I felt the same way when I had to quit a job at mcdonalds after a month because I have fibromyalgia and the job was making me sick. and I had to quick over the phone and shit and I felt so bad that I let everyone at my job down, because I had made so many friends and earned the respect of them and then it was all gone in a day.
aww *hugs* i know how u feel, i feel the same way. i tend to beat myself up when i know i've disappointed ppl, but in the end, i realized the decisions i make are what's best for me and i have to think about me first, as harsh as it may sound. i don't know u very well but u seem like a wonderful person.
Holy crap. I totally get where you're coming from. I'm in a situation right now where this really sweet guy is wayyyy more into me than I am into him, and I have to tell him tommorow....Feeling like you let people down sucks!!
Babe! You're fine, you don't let people down. Everyone has "I'm a shit person" days. You're a smart woman. You know where you need to improve (if you feel you need to improve).
Take care of yourself. There is a list of people on this wall who want a happy Meghan. I am one of them.
and hey, i'm wayyyy more of a jackass..(well not that you're one in the first place..you know what i mean)..i worked at a law firm for 3 weeks and just didn't call or show up..(for good reasons..)
*hugs* you are NOT horrible, you hear me? for some reason, we're forced to get this feeling even when we feel we are doing the best thing for ourselves. you're not at fault.
i honestly hope that margo gets better. pray, breathe, and try to stay positive. keep us posted!
I'm really not very good at giving advice, but I really wish you the best of luck! I know that's cheesey, but....; However, when my dogs have thrown up, my dad feeds them white rice for two or three days. that way, it kind of 'neutralizes' their stomach, & gets whatever nasty stuff that's in there, out. you might want to try that, it usually helps!=)
Meghan....horrible person...i'm thinkin not...if i had to guess its a lil more like a sweetheart who puts everything that you are into everything you do...but then thats just my guess....throughout life unfortunately we all run into days when we feel like just crawling under a rock....praying the next day might be better...the cool thing is....usually it is... :)
You're not a bad person. sometimes you have to put yourself before other things. that doesn't make you a bad person. it makes you a stronger person. I hope you feel better and Margot may have worms so just get some worming medicine. We all love you!
I hope Margot gets well soon and you will find a job more suited to your needs and YOU are such a great person and Don't need to feel bad :) Cheer up there is always tomorrow.
I don't think you are a horrible person at all! Yeah, it might have been a little abrupt, but would she have rather you worked this coming week and then say "Oh, btw, I can't work here anymore. Deuces." (Not that you would do it like that, lol.) Margot is an important factor in your life, as is your happiness and stability, which that job couldn't offer you. Sometimes you just have to do what's right for you, and if she cared about you as a person, she'd understand.
You definitely make me feel better. You are so inevitably human and to be able to show that vulnerability to so many people is inspirational. Thank you.
I hope your puppy feels better soon and same with you. I've been reading this book called the 20 something manifesto and quaterlifers (like ourselves) speak out on how they are getting/ got through these years... and it covers every topic it's really interesting. And I'm in the exact same boat as you currently with the whole job situation and feeling bad about letting people down. It's tough but in the end you have to do what's best for you! hope it works out for you! :)
Im sorry that you are having a hard time sweety . There are just sometimes that you have to do what you have to do . Dont worry about letting someone down ,but you cant always so what you need to do . The fact that you feel so bad about it says alot about how great a person you are ! Hope that your pup is better , and that you are feeling better babe !
I definitely understand how you feel bad, however! I think that your boss was purposely trying to make you feel guilty because she was upset. I do not think it was appropriate of her to say that you aren't going to get a job working with people if you do these kinds of things. Everyone goes through different circumstances. Your boss obviously didn't realize this and just said this to hurt you or manipulate you. IGNORE IT. Don't let the words she said without thinking bother you.
This video breaks my heart. Meghan, I know how you feel, sort of. Last year I had a job and was going to school. My grades and attendance at school were getting worse the more hours I worked and when I would try to make up for it, my work attendance and quality would decrease. To save my grades, I had to quit my job at a time when a bunch of people had already quit and they needed me. I felt so guilty. But, you will find a better job in your field Meghan, I'm sure of it. Best of luck! <3 - Lina
yeah. I think I'll get past it. I just feel bad because I started Monday..and then today was really my second day and I couldn't make it in. I meant to be much more articulate on the phone and I think was just overwhelmed with everything going on...so it kind of ended with me quitting. I think I'll probably write some kind of note and leave it at the store just sort of apologizing because that is all I can really do.
