This girl is the type of feminist that i have respect for. She is fair and beautiful person.........majority of men hating feminist are bunch of uglies and fat asses - when they couldn't get men they start hating men. It's so true their is no dignity in fatherhood it's almost useless for men to get marry and have kids......it's every important to be a life giver - their no bigger achievement than that --- but what's the use if you don't have same rights as the woman who had the kid with you?
awesome video I believe it takes two people to make the bed both parents should be responsible. Your starting to hear more and more how the 50/50 law of support is comin around medical bills clothes food school. Its about time!
Well who really cares about that I mean if a girl wants to get an abortion let her I mean like if men got to say yes or no have you ever thought of what pain the women have to go through to have a child and what you have to do nothing honestly you are lucky now as it is
Being part of the largest Jewish Hasidic community worldwide,our children learn about how children are born &why.The natural desire for love is discussed & develops not at age 14 because society says you are nerdy or weird if you substain.Respect for the woman is taught from age zero & hopefully backed up by living example.Most marriages are women of 18,19 & men 23.Since we don't watch TV exploitation of women as sex objects is less,we're more assured of building a lifelong loving relationship.
U kicesie is what we call a REAL WOMAN, by the way you talk, the way u explain i can tell u that ur a real woman that never lies, who doesnt cheat and really appreciate's a man without being manipulative, women like u are very rare. If u would live nearby, i would prupose you, cuzz i can barely find a woman like u in the country where i live.
Feminism is very convoluted and crazy that I wouldn't consider you a feminist. I think its time for an ism to come up in this equal rights fight that combines the forces of men and women against separatist like feminists and misogynists. Women fight marriage because its "slavery" men fight marriage because its financial ruin. Society is breaking down because having a family is such a risk now.
Is 100 percent right there is no way a man should be forced to make monthley payments for 18 years of who nows how much of his money when he didn't want the baby we need more eqaulity in the world but I'll settle for Canada and mabey the u s
I have never finished inside a woman without a condom. I just don't want to take the chance... I won't ever take that chance until I find someone I want to have children with. I agree with you wholeheartedly
@thewickedtim Just remember the failure rate of using ONLY the pull-out method to prevent pregnancy is really high. So always make sure she's on birth control too!
@kicesie Have you done research on birth control from many sources?
Remember its called "conflict of interest" if the drug company's so its a good thing!
Never ignore many professionals who have other real opinions just because they don't appear on the fancy media stations, they are by far not the end all and be all of truth, in fact they BS more then lawyers.
When it comes to reproduction, it's a woman's world. Women don't have to search for sex; males come to her, and she has the final say about the act itself. Men have the choice between abstaining, using condoms or getting a vasectomy. Men have no say in abortion - pro or con. If logic had anything to do with it, men wouldn't bother with women, but in a contest between logic and programming, logic comes in a distant second. In my view, you're not a feminist, you're an equalitarian. I made that up.
@TheRobbie0003 Well I think one of the reasons I still identify strongly as a feminist is due to the issue/epidemic of rape.
But I do believe in equality. As much as we can possibly have! And I stand up for men just as much as I stand up for women on 99% of the issues out there (rape being one where I stand up for women strongly {I understand men are raped too}).
@NorthStar20121 I will support that sort of law 100% just AS SOON AS science figure out a way to take the fetus (or whatever it is at that point) and implant into said man/father/potential-father. Until the man can carry the child in HIS body, you have zero say.
Don't want a baby formed with your semen and then aborted? Use a fucking condom, get snipped, make sure she's on a birth control until you're ready to parent together, ETC.
The utilization of the female body, is obviously relevent to determinism, but overrated by the prejudicial logic of the garden variety feminist. There's an analogous aspect that they willfully overlook no matter how painstakingly it's explained to them.
The money that he's obligated to for 18 years, comes out of HIS body, applied to work. The fact that you can even grasp the flaw in their thinking, let alone empathize with it, marks you a minority among yoru peers.
Either that, or women, and women alone should be responsible for raising the child. I don't care which way the pendulum swings, as long as its fair. Either men have a say in the abortion, or they don't, but they don't need to worry about the baby either if they don't want.
Maybe there could be a thing where the father could sing a paper saying he wanted the child aborted, and if the mother refuses, the kid's her responsibility. Seems fair, or at least more fair.
@Verrimgard I've been thinking about this issue long and hard (were you the one who challenged me to consider that a few weeks ago? if so I've been thinking hard about it). And I THINK I do believe that if a potential father, during the FIRST trimester signs a legal document & she is made aware of it, then he should be able to walk away from it just as she'd be allowed to do through abortion or adoption if she so chooses.
(I reserve the right to change my mind though, I'm not done thinking) ;-)
Basically, if I interpret you correctly, you're saying that both party's should have the right to say "no". And, if you're sincere about wanting both sexes to have that right equally, then I agree with you 100%.
Sorry for the doubting and all that. I get a bit tense when talking to feminists. You seem a lot more reasonable - and less hostile - than most of the one's I've talked to in the past though. :)
@Verrimgard That's absolutely not fair, regarding your suggestion that men sign a paper saying that he wanted the child aborted, having sex when both people agree to do it, is fair, they know the risks and they know the possible out comes, its called responsibility and its not fair for the guy to just sign a paper so he can be responsible free, that's a cope out, he doesn't wanna have a baby? there are medical ways to prevent that, hes got choices, more then they had 100 years ago.
birth control pills are safe, ive been together with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and we used condom like..5 times if not less. It is safe, theres no point taking birth control pills if you use condom. Dont tell me we had been lucky for almost two years!
Theres very little chance for getting pragnent if a girl takes pills, there is, but very little. Condom is the same, its effective but can get torn, theres a small chance for that too, but it can happen, So no point using both.
@mindennevfoglalt About 3 out of 100 women will get pregnant every year from taking her birth control PERFECTLY. So if you're okay with a 3% risk of pregnancy, you're right, just hormonal bc is fine. If that's too big of a risk for any of you guys out there, then add condoms to the mix. Then I believe it's less than 1 in 1,000 if not 10,000.
that's true assume some women will lie or forget..don't take chances...use condoms the slush the used condom down the toilet after every time!!!.men's pill should be available I believe they are blocking it. How are they going to have ppl make babies otherwise??
@seanth014 Condoms shouldn't be flushed, you could really screw up your toilet... just FYI... :-)
But yeah, they are finally doing human trials in the UK on a male birth control. So many men I've talked to bitch about possible side effects. I'm like, 'WHAT? You think women don't have to deal with that shit???' Sheesh! I think it's totally worth the peace of mind, but whatever! That's their own stupidity.
@kicesie Now you have it, we are at the primitves..... and the problems come and come.. ask yourself, who made these problems? As i see there aren't any real way to get out of this never ending bucket, but the most primitive yet the best advice what anybody can give is to use condoms.You got the point, but, in life, girls get help and guys always need to be stronger, equality in this system is not possible. I have to do twice as work because i'm a man, and the law throw me out on the window.
@kicesie and i wanted to write somehow but it's really hard, that being a man especially a white man who born up in a good family is really hard these days, and the society only promoting sex, interracial sex, but people don't really understand even i'm a man, i have hormones, i have sexual needs but those things aren't love, so i think people aren't educated enough to even think about birth control. It's not like a girl wanna find the prince anymore, but rather the opposite.
@kicesie There is a big problem, on our planet, there are more women then men. Since we fought in wars several time and people died. Male birth control is a good idea but, if you cause a man to be impotent, you are destroying the humanity of the planet. Promoting sex alone is not the only thing to do, girls simply try to act like a guy cheats, but the stereotype of a male life makes us do job, get money aid the girl, is really much stuff to do...
Thanks so much for the vid. I like ones where you discuss issues better than all the rest. Too bad for no 2nd vid. Well you could look past the hate mail (look at all the pos teens that comment on any other vid.) but I understand keep being awesome sorry if I sent this twice
Men should have more rights. I'm a sad story of such in that department. I'm 26 been married twice and in the two marriages lost 3 babies to abortion where I had no rights in the matter. We really should develop some statute giving men that want to be fathers; and even single fathers if they have to; the right. The pain I carry with me will never go away.
@Flemingjustin5 And when we have the technology to implant that fetus into another woman if the woman carrying it doesn't want it, then I feel you should have the right to have that done. Until it's requiring her body to carry, I'm pretty firm on my beliefs regarding a woman's right to control her body and medical/psychological choices.
And dude, not to be insensitive, but use condoms. It shouldn't take 3 times to learn. Also know the women enough to know how they would handle that situation.
