Parental Alienation - How It Works and Beats the System

[Stepapajon2]

For all the parents out there going through this stay strong. Never let them pull you down to thier level. Show your kids how much you love them with your actions, not just words. I have been there and made it through and so can you. Stay strong and keep the faith.

[mrsclemmensenwebb]

Well done mate!

Family law is beyond a joke in this country and in need of urgent repair, my ex wife willfully mislead and manipulated the entire system including her own daughter, I have been a good dad, I have done nothing wrong, my daughter has been used as a weapon of war, stay strong!

[goodoldrebel8]

So true, this is exactly what happens and then the child is the one who identifies so much with the alienator (usually mother), that all you get from the child is tight lips and a frown.

[filevo118]

thanks mate, i really do hope some miracles have worked in your favour since uploading this.

[jcooper2008]

Excellent summary, quite similar to my own situation in so many ways. When will these arrogant and hateful people realise that children thrive on love for both their parents and both sides of the family, and that this behaviour can cause the most appalling damage to young and impressionable minds. All the best to everyone going through this, Dads as well as Mums

[mpesik]

Not only only is my Daughter not speaking to me, She lives with her Brother and hasn't spoken one kind word to him in the same amount of time.-nothing!

The relationship that we 3 had would make Charles Ingalls envious. It was even remarked upon by strangers. Where she used to confide in him with absolute trust, she dispises him now along with the worst insults and fights thrust upon him. The mother allows this behavior to continue.

It would be impossible to be that way here.

[mpesik]

Thankyou for doing this.

I am going through it as well. I havent seen my daughter since she was 11. She is almost 14 now.

Damn.

[JCLeSinge]

@mpesik: Damn indeed, mate.

Problem you face now will be the ex arguing that you're no longer a regular part of the child's life, and it'll be disruptive to change that... and the court will side with her. Your only hope, really, is if your daughter expresses her wish to see you.

Don't give up; the onset of teenage years might bring it all into the foreground again, you daughter acting out and wanting to see her dad.

[839dilly]

It's not only dads who go through this...I'm a mom and my ex is doing this to me. Took our kids and told them a lot of false negative things about me...it hurts and is extremely frustrating because the courts believe everything he says and I am in the biggest fight of my life to get my girls back from him!

I'm so sorry this all happened to you.

Parents need to grow up and stop using their children against each other!

[mixerNack]

This is a very real syndrome. I would know. I had it. Buts I hope all you parents know it is a THOUSAND times more harder on the child then it is in you.

[alfalfafalafelmafia]

Here is the basic problem:

1- some parents think they can do away with another parent so that they can find a new parent for the child, all of this to "correct' the initial "sin" of marrying that person

2- When you take away the tender years doctrine, war breaks out.

the solution is simple: until the children reach a certain age, they stay with their mother. After a certain age, they move in with their father. Also, shift the burden to prove abuse to the claimant as it should be.

[joecbarn]

My god, what is it with the partner that posess them to do this. I am going through the same thing. except I have not seen my child in 4 years. In fact she will not let anyone in my family talk to or see my son. The legal battles were extreme. I am and was mentally exhausted from them. This does not mean I have given up on my son.

[FORMETOKNOWONLY]

After 13 years of alienation my 17 year old daughter mustered enough courage to sneak away and call me...The next day her mother had her cell phone disabled.

All those b-day and Christmas cards I mailed intercepted by their mother...no phone contact...Jeez, even prisoners are allowed phone and mail privileges...I can tell you it has not only destroyed my life...but major emotional distress for my two daughters.

BTW: I LOVE YOU ASHLEY AND TAYLOR! Regardless of what you have been told.

[peacanpr]

@FORMETOKNOWONLY

@MrFes888

YOU COULD NOT BE ANY MORE TRUTHFUL IN YOUR DEFINITION OF EVIL!!!