You are the same as me....a Pleaser...you like to please people and you think of others before yourself. I would rather be a pleaser than a selfish person. Maybe you can call her back..or write a note telling her how you feel and that you are genuinely sorry. I am in the same boat with you, I lost my job on friday :(
Dontcha worry 'bout a thang, beautiful girl! Life's gotta lotta bumpy roads, and you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. You're a smart cookie, love, but your skin needs to be a little thicker when it comes to what other people want/expect out of you. (Truthfully, I'm the same way, so I know exactly how you feel) Fuck 'em, I say! Shit happens that is beyond controllability. If they can't understand that, they don't deserve knowing you. :)
Chalk it up to a stressful day. Sometimes everything crashes in on you at once and this was just one of those days. I think you did what was best for you and sometimes in life that is not whats best for everyone else. But you know what they will get over it and you will feel better about your decision when you are where you want to be. Cut yourself a break :)
Can I say you don't disappoint me? Every time I watch you my confidence grows. You are a great example for me in what it's like to be comfortable with one's self and not give a shit what other people think. At least that's what I've seen from your videos. Thank you for being as honest as you are.
Meghan - don't feel bad - I understand you don't want to let people down but people dont always know in advance that they are not going to be able to get into work - things just happen and you wont be the first or last employee that hasnt been able to give much notice of a day off - your puppy's life is far more important !!!! anyone working with you even for only a couple of days will already know how wonderful you are and how hard working !!hugs and smiles xx
ur ana amazing girl, and i know ull always find a job no mather what. i totally understand you cuz i am a "people pleaser" and i put others needs in front of mine, and this just sounds ur thinking more about them then about you, so just shake it off. i hope that ur puppy is ok, and that everything goes fine. :D
Meghan babe, you know what I told u on Facebook. Dont ever feel bad...things can get bad and but they soon pick up again. As you said long term this job wasnt going to be right for you. At the same time dont blame yourself for thinking u have let people down. I dont think you have let anyone down. Keep your chin up babe, smile and remember we are all here for you :) xxxx
Your employer putting guilt on you isn't something that should have been done. I am assuming that this person knew your situation. Realistically they couldn't have expected you to stay for very long. You are a college grad and find a job that pays you for what you know and what you are passionate for is very important.
It was only my second day of the job, so I feel like they didn't really know me and probably have this horrible impression of me now.
The timing was just really off. I had to cancel earlier in the week because of some family stuff...and then this happened. So, I feel like they never got to see the really responsible,hardworking, together me.
Hey hun, I can definitely see where you're coming from. I graduated last year and have two different degrees, but the job I'm at right now isn't a full time position and it doesn't have any benefits that come along with it. I understand how it is to let someone down, but just remember that you need to do things that are going to make YOU happy in the long run. People will always get upset, but there will come a time when they get over it and realize that it was the best decision. Smile =]
I felt the same way when I had to quit a job at mcdonalds after a month because I have fibromyalgia and the job was making me sick. and I had to quick over the phone and shit and I felt so bad that I let everyone at my job down, because I had made so many friends and earned the respect of them and then it was all gone in a day.
ChelSings4U 2 days ago
Good luck to you and doggy!
TheBretterLife 3 years ago
aww *hugs* i know how u feel, i feel the same way. i tend to beat myself up when i know i've disappointed ppl, but in the end, i realized the decisions i make are what's best for me and i have to think about me first, as harsh as it may sound. i don't know u very well but u seem like a wonderful person.
i hope ur dog gets better!
<3s
psushgirl 3 years ago
Holy crap. I totally get where you're coming from. I'm in a situation right now where this really sweet guy is wayyyy more into me than I am into him, and I have to tell him tommorow....Feeling like you let people down sucks!!
Hope your puppy is okay.
8cham8 3 years ago
Babe! You're fine, you don't let people down. Everyone has "I'm a shit person" days. You're a smart woman. You know where you need to improve (if you feel you need to improve).
Take care of yourself. There is a list of people on this wall who want a happy Meghan. I am one of them.
gililima 3 years ago
meghan! you are NOT a horrible person.
dont be so hard on yourself.
Chin up gorgeous, things will be ok :-)
hope the puppy feels better!
Ibifficus 3 years ago
ohhh you're not a bad person!
i hope your puppy is okay, she is adorable!
RachelB263 3 years ago
This may sound stupid...but..."everything happens for a reason!"