@kicesie hello, first time viewer, first of all let me say that I think that you are a very intellegent woman and I think that the whole rape thing is very tragic and the jack a** should be castrated. The whole condom thing I completely agree with. I went and got sterilized for just this reason, I do not want kids, nor do I want to bring a child into this world without the love it deserves. That being said I am adopted, I am very thankful to my adoptive parents for everything.
@kicesie I found out later in life my bilogical mother wanted nothing to do with me, and it my father wanted me-with whom I now have a relationship. So, what more rights do you feel your entitled to? It is not the men's fault in todays society that women can not be in combat for example. It is society in general, we as a nation can not handle the idea of our mothers, daughters, sisters being blown up. Is that a Sacrifice that you personally would make? I have been to Iraq and lost brothers.
Ok so we don't have any rights over human life WE created with women. Oh yeah that makes sense... I think Billy Connolly said it best when he was talking about the feminist movement "We want some of that! And some of fuckin that! And we want some of this! We want fuckin all of that! And some more of that!" I know not all feminists are like that but just because men HAD more rights doesn't mean women should have more rights now? I thought it was about equality not a sea saw of power.
@loglog7 It should be about equality but life tends to happen is 'sea saw' sort of motions... the pendulum swings instead of stopping at middle ground. I'm not saying that's right, it's just what I've observed.
I made this video because I believe men need more rights, need to be aware of the rights they have so they can fight for them, etc.
I DO believe in equality. Equality doesn't have to mean being the same though, which way too many people think. Equal but different.
@kicesie I never said you don't believe or think equality is right or wrong. I am just saying that the pendulum has swung from men to women and.... oh that's right it never swung back. It just seems very unfair that the father's, who, i might add, you cannot have children without, get no rights.
It's very unexplainable that in such a male-dominated political world, that we can't manage to balance this matter. However I do believe that when the government organizes there priorities this subject sure as hell dosent top the list. There are other areas where the equality is backwards and men are favored. i.e. Professions, politics, and others. Correct me if I am wrong but in large companies CEO's are generaly men. Again not a stat so I may be wrong here
Me being in the military i have met plenty of women who has tried to trap me and plenty of other men as well.... also with that being said i dont believe a women when she said that im on the pill, shot, or any other kind of birth control I'm sorry to sound rude but its the truth with some women there are some out there like that esp when a kid is involve unless the lady is a completely unstable
I appreciate that you strive for equality and not superiority with men. In my experience, feminism is synonymous with hatred of dominance over men. I also applaud you for calling men out to be responsible for our actions. This means a lot to see someone who is stereotyped as 'liberal,' which is very different from myself, say a lot of things that I agree with. Please keep it up. :-)
Communication, No matter what the situation, Both parties are responsible for their actions.I agree with you K Simple precautions can be made to minimize the chances.
Yeah this is a problem, but the MOST serious form of anti-male sexism, in my opinion, is one that we see on sitcoms, movies and ads every day (stupid, incompetent husbands vs strong, almost bullying wives; hitting a man in the face or groin is still considered hilarious) since, unlike child custody cases, one gender's physiology plays absolutely no role in it. It just raises a new generation of complex-ridden young men.
As an *ahem* inexperienced male, the decreased sensitivity with condoms is ok with me. 'Cause heck, I'd like it to last more than a minute.
The only problem I see with male birth control is that there would probably be dozens of questionable side-effects, and men would be pressured and expected to take them regardless of those side-effects.
How sad that an individual who happens to be a feminist and a girl must point to men that Western society is favoring women over men. This is how far men in Western countries have been brainwashed and beaten down by political correctness and self-criticism.
We as men are very critical when it comes to how men treat women but we tend to accept it when women treat men like shit.. Sadly(unlike the girl in this video) most women love this kind of special treatment.. WE as MEN have to stop this!
@willemdawillem I really hope men do stand up for themselves and take back certain rights. Reestablish the fact that fathers really ARE important (I HATE how the support of single moms has resulted in this idea that fathers aren't necessary).
I hope it can be done w/o hate or fighting, but a joint effort/realization.
If women REALLY want to do it on their own & feel they don't need you, then they need to quit asking for child support or expecting for men to pay for dates or...................
I think men are easily capable of standing up for themselves without bringing women down. I think we have all learnt from the feminist era (70's/80's); blaming, ridiculing or fighting "the other sex" is not a fair and humane way of discussing gender differences.
Sad part is, if men don't stand up for themselves soon, we will probably do a lot of psychological damages to boys growing up. Boys need space to be themselves, not wannabe girls with girl-feelings as society wants them to be
@willemdawillem I agree most if not all woman love this special treatment. thats why im never getting married. i want kids but if it means i have to be owned by a woman by law....... id rather meet my maker.
thanks for the video! :P but its true we men do trust weman a lot! :P with this stuff..but i always ask my girlfriend if she took the pill propperly :P...
Thank you so much for this video. You and I understand that there is a problem. Sadly most men (and women) think that no rights for men is the way to go. Please be patient. All the big changes in society are not overnight changes. I find it very encouraging to find a woman who gets its, and that has compassion for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Kicesie, thank you for this video. I can't express myself about how gratefull I am for your words. Thank you for your concern, thank you for your advice. Total Thank you. I am going to watch more of your videos. You give me hope. There are some people who don't get it. But you do and modesty aside I do to. I am so glad to have found you.
hello. i just wanted to take the time to tell you that you are such a wonderful person and you give great advice :) i am a 17 year old girl and i just like to see most peoples opinions on each topic you talk about. i really love your advice . screw all those guys who disagree or even hatin on you for tryin to help them. your a great person and thats all that matters! i would love to read a book oby you if someday you publidh one or if you do already?
I havent read all the comments, but I've been is several situations where women say, "you don't have to wear a condom" and I'm like, "yes I DO." Not trying to start a flame war but being a man with a good job, and a good head on my shoulders you have to watch out for opportunists. Lots of women see babies as a cash cow and as you've pointed out the laws favor that behavior.
So, to all, just wear the freaking condom, or your a sucker. If not, good luck.
God Dammit. Feminism is wrong. The very term should never have been thought up. Kicesie, you are right to seek gender equality, on both sides, which is what feminism should have been named. The idea that someone does not want gender equality is ridiculous, and only applies to the most evil, derogative, people/countries. Every self-respecting person wants gender-equality. Feminism is no longer about that. They fight for things that are so derogatory towards men, it makes me angry. No lttrs left
It does NOT matter is the guy is waring a condom or not, or if the woman is on the pill or not. They are both equally responsible. In this video you explain that the guy should know if she takes them regularly or not, like she's not responsible? In another video you put all the responsibility on the guy as well. That video I did not like at all. It made me sad actually.
Trust me, you men have definitely convinced me not to try and help you guys out at all anymore! I'm done with making any videos to give you a heads up on your rights or things you need to be aware of.
Well you don't have to sound like a man hater just because.. well that is how I felt about it anyway. You seem to have a pretty good idea of what is right and wrong when it comes to equal rights which is good. But some of the things you said did actually make me sad.
@kicesie Really? I appreciated this video and your points. I think you might consider that only a small % of those who watch videos actually comment, and those who do comment here on YouTube in general don't tend to be the most intelligent or reasonable. Please don't be too despirited about these negetive comments, you may have done more good than you realize.
@kicesie I agree with Ironbuttermilk, I think this was a very helpful video and certainly appreciate your dedication to gender equality. Please don't stop promoting awareness. I was just reading these comments to find out where the other videos in the "series" were. Plus...from the way abomity writes I'm really not sure what point he was even trying to make
I'm 18, and personaly I find your advice honestly helpful. I know first hand just the kind of treatment men get in the court room because my dad has been through two divorces (in my life time). Not only displaying the sexist court system of snohomish county, WA but an over all intolerance for even good fathers.
@kicesie Thank you for your video. As a man I feel so good to find female support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Now, many people don't see this issue as a problem. But thourgh concience awareness we are going to make it. Gracias desde Ecuador. Thank you from Ecuador.
Good video, I'm a guy and I see men being badly treated in many ways.
But that's not what I wanted to say hehe..
Yes, a mans rights when it comes to having the child or not is VERY limited, which I as a man don't really care about. It's the womans body and if she does not want to have the baby, them it's HER choice and hers alone. But if she does and he doesn't there have to be some legal understanding.
The woman should be required to approach the man before birth. If the man then says they dont want access etc, then there is not no support then required from them, but they lose ALL access forever. This balances out the fact a woman can get an abortion, even if the man wants the child.
If the woman doeasnt approach the man, then she cant get support then either. If the man wants the child and signs, he is legally attached for the rest of the childs life.