[MrFes888]

IF I HAD TO EXPLAIN THE WORD EVIL,,,,,,,,,,,IT WOULD BE FAMILY COURT

[sailorguy9]

My former wife did tell the kids early on, that the only good thing about me is that I have a good job... I guess she likes the support : ) Good to maintain a sense of humor. And try to take the high road every day. Thanks for your video, and level response to an absolute horror. There's good and bad in each of us. The balance is figuring out how to respond to the evil without becoming that evil.

[JCLeSinge]

@sailorguy9: A friend of mine was recently told by his ex, after eight years of marriage, that she "found him at the bottom of the relationship barrel, and only took him on because it was Sponsor-A-Spastic Day." He's not seen his kids in five months.

[GirlMakesSomeNoise]

My Dad is divorcing his 2nd wife and we expect that this kind of alienation will occur.. (she's morally bankrupt)

Don't we have shared-custody laws in Australia? What kind of hep are they?I've heard that the gov. is going to change these laws? Any ideas?

I admire your passion.

From a concerned daughter determined to help her Dad :)

[W3Ar31]

father-for-justice also PAS is on both sides and in my case it is my sister who hates the father of my children and so she utilises her granduer and control to keep the kids away from dad

[mala265]

Wow ...that is really sad...PA is abuse.....no doubt about it.

[jettal1]

i blame the court system we as man are notting to this system. but walking wallet this system is so big their notting we can do about it. not in this life time. their judge, lawyer, and this thing call the family court system,they will not bend for no one to changs this system will meing to changs their whole life style, this system was not created over night its been going on for centuries.

[W3Ar31]

its called people power thats how change happens even if it means a referendum but the courts definately needs to be opened up so the public and the media can look at the cases and they all need to be on a trial basis not just one person ...the entire system needs a royal commission

[designersmiles]

When your daughter says that she does not want to see you ever again, it hurts like hell! Her mom of course says "don't harrass her, it's her choice", then you know you have a PAS problem. I haven't seen my girl in three months and every attempt made, leads to utter disappointment. Well, she believes that I sleep with whores, emotionally abuse her mom, and that I have had her arrested for violence. Would you want to associate with me? hmmm.

[PASCRAA]

thank you for this video. You have nailed this problem beautifully

[truckinstructor]

I DID IT TOO evil fucking aust govt and lawyers are the key - I would like to personally execute them - once the revolution has become complete!!!

[jenhow69]

Yeah thanks for sharing, my partner is going thru exactly the same thing. Its weird how these types of mothers seem to have the exact same gameplan. Even down to the little details such as your experience with the mother moving the child to a different school, and the schools attitude to you. And where the poisoning of the childs mind is done mostly non verbally and usually is in the form of a lack of support more so than a blatant comment.

Thanks again!

[lampoonatic]

Thanks for sharing so personally. I think you know how much it means to others suffering from the effects of PAS just to know they are not alone. I will share my story, but right now am just engrossed in finding resolution, or at least stability in my situation. I do want to point out that as badly as it hurts us(the alienated parent), our children are the real victims. The adversarial nature of the court system compounds the effects, as the child seeks(and deserves)peace.

[JJZeune]

The thing is this people, parental alienation is very real and very sad. My son is a invitro baby. It took us 3 years to create him and close to $50,000.00. He was a twin, the twin died when i was 20 weeks pregnant. My son is the love of my life and I would die for him today!!! And now he hates me because his dad tells him to hate me. I dont have the money to fight his dad in court. Anyone who says parental alienation isnt real needs to kiss thier children and thank god its not YOU.

[ykmsp]

As a target parent myself, I am really encouraged to see your video.

You are doing a really cool thing, keep fighting man.

You have my prayers bro - all the way from Singapore : )

[evenToddlers]

David,

Good videos. Well done!

kip evenToddlers

'Helping fathers in the UK sustain a relationship with their child or children through the courts'.

[kyvideoguy]

I just have to say as Father that has been in the mix of this that the parent that encourages this will reap what the sew. Take some solace that ONE DAY the child or children will realize what has been done to them and they will realize who did what. Just be the best Dad you can be and stay above the petty BS and make sure you fight for any and all visitation you can get. It will all work out in the end if you stay strong and be keep showing your love.

[TheGrumpys]

Totally Spot On !!