I want to say no..but I have been told to never say never , because you don't know what you will do until you are in that situation. More likely than not the answer is NO.If I am in what is supposed to be a committed relationship with you and you step outside of that relationship to hook up with someone else..HELL NO! WHY?Well for me the trust will have been destroyed..and a relationship without trust is on sinking sand. Sinking sand is a weak foundation.You can not build anything solid upon it.
@thefirstladyofhtown YEAH IM ALSO WITH YOU THERE MAN,,BELIEVING IN "ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER"...JUST GIVE THEM A SLIGHT CHANCE SPENDING SOMETIME WITH A HOT DUDE OR BABE BUT WITHOUT YOU AROUND THEM,SURELY THEY WILL GO FOR SHIT!ILL BET ON CUTTING MY OWN FINGERS IF IM WRONG..IVE BEEN A VICTIM OF THOSE KIND OF CHEATERS,,,WELL AS OF FORGIVING THOSE FUCKING CHEATERS,,
The trust is broken so thats it. Just like if a guy hits you he does it once it will happen again don't give anyone the power over you. Your gut feeling is mostly right.listen to you not friends or family, you have to make the choice. Like when you take a multipe choice test in school your 1st guess is usually right. When someone cheats on you and if you take them back before ya "Do it" get tested Men and Women, just like ya tell youth to do the same. Practice what you preach, Lead by Example.
There should be no excuse for cheating, ex: being drunk, ish happens etc. You know what your doing. "... Baby I'm sorry" 'o.K. I'm sorry too for puting up with you.' Its like you condone it happening. You can forgive but you don't have to be hurt more by being with someone selfish.
I've been the perp in the spontaneous area, and I've also been the victim of the affair, all in the SAME relationship. Mine was earlier, and confessed, hers was 2.5 years later and she got caught. I can say it was my Karma, but I even told her I would have taken it better if it was a single night of stupidity. I believe I was in a better situation to be forgiven. Both were wrong, but there's different types of murder as well.
Agree completely. If you're lying to get it over time, you've completely disregarded moments of lucidity and the human conscience several times. It's 2010, you don't have to be in a relationship. People need to practice introspection with a bit of reality to see if they are fit for relationships before they put themselves in danger, and break hearts.
Hey Big Zo I think you need to have your own talk show because you are insightful. I would watch because you really have me thinking after watching that. To comment on your video I have been with my man going on two years and we are engaged to be married. I am in love with him and believe he is my soul mate so if he was to ever cheat I would make his life a living hell for a while and then forgive because I am willing to go thru anything and everything for us and our relationship.
Like beyonce said in "Ring The Alarm" I'll be damned if I put in all the work to make him a better man just to have some other chick get the reward. I'm in this for the long haul. I want to get to that golden anniversary you know. Keep coming I will be watching!
Big Zo, I'm a junior in high school and my senior girl did a one time cheat deal. We have been together for half a year, but we were on the rocks and she went behind my back. She is leaving for college in 6 months and i think i love her (it could be immature puppy love or something I dunno). Is it completely naive and stupid to want to hold onto her as long as I can?
BigZo, I'm with you on the first type of cheater. shit really truly just does happen and if a person can handle it and move on then thats their business. the second type of cheater in my world will be forgiven but you will never get a piece of this again so thats the way it is for me
I think if someone doesn't want to try hard enough to fix something, then that's their way of letting it be known that they don't really care for the relationship anymore but they're probably just too chickenshit to be upfront about it and break it off.. OR.. they don't want to fix it yet stay with it cos like you said.. ppl don't want to be alone and need that spaced filled just to have it filled cos they've gotten so used to it. Good vid, Zo! *hugs*
I think it all depends on where the 2 ppl currently stand and how they feel about the time they've invested in the relationship. If we're talking about a 5 yr relationship, things are a little different than say a 3 month one. There are so many different scenarios and reasons where a person might slip up. I know some think once a cheater always a cheater.. but in some cases, it was only a one time thing cos something was lacking or things weren't going well. Some cheat & realize what they have.