The law should be changed. As the woman can decide to not have the child even if the man wants it. There should be a system for men who dont want the child.
There should be a legal requirement to approach the man before birth, and if the man signs to say he doesnt want it(or they dont tell them) then she can NEVER get any support, and can then decide to have anabortion. This would also permanently remove the mans right to access. Otherwise they can say they want access and go ahead from there.
I enjoy most of the videos you do.I was wondering if you went to school for law or sex ed and if so where. I have heard you say that you are married. If that is really true why do you where what appears to be an engagement ring in some videos and no ring in others. Wedding bands usually don't have a single set diamond like the one you have on here. What you say for the most part seems to make scene but my real question is are you a trained professional and are yo really married.
What really sucks is that some of the time the man is a wonderful father, and the women is a bad mother. The court system (most of the time) keeps the child with the mother. Also, In a case that i know of, the father was taking care of the child for a long time yet he still had to pay child support to the mother. I'm not into polotics but that needs to be changed. Keep getting the word out, you're awesome!! Whens part two?
I'd love to make a part two and continue discussing this, but I actually got more HATE from men than agreement. I guess they don't care that I want to fight for their rights. I want men to be aware, for everyone to have equal rights. I want courts to look past gender and decide who REALLY is the fit parent.
I want fathers to have more say in what happens once their child is born.
I hate the horror stories of babies being adopted out without the father's signature. It hurt my heart. It's wrong
curious did u write your own wedding vows or did u take the tradional vows with the "love honer charish and obey " or a variation of the tradional vows?
@kicesie sorry, idk what that means. Also, I tried to leave a comment yesterday that appears to have gotten lost- I've never heard of "male contraceptives" b4 outside of condoms or getting the "V"- do u have any more info on how we might pressure pharm comp.s 2 keep working on this, or on when they might be available?
And they are saying prescription drugs for men to prevent pregnancy could be less than one year out!! They are getting VERY close to FDA approval with some of them... and men will have just as many options... pills, shots, patches, implants, etc etc...
I agree with equal rights for men and women. But think about this, fairly often, on comedy TV shows, the man will be kicked or hit in the nuts, and it will be funny. Imagine if a man on TV punched a woman in the breasts, not so funny. So would you agree that there is a slight anti-male trend in the media?
Do you believe that men should have equal parenting rights as women should have equal employment opertunity?
By the way. You are really attractive, just had to mention that!
she is right guys we have very little rights as parents I have no kids of my own but I have watched 2 friends have kids and fight for custody one got his son from his junky ex after 3 years of fighting the other can only she his daughter on weenends when he works full time and his ex doesnt work and he pays an extreme amount of child support.
I hate when doctors tell women that they can not have children. I was told this about 3 years ago and now my husband and I have a wonderful 15 month old boy. Now it took forever for us to have him, but at any means the doctors were still incorrect. That being said, no matter if you are there when the woman is told she can't you should still use protection because it can happen. Men have so few rights when it comes to their children unless they are married and I hope this changes soon.
you know what I think is so stupid, people can just go out and get someone pregnant and both are unfit to be parents but there are couples that can't have children so they want to adopt but it takes forever like a few years...yeah just something i ponder sometimes
Thanks for putting this up and being concerned with men's issues. It good to you hear you donated to a men's rights organization. They're good causes that are unfortunately quite underfunded.
I think that its very true that a man is responsible for having a child with a woman and as a guy myself I have the same beleif that guys have to take responsibility for getting a girl pregnant.
Also, guys use a condom unless you really want to be a dad.
I'm a guy and I just recently started watching your videos and I think they are very helpful. Personally I would go back to my high school and recommend some of them for health class.
I do also agree on the men's birth control issue, a little more time and money should be put in for it so that guys in some situations would could forget to use a condom (mostly drunken stupors) could still have sex without reprecussions.
Remember that with the HIGH number of STDs out there (25% of women currently have at least one STD recent studies show), condoms are still a HUGE must, especially for one night stands and those drunken choices.
It's surprising to me that many people think a pregnancy to be worse than contracting an STD. Interesting way of thinking.... maybe I should make a video on that asking people about their feelings on it and why they think&feel the way they do....
This is NOT a debate on feminism. I was trying to give men a heads up and a reminder.... NO debating on feminism or it's definition(s) will be approved. And I'll likely quit looking out for you men since all I get is your BS on this topic these days.
As a feminist you shouldn't be acting and looking like a total slut. That's how you are getting the attention of the world - just showing some skin, and it only makes women look easy and pathetic, having someone like you fighting for their rights. I feel sorry for your parents.
P.S. In this video you look like that chick from the movie Monster.
Find me a real feminist who agrees with that statement!!! Her and I will have a great convo!
And GOD FORBID there be SKIN! Skin is so dirty and titillating! OH NO!! Let me hurry up and cover every inch of skin. Should I cover my eyes too? Are those too erotic as well? Please let me know!!
And you're right, my monogamy with my husband and mature discussion of sexuality that has helped tens of thousands if not millions of people makes me such a dirty little whore/slut.
I understand what you mean when you say that feminism denotes equality. I do think that when you view the word objectively, in an ideal society where everyone is equal, just the moniker "Feminist" doesn't even sound like it has equality as a goal. The title would have to change once the pendulum crosses center. It's like an "Islamist" calling for religious equality. It just doesn't sound sincere.
Only islamic _extremists_ aren't for religious equality which is a very small percentage with an unfortunately very extreme method of getting the attention of the world via the blood of innocent people.
I don't understand why pay to her, if she insist!?
Why most people think that Paying is taking Responsibility!?
Why can't we pay directly to our Kid's. Like me example: I spent $30,000 in child custody fighting Feminazi courts just so they would allow me to take responsibility, I somehow got 50/50 joint custody and I pay 0 in child support.
I pay Directly to my Daughter when she is with me, and all 50% of other costs such as Education, Dental, etc etc.
I give you a link in the description for resources to better your genders rights. I make videos pro-men ALL the time. I fight for your rights to a variety of BC options. I write to congress and senate and pharmaceutical companies. What more can you possibly ask from me?
!!!!!!!Are you doing as much for women??!!!!!!!!!!
And I didn't ask for/push for all the views. You guys created them (not that I'm not thankful).
I see that, and I appreciate it. The point that I am trying to make is that half-hearted attempts to gain equal rights with women will get men precisely that in return...the APPEARANCE of equality, not the substance.
I'm all for male BC, for instance, but there is a legitimate fear that the appearance of effective BC for men would eliminate the possibility of men gaining the right to reproductive self determination that women have enjoyed since Roe v Wade.
Women being the ones who have to carry the baby and have all of the side effects could be called an inequality.
I'm not complaining. I'm trying to help. I'm trying to give guys a heads up and resources and you're being extremely negative. Negativity I do NOT need right now.
Can't help but notice you never address the fact that women have reproductive choice, but men don't, other than to acknowledge the existence of said inequality.
I would have figured that as an equalist, you would take umbrage at that more than any aspect of this, and would advise men to lobby for change in this area, rather than perpetuating the status quo, and saying essentially "hey, I feel for you...hope you don't screw up".
Hey, I'm not "bashing" you at all. I understand the impetus behind making this video, and it's commendable. You certainly have a high enough view count to ask me "who the fuck are you"?
I'm simply pointing out that while you acknowledge the unfairness in existence, what you advise is essentially accepting our lower status in society and coping the best we can. An attitude which can only perpetuate the status quo, and is therefore harmful to men.
I think I misjudged you, but I'm still a fierce promoter of abstinence, not for religious reasons, not for health reasons, not for moral reasons, but for artistic reasons. Abstinence is an art.
girl.. you'r not a feminist. feminists are people who want to "raise the value" of women in society. Not making them equal to men. By doing this, they increase the gap instead of narrowing it.
The way to reach equality is by bringing men and women together, not seperating them even more.
so if you really stand for equality, distance yourself from feminism.
This just shows how much each of us has a different definition for feminism and other humanistic standpoints. Technically there are over a dozen accepted definitions of feminism in psychology... I embrace a 'totally different but equal' sort of viewpoint.
feminism has a bad connotation (esp in the u.s.) because of silly lawsuits and stereotypes that, while they do define what commercial feminism is, do NOT define what true feminism is meant to be, there's just no other word for it.
2 of my best friends have been trapped by terrible women because they stopped taking their birth control and didn't tell them. They were in long-term relationships, yet it was on purpose. I had to make sure my last girlfriend took hers every day. Anal is the answer.
