Who was the female celebrity who adopted a child but returned her because she couldn't "bond" with her? I hink the child may have been from India and it's driving me nuts trying to remember who the celeb was, can anyone help me out please?
80% of "open" adoptions close within 3 months of the adoption finalizing. All "open adoption" means is that you are told of the identity of the adopters. An "open adoption" agreement is NOT legally binding on the adopters.
@JusticeforMandC Just FYI ;-) Thanks for responding but my oldest daughter is 12 yrs old and we still stay in contact and have never known anything else. My daughter and I talk and text each other every other day. She has made me books cards and the adoptive parents at birth decided they wanted Mariah to grow up knowing me. and, my youngest daughter is 5 yrs old and wee see each other about 3 to 4 times a year and I have a great relationship with both sets of parents! Hope this encourages u. :-)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. We are hoping to adopt and we really want to understand - as much as we can - what the birth parents are feeling. If you have any advice for hopeful adoptive parents like us, please share. Thanks again and if you know of anyone looking to create an adoption plan please contact us.
I also placed my daughter for open adoption with missionaries. You are lucky they keep in contact. The people I placed my daughter for adoption with stopped contact once she was 6 all together. Missionaries suck big time!!!!!
My daughter moved back to my home town when she was 17 and now lives down the road.
i feel sorry, its must be so hard, lifes not fair sometimes :( i guess you cant really ask them not to move but it seams a bit sad that they moved countries!
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I am sorry to hear that your daughter and her family moved away. This must be so hard for you and I feel for you.
If you are thinking about open adoption it really does work.
When making a contact plan with the potential adoptive parents make sure you are very clear about how much contact you want. Make sure the adoptive family understand this and agree with it and both sign a contact plan. It isnt legal binding but it helps to have a plan in place to stick to.
@321bronnie tHE ADOPTION HAS ALWAYS BEEN OPEN FOR BOTH OF MY DAUGHTERS DEAR ONE. DONT FEEL SORRY FOR ME SILLY! ;-) MY OLDEST GIRL IS COMING TO VISIT ME IN OCT. I HAVE PEACE ABOUT IT, THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT. :-) GOD BLESS !
Remember with adoption that it is your choice. If at any point before you sign the papers you feel that you do not want to go through with it, that is fine. Let your social worker know and you can pull out. It is your choice.
My son was adopted and we have an open adoption. I see my son atleast once every two weeks and I speak to his birth parentsand email them once a week. I made it clear that I wanted a very open adoption and my sons parents agreed and it works. My family also see him once a month and recieve a weekly email.
@WeThePeopleRleaders Well, I knew the wanted to be mitionaries but I didnt think they were going to move out of country and live their for 6 years + But when you choose a family , make sure you choose a fam who have no plans at all of moving out of state pr out of country, you need to make a list of question that you are going to want to ask the adoptive parents. That is super important!
My son is adopted and i see him atleast once every two weeks. I said the exact amount of contact I wanted and his family were happy for that. Adoption is a personal decision but it does work if you make it and choose the adoptive family that you feel is right.
Good luck with everything and congratulations on your baby :)
Open adoption definatly works though. When you meet the potential parents you need to talk to them and make sure you make it clear what you want in your contct plan and ask them if they have any intention of moving away. Remmber this is your decision and if you do not like what they are saying and if you want more contact than they do then you do not have to go through with the adoption.
My wife and I have a friend that cannot take care of their unborn child. They asked us if we would like to be the child's parents. My Question is sense we both know this person would we still have to file for adoption or could we just be able to have the child as our own? Please any help would be greatful.
@mindbreaker21601 Would you like to call me and we can talk? I would love to help you any way I can. I know quite a bit about this subject. If so email me and I can give you my num or you can give me yours. Blessings. :-)
Hi im thinking about an open adoption he is a month old i want him to be in a stable home with parents who can support him i love him and i know it will b hard but the only problem his dad wants to keep him we have no jobs and trying to stay in college help
@konouichi You brought him up for a month and now you dont want him?? Your talking like you have just brought a dog a month ago! "his dad wants to keep him" can you hear yourself!? You don't deserve that child!!!!!!!