but regarless its still wrong to cheat so fool me once shame on me but fool me twice and ill fuck you up and we're done forever lol sorry about the long ass comment
if it was planned hell naw i dont care if you tell me and you deeply sorry you better run cause you will het hurt. i think forgive someone if it was like an out of a moment thing cause sometimes temptation gets the better of you but to get my forgiveness they gonna have to work their ass off for like a year
and i was watching the today show one day and there was this study basically saying humans are animals and that its natural for them to want to have more than one mate
,I DON'T BELIEVE IN FORGIVING CHEATERS BUT JUST GOT TIRED OF THINKING BEING CHEATED ON AND ONE BIG FACTOR IS IF YOU ALREADY HAVE INNOCENT KIDS THAT SURELY WILL BE AFFECTED.. SO I LET IT PASSED,ANYONE WHO SAYS THE THEY STILL HAVE THE 100% TRUST AND CONFIDENT IS HYPOCRITICAL THINKING ,,I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT EVERY VICTIM WHO'S BEING CHEATED ON HAS THE RIGHT TO GET EVEN WHEN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME COMES,,"THIS IS WHAT I CALLED JUSTICE AND LEVELING THE PLAYING FIELD"!!
No. There's no way. Once a cheater, always a cheater.I believe if you are committed to someone in a relationship, and you go and cheat on them, you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. That's how i see it. Much Love Zo. :)
Yes and No. The only reason I would stay with a cheater is kids. If I was married with kids, I would stick it out untill they were 18. Any other situation the answer is no. I am a guy, I dont cuss at my girl, i dont hit her, and i would never cheat on her. I love her and respect her and she returns it. Cheating to me is unexcusable and doent "just happen"
I want to say no..but I have been told to never say never , because you don't know what you will do until you are in that situation. More likely than not the answer is NO.If I am in what is supposed to be a committed relationship with you and you step outside of that relationship to hook up with someone else..HELL NO! WHY?Well for me the trust will have been destroyed..and a relationship without trust is on sinking sand. Sinking sand is a weak foundation.You can not build anything solid upon it.
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@thefirstladyofhtown YEAH IM ALSO WITH YOU THERE MAN,,BELIEVING IN "ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER"...JUST GIVE THEM A SLIGHT CHANCE SPENDING SOMETIME WITH A HOT DUDE OR BABE BUT WITHOUT YOU AROUND THEM,SURELY THEY WILL GO FOR SHIT!ILL BET ON CUTTING MY OWN FINGERS IF IM WRONG..IVE BEEN A VICTIM OF THOSE KIND OF CHEATERS,,,WELL AS OF FORGIVING THOSE FUCKING CHEATERS,,
ghoku14 5 months ago
i never did forgive myself for cheating on my love
XBlackWolf10 8 months ago
The trust is broken so thats it. Just like if a guy hits you he does it once it will happen again don't give anyone the power over you. Your gut feeling is mostly right.listen to you not friends or family, you have to make the choice. Like when you take a multipe choice test in school your 1st guess is usually right. When someone cheats on you and if you take them back before ya "Do it" get tested Men and Women, just like ya tell youth to do the same. Practice what you preach, Lead by Example.
srzman1 1 year ago
There should be no excuse for cheating, ex: being drunk, ish happens etc. You know what your doing. "... Baby I'm sorry" 'o.K. I'm sorry too for puting up with you.' Its like you condone it happening. You can forgive but you don't have to be hurt more by being with someone selfish.
srzman1 1 year ago
I've been the perp in the spontaneous area, and I've also been the victim of the affair, all in the SAME relationship. Mine was earlier, and confessed, hers was 2.5 years later and she got caught. I can say it was my Karma, but I even told her I would have taken it better if it was a single night of stupidity. I believe I was in a better situation to be forgiven. Both were wrong, but there's different types of murder as well.
BlueGuru11 1 year ago
Agree completely. If you're lying to get it over time, you've completely disregarded moments of lucidity and the human conscience several times. It's 2010, you don't have to be in a relationship. People need to practice introspection with a bit of reality to see if they are fit for relationships before they put themselves in danger, and break hearts.
BlueGuru11 1 year ago
well i have a question 4 u what do you do if you with some one and pregnant and he cheats on you and she turns up pregnant too..please respond
kenyamenya1 1 year ago
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medicatedgooboy 2 years ago
Thanks sweetie I love you too.
