I have been married for 26 years & for 24 years sex was o.k. until,I got a hysterectomy . We couldn't have sex for 3 months .So now we probably have had sex 10 times in 2 years . I thought I wouldn't mind . But I do mind , I feel so undesired ... I feel my marriage coming undone . It is the glue that keeps u together . To top it off , my husband has told me that he just doesn't feel like having sex anymore ! It makes me so sad . But I know we r both to blame .
I'm in a relation ship that has lasted three years, We started off as a one night stand. All I wanted was sex, I assumed all he wanted was sex too (I mean this is the reason we got together in the first place. We hardly have sex now, maybe 2-3 times a month, he usually tries to have sex with me when Im upset that we have not had sex. He says he is never horny but!!! he masturbates almost daily to porn videos on the internet... lol, its Crazy! of corse hes not horny! What to DO???
He make more sense in a short time than most shirt and ties do over a lengthy bill time. This is a relaxed subject, so his garb is fine. If more people were at home in attractive lounge attire and as relaxed...perhaps this subject matter wouldn't even be something for him to speak on. Why are we always so quick to tear down others opinions, frankly I hope he's not an actual doctor, that would make it even more entertaining :) Doctor or not he makes great sense.
my Wife had a great libido before we got married when she went on Birth Control...the Pill wrecked her health and her libido! 7 years later We're still trying to find some way to heal her.
"That which is repressed will be expressed ...inappropriately." This means that no matter how hard we might try to repress, bottle up or ignore human sexuality and, for example, its attendant longings that those sexual feelings do not go away to some sort cerebral trash bin. We must deal with them as we must with any dimension of human need. Even with marriage sexuality must be managed in an intentional way.
THANK YOU! I have been with my wife 23 years, 21 years have been sexless @ 1-2 times per year. I stayed with her to father 2 children whom are now 19 & 20 because i wanted my kids to have a father in their life to adulthood when they're old enough to understand why I leave their mother. My wife was sexually abused as a child, however this is no excuse to keep me trapped, I feel cheated out of my life! I really had to hear what Dr Paul had to say but knew divorce was imminent years ago.
I'm in my first "real relationship" almost a year now and my GF and I both agreed that sex isn't the most important thing in our relationship. Our sex life is absolutely amazing, due to the fact that we don't "overuse sex" or "wear out the passion." so when we do, it's almost like the first time all over again, which is a few times a week. I love it. and I agree with you!
my wife and i have been married 8 years, she was always all over me until a year ago. almost every day she tells me " tonight when the kids go to sleep i ll give you something nice" when night comes the kids are asleep, she acts like she has a reason not to, like not feeling well. it happens every time. due to this i have started to enjoy attention from other ladies. its looks a matter of if a woman puts her husband in the dog house, then soon she finds him in the cat house.
If I don't accept these terms of how we are our live will be missereable. So I should give uo hope? Hoping for something that will never come is the worst feeling ever. I figure if I have not hope and it doen't come. then it won't hurt so much. Now I'm pregnant via fertility ( which I feel sometimes it's because of my husbands lazyiness) and I want toour family to be together. I will give up my hope
how long can I stay this way. he seems like he can live like this forever. I am a pssionate person. and have been reading romance noves sine I was 12. I had this Idea in my head that once I was married I would have this great passionate long lexual marriage. Okay he is not passionate. but doesn't he yern for me? I mean most men If you don't approach them for 2 weeks and your always looking hot, they will jump your bones we are going on4 months. I have tolled myself that I must accept reality.
I am a women and have this problem. It is hard I go for periods not bringin it up because I feel like brinnging up all the time make is worse. I have talked to my husband. nothing has changes I amd 32 and I saw this path for us. 3 years ago. I don't want to be the initiator all the time. I want my husband crave me like I crave him. It is hard. I don't know how many ways I can tell him. I can't promiss that I will never cheat though I am keeping it at bay and haven't done so. but how long
im tempted to stray but i genuinely love my wife , i dont want to hurt her or my kids by losing her but i feel like life is unbearable living like this... she makes out that im not normal wanting sex a few times a week(id happily go with that) but that 'everyone' who's married is like this and im unreasonable, selfish etc for wanting it. i feel like leaving her is the only option as i dont want to cheat , but she's a good wife. dont know what to do
I hardly ever get sex from my wife. i find her so attractive + she says she does with me but i never get any- hardly ever. it really hurts me and makes me feel unwanted and ugly - if i was as gorgeous as she says then surely we would have sex often + she wouldnt get jealous if i notice another pretty girl??? i just cant figure women out
I have been married for 26 years & for 24 years sex was o.k. until,I got a hysterectomy . We couldn't have sex for 3 months .So now we probably have had sex 10 times in 2 years . I thought I wouldn't mind . But I do mind , I feel so undesired ... I feel my marriage coming undone . It is the glue that keeps u together . To top it off , my husband has told me that he just doesn't feel like having sex anymore ! It makes me so sad . But I know we r both to blame .