Sometimes I just thank God that I was born so unattractive and without a personality so I have never had to worry about kids or child support. No sex = no kids. No kids = no child support. Who would have thought being unattractive has such great benefits. Feel sorry for you beautiful people.
First off, tell your hubby that he is a lucky man to have such a beauiful wife. Lol. I think that you have touched on a very good topic here. I think that male birth control would be a better,safer,and just over all more effective. The only thing that scares me, is the thing about your sperm not working again. I would be happy as hell to try it once they get it working correctly. I hate to wear condoms, but i can barely take care of myself, more less a child.
I've had some experience when an ex of mine had the whole "uhhh, btw, I'm pregnant", just after we seperated.
She luckily didn't carry it through, but it made me realize exactly how I feel about having children, personally, so I did the most responsible thing I felt I could do, I had a vasectomy. You're so right, you can't always trust your partner to be vigilant and careful.
However, anytime I'm with someone I don't know well, I still make sure to reduce the STD risk by wrapping up.
I actually worry about this type of thing a lot. My girlfriend is in another state at the moment but she's coming to visit me soon and she assured me that she's on some super expensive birth control that's 100% effective so I don't need a condom or anything. And of course I can't ask her about it because then oh I don't trust her and I deff can't bring up the whole STD thing because then I'm calling her a slut. It's just ridiculous.
That's when you tell her it's not about her, it's about your habits and you make it a habit to always use condoms. Always.
And I don't care if she's a billionaire, there are no 100% effective ways except total abstinence, to avoid pregnancy. Some are like 99.7% effective... which is really effective. But her lack of realization that that doesn't mean 'foul-proof', makes me concerned about the whole thing.
agree'd. Ive actually had a woman request I not wear a condom once. No thanks. Condoms help protect from more than just pregnancy! Whole thing Seemed kinda sketchy. Actually ended up not even going home with her b/c of it.
That's great! Shows some major maturity on your part. Funny video about that sort of thing is titled 'Female Player' (I think) by the channel SexReally.
I just wonder is this discussion applicable in asian culture... because normally we don't even do the premarital sex...
the good side is maybe the outside marial birth is less than in US... but the again maybe the bad side is that we don't enjoy sex as much as people in US... :-)
While I'm sure you know much better than myself if you are a part of the asian culture, studies I've read of Japanese sexuality shows plenty of sex prior to and outside of marriage. Are you referring to a specific asian culture? If so, I'd love to know which one! I like to learn about cultures, especially in conjunction with sexuality.
ive never done anything ever with a girl. sometimes i wish i had that type of love, but not just cus of sexual desire. ive been single and alone, dont know what to do about it. and knowing that if i ever did have sex, if the condom broke, id be screwed. so either im terribly alone or paying child support, and im not ready for kids. i just wish there was something, someone that can ease my stress of worry... :"(
It hurts me (for men) to see women calling themselves feminists. The legal and society's wrongdoings against fathers that you speak of were and are created by feminist leaders!
u tell us younger veiwers not 2 watch ur sex vids and i respact that ut maybe u can make a video on like puberty, or weight loss, popularity something that were going through today as younger veiwers
It's a series I've been trying to put together for a long time. I'm not sure I'm the right person for it though because everytime I try to make a video in that series, I find myself without much to say.... without sounding like a parent... without simply saying, 'It really does turn out okay.' I remember how hard it was for me as a teen and I just don't know what anyone could have said to make it any easier...
i think this points to a larger point of sexual education in schools.
energeez 7 months ago
This girl is the type of feminist that i have respect for. She is fair and beautiful person.........majority of men hating feminist are bunch of uglies and fat asses - when they couldn't get men they start hating men. It's so true their is no dignity in fatherhood it's almost useless for men to get marry and have kids......it's every important to be a life giver - their no bigger achievement than that --- but what's the use if you don't have same rights as the woman who had the kid with you?
guleed13 1 year ago
awesome video I believe it takes two people to make the bed both parents should be responsible. Your starting to hear more and more how the 50/50 law of support is comin around medical bills clothes food school. Its about time!
rivercityboy84 1 year ago
Well who really cares about that I mean if a girl wants to get an abortion let her I mean like if men got to say yes or no have you ever thought of what pain the women have to go through to have a child and what you have to do nothing honestly you are lucky now as it is
flashcat44 1 year ago
Being part of the largest Jewish Hasidic community worldwide,our children learn about how children are born &why.The natural desire for love is discussed & develops not at age 14 because society says you are nerdy or weird if you substain.Respect for the woman is taught from age zero & hopefully backed up by living example.Most marriages are women of 18,19 & men 23.Since we don't watch TV exploitation of women as sex objects is less,we're more assured of building a lifelong loving relationship.
RasMajnouni 1 year ago
U kicesie is what we call a REAL WOMAN, by the way you talk, the way u explain i can tell u that ur a real woman that never lies, who doesnt cheat and really appreciate's a man without being manipulative, women like u are very rare. If u would live nearby, i would prupose you, cuzz i can barely find a woman like u in the country where i live.
xRedaz 1 year ago
Feminism is very convoluted and crazy that I wouldn't consider you a feminist. I think its time for an ism to come up in this equal rights fight that combines the forces of men and women against separatist like feminists and misogynists. Women fight marriage because its "slavery" men fight marriage because its financial ruin. Society is breaking down because having a family is such a risk now.
primerguevara 1 year ago
Verrimgard (I probabley spelled that wrong )
Is 100 percent right there is no way a man should be forced to make monthley payments for 18 years of who nows how much of his money when he didn't want the baby we need more eqaulity in the world but I'll settle for Canada and mabey the u s
tvaneijk666 1 year ago
I have never finished inside a woman without a condom. I just don't want to take the chance... I won't ever take that chance until I find someone I want to have children with. I agree with you wholeheartedly
thewickedtim 1 year ago 6
@thewickedtim Just remember the failure rate of using ONLY the pull-out method to prevent pregnancy is really high. So always make sure she's on birth control too!
kicesie 1 year ago 3
@kicesie Have you done research on birth control from many sources?
Remember its called "conflict of interest" if the drug company's so its a good thing!
Never ignore many professionals who have other real opinions just because they don't appear on the fancy media stations, they are by far not the end all and be all of truth, in fact they BS more then lawyers.
billybonds007 1 year ago
When it comes to reproduction, it's a woman's world. Women don't have to search for sex; males come to her, and she has the final say about the act itself. Men have the choice between abstaining, using condoms or getting a vasectomy. Men have no say in abortion - pro or con. If logic had anything to do with it, men wouldn't bother with women, but in a contest between logic and programming, logic comes in a distant second. In my view, you're not a feminist, you're an equalitarian. I made that up.
TheRobbie0003 1 year ago 6
@TheRobbie0003 Well I think one of the reasons I still identify strongly as a feminist is due to the issue/epidemic of rape.
But I do believe in equality. As much as we can possibly have! And I stand up for men just as much as I stand up for women on 99% of the issues out there (rape being one where I stand up for women strongly {I understand men are raped too}).
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie HI, I understand what you are saying, and i appreciate it.
edmond607 1 year ago
Women being legally authorized to murder the pre-born baby daughters and pre-born baby sons of men is the ultimate form of sexism against men.
That has to change:
every abortion needs to legally require the father of the baby's signature, as well as the mother of the baby's signature.
That would stop a lot of abortions.
And it would guarantee in law each man's equal right to protect the lives of their daughters and sons from conception forward.
NorthStar20121 1 year ago
@NorthStar20121 I will support that sort of law 100% just AS SOON AS science figure out a way to take the fetus (or whatever it is at that point) and implant into said man/father/potential-father. Until the man can carry the child in HIS body, you have zero say.
Don't want a baby formed with your semen and then aborted? Use a fucking condom, get snipped, make sure she's on a birth control until you're ready to parent together, ETC.
ZERO excuses!!!
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
The utilization of the female body, is obviously relevent to determinism, but overrated by the prejudicial logic of the garden variety feminist. There's an analogous aspect that they willfully overlook no matter how painstakingly it's explained to them.
The money that he's obligated to for 18 years, comes out of HIS body, applied to work. The fact that you can even grasp the flaw in their thinking, let alone empathize with it, marks you a minority among yoru peers.
Hzqi 1 year ago
@NorthStar20121
Either that, or women, and women alone should be responsible for raising the child. I don't care which way the pendulum swings, as long as its fair. Either men have a say in the abortion, or they don't, but they don't need to worry about the baby either if they don't want.
Maybe there could be a thing where the father could sing a paper saying he wanted the child aborted, and if the mother refuses, the kid's her responsibility. Seems fair, or at least more fair.