When you exchange information through an open adoption. Is there a third party, attorney, adoption agency, etc? If so, are you guaranteed confidentiality by the third party or does the info get shared with the other biological parent?
@frostysmores OK well, the adopion agencey I used for both my girls was a christian organiztion revolved around christian belifes and raisng the children in a christian type home. All information is confidential between your adoption case worker, the adopted parents and you. ....
@frostysmores ....................If for what ever reason you have a confrentational spouse that does not want you to give the child up. The adoption agencey will guide you on what to do in that situation, but most Adoption agenceys keep stuff like that in their records under confidential files. You dont have to worry about that. Those personal records are only seen by you or the adoption agecney . If you have more questions or personal questions. Fill free to send me a measage.
a child is not an IT, first of all. secondly, surely no mother "doesn't want" her child. it is not mean to want to be a part of your child's life. it's completely natural. what is mean and unnatural is adoption. adoption is very serious and very painful for both mother and child.
@mzsrbaker I dont know what your trying to say or what point your trying to get across but I love my daughters and adoption was the best decision I could have made for them and I get to see them grow and They know me and love me. My girls are very happy and they have families that love them and take good care of them, thats all that anyone needs to know.
anyone one can say whatever they want. i had an open adoption witch was the hardest thing i never had to do. my son is now 4 and i know what i did was right. i hope to be a part of his life soon.
Thanks doll! it's very hard and I wish I could see them more, but thankfully they will grow up knowing me and getting to see me. I am thankful to God for open adoptions! :-) Thanks for your encouraging words. :-)
I know you have an emotional attachment but is it really best for the child. I have adopted family and I understand that they want to find their parents but shouldn't that be the child's decsion to find the birth parent when it comes of age? I'm just talking about u. I saw a show about this subject and I've always been curious. One good thing tho, is that u get to pick the parents and see the child so if something is worng someone can catch it
I dnt understand the whole open adoption thing. U can't keep the child so you make a good decision to give it up. Good job. But why continue to see the child if you didn't want to keep it in the beginning? Isn't that stressful and confusing for the child and parents? I think it's kind of mean. The other parents eat the cost, stay up with it and give it all the care and love in the world but you still reap the benefits. I'm not trying to be rude or make accusations I just don't think it's fair.
U do not understand, I didnt want to give her up, I love both of my children very much and I gave them up because they deserve a life I could never provide for them. I see them for the very fact that I love them and I stay in their life because I want to watch them grow. God has given me so much peace about my decision and both of my girls are in stable homes and they enjoy it when I do get to see them. They are growing up having a relationship with me. I hope that makes things a lil more clear.
@piffyp17 You hit the nail on the head! The birthmom of my friend's son was so intrusive and insistent that she is the child's mother, that it was a major contributing factor to breaking up my friend's marriage and the child, not 7, is very confused. The birth mom -- who wen t on th have a third child that she can't care for, simply showes off my freind's son on her FB wall -- with no mention that the child was adopted the day after he was born. I'm glad my freinds adopted girls from China.
Erin, What you did was very admirable and you did what was best for your children. I wish more birth mothers could make that decision instead of abortion. Every child is a gift from God and every child deserves a chance at life. Keep the adoption awareness vids going if you can. Bless you!
I can understand how you feel. But you should be grateful that you can see her, even if its not as much as you like. Im adopted and i dont even know who I look like. I know its hard but thats how life is. You made the best choice for yourself and your baby. Unlike me you know shes alive, Best wishes for you and your family.