BigZo20 3 years ago
Hey Big Zo I think you need to have your own talk show because you are insightful. I would watch because you really have me thinking after watching that. To comment on your video I have been with my man going on two years and we are engaged to be married. I am in love with him and believe he is my soul mate so if he was to ever cheat I would make his life a living hell for a while and then forgive because I am willing to go thru anything and everything for us and our relationship.
mrskraatz 3 years ago 3
Like beyonce said in "Ring The Alarm" I'll be damned if I put in all the work to make him a better man just to have some other chick get the reward. I'm in this for the long haul. I want to get to that golden anniversary you know. Keep coming I will be watching!
mrskraatz 3 years ago 2
Big Zo, I'm a junior in high school and my senior girl did a one time cheat deal. We have been together for half a year, but we were on the rocks and she went behind my back. She is leaving for college in 6 months and i think i love her (it could be immature puppy love or something I dunno). Is it completely naive and stupid to want to hold onto her as long as I can?
TheycallmeNathan1864 3 years ago
Agreed it's difficult to find someone who wants to fight for what they have. But I believe theres someone for everyone.
BigZo20 3 years ago
BigZo, I'm with you on the first type of cheater. shit really truly just does happen and if a person can handle it and move on then thats their business. the second type of cheater in my world will be forgiven but you will never get a piece of this again so thats the way it is for me
July3Marie2 3 years ago
Thankyou thats how I feel about the first one but the second kind gets no pity from me sweetie not at all.
I love you babe
BigZo20 3 years ago
I think if someone doesn't want to try hard enough to fix something, then that's their way of letting it be known that they don't really care for the relationship anymore but they're probably just too chickenshit to be upfront about it and break it off.. OR.. they don't want to fix it yet stay with it cos like you said.. ppl don't want to be alone and need that spaced filled just to have it filled cos they've gotten so used to it. Good vid, Zo! *hugs*
amaneskira 3 years ago
Damn you had some insight for my ass honey we should start a show together LOL
BigZo20 3 years ago
I had way too much drama in my life back in the days. lol. I'm just happy I lived and learned.
Thanks, love, you always know how to make me feel good about my responses. ;-)
I'm way too camera shy for all that. X-P Thank you, tho! *hugs*
Love ya!
amaneskira 3 years ago
I think it all depends on where the 2 ppl currently stand and how they feel about the time they've invested in the relationship. If we're talking about a 5 yr relationship, things are a little different than say a 3 month one. There are so many different scenarios and reasons where a person might slip up. I know some think once a cheater always a cheater.. but in some cases, it was only a one time thing cos something was lacking or things weren't going well. Some cheat & realize what they have.
amaneskira 3 years ago
but regarless its still wrong to cheat so fool me once shame on me but fool me twice and ill fuck you up and we're done forever lol sorry about the long ass comment
xxCCWxxPRODUCTIONSxx 3 years ago
if it was planned hell naw i dont care if you tell me and you deeply sorry you better run cause you will het hurt. i think forgive someone if it was like an out of a moment thing cause sometimes temptation gets the better of you but to get my forgiveness they gonna have to work their ass off for like a year
and i was watching the today show one day and there was this study basically saying humans are animals and that its natural for them to want to have more than one mate
xxCCWxxPRODUCTIONSxx 3 years ago
LOL you crazy girl Ready to commit a damn Felony LMAO LOL
BigZo20 3 years ago
,I DON'T BELIEVE IN FORGIVING CHEATERS BUT JUST GOT TIRED OF THINKING BEING CHEATED ON AND ONE BIG FACTOR IS IF YOU ALREADY HAVE INNOCENT KIDS THAT SURELY WILL BE AFFECTED.. SO I LET IT PASSED,ANYONE WHO SAYS THE THEY STILL HAVE THE 100% TRUST AND CONFIDENT IS HYPOCRITICAL THINKING ,,I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT EVERY VICTIM WHO'S BEING CHEATED ON HAS THE RIGHT TO GET EVEN WHEN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME COMES,,"THIS IS WHAT I CALLED JUSTICE AND LEVELING THE PLAYING FIELD"!!
ghoku14 5 months ago
No. There's no way. Once a cheater, always a cheater.I believe if you are committed to someone in a relationship, and you go and cheat on them, you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. That's how i see it. Much Love Zo. :)
lindsey47646 3 years ago
Yes and No. The only reason I would stay with a cheater is kids. If I was married with kids, I would stick it out untill they were 18. Any other situation the answer is no. I am a guy, I dont cuss at my girl, i dont hit her, and i would never cheat on her. I love her and respect her and she returns it. Cheating to me is unexcusable and doent "just happen"
dowutado 3 years ago
Even then I think that you may have to view the situation before you make a firm decision you know. But You might be right.
BigZo20 3 years ago