"CHASING THE RING! IS IT WORTH THE TRIP??!!"

[MrsDimples28]

I love this video nut it scares me cause my relationship is in violation of several on your list

[Cherry32able]

You make me want to get married now... lol (been holding out) lol

[Cherry32able]

Now that was REAL! You are such a sweet and HONEST girl! I love it!

I co-sign this! Thanx

[siklysarkastik04]

have you ever had your own radio program? i think your show would be on point!

[chrisrt78]

I absolutely love you for this video! SO TRUE N REAL! [definite subscribe]...looking forward to watching more of your videos!!!!! <3

[Mzdanniegirl88]

As a young woman looking to be married in the future this video is great! Thank you so much!

[LadyKayHere]

HI LADY...I'M SO GLAD THAT I FOUND U...MY HUSBAND AND I USED TO WATCH U N UR HUSBAND ALL OF THR TIME...THEN WE LOST THE SHOW SOMEHOW...GLAD TO FIND U AGAIN.

[Riri808]

OMG, Shanda this video is for me, I have been fighting my mind and feelings with my current relationship and now I know the answer, thank you!

[INDINOIS]

SHANDA, FOR SOME REASON, THE WAY YOU TALK MAKES ME THINK THAT YOU CAN SING.

[libranonpoint]

This video is so good!



[MultiFreebutterfly]

This is the third time I watched this. I'm so sad because i know deep down that this man i am with is not the man for me. Yet I am still with him.

[eboo1231000]

i love ur videos u speak on everything i love uuu keep it up

[hollyannewesley]

@ShandaSays Wait are you Fat Man Scoop wife?

[ShandaSays]

@hollyannewesley Yes! I am! :)

[hollyannewesley]

@ShandaSays OMG thanks for replying back I kept saying I knew she looked familiar because I always would watch ManandWife haha (:

[dreaminofme18]

Amazing video!!! I am about to be engaged and this really helped a LOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm glad to know we are on the right page!!!

[LeesaLove999]

Love this it made me think about a lot of things... And I learn a few things from watching this video!

[061melah]

This truly made me day thank you for being real and straight forward keep it coming

[Mzzjenz1]

DEF wrote them tips down put em on fb and twitter lol

[MsTbony]

Good stuff Shanda!

[michymar7]

Thanks 4 posting this!! Love u.. U keep it real

[roeandboz]

Shanda! Gurl You are so right on point! Keep keepin' it 100.

[vmitch1]

Hey Shanda,

You have given so much good advice. I loved this topic talk today. You have helped me in so many ways. Keep the video coming. I thank you for your videos.

Also can you please tell me what color your wearing today on your lips.

Thanks Shanda for be you and keeping it real, I love your confidence.

[SEXYPHILLYMOM40]

OH MAN......FELL BACK IN MY CHAIR AND ABSORBED EVERY BIT OF THIS.....#'s 7, 9,10 HAS ALWAYS BEEN ISSUES WITH MEN FROM MY PAST AND THATS WHY I'M STILL SINGLE BECAUSE I REFUSE TO SETTLE WITHOUT ALL 10 BEING FULFILLED BECAUSE I KNEW IT WOULD BE A DISASTER.....BUT 7,9,10....SPEAK ON IT!!!

[Fosterfj]

I cried when I watched this... Thank you for posting this. It's confirmation for me and what's going on in my life. God bless you.

[mistyday]

I love your channel & you are so wonderful

[fineadelphia]

@ Ms. Shanda you're absolutely right! We as women are so quick to settle but when you decide to settle, you usually get less than what you decided to settle for

[ChooChoogirlelle]

Miss Shanda the camera is just making your ring POP!!! Thanks for the advice.

[LuvMeNatrully]

As I have gotten older, I have come to realize that I need to look at the signs early on in the relationship and access whether or not if that characteristic is what I am willing to deal with for the rest of my life. This message is very true and I am glad that you have shared and put it all in perspective. I am a new subscriber and I am loving your conversations.

[lashekris]

Everything you said is very important! I am in a relationship where I now realize I am having second thoughts of wanting to be married to this person. At first I wanted to rush and get married but to actually sit back and reevaluate my relationship I am seeing that I must take my time. Thanks for the advice!

[ladybug6982]

I TOTALLY agree with you on everything!

[doubleblacke1]

Love Love Love them! I am not living with anyone nor am I in any relationship now, but I will be using these 10 pointers when I do get back into the dating world. Thank you!

[kk7462]

Great video...You are 1000% correct on all points. I want to add that both parties have to have a strong desire to remain commited to each other, in order to work out the kinks. Cause trust me there will be kinks.

[ritediva86]

Thank you so much Shanda, I keep saying these things but, of course no man wants to hear it. I like your style and the way you present it ... Thanks and keep on bringing it.

[BigboyHollywood]

Great message.....I agree wholeheartedly!

[wintayb]

Thanks for this message. FYI I had to share it on blogbells

[gorrjuss43]

Wonderful message!

[TrOyLiN25]

thanks for this message ms shanda u the best!