Verrimgard 1 year ago
@Verrimgard I've been thinking about this issue long and hard (were you the one who challenged me to consider that a few weeks ago? if so I've been thinking hard about it). And I THINK I do believe that if a potential father, during the FIRST trimester signs a legal document & she is made aware of it, then he should be able to walk away from it just as she'd be allowed to do through abortion or adoption if she so chooses.
(I reserve the right to change my mind though, I'm not done thinking) ;-)
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
Basically, if I interpret you correctly, you're saying that both party's should have the right to say "no". And, if you're sincere about wanting both sexes to have that right equally, then I agree with you 100%.
Sorry for the doubting and all that. I get a bit tense when talking to feminists. You seem a lot more reasonable - and less hostile - than most of the one's I've talked to in the past though. :)
Verrimgard 1 year ago
@Verrimgard That's absolutely not fair, regarding your suggestion that men sign a paper saying that he wanted the child aborted, having sex when both people agree to do it, is fair, they know the risks and they know the possible out comes, its called responsibility and its not fair for the guy to just sign a paper so he can be responsible free, that's a cope out, he doesn't wanna have a baby? there are medical ways to prevent that, hes got choices, more then they had 100 years ago.
billybonds007 1 year ago
birth control pills are safe, ive been together with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and we used condom like..5 times if not less. It is safe, theres no point taking birth control pills if you use condom. Dont tell me we had been lucky for almost two years!
Theres very little chance for getting pragnent if a girl takes pills, there is, but very little. Condom is the same, its effective but can get torn, theres a small chance for that too, but it can happen, So no point using both.
mindennevfoglalt 1 year ago
@mindennevfoglalt About 3 out of 100 women will get pregnant every year from taking her birth control PERFECTLY. So if you're okay with a 3% risk of pregnancy, you're right, just hormonal bc is fine. If that's too big of a risk for any of you guys out there, then add condoms to the mix. Then I believe it's less than 1 in 1,000 if not 10,000.
kicesie 1 year ago
Also condoms protect from STDs while the pill and an inability to have children does not.
nightauphe 1 year ago
that's true assume some women will lie or forget..don't take chances...use condoms the slush the used condom down the toilet after every time!!!.men's pill should be available I believe they are blocking it. How are they going to have ppl make babies otherwise??
seanth014 1 year ago
@seanth014 Condoms shouldn't be flushed, you could really screw up your toilet... just FYI... :-)
But yeah, they are finally doing human trials in the UK on a male birth control. So many men I've talked to bitch about possible side effects. I'm like, 'WHAT? You think women don't have to deal with that shit???' Sheesh! I think it's totally worth the peace of mind, but whatever! That's their own stupidity.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie Now you have it, we are at the primitves..... and the problems come and come.. ask yourself, who made these problems? As i see there aren't any real way to get out of this never ending bucket, but the most primitive yet the best advice what anybody can give is to use condoms.You got the point, but, in life, girls get help and guys always need to be stronger, equality in this system is not possible. I have to do twice as work because i'm a man, and the law throw me out on the window.
anyadat123123 1 year ago
@kicesie and i wanted to write somehow but it's really hard, that being a man especially a white man who born up in a good family is really hard these days, and the society only promoting sex, interracial sex, but people don't really understand even i'm a man, i have hormones, i have sexual needs but those things aren't love, so i think people aren't educated enough to even think about birth control. It's not like a girl wanna find the prince anymore, but rather the opposite.
anyadat123123 1 year ago
@kicesie There is a big problem, on our planet, there are more women then men. Since we fought in wars several time and people died. Male birth control is a good idea but, if you cause a man to be impotent, you are destroying the humanity of the planet. Promoting sex alone is not the only thing to do, girls simply try to act like a guy cheats, but the stereotype of a male life makes us do job, get money aid the girl, is really much stuff to do...
anyadat123123 1 year ago
Thanks so much for the vid. I like ones where you discuss issues better than all the rest. Too bad for no 2nd vid. Well you could look past the hate mail (look at all the pos teens that comment on any other vid.) but I understand keep being awesome sorry if I sent this twice
AmericanPiro 1 year ago
i sooooo agree. men need to take more responsibility
midnightmistress8675 1 year ago
Men should have more rights. I'm a sad story of such in that department. I'm 26 been married twice and in the two marriages lost 3 babies to abortion where I had no rights in the matter. We really should develop some statute giving men that want to be fathers; and even single fathers if they have to; the right. The pain I carry with me will never go away.
Flemingjustin5 1 year ago
@Flemingjustin5 And when we have the technology to implant that fetus into another woman if the woman carrying it doesn't want it, then I feel you should have the right to have that done. Until it's requiring her body to carry, I'm pretty firm on my beliefs regarding a woman's right to control her body and medical/psychological choices.
And dude, not to be insensitive, but use condoms. It shouldn't take 3 times to learn. Also know the women enough to know how they would handle that situation.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie hello, first time viewer, first of all let me say that I think that you are a very intellegent woman and I think that the whole rape thing is very tragic and the jack a** should be castrated. The whole condom thing I completely agree with. I went and got sterilized for just this reason, I do not want kids, nor do I want to bring a child into this world without the love it deserves. That being said I am adopted, I am very thankful to my adoptive parents for everything.
brandonkovach1 1 year ago
@kicesie I found out later in life my bilogical mother wanted nothing to do with me, and it my father wanted me-with whom I now have a relationship. So, what more rights do you feel your entitled to? It is not the men's fault in todays society that women can not be in combat for example. It is society in general, we as a nation can not handle the idea of our mothers, daughters, sisters being blown up. Is that a Sacrifice that you personally would make? I have been to Iraq and lost brothers.
brandonkovach1 1 year ago
Ok so we don't have any rights over human life WE created with women. Oh yeah that makes sense... I think Billy Connolly said it best when he was talking about the feminist movement "We want some of that! And some of fuckin that! And we want some of this! We want fuckin all of that! And some more of that!" I know not all feminists are like that but just because men HAD more rights doesn't mean women should have more rights now? I thought it was about equality not a sea saw of power.
loglog7 1 year ago 5
@loglog7 It should be about equality but life tends to happen is 'sea saw' sort of motions... the pendulum swings instead of stopping at middle ground. I'm not saying that's right, it's just what I've observed.
I made this video because I believe men need more rights, need to be aware of the rights they have so they can fight for them, etc.
I DO believe in equality. Equality doesn't have to mean being the same though, which way too many people think. Equal but different.
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie I never said you don't believe or think equality is right or wrong. I am just saying that the pendulum has swung from men to women and.... oh that's right it never swung back. It just seems very unfair that the father's, who, i might add, you cannot have children without, get no rights.
loglog7 1 year ago
I believe that if women are allowed to abort, men should be allowed to abort father hood.
DionLaurent1 1 year ago
It's very unexplainable that in such a male-dominated political world, that we can't manage to balance this matter. However I do believe that when the government organizes there priorities this subject sure as hell dosent top the list. There are other areas where the equality is backwards and men are favored. i.e. Professions, politics, and others. Correct me if I am wrong but in large companies CEO's are generaly men. Again not a stat so I may be wrong here
94Nickh 1 year ago
Me being in the military i have met plenty of women who has tried to trap me and plenty of other men as well.... also with that being said i dont believe a women when she said that im on the pill, shot, or any other kind of birth control I'm sorry to sound rude but its the truth with some women there are some out there like that esp when a kid is involve unless the lady is a completely unstable
thesavmarines912 1 year ago
A YouTuber and a girl for that matter actually caring about men!?
There's still hope for us I guess...
colmonhs 1 year ago
Men < RoadKill
Guys, take a fat horrid look at the male-slaughter house called 'Divorce Court'
You got less rights than roadkill dudes, you're owned the day you're born.
The middle-aged, privileged, white, wimmin's club calls it testosterone poisoning and wimmin love to hate you for it.
Save a feminist - hug a boy
LookingGlassStudio 1 year ago
@FaustSnake And throw in the sense of entitlement everyone seems to have these days.... ugh!
kicesie 1 year ago
I appreciate that you strive for equality and not superiority with men. In my experience, feminism is synonymous with hatred of dominance over men. I also applaud you for calling men out to be responsible for our actions. This means a lot to see someone who is stereotyped as 'liberal,' which is very different from myself, say a lot of things that I agree with. Please keep it up. :-)
djking2d 1 year ago
What about vasectomy?
simba1803 1 year ago
I simply Love Women.
