Cultural Difference - Touch

[TheOneNamedAdrian]

I am intermediate di bahasa Indo and have lived in the UK all my life, how long do you think it would take me to become fluent if I live in Indonesia?

[affluence8]

What part of the US are you in Now ?

[kewlkewl12]

i remember when i was in highschool, we had an australian coming to our class and he told me that he was surprised that indonesian boys or girls would hold hands when we walk together. i never thought it was weird coz i never thought about it before. arrrghh... that aussy dude destroyed my innocence. coz, afterwards i don't feel like holding hands with my friends. if i think about it now, its sad that such a thing could be considered wierd.

[8199maaf]

インドネシアの人たちはほとんど英語が通じませんのでもっと英語­教育にも力をそそぐべきですし、まずしくて学校にいけない児童も­多いので彼女みたいなエリートはもっとインドネシアのために尽く­すべきと私は思います。

[8199maaf]

私は英語は初級クラスなので、彼女の言っていることはハッキリと­はわかりませんが、挨拶をするたんびにチュッチュ、チュッチュす­るのは、あまり好きではないと言っているのではと思いますが、ま­あ、それが東洋人なのかもしれませんね。

[LooLoo98765]

Hey, I'm doing a project on Indonesia and part of this project asks about non-verbal communication. What does it mean if an Indonesian is silent with another individual? This is called silent langauge, but I'm wondering if this means anything in Indonesia?

[Tentenlaw]

In Indonesia, we shake hands but we do so limply. It isn't like America where someone crushes your hand.

Also, NEVER use your left hand to point, touch, or pass food. Unless your right hand is disabled, always use your right hand.

Nice job though. :)

[whatfhefck]

In Indo boys hold hands and girls hold hands, but not so much with each other. When I first saw an Indo man with his hand on another man's knee I thought they were gay,

later I learned they weren't and it is innocent behaviour. Our westernized sexualizing of such things is what ruins the comform for those here.

In Indo, kissing/grinding/inappropriate touching are not acceptable in public like they are in the west. In public you should be decent and respectful.

[FlowingGeisha]

You should go back there one day to visit the family etc.

[tosuyaa]

it is still the same along the country of indonesia... but its right, some people breach the ethics... it happens ;p

the bad news, indonesia now has a law about pornography and the things like that.. what a poor law ;p

[sheeshaw1]

thank you so much for all your videos! i lvoe indonesian and the culture and everything thank you so much

[sweeteedon]

9 years since you came to Jakarta?

If you don't mind me asking Where did you move from? My gf/fiancee is from Jakarta and she is dying do bring me there and especially Bali.

[kunpuzen]

Hi Destri,I dont know if you received my message or not.But when you start making videos again,could you make a video blog for me about the diffrences between Indonesian holidays and u.S. holidays?

[igeordie]

I've been visiting Java, Jakarta mostly, yearly for the last few years. My fiance at the time, wouldn't allow me to kiss her in public.

I suggested going into an ATM at CGK to give her a kiss goodbye, she was open to that.

Hand holding is fine, actually to her it's expected.

In Bali, for some reason, it's a totally different situation. PDA is ok.

Here in the States, I notice people kiss, rather peck, but not really hold hands as much.

Just my observation from San Francisco, CA

[ZYarosz]

I don't know if this is true but did hear something about handshaking is appropriate for both men and women (in Indonesia) but as opposed to western culture it is a more gentle squeeze rather than our american "i'm trying to rip yer hand off". also something about in java, Pressing the palms together and gently touching the fingers.

[igeordie]

My wife taught be that way of greeting. Also, if you feel specially touched by that person, touch your own chest, above the heart, with your right hand's fingers.

[dandorf]

Ooo I'm so sorry... you can use my video if you want. Do you want me to send you the file?

[Alex1Reyes]

Thank you dandorf!! :)

I truly appreciate your promptness. Would you mind if I put part of your video for my school project. I'm just asking because you apologized for your make-up (lol). Let me know if it's ok. Oh, I'm a girl too :)

Thank You so much