If He's Gonna Climb My Back (QV - 16)

[MrJason300]

Lmao I love how you get into the experience to explain things, so much more real

(xD I'm Gemini)

[MrSexyBrown]

love definitely has to be present, I've allowed that a when I really shouldn't have. I agree with you, it is something that should be held at a high standard and should be given to those who meet all of those standards. I give my heart away to fools sometimes as well as my body, but I'm tryna pick them better with each go around.

[BiStudKamara]

well im a virgin and i will not allow a woman to strap me or a man fuck me until i find someone who im in love with and trust enough to feel tht im perfectly safe with them handling my body in tht way...i think ive found tht person but i will not go there until were in a committed relationship for a while..only time will tell..hey ive waited almost 20 years..n ill keep waiting :)

[crazypersonlol34]

@BiStudKamara dyke

[BiStudKamara]

@crazypersonlol34 lmao.. idiot.. ^_^ 

[crazypersonlol34]

@BiStudKamara What do you expect to get out of a same sex relationship? Whats the point of sex if you really just "love" them? You cant have kids. You cant pass down your traits. Therefore, you're not contributing to the future of this society. You're just taking up space right now.

[BiStudKamara]

@crazypersonlol34 hahahahahahahahaha!!!! && ur still an idiot!!! LMAO!!!! i bet it feels great to be tht blissfully stupid...the face tht ur a nameless, faceless, and random person from who knows where trying to have an opinion on something you know nothing abt is kinda sad. be gay then state ur opinion.. ^_^ have a WONDERFUL life... :)

[crazypersonlol34]

@BiStudKamara Nice comeback? So you accepted what I was saying? I am right you know. You know i'm right. You're just taking up space right now. Your pleasure will last a short time, and you will soon be nothing but "that person who used to be alive but never really did anything for the sake of mankind". You're in it foryourself. Set your Priorities straight before you try to talk to me. I don't speak with meaningless people who won't have any impact whatsoever on anything but their own life.

[Sahyid]

@crazypersonlol34 So for you, the only way one can contribute to society through love is to populate? I'd say that a mass of teen mothers are doing enough of that for the rest of us.



[crazypersonlol34]

@Sahyid Population is the main way. Besides that, gays really don't have many ways of contributing to anything. They're like, "Leave me and my faggot boyfriend be, and I'll leave you be". They can't really function in a society that is composed of 80% Christians, 60% of which do not believe being homosexual is right. That's a rough estimate by the way. Just a message to all you homo's: You will never be accepted in this society as normal. Because you're freaks.

[Sahyid]

@crazypersonlol34 My boyfriend is a photographer, and I am a freelance makeup artist for MAC cosmetics. I hold a steady income, and provide for the social security benefits of the elderly through the taxes taken out of anything that I make. I contribute ART to my society, and make it easier for those who are suffering, to overcome. I would say that with the combined talents of my GAY RELATIONSHIP, we do a pretty good job of being active in our community.

[crazypersonlol34]

@Sahyid These benefits are for yourself. Art and the "social security" benefits are very short term contributes. I'm talking about contributations to all of man kind as a whole. You're not doing anything. Just taking up space right now. You're like a weed in some one's backyard. You exist for no reason. You will soon die, and will probably never be remembered for anything. Is all this you have in life really worth anything after death? Ask yourself that.

[drzmejia94]

why do you allway look high.. jk love u so much !!

[rayfur4]

wow, looks at screen....wow.....i have so much to say....but oh well

[TheMediaman6]

As a present mostly total top, they'd have to be super close emotionally and not too large. I enjoy being in my role and know those that enjoy the opposite. I used to be vers. This is a VERY tangled subject in the gay and African-American gay world where we are immediately assigned or "judged" if you are one or the other or afraid or have any type of health, emotional or other reasons for not participating. Masculine is one way, feminine is another way.WAY to put it out there once again.

[multiracial17]

I agree with you. I feel the same if I'm with a guy and things get intimate, there has to be an emotional connection between us, especially if i'm having sex with him. I just can't have sex with someone I don't love or have feelings for, sex is expression of how I feel for that person not just a good time.

[chocolatevogue23]

i live for u darling ! ur a ki ki

[LILKIM3000]

aries is the best

[coxjohna]

I think all to often gay men become retricted and convinced by the same homophobic ideas that straight men perscribe to. All the ideas of submission, dominance etc. It seems pretty simple. You either enjoy the feeling of penetration or you dont.  If you dont you can either choose to do your best to accomidate or you choose a sexual partner that is not interested in penetrating another. The rest of this is just rationalizations.