Brahmanfire 1 year ago
Communication, No matter what the situation, Both parties are responsible for their actions.I agree with you K Simple precautions can be made to minimize the chances.
sylwesterp 1 year ago
Yeah this is a problem, but the MOST serious form of anti-male sexism, in my opinion, is one that we see on sitcoms, movies and ads every day (stupid, incompetent husbands vs strong, almost bullying wives; hitting a man in the face or groin is still considered hilarious) since, unlike child custody cases, one gender's physiology plays absolutely no role in it. It just raises a new generation of complex-ridden young men.
Brikjard 1 year ago 2
its sad but marriages in America are owned by woman....unless the wife is the one bringing home the becan
p.s. kicesie we need more young woman like you.
Sway0008 1 year ago
My dad raised my sisters and I alone since I was 6 years old(I'm the oldest)
J0Mun 1 year ago
You're not a feminist... you're humanitarian :p
J1NX1337 1 year ago
As an *ahem* inexperienced male, the decreased sensitivity with condoms is ok with me. 'Cause heck, I'd like it to last more than a minute.
The only problem I see with male birth control is that there would probably be dozens of questionable side-effects, and men would be pressured and expected to take them regardless of those side-effects.
swagar 1 year ago
@swagar And you don't think women are pressured to take birth control despite crappy side effects now??
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie They are. I guess it'd be a negative form of equality. Both would be pressured.
swagar 1 year ago
@swagar It would actually be about actually finally sharing responsibility for preventing a pregnancy neither of you are ready for.
kicesie 1 year ago
How sad that an individual who happens to be a feminist and a girl must point to men that Western society is favoring women over men. This is how far men in Western countries have been brainwashed and beaten down by political correctness and self-criticism.
We as men are very critical when it comes to how men treat women but we tend to accept it when women treat men like shit.. Sadly(unlike the girl in this video) most women love this kind of special treatment.. WE as MEN have to stop this!
willemdawillem 1 year ago
@willemdawillem I really hope men do stand up for themselves and take back certain rights. Reestablish the fact that fathers really ARE important (I HATE how the support of single moms has resulted in this idea that fathers aren't necessary).
I hope it can be done w/o hate or fighting, but a joint effort/realization.
If women REALLY want to do it on their own & feel they don't need you, then they need to quit asking for child support or expecting for men to pay for dates or...................
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie
I think men are easily capable of standing up for themselves without bringing women down. I think we have all learnt from the feminist era (70's/80's); blaming, ridiculing or fighting "the other sex" is not a fair and humane way of discussing gender differences.
Sad part is, if men don't stand up for themselves soon, we will probably do a lot of psychological damages to boys growing up. Boys need space to be themselves, not wannabe girls with girl-feelings as society wants them to be
willemdawillem 1 year ago
@willemdawillem I agree most if not all woman love this special treatment. thats why im never getting married. i want kids but if it means i have to be owned by a woman by law....... id rather meet my maker.
Sway0008 1 year ago
Thats why im never getting married. Men never get anything out of it.
eulluisgtr34 1 year ago
@eulluisgtr34 Okay, I couldn't disagree more. Research shows they live longer and report greater happiness.
kicesie 1 year ago
equal rights of men and wimyn - like practised in the Family Court
shazam20007 1 year ago
thanks for the video! :P but its true we men do trust weman a lot! :P with this stuff..but i always ask my girlfriend if she took the pill propperly :P...
weeman911 1 year ago
@weeman911 That's really good to check in and confirm. Probably helps her remember too! :-)
kicesie 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this video. You and I understand that there is a problem. Sadly most men (and women) think that no rights for men is the way to go. Please be patient. All the big changes in society are not overnight changes. I find it very encouraging to find a woman who gets its, and that has compassion for us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Hulkmania316 1 year ago
@Hulkmania316 Thanks. Your comment means a lot to me!
kicesie 1 year ago
Kicesie, thank you for this video. I can't express myself about how gratefull I am for your words. Thank you for your concern, thank you for your advice. Total Thank you. I am going to watch more of your videos. You give me hope. There are some people who don't get it. But you do and modesty aside I do to. I am so glad to have found you.
Hulkmania316 1 year ago
Great video.
Thanks Kicesie.
12dollarsand78cents 1 year ago
oh girl ! you're amazing ! (I am a man)
dcrespe 1 year ago
hello. i just wanted to take the time to tell you that you are such a wonderful person and you give great advice :) i am a 17 year old girl and i just like to see most peoples opinions on each topic you talk about. i really love your advice . screw all those guys who disagree or even hatin on you for tryin to help them. your a great person and thats all that matters! i would love to read a book oby you if someday you publidh one or if you do already?
take care! & thanls again! =]
SJBLOOD408 1 year ago
I havent read all the comments, but I've been is several situations where women say, "you don't have to wear a condom" and I'm like, "yes I DO." Not trying to start a flame war but being a man with a good job, and a good head on my shoulders you have to watch out for opportunists. Lots of women see babies as a cash cow and as you've pointed out the laws favor that behavior.
So, to all, just wear the freaking condom, or your a sucker. If not, good luck.
swineninety9 1 year ago
God Dammit. Feminism is wrong. The very term should never have been thought up. Kicesie, you are right to seek gender equality, on both sides, which is what feminism should have been named. The idea that someone does not want gender equality is ridiculous, and only applies to the most evil, derogative, people/countries. Every self-respecting person wants gender-equality. Feminism is no longer about that. They fight for things that are so derogatory towards men, it makes me angry. No lttrs left
HellMaster548 1 year ago
It does NOT matter is the guy is waring a condom or not, or if the woman is on the pill or not. They are both equally responsible. In this video you explain that the guy should know if she takes them regularly or not, like she's not responsible? In another video you put all the responsibility on the guy as well. That video I did not like at all. It made me sad actually.
lordabomity 1 year ago
Trust me, you men have definitely convinced me not to try and help you guys out at all anymore! I'm done with making any videos to give you a heads up on your rights or things you need to be aware of.
kicesie 1 year ago
Well you don't have to sound like a man hater just because.. well that is how I felt about it anyway. You seem to have a pretty good idea of what is right and wrong when it comes to equal rights which is good. But some of the things you said did actually make me sad.
lordabomity 1 year ago
@kicesie I understand what you are talking about in this video. You are just looking out for us. You definitely know what your talking about.
bhogenson2008 1 year ago
@kicesie Really? I appreciated this video and your points. I think you might consider that only a small % of those who watch videos actually comment, and those who do comment here on YouTube in general don't tend to be the most intelligent or reasonable. Please don't be too despirited about these negetive comments, you may have done more good than you realize.
ironbuttermilk 1 year ago
@kicesie I agree with Ironbuttermilk, I think this was a very helpful video and certainly appreciate your dedication to gender equality. Please don't stop promoting awareness. I was just reading these comments to find out where the other videos in the "series" were. Plus...from the way abomity writes I'm really not sure what point he was even trying to make
thegreystorm 1 year ago
I'm 18, and personaly I find your advice honestly helpful. I know first hand just the kind of treatment men get in the court room because my dad has been through two divorces (in my life time). Not only displaying the sexist court system of snohomish county, WA but an over all intolerance for even good fathers.
adpylons 1 year ago
@kicesie Thank you for your video. As a man I feel so good to find female support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Now, many people don't see this issue as a problem. But thourgh concience awareness we are going to make it. Gracias desde Ecuador. Thank you from Ecuador.
Hulkmania316 1 year ago
Good video, I'm a guy and I see men being badly treated in many ways.
But that's not what I wanted to say hehe..
Yes, a mans rights when it comes to having the child or not is VERY limited, which I as a man don't really care about. It's the womans body and if she does not want to have the baby, them it's HER choice and hers alone. But if she does and he doesn't there have to be some legal understanding.
lordabomity 1 year ago
The woman should be required to approach the man before birth. If the man then says they dont want access etc, then there is not no support then required from them, but they lose ALL access forever. This balances out the fact a woman can get an abortion, even if the man wants the child.
If the woman doeasnt approach the man, then she cant get support then either. If the man wants the child and signs, he is legally attached for the rest of the childs life.
wyterabitt 1 year ago
The law should be changed. As the woman can decide to not have the child even if the man wants it. There should be a system for men who dont want the child.
There should be a legal requirement to approach the man before birth, and if the man signs to say he doesnt want it(or they dont tell them) then she can NEVER get any support, and can then decide to have anabortion. This would also permanently remove the mans right to access. Otherwise they can say they want access and go ahead from there.
wyterabitt 1 year ago
I enjoy most of the videos you do.I was wondering if you went to school for law or sex ed and if so where. I have heard you say that you are married. If that is really true why do you where what appears to be an engagement ring in some videos and no ring in others. Wedding bands usually don't have a single set diamond like the one you have on here. What you say for the most part seems to make scene but my real question is are you a trained professional and are yo really married.