[xclusive227]

luv everything you said, and you gave me some type of peace listening to this, and your right with everything that you said, but its soo hard to find someone nowadays that meet those requirements... but im gonna stay strong and hope for the best..

[Eliz1693]

Thank you soooooo much!!! I really loved this video!!! You give me hope!!!! God bless you and your family!!!!

[candacegarrett]

Love this...can your next video be (once you've chased the ring and got it ) and tell what to expect in a good marriage and what to watch out for in a not so good marriage

[LYYSL]

ALL TRUE!!! KIDS ALWAYS BECOME DAMAGED BY AVOIDABLE ADULT MISTAKES!!!

[mathgenie]

You are on point.

[sarah1484]

This is the best advice I've ever received on this subject. I'm 28 and I'm still single...no boyfriend nothing. I've been saving myself for marriage for almost four year now...that's right no sex. Now that I think about it and watching this video helped me realize that I'm doing what's right. When it's time for me to have someone, he'll show up. Thanks Ms. Shanda.

[maxinesjade]

This sounds like advice my mother would give. So amazing!

[Skye525]

Excellent advice...Thank you!!!

[AliciaReneeA1]

This was so on time.

[AliciaReneeA1]

I so, so, so, so needed to see this video. Thank you Shanda for making this.

[debbiea1223]

I love how she smiles or maybe I should say smiles with her eyes when she talks about sex! :) I watch you Shanda and I learn a lot. Thank you for the videos!

[ArkansasShawT]

This is my first time watching a video of yours...I love it! Filing this for future references!

[bennettngeri]

Very good topic...I left you a message on you tube messages... want your opinion on question.Thanks for your feedback

[maji1905]

I loved this topic Shanda! thank you for your advice

[mskitt3katt]

So beautiful & so wise. I will definitely listen to you since you have been with Scoop for 10 years you obviously know what you're talking about. Thanks for sharing this message. It's something I needed to hear!

[82ddw]

Can u add ur Facebook link.to ur videos

[blazeme2]

great advice

[makingfamous]

I love what shanda says but I'm always mesmerized by that giant rock on her finger... it's gorg.

[michellestanley100]

i loved this topic shanda...

[tanyatmr]

I hate w/a passion when a man says he's going to do something & does not follow through, I consider that bad manners and being inconsiderate. Once you reach a certain age your level of patience is not what is was when you were younger. Communication is the key & if you voice your opinion & your spouse or significant other turns it into WWIII, run as far as you can.

[MsLovinEverything]

Thanks Shanda.

[queentbaybay]

love it

[Kayek67]

Keep it real! I only wished someone told me this before my first marriage. Thank you

[ChocolateDL2006]

EXCELLENT EXCELLENT POINTS!

[927761]

I loved the vid! This is very random but is that huge ring your wedding ring?

[vamica84]

Wow. Feels like you made that video for me. Definitely eye-opening.

[Mrs1V]

my husband and i are going into our 30s we have been married for 9 years and we have 2 boys .we make sure we touch base and talk about all these topics, thank you for keeping us on point

[ElectraJj1]

This is so true. expecially the respect and religious view.... Thx for the video

[99SweetCheecks]

very well said couldnt have said it any better myself

[MsAmeliaTV]

just had to share that on my fb this was a really great topic

[SheilaQuinnoctavia2]

You lost some more weight haven't you? Your face looks thinner.

[littlemissdaisies]

AMENNN!

[cherrily2]

Great advice and another reminder why I ended my last two relationships.

[tanyatmr]

@cherrily2 It was a good reminder why I ended my last two relationships as well. She made alot of valid points.

[Baruch1girl]

So on point! Thank you Shanda

[lipstickchat]

LOVE THIS VIDEO....SO MANY PEOPLE SAY " OLD SCHOOL" PRINCIPLES DON'T WORK IN "TODAY S" WORLD BUT NO MATTER HOW THINGS CHANGE THE FOUNDATION IS ALWAYS THE SAME ! LOVE IT SHANDA

[CoachU2Health]

What are the best ways to meet men

[lexusb123]

Good advice for us singles! thanks Shanda!

[redaries1971]

I love this video. I'm married to a wonderful man who contibutes to my happiness and well-being. This is a great tool and definitely food for thought!! Thanks Shawn!!!

[Thankfull13]

I absolutely loved this video!! The attributes, qualities you spoke of are definitely important in a relationship. I believe as women we more times than not, overlook these things out of....I hate to say it....desperation. We have to stand strong to these things, as not to compromise our happiness.

[TeeRaquel]

Love this video!

[cookiedotbomb]

this is very much appreciated, even if no one says it

[pashun4fashun]

Great advice Shanda! <3<3

[AGZVLOG]

VERY NICE VIDEO

[quietbeauty1]

Shanda, I manage a divorce law firm and of all your points, the #1 that is missing from 99% of the couples we see are lacking respect for themselves AND for their spouse. And once that is gone, they come to see us. People cheat because of a lack of respect. People get abused because of a lack of respect. People lose sexual attraction because of a lack of respect and money problems....someone that doesn't respect finances....it's over.

[tanyatmr]

@quietbeauty1 Although I have never been married, I can relate to what you said!