[OnyxLyrica]

A scorpio top here.

True, I can be aggressive with a partner, but I can also go somewhat moderate (depends on the partner, some don't like it too rough and aggressive).

But that's the bedroom plays. I'm pretty mild in every other aspect of a relationship.

[freakylocz14]

Gemini yasssss

[bigdawg01855]

YES!! Gemini BABY!! Whoop Whoop!!

[whiskeyknight40]

xem I'm a libra , And  I prefer too be emotional connected someone over long time , Guess you could say why I won't settle for anything less average guy

[blaque28]

Taurus is where it's @.........

[itsmrlawrence]

xem xem xem, the topics u come up wit is so crazy lol.

but im a bottom gemini. Im known 2 be a perfessional freak lol "im nt a whore". But im n2 those straight actin guys. & inorder 4 someone 2 climb my back they have 2 love them selves b4 puttin they love inside of me lol. Im nt shy so when i want somethin im gonna take it. Btw i gotta azz so big like da sun...

[RazeGeneration]

ok so im versatile so i dont just let anybody climb my back, you gotta be cute (shallow i know) and you gotta have a strong personality. like you said, i cant be submissive to sumbody that cant overpower me, so eh.

but i gotta question.... so since only 2 dudes have climbed yo back rite.... that mean you be climbin backs? lol

[ricanboy83]

Xemmy babyyyy...lol...yes i am a LIBRA and i can say you are right, i am very aggressive. But i can only be that way when im in love wit a man, because i love to show him, when we make love, emotionaly, mentally, and spiritually, its all about true love, and im there to give me the passion he neva had.

[kevseb66]

You took the words right out of my mouth!!!! I am definitely a bottom but it DOES NOT guarantee some horney ass top is getting my cookies. Emotional connection is absolutely vital or their will be no pleasure for me with the inevitable pain. I have to have gotten to know a dude well & establish a certain level of trust. I hate selfish, unskilled, insensitive overly aggressive tops. I am not a blow up doll & if a man trys to run up in me like he's fu@#% some street whore, he's history.

[LaBlance50]

HEEEEEYYY!!! GEMINI!!! Thats me. LOL! I love you Xem.

[will2peter]

lol i taught it was just me love this video.............

[ReeseBphotos]

I love that I just discoverd your page...

[Dsosa720]

LOVE your realness!

I too can count on the one hand who has had such a priviledge, who got to taste and enter my heaven! I agree with your reasoning!

[Topnotchstang07]

Haven't seen anyone on you tube THIS real... I love that you're bold and confident and I appreciate your honesty and openess! Thanks for sharing with us :-)

[conspiracylife13]

You aint had a Leo yet sir!!! GET INTO ONE!!....or let one get into you!! haha

[marquisewiley]

This is a informative video

[oneluckystrike]

Thanks for the sexy shout to us scorpios,,,lol,,for real tho i love the message to the youth that a person is in control of his own body, has the right to not do ANYTHING that makes him/her feel uncomfortable...and you are so dyum funny!!!

[L302009]

ROFL LMAO hahahhahha love ya xem

[tearsandfears2009]

i dont discriminate but you have to love me before we can do the do

[GodsKnight72]

I like when you stated "did you have him in the first place?" You are absolutely on point and correct! Please continue to speak truth and wisdom like this.

[GodsKnight72]

I'm a Libra, and you're right, passive in public, aggressive in private, that's me LOL

[chasingpavements04]

8:03 is what EVERYBODY needs to pay attention to!!! OMG

Xem you said it perfect baby YAS!

[trembull94]

What is 'climb my back'

[dreamboynyc2]

Watch the video again, he explained that like 10 times

[bigandsexy11]

Tmi, zem....lol dat was da shit!!!! And by da way i lk aggrisive 2!!!!!!! Rough"

[bigandsexy11]

Oh. Wow!!!! Xem... Lol!!!!!!

[PlainsofWar]

This video made my night...

ROFLMAO @ the 'Stop 'n' Go' part...

[KingSnoopy2004]

Yes, us Gemini are aggresive in that situation, sexual instances transform us depending on your emotions. We get into it and kinda take what we want both sides lol

[cnorthrop11]

LMAO @ 3:19 I LOVE THAT SONG, and just for that line... My friends and I were just talking about this subject.. its so much to go through...everytime... I don't give it to many people because they REALLY have to be able to control me. I'm not all that masculine, so you have to be more masculine than I am, they've gotta be persistent (cause i'm a stop and go as well, lol) and they've gotta KNOW what they are doing, lol. love this video too.