I can not thank you enough for being so open and sharing your story - I am a reunited adoptee - adopted at 13 days old from Edna Gladney Agency in Ft. Worth TX and reunited with my entire biological family since age 24
Erin, It took a lot of courage for you to share your story and your emotions, just as it took a tremendous amount of courage for you to make decisions in the best interest of your children. You are to be admired, applauded and commended for what you have done and also for your obvious deep faith in the face of what has been a difficult life for you. You are an inspiration to others who are facing the same challenges.
Erin you did great! I am very proud of you for being able to open up like you did. You are making more people in this world more aware of what open adoption is. Great job sweetie. Keep up the good work. I am behind you 100%. God bless you!
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Who was the female celebrity who adopted a child but returned her because she couldn't "bond" with her? I hink the child may have been from India and it's driving me nuts trying to remember who the celeb was, can anyone help me out please?
TheLolalee 1 month ago
<3 <3 <3 Wonderful video, Erin.
SakuraCerulean92 2 months ago
@SakuraCerulean92 Thank you sweety! Allot of great things have happened since this video. :-) Including me loosing 80 pounds. ;-)
blueangel9287 2 months ago
80% of "open" adoptions close within 3 months of the adoption finalizing. All "open adoption" means is that you are told of the identity of the adopters. An "open adoption" agreement is NOT legally binding on the adopters.
JusticeforMandC 4 months ago in playlist Adoptee
@JusticeforMandC Just FYI ;-) Thanks for responding but my oldest daughter is 12 yrs old and we still stay in contact and have never known anything else. My daughter and I talk and text each other every other day. She has made me books cards and the adoptive parents at birth decided they wanted Mariah to grow up knowing me. and, my youngest daughter is 5 yrs old and wee see each other about 3 to 4 times a year and I have a great relationship with both sets of parents! Hope this encourages u. :-)
blueangel9287 4 months ago
@JusticeforMandC P.S Both of my girls love me and know me by name and ask to see me often, and I see them both often!
blueangel9287 4 months ago
Thank you so much for sharing your story. We are hoping to adopt and we really want to understand - as much as we can - what the birth parents are feeling. If you have any advice for hopeful adoptive parents like us, please share. Thanks again and if you know of anyone looking to create an adoption plan please contact us.
MarkandLisaAdopt 7 months ago
i am 2 months pregnant and I am not sure if i should get an abortion or do an open adoption. how hard is adoption process?
cameronmpear 7 months ago
I also placed my daughter for open adoption with missionaries. You are lucky they keep in contact. The people I placed my daughter for adoption with stopped contact once she was 6 all together. Missionaries suck big time!!!!!
My daughter moved back to my home town when she was 17 and now lives down the road.
backyardphilosopher 1 year ago
i feel sorry, its must be so hard, lifes not fair sometimes :( i guess you cant really ask them not to move but it seams a bit sad that they moved countries!
wsvr41 1 year ago
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povborders 1 year ago
I am sorry to hear that your daughter and her family moved away. This must be so hard for you and I feel for you.
If you are thinking about open adoption it really does work.
When making a contact plan with the potential adoptive parents make sure you are very clear about how much contact you want. Make sure the adoptive family understand this and agree with it and both sign a contact plan. It isnt legal binding but it helps to have a plan in place to stick to.
321bronnie 1 year ago 3
@321bronnie tHE ADOPTION HAS ALWAYS BEEN OPEN FOR BOTH OF MY DAUGHTERS DEAR ONE. DONT FEEL SORRY FOR ME SILLY! ;-) MY OLDEST GIRL IS COMING TO VISIT ME IN OCT. I HAVE PEACE ABOUT IT, THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT. :-) GOD BLESS !
blueangel9287 1 year ago
Remember with adoption that it is your choice. If at any point before you sign the papers you feel that you do not want to go through with it, that is fine. Let your social worker know and you can pull out. It is your choice.
321bronnie 1 year ago
My son was adopted and we have an open adoption. I see my son atleast once every two weeks and I speak to his birth parentsand email them once a week. I made it clear that I wanted a very open adoption and my sons parents agreed and it works. My family also see him once a month and recieve a weekly email.