3056616182 1 year ago
What really sucks is that some of the time the man is a wonderful father, and the women is a bad mother. The court system (most of the time) keeps the child with the mother. Also, In a case that i know of, the father was taking care of the child for a long time yet he still had to pay child support to the mother. I'm not into polotics but that needs to be changed. Keep getting the word out, you're awesome!! Whens part two?
bearwolves 1 year ago
I'd love to make a part two and continue discussing this, but I actually got more HATE from men than agreement. I guess they don't care that I want to fight for their rights. I want men to be aware, for everyone to have equal rights. I want courts to look past gender and decide who REALLY is the fit parent.
I want fathers to have more say in what happens once their child is born.
I hate the horror stories of babies being adopted out without the father's signature. It hurt my heart. It's wrong
kicesie 1 year ago
curious did u write your own wedding vows or did u take the tradional vows with the "love honer charish and obey " or a variation of the tradional vows?
jsweet83 1 year ago
We wrote our own vows... and they were beautiful. I'll post them on my facebook one of these days!
kicesie 1 year ago
was it Gloria Steinem?
composerdoh 1 year ago
mhm
kicesie 1 year ago
@kicesie sorry, idk what that means. Also, I tried to leave a comment yesterday that appears to have gotten lost- I've never heard of "male contraceptives" b4 outside of condoms or getting the "V"- do u have any more info on how we might pressure pharm comp.s 2 keep working on this, or on when they might be available?
composerdoh 1 year ago
mhm, means yes....
And they are saying prescription drugs for men to prevent pregnancy could be less than one year out!! They are getting VERY close to FDA approval with some of them... and men will have just as many options... pills, shots, patches, implants, etc etc...
kicesie 1 year ago
Are you sure it wasn't Gloria Allred? I get those two mixed up all the time. Allred's a guest on a lot of these pop talk shows.
beejusbeejus 1 year ago
lol, yes, Allred! :-)
kicesie 1 year ago
Equal rights for men.
LordInksworth 2 years ago
I agree with equal rights for men and women. But think about this, fairly often, on comedy TV shows, the man will be kicked or hit in the nuts, and it will be funny. Imagine if a man on TV punched a woman in the breasts, not so funny. So would you agree that there is a slight anti-male trend in the media?
Do you believe that men should have equal parenting rights as women should have equal employment opertunity?
By the way. You are really attractive, just had to mention that!
MatthewDavidParr 2 years ago
I think I made it really clear that I believe men should have equal parenting rights as long as they are fit parents (same for women)
kicesie 2 years ago
we men should have the same equal right to dismiss cicrumsision as ypou females do
IbnNero 2 years ago
I'm not for circumcision either.
kicesie 2 years ago
good answer! now I love your inside too
IbnNero 2 years ago
*giggles*
kicesie 2 years ago
Way to go! BC, we the men need - you! ;-)
UncleZoran 2 years ago
she is right guys we have very little rights as parents I have no kids of my own but I have watched 2 friends have kids and fight for custody one got his son from his junky ex after 3 years of fighting the other can only she his daughter on weenends when he works full time and his ex doesnt work and he pays an extreme amount of child support.
76jans 2 years ago
I hate when doctors tell women that they can not have children. I was told this about 3 years ago and now my husband and I have a wonderful 15 month old boy. Now it took forever for us to have him, but at any means the doctors were still incorrect. That being said, no matter if you are there when the woman is told she can't you should still use protection because it can happen. Men have so few rights when it comes to their children unless they are married and I hope this changes soon.
NDMomma1 2 years ago
you know what I think is so stupid, people can just go out and get someone pregnant and both are unfit to be parents but there are couples that can't have children so they want to adopt but it takes forever like a few years...yeah just something i ponder sometimes
ErikaFierce 2 years ago
awesome
footstool4u 2 years ago
I always just assumed everyone always tried to use a sheild lol.
Hobomedic 2 years ago
Very good quality mentality !
ericmotanu 2 years ago
I am very surprised, that sambody in your Age speeking so free about this topics.
RESPECT!
TheHighVoices 2 years ago 2
Thank you! That means a lot!
kicesie 2 years ago
hear hear!
pritthish 2 years ago
Thanks for putting this up and being concerned with men's issues. It good to you hear you donated to a men's rights organization. They're good causes that are unfortunately quite underfunded.
menareangrynow 2 years ago
I think that its very true that a man is responsible for having a child with a woman and as a guy myself I have the same beleif that guys have to take responsibility for getting a girl pregnant.
Also, guys use a condom unless you really want to be a dad.
Chickmagnet347 2 years ago
I'm a guy and I just recently started watching your videos and I think they are very helpful. Personally I would go back to my high school and recommend some of them for health class.
I do also agree on the men's birth control issue, a little more time and money should be put in for it so that guys in some situations would could forget to use a condom (mostly drunken stupors) could still have sex without reprecussions.
Thanks Kicesie
koolwipp 2 years ago
Remember that with the HIGH number of STDs out there (25% of women currently have at least one STD recent studies show), condoms are still a HUGE must, especially for one night stands and those drunken choices.
It's surprising to me that many people think a pregnancy to be worse than contracting an STD. Interesting way of thinking.... maybe I should make a video on that asking people about their feelings on it and why they think&feel the way they do....
kicesie 2 years ago
This is NOT a debate on feminism. I was trying to give men a heads up and a reminder.... NO debating on feminism or it's definition(s) will be approved. And I'll likely quit looking out for you men since all I get is your BS on this topic these days.
kicesie 2 years ago
I hope you make more videos on the topic, instead of dropping the topic. :)
menareangrynow 2 years ago
As a feminist you shouldn't be acting and looking like a total slut. That's how you are getting the attention of the world - just showing some skin, and it only makes women look easy and pathetic, having someone like you fighting for their rights. I feel sorry for your parents.
P.S. In this video you look like that chick from the movie Monster.
Silverlance988 2 years ago
Find me a real feminist who agrees with that statement!!! Her and I will have a great convo!
And GOD FORBID there be SKIN! Skin is so dirty and titillating! OH NO!! Let me hurry up and cover every inch of skin. Should I cover my eyes too? Are those too erotic as well? Please let me know!!
And you're right, my monogamy with my husband and mature discussion of sexuality that has helped tens of thousands if not millions of people makes me such a dirty little whore/slut.
Idiot!
kicesie 2 years ago
I love you Kicesie !
liuzhongjun 2 years ago 2
I understand what you mean when you say that feminism denotes equality. I do think that when you view the word objectively, in an ideal society where everyone is equal, just the moniker "Feminist" doesn't even sound like it has equality as a goal. The title would have to change once the pendulum crosses center. It's like an "Islamist" calling for religious equality. It just doesn't sound sincere.
lenkel 2 years ago
Only islamic _extremists_ aren't for religious equality which is a very small percentage with an unfortunately very extreme method of getting the attention of the world via the blood of innocent people.
kicesie 2 years ago
I think Gloria Steinem is the Gloria you mention in this video.
Felidaise 2 years ago
I don't understand why pay to her, if she insist!?
Why most people think that Paying is taking Responsibility!?
Why can't we pay directly to our Kid's. Like me example: I spent $30,000 in child custody fighting Feminazi courts just so they would allow me to take responsibility, I somehow got 50/50 joint custody and I pay 0 in child support.
I pay Directly to my Daughter when she is with me, and all 50% of other costs such as Education, Dental, etc etc.
thestreetdogg 2 years ago
I give you a link in the description for resources to better your genders rights. I make videos pro-men ALL the time. I fight for your rights to a variety of BC options. I write to congress and senate and pharmaceutical companies. What more can you possibly ask from me?
!!!!!!!Are you doing as much for women??!!!!!!!!!!
And I didn't ask for/push for all the views. You guys created them (not that I'm not thankful).
kicesie 2 years ago
I see that, and I appreciate it. The point that I am trying to make is that half-hearted attempts to gain equal rights with women will get men precisely that in return...the APPEARANCE of equality, not the substance.
I'm all for male BC, for instance, but there is a legitimate fear that the appearance of effective BC for men would eliminate the possibility of men gaining the right to reproductive self determination that women have enjoyed since Roe v Wade.
Which retains current inequality.
factory2590 2 years ago
Women being the ones who have to carry the baby and have all of the side effects could be called an inequality.
I'm not complaining. I'm trying to help. I'm trying to give guys a heads up and resources and you're being extremely negative. Negativity I do NOT need right now.
