacy can come in all kinds of forms :)
babyvlog 1 year ago
I'm 33 weeks and find it hard to get comfortable sleeping let along having sex lol! that said it was much easier in the earlier months..I think once bump grows and baby is moving around it is a passion killer somewhat. I guess it would help if I felt sexy somewhat,and sadly I do not lol. My partner loves my curves,bump etc which is sweet.
Pinketter 1 year ago
@Pinketter - I totally agree -- I don't feel sexy either so it's harder to get into it. Before, I could pretend to be a sex kitten (haha) and that made everything different!
babyvlog 1 year ago
With my first pregnancy, I was horny ALL the time!! My husband sure liked it lol! But with this second pregnancy, I'm pretty uninterested in sex. I basically need A LOT of foreplay to get into the mood. I also feel tighter and tender down there, which can make it pretty uncomfortable at times. Boob touching is a turn off also. For some reason, I tire a lot faster during. And before I ever got pregnant with my first, I was into sex, didn't like going more than 2 days without it.
ArmindaHeart 1 year ago
@ArmindaHeart - Was the gender of the baby different in each of your pregnancies? I often wonder if it is at all related... lol I hear ya on the foreplay!! Although, even then it sometimes doesn't help lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
@babyvlog Yes, with my first, I was pregnant with a boy, when I was horny all the time. This time I'm pregnant with a girl and sex isn't interesting to me at all. Sucks! Also, I had a c-section delivery with my son and when we started having sex again (about 6 weeks after delivery), it hurt soooooo bad (my vagina, not the incision). I remember crying about it because I wanted to have sex,, but it hurt. It took a few weeks to get back to normal, just lots of "reconditioning" lol!!
ArmindaHeart 1 year ago
@ArmindaHeart - Awww, sorry to hear about the pain afterward!! I'm pregnant with a girl and also not interested at the moment... lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
I was so sick during pregnancy that I basically could not do it but I did have a good sex drive still but it's just not that sexy to throw up in the middle. lol Then later, it was just kind of funny, but I still just did it anyway lol for his sake.
rawredemption 1 year ago
@rawredemption - Awww LOL I can only imagine what throwing up in the middle of sex would be like :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
I wanted to have sex alot during the first trimester and than the seond the desire went down but still did like 1-2 times a week and than the 3rd my boyfriend completely refused to we did like 1 time every two weeks if i was lucky.
w104rwf 1 year ago
@w104rwf - I think it's so interesting that we go through so many different changes!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
your amazing.. I just found your youtube page today and I love it.
toxicbeautyyyy 1 year ago
@toxicbeautyyyy - Awww, thank you!! xo
babyvlog 1 year ago
to me it was simple lol the first three months sex made me nauseous and dizzy
not good at all , they the baby kicks in the middle of it haha & then i was huge =[ but like you said in the last part our husband need the time with us , so i was always doing my best for both. great video by the way!!
edin4567 1 year ago
@edin4567 - Thank you!! I find that even just being intimate (cuddling, etc.) or at least tending to him helps a ton!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
Hated sex during pregnancy. Had absolutely no desire and when we would go to do it was so unbelievably painful that it was never enjoyable. I was looking forward to the increase sex drive instead i just got the complete opposite :(
25BecBec 1 year ago
@25BecBec - I am the same way!! I wish my sex drive would have gone through the roof because I have heard all of these stories about amazing sex during pregnancy... I had an awesome love life before but would have liked the spike of hormones ;) haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
Hi again :) great topic! I totally
agree with everything you said.
In the first three months sex made me
nauseous and dizzy :P and now with
baby moving and things being tender,
its definitely something we have to work at
and doesn't come as naturally. Also I hate
that all my hubby's co-workers say their wives were super horny all the time!! Makes me look bad! But they're probably lying haha :P take care hun! Can't wait to see what everyone else says!
mylomya26 1 year ago
@mylomya26 - I hate it when people say that too!! It makes me feel like I'm broken ;) I agree - they are probably lying and just trying to make themselves feel better by concocting preggo fantasies ;) haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
i always feel like my husbands laughing at me... i honestly feel bad for him... i can never get into it and he trys so hard and i want it so bad and baby dosent do anything wrong.. but i feel like hes laughing at me :(
deters90 1 year ago
@deters90 - Awww :( I am sure he's not laughing at you -- I ended up laughing in the middle of the 'deed' the other night and I felt HORRIBLE!! All I could think about was how big and uncomfy it all was and then of course, to prevent myself from crying, I just burst into laughter lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
i hate sex during this pregnancy i have never liked it since i found out i was pregnant it hurts and no pressure at all but my partner/boyfriend hates the fact that we don't have sex since he is a guy and so on but it hurts for some people but yeah most people are different , during this pregnancy i don't want anything to do with anything sexual.
alyssarami1 1 year ago
@alyssarami1 - I am the same way -- not as much drive to actually do the deed...