[strongforu]

Pisces men got it goin' on too! Don't sleep!!! Otherwise, I loved the vid Xem. My God, imagine if we had this kind of info and exposure when I was a teen.

[joelc720]

omg that was so funny you made my day

[shorty275]

thanks for touching on some real issues that we all relate to, and thanks for providing some solutions or ways to deal with those problems.

[Angel0Martinez]

Man, that is such a powerful message to the youth. I really hope they learn from it because I know sure as hell no one was preaching that to the kids before!

[hotworkagain]

wow i love it,well said,just beautiful

[STR8BUGGIN]

First off, I would have to say thanks for the shout out saying that Gemini's are aggressive, not many know that... and dude you're wild.. lol.

[AmaniArk]

what is that song at the end

[fabmthomas]

Xem..you are an absolute gem!!!! Thank you for being so consistently wise, honest and provocative!!

Peace, love & blessings always!

[prettyboy2012]

Scorpios....dat is so tru lolz i wud kno i am one

[Andreeric]

@prettyboy2012 SCORPIOS RULE DAMMIT !!!!!!

[damon8707]

well for me and my lover we are going in to our first yr living together and i can say Leo's are not controlling.. but i can say since i am a Virgo's that we do control thing in the bedroom and very rough in the bed room. but for both of us i agree it does take a long time to get on our backs no matter what your look and size is. we are both thick guys...

[lilsamson2004]

i love you bro...you speak truth...i learned that I can say no

[ulliguy1]

hahaha you can't trust those tricks...but yes men respect..niggas don't..

[YngKeez3]

Wow I truly LOVE what u said and HOW u said it!!! I like that whole submissive thing :)

[mrtaurus09]

i feel u on the bein scared of dick thing haha cuz i am open to say that i am scared..im a virgin :](im 18 fyi) so when i meet the perfect guy for me...he can get it lol oh and im a taurus..idk about bein aggressive..im more on the other side of the spectrum

[boyunderworld]

ohh nooo you are the man.. i feel a lot of respect for you xam... been watching your videos and they are inspiration for me.. keep it up.

[ReRe0204]

lmao stop n go!

[Sagg75]

What about a Saggitarus?

[JHawx909]

Libra in the house!!! Great vid Xem

[nochokin]

lmao@a stop and go

[GottaMessage]

Libra here that was true, and maybe they not eating it right. But passion is factor as well.

[drewcld]

and leo's.....

[jb12069]

Luv'd it you are so on point!!!! dude you are awesome

[0LLCoolKay8]

i totally agree with the 5 choices of agressive dudes....lol me like them also...

[kloud81]

i dnt always get to watch all ur vids or cmnt, but u are sooooo on point with this one. i dnt let the "back climbing" go down too much either unless da dude is agressive AND da dude is worth me givin myself. and i'm also a stop and go. u def on point with this!!

[sWeEtSkItTlez]

I'm feeling a libra right now and her aggression is what attracted me to her

[Pebblies01]

LOL, this is a tuff one for me. What do you do when, you feel it is the other way around, if i am going to climb his back? LOL...(my friend, i don't know)

[kieranjrichardson08]

anybody know where he's from? jw

reply if you know :)

[hip2dadip]

WELL now!!! this was a brow raising topic! I'm Leo and i have to say that there was a time when I was still trying to find myself when all he had to have was a pulse to hit it! I've grown and learned my lessons along the way and now I realize that I need to feel something mutual and real to intimately connect.

[maltin5]

Preach It Preacher!!!!!!!!!!

[blackmalebme]

As Tasha said in "why did I get married" BOOM!!!... You hit it right on the nail with this one

[silkyblack2006]

Ok I use to be like that when playing the bottle role but let me tell you I had experience with a very masculine guy who I top and believed me he had a body like Terrell Owens and I fucked him like a Bi**h...So now I am open in the bed room it really depends on how I feel towards the person but coming from a bottom point of view I can get it as a top most bottoms can

[bigphat200]

OWG that is too funny

[thaslimwun05]

WHOOP WHOOP FOR GEMINI!!!!!

[makaylis78]

WHAT WHAT I'M A LIBRA LOL!