321bronnie 1 year ago
HOE!
romi90210 1 year ago
omg thats scary. im thinking about open adoption, but...i didnt think about how them changing locations could effect me......oy.
WeThePeopleRleaders 1 year ago
@WeThePeopleRleaders Well, I knew the wanted to be mitionaries but I didnt think they were going to move out of country and live their for 6 years + But when you choose a family , make sure you choose a fam who have no plans at all of moving out of state pr out of country, you need to make a list of question that you are going to want to ask the adoptive parents. That is super important!
blueangel9287 1 year ago
@WeThePeopleRleaders
blueangel9287 1 year ago
My son is adopted and i see him atleast once every two weeks. I said the exact amount of contact I wanted and his family were happy for that. Adoption is a personal decision but it does work if you make it and choose the adoptive family that you feel is right.
Good luck with everything and congratulations on your baby :)
321bronnie 1 year ago
It is so sad that this girls daughter moved away.
Open adoption definatly works though. When you meet the potential parents you need to talk to them and make sure you make it clear what you want in your contct plan and ask them if they have any intention of moving away. Remmber this is your decision and if you do not like what they are saying and if you want more contact than they do then you do not have to go through with the adoption.
321bronnie 1 year ago
My wife and I have a friend that cannot take care of their unborn child. They asked us if we would like to be the child's parents. My Question is sense we both know this person would we still have to file for adoption or could we just be able to have the child as our own? Please any help would be greatful.
mindbreaker21601 1 year ago
@mindbreaker21601 Would you like to call me and we can talk? I would love to help you any way I can. I know quite a bit about this subject. If so email me and I can give you my num or you can give me yours. Blessings. :-)
blueangel9287 1 year ago
Hi im thinking about an open adoption he is a month old i want him to be in a stable home with parents who can support him i love him and i know it will b hard but the only problem his dad wants to keep him we have no jobs and trying to stay in college help
konouichi 1 year ago
@konouichi You brought him up for a month and now you dont want him?? Your talking like you have just brought a dog a month ago! "his dad wants to keep him" can you hear yourself!? You don't deserve that child!!!!!!!
TellsHowItIs 1 year ago
When you exchange information through an open adoption. Is there a third party, attorney, adoption agency, etc? If so, are you guaranteed confidentiality by the third party or does the info get shared with the other biological parent?
frostysmores 2 years ago
@frostysmores OK well, the adopion agencey I used for both my girls was a christian organiztion revolved around christian belifes and raisng the children in a christian type home. All information is confidential between your adoption case worker, the adopted parents and you. ....
blueangel9287 2 years ago
@frostysmores ....................If for what ever reason you have a confrentational spouse that does not want you to give the child up. The adoption agencey will guide you on what to do in that situation, but most Adoption agenceys keep stuff like that in their records under confidential files. You dont have to worry about that. Those personal records are only seen by you or the adoption agecney . If you have more questions or personal questions. Fill free to send me a measage.
blueangel9287 2 years ago
a child is not an IT, first of all. secondly, surely no mother "doesn't want" her child. it is not mean to want to be a part of your child's life. it's completely natural. what is mean and unnatural is adoption. adoption is very serious and very painful for both mother and child.
mzsrbaker 2 years ago
@mzsrbaker I dont know what your trying to say or what point your trying to get across but I love my daughters and adoption was the best decision I could have made for them and I get to see them grow and They know me and love me. My girls are very happy and they have families that love them and take good care of them, thats all that anyone needs to know.
blueangel9287 2 years ago
anyone one can say whatever they want. i had an open adoption witch was the hardest thing i never had to do. my son is now 4 and i know what i did was right. i hope to be a part of his life soon.