babyvlog 1 year ago
HATED sex during pregnancy.. felt huge and akward! I kept wishing my midwife would say it's not safe for us to have sex during my pregnancy! haha And it just felt so weird because the baby would move and kick sometimes during it... ick! It was like the baby was in the middle of us.. :o/
After I had him.. I have more of a sex drive than I did before I was pregnant! :o)
JenNTim509 1 year ago
@JenNTim509 - LOL wouldn't that be great if you were told not to have sex at all?? Takes the pressure off ;) I hope that my sex drive goes way up after pregnancy too because I am certainly missing it right now LOL
babyvlog 1 year ago
awesome vid ! YES sadly i have lost my libido :[ . my husband is your average horny 23 year old who doesn't really push the whole sex thing on me [even though we still have sex at least 4 out of 7 days of the week.] since i've made it kind of obvious i'm not into sex as much as i was 4-5 months ago. it feel uncomfortable to me :/ . . i have been kind of constipated lately and on top of that, when we have sex it feels like it's pushing on my uterus, not to pleasent. i'm 5 1/2 mnths prego
MicahsMommy1234 1 year ago
@MicahsMommy1234 - Wow, you're still a trooper for going at it 4 times a week!! LOL My husband would fall on the floor if we did it that often ;) haha
babyvlog 1 year ago
Been ashamed to discuss. Prior to preg, I had a healthy drive. At 33 weeks, it is gone. I was almost relieved when my doctor restricted sex d/t prelabor scares. 1)I don't feel beautiful anymore at all-I love being pregnant but feel very ugly 2)Hurts like hell down there 3)Yes, the baby kicking, makes me feel like I am dirty, doing it in front of a child 4)Don't want my boobs touched, fear at any given moment they will leak. I really want my intimacy back w/ hubby, scared to grow apart
kesofia11 1 year ago
@kesofia11 - I TOTALLY hear you on the breast issue!! I am totally afraid that any sort of contact will result in colostrum leaking out and then that would be totally gross.... lol It's so interesting to hear from all of you on your own fears / concerns / etc.
babyvlog 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing this. I was wondering how strange I would feel about sex - right now, not/never having been pregnant, it weirds me out.
Maiiven 1 year ago
@Maiiven - It is pretty different... lol
babyvlog 1 year ago
i'm not pregnant/haven't been, but this interesting to hear about. at least i know what to look forward (or not lol) too! i'm sure this will help a lot of women. i was on anxiety medicine for awhile and i actually lost my sex drive during taking the medicine and now that I've stopped taking them, it hasn't came back, so I'm hoping maybe pregnancy will help. i feel bad that i don't really have one at all now :( but good video!
twistedheartsx 1 year ago
@twistedheartsx - It's totally different for everyone but I think just knowing what can happen helps a ton!! I hope that the pregnancy hormones help you get your groove back!! :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
Not many people do talk about this! I'm curious to know what y'all have to say about what I have to look forward to (or not) lol :)
brittanykay22109 1 year ago
@brittanykay22109 - The comments so far have been super helpful I think!! :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
My husband and I were actually scared and stayed away from that for the first little while..
Taryn72 1 year ago
@Taryn72 - I think it's totally normal to be nervous about it -- I know I was!!
babyvlog 1 year ago
i tried tellin my husband that. its just not "comfy" any more. lol and then once your 35 weeks preggers you have this big ol' belly in the way. i do know that once i hit ooh round 38 39 weeks ill be askin for it not him lol. there are pros and cons.
shelleehutch24 1 year ago
@shelleehutch24 - It's tough to have your body go through all of these changes huh?? Does the late pregnancy sex come on due to hormones or because it can help you go into labor?
babyvlog 1 year ago
@babyvlog during the first trimester of pregnancy it was all hormones. now its mostly wanting to get labor started. and i kinda feel sorry for my husband. lol dont get me wrong i feel pretty being pregnant just not sexy with this big ol' belly. but its different for everyone.
shelleehutch24 1 year ago
@shelleehutch24 - I don't even get the sex to bring on labor thing because I'm being induced LOL
babyvlog 1 year ago
@babyvlog lol well you know when your goin to be induced dont you??? lol just try like a day or two before. maybe you wont need to be. if you dont mind me askin why are goin to be induced? i might have missed that vid. lol.
shelleehutch24 1 year ago
@shelleehutch24 - I'm being induced because I am high risk for blood clots. If I go into labor while on the blood thinners, it can be really bad (they do have reversal options but it makes everything harder) so I don't want to do anything to bring on sudden labor :D
babyvlog 1 year ago
@babyvlog well that is very smart. i didnt even think about that. well i take it back dont have sex!!!! lol we want you to be safe and we want the baby to be safe too. good luck . :D just be glad you arent on bedrest. it sucks!!!! this is my 2nd week on it and im bout to go crazy.
shelleehutch24 1 year ago
Good video! I must also add that my husband at one point did make the comment of, "I'm scared to hurt you." He says now it doesn't bother him but I feel like he still has some issues with the baby in my belly while he's doing his thang. But yeah, a large belly, constipation and gas DOES NOT make me feel hot.
deathcabforjenny 1 year ago
I also didn't have sex for the 1st 3 months due a prior miscarriage. I've always had a high sex drive however, once my husband entered residency his went down. Now that I'm 6 months along I find myself wanting sex still but then I'm like, well....I kinda don't want to put all the effort into it. I guess I've just become lazy. Also, at about 4 months, having sex weirded me out because I could FEEL my uterus rockin' back and forth...yuck. Lol.
deathcabforjenny 1 year ago
@deathcabforjenny - Ugh, I totally hear you on the uterus thing!! It's so weird to feel your body have all these extra 'parts' and have them doing things through sex. LOL, you are totally right - constipation / gas / bloating / etc. SUCKS!
babyvlog 1 year ago