GOODBYE!
kicesie 2 years ago
And I even got to use my nifty block user button after an asshole comment from him. Whee! That always feels good.
kicesie 2 years ago
Can't help but notice you never address the fact that women have reproductive choice, but men don't, other than to acknowledge the existence of said inequality.
I would have figured that as an equalist, you would take umbrage at that more than any aspect of this, and would advise men to lobby for change in this area, rather than perpetuating the status quo, and saying essentially "hey, I feel for you...hope you don't screw up".
Sorry... if this is a feminist "helping"......
factory2590 2 years ago
I've made videos, posted surveys online to gauge men's attitudes toward having more BC options, and even once attempted to get a petition going.
Don't bash me without knowing what I've done.
I will be SO HAPPY when the male BC shot comes out. I follow the research on it every time new info is released!
kicesie 2 years ago
Hey, I'm not "bashing" you at all. I understand the impetus behind making this video, and it's commendable. You certainly have a high enough view count to ask me "who the fuck are you"?
I'm simply pointing out that while you acknowledge the unfairness in existence, what you advise is essentially accepting our lower status in society and coping the best we can. An attitude which can only perpetuate the status quo, and is therefore harmful to men.
factory2590 2 years ago
And for the record that all I have to say. This conversation is over.
kicesie 2 years ago
abstinence is clever but not to the level of meeting someone you love but not having sex with them beacuse of religion issues such as marriage.
Wassitshuffleerwa 2 years ago
When you have a child your going to pay for it from day one until 18 years afterwards.
thebeerbaron666 2 years ago
I think I misjudged you, but I'm still a fierce promoter of abstinence, not for religious reasons, not for health reasons, not for moral reasons, but for artistic reasons. Abstinence is an art.
theboombody 2 years ago
girl.. you'r not a feminist. feminists are people who want to "raise the value" of women in society. Not making them equal to men. By doing this, they increase the gap instead of narrowing it.
The way to reach equality is by bringing men and women together, not seperating them even more.
so if you really stand for equality, distance yourself from feminism.
liquidminds 2 years ago
This just shows how much each of us has a different definition for feminism and other humanistic standpoints. Technically there are over a dozen accepted definitions of feminism in psychology... I embrace a 'totally different but equal' sort of viewpoint.
kicesie 2 years ago
feminism has a bad connotation (esp in the u.s.) because of silly lawsuits and stereotypes that, while they do define what commercial feminism is, do NOT define what true feminism is meant to be, there's just no other word for it.
Persephone121 2 years ago
2 of my best friends have been trapped by terrible women because they stopped taking their birth control and didn't tell them. They were in long-term relationships, yet it was on purpose. I had to make sure my last girlfriend took hers every day. Anal is the answer.
heffash 2 years ago 2
Sometimes I just thank God that I was born so unattractive and without a personality so I have never had to worry about kids or child support. No sex = no kids. No kids = no child support. Who would have thought being unattractive has such great benefits. Feel sorry for you beautiful people.
Bisquack 2 years ago
@Bisquack
That's why I got plastic surgery to look like an alligator. I recommend the heck out of abstinence. I feel as free as Diogenes the Cynic.
theboombody 2 years ago
your are i100 percent right
lancejr14 2 years ago
First off, tell your hubby that he is a lucky man to have such a beauiful wife. Lol. I think that you have touched on a very good topic here. I think that male birth control would be a better,safer,and just over all more effective. The only thing that scares me, is the thing about your sperm not working again. I would be happy as hell to try it once they get it working correctly. I hate to wear condoms, but i can barely take care of myself, more less a child.
brandon2009420 2 years ago
No, if you believe in equal rights, you would call yourself a humanist..
There is no chemical that will stop sperm from going out. Probably never will be.
Gplex 2 years ago
Actually they already have one working..... they just haven't established that once the medicine leaves the system, sperm production will begin again.
So umm, do some studying before you spout absolutes...
kicesie 2 years ago
I've had some experience when an ex of mine had the whole "uhhh, btw, I'm pregnant", just after we seperated.
She luckily didn't carry it through, but it made me realize exactly how I feel about having children, personally, so I did the most responsible thing I felt I could do, I had a vasectomy. You're so right, you can't always trust your partner to be vigilant and careful.
However, anytime I'm with someone I don't know well, I still make sure to reduce the STD risk by wrapping up.
taufactor 2 years ago
I actually worry about this type of thing a lot. My girlfriend is in another state at the moment but she's coming to visit me soon and she assured me that she's on some super expensive birth control that's 100% effective so I don't need a condom or anything. And of course I can't ask her about it because then oh I don't trust her and I deff can't bring up the whole STD thing because then I'm calling her a slut. It's just ridiculous.
imtherooster713 2 years ago
That's when you tell her it's not about her, it's about your habits and you make it a habit to always use condoms. Always.
And I don't care if she's a billionaire, there are no 100% effective ways except total abstinence, to avoid pregnancy. Some are like 99.7% effective... which is really effective. But her lack of realization that that doesn't mean 'foul-proof', makes me concerned about the whole thing.
Don't risk it!
kicesie 2 years ago
Well enjoy your new baby cause its on the way.
Bisquack 2 years ago
agree'd. Ive actually had a woman request I not wear a condom once. No thanks. Condoms help protect from more than just pregnancy! Whole thing Seemed kinda sketchy. Actually ended up not even going home with her b/c of it.
Polaris425 2 years ago
That's great! Shows some major maturity on your part. Funny video about that sort of thing is titled 'Female Player' (I think) by the channel SexReally.
kicesie 2 years ago
I just wonder is this discussion applicable in asian culture... because normally we don't even do the premarital sex...
the good side is maybe the outside marial birth is less than in US... but the again maybe the bad side is that we don't enjoy sex as much as people in US... :-)
willywahyudi 2 years ago
While I'm sure you know much better than myself if you are a part of the asian culture, studies I've read of Japanese sexuality shows plenty of sex prior to and outside of marriage. Are you referring to a specific asian culture? If so, I'd love to know which one! I like to learn about cultures, especially in conjunction with sexuality.
kicesie 2 years ago
ive never done anything ever with a girl. sometimes i wish i had that type of love, but not just cus of sexual desire. ive been single and alone, dont know what to do about it. and knowing that if i ever did have sex, if the condom broke, id be screwed. so either im terribly alone or paying child support, and im not ready for kids. i just wish there was something, someone that can ease my stress of worry... :"(
skits2588 2 years ago
Make sure she's using a birth control (IUD, shot, patch, pill, etc) AND use a condom... You're pretty darn safe that way!
kicesie 2 years ago
Oh, and first thing i turn 18 I'm getting a vasectomy.
Ozzy0sbourne 2 years ago
good luck finding a doctor who will give a teenager a vasectomy
Ironzealot7531 2 years ago 4
It's actually becoming more and more common. I've thought about freezing my sperm and getting a vasectomy.
imtherooster713 2 years ago 2
me too probably.
cellofellow1223 2 years ago
the reason men believe a woman is on birth control is because if you even ask "are you sure"
she'll go off like a little bitch because you don't trust her completely.
just like trying to get a woman to sign a prenuptial agreement.
Ozzy0sbourne 2 years ago 5
your so pretty :)
metaphysikz101 2 years ago 2
You were going good, Ki, right up until 4:04 when you suggested that it's not a woman's responsibility to get pregnant or remain as such.
It IS!
It is also her responsibility, as much as the man's, not to engage in UNPROTECTED SEX!
--The Final Justice
FinalJusticeMovement 2 years ago 4
It hurts me (for men) to see women calling themselves feminists. The legal and society's wrongdoings against fathers that you speak of were and are created by feminist leaders!
allkdathrt 2 years ago 2
i want to be your boyfriend :)
mattfca 2 years ago
I'm Married... =-)
kicesie 2 years ago
he's lucky, haha
mattfca 2 years ago 2
great video!
ronindrk 3 years ago 7
I'm so glad I'm gay. :D
ourvinylcollection 3 years ago
:-) Rock on
kicesie 3 years ago
u tell us younger veiwers not 2 watch ur sex vids and i respact that ut maybe u can make a video on like puberty, or weight loss, popularity something that were going through today as younger veiwers
livingstonkk06 3 years ago 7
It's a series I've been trying to put together for a long time. I'm not sure I'm the right person for it though because everytime I try to make a video in that series, I find myself without much to say.... without sounding like a parent... without simply saying, 'It really does turn out okay.' I remember how hard it was for me as a teen and I just don't know what anyone could have said to make it any easier...
kicesie 3 years ago