[Damnyou1985]

ok from a girls point of view on the lesbian spectrum i am a Leo and i need a girl who is aggressive and who can handle my aggressiveness and i have never been able to have great sex with anybody mind u i have only had sex with a leo and scorpio but my current girlfriend is a taurus and she can lay it down like she can make me feel subbmissive agressive and emotionally connected all in one she is the first person i eva came at the same time with...beautiful i do love her i feel u Xem

[dajavon1]

i dont think aggression should have anything to do with allowing a man to climb my back. We have to b in love. I have only let two guys climb my back and i was in a relationship with both and i was in love with both. Im more aggressive in the bedroom and i do like when they did get aggressive but thats not what allowed me to allow them to climb my back. it was cause i loved them and wanted to give myself completely to them.

[parrishrturner]

You never got it before if you never got it from a Leo man!

[88jl]

Before you can climb my back you have to be commited to me and me only i dont want to see wandering eyes. i like men who r more aggressive than me someone whos not afraid to get rough and take control

[88jl]

im a taurus and yes we r aggressive and bullish in the bed or sometimes in general and what u said about the other signs far as i know its true.

[adSanders1963]

First of all....Yes Taurus men are the best. I am one of them! I don't do random sex so yes there would have to be love involved. No for the man....he needs to be football player status to ride this ride!

[adSanders1963]

Yes lawd....Big men! Also, YES for Taurus...I am one. I have been there.

[SexiAssWhtBoi19]

Yesssssssssssssss Libra! U R True!! Boi Imma Marry u!

[JollyJosh1089]

I want a man who's an aggressive and passionate lover! I defintiely love muscles! Finances don't really matter but a man who can take care me financially doesn't hurt lol! I definitely want an emotion connection too! I don't just want to have random casual sex; I want to mean something with someone i've gotten to know. But there's nothing wrong with being a slut or a whore either lol!

[MooreofTony]

I agree with that emotional connection...that makes is easier because u trust him...and are more relaxed and willing...unless he working with a ginormous MONSTER lol

[augirl4eva]

yes for the Gemini men. Gay or Straight!!  YEESSSS!

[masterdoa]

Love the video,lol.

[angelboo1000]

one word  Chemistry""""""""""

[Decaw]

In order for a man to top any of you I feel since you have to give up SO MUCH pain for his pleasure. if hes one of those guys that wont let you do him he MUST give up or do something that he wouldnt normally do in another way where you feel EXTRA special ! I mean OVER THE TOP. If you are with a strict top foreplay starts WAY !!!!! befor the bed room ! I prefer passionate over dominate anyday . 80 % passionate 20% dominate . fully dominate men are heartless dogs ! that dont care about hurting u

[Sunnydaleexile06]

I have to be in love with the man and personally I like men that are very masculine and aggressive in bed. So, that's what I need

[lilsashie69]

LMBO... on the monolouge of the bed room.. lol

[xXxXSHUGXxXx]

lol 3:40-4:00

good vid

[drew62]

i feel you on the emotional level stuff!!! if a man cant meet me half way and have an emotional relationship with me i dont pay them any attention

[liltom0]

Stop N Go!!! YES i feel ya... LOL

[AllAboutZane]

zem,

you have just spoken the words that i say all the time. it takes a lot for me to feel submissive as well to a man. Unlike you I need a masculine, muscular man...I am somewhat simular to your female friends. a bigger man just makes me feel comfy. but i am very selective on who will climb my back. size doesn't matter but the situation does and it has to be with someone i care about. I can't just let someone climb my back that i just met. I have to know them and they have to be aggressive.

[VaunTV]

Scorpios!!!! Lol We run this lol.. I personally like a man thats confident, in control and just manly lol.. I Have a very strong personality and mind and it takes A LOT for me to feel submissive, I mean i myself am not super masculine, well im kinda not masculine lol but im not fem soo i like someone who's more masculine lol.

Good Video.

[superblahnik]

LOL Im a Taurus and tthe part about Taurus men being aggressive is so true....In the the bedroom (when we need to be aggressive) we are! LOL

[cdtoy11]

First a man has to be confident and know what he's doing, second i like an aggressive man someone who's not scared to take control to be honest he must be a special person to me in order to climb my back.....and all bottom aren't hoes either.

[cornrowedlowe]

BOTTOM

[Delicious4Ant]

I would say that for me to allow someone to "climb my back" he has to be confident. One thing Ive noticed is that some men just are not confident so they tend to make jokes and/or stall. I mean if youre in my home and the lights are low and the candles are on....you pretty much have a green light.

[skee20]

As an Aquarius I like for a man to take control over me.. Sorta speak when it comes to the bedroom.. If im more aggressive then my partner then the relationship is not going to work because im going to walk all over him... And I don't want a man I can walk all over LOL

[DGrassE]

I a Gaymale and Virgin and Before i came ot i promised my self n my mom that i Will wait to get married well after i came out i decide didnt want to get married And that i would wait For love before I would Do Anything, So LOVE is what will take for someone to climb my back

[luvgrapico]

3:40-4:00 is hilarious!!!