Jennhas4kids 2 years ago 6
Thanks doll! it's very hard and I wish I could see them more, but thankfully they will grow up knowing me and getting to see me. I am thankful to God for open adoptions! :-) Thanks for your encouraging words. :-)
blueangel9287 2 years ago
I know you have an emotional attachment but is it really best for the child. I have adopted family and I understand that they want to find their parents but shouldn't that be the child's decsion to find the birth parent when it comes of age? I'm just talking about u. I saw a show about this subject and I've always been curious. One good thing tho, is that u get to pick the parents and see the child so if something is worng someone can catch it
piffyp17 2 years ago
I dnt understand the whole open adoption thing. U can't keep the child so you make a good decision to give it up. Good job. But why continue to see the child if you didn't want to keep it in the beginning? Isn't that stressful and confusing for the child and parents? I think it's kind of mean. The other parents eat the cost, stay up with it and give it all the care and love in the world but you still reap the benefits. I'm not trying to be rude or make accusations I just don't think it's fair.
piffyp17 2 years ago
U do not understand, I didnt want to give her up, I love both of my children very much and I gave them up because they deserve a life I could never provide for them. I see them for the very fact that I love them and I stay in their life because I want to watch them grow. God has given me so much peace about my decision and both of my girls are in stable homes and they enjoy it when I do get to see them. They are growing up having a relationship with me. I hope that makes things a lil more clear.
blueangel9287 2 years ago
... Have a blessed day. If you have any more questions I would be happy to share more with you. :-)
blueangel9287 2 years ago
@piffyp17 You hit the nail on the head! The birthmom of my friend's son was so intrusive and insistent that she is the child's mother, that it was a major contributing factor to breaking up my friend's marriage and the child, not 7, is very confused. The birth mom -- who wen t on th have a third child that she can't care for, simply showes off my freind's son on her FB wall -- with no mention that the child was adopted the day after he was born. I'm glad my freinds adopted girls from China.
BillyBobKumar 3 months ago
@BillyBobKumar I meant my OTHER friends have subsequently adopted from China.
BillyBobKumar 3 months ago
wow, im impress , keep doin i luv ur videos
blackandwhiteluv1 2 years ago
Erin, What you did was very admirable and you did what was best for your children. I wish more birth mothers could make that decision instead of abortion. Every child is a gift from God and every child deserves a chance at life. Keep the adoption awareness vids going if you can. Bless you!
YoMrDj1212 3 years ago
I can understand how you feel. But you should be grateful that you can see her, even if its not as much as you like. Im adopted and i dont even know who I look like. I know its hard but thats how life is. You made the best choice for yourself and your baby. Unlike me you know shes alive, Best wishes for you and your family.
ButterflyRose420 3 years ago
that is an amazing story thaks for sharing part of my family is adopted and i know hoe much they loved it!!
Adoption is such a wonderful thing!!!
simslovr13 3 years ago
I can not thank you enough for being so open and sharing your story - I am a reunited adoptee - adopted at 13 days old from Edna Gladney Agency in Ft. Worth TX and reunited with my entire biological family since age 24
CHELLE0774 3 years ago
God bless you!
tiiaamii 3 years ago
Wow, Erin! I really appreciate you sharing your story so openly and honestly! I can't wait to see the rest :)
tiffdjones 3 years ago 2
Thank you for sharing your video, Erin. You have done a selfless act. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
bratlee2u 3 years ago 2
Erin, It took a lot of courage for you to share your story and your emotions, just as it took a tremendous amount of courage for you to make decisions in the best interest of your children. You are to be admired, applauded and commended for what you have done and also for your obvious deep faith in the face of what has been a difficult life for you. You are an inspiration to others who are facing the same challenges.
You are in my prayers.
God bless you!
Bob
rej917 3 years ago 2
Erin you did great! I am very proud of you for being able to open up like you did. You are making more people in this world more aware of what open adoption is. Great job sweetie. Keep up the good work. I am behind you 100%. God bless you!
Love ya,
Kaci
kaciflusche 3 years ago 2