Trust that kid...totally true.
You will get through it.
Hope the dog is ok.
Kisses!
S
sfb001 3 years ago
so if it were possible..
i'd totally be giving you a big ole hug..
i would have done the same thing..
dogs > people..
and hey, i'm wayyyy more of a jackass..(well not that you're one in the first place..you know what i mean)..i worked at a law firm for 3 weeks and just didn't call or show up..(for good reasons..)
letstalknerdy87 3 years ago
don't trip mami you will be fine. there is someone out there that can work with your schedule...I do hope the baby feels better
JayEm74 3 years ago
*HUGZ* You're not a horrible person. I've met horrible people, and they're nothing like you. Trust me.
-JP
PDXvlog 3 years ago
*hugs* you are NOT horrible, you hear me? for some reason, we're forced to get this feeling even when we feel we are doing the best thing for ourselves. you're not at fault.
i honestly hope that margo gets better. pray, breathe, and try to stay positive. keep us posted!
hope things work out. :)
--ashley
palexchick226 3 years ago
I'm really not very good at giving advice, but I really wish you the best of luck! I know that's cheesey, but....; However, when my dogs have thrown up, my dad feeds them white rice for two or three days. that way, it kind of 'neutralizes' their stomach, & gets whatever nasty stuff that's in there, out. you might want to try that, it usually helps!=)
AikaGraham 3 years ago
Meghan....horrible person...i'm thinkin not...if i had to guess its a lil more like a sweetheart who puts everything that you are into everything you do...but then thats just my guess....throughout life unfortunately we all run into days when we feel like just crawling under a rock....praying the next day might be better...the cool thing is....usually it is... :)
JustCallMeCC 3 years ago
You did nothing wrong. Take care of your dog. Make sure she doesn't get dehydrated.
You're not a bad person so don't even stress over something that doesn't exist. SMILE =:)
walrus321 3 years ago
You're not a bad person. sometimes you have to put yourself before other things. that doesn't make you a bad person. it makes you a stronger person. I hope you feel better and Margot may have worms so just get some worming medicine. We all love you!
amille88 3 years ago
I hope Margot gets well soon and you will find a job more suited to your needs and YOU are such a great person and Don't need to feel bad :) Cheer up there is always tomorrow.
onthegoodshiplollie 3 years ago
If you've never heard The Phrase That Pays by The Academy Is, it goes like this:
Hold your head high heavy heart.
So take a chance and make it big,
Cause its the last youll ever get.
If we dont take it, when will we make it?
I make plans to break plans,
And Ive been planning something big
I HOPE THE BOTH OF YOU FEEL BETTER! :)
xstevennn 3 years ago
I don't think you are a horrible person at all! Yeah, it might have been a little abrupt, but would she have rather you worked this coming week and then say "Oh, btw, I can't work here anymore. Deuces." (Not that you would do it like that, lol.) Margot is an important factor in your life, as is your happiness and stability, which that job couldn't offer you. Sometimes you just have to do what's right for you, and if she cared about you as a person, she'd understand.
I love you, Meghan. <3
ScarletSkies 3 years ago
You definitely make me feel better. You are so inevitably human and to be able to show that vulnerability to so many people is inspirational. Thank you.
xXxMagicalMandixXx 3 years ago
I hope your puppy feels better soon and same with you. I've been reading this book called the 20 something manifesto and quaterlifers (like ourselves) speak out on how they are getting/ got through these years... and it covers every topic it's really interesting. And I'm in the exact same boat as you currently with the whole job situation and feeling bad about letting people down. It's tough but in the end you have to do what's best for you! hope it works out for you! :)
missbananacheeks 3 years ago
Im sorry that you are having a hard time sweety . There are just sometimes that you have to do what you have to do . Dont worry about letting someone down ,but you cant always so what you need to do . The fact that you feel so bad about it says alot about how great a person you are ! Hope that your pup is better , and that you are feeling better babe !
MUCH LOVE !
AngelBones84 3 years ago
Aww, I hope your pup gets better : (
theoriginaltyler 3 years ago
I definitely understand how you feel bad, however! I think that your boss was purposely trying to make you feel guilty because she was upset. I do not think it was appropriate of her to say that you aren't going to get a job working with people if you do these kinds of things. Everyone goes through different circumstances. Your boss obviously didn't realize this and just said this to hurt you or manipulate you. IGNORE IT. Don't let the words she said without thinking bother you.