[ThesPNation]

i knew you were a bottom! niiice lol.

~sPNation

[OnyxLyrica]

@ThesPNation

I think he has mentioned he is versatile, not bottom.

[libraman187]

"just be able to take care, of the take care, when it time to take care" imma steal that XD

[SxchaFxkknFemm]

<---Too young for this haha

[idancekidz]

Haha me too !

[tennislover08]

He has to know how to take control of me if he doesn' t than I feel like I am more of the top than he is

[Xone7]

XEM

BLOG TV

ASAP

[Giantalph]

i have to be in love or very extreeemly attracted to this person

[aronbrown1]

lmao!!!!3:40 started it!! omg funni yo--nice topis tho!

[smoothinak]

"I like that! I like that!!" lol

[ReikaHojo]

xD 3:40- 4:00 thats so funny! ur awesome xD

[26Rab]

Wow the timing of this video and my life situations seems unreal...great point and great advice . Thanks XVA

[craigymomo]

6:25 AMEN !!!

[TheMakingsofMyself]

Also, I'm 26 and I have never been in a relationship and really don't care for 1 if ever. When Im horny, being a bttm, if we are attracted to each other he he has a nice size, like 7 and up then we're cool lol. But I have sex infrequently anyway....so it always hurts at first......i think tops like that lol

[TheMakingsofMyself]

I'm not climbing no ones back anyway! I'm not hung nope! So I'll just be on the bttm lmao. And I can't stand versatile men....they think they are so holier than thou!

[ladyvm123]

Thanks for sharing and making it clear that we are control of our bodies!!!

[Appplecidder]

I have never allowed any one too climb my back because I have not met anyone worthy as of latley. i have climbed others backs and they had some good rocks.

[LuckySoCharmed]

Gemini's please represent up in here....Gemini's r the s*&t!!!! lol

[revemupman]

I like all kinds of guys, short fat tall bald don't matter to me. If you have good conversation and passionate I'll give ya a chance!

[RossclartRETROGRADE]

Capricorn... ahhh :/ hahaha

[jayrizzle09]

by the way "Xemmy Bear" lol I like how u lookover my tweets and completely forgot about meetin with me!

[jayrizzle09]

oh the drama 4rm 3:40 to 4:02 lmaoooo. ive always been the top in my relationships. but xem and i r similiar. i have a big and naturally dominant type of attitude and a guy doesnt have to be bigger than me. i wud say more masculine than me would make me submissive. jus somethin about that straight boy swag that would just make say "strap on the gear and hike up baby!" lmao but yea. thats how i feel =]

[stillgrow]

Hey Xemmy Bear!,

Well 4 me bcause I'm "versatile", I can give & take, luv both equally, luv 2 screw, luv 2 get screwed. but 2 answer your question, if a guy going 2 b on top I do want an aggressive guy who's in control of the position, if I'm on top I wanna b n control of position, & I want a submissive bottom. I was with a guy who was both top & bottom in the same night, which was new 4 me at the time, I'm a taurus Xemmy, lol

[Andreeric]

Ahem...Scorpio here, ENOUGH SAID !!!

[stillgrow]

hey, Xem I'm a taurus, lol, just kid ding, where's part 2 to of "I found his bgc account"

[careennewyork]

OH YES SO TRUE I DON'T LET ANY ONE JUST HAVE SEX WITH ME ANY MORE JUST ON THE STRENGTH !! I HAVE TO BE IN LOVE WITH U HAVE A EMOTIONAL CONNECTION ! i LIKE THICK COCKY DUDES I DON'T GET INTO THIN SMALL DUDES I NEED SOMETHING TO PROTECT ME AT NIGHT LOL! BUT AT FIRST WHEN I CAME OUT I USE TO THINK WHEN U GAY U HAVE TO HAVE SEX WITH A DUDE 1ST TO KEEP HIM BUT SOOO NOT TRUE! IF HE WANTS U THAN U ALL WILL BE TOGETHER NOT JUST TO TEST SEX 1ST!

[sadguyfoundout1]

waw an interesting blog! ^_^ i think id be more for the aggressive type myself to be honest! xD

[KIDDYNAMITEDIEM]

i love your topics keep up the good work xem

[emoxbioch]

"Ok alright alright go, ok wait no .!!!" lolz

[DominicanBlackBoi]

I agree Xem!!