kiferti 3 months ago
I'm in a relation ship that has lasted three years, We started off as a one night stand. All I wanted was sex, I assumed all he wanted was sex too (I mean this is the reason we got together in the first place. We hardly have sex now, maybe 2-3 times a month, he usually tries to have sex with me when Im upset that we have not had sex. He says he is never horny but!!! he masturbates almost daily to porn videos on the internet... lol, its Crazy! of corse hes not horny! What to DO???
mslexilu100 9 months ago
@longlocks55
He make more sense in a short time than most shirt and ties do over a lengthy bill time. This is a relaxed subject, so his garb is fine. If more people were at home in attractive lounge attire and as relaxed...perhaps this subject matter wouldn't even be something for him to speak on. Why are we always so quick to tear down others opinions, frankly I hope he's not an actual doctor, that would make it even more entertaining :) Doctor or not he makes great sense.
cj4201 10 months ago
my Wife had a great libido before we got married when she went on Birth Control...the Pill wrecked her health and her libido! 7 years later We're still trying to find some way to heal her.
VRJensen1 1 year ago
"That which is repressed will be expressed ...inappropriately." This means that no matter how hard we might try to repress, bottle up or ignore human sexuality and, for example, its attendant longings that those sexual feelings do not go away to some sort cerebral trash bin. We must deal with them as we must with any dimension of human need. Even with marriage sexuality must be managed in an intentional way.
SOTVPRESENTS 1 year ago
THANK YOU! I have been with my wife 23 years, 21 years have been sexless @ 1-2 times per year. I stayed with her to father 2 children whom are now 19 & 20 because i wanted my kids to have a father in their life to adulthood when they're old enough to understand why I leave their mother. My wife was sexually abused as a child, however this is no excuse to keep me trapped, I feel cheated out of my life! I really had to hear what Dr Paul had to say but knew divorce was imminent years ago.
alienistic 1 year ago 2
If you want to survive a sexless marriage there is only one way, RUN!
Custodio1701 1 year ago
I'm in my first "real relationship" almost a year now and my GF and I both agreed that sex isn't the most important thing in our relationship. Our sex life is absolutely amazing, due to the fact that we don't "overuse sex" or "wear out the passion." so when we do, it's almost like the first time all over again, which is a few times a week. I love it. and I agree with you!
JBthree24 2 years ago
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JBthree24 2 years ago
@JBthree24 Don't complain. I'm lucky if my wife lets me touch her a couple times a month.
RofIStomper 2 years ago
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JBthree24 2 years ago
Thank you!!!! I needed to hear these words!! I am being cheated by my husand.
ddweigel 2 years ago
my wife and i have been married 8 years, she was always all over me until a year ago. almost every day she tells me " tonight when the kids go to sleep i ll give you something nice" when night comes the kids are asleep, she acts like she has a reason not to, like not feeling well. it happens every time. due to this i have started to enjoy attention from other ladies. its looks a matter of if a woman puts her husband in the dog house, then soon she finds him in the cat house.
MrROCKNBLUES79 2 years ago
wow
7danglywangly7 2 years ago
If I don't accept these terms of how we are our live will be missereable. So I should give uo hope? Hoping for something that will never come is the worst feeling ever. I figure if I have not hope and it doen't come. then it won't hurt so much. Now I'm pregnant via fertility ( which I feel sometimes it's because of my husbands lazyiness) and I want toour family to be together. I will give up my hope
cvzdez 2 years ago
how long can I stay this way. he seems like he can live like this forever. I am a pssionate person. and have been reading romance noves sine I was 12. I had this Idea in my head that once I was married I would have this great passionate long lexual marriage. Okay he is not passionate. but doesn't he yern for me? I mean most men If you don't approach them for 2 weeks and your always looking hot, they will jump your bones we are going on4 months. I have tolled myself that I must accept reality.
cvzdez 2 years ago
I am a women and have this problem. It is hard I go for periods not bringin it up because I feel like brinnging up all the time make is worse. I have talked to my husband. nothing has changes I amd 32 and I saw this path for us. 3 years ago. I don't want to be the initiator all the time. I want my husband crave me like I crave him. It is hard. I don't know how many ways I can tell him. I can't promiss that I will never cheat though I am keeping it at bay and haven't done so. but how long
cvzdez 2 years ago
im tempted to stray but i genuinely love my wife , i dont want to hurt her or my kids by losing her but i feel like life is unbearable living like this... she makes out that im not normal wanting sex a few times a week(id happily go with that) but that 'everyone' who's married is like this and im unreasonable, selfish etc for wanting it. i feel like leaving her is the only option as i dont want to cheat , but she's a good wife. dont know what to do
wrightylaaad 2 years ago
I hardly ever get sex from my wife. i find her so attractive + she says she does with me but i never get any- hardly ever. it really hurts me and makes me feel unwanted and ugly - if i was as gorgeous as she says then surely we would have sex often + she wouldnt get jealous if i notice another pretty girl??? i just cant figure women out
wrightylaaad 3 years ago 2
Amen I am currently in the same situation, live near massachusetts lol
maineman527 3 years ago
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tigerztail 3 years ago 2