Dina
DinaThompson 3 years ago
This video breaks my heart. Meghan, I know how you feel, sort of. Last year I had a job and was going to school. My grades and attendance at school were getting worse the more hours I worked and when I would try to make up for it, my work attendance and quality would decrease. To save my grades, I had to quit my job at a time when a bunch of people had already quit and they needed me. I felt so guilty. But, you will find a better job in your field Meghan, I'm sure of it. Best of luck! <3 - Lina
MizzTubby18 3 years ago
yeah. I think I'll get past it. I just feel bad because I started Monday..and then today was really my second day and I couldn't make it in. I meant to be much more articulate on the phone and I think was just overwhelmed with everything going on...so it kind of ended with me quitting. I think I'll probably write some kind of note and leave it at the store just sort of apologizing because that is all I can really do.
tonjesml 3 years ago
You are the same as me....a Pleaser...you like to please people and you think of others before yourself. I would rather be a pleaser than a selfish person. Maybe you can call her back..or write a note telling her how you feel and that you are genuinely sorry. I am in the same boat with you, I lost my job on friday :(
LadyTressa 3 years ago
Dontcha worry 'bout a thang, beautiful girl! Life's gotta lotta bumpy roads, and you just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. You're a smart cookie, love, but your skin needs to be a little thicker when it comes to what other people want/expect out of you. (Truthfully, I'm the same way, so I know exactly how you feel) Fuck 'em, I say! Shit happens that is beyond controllability. If they can't understand that, they don't deserve knowing you. :)
Feel better!
Laura (from NS Can!)
laura241984 3 years ago
Chalk it up to a stressful day. Sometimes everything crashes in on you at once and this was just one of those days. I think you did what was best for you and sometimes in life that is not whats best for everyone else. But you know what they will get over it and you will feel better about your decision when you are where you want to be. Cut yourself a break :)
ringrosehouse07 3 years ago
Can I say you don't disappoint me? Every time I watch you my confidence grows. You are a great example for me in what it's like to be comfortable with one's self and not give a shit what other people think. At least that's what I've seen from your videos. Thank you for being as honest as you are.
prettypuzzler 3 years ago
Meghan - don't feel bad - I understand you don't want to let people down but people dont always know in advance that they are not going to be able to get into work - things just happen and you wont be the first or last employee that hasnt been able to give much notice of a day off - your puppy's life is far more important !!!! anyone working with you even for only a couple of days will already know how wonderful you are and how hard working !!hugs and smiles xx
4evalucky13 3 years ago
im sorry to hear that =/
:hugs:
stay strong and positive! :D
ddonq 3 years ago
HUGS!! :::MEGHAN:::
iamakinkychicken 3 years ago
megan, don't be hard on ur self, and don't cry.
ur ana amazing girl, and i know ull always find a job no mather what. i totally understand you cuz i am a "people pleaser" and i put others needs in front of mine, and this just sounds ur thinking more about them then about you, so just shake it off. i hope that ur puppy is ok, and that everything goes fine. :D
orangeboy69 3 years ago
Meghan babe, you know what I told u on Facebook. Dont ever feel bad...things can get bad and but they soon pick up again. As you said long term this job wasnt going to be right for you. At the same time dont blame yourself for thinking u have let people down. I dont think you have let anyone down. Keep your chin up babe, smile and remember we are all here for you :) xxxx
Noelg26 3 years ago
:[ chin up, hope things get better.
walllofweird 3 years ago
thank you :)
tonjesml 3 years ago
Your employer putting guilt on you isn't something that should have been done. I am assuming that this person knew your situation. Realistically they couldn't have expected you to stay for very long. You are a college grad and find a job that pays you for what you know and what you are passionate for is very important.
dreimer2 3 years ago
It was only my second day of the job, so I feel like they didn't really know me and probably have this horrible impression of me now.
The timing was just really off. I had to cancel earlier in the week because of some family stuff...and then this happened. So, I feel like they never got to see the really responsible,hardworking, together me.
tonjesml 3 years ago
Hey hun, I can definitely see where you're coming from. I graduated last year and have two different degrees, but the job I'm at right now isn't a full time position and it doesn't have any benefits that come along with it. I understand how it is to let someone down, but just remember that you need to do things that are going to make YOU happy in the long run. People will always get upset, but there will come a time when they get over it and realize that it was the best decision. Smile =]
beyondredemptionnow2 3 years ago
Yeah, I know. I just feel really guilty. I'm not used to leaving things on a bad note.
tonjesml